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Ep. 284 - You Can’t Heal From Divorce Without This Kind of Forgiveness · Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

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  SPEAKER_00: Forgiveness isn't always holy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's pressure dressed up as some bullshit healing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you've ever told yourself I should be over this by now, this episode isn't about being the bigger person.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about being the real one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we're walking through three journal prompts every woman has to face if she ever wants to stop performing forgiveness and start feeling free.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee.
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  SPEAKER_00: Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.
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  SPEAKER_00: In today's episode, you are going to hear me share three journal prompts with Joy and Coach Tiffany.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they have not heard these journal prompts before.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're going to share spontaneously.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm going to encourage you ladies to really think about anywhere in your life you might still be grappling with resentment or forgiveness, not just, you know, sort of the moment when to do with romantic relationships, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I think your answers will be more authentic or genuine or and it's still going to connect, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's my caveat up front.
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  SPEAKER_00: The three questions are going to approximately follow these sorts of topics or ideas.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one, there's something inside of you that still hasn't been said out loud.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not to them, not even to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And being able to touch that allows forgiveness to start to shift from being performative and into a possibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the second question is going to be in the realm of you think your resentment and your lack of forgiveness is about anger, but it's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: And once you realize what it really is, then you'll understand why you can't move on yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the third question is going to be in the realm of well, there's one magical unicorn question that has the power to change everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's the one that shows you what your resentment has really been protecting.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so this is a like it's a big, scary, hairy therapy, complex, right question.
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  SPEAKER_00: And once you can sort of sit and process with this one, is the moment you will stop waiting for closure and start giving it to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You ready, ladies?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, let's go.
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