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7 Things YOU Are Too Afraid To Ask AUTISTIC People · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Hey, I'm going to be answering 7 things you are Too Afraid to ask
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  Autistic People All that coming up.
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  Hey guys, welcome back to the aspy world.
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  My name is Dan. I have autism, ADHDOCD, and
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  OK guys, welcome back into the aspy world.
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  What is going on where we think differently daily?
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  Welcome back different thinkers, hope you're all thinking
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  differently, being awesome and stuff like that.
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  I wanted to do this video because I was like, Dang,
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  there's like there's so many questions I feel like people
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  would like to know but they're too afraid to ask because they
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  don't want to like offence on on the spectrum.
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  They don't want to come across as being like weird or
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  something. I don't know.
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  Okay guys. So I basically went ahead and I
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  listed out seven things which I think that are most interesting
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  that people who are not autistic want to ask autistic people.
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  Because I just got all these kind of DMS, like, hey, done.
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  You know, I didn't autistic people did this or hey, I've
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  never thought to ask this or blah blah blah, you know, and
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  are you all like Rain Man? So I basically went through
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  every single thing that I could think of and then I made seven
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  of, like the most compelling ones.
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  And we're going to get into those right now because yeah,
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  it's just going to be so much fun, Okay.
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  So the first question that people are too afraid to ask,
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  and I'm going to answer them in real time for you guys because
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  like, I'm just that dope. You guys are awesome.
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  Thank you so much for watching Okay.
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  So the first question is, why don't you look people in the
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  eyes, right? And this is a really interesting
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  question. A lot of people in the autism
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  spectrum you might know is don't look somebody in the eyes.
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  Why? Why is the reason?
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  Well, I'll tell you what, it isn't not ignorant.
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  It's it's not being negative. It's not being rude.
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  It's literally just the fact that looking to one in the eyes
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  for someone in the autism spectrum is like so intimate.
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  And it's such a weird connection that it's almost like reaching
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  into someone and feeling the soul.
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  It's such a it's such a sharp connection that it's so intense
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  that everything in your mind and body starts to shake when you
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  make eye contact with somebody. And that's so intense that it
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  could cause like meltdowns or shutdowns or burnouts or any
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  kind of like attack and anxiety attack because it's so intense.
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  It's quite an intense experience.
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  So for that reason, me personally, This is why I don't
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  make eye contact that much. And I do try, but it's, you
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  know, it's difficult. Look, it's an ongoing thing.
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  It's a working progress. Practice makes progress.
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  But I can't promise anything okay.
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  So #2 is why do autistic people obsess over things?
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  Well, it's very interesting really, because, you know,
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  autistic people have this trait where they become very, very
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  obsessed with things. Now, if you're watching, you
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  know, mom, dad, girlfriends or parents, partners, whatever.
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  If you are watching this video and your partner, friend, loved
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  one, child, whatever has an autism spectrum disorder, you
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  know exactly what I mean. Where they obsess over something
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  so much so that they know every single thing about that thing to
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  the point where they can't get enough of it.
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  They'll read everything about it.
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  They'll have all the merchandise, they can go to the
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  place if it's like an actual thing.
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  And it's just an obsession, an obsession that they could talk
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  to you for hours about, and I'm pretty sure they do.
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  So we're on the same page. We're like, we're like vibing
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  right now because you guys know exactly what I'm saying.
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  So because of that, these obsessions are like, are almost
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  like a fixation, an obsession, like an obsessive interest.
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  Now the reason this does happen to people in the autism spectrum
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  is because the way the autism brain is wired, we see things on
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  a deeper level that somebody may not see.
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  So whereas somebody can have a really deep conversation with
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  someone on a neurotypical level, an autistic person could really
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  understand the complex nature of grasshoppers, all the complex
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  nature of carpets and the way the carpets are made.
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  And it could be absolutely anything, right?
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  The manufacturing of aluminium, look, it could be anything.
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  But what I'm trying to say is that the reason they do that and
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  the reason they get fixated on those things is because there's
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  a level of understanding. There's a deeper connection.
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  There's things that people don't really see.
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  And there's, you know, everything in nature, everything
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  in reality has a complex beauty that is so vast that we rarely
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  pay attention to these things. But people on the autism
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  spectrum have this intuition to dive deep into things that they
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  align themselves with and see that beauty and see that complex
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  nature, then to unravel it and see it in its glory.
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  And because of that, because you have things of huge, complex
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  nature, you're then able to categorize them and segregate
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  them off into factions. Kind of like why I really like
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  Pokémon? Because, you know, there's like
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  101 Pokémon in the original Pokedex, and you can line them
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  all up and you'll have names, you know, things that they do.
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  It's having a category for complex beauty.
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  I think that kind of sums up pretty well.
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  OK, so #3 is, what does the world look like to you?
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  Being like an autistic person, I guess the world as I see it has
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  always been the way I see it. But I guess people who are not
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  on the autism spectrum would see the world a little bit
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  differently than I do if I try to explain what I see, the best
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  way I can explain it is that it's it's very bright and
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  colorful. It's also noisy and very smelly.
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  The world smells. Everything has an intense smell.
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  People have an intense smell. People's houses have an intense
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  smell and those smells are closely linked to the person.
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  And like places have smells. Like I went to San Francisco and
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  New York and they all have individual smells and I know
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  where I'm because of the smell of places and I've always been
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  obsessed to smell. So things are smelly.
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  But the other thing is that things are very bright and
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  colorful and chaotic, everything moving really fast and there's
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  bright lights everywhere and people wedding over you, they're
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  like shouting. You don't know what this person
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  is saying, and I just need time to relax.
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  That's kind of like what it feels like.
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  And that's what the world looks like.
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  It's all it's like, it's like everybody's on a train and the
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  train's going 1000 miles an hour, but the windows are open
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  on the train. Like, imagine that.
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  That's what it feels like. Okay.
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  The all important question #4 Can autistic people have sex?
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  Of course autistic people can have sex.
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  And actually, yeah, autistic people, you know, are no
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  different to anybody else in that respect.
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  You know, there's no issues in stopping one involving
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  themselves with Intercom, also with the person of mutual
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  consent. And I think, like that's
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  something that's also missed because a lot of people think
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  that autistic people, you know, won't have sexual relationships.
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  And I think that's completely bogus.
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  And I think it's good and healthy to talk about it.
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  And I feel a little bit younger and you're watching this video.
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  You'll learn about it later on. But in terms of people who are
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  on the autism spectrum and of the age of consent, I yeah, I
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  think that pretty much everybody in the autism spectrum
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  visibility and wants to have sex.
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  And there's nothing wrong with that at all.
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  And it's healthy. Okay.
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  So #5, can autistic people drive now?
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  This is an question now. I drive a car and I passed in a
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  manual car, but I also prefer to buy automatic cars.
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  But I feel like the less things you can take out of distraction
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  in a car, that's safer in the environment, and I just prefer
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  automatic cars for that reason. But the interesting thing is
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  that a lot of the autistic community that I know of do
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  actually drive cars. And I feel like the only way I
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  believe autistic people won't be able to drive cars is if they
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  have, you know more higher support needs where you know
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  they have some intellectual ability or they have some
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  physical disability or you know, there may be some reason that
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  would stop them actually participating in taking a safe
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  driving test. So in short yes.
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  But some people may not be able to drive Okay.
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  So number six can I city people fall in love.
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  Oh my goodness, I hear this all the time and artistic people
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  capable of love and do they understand emotions?
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  Because emotions are quite difficult and complex thing.
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  Look, artistic people can fall in love.
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  There's nothing wrong with that. How they express emotion, how
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  they express love. Maybe a little bit different to
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  that what you normally typically see in a neurotypical person.
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  But that doesn't mean that they incapable of love and actually
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  means that they are probably more capable in love than you
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  could ever imagine because they see it on a deeper, complex and
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  more intuitive level and that is amazing.
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  So just give people a chance. So if you're wondering with
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  these questions yourself and maybe looking at gang
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  relationship with somebody who is on the autism spectrum, but
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  then just give it a try. Find out like speak, talk,
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  communicate. It's all about talking.
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  OK, so #7 one of my pet peeves, if you will, when people ask me
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  this question. But this one is an interesting
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  one. How come you don't look
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  autistic? Right.
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  And I get it all the time, people.
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  Oh, you would never know that you were autistic.
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  I'm like, what? I supposed to have like a tattoo
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  or my diagnosis like, I'm autistic.
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  Please, you know, treat me differently.
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  Was a T-shirt with a big sign say an autistic person?
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  Look at me. I'm autistic.
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  Oh, I don't understand the the, the weird reason people are
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  fascinated by the look of something.
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  Now I can understand if I said I've got a huge broken leg and
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  my ankle is snapped in four places and they look at me and
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  there's no cast, I'm not on a wheelchair, I'm not on crutches
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  and I'm running a marathon, then I can understand if they say,
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  hey, you don't look like you've broken your leg three places,
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  but there is no look for autism apart from looking dapper
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  finance super dope. Because yeah, there is like no
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  physical attributes to being diagnosed with autism.
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  None that I know of and I've ever come across.
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  And so there's no way to look autistic.
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  It's not something that you can that you look like put it that
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