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Create Your Perfect Possible Position — Start Where You Are · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is your Motivational Monday episode,
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  The Perfect Possible Position.
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  Yeah, yeah, I know. So many of us have our own ideas about what being in the
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  perfect possible position looks like.
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  I actually say this phrase a lot when I'm talking about how we set up my young men for success.
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  I want them exposed to opportunities. I want them equipped with resources.
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  I want them surrounded by people who can help them navigate life.
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  Because, of course, we want the people we love to be positioned well.
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  But can I challenge something today?
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  There really is no set perfect position.
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  Yeah, I know a lot of folks would challenge Coach C on this one,
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  and that's fine. I get it because I used to think the same way.
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  If I had these parents, if I had those resources, if I grew up in that neighborhood,
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  if I had their connections,
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  if I had that kind of money, if somebody had opened those doors for me,
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  then surely I would have been in a better place.
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  Surely I would have been further along. Surely I would have been in the perfect possible position.
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  Well, turns out that ain't necessarily true Because if resources alone created
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  results, everybody with resources would win,
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  If privilege automatically produced purpose, everybody with privilege would be living purposefully.
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  If power guarantees success, powerful people would never fall.
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  And we already know that ain't how life works.
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  We have watched individuals from every walk of life fall, fail, and block.
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  Some people have started with almost nothing and built something extraordinary.
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  Others have been handed access, opportunity, money,
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  connections, education, and every advantage imaginable and still could not turn
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  the position they were given into progress.
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  So maybe the perfect possible position isn't about where you start.
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  Maybe it's about what you do from where you are.
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  Whew, because some of us have spent entirely too much time looking at somebody else's starting line.
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  We're calculating their advantages while discounting our own ability.
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  We're studying their position instead of strengthening ours.
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  And we've convinced ourselves that we can't make the move because all of the
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  pieces aren't perfectly positioned yet.
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  But what if this position is enough to make the next move?
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  Not the final move, not the biggest move, not the move that gets you all the
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  way there, just the next move.
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  Because sometimes your perfect possible position is simply the place where you
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  finally decide, I'm going to work with what I have.
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  I'm going to learn what I don't know. I'm going to build what I don't have.
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  I'm going to knock until something opens. I'm going to keep moving until my position changes.
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  See, position isn't always something you're given.
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  Sometimes position is something you create.
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  And let me take that one step further. The perfect possible position isn't a PPP loan.
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  It isn't being privileged. It isn't being powerful because we have watched plenty
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  of people with money, privilege, and power fall, fail, and block.
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  Nah, Coach C has a different PPP for you this Motivational Monday.
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  The perfect possible position is found in prayer, pursuit, and purpose.
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  Prayer keeps you positioned with God. Before I make the move,
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  before I chase the opportunity, before I decide that somebody else's lane looks
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  better than mine, let me make sure
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  I'm aligned with what God has for me.
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  Pursuit keeps you moving because you can pray about it, dream about it,
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  journal about it, post about it, and tell everybody what you're going to do,
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  but eventually you've got to move.
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  Pursuit says, I may not have everything, but I'm going after what I believe
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  is possible with what I have right now.
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  Purpose keeps you pointed in the right direction because success without purpose
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  can have you winning at something you were never called to do.
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  Purpose reminds you that the goal isn't simply to get ahead.
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  It's to become who you're supposed to become while doing what you're supposed to do.
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  So stop waiting for everything to become perfect before you position yourself.
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  Stop assuming somebody else's advantages automatically make their position better than yours.
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  Stop telling yourself you would have succeeded if only you had their parents,
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  their money, their connections, their opportunities, or their life.
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  You don't know what comes with their position, but you do know what's available in yours.
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  And maybe you aren't perfectly positioned according to the world's standards.
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  But baby, prayer can position you, pursuit can propel you, purpose can point you.
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  And when those three start working together, you might discover you were standing
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  in your perfect possible position all along.
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  Here's your fearless homework. Check your PPP.
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  This week, I want you to write down one thing you've been delaying because you
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  don't believe you're in the perfect position to do it.
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  Then ask yourself three questions.
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  1. Prayer. Have I actually prayed for direction about this, or have I just worried about it?
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  2. Pursuit. What is one action I can take this week with the resources I already have?
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  3. Purpose. Why does this matter to me, and does it align with who I believe I'm called to become?
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  Then take that one action. Not when everything lines up.
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  Not when you have more money. Not when somebody finally gives you permission.
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  Not when your circumstances become perfect.
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  From the position you're in right now, because fearless living isn't waiting
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  for the perfect position.
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  Sometimes fearless living is the positioning.
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  This is Coach C, and this has been another Motivational Monday edition of Real Talk for Real Life.
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  Remember, prayer, pursuit, purpose. Your PPP might be more powerful than you think.
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  Now get in position, and as always, live fearless, keep learning, keep living.
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