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Happy Hour #99: A SMNTY Year End Check-In · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and don't welcome to
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  Speaker 1: stephone never told your production of I Heart Radio. And
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  Speaker 1: welcome to another edition of Happy Hour. And we are
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  Speaker 1: kind of just wrapping things up this year. I know
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  Speaker 1: it's not at the end of the year yet. Uh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm bracing myself for some reason. So I want to
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  Speaker 1: go ahead and pretend like we're in the year with
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  Speaker 1: with Hope, with Hope, Okay, saying I'm just saying, but first, yes,
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  Speaker 1: this is a Happy Hour. If we speak about drinks
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  Speaker 1: or products, we are not necessarily sponsored by them at
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  Speaker 1: this moment. You never know, it might happen later down
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  Speaker 1: the road. Um, if you are drinking or whatever you're doing,
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  Speaker 1: do it responsibly, you know, adult that thing, whatever that is.
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  Speaker 1: When there's caffeine, which apparently I've had too much of
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  Speaker 1: today as you and I have and talking and I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm I'm ready apparently, or you know, if you are
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  Speaker 1: doing some adult beverages, be mindful right now speaking of
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  Speaker 1: what what you've sippen on, I am continuing in my
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  Speaker 1: boxed red wine and the tumbler that you gave me.
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  Speaker 1: I have had a hectic couple of days so I
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  Speaker 1: mean weeks and months a year, but these past few
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  Speaker 1: days definitely. So I was kind of like the quirkers
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  Speaker 1: think I couldn't get that's fair, that's fair. You have
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  Speaker 1: been stretching yourself. Then on this this one, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: what's happening? Because I'm nonchalantly in my corner, just doing
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  Speaker 1: my thing. I'm like, oh cool, I still and wearing
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  Speaker 1: my ones onesie type of comfy. I'm fine with it.
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  Speaker 1: Everything's fine. Yeah, so I thought today because actually I'm
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  Speaker 1: not drinking. I'm still the till in of whatever I
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  Speaker 1: had and still kind of making me dizzy and lightheaded,
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  Speaker 1: so I don't I'm not drinking anything specific to like alcohol.
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  Speaker 1: I did have a cup of coffee this morning, and
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  Speaker 1: right now I'm just sipping on bubbly water because you know,
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  Speaker 1: I love some good bubbly water. Um. But yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: was just thinking about everything we have gone through and
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  Speaker 1: the fact that I can't tell like time, as in
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  Speaker 1: like the year when it began, what events happened. When
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  Speaker 1: every time I do research and I'm trying to find
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  Speaker 1: the recent articles, I'm like, wait, that happened. I really
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  Speaker 1: thought it happened three months ago, you know, I'm kind
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  Speaker 1: of all over the place, so I will preface I
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  Speaker 1: don't exactly know all the time frames that we're going
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  Speaker 1: to talk about, but I do want to just kind
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  Speaker 1: of revisit the past and just and talk through some
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  Speaker 1: of our expectations, not resolutions, but expectations. Right. So, any
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  Speaker 1: what is something that is the most memorable that has
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  Speaker 1: happened to you this year of two? Okay? Yeah, putting
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  Speaker 1: you higher on the spot. So, like we usually have
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  Speaker 1: outlines and I usually will prep her if I have questions,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, nah, I do this off the fly. I
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  Speaker 1: want I want it off off top of your head.
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  Speaker 1: You want it to be real? Okay, Um, I would
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  Speaker 1: say the very I have a couple of answers to it.
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  Speaker 1: There's one that Samantha and I've been hinting after that
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  Speaker 1: we still can't really talk about. But we did go
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  Speaker 1: through a thing and accomplished this thing this year that
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty proud of. I have, I have like mixed
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  Speaker 1: emotions about it, but I'm pretty proud of it. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: And I promise I'm not trying to be like super mysterious.
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  Speaker 1: We will tell you, and I bet some of you
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  Speaker 1: have already guests it's not like, but it's not a
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  Speaker 1: big that thing. I would say, Um, I've had some
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  Speaker 1: major strides and in growth in like terms of like
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  Speaker 1: my family and myself. I had a very funny conversation
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  Speaker 1: with the lift driver where I was like, Okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I still have some issues, um, but now I know
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  Speaker 1: what they are. My my funny answer would be, honestly,
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  Speaker 1: it was a big deal when I went to Dragon
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  Speaker 1: Con and I went to to Sco Luke and I
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  Speaker 1: had the time of my life. And it has been
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  Speaker 1: such a hard adjusting time. It sucks because we're still
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  Speaker 1: in co COVID's not done, we're seeing this sort is
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  Speaker 1: still there. But that was one of the first times
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  Speaker 1: I had gone out and kind of felt like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I remember doing this, and I remember loving this, and
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  Speaker 1: I remember So that was a really it sounds really silly,
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  Speaker 1: but that was kind of a big one for me.
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  Speaker 1: It's you You've been working on that costume for a
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  Speaker 1: minute too. Yes, so that's that's something. Um, Okay, this
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  Speaker 1: is a this is a toughie one and I'm sorry
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  Speaker 1: in advance. Is there a regret that you have from
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  Speaker 1: two and if you so, what is it? Well? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: first of all. Is it this just me answering all
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  Speaker 1: these questions? Oh yeah, yeah, I'll go back. I'll come
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  Speaker 1: back to me. Okay, say, I think my biggest regret
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  Speaker 1: is twenty two is my favorite number. I'm a big
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  Speaker 1: numbers person. I've talked about before. I'm a big like
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  Speaker 1: traditions person in I put a lot of significance and
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  Speaker 1: things where maybe it shouldn't be. But when this this
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  Speaker 1: year started, because it's my favorite number, I had high
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  Speaker 1: ups so oh, this will be the year where I
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  Speaker 1: actually do the thing I wanted to do in which
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  Speaker 1: is take better care of myself. And I didn't do
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  Speaker 1: it at all. And I think things actually got worse
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  Speaker 1: in some ways. I had strides as I said in
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  Speaker 1: the last answer I gave where I was like, oh okay,
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  Speaker 1: I really recognized this behavior now, and I think that's good.
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  Speaker 1: I guess it was. It was just kind of I
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  Speaker 1: regret that I so easily was like, I give it
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  Speaker 1: up on this. I'll deal with it next year. We'll
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  Speaker 1: see the positive spin. Okay. So I was gonna say,
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  Speaker 1: do you have a lesson that you have learned this
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  Speaker 1: year that you do want to carry for that you
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  Speaker 1: will carry? Well? One you have been hearing a little
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  Speaker 1: bit about and I cannot wait to tell you more
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  Speaker 1: about is ask more questions of more details before you
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  Speaker 1: agree to something. Um, I would say, like going back
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  Speaker 1: to my kind of realization about me being a people pleaser.
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  Speaker 1: It's just it's like I can't not unsee it now. UM.
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  Speaker 1: So I think I'm hopeful because I really did have
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  Speaker 1: a comical after that episode came out listeners, a comical
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  Speaker 1: example of it happening. Maybe I'll do like a cash
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  Speaker 1: up because it was very funny. Um where it's like,
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  Speaker 1: I know this is a behavior that I have and
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  Speaker 1: I'm still doing it and here I am, and how
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  Speaker 1: did I get here? I keep doing this? So I'm
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  Speaker 1: hoping that now that I've had this moment I've talked about,
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  Speaker 1: we've done this episode, that I will take that information
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  Speaker 1: into love it lessons learned. It's it's just because you
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  Speaker 1: learn a lesson or you find something specific, it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean you're always going to do that. You can always
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  Speaker 1: fall back and then you have to pick back up.
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  Speaker 1: It's a thing that's life. Um. And this is a
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  Speaker 1: simple one. Well, I think it's a simple one. Is
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  Speaker 1: there something that you have created, whether it is a
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  Speaker 1: beverage of food or something that you are the most
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  Speaker 1: proud of this year. Okay, this girl look yeah, at
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  Speaker 1: the top of that list. Aside from that, Aside from
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  Speaker 1: this other mysterious thing I can't talk about. I will say, um,
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  Speaker 1: not to get to like sentimental, but I've been really
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  Speaker 1: proud of the work we've done on this show, Samantha.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's been hard. It's been hard for everybody,
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  Speaker 1: and sometimes it is difficult, but I feel like we've
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  Speaker 1: we've made a lot of content that I'm proud of. Um.
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  Speaker 1: I'm really proud of the fiction stuff, and I'm really
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  Speaker 1: proud of what Christina is doing on it. Um. And
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  Speaker 1: then I UM proud of a fan fiction I wrote
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  Speaker 1: that I'm actually going to publish. Yes, I'm very excited.
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  Speaker 1: I love that. I'm excited for that. Thank You have
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  Speaker 1: the whole plan like I do. I have a schedule
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  Speaker 1: of realistic ideal of what you're going to do, and
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  Speaker 1: I love it. I love that for you. Okay, So
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  Speaker 1: what is one goal or something that you want for
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  Speaker 1: I think I want to I want to be more
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  Speaker 1: mindful about how I treat my body and the things
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  Speaker 1: that I do with my time, because I think that's
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  Speaker 1: part of people pleasing is your time is not important
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  Speaker 1: to you, or somebody else's time is more important to
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  Speaker 1: you than yours is. So I want to be mindful
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  Speaker 1: about that. That That doesn't mean I won't do those things,
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  Speaker 1: but I just want to be more mindful of it.
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  Speaker 1: And then, um, I am again the pandemic is still
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  Speaker 1: a real thing, but I am trying to like re
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  Speaker 1: establish friendships more like hang out more to those things
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  Speaker 1: more that kind of coming out of my shell, I suppose.
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  Speaker 1: So that's that's something on my mind. So if you
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  Speaker 1: could go back to the beginning of this year, what
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  Speaker 1: would you either tell yourself or warn yourself or just
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  Speaker 1: give yourself a munch or what would you have told
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  Speaker 1: your January? Oh, I would have said, I guess not
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  Speaker 1: to put too much pressure on, Like I feel like
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  Speaker 1: this is that New Year's thing in general, but don't
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  Speaker 1: put too much pressure on this is a year. This
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  Speaker 1: is it because it is. And then I think that
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  Speaker 1: kind of contributes to I won't say failure, but to
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  Speaker 1: the not to the year not going as you plan early. Right, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm giving very trite answers, but yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you know, at least a very broad questions. They're not
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  Speaker 1: surprised you with that, so I think those answers are perfect.
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  Speaker 1: As for myself and all of those regards, I think
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  Speaker 1: some of the biggest memories is this project that you
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  Speaker 1: and I have done, and the meltdowns that I've had
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  Speaker 1: throughout and just feeling like it's over and I will
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  Speaker 1: still be anxious until it's really really over and we
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  Speaker 1: can tell everybody and then we go do our thing
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  Speaker 1: and then come back. That was definitely a big part
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  Speaker 1: of this year, buying a house. It was a huge
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  Speaker 1: step um and something that I thought I could never
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  Speaker 1: do when I was a social worker making literally thirty
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  Speaker 1: two thirty six thousand a year that wasn't feasible. Living
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  Speaker 1: in Atlanta wasn't feasible, and I was working like sixty
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  Speaker 1: hour weeks um. So for me to be here, to
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  Speaker 1: finally be able to be stable, it has been a
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  Speaker 1: huge accomplishment to me, and I feel very grateful for that.
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  Speaker 1: So those two are like two big moments for me.
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  Speaker 1: I regret um, you know, the biggest regrets I have
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  Speaker 1: is the fact that when I have an anxiety breakdown
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  Speaker 1: and I know I can't control it, but looking when
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  Speaker 1: you look back on it, you're like, why it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: it was You didn't have to put yourself through that,
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  Speaker 1: you didn't have to lose your sleep over that. But
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  Speaker 1: you know, of course that's not piling off like why
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  Speaker 1: did I do that? Which brings you another anxiety attack
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  Speaker 1: whatever whatnot, but but knowing that actually things do work
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  Speaker 1: out and it is okay, We're gonna be okay. And
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  Speaker 1: I've had two specific episodes of like, oh and just
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  Speaker 1: putting myself to bed because I felt so overwhelmed, um,
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  Speaker 1: and looking back on it, being like, I'm glad I
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  Speaker 1: was able to have the support group that I have,
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  Speaker 1: but I wish I didn't have to go through things
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  Speaker 1: like that because of just my anxiety of like mental
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  Speaker 1: health stuff, you know. And I'm not saying that is
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  Speaker 1: a regret because of it. It's just more of like
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  Speaker 1: a we're like just going through it, coming back to it,
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  Speaker 1: and you're like, man, that was unnecessary kind of moments.
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  Speaker 1: I guess, Um, what I hope for, I mean, continue
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  Speaker 1: growth as we keep uh plodding through. I'm really excited
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  Speaker 1: about what our show looks. It's gonna look like, Um,
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  Speaker 1: I don't nothing's gonna change necessarily, but hopefully we'll have
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  Speaker 1: a lot of in depth content that you know, you
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  Speaker 1: the listener will be able to relate to more listener participation,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's you guys emailing us, deeming us, or you know,
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  Speaker 1: letting us being a part of the show. And we
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  Speaker 1: still want to do more of that, UM, And we
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  Speaker 1: love the interaction obviously, so I'm really looking forward to that. Uh,
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  Speaker 1: still looking forward to what we do to my house,
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  Speaker 1: to our house, Like we have plans for a garden
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  Speaker 1: and all that. We'll see if we can make it through,
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  Speaker 1: because we just have vines, y'all. I think what I
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  Speaker 1: would say to my uh January twenty tweety two self
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  Speaker 1: would be a lot of things are going to happen.
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  Speaker 1: Buckle up. That's a good run. I guess we could
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  Speaker 1: say that for any year. But I feel like we
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  Speaker 1: went through because January twenty we need to. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know I was going to buy a house. That was
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  Speaker 1: not a plan um eventually but not necessarily, and then
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  Speaker 1: it kind of just WorldWind because of the way rent
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  Speaker 1: was going that it made the most sense, um, and
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  Speaker 1: we got it right under the It's not a crash,
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  Speaker 1: but the interest rates going skyrocketing and all the homes
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  Speaker 1: being held hostage essentially by big corporations. Um. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like there's a lot of things, and then how the
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  Speaker 1: world is shaping, our politics are shaping. It's been a
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  Speaker 1: lot this year, and I to be honest, it's been
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  Speaker 1: a lot the last ten years. But it's been a
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  Speaker 1: lot um and I think bracing for the unexpected it's
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  Speaker 1: probably smart, but not necessarily in a bad bad way.
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  Speaker 1: Not putting yourself through the wringer and being anxious all
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  Speaker 1: the time, which still I still have to have get
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  Speaker 1: a handle on the anxiety. But yeah, I think that
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  Speaker 1: those were the things. And yeah, like you said, like
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  Speaker 1: next year, we don't want to put any huge expectations
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  Speaker 1: setting us up to fail, because that's exactly what happens
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  Speaker 1: when you play something so high, but we want to
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  Speaker 1: manifest the good, uh, the learning and the moving forward
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  Speaker 1: right Yeah. Yeah, And that's one of the beautiful things
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  Speaker 1: they think about my experience and I hopefully your experience.
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  Speaker 1: I believe your experience on this show has been like
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  Speaker 1: we have seen that through hearing from you listeners, and
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  Speaker 1: through what we do and what we're able to do,
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  Speaker 1: who we're able to talk to and we're hoping to
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  Speaker 1: grow that. There have been some huge setbacks this year
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  Speaker 1: that we've had episodes about. Obviously we're being much more personal,
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  Speaker 1: but things like ROPI Wade being reverse like there's been
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  Speaker 1: a lot of regrets in that kind of arena. But um,
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  Speaker 1: the continued growth and learning and learning about all of
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  Speaker 1: these things from from you all and then learning more
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  Speaker 1: about how to be mindful of ourselves and how to
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  Speaker 1: pass that on, it's just hugely in portant. I think, right,
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  Speaker 1: and um, we're excited. We I would love to hear
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  Speaker 1: from you more. Let us know what you think we're
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: we should be doing if we haven't gotten to your suggestions. No,
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  Speaker 1: we hear you what is coming. But there's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of things that happens as you know, that we try
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  Speaker 1: to keep up with as well. Um, breathe, take a
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  Speaker 1: deep breath. You know that today is just the day
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  Speaker 1: and you can take the time to just sit back
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  Speaker 1: and be quiet and be you. Yeah, put on your
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  Speaker 1: disco luke outfit and go brighten up the world. I say,
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  Speaker 1: I think we need to get you a routine. I'm
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: going to get you a routine for this. Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna I'm gonna choreograph a routine for you.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna have the light. Sabor has to come in
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  Speaker 1: at the end. Oh yeah, oh yeah, obviously, obviously. Oh aweso.
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited for the last of us. Oh yeah, Samantha
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  Speaker 1: knows I've been annoying about it, but I'm so excited.
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  Speaker 1: Oh well, listeners, we would love to hear from you
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  Speaker 1: what you're excited about, your regrets, your hopes, what you
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  Speaker 1: want from the show, because we do value your input
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  Speaker 1: so much and sometimes it's just so fun to hear
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  Speaker 1: from like your opinions about whatever thing we're talking about
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  Speaker 1: is It's fun. So please talk to us. Yes, cheers
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  Speaker 1: to you, Samantha, cheers. I love working with you. I
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