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You might have been the narcissists new supply · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about how you might be or might
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  have been, the Narcissist New supply if you're new here.
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  My name is Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of the Narcissist Code. So, boom.
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  Welcome back, welcome back. Welcome back, folks.
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  Yes, yes, yes, yes. You, you, you, you you remind me
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  of a girl that I there's the Usher 87 O1.
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  No, I like y'all Don't know what I'm talking about.
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  You, Mike, have actually been the narcissist new supply, so
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  many people. I've seen so many videos talking
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  about the new supply, right? I've seen so many videos talking
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  about the narcissist, new supply, the narcissist, this,
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  the narcissist that. I've seen an extended amount of
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  videos, right? Just so many videos.
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  But people rarely ever mentioned that you might have been or you
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  might be right now the new supply because narcissist like
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  one reason now I feel like a lot of people don't talk about this.
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  One reason that narcissists love bomb you is to make the old
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  person jealous, right. So one reason that a narcissist
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  or a toxic person or whoever will love bomb you will make to
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  be to make someone else jealous. Yeah.
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  So if they're love bombing you, if they're giving you everything
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  that you want and need, they're trying to make someone else
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  jealous. And a lot of people don't think
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  about that. Like if they have a crazy ex, if
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  you first meet them and they always talking about their crazy
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  ex or the ex that did this, the ex that did that.
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  Like, they never, they always keep focusing on the ex so much
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  and they just, they hate their ex.
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  But they're treating you so well.
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  They're giving you everything that you want to need.
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  And somehow the ex keeps popping up in the picture.
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  The ex is reaching out to them. All of a sudden the ex this the
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  ex that they might be love bombing you to make someone else
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  jealous. You might be the new supply.
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  A lot of people don't think about that.
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  But some people do think about it.
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  Some people are like I was the new.
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  Some people will, will, will raise their hands and be like I
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  was the new supply. Yep.
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  Me I was. You know but a lot of people
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  don't realize it because I'm not saying just because the
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  narcissist loves bomb you, love bombs you this, you are the new
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  supply. But a lot of times that's what
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  they're doing. That's what they're doing.
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  You ever see these videos online where people are like, you see
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  the videos of narcissistic abuse survivors online where they
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  they'll they'll start crying and they record themselves crying
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  and they post it online. And then the caption will be
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  when you're watching them do everything that you do, when
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  you're watching them give to the new person everything that you
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  begged for. When you're watching them
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  married a new person, are you watching them build the family
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  with the new person and go on trips and all you wanted?
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  You you didn't go on a vacation in 10 years.
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  You're watching them give someone else everything that you
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  wanted, right? That's what.
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  That's what you see, all those videos of people watching the
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  the narcissist give the next person everything they wanted.
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  That's how you love bond people by giving them things that
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  somebody else wanted. Because a lot of narcissists are
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  just like I would say this, a lot of narcissists are like
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  blank slates, right? They don't.
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  They they they don't understand how to get people to fall for
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  them. Pardon the Interruption, Just
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  any uploads. Help me reach more people and
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  back to the video. Like, they're just like walking
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  around aloof, right? And the easiest way to get
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  people to fall for you is to give somebody, like go with what
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  you know. I know you like this restaurant,
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  so I'm going to take this new person to the same restaurant
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  and maybe they'll like it. I know you wanted to travel to
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  this place, so I'm going to take the new person to this place
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  because maybe they'll maybe maybe they'll like it, You know,
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  they'll give in the new person everything that you wanted.
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  So if you ever felt like things are moving really fast in your
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  relationship and that narcissistic person just told
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  you they broke up with somebody weeks ago, a month ago, they're
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  going, they did, they're recently separated or they're
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  recently divorced, you might be the new person.
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  Y'all You might if if you if you are already in a relationship
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  with the narcissist, right, look back.
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  Look back to the beginning of your relationship and ask
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  yourself. Those questions would be if
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  there's especially especially if they're Co parenting.
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  Especially if they have kids or they still work with or they
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  still have to be involved with the new supply and they owe they
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  owe their ex in some way shape or form.
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  Like think about it. Think back to where you love
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  Bond and where you automatically turned against the the the, the
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  narcissist X. For some reason, we
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  automatically triangulated against the X with the the X
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  hate you before they met you. You see what I'm saying?
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  Because that's how it plays out sometimes, because you might
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  actually be the new person. I feel like that that blows some
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  people's minds because a lot of people, we don't think.
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  We don't think about that because we're just trying to
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  move forward and live our lives, aren't we?
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  You're just trying to live your life.
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  You you just like you. You fallen in love with
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  somebody. They're giving you everything
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  that you want and need. So you're not thinking about the
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  X you like, Hey, I I won the prize.
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  I got the prize right now. Hey, you, you might have messed
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  up. They said you were crazy.
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  So you know what I'm going to do?
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  I'm not going to be crazy. I'm going to do what they want
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  me to do because I'm getting everything I want.
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  I got, you know, I met, I met my person.
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  So that's how it goes right there.
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  And I tell a lot of people that in these spaces because it flows
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  into that right there. So if you're dealing with a
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  narcissist or a types of person, like I say, you might be the new
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  you just might be or you might have been like it crazy.
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  And like I said, especially think about this right here.
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  If you're dealing with the narcissist, right?
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  If you dealt with a narcissist and y'all broke up and they
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  immediately went back to their ex, then you might be the new
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  supply. Like if they immediately, like
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  as soon as y'all broke up, they're back with their ex or
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  they broke up with you to go back to their ex.
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  You know, y'all had a short term relationship and they went back
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  to their ex really quickly after our relationship ended.
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  Or they broke up with you to go back to the ex.
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  Or they they kept they kept you and the X separate for years and
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  then all of a sudden they they kept trashing and bashing the X
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  and they kept you and the X separate for years and now all
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  of a sudden out of nowhere they go right back to them.
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  You might be the new person, you might have been the new supply
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  without knowing it. You might have had a long or
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  short term relationship with a narcissist where they were using
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  you or tried to use you to make someone else jealous.
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  They tried to use you to show someone else that you had that
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  they had changed. Because that's what, Yeah, being
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  realistic, that's why some narcissists use the new supply,
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  right? Some narcissists use the new
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  supply because that. Like some narcissists use the
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  new supply to make the ex jealous.
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  This is being, this is being realistic right there.
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  They use the new supply to make their exes jealous or to show
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  them that they have changed. Or like if I'm being like, I'm a
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  narcissist, right? So if I'm being good and well
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  behaved in my new relationship and I was none of those things
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  with you, you're going to be looking at me like you are the
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  problem. You're going to be looking at me
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  like you're the problem you're going to be looking at.
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  You're going to be looking at me like you could change.
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  Like like maybe I've changed. Maybe you were the problem.
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  So it might be easier for me if I so choose to come back to you.
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  You see what I'm saying? That's what I'm saying.
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  Y'all, y'all. A lot of people don't think
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  about y'all. Sometimes when you deal with
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  narcissists, you might have to think outside the box just the
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  wee bit, just a just a just a tad bit.
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  Just a smidge, you know might have to think outside the box,
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  just a smidge. Because that's how the mind of a
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  lot of narcissists works out. So I I would, I would say this
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  right here. If you encountering narcissistic
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  people, if you're dealing with toxic narcissistic people or
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  you're in a relationship with them right now, just take a step
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  back. If you try to view your
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  relationship through a different lens, just try to look at it
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  through a different lens just like that.
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  Like was I the new supply, did they use, were they using me to
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  get back to someone else? Because it could, it could wake
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  you up a little bit. You have to show you some of the
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  some of the dynamics of your relationship.
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  You know he can just show you a little bit of what's been going
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  on within the relationship or why, why things have went the
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  way that they went. So this is actually I'm just
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  trying to work you out because you might have been a new, you
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  hear so much about the new supply being a bad person.
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  Because think about this. If you are just realizing or
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  just coming to the fact, coming to the realization that you are,
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  or you were the new supply, then you can understand that
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  sometimes the new supply doesn't know that they are the new
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  supply. Sometimes the new supply is in
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  the dark. They don't.
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  They only know what the narcissist has told them.
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  They only know what that narcissistic person has
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  whispered into their ear. Sweet nothings and sweet lies
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  into their ear. That's all they know.
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  How else would they know anything different?
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  Like how would they know anything different?
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  Is this the only thing presented towards them?
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  They don't have any other points of view.
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  There's no other perspectives coming around.
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  The only thing that they have is that narcissist, telling them
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  what to believe, telling them their side of the story, telling
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  them their side of things. So sometimes the new supply has
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  no earthly idea that you exist. Because so many people that I
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  even talk to, that I interact with bash.
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  The new supply, the new supply, the downgrade, they're a
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  horrible person. They're ugly.
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  They're fat. They're too skinny.
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  Their teeth are like be back, like be bashed in the new
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  supply. I like the the the the new
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  supply know you. They have no idea I exist.
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  I'm like, y'all look, look, we we, I, I didn't understand.
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  People are hurt. You know, I get that people are
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  hurt, but it's just like when you start bashing somebody that
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  doesn't know you because your partner, your ex horrible
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  person, your ex toxic narcissistic person went to
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  them, You know what I'm saying? They might not know you exist
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  now if they let's look. So if they know you exist, if
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  they were, if they are knowingly the news supply, if they were
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  openly cheating with your partner or with your ex.
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  Yeah, you know what I mean? I I can see, I can see taking
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  the gloves off and giving them a little insult here and there,
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  razzing them up a little bit, you know?
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  But for those that don't know, you know what I mean?
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  People don't know. They don't know until they know.
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  They won't know until they know. They blindly look, They're
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  getting love bombed. You might have been getting love
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  bombed. So you blindly trust the
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  narcissist, right? You blindly believe this person
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  because why would they lie? They love you, right?
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  They're treating you so good. Why would they lie?
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  They're so nice and so charming. Right?
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  Why would they lie? Why wouldn't they lie?
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  That's a that's a better question.
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  Why wouldn't they lie? Because as long as this lie for
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  no damn reason. Sometimes.
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  Y'all for that. Yeah.
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