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1950s Respect · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: why did children in the nineteen fifties act more respectfully
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  Speaker 1: in public? Well, let's ask American mama's.
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  Speaker 2: Alma mama and joining us now our American mamas Terneddeville
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  Speaker 2: and Kimberly Burlson.
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  Speaker 1: I think I can answer this one because if they didn't,
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  Speaker 1: they'd get their butt speed. If you look as to
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  Speaker 1: our American mama's a question, go to our website. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, isn't is that's what I think? What do
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  Speaker 1: y'all think?
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  Speaker 3: I think it's father's I absolutely believe it's father's. Fathers
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  Speaker 3: were in every home there wasn't. I mean, it was
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  Speaker 3: just every Yeah, it was very rare that the father
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  Speaker 3: wasn't in the home. And I think that that was taught. Yes, ma'am, no, ma'am, yes, sir, no, sir,
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  Speaker 3: you respect authority. Now, I'm not saying I think there's
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  Speaker 3: a lot of secrets in the past. There's a lot
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  Speaker 3: of bad things, probably a lot of bad things happening
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  Speaker 3: behind closed doors, and there are a lot of secrets kept, yes,
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  Speaker 3: and so that's not saying that that era was the best.
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  Speaker 3: But as far as.
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  Speaker 1: And you can have generational trauma handed from one generation
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  Speaker 1: to the next. Absolutely, and so that you know, So
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  Speaker 1: while there are, while there are good things about us
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  Speaker 1: recognizing mental illness issues and healthy coping mechanisms now that
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  Speaker 1: we did not necessarily in the fifties, we're trying to
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  Speaker 1: do that without dads. Imagine how much better life would
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  Speaker 1: be if we actually were doing that with dads in the.
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  Speaker 3: Home, exactly, exactly. Well, it's also like we talked about
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  Speaker 3: the other day, consequences, right, you know, we talked about
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  Speaker 3: the classroom and kids said, don't act right towards adults,
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  Speaker 3: and that never happened in the past, because you had
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  Speaker 3: a paddle, you had your butt wept, by the principle
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  Speaker 3: even when we were in school, that existed, that happened.
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  Speaker 3: We have friends that got it, you know. So I
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  Speaker 3: think that that the loss of the father, the masculine
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  Speaker 3: aspect of life, you know, the men in people's lives,
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  Speaker 3: is gone. It's not that anymore.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, there's there's something about having to go pick out
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  Speaker 1: your own belt, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Or your twig. Kevin had to go pick out his
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  Speaker 4: own twig. And also I think what is missing, and
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  Speaker 4: it's something I actually see when I watched the Royal family.
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  Speaker 4: When I watch you know, Kate and Prince William and
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  Speaker 4: their three children, it's the same thing that I felt
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  Speaker 4: like they did in the fifties. They expected their kids
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  Speaker 4: to behave a certain way. They are dressed differently than
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  Speaker 4: normal kids. Like back in the fifties, they were dressed
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  Speaker 4: with the you know, cute little dresses. A lot of
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  Speaker 4: the women made their children's dresses. There's a yeah, there's
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  Speaker 4: a respect you you all go to church together, right,
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  Speaker 4: you know that was part of your lives. There's When
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  Speaker 4: I watched the Royal family, you can see them teaching
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  Speaker 4: them in the moment. You can see Charlotte, the middle one,
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  Speaker 4: who is trying to teach Louie. We don't do that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, we don't do that. So it's this expectation
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  Speaker 4: that we need to get back. Our dad used to
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  Speaker 4: say that, as we've said many times before that he
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  Speaker 4: used to say he expects us to do great things.
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  Speaker 4: When someone that you love, admire and respect and revere
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  Speaker 4: expects something of you and they put that in you
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  Speaker 4: that make you believe that you will fulfill that, you
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  Speaker 4: do it you want.
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  Speaker 1: To and growing up in the military, oh yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: did not You did not embarrass the officer. Oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: absolutely not. That was That was.
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  Speaker 4: And that's a good point. The military kids. You watch
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  Speaker 4: them in the playground. You see these videos where all
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  Speaker 4: of a sudden you'll hear the music and get taps
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  Speaker 4: and they all get off the swings, get off the slide,
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  Speaker 4: stand up, and they put their hand on their heart
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  Speaker 4: wherever they are.
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  Speaker 1: Where we are. Yeah, that was what we if. It
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  Speaker 1: was in the middle of the soccer game. We stopped
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  Speaker 1: the soccer game and we yes, and and the other
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  Speaker 1: part on that was if you were the son or
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  Speaker 1: daughter of an officer, one of the things that we
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  Speaker 1: were taught was everybody on that base outranks you. That
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  Speaker 1: lowest corporal outranks you because you're a kid, and so
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  Speaker 1: you will show respect to the chain of just because
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  Speaker 1: your dad may be a colonel, that that sergeant outranks you.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, So that's what's missing as well. Kids these days.
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  Speaker 4: And I don't mean to sound like that old nagging
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  Speaker 4: old lady. Kids these days, but they don't respect the elderly.
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  Speaker 4: In fact, you see it on the subway. You see
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  Speaker 4: all these videos or these reels something. Yes, you're right,
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  Speaker 4: there's just absolutely there's because we've talked about this be far,
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  Speaker 4: there's no consequences for that action. If anything, they just
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  Speaker 4: get kudos from their peer group, like you're so cool.
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  Speaker 4: You just said, you're just disrespected this man who's just
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  Speaker 4: trying to sell you, you know, a hot dog on the
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  Speaker 4: side of the Z the road or whatever. And I
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  Speaker 4: think that that's a huge part of it. We have
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  Speaker 4: not taught our kids there.
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  Speaker 3: Even you're talking about military families. I think the most
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  Speaker 3: amazing kids I know are military children. We worked with them.
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  Speaker 3: Terry did a program for military children. They're the most
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  Speaker 3: respectful kids I've ever been around. And it's probably because
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  Speaker 3: of the male dominance. You fall in line, you do
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  Speaker 3: what's right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, are consequences if you don't.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, that's interest. Okay, So you know that Kimberly and
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  Speaker 4: her friend Kathleen started that camp Better America, Right, So
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  Speaker 4: we got to see and Kimberly allowed me to help
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  Speaker 4: the kids. I was in charge of the kids part
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  Speaker 4: of it. You got to see how they operate. It's
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  Speaker 4: very much like what you just described, like the kids
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  Speaker 4: knew their place and when the dads said or the moms.
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  Speaker 4: It was interesting because that's what they were trying to
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  Speaker 4: work through. They just come back from deployment, the moms
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  Speaker 4: that had it off for so long, trying to get
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  Speaker 4: that balance.
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  Speaker 1: Back right, which is difficult.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, but I think that when you have two people,
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  Speaker 4: the two adults in your life who are the most
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  Speaker 4: important to you, on the same page about making sure
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  Speaker 4: that you are raised with that level of respect for others.
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  Speaker 3: Good things happen when you don't know the rest of
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  Speaker 3: your life.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, bad things happen, right.
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  Speaker 1: Offil Kimberly Brothers, and thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you,