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The 9 Messages of Wholehearted Love · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Amy Wicks and I love to talk about the gospel message your heart was created to hear.
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  SPEAKER_00: All things Enneagram and helping you be confident that you are the best mom for your kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a mountain mama who somehow ended up on a cul-de-sac in the Medwest.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was alone and without family or community.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the Lord, he didn't let me stay there.
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  SPEAKER_00: He helped me turn my broken-hearted moment into a wholehearted decision to get intentional with my faith, my marriage, and my kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: I share broken-hearted perspective with story, but with wholehearted purpose and plan so you can live a life full of confidence and abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of this podcast as your on-the-go mom pal, mixed with a little bit of Enneagram coaching.
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  SPEAKER_00: So get to that pile of laundry or hit the treadmill or load up the kids in the car for that grocery run.
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  SPEAKER_00: And be ready to be encouraged and challenged while you listen.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Simply Wholehearted Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: These next few weeks we're going to be focusing on topics which will inspire us to wholehearted love.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you haven't yet caught up with our three weeks to Wholehearted Year series, don't miss out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know it'll set you up for your best year yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you listened to the very end of my episode last week and you also read my weekly email, well then you know I want to hear from you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, I would love to have you subscribe to the podcast and give it a five-star rating, but now you can also leave me a message with your voice so I can include them in the episode each week.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm really excited to use this feature and hear from each of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the meantime, I've also received some written questions that I will be using as well in future podcast episodes.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you can use the link in the show notes, which will take you to anchor.fm and it'll give you an option to click and leave a message.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can ask me questions about the Enneagram, parenting, or relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, some of the questions so far I've been getting are things like what is the most important thing to look at when determining your type?
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  SPEAKER_00: Someone else asked how could they use the Enneagram to help with their relationships with their adult children.
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  SPEAKER_00: And someone else asked about Enneagram and finances.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of these are great questions, and I'm sure some of you have been asking the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'll be happy to respond to you individually when you send your questions this way, and I will keep them to use them on the podcast because I'm sure if you're asking the questions, someone else is too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now this month we're going to focus on love from several different angles and how the gospel and Enneagram Insights can help us love wholeheartedly.
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  SPEAKER_00: I knew I wanted to start this month about focusing on God's love for us.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think we often get in the mindset that wholeheartedness is something we do, that it's an action for the sake of performance, striving and working really hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: But instead, what is true is that we can only love wholeheartedly because God first loved us.
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  SPEAKER_00: As we live with the joy of our salvation, we can't help but love back with our whole selves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the deal: God says there is nothing you can do that would cause him to love you anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: He also says there's nothing you can do that would cause him to love you any less.
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  SPEAKER_00: His love is not dependent on your response to him.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not conditional on your acceptance.
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  SPEAKER_00: He loves you 100% right now because that is who he is.
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  SPEAKER_00: God is love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if you decide to not walk with him or receive his love, he will love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's the good news.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you choose to accept his love and open your heart to him, you will experience and know his love in a greater way than you have before.
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  SPEAKER_00: You will also have a love that will never be forsaken or abandoned or changed or even become conditional.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Lord has set his love upon you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are beloved.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I know you're going to enjoy reflecting on your own stories today as I share, so I'm going to dive right in.
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  SPEAKER_00: But as you listen, you may decide there is more about the Enneagram that you would like to know, or more that you don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Enneagram can be overwhelming, and it's sometimes hard to know where to begin.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a ton of information out there, so I have cut through the overwhelm and created my Easy Enneagram resources to help you make your journey so much easier.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you haven't already gotten your Easy Enneagram Quick Start Guide, you can get that at easyineagram.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: It gives you the next steps with easy links to find resources and direct you to your next steps in the process.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then if you want to learn more about what the Enneagram is, what it could do for you, and what could be dangerous about the Enneagram, my Easy Enneagram 101 video guide was created with you in mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not only will it make the Enneagram easier to understand, but you can learn all the information that you need to know in less than 30 minutes and at the ease of it being on your phone.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's pretty awesome.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as I talk today and you're really liking some of the insight that you're hearing, you may be ready to jump into the Easy Enneagram 201 video guide.
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  SPEAKER_00: It will help you understand others' conflict style and their decision-making process.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's one of those that helps take your relationships to the next level.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want more information on all of these, just go to easyeneagram.com or check out the links in the show notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, as we dive into this Enneagram chat, remember the Enneagram is not just a personality test to tell us what we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a decipher and decoder for ourselves and loved ones to give us the language for why we do what we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: The key difference of the Enneagram is it highlights our motivation and not our behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, Katie Roselli and I shared in episode 136 about using BSF to help us dive into the Word this year and to make getting in the Word one of our wholehearted rhythms.
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  SPEAKER_00: I thought it was really cool how this week's reflection in our study highlighted to me how the Enneagram helps make God even easier to discover.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was so cool, and I can't wait to share it with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this last week in our BSF study, we were studying through Acts and the Apostles' journey, Paul's specifically Paul's missionary journey with Silas.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, they've been traveling from town to town.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're often kicked out for preaching the gospel, and then eventually their journey lands them in Athens.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what is kind of cool about Athens is that it's something as 21st century Americans can actually visualize, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We have history books and we have pictures and we even have architecture that can still be toured today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, I think because I have images to go along with this portion of scripture, I paid closer attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Paul is preaching to these leaders who love debate and information.
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  SPEAKER_00: I picture these leaders as possibly Enneagram fives or having some sort of line of growth or even a strong five-wing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what's really cool is Paul has their full attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are raptured.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's verse 27 of chapter 17 of Acts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Paul is talking about why God created humanity, and in the Passion Translation it reads like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you hear that?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not sure where you are today, but sometimes I struggle with my longings.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wonder why I feel the way I do, or even why I ache for something that can't seem to be satisfied.
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  SPEAKER_00: But God created you with those desires that you would long for God, that it would lead you to want to find satisfaction in Him.
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  SPEAKER_00: God is not hiding from you, and He wants you to discover His love for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now in my book, that's true Love.
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  SPEAKER_00: A system of creation designed for love, to be loved, and to find love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can I get a yes and amen?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, this is where the Enneagram can give us a ton of insight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do believe that the Enneagram is helpful to spell out our quirks and our triggers.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's even more helpful when we hear how the Word of God has messages specifically for us, because you were uniquely created to hear them.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this week I thought it would be fun to remind you of the messages your heart longs to hear and the answers to your longing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're still uncertain about your dominant Enneagram type, well, this may give you some clues.
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  SPEAKER_00: But realize discovering your type is not a one-time process and it's not the end goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am still on my personal journey and I've known about the Enneagram for four years and studied it for my coaching programs and all my curriculum for two years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if you think you know the type you lead with in life, try to keep an open mind as you listen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And take note how these messages impact your heart, mind, or body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, before I give you those messages, here is a quick word about today's sponsor.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now keep this powerful relational tip in mind as you listen.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you know your loved one's dominant type, would you take note for them?
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  SPEAKER_00: Hear these words not just for you, but hear these words of love and share them.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all need to be reminded that we are seen, loved, and heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, I'm gonna let you in on a little parenting secret.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do have a strong idea of what all three of my kids' Enneagram type is.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, if you want to hear for yourself, one of them was on the podcast last fall.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it's Enneagram Parenting Secrets, and it might be episode 123, but it could also be episode 121 or 122.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not totally sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: But anyway, I pray every night for them before bed, you know, praying out loud, we sing the song, tuck them in, do the whole conversation thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I use these biblical truths that I'm about to share with you to speak life over them because I'm pretty sure that someday, when they need it most, those words will be available in their memory.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you ready?
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, let's get started.
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  SPEAKER_00: One you are already worthy of my love for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is a free gift to you in Christ.
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  SPEAKER_00: This invites you to be free from striving to be right and perfect in order to be worthy of love and approval.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two, you are simply love regardless of your contribution.
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  SPEAKER_00: This invites you to be free from the belief that you need to help and rescue others to be loved, accepted, and held in high regard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Three, you are of great value regardless of your accomplishments.
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  SPEAKER_00: This invites you to be free from the need to succeed in order to establish your worth in the world and with your creator.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are already extraordinary and special because you were created in love for love.
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  SPEAKER_00: This invites you to be free from the drive to be unique and the false belief that you will not be loved and noticed if you don't stand out from the crowd.
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  SPEAKER_00: God is a generous and loving God who is mindful of all your needs and you will not run out.
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  SPEAKER_00: This invites you to be free from the fear of scarcity and not having all you need to survive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Six.
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  SPEAKER_00: God is a faithful God who will always be with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are safe with God.
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  SPEAKER_00: This truth invites you to be free from the fear of uncertainty, and the false notion that you must be watchful and diligent to assure protection from harm.
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  SPEAKER_00: The I am is with you on all situations.
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  SPEAKER_00: Embrace his love for you and trust that you will not miss out on his abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: This truth invites you to be free from the fear of being limited and cut off from what you think will give life to the full.
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  SPEAKER_00: The I am will guard you with his love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let go of the false idea that you must stand your ground and have your way to maintain control over your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: This truth invites you to be free from the fear of being unprotected and vulnerable.
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  SPEAKER_00: The I am seiz you and the passions he has given you are worth pursuing.
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  SPEAKER_00: This truth invites you to be free from the false beliefs that your opinions and your presence don't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Receive and believe that your place in the world is crucial to the unfolding of God's purposes.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how might your words impact others' lives for good and even God's glory?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who can you encourage today?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what gospel message can you share to help someone through their own messy middle?
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  SPEAKER_00: Next week I'm excited to continue our conversation about wholehearted rhythms with love and with guest Lindsay Ray.
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  SPEAKER_00: I discovered Lindsay years ago because, well, true confessions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I used to watch The Bachelor.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know, I know.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll talk all about it next week.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you may have heard of Lindsay before because she writes on her blog, I hate green beans, and provides spoilers and anecdotes about bachelor episodes and seasons for many, many years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Back in 2009 is when I discovered her.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I quickly fell in love with her writing because when you have life with little kids, it feels a little bit hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you can read something that makes you laugh out loud, well, you can get kind of hooked.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, I promise next week's episode is not about The Bachelor.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is about love, broken hearts, and how the Lord redeems even the hardest moments.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have to say, I'm not usually surprised during my conversations with guests, but I was in my conversation with Lindsay.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was a great surprise, and I know you are going to want to listen in.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember my new feature that I have started with you in mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can leave a message with the Simply Wholehearted podcast to ask your questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would love to do a whole show or even answer questions every week, whether it's about the Enneagram, motherhood, or relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a link in the show notes that will connect you right away.
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  SPEAKER_00: I look forward to hearing those and answering them soon.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope you've enjoyed this episode as you continue this month of wholehearted love.
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  SPEAKER_00: It would mean the world to me to have you share this podcast with your girlfriends and leave a rating with a review so others know what to expect and that they are welcome to join this community.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, you can always email or tag Simply Wholehearted on social media or even send a direct message on the socials if you have questions or just want to share some encouragement.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until next week, let's invite others to join us to pursue perspective, purpose, and plans for a simply wholehearted life.