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13: Monday Moment: The Limiting Beliefs That Still Think They’re in Charge · Banish the Lies: Outsmart Your Inner Critic

• 0:01
  Speaker: Happy Monday moment.
• 0:02
  Speaker: Friends.
• 0:03
  Speaker: Today I want to talk about unconscious beliefs, those stories that live below the surface and quietly shape our reality.
• 0:11
  Speaker: Someone asked me recently, how do you even know what those stories are?
• 0:16
  Speaker: How do you know what limiting beliefs might still be running the show?
• 0:21
  Speaker: And.
• 0:21
  Speaker: I get how sometimes it may not be obvious because it can be easy to think that the limiting beliefs you once faced have now been resolved.
• 0:30
  Speaker: Maybe that's true, and if so great, but maybe you've just not run up against them because you've been staying inside of your comfort zone.
• 0:39
  Speaker: A place where these voices don't have a reason to ring the alarm bell.
• 0:44
  Speaker: After all the landscape is familiar and you're functioning and you're likely feeling competent.
• 0:51
  Speaker: In other words, everything feels fine, but picture a different scenario.
• 0:57
  Speaker: Picture yourself trying something completely new.
• 1:00
  Speaker: That's when the stories come running.
• 1:04
  Speaker: I remember the first time I played golf, someone invited me out and I thought, sure, I'm open.
• 1:10
  Speaker: I can try new things.
• 1:11
  Speaker: I'm not that attached to being good.
• 1:13
  Speaker: And then I got out there and immediately the stress hit along with it.
• 1:20
  Speaker: The Committee of Voices, you're taking too long, everyone's watching you.
• 1:25
  Speaker: You're holding up the line.
• 1:27
  Speaker: Come on, Tania.
• 1:28
  Speaker: Get it right the first time.
• 1:29
  Speaker: It wasn't so much that I was shocked by those voices.
• 1:33
  Speaker: I've done enough self-reflection to know that those stories exist.
• 1:39
  Speaker: But what surprised me was just how loud they were.
• 1:43
  Speaker: It was like I thought they had been turned down to like, I don't know, a three out of ten and suddenly they were back up at an eight or nine.
• 1:51
  Speaker: And here's what I want to normalize.
• 1:55
  Speaker: Old stories don't necessarily disappear, but they can lose their authority and when they get loud again, it's often because something new is stretching you.
• 2:07
  Speaker: It doesn't mean that your inner work hasn't paid off, and it doesn't mean you're back at the beginning.
• 2:13
  Speaker: It just means you're expanding into new territory.
• 2:17
  Speaker: So the invitation this week is simple.
• 2:20
  Speaker: Try something new, something where you're not already competent.
• 2:26
  Speaker: Something just new enough that you feel a little vulnerable or even a little exposed, and when the discomfort shows up.
• 2:35
  Speaker: When the old identity suddenly gets louder, instead of going into fix it mode, just notice it.
• 2:44
  Speaker: And you may want to consider what is it that your old identity is trying to protect, or what rule is it enforcing?
• 2:56
  Speaker: And here's some good news.
• 2:58
  Speaker: You don't have to banish it today.
• 3:01
  Speaker: Just observe it without judgment.
• 3:04
  Speaker: Because I've noticed that when I don't argue with that old voice, when I don't obey it and I don't try to silence it immediately, it softens even just slightly.
• 3:19
  Speaker: And it's not because I've conquered it, it's simply because I've stopped feeding it.
• 3:24
  Speaker: Awareness when held with compassion begins to loosen its grip.
• 3:32
  Speaker: And just because that voice still thinks it's in charge doesn't mean it really is with greater awareness, you get to decide who runs the show now.
• 3:45
  Speaker: Okay, many blessings to you on this Monday morning.
• 3:51
  Speaker: Cheers.