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Monday Mini: All the Single Ladies (Get Married??), Part 2 · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha, and welcome to Stepan
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Speaker 1: I never told you protection of iHeart Radio. And welcome
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Speaker 1: to liberal women making the world the worst. Yes, welcome.
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Speaker 1: We're so happy you joined us, are we? Because I
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Speaker 1: guess we're so unhappy. So this is part two of episode.
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Speaker 1: We were not intending to be a part two, but
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Speaker 1: we just had so many thoughts and so much to say,
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Speaker 1: too much to say, So go listen to part one
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Speaker 1: of Single Women Get Married. This conversation started in part
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Speaker 1: because of this rhetoric around like why don't why didn't
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Speaker 1: single women go conservative during this midterm elections here that
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Speaker 1: I thought was very funny that happened to coincide with
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Speaker 1: this email that we received about how liberal women are
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Speaker 1: just not happy and they are ruining everything, ruining everything
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Speaker 1: that is my life goal. Here we go, Here we go.
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Speaker 1: So let's let's jump in. And this is where they
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Speaker 1: try to include studies to look more credible, which we're
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Speaker 1: going to talk about. But the big red font title reads,
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Speaker 1: a new study proves feminism failed women. Liberal women are
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Speaker 1: more unhappy without men, babies, and marriage. For decades now,
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Speaker 1: the feminist agenda has been in full swing in these
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Speaker 1: United States making strides towards women's equality, independence, personal empowerment,
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Speaker 1: and government support. But are women happier in the answer
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Speaker 1: for liberal women is a very loud no survey the
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Speaker 1: American family. Yes the answers, so okay, all right, Um,
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Speaker 1: there's a lot to talk about. Year Again, we've talked
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Speaker 1: about women in happiness on this show. We had three
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Speaker 1: Monday minies on it, so you can see those where
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Speaker 1: we we discussed some of these surveys I have so
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Speaker 1: the links they included. Some are more concrete, some are
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Speaker 1: more credible than others. I would say, I have a
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Speaker 1: lot of theories for why this could possibly be, Um,
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Speaker 1: and I know you have some, Samantha. Basically one of
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Speaker 1: my first thoughts when I heard that, which again we've had,
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Speaker 1: We've had studies that have shown the complete opposite on here,
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Speaker 1: and we've talked about them on here. I would say, like,
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Speaker 1: if that's in any way true, it would be because
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Speaker 1: right now it is it feels like an attack on
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Speaker 1: women and liberalism and democracy. Like of course, it's hard
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Speaker 1: to report high levels of happiness during a pandemic when
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Speaker 1: row view aid gets overturned and we have all of
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Speaker 1: these like negative things. When it comes to the strides,
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Speaker 1: intersectional feminism has made like that makes sense to me.
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Speaker 1: I can tell you my happiness has suffered absolutely. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: you know, like it's really funny because the links that
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Speaker 1: they put on here and I went to look at
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Speaker 1: a couple of them, the way they misreporting the information
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Speaker 1: in itself, because you have to take in the big factors,
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Speaker 1: and that's in fact. I think one of the links
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Speaker 1: is the Guardian. We've used the Guardian and they are
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Speaker 1: pretty reliable in the way they report. But we know
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Speaker 1: why they used the Guardian, and we know what the
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Speaker 1: Guardian was trying to say because we talked about it before.
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Speaker 1: But the fact is that they are taking numbers and
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Speaker 1: saying see see whenn't Actually, like you said, there's circumstances
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Speaker 1: right now are most likely making liberal women who believe
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Speaker 1: in bodily autonomy, um, equal pay, racial justice are not
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Speaker 1: happy with what is happening right now. And we've not
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Speaker 1: talked too much about Christian nationalism outside of talking about
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Speaker 1: Q and on and then the red Pill and all
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Speaker 1: of that. But we don't of our government, even with
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Speaker 1: it turning blue ish. We don't love what they are
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Speaker 1: doing because they are too moderate for those who would
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Speaker 1: truly consider themselves liberal. And when I say to moderate,
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Speaker 1: they're playing a game in order to try and take
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Speaker 1: the high road. And again, there's so many things to
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Speaker 1: talk about that I'm gonna I'm putting myself out of that.
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Speaker 1: People are like, oh my god, you're so left leaning.
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Speaker 1: Is to the point of like, as a social worker,
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Speaker 1: what I've seen in the system that I've worked in
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Speaker 1: the government, what I see is nothing is able to
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Speaker 1: happen because no one is making any changes outside of
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Speaker 1: those to the extreme far right, especially in the State
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Speaker 1: of Georgia, not everywhere. Again, the media likes to play
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Speaker 1: up both ends, but like what I'm saying to that
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Speaker 1: what I see as that person sitting here, as the
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Speaker 1: fact that I worked at the government for the State
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Speaker 1: of Georgia and as our current UH governor, he is
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Speaker 1: very far right, and he's still considered moderate by most
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Speaker 1: because he's not completely trump um. But what he has
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Speaker 1: taken is it really extreme measures to not help children.
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Speaker 1: That's what I've seen. So all these things like we
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Speaker 1: don't love the government, even if they are the ones
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Speaker 1: we voted for, they are not who we truly wanted,
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Speaker 1: And so Therefore, yeah, I think for the most part
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Speaker 1: we are really honest and like they're not doing what
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Speaker 1: they promised they were going to do and or they're
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Speaker 1: not able to that's a whole different conversation because of
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Speaker 1: all the roadblocks. So a liberal woman who truly is
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Speaker 1: seeking liberal gains as in true rights to what we
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Speaker 1: see as being equal to the rest of the people.
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Speaker 1: So no, we've not been happy probably the last hundreds
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Speaker 1: of years. Where we are more happier when Rovi Wade
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Speaker 1: did come in effect absolutely celebrated that. Where we happier
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Speaker 1: when queer rights actually happened and gay marriage was actually noticed,
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Speaker 1: yes and recognized by the country. Yes, we celebrated the
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Speaker 1: hell out of that. But that's all turning back, especially
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Speaker 1: since twenty six. So we're a little concerned and unhappy.
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Speaker 1: We're also the same ones who are probably like, yes
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Speaker 1: we need to be in quarantine, Yes we need a
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Speaker 1: mask up. No we're not happy about it. We are
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Speaker 1: probably all like have acknowledged and actual diagnosed mental health
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Speaker 1: stuff because we go to therapy, and so therefore we
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Speaker 1: are unhappy about this situation. But we acknowledge because these
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Speaker 1: things are happening and they have not been handled. Like,
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Speaker 1: I know that's personal and I'm going on a rant,
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Speaker 1: but by God, for the love of Jesus, that you
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Speaker 1: are correct when we are honest in our opinions. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and I think that's a key point. I think both
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Speaker 1: as you said, context is missing from these numbers if
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Speaker 1: they're even like accurate, and who did they ask? And yeah,
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Speaker 1: it's important. Context missing. I think that liberal women and
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Speaker 1: this this could be a generalization that I've experienced, are
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Speaker 1: more likely to be honest and to report those kinds
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Speaker 1: of things. Um. But also, and this is a much
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Speaker 1: bigger topic. It's a very controversial topic. We've been talking
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Speaker 1: about doing this episode forever. But I do think that
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Speaker 1: not a lot of con servative women who really buy
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Speaker 1: in to the conservative rhetoric of you know, women in
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Speaker 1: marriage and all that stuff. Um, I think that they're
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Speaker 1: less likely to admit that they're you know, being a
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Speaker 1: mother is hard and it's not always perfect or easier'or like,
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Speaker 1: I think they're less likely to say that, right, And
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Speaker 1: let's be honest. And I saw an amazing tech talk
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Speaker 1: the other day, because you know, TikTok, apparently the world
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Speaker 1: of tech talk, that's my world, that's where I get
7:30
Speaker 1: my permision just kidding, just kidding, um, but no, like
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Speaker 1: I've seen so much content and we're actually looking up
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Speaker 1: and researching about Christian nationalism and what it's doing to women,
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Speaker 1: um and why there's concerns and and and and understanding,
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Speaker 1: uh what is happening especially to that group of people.
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Speaker 1: And and I You and I have two different backgrounds
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Speaker 1: because though you did come from a very small town, uh,
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Speaker 1: your mother and father did not intrench you to the
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Speaker 1: level of Christianity. A lot of other people around you,
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Speaker 1: as you talked about even um, have gone through and
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Speaker 1: myself and being told as a women, we are always
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Speaker 1: being told this anyway, but in general to not show
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Speaker 1: when you're unhappy, to put on that happy space, to
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Speaker 1: be demure, to be kind, to be grateful, and never
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Speaker 1: come outside of that. So there's this whole level when
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Speaker 1: it comes to women in families, in conservative families, in churches, uh,
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Speaker 1: specific to things that would be uh you know, an
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Speaker 1: alignment with Christian nationalism, are told to step back and
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Speaker 1: then they will suffer if they're too honest, being that
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Speaker 1: you need to show your gratefulness and if you should
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Speaker 1: dare to show the truth and take down that mask,
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Speaker 1: you are sinning against God and your husband. So there's
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Speaker 1: so many things to this level and this rhetoric that
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Speaker 1: is so dangerous in itself, because that's also why the
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Speaker 1: statistics are higher when it comes to domestic violence for
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Speaker 1: those in what would be like Western religion, and we
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Speaker 1: see that, and we also see that like in religion
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Speaker 1: in general, when it's specifically made up by the patriarch,
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Speaker 1: and it is to hold up a patriarch, that it
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Speaker 1: is women who suffer for it and told not to
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Speaker 1: complain and that it is sin to do so. So
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Speaker 1: there's so many levels to this conversation. One of the
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Speaker 1: most liberating things that I had when I went turned
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Speaker 1: away I guess or walked away from religion organized religion
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Speaker 1: was understanding that the faults they told me I had
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Speaker 1: and all the things that were wrong with me were
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Speaker 1: not anything wrong with me. It just was how I
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Speaker 1: was created. And if this God that they talked about
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Speaker 1: was so loving kind of the creator, then I should
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Speaker 1: embrace who I am as long as it is you know,
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Speaker 1: not harming other people, as in like this was my
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Speaker 1: survival tactics, This was who I was born to be.
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Speaker 1: I was like abandoned left and right, abused left and right,
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Speaker 1: and my strength, my independence, my uh ability to survive
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Speaker 1: and finally come to the point that I can recognize
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Speaker 1: myself was what made me who I am and how
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Speaker 1: I've survived all those years. And then you're telling me
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Speaker 1: that can't be you anymore. You have to let that
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Speaker 1: go and become a whole different person for you to
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Speaker 1: have value in the system. And so many women in
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Speaker 1: that culture, that's what they learned, that's what they're told,
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Speaker 1: and that's what they find their value. And to turn
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Speaker 1: your back to that is just literally spinning in the
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Speaker 1: face of who you should be. So you're being ungrateful
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Speaker 1: and like you are a traitor to that lifestyle. So
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Speaker 1: there's so much to this that I'm like, you are
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Speaker 1: for kidding. And again, I also wanted to come back
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Speaker 1: to this point because I'm getting real serious. I know
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Speaker 1: mhm that his whole beef is not about people being single.
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Speaker 1: His whole beef is that they're liberal. But they have
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Speaker 1: to tie that in together because none of this is
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Speaker 1: talking about being single. None of the articles that he
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Speaker 1: sent us isn't talking about except for the connected life
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Speaker 1: via marriage. It's most most of it is about being liberal.
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Speaker 1: So to that point, I'm like, so what singleness has
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Speaker 1: to have to do with any addition other than they
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Speaker 1: are in controlled by family or that traditional lifestyle and
11:09
Speaker 1: being told if you had these things, you would have
11:12
Speaker 1: better understand why we're trying to control you more. Right, right,
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Speaker 1: And we do have episodes coming out on a long
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Speaker 1: planned on religious trauma. They are coming, we promise, UM
11:23
Speaker 1: because like to be clear, you know, religion has helped people.
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Speaker 1: Motherhood's not all bad. These are things, These are the
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Speaker 1: messages he's saying, Like in this email, the implications of
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Speaker 1: what he is saying, UM is just so problematic in
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Speaker 1: a lot of ways. Okay, I don't I want to continue.
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Speaker 1: So this this person runs a pro patriot, pro masculine,
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Speaker 1: pro Christian group and dares to ask the question why.
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Speaker 1: And then there's some numbers that are given about women
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Speaker 1: getting married later than ever unmarried women. And here's a quote.
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Speaker 1: As it turns out, when you turn against God's plan,
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Speaker 1: you become unhappy. On the contrary, when you embrace God's plan,
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Speaker 1: the plan of traditional family and children, both men and
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Speaker 1: women are happier on the whole, you know, which is
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Speaker 1: funny to me because once again, if you stick by Paul,
12:39
Speaker 1: Paul says, don't get married. His whole stick was if
12:44
Speaker 1: you are literally horny, then get married, because how you
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Speaker 1: don't send But outside of that, they bring you down.
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Speaker 1: His whole spill is this, which is why he remained unmarried.
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Speaker 1: But with sonny young boys, thank that for what it is.
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Speaker 1: But like he had this whole thing, and we know
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Speaker 1: the majority of the New Testament, which is what is
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Speaker 1: a big conversation here is literally saying don't get married.
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Speaker 1: I love that you just well, actually this guy. But
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Speaker 1: like what's so funny is because if you see the
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Speaker 1: gospels was telling about Mark, Luke, John uh Matthew, which
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Speaker 1: by the only only one of them, I believe, what's
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Speaker 1: the disciple John? Who his whole message, John's holding message
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Speaker 1: is about love. If you want to go through, His
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Speaker 1: entire thing is you cannot love. If you don't love,
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Speaker 1: you're not of God. Like that's exactly what his whole
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Speaker 1: spiel was. But the other gospels are literally saying this
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Speaker 1: is the Church, the Father of the Church, and the
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Speaker 1: Holy Ghost, which is the bride, the husband and the Father.
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Speaker 1: Like that's the analogy that it comes to supposedly. I
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Speaker 1: think the translations have been ripped through a lot, and
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Speaker 1: there's a lot of conversations about this we know within
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Speaker 1: that world, which I'm not gonna get into, and people
13:54
Speaker 1: gonna yell at me. Um. But all of that to
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Speaker 1: say is sure, that's exactly that level of trust. Like
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Speaker 1: you the father in the the guide you, and the
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Speaker 1: church is the one that follows Jesus. So that's how
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Speaker 1: it's supposed to make up the the marriage world, that
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Speaker 1: type of level, which, by the way, if we want
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Speaker 1: to talk about it, Jesus was very humble and didn't
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Speaker 1: do anything to actually hurt the wife or the church.
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Speaker 1: So you know, that's on the husband who beats them
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Speaker 1: and cheats on them and or you know, does all
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Speaker 1: these abusive things. Uh. Jesus did not do that, just
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Speaker 1: as the little minor um and also did not command.
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Speaker 1: He never once commanded that you have to do this.
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Speaker 1: Is that if you love person, then you should do
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Speaker 1: this again whatever. That's a whole different level, um. But
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Speaker 1: the fact is, when it came down to Paul's teaching,
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Speaker 1: which is the rest of the New Testaments outside of
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Speaker 1: Revelation and all that, um, it was he was actually
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Speaker 1: not he didn't think marriage was great as in fact,
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Speaker 1: he kind of made fun of Peter who was Mary
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Speaker 1: and thought he was a lesser. What that's a whole
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Speaker 1: different conversation. I'm sure people are at Melia. That's not true.
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Speaker 1: It's true they had each other. He tried to kill
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Speaker 1: them until he converted. Just as a reminder, it's been
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Speaker 1: a lot of times since I read the Bible, so
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Speaker 1: remember all these But all of this again comes back
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Speaker 1: to like this whole level, like this is God's intendent purpose.
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Speaker 1: Not no, not really. I mean in the Old Testament
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Speaker 1: that happened, and they had multiple wives, and then they
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Speaker 1: also killed their wives, and also they trapped it into
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Speaker 1: marriage while raping them, So that happened in the Old Testament. Sure, wow, man,
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Speaker 1: really really well, actually this guy, I love it. Um.
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Speaker 1: Our d religious drama episodes are gonna be intense. Oh
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Speaker 1: I have a lot of thoughts. Yes, well, I love
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Speaker 1: it um. And then so the email continues and it
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Speaker 1: has a quote from this survey they got from a EI,
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Speaker 1: which is a conservative survey by the way, it's a yes,
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Speaker 1: a conservative yeah, um. And it says, you know, conservatives
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Speaker 1: Americans who embrace family first values and virtues that steer
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Speaker 1: them towards wedlock marriage have happier, more fulfilling lives. Um.
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Speaker 1: And this is especially true for conservative women, this claims
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Speaker 1: um And here's a quote from the this survey that
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Speaker 1: they cited. The problem facing liberals, then, is that too
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Speaker 1: many of them have embraced the false narrative that the
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Speaker 1: path to happiness runs counter to marriage and family life,
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Speaker 1: not towards it. They think independence, freedom, and work will
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Speaker 1: make them happy, which is why significant portions of the
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Speaker 1: popular media are filled these days with these stories celebrating
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Speaker 1: divorce and single man. You know, the secret to happiness
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Speaker 1: for most men and women involves marriage and a life
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Speaker 1: based around the family. M part, but like, I love
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Speaker 1: that he brings out an article from Bloomberg. Uh, and
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Speaker 1: he's like, in reality, made mothers are richer than the
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Speaker 1: single women. Like, so there's money talked about it in here.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't think you know that means yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 1: and I there's so much in here that I like,
17:07
Speaker 1: oh boy, we could really pick this apart. Um, I
17:10
Speaker 1: really do want to do let's let's talk about this
17:14
Speaker 1: because wow, and we are I'm just going in like
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Speaker 1: in frantic Modeve like, what is wrong with this, dude?
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Speaker 1: This is an email we received just to reiterate, Um.
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Speaker 1: I love that they think independence, freedom and work will
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Speaker 1: make them happy. I'm like, you obviously have not talked
17:32
Speaker 1: to one liberal person because they will tell you, no,
17:35
Speaker 1: we're trying for a four day work week. We would
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Speaker 1: rather not work. We would or if we're working, we
17:39
Speaker 1: want to do something that we love and that's hard
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Speaker 1: to find because there's so many little opportunities for women
17:44
Speaker 1: and that's why we're unhappy with our job. Yeah, which
17:47
Speaker 1: we talked about kind of that issue before about women
17:50
Speaker 1: going to the office and then you're still facing like
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Speaker 1: all of the sexes. So it's not like it went
17:54
Speaker 1: away and we could go to work and that Like
17:57
Speaker 1: that first wave of finism was really revolving around getting
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Speaker 1: women white women, specifically equal pay, and we still don't
18:04
Speaker 1: have that. So of course, like we're still frustrated, right,
18:07
Speaker 1: and we still a little have equity when it comes
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Speaker 1: to getting any type of rights in general, and there's
18:11
Speaker 1: still be uh discriminated against for wanting children in the
18:15
Speaker 1: first place, which, by the way, that's the roadblock and
18:17
Speaker 1: wanting children room. Yes, oh my gosh, yes, so much
18:23
Speaker 1: so much stuff. And then it continues. This guy, who
18:26
Speaker 1: is a student of history, says, the downfall of our
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Speaker 1: happiness began when the communist platform of Karl Marx and
18:32
Speaker 1: the feminist revolution started attacking traditional family and capitalism. Oh gosh,
18:38
Speaker 1: here's a quote from from him directly. The specter of
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Speaker 1: communism and all of its forms always seeks to disrupt
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Speaker 1: the nuclear family. This holds true from the Communist Manifesto
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Speaker 1: to the Thirteen Principles of Black Lives Matter, which both
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Speaker 1: blatantly seek to disrupt and abolish the Western prescribed nuclear family.
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Speaker 1: What's the first step? Destroy the head of the nuclear family?
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Speaker 1: The husband, dan father are mental? Fragile? Does feel pretty man? Oh?
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Speaker 1: Poor man? And of course the term Western prescribed We
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Speaker 1: know what that is again, supremacy. We're here, hey, yes,
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Speaker 1: And he goes on. Carl Marx hated the traditional family,
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Speaker 1: writing proudly abolition of the family. On what foundation is
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Speaker 1: the present family? The bourgeoisie family based on capital, on
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Speaker 1: private gain, and it's completely developed form. This family exists
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Speaker 1: only among the bourgeoisie. This bourgeoisie family will vanish as
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Speaker 1: a matter of course, when it's compliment vanishes and both
19:39
Speaker 1: will vanish with the vanishing of capital. Oh, it's kind
19:47
Speaker 1: of like a huh oh and speaking of oh my gosh,
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Speaker 1: Like that's just the word private gain. I'm like, is
19:55
Speaker 1: that offensive to you that you don't like being told that, yeah,
19:57
Speaker 1: you're doing this for your own game? Yeah, it doesn't
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Speaker 1: like it. I love this part um. He quotes the
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Speaker 1: forty five goals of communism as written into the Congressional
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Speaker 1: Record of ninety include swee bullet points, discredit the family
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Speaker 1: as an institution, encourage promiscuity and easy divorce, emphasize the
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Speaker 1: need to raise children away from the negative influence of parents.
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Speaker 1: A tribute prejudices, mental blocks, and a word I'm not
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Speaker 1: gonna save children to suppressive influence of parents. So it's
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Speaker 1: like blaming the parents, I guess. And women, I mean
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Speaker 1: it's not said, but implied women be promiscuous and they
20:37
Speaker 1: can get divorced. So also, this is obviously the last
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Speaker 1: the attribute to prejudice and mental blocks. This is about
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Speaker 1: a critical race theory, like that's which is not introduced.
20:47
Speaker 1: You set up in high school, middle schools, elemented schools,
20:51
Speaker 1: so that is not a thing. This is why Texas
20:53
Speaker 1: still thinks that they can never mind. Sorry, Texas, we
20:57
Speaker 1: love you. But I was told by a person growing
21:02
Speaker 1: up there, like we didn't have American history. We only
21:05
Speaker 1: had Texas history. I've been I've heard that too. She act, yeah,
21:10
Speaker 1: she was tamn. She was like, I didn't know, like
21:12
Speaker 1: when we were in college talking about any of the things.
21:15
Speaker 1: I don't think it was anything big, like I'm trying
21:19
Speaker 1: to think of like Black Wall Street. I learned about
21:21
Speaker 1: it in college, but it was like a very blip.
21:24
Speaker 1: I don't think that was even the conversation like things
21:26
Speaker 1: like that. We didn't even talk about the Skeegee nothing.
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Speaker 1: It was something like, yeah, this is the United States
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Speaker 1: and this is what happened. She was like, Oh, I
21:32
Speaker 1: don't know that because we didn't teach us anything out
21:35
Speaker 1: of Texas history. Y'all those who are in Texas, is
21:38
Speaker 1: that's still a thing that we also who grew up
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Speaker 1: in Texas. Is that the order they are they doing
21:42
Speaker 1: in American history? But she was very baffled. Yeah, please
21:47
Speaker 1: right in, please right in. Um. There's certainly like a
21:50
Speaker 1: lot of ableism going on here, obviously, obviously, UM and
21:56
Speaker 1: I love it. It It feels very defensive. Again, it feels
21:58
Speaker 1: very much like they're blaming the parab the poems. And
22:14
Speaker 1: then to wrap up at the end, is this like
22:17
Speaker 1: list of questions we could ask for his credit. It's
22:22
Speaker 1: kind of nice to see, like, all right, you help
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Speaker 1: do the work. This makes it easy, which is what
22:27
Speaker 1: he knows. Alright, so here are here's what he knows.
22:33
Speaker 1: We could ask how did the modern welfare state marginalized
22:36
Speaker 1: men and make single motherhood attractive? How has the feminist
22:40
Speaker 1: movement made promises it could never keep. How has vilifying
22:43
Speaker 1: men and babies impacted our world? Why are conservative women
22:48
Speaker 1: in traditional marriages on average happier? What does masculinity have
22:52
Speaker 1: to do with solving this problem? What fallout has the
22:56
Speaker 1: absence of fathers created in our society? Why is the
23:00
Speaker 1: black community a model that the Democrat Party would like
23:03
Speaker 1: to repeat with all people groups. Why are traditional gender
23:07
Speaker 1: roles and traditional marriage so outrageous to the left? What
23:10
Speaker 1: is a man's role in resolving this societal problem? His
23:15
Speaker 1: penis I know, I mean, we're making fun. This is
23:20
Speaker 1: also offensive, but it's also like, oh, silly, thank you
23:25
Speaker 1: for this email, dude, because now I know not only
23:27
Speaker 1: are you a misogynist, not only are you says you
23:30
Speaker 1: were absolutely racist enable. So everything about you, which, by
23:36
Speaker 1: the way, this dude got like a really serious injury.
23:39
Speaker 1: So bro, you should understand about disabilities just a little bit,
23:43
Speaker 1: but you can't stop yourself and that's why you sell
23:46
Speaker 1: yourself as an as. Yeah. Oh yeah, I mean again,
23:52
Speaker 1: I almost thought this was a joke when I got
23:54
Speaker 1: this email. I was like, surely not the vilifying babies
23:58
Speaker 1: that is. I'm mean, some babies are evil, that's what
24:04
Speaker 1: tell me. That's what I see. But no, like, I
24:07
Speaker 1: honestly as one of those who actually worked to try
24:10
Speaker 1: to what he would say, to save a traditional family
24:13
Speaker 1: because I worked in suburban areas, small rural Georgia areas,
24:18
Speaker 1: which is predominantly made up of literally like low income
24:21
Speaker 1: white families, and those are the families that I worked with,
24:24
Speaker 1: and I'm telling you what, I got some really fun,
24:26
Speaker 1: amazing reactions from them. I was trying to save them.
24:30
Speaker 1: I was trying to sure to help them, I will
24:32
Speaker 1: say that, but you know what, they have no help
24:33
Speaker 1: from those who seek to tell them that they need
24:35
Speaker 1: to do better, and also who seek to tell them
24:37
Speaker 1: that it's not their fault. Is obviously the black community
24:41
Speaker 1: who's becoming the role model of the Democratic Party, which man,
24:44
Speaker 1: I really wish if you could follow suit to all
24:48
Speaker 1: the black women who have created such an amazing route
24:53
Speaker 1: and path for us, that would be phenomenal. That's part
24:56
Speaker 1: of the problem. We're not actually following that model, right right, Yeah,
25:01
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that's why I'm unhappy. Like I said,
25:04
Speaker 1: we have a lot of reason to be unhappy. I
25:06
Speaker 1: think he's missing that point. That's like one of the
25:08
Speaker 1: key points. I also love that he's talking about all
25:11
Speaker 1: these things that have been literal roadblocks that the Republican
25:15
Speaker 1: Party uses, and or the Conservative Party, the families First
25:20
Speaker 1: party um as they would like to think themselves because
25:23
Speaker 1: they don't really care about other families, just their family, um.
25:27
Speaker 1: But they are the reason why these roadblocks are happening.
25:33
Speaker 1: The movement made promises it could never keep because you're
25:36
Speaker 1: roadblocking everything right exactly exactly, And it's also one of
25:43
Speaker 1: those things are clearly like, as a white man, I'm
25:47
Speaker 1: sure you felt very happy and comfortable like and surely everyone,
25:53
Speaker 1: like everyone in my life, this is their best time
25:56
Speaker 1: right too. And if it's not, it's because of feminism
26:00
Speaker 1: um or the black like whatever it is. Um. He's
26:05
Speaker 1: just very clearly focused on himself and his own world
26:09
Speaker 1: views and has not even thought to think beyond that. Yes. Again, also,
26:15
Speaker 1: they're so out of touch that they sent us a request.
26:19
Speaker 1: That's how little they're aware of their surroundings and how
26:21
Speaker 1: they little they care about who they're talking I thought
26:25
Speaker 1: about that too. I was like, this is you're kind
26:27
Speaker 1: of by sending this to us, you're proving exactly what
26:31
Speaker 1: we're talking right. Yeah, it's kind of like, oh yeah, sure,
26:38
Speaker 1: these ladies they love to talk about they'd love to
26:40
Speaker 1: talk to me about this essentially like oh women, mom, yeah,
26:44
Speaker 1: got him there in let's do those the lack of
26:48
Speaker 1: self awareness, I love it. Yes, um yeah, I mean
26:54
Speaker 1: we could, like you said, we could pick part every
26:56
Speaker 1: line of this. We won't, but like again, we I
27:01
Speaker 1: know we've talked about this before, but just to like
27:04
Speaker 1: wrap up, this is really funny and it's fun to imagine,
27:08
Speaker 1: like you or I have so much power and finism
27:11
Speaker 1: has so much power that he's like it's ruining society
27:15
Speaker 1: trying we're trying to credit. I know you're giving us
27:19
Speaker 1: so much credit to be honest, like we've done a
27:21
Speaker 1: lot um, but it's always funny to hear these where
27:24
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's whatever the conservatives will take, like we're
27:29
Speaker 1: trying to ruin society. They don't take this run with it.
27:33
Speaker 1: I can't wait. But also, and also coming back to
27:35
Speaker 1: like part of our conversations, we're not ragging on motherhood
27:40
Speaker 1: or family a life, because that's beautiful when it's done
27:43
Speaker 1: correctly and when you are happy and it is all equal,
27:47
Speaker 1: it is a gorgeous thing. Say, and that's what you
27:49
Speaker 1: love if you love being a stay at home mom
27:51
Speaker 1: taking care of your house, and have it this agreement
27:54
Speaker 1: that you have fully communicated, wonderful that I am so
27:58
Speaker 1: excited for that. But that's the whole is that we
28:01
Speaker 1: want to be able to have the choice to live
28:02
Speaker 1: the life that we choose, yes, point blank exactly, and
28:06
Speaker 1: having the freedom to do so, and being happy to
28:07
Speaker 1: do so without harming others exactly exactly. So yeah, I mean,
28:12
Speaker 1: this was quite a funny thing to pick through, but
28:16
Speaker 1: it is still very frightening and toxic that people believe this.
28:20
Speaker 1: So I hope you had a good laugh, like I
28:24
Speaker 1: said at the top, but it's like infuriating and funny
28:29
Speaker 1: cringe pause, funny question mark. I had to read it
28:34
Speaker 1: like three times before I was like, oh my gosh,
28:36
Speaker 1: I guess this is real. Um okay, but yeah, listeners.
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