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Making 2026 the best year yet- my top 5 tips that actually work · SAY GRACE | Weight Loss + Health for Overwhelmed Women- Stress, Busy, Consistency, Realistic, Motivation, Starting Over, No Restrictions

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  And just like that, y'all, we are headed into the new year.
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  This time of year brings a lot of goals and a lot of promises.
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  And while they're exciting and fun, I want to make sure that this year,
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  those promises aren't going to be feeling empty by the time,
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  let's say, March rolls around.
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  So on today's episode of Say Grace, I'm sharing my top five tips to make sure
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  that you actually achieve your health goals that you set this year,
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  making 2026 the best year yet.
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  All right, y'all, happy almost new year. We are here. Can you believe it? I mean, I can't.
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  I can and I can't.
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  But I will say I'm headed into the new year with a little bit of a different
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  perspective than I have over, you know, the past several years.
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  Y'all know me. I'm always, I'm so like all about the realistic mindset and,
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  you know, taking it easy and, you know, making sure that the goals that you
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  set are actually attainable.
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  And while I definitely still believe that to be the hard truth,
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  I also have seen for myself
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  how much tremendous growth
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  I have had in just a year like tremendous like
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  I do not think in all my 38 years
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  I have grown over one year the way that I did in 2025 and so it's so and that
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  should be like exciting and inspiring for you because what happened for me was
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  I found passion in something that I really,
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  really like felt deeply about.
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  And so I just pursued it every single day. You know what I mean?
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  Like I just pursued it every single day.
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  And I think that can happen for anybody.
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  But what happens for a lot of us is we hear all the noise. We get distracted
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  by all the different which ways we could, should, would achieve our goal.
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  We get distracted by our own negative mindset, right, telling us we can't do
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  it or, oh, we failed or, oh, this, oh, that, you know,
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  and or we just like intentionally or unintentionally let it go by the wayside
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  because we claim we're too busy or we're too stressed or we've got too much going on or whatever.
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  And so I just want to make sure that.
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  This year, if you do have big goals and you do want to see your health,
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  whether that be weight loss, your mental health, your anxiety, your stress level.
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  You know, your eating habits, like if you want to eat better quality foods this
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  year, like whatever it is, right?
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  I want to make sure that you are well equipped and well prepared before you
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  just jump off in the deep end, right?
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  Because we know what happens when we jump off in the deep end.
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  If we go all in without any foundations, without any like sense about ourselves,
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  that's when we usually fail.
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  That's when we usually revert back to our old ways and tell ourselves,
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  you know, this isn't for me. I can't do this. I'm too busy.
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  Whatever it is, right? We find the excuse, right? And so I just want to make
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  sure as we head into 2026, I want you to reach for the stars, right?
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  Like I want you to set out to do and be whoever it is you want to be in 2026.
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  But I do want to make sure that you, like I said, are equipped or have the full
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  picture, you know, are really prepared for how to actually make that happen.
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  So that 2026 isn't just you wishing, you know, wishing and whining,
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  which is what a lot of us do.
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  We sit out here wishing and whining and expect somebody to snap their fingers, right?
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  And so that is what today is going to be about. So I'm going to just run through
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  my top five tips. These are five things that.
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  I use a lot with my clients, you know, I talk through this, these top things
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  with my PFM plus clients as they come up.
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  We talk about it a lot in our main membership.
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  And these are things that have really, really, really helped me,
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  okay, to not set a goal that never gets accomplished.
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  And so my first, the first tip that I have for you is to get over last year.
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  Okay, so meaning get over 2025. You may have tried to lose weight in 2025.
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  You may have tried to eat healthier foods in 2025.
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  You may have tried to exercise in 2025. But guess what? That was 2025.
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  Okay. And that was not only 2025. That was, you know, April 12th of 2025 or
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  June, you know, 15th of 2025.
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  That ain't January January 1st of 2026, okay, or December 30th of 2025, right?
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  So you have got to get over that, y'all. We spend so much time,
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  oh, it makes me so mad, but we spend so much time dwelling in
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  in the failures of the past or the barriers of the past or, you know,
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  whatever it is that we are absolutely
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  freaking wasting time for current present day for right now. Okay.
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  Dwelling does not help. Dwelling does not get you any closer to your goal.
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  So yeah, y'all, me and And everybody listening, probably, we had some hurdles in 2025, right?
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  Like things came up in 2025, okay?
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  For me in 2024, I was sick nonstop. And I did.
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  I allowed that sickness sometimes to be an excuse for why I couldn't do X,
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  Y, or Z, right? And rightfully so.
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  Like when you're sick all the time, you really don't need to be out there running
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  your tail off, wearing your body out even more, right?
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  But then it was also, so sometimes we can justify it, but sometimes we are just
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  trying to justify it, right?
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  And so I really want you to think about this and think about what maybe came up.
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  Last year and how you maybe used that as an excuse and how you may even be using
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  it as an excuse right this minute for why you can't try again or can't,
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  you know, do X, Y, Z or whatever.
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  Okay. And so I have a really, I have a good example for this.
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  So exercise. Exercise is a big one, right?
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  A lot of my ladies who are wanting to eat right and lose weight,
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  they're also wanting to pick up an exercise routine. And like,
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  and we're going to get to this, we're going to get to this here in a little while.
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  But you know, I do believe we've got to look at the big picture and see,
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  can it actually fit in? Right?
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  But if it can, sometimes we find ourselves falling off the wagon.
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  And this for me always happens in the winter. Okay?
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  Like I see myself working out less in the winter because I like to walk outside.
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  And so am I this winter going to say, well, every winter, every time winter
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  comes, it's so cold out there, I can't get out there and walk.
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  So I'm just not going to be able to exercise in the winter. Like, is that my mentality?
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  Because that would be me not getting over past frustrations and past struggles
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  and really painting it as a justified excuse, okay?
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  Or could I flip this, okay? Could I flip this?
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  And yes, we have to acknowledge what caused us to struggle in the past.
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  So could I flip? It's actually really great to do that, right?
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  It's really, really great to acknowledge what you've done in the past that did or did not work.
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  So could I say, okay, I know, I know winter's coming, okay?
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  And here in Mississippi, it's winter or summer every other day.
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  I don't know. Yesterday, it was 70. Today, it's like 40. I do not know.
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  But I know winter is coming, that hard winter. For us, January and February
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  is usually pretty cold every single day.
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  And so I know it's coming. And so am I just going to accept that I'm not going
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  to walk? Am I not going to work out as much?
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  Or can I come up with a game plan for how to offset that? Because I know it's coming, right?
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  And so that leads into my second tip, which is being honest with yourself.
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  Okay, looking at your behavior and how that behavior has affected your results.
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  Okay, so if I'm looking back in the winter, it's also, you know,
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  legging season and like, you know, sweatshirt season.
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  And so then I typically look up in March and I'm like, well,
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  I've gained a few pounds, right? This is hypothetical.
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  Like, but I've gained a few pounds because, you know, why? Why?
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  I don't know why. You know, that's my mentality. But is it because...
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  I avoided my walking and I made an excuse for why.
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  And so that sucks. That sucks to say, like that sucks to say,
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  oh my gosh, gained a few pounds and I know exactly why.
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  But it's actually the best way to be free in your weight loss, right?
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  If you can be honest with yourself without like shaming yourself and beating
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  yourself, but you can be honest and say, okay, I know where these three pounds
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  came from or whatever you may be.
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  You know, this is a prime example. Okay, we just came off of Christmas.
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  Y'all, I ate over, like literally probably last week, I guess for seven days,
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  around seven days before and after Christmas, I ate so much.
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  Like I was so hungry and as a pregnant human being.
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  And then also the food that was available was like higher calorie food than I usually eat.
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  And I legit did gain three pounds. Yeah.
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  Three pounds, I'm probably not getting back, you know, because I'm pregnant and steadily gaining.
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  And so, but, you know, I can't just, I cannot just say, oh, it's because I'm pregnant.
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  Yeah, I'm sure that had a lot to do with it, you know, but also it's because
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  I said, oh my God, I'm going to eat another piece of fudge because it looks so good.
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  And oh my God, I'm going to go back for seconds of that, you know,
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  mac and cheese or whatever, because we never get that.
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  Like, you know, that was also part of it, right?
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  And so it still doesn't make it any better.
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  Like, I don't feel any better about it or whatever. But the fact that I can
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  just be honest with that and look at that behavior and say, okay,
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  this is why my results are not the way I want them to be, okay?
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  And so I encourage you to do that, like, over the past month,
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  but even over the past year, Right.
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  Like a lot of us are reflecting back on January 2025 when we set out to lose
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  all this weight or when we set out to do X, Y, Z.
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  And like some of us may be a little frustrated because we didn't it didn't happen
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  the way we had hoped it would happen. Right.
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  And so instead of just sitting in the sadness and the frustration about that,
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  can you really like be honest with yourself and get clear on maybe why that didn't happen for you?
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  You know, and if you can't, like if you're so, like, I hate to use the word
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  clueless, but clueless, if you're so clueless about weight loss and how it works
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  and how it happens, then I definitely encourage you to join the program.
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  Like you, you may need a coach to help you see like, okay,
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  this girl is why you done gained 10 pounds, you know, in, you know,
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  a couple months, you know, someone that can help show you the honesty that might
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  need to be revealed about your behavior, right?
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  Because a lot of us get it twisted where we feel like because we're thinking
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  about how we need to lose weight every single day,
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  that somehow translates into actual effort of weight loss. And it doesn't.
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  Okay, it's not the same. Thinking about how you need to lose weight,
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  yet not really staying aware of what you're eating, how much you're eating,
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  how many calories you're consuming, like how you're not moving your body,
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  how you're not drinking any water.
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  Like just because you sat there and thought about how you needed to lose weight,
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  that didn't mean you made any strides today.
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  And a lot of us do that about a lot of different things, right?
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  We're like, oh, I need it for me. It was like, I need to stop having so much
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  anxiety. I need to chill. I need to calm down.
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  I need to de-stress. I need to, and for years, I just thought about it.
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  I just thought about it. And then I would make these like half-ditch efforts,
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  you know, that would show me a little bit of result.
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  But then what? I would go right back to my normal habits and routines.
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  But I was still thinking about it. I was still thinking about that anxiety.
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  And that's what a lot of y'all do. you just think about needing to lose weight
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  instead of putting one foot in front of the other with the behaviors and the
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  habits that you need to have.
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  So I want to encourage you to think about that. Like, I know you feel like weight
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  loss was your focus, but did you just really spend a lot of 20-25 thinking about
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  how you needed to lose weight instead of actually going through the motions that are necessary?
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  Okay, my third tip is to get clear on what you really want.
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  Okay, And so I think this one's really important. Like...
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  Yes, we all, you know, I just said it, we all want to lose weight.
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  Everybody wants their pants to fit loose, y'all.
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  Like we all, that's a victory when our pants fit loose, right?
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  But a lot of times we focus on the outcome without focusing on the effort, okay?
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  And so my challenge to you is to think about what efforts do you really want to put forth, Okay,
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  what efforts do you feel like you can put forth right now, right?
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  Because you can say all day long, I know I need to lose weight and I know to
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  lose weight, I need to eat healthier and I need to move my body more.
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  You can say those things, but do you really want to eat healthier and or do
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  you really want to move your body more?
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  Okay, because you have to get mentally committed to show up for those things.
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  And so there's oftentimes a disconnect between you thinking like,
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  I have to do this or whatever in order to lose weight versus that mental commitment
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  to saying, no, I'm willing to.
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  Not go to Sonic after carpool anymore, right?
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  Or I'm willing to actually track my intake.
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  I'm willing to drink however many ounces of water I need to drink per day.
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  And these are things that you have to be willing and want to do.
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  If you are already starting the new year thinking like, oh, I gotta lose.
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  I gotta do something about myself.
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  People say this to me all the time. I got to do something about my self-confidence.
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  I really need to start watching what I eat, but I just don't want to.
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  Then I'm like, well, you ain't gonna.
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  You know what I mean? Because you've got to be mentally committed to showing up for that. Okay.
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  And so think about what, like, really get clear on this about what do you want to do?
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  Like, what things don't feel like the greatest form of torture right now.
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  And let's start there instead of trying to do all the things that you don't want to do, right?
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  It's okay to not want to do all of the weight loss things. It is okay.
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  It is okay. Like I do not meal prep because I don't want to,
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  like I do not want to y'all.
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  It sucks. And then I'm like something about, especially right now,
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  like the cold reheated food like I don't want to.
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  You know what I mean? And so really, again, it goes back to being honest with
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  yourself to get clear on what you are actually willing to do.
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  And so for some of us, it's going to be real small.
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  We're going to start real, real small. You know, like I am cool with doing,
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  you know, 15 squats a day.
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  Like I want to do that, right? Because I like the way it feels on my thighs and on my glues, okay?
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  Or I want to drink my water in the morning when I wake up because I know that
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  I have more mental clarity and that's about that that like you're not gonna
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  add 50 more things to that to-do list because you may not want to do anything
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  else now I want you to be I want it I want to be clear here.
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  It's not gonna be like I want to do squats on the same level that I want to
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  go to the Bahamas okay But these, so don't be thinking that if you're not jumping
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  up and down, then it must not be for you.
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  It's just a general feeling of like being okay with that habit instead of it,
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  opposite of feeling like it's
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  pulling teeth or absolute torture to do that habit, if that makes sense.
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  Okay, so really, really dig deep and think about that for yourself over the next several days.
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  I mean, and again, it may take some trial and error. You may think you really
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  want to drink that water, but then it may come down to it and you may find yourself
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  gagging every morning and baby, you may need to reassess, you know what I mean?
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  And so it's okay to pivot and change, okay?
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  All right, number four is identify what helps you stay disciplined, okay?
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  What helps you stay on track?
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  And a lot of this goes down to like schedule and timing and you know,
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  for me, it's like if I don't do certain things by early in the morning,
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  they're just not going to get done, you know, because I let the day get ahead of me, right?
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  But also it's things like.
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  Do you notice that if you set like long-term goals, they feel so much further
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  away and you feel more like you can kind of put it off?
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  Like, oh, and that wedding's not till April. So I'm just gonna,
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  you know, I'll start tomorrow. I'll worry about it next week.
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  You know, that kind of thing. So really, like, should you maybe focus on like shorter term goals?
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  Like by Friday, I want to have X, right? Right.
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  If when I reach, you know, three pounds down, I'm going to reward myself with
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  this trip through Starbucks or whatever it is.
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  Like thinking about what helps you stay disciplined.
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  What helps you stay on track? I think one of the biggest mistakes that I see
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  some of my clients make is they start out real gung-ho like this,
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  like, and they're just so motivated. And so they're like, I'm going to even track on weekends.
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  Okay. And these clients, they
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  got like three kids and they at the ball field and they real tired and.
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  All the things that do not give you just all the brain space to A,
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  be thinking about what you're going to eat on a Saturday after three ball games.
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  You know, you're just ready to get these people fed and bathed and in the bed, okay?
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  You're not going to be able to just think as much about pre-planning or how
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  dinner's going to go, right?
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  Or B, it's like, you don't have time for that.
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  You are the driver of the ball games and the carrier of all the equipment.
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  And, you know, you still got the other two kids that are tagging along and,
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  you know, absolutely interrupting all of your brain space, right?
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  And so the weekend comes and you have committed that you're going to track and then you don't.
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  And then you feel like a failure, okay? And so could it be that even things
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  like saying, okay, I'm going to track Monday through Friday or I'm going to
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  track Monday through Thursday or whatever, if you have a day off during the week,
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  however it needs to look for you for your schedule, So.
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  And because then you actually complete that task, you actually follow it all
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  the way through, which makes you feel like you can put that checkmark by that
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  box, which makes you feel successful, right?
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  And so that's the most important part. We don't want to set goals that we realistically cannot achieve.
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  And so if you were that ball-filled mama of three kids, may not be it for you
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  to set out to do a lot of extra on the weekends that way right now.
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  Okay, let me pause that and remind you, that's also not an excuse to order, you know,
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  the country fried steak with the French fries and the, you know,
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  hush puppies and the whatever else just because it's the weekend and you're not tracking.
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  And then so it's okay, right? Like that's not it because we've got to be mindful.
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  We've got to, you know, learn these habits that are just instilled in us when we're choosing food.
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  Okay, but again, it is still helping you to not set out to do something that is unrealistic for you.
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  Right? So identifying what you think will help you stay disciplined.
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  So reward-wise, goal-wise, like don't say by, you know, December 31st,
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  2026, you're going to be down 70 pounds.
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  I mean, you can say that, but let's back it up to by January 31st,
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  how many pounds you shooting to be down for?
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  By February 28th, how many pounds you shooting to be down for?
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  That kind of thing too, you know, and then the reward of that, right?
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  And then my last tip is to write it down somewhere you will see it, okay?
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  So whatever these goals are, write them down.
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  And y'all, please don't make them something that's like mean to yourself,
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  okay? Like you're fat on the refrigerator.
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  Like that is bullying. That is torture. That is like not the way to,
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  to meet a lasting, like to, to meet it.
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  I mean, you can meet a goal that way, but like, it's not a way to have like
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  a healthy mindset to keep, to keep whatever that is that you achieved off. Right.
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  And so think about it as like inspirational, like what really gets you in your fields?
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  You know, what, what, like, what are we thinking about? Are we thinking about, you know, how, how,
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  how we're not going to be able to get up off the floor or get down onto the
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  floor when we have grandkids.
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  You know, are we concerned about our heart health? You know,
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  like, yes, you can do a swimsuit picture if you want to, but I don't feel like
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  that is the greatest form of long-term motivation. Okay.
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  Because that is, that is a visual and we really want something that is going
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  to change us internally.
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  Right. And so really thinking about that, like what kind of person do you want
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  to be, you want to be the person that can willingly grab the celery stick instead
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  of the french fry, right?
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  And be okay either way, like whatever it is for you that you are longing for, right?
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  Put it somewhere you're going to see it time and time again, okay?
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  Taking that time out to come up with like how you want to feel this year in
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  depth, in detail and how you think you need to get there.
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  And then just have it, have it somewhere. Okay, so one of the things that I
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  tend to do is, I mean, I do a lot of work in Canva.
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  And so I will make Canva images for the background of my phone with like a Bible
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  verse that I'm really meditating on lately or just a reminder that I need.
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  I'm looking right now at a sticky note on my computer screen.
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  I actually have a lot of sticky notes that I'm looking at right now around my
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  computer, but on my computer screen, I've got, and my God will supply every
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  need according to his riches and glory in Jesus Christ.
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  Okay, that is Philippians 4.19. And the reason I have that on my computer screen
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  is because a lot of times when I sit down at my desk, I get really overwhelmed
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  with all the things that are needed of me,
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  okay, or are needed by other people.
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  Like there's just a lot of needs as a mom, obviously, but then a wife and,
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  you know, the runner of this home, but also like as a business owner.
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  And so I can find myself sitting here and going, oh my gosh, I have so much to do.
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  I have so much to do, you know, and so that is a reminder that I meditate on
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  all the time, all the time, you know, and so something like that, that can help.
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  Pull you back to the mindset that you were in when you set the goal, right?
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  One thing that we are going to do, we tried it last year.
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  Glory wasn't the best, but we did like a little worksheet. It was good enough
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  for the kids, but we're going to try it again because I just really believe
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  in it is the vision board.
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  I try to do one every year and I've been putting it off because I know,
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  oh, y'all, my vision board this year is going to be way different than the last
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  one I did, you know, because of just how I've changed so much and how my life has changed so much.
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  And so, you know, really taking the time out to think about like,
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  what would you want to be on that vision board? Like, what is your overall goal?
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  Yeah, is it weight loss? But is it deeper than that?
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  Is it like peace with your body regardless? Is it control over food, you know?
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  And so then like going even deeper, like how do we get there? How do we do that?
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  Like, is it just another meal plan to follow? Is that what you need to be looking
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  for on Instagram right now?
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  Or is it more like prayer?
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  Is it a Bible study, the devotion situation that you need to find?
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  Is it learning maybe what is causing you to be so inconsistent with your habits,
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  inconsistent with, you know.
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  Nine times out of 10, if we're struggling to be consistent with our eating habits,
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  there are other places we're struggling to be consistent as well, you know?
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  And so it's like, is it getting to the root of that?
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  Like, what is it right and so writing those
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  goals okay again writing something that
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  you are meditating on writing your priorities like
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  writing what comes first like when when
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  you are faced with a crossroads and you don't know the answer I we have this
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  for the for a perfect fit you know it's like our mission and then I have descriptive
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  words that just that define who we are so like what are the descriptive words
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  that you want to be defining you.
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  Okay. And so then when you're at a crossroads, when you are in a fight with
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  your spouse or, you know, it's something crazy is going on at work,
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  or, you know, you are unsure of how to answer somebody's request or whatever,
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  like going back to those defining words and saying, okay, this is the person,
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  this is the person I want to be.
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  So as this person...
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  Who, who, who, what decision would this person make?
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  How would this person act in this situation? You know, like just really helping
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  you ground yourself consistently and visually in who you are setting out to be.
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  Because that's why a lot of times, you know, by mid-year, we kind of just forget it all.
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  Because our brain, we've had so much additional information and knowledge and
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  chaos in our brain by that point, right? We're not remembering who we really
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  set out to be deep, deep, deep down on January 1st.
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  You know, and so that we're going to do vision boards with the girls and just
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  have them kind of think about, okay, what would your words be for,
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  you know, 2026? What do you want to get better at?
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  Right? Like we may feel, I may as an adult feel a lot older and a lot more like
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  set in my ways, but like there are still so many things I want to learn, you know?
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  And like, I will be wanting to learn these same dang things in 2027 if I don't
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  actually put action to that, right?
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  And so, you know, just different, you can Google, there's so many different
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  formats for a vision board.
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  We're obviously going more childlike format with the kids, but,
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  you know, really taking some time.
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  Like, it takes more than, you know, an hour, y'all. Like, I keep a note in my
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  phone and I start to just kind of write and think through and,
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  you know, rethink and pray and to really come up with the vision I have for
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  myself for the following year.
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  And I've done this, I've done this a lot.
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  And I will say, it is just crazy how.
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  Looking at it consistently and having that
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  reminder really does help you
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  like bring your bring your goals to light
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  like bring bring everything to actually like manifest isn't my favorite word
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  but like you know you manifest your life that's what people say you know you
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  manifest your life to to what you desire it to be right and so for me it's more about okay,
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  I took time to get quiet with the Lord.
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  I took time to shut out the noise. I took time to feel deeply and,
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  you know, really dig in to what I felt, you know, the Lord was laying on my heart.
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  And like, those are the things that I spit out on my vision board.
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  And so then your vision board is really just that visual reminder of who you
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  and God talked about you becoming.
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  You know what I mean? Like, it should feel very aligned with his purpose for
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  you as much as we can know, right?
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  And so that's kind of the way I look at it. You know, some people are like,
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  right, I'm going to be a billionaire on a post-it note and stare at it every
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  day. And I'm like, okay, that may, yeah, I don't know.
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  I mean, I don't know. Maybe I should try it and let y'all know.
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  But like, that's not really what it's about for me.
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  It's more about like, not losing sight of the path to the purpose that God has for me, right?
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  Like, I don't know exactly what's going to come at the end of that path, right?
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  And I don't know exactly what my purpose is for that path in this exact moment,
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  but it's about not losing sight of staying on the dang path, right?
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  Staying on it. And I feel like that is what is just, gosh, we are getting eat up with it in this world.
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  Distractions off of the path. And the next thing you know, we look up and we're
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  like, wait, what were we doing?
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  You know, how many years have passed? That kind of thing, right?
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  So anyway, that was a little rant at the end in true Constance fashion.
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  But more than anything, I just I do want to encourage you guys to just be realistic
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  and take some time with this, right?
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  Don't start this year like you have maybe every year in the past with like,
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  OK, I need to lose weight.
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  I need to get back in the gym. I need to stop eating so many sweets.
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  I need, you know, like let's go a little deeper this year.
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  Let's get a little more personal with ourselves and see how that could totally
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  transform your life, right?
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  So I hope you guys have an amazing, amazing, amazing new year.
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  And we have got a lot of fun things coming down. We're so excited to share with
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  you guys. And so until then, y'all remember to say grace.
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  Thank you for listening to today's episode of Say Grace podcast.
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  If you enjoyed it, it would mean the world to me. if you left me a five-star review.