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90 Day Fiancé Season 12 Episode 18 “Am I Ready for Forever?” Part 2 · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

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  Speaker 1: Hi there. Welcome back to Vanity Fair. My name is
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  Speaker 1: Chris Farah, and I'm continuing on part two of Talking
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  Speaker 1: 90 Day. It's season 12, episode 18. Am I ready
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  Speaker 1: for forever? Honey, the answer is yeah. These people, at
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  Speaker 1: least in this day and age, in this moment, in
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  Speaker 1: this day of weddings, were. No one said no. Okay, so...
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  Speaker 1: Because I'm only saying that because, like I said in
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  Speaker 1: part one, a lot of this episode had moments of
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  Speaker 1: feeling like a Love is Blind finale. So, yeah, like,
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  Speaker 1: these people get married. It isn't like they don't get married.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I look really tan. And I'm happy
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  Speaker 1: about it. Okay. Okay. Let's move on to Mito and Debbie.
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  Speaker 1: Oh God, honey, it's the morning after and we're getting
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  Speaker 1: like Michael Buble banging kind of music. You know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? Debbie says, you
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  Speaker 1: did good. Mito says, thank you, my girlfriend. And then
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  Speaker 1: she tries to kiss him and he says, enough kisses.
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  Speaker 1: It's not sexy. It's weird. It's uncomfortable. They don't seem
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  Speaker 1: like they have any sort of chem. They seem the
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  Speaker 1: exact same. I think that you did good is a
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  Speaker 1: weird way of saying that. It seems still very maternal.
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  Speaker 1: It seems like giving someone their sign of approval, like
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  Speaker 1: After the game, like, you know, you would tell your,
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  Speaker 1: you know, little son who's like the, you know, pitcher,
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  Speaker 1: he did good, you know, like it feels whatever. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think he did good. Her face is weird.
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  Speaker 1: When she says that he did a good job, there's
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  Speaker 1: a sort of, like, frozenness about her face. Almost, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like her pupils dilate so, where she almost looks
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  Speaker 1: like she's a cult member or someone who is lying
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  Speaker 1: through their teeth. I can't imagine it was good, and
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  Speaker 1: she's saying it was. And he is doing that thing
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  Speaker 1: where he feels... Happy that his ego is being stroked.
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  Speaker 1: Who knows what else feels stroked? She's like, did you
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  Speaker 1: sleep well? He's like, you know how I slept. She says, though,
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  Speaker 1: he was amazing and definitely a natural. He knows where
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  Speaker 1: to go. Well, he is a professional tour guide. He
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  Speaker 1: knows all the secret spots. He knows all the places
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  Speaker 1: to point out with his fingers and the history. She's like,
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  Speaker 1: was it worth the wait your whole life for me
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  Speaker 1: this one night? He says, Yeah. But it's... Obviously, no. Like, obviously,
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  Speaker 1: she's lying better than he is, and he's the actor. Like, he's...
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  Speaker 1: It's very obvious that he didn't enjoy it. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what to say. Like, he doesn't seem
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  Speaker 1: like he was into it. Like, is it him? You
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  Speaker 1: could be like, no, he's just being cool. But he's
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  Speaker 1: just like... Yeah. But how are you cool if you're like,
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  Speaker 1: I was a virgin till last night? Like... At some point,
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  Speaker 1: they cut to him alone in a confessional. And then
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  Speaker 1: when the producers ask him to rate it on a scale,
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  Speaker 1: this is the sex he's had with Debbie after never
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  Speaker 1: having sex with a woman, never having sex with a
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  Speaker 1: woman before. He rates it so-so. So-so. Come see, come say.
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  Speaker 1: A C, a C. Meh. Mid. What? Okay, thoughts. These
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  Speaker 1: are my thoughts. Now, the producers don't do this, but
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  Speaker 1: here's the thing. Okay. Oh, it's only so-so? Rate it. So-so? Why?
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  Speaker 1: Why was it only so-so? Did you expect it to
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  Speaker 1: be longer? Did you expect to have better chem? Did
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  Speaker 1: you expect her to be bendier? More giving? Did you
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  Speaker 1: expect to last longer? Did you expect a unicorn to
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  Speaker 1: fly out of her vagina? Did you expect it to
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  Speaker 1: There's so many things, right? There's so many. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to say all the things I could
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  Speaker 1: say because, you know, I'm like, you know, trying to
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  Speaker 1: like not scare people away. But I mean, it's like
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  Speaker 1: my question is, was it only so-so because of what
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  Speaker 1: you did or what she did or what you guys
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  Speaker 1: did together? Or based upon what you thought it was
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  Speaker 1: going to feel like or what other experiences that you've
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  Speaker 1: had felt like? That's the follow-up question. Cause he could
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  Speaker 1: be like, ah, so-so cause I came so fast, my fault.
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  Speaker 1: And we'd be like, oh, okay. Yeah. Cause you're a
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  Speaker 1: virgin and you couldn't, you know, you couldn't hold or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But like, he's like, so-so she's, she's creaky. Horrible. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. And we'd be like, well, he's an asshole,
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  Speaker 1: you know? Ah, it's only so-so. Cause one time, uh,
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  Speaker 1: I had a fun time once when I can't tell
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  Speaker 1: you who it is, but when that person touched me,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, you know, I don't know what made
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  Speaker 1: it so-so, but don't we deserve to know? No. Okay. So, hmm.
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  Speaker 1: Then she's like, hey, hey, remember when we got married
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  Speaker 1: yesterday and then we fucked? Just kidding. Also remember when
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  Speaker 1: we took pics? We did. We took the best pics ever. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: time to post those pics. Let's go through them and
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  Speaker 1: then you post them on your social media. And I
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  Speaker 1: was like, what, Debbie? Which ones? This one? Is it
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  Speaker 1: this one you want to post? Wait, make him post
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  Speaker 1: this one. She's like, he's never posted a picture of
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  Speaker 1: me on his social media because he claims he needs
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  Speaker 1: to use it for his acting, which He's not an actor. Also,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of actors like post who they're with. You know, like, okay. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: She calls him a master at avoidance because he doesn't
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  Speaker 1: want to post. And then when she's like, do it now.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, bad service. She's like, get your phone. So
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  Speaker 1: then he like goes through his album and he decides
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  Speaker 1: to post a picture and he's like, With music? She's like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Yes, of course with music, you dumb fuck. Post.
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  Speaker 1: You don't post in a feed without a song nowadays.
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  Speaker 1: Famous Instagram actor, Mito. There's so many options. Going to
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  Speaker 1: the chapel and we thought, you know, you can't change it,
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  Speaker 1: but like that one or It's a beautiful night. Na, na, na, na, na, na. Hey, baby.
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  Speaker 1: Think I wanna... Sorry. I wonder if there is any
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  Speaker 1: sort of music business connery where it's like, please make
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  Speaker 1: the song that everyone loves will use when they want
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  Speaker 1: to get married. Mariah Carey obviously makes a billion dollars
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  Speaker 1: every Christmas because she has the Christmas song of Christmas songs.
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  Speaker 1: But that Brutal Mars song that I just sang, everyone
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  Speaker 1: uses it, right? People love it. People post it because
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  Speaker 1: it says, hey, baby, I want to get married to you.
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  Speaker 1: There's not so many songs like that. There's that song.
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  Speaker 1: Then remember the Paula Abdul song? Will you marry me, boy? Or,
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  Speaker 1: of course, God bless Dolly, I Will Always Love You.
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  Speaker 1: But the I Will Always Love You song doesn't even
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  Speaker 1: actually say marriage or something like that. It's almost like
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  Speaker 1: a guaranteed great thing for your career if you can
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  Speaker 1: somehow get a bop that references such a thing because
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  Speaker 1: it's an evergreen topic. It comes back or it comes back.
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  Speaker 1: you know, like Christmas comes every year and Mariah Carey
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  Speaker 1: gets to make that money every year. Anyway. At one point,
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  Speaker 1: even though he says the sex was so-and-so, that was
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  Speaker 1: when she wasn't there, he says that he also wants
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  Speaker 1: to have sex in the kitchen so he can eat
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  Speaker 1: and fuck at the same time. And I think that
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  Speaker 1: that's probably the unsexiest thing I've ever heard. And that's
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  Speaker 1: coming from someone who loves to eat. I love it.
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  Speaker 1: A lot too much. Arguably too much. The thought of
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  Speaker 1: like having sex with someone and then having that person
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  Speaker 1: have the like desire wherewithal and or just ADHD and
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  Speaker 1: or just like ability to like not be so engaged
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  Speaker 1: or not be so present also. then turn around and
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  Speaker 1: pop a Cheez-It in his mouth, swallow it down before
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  Speaker 1: I can make out with him again. Like no part
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  Speaker 1: of that is hot. It seems like a weird idea
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  Speaker 1: for someone who doesn't take pleasure from partnered sex. Not
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  Speaker 1: that you have to, just saying. Okay. Yeah, that's the
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  Speaker 1: end of them. Let's move on to Marissa and Edward.
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  Speaker 1: So again, this again feels very love is blind. She's
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  Speaker 1: running late. She doesn't want him to worry. Her mom
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  Speaker 1: is there, Joanne. Mom says that she loves this guy,
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  Speaker 1: but there are so many flags. Well, okay. Red flags,
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  Speaker 1: green flags, yellow flags, orange flags, like purple flags are
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  Speaker 1: all just, there's flags everywhere, I guess. She just has
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  Speaker 1: a lot of flags. She's a, He plays flag football.
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  Speaker 1: He's one of those guys that like rows and so
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  Speaker 1: therefore they have all those like rowing flags. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: quite sure. But then he arrives at the venue by himself, again,
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  Speaker 1: in a black car with his clothes. When he walks out,
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  Speaker 1: it's like very, again, very love is blind. And he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't know whether she's going to show up. So again,
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  Speaker 1: the same thing. When we see shots of her and
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  Speaker 1: her mom, Joanne, it is, again, I've said this, but
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  Speaker 1: so interesting how they have the exact same skin tones
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  Speaker 1: and type as Lindsay Lohan and her mom. And Lindsay
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  Speaker 1: Lohan and her mom are Italian, I guess. Right. So,
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  Speaker 1: and so is Marissa and her mom. And there's just
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  Speaker 1: this one like phenotype or whatever the word is of
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  Speaker 1: Italian people that live like in Jersey and that have
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  Speaker 1: really pale skin with like strawberry kind of like freckles.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's so interesting. Okay, now she thankfully has
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  Speaker 1: a bridal stylist. I was confused because she kept complaining
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  Speaker 1: last episode that she had so much to do and
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  Speaker 1: there wasn't someone telling her, you know, hurry up and everything.
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  Speaker 1: And that usually is a wedding day coordinator. And so
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  Speaker 1: I was like, why does she not have one? But
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  Speaker 1: she does have Steven, who is a bridal stylist, who
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  Speaker 1: I guess Kleinfeld sent, who's a very nice, very cute, lovely,
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  Speaker 1: beautiful man with lip gloss, honey. And he basically just
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  Speaker 1: puts the dress on for her. And the dress feels
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  Speaker 1: very Panina Tornay. And he laces it. And then Joanne's
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  Speaker 1: so happy that, honey, she doesn't have to do that.
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  Speaker 1: She's so happy that her daughter had the right, I guess,
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  Speaker 1: like instinct to have someone else be in the room
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  Speaker 1: to dress her so that she could just sit there
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  Speaker 1: and drink her champagne and look at it. I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to, like, fuck up her fingers by lacing a corset.
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  Speaker 1: but they will leave the venue or leave to go
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  Speaker 1: to the venue in fur coats. They aren't real fur. So,
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: but they do give mafia wives in a way that
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  Speaker 1: I was so happy about. Oh my gosh. You can
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  Speaker 1: tell that if you were cold, the coziness of the
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  Speaker 1: fur that Marissa's wearing is, over her white dress would
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  Speaker 1: be a dream come true. And Joanne looks really happy.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone looks really happy. And I'm again, this is happening
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  Speaker 1: and it's good. So in the limo, she's with her
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  Speaker 1: mom and her two sons. Derek says that he wants
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  Speaker 1: to have some champagne. She says, no. I'm like, I
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  Speaker 1: bet you'll give him a little taste though. He's just
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  Speaker 1: the age where you'll give him like a little like gulp,
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  Speaker 1: see what it's like. grandma is a cool grandma and
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  Speaker 1: is like hey cole six seven and cole's face honey
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  Speaker 1: she's like he's like i love it grandma they get
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  Speaker 1: married on the 7th of november i saw one of
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  Speaker 1: their guests is wearing the most beautiful gold dress that
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  Speaker 1: i just took a picture of it and i was
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  Speaker 1: like i want that gold dress look at this gold
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  Speaker 1: dress can i have that gold dress who's this lady?
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  Speaker 1: Can I have that gold dress? Even the girl in
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  Speaker 1: front of her is looking in that the girl in
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  Speaker 1: front of her is wearing another beautiful metallic dress, which
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  Speaker 1: I also love, but she's looking back at the other
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  Speaker 1: girl being like, can I have that dress too? Girl,
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  Speaker 1: where'd you get that dress? Okay. His mom, Maria Taddy
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  Speaker 1: comes in, tells him that he looks handsome, looks lovely,
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  Speaker 1: kind of like pats his back gently. which is like
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  Speaker 1: a soothing thing. Oh my God. Honey, I found a
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  Speaker 1: new person on TikTok I love. It's this singer that
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  Speaker 1: pats her baby's back and butt to the tune of
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  Speaker 1: whatever she's singing. And she does like Disney songs. So
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  Speaker 1: like she has this brand new baby and she's like
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  Speaker 1: patting this baby and she has like a beautiful voice.
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  Speaker 1: And she's like, like not going to be able to
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  Speaker 1: do it this well or whatever, God bless. But she's like,
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  Speaker 1: look for the bed necessities. Like, okay, but it's like
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  Speaker 1: so much better than me. And she's like tapping her,
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  Speaker 1: you know, she's like using percussion. to gently rock baby
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  Speaker 1: to bed. And it's such cute TikTok videos. And when
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  Speaker 1: his mom did that, I was like, oh my God. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's what moms do, honey. So he's worried because, you know,
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  Speaker 1: she's always on time, Marissa, but she's late and she's
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  Speaker 1: not texting him. So like what's happening? And the officiant
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  Speaker 1: gets there and guess what? Marissa comes on time. So now,
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  Speaker 1: you know, they're all together standing at the altar and
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  Speaker 1: the officiant in what looks like a Bowery cap. Like
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  Speaker 1: she literally is going to take your luggage and she
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  Speaker 1: works at the Bowery in New York. How fun. And
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  Speaker 1: Edward is nervous and he is nervous to do his vows.
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  Speaker 1: And so they're like, just do it in Spanish. And
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  Speaker 1: he does. And they're great. It's so interesting. I've been
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  Speaker 1: in like acting workshops or classes with like amazing people
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  Speaker 1: who speak many different languages and English is like the
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  Speaker 1: second or third. And they, for whatever reason, the exercise
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  Speaker 1: is requiring them to just like a vessel, you know,
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  Speaker 1: give of information without like being self-conscious or editing or
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  Speaker 1: thinking about things. And obviously if you're translating multiple languages
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  Speaker 1: in your head, that's a harder thing to do. And so, um,
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  Speaker 1: I've watched people not be able to do it because
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  Speaker 1: it's fucking hard. And then just when given the direction
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  Speaker 1: to just do it in their favorite language, to watch
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  Speaker 1: someone just, yeah, obviously, do what everyone else is doing
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  Speaker 1: because they don't have to work even fucking harder to
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  Speaker 1: do it at a different level and then just kind
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  Speaker 1: of can experience the ease of what this moment can be.
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  Speaker 1: It's so great. I'm so happy for him. They obviously
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  Speaker 1: get married. It's nice. The boys are like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: why is that that bad? We can't tell you why
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  Speaker 1: we don't like, we, we like him or don't like him.
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  Speaker 1: Like not specifically, but he's not that bad. We like
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: him and a dog. Um, Joanne comes over and he's like,
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  Speaker 1: my family thinks that you're beautiful. And she was like,
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  Speaker 1: I think they're smart. Then you realize how much Joanne
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: and Marissa are very similar. They aren't gracious people. And
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  Speaker 1: you know what? You don't have to be all the time.
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  Speaker 1: But there is this, they're not warm, gracious people. demure people.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: And there's like all, there's three different adjectives I've used.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you right now that I've had multiple
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  Speaker 1: women in my life pull me aside and be like,
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  Speaker 1: you have to be more demure. Which is funny because
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: then we had this guy, honey, get famous on Instagram
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  Speaker 1: for just calling him, you know, being like demure and
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  Speaker 1: like hilarious. That's, what are you, my Arabic aunts my
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  Speaker 1: whole life? Um, be mindful, be demure. Not me. I'm
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: not it. But it's interesting. There is no grace, great.
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  Speaker 1: Like there's no graceful way to take that compliment in
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  Speaker 1: a way that like is going to be known to
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  Speaker 1: these women. It's funny because even the way Marissa talks
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  Speaker 1: to Edward, if Edward says something, she's like, nope, try again.
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  Speaker 1: It's quick and somewhat diminishing and somewhat insulting and condescending.
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  Speaker 1: But she, I think, registers it as just being like
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  Speaker 1: playful and like teasing. I don't know if he does.
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  Speaker 1: But her mom is just like that. Then they have
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: a quick picture of her mom and then her stepdad.
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  Speaker 1: And in this picture, I was like, you know what?
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  Speaker 1: Her stepdad looks like the love child of John Lithgow.
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  Speaker 1: And is this Dennis Hopper? Is that what this person's
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: name is? From Silence of the Lambs? Doesn't he look
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  Speaker 1: just like these men? Look at that man. Signs of
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: the Lambs. Look at Jonathan Lukau. Look at that man.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to be like, are all white men
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  Speaker 1: the same? But I mean, my God. Okay. It's not
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  Speaker 1: Dennis Hopper. It's something else. Dennis Hopper is a different person. Oh, no.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: I'm going to look up. You know who I'm talking about. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I'm moving on. Okay. You know, Chianti, fava beans, Thomas
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  Speaker 1: and Paola. Okay. This is so weird. So he's there
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  Speaker 1: at his wedding and his dad just shows up like
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: his dad is like, sorry, I just decided to come in, honey.
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  Speaker 1: I just boarded a Southwest flight, but I wasn't going
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  Speaker 1: to come in the morning. He's like, dad, didn't know
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  Speaker 1: you're going to make it, but he is there. Dad's wife, Rini,
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: nowhere to be found. Also, I don't think his mom's there.
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  Speaker 1: So all of that. And are you at least, having
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: made us watch episodes with the drama about it, going
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: to wrap up those loose ends or tell us what
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: happened with all of that? None of they fiance producers? No. No.
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  Speaker 1: So weird. Now, to his dad, he says that he's
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: nervous because, you know, it's a big step. He tells
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: his dad he doesn't know if she's going to even
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: show up to this wedding or if she even likes
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: him because some of the words that she uses makes
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: her seem like she's just thinking about herself. And his
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: dad's like, no, no, no, no, no. She's just independent
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  Speaker 1: and you wouldn't want a clingy woman. I'm like, boy,
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  Speaker 1: do these parents want their children married. Okay. Then the
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: dad goes, you know what? You don't have to worry
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  Speaker 1: because two things are going to happen, buddy. Two things.
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  Speaker 1: She's not going to show up. You're not going to
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  Speaker 1: have to worry about it. Or she is going to
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  Speaker 1: show up. Sorry. She is going to show up. And
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: you just worry about it for the rest of your life.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Then you make it work and you just keep worrying. So. Okay. Okay.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: We cut to her. She's like, I can't lie. I
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: can't lie. I have doubts with my relationship with Thomas
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: and I'm having a hard time thinking about aligning our
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: future together. It's been stressful. We're like, oh my God, girl. Okay.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Her sister comes in, Jacqueline wearing raspberry, like a raspberry
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: toned dress and chandelier earrings. And then her sister-in-law Giselle
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: and the nieces, and she's wearing gloves, which makes me happy.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: She's like, to her nieces, she's like, should I marry
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: this gringo? And then the nieces are like, yeah. So
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: she's like, okay. Let's go. Off to the wedding chapel.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: We're like, oh. And I'm saying this because, A, I couldn't, I, well,
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: I'm single now. So why would the fuck would I
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: ever get married to someone who on my wedding day,
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: I can't tell whether that person wants to marry me.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: And also, What the fuck would happen if I thought
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: I could get married to someone where I'm still deciding
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: whether I should marry them day of, knowing that that's
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: going to be broadcast to every person that person's known,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: their whole family on TV, seeing that I could have
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: taken or leaving him up to the very moment. I
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: just decided to like take him this today. But let's
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: just say that he is resistible. He's simply resistible, you know. Um,
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: he cries though, when he gives his like fate filled
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: vows and she says she loves him, you know, but
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: she definitely never thought they'd be in love. Uh, when
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: they were just friends, he's like, I got out of
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: the friend zone. She's like, I know. I'm assuming that
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: a lot of people get out of the friend zone. Um,
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: I am sincerely trying to just be friends with people
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: and seeing what comes from there. And it's hard though,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: if you were, it's hard when you meet people online
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: to like, keep it chill like that, because I think
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: that there's more expectations, especially that's why you can mean
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: if you have sex and all bets are off, but
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: God bless some, depending on, you know, cause your body makes,
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: you know, sometimes it's hard to have your body and
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: your mind aligned. with someone else's body and their mind.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? Then you have a lot
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: of cooks in the kitchen. Yeah, though, I, it's hard
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: for me to like get control of my hormones if
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: I have sex too early. I mean, it's hard for
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: me to get control of my hormones, period. I'm like Rashid.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I can cry at a drop
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: of a hat and I'm horny at the, you know,
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: Drop of a pin. Drop of a hat, drop of
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: a pin. I don't know. Okay. Sorry. I lost my place.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: So he cries. Like I said, she says she loves him,
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: but she again, didn't know this was going to happen.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: And she says, you are my guiding star. No, this
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: is the, sorry. The Officiant of this wedding has a
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: cadence where every word has equal measure. You are my
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: guiding star, my anchor, and my forever. It's an interesting cadence,
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: Because everything is given such importance that nothing seems important.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: The little acting technique, they say. I've heard it from
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: like different versions. If you ever take a Shakespeare class,
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: you might hear something like, some words are peaches, some
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: words are peanuts. And if a word is a peach...
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: You can really indulge in it. But some words are peanuts.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? Anyway. Okay. So a little
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: dislike public speaking. Just vary it up. Just so you
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: can get your point across. Give importance to the words
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: you want people to take with them. And then, you know,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: throw some away. Not everything is important. And some things are.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: but not everything, but some things, but not everything. Just
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: like what I'm doing, that's an example, literally in real time.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: She feels stiff. I don't have to tell you, like,
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: she feels stiff as fuck. I took a picture of
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: them so you can see. I don't know if you
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: can tell how stiff she feels when she walks down
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: this aisle. I don't know if it's just like the
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: cameras in her face or her shoes are uncomfortable. She
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: doesn't feel like at ease at home, even though she says,
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: you know, like they found each other and they're each
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: other's homes or whatever. And I know that these be
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: best friends. She just doesn't feel like she is comfortable
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: at all. But, you know, I don't know. Maybe if
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: I'd be comfortable on my wedding day, I would like
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: to think so. I'd like to think that hopefully if
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: I ever get married, I would have done enough preparation
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: that on the day of, I can just enjoy it, hopefully,
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: that I like the person. And I'm not just like
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: deciding day of whether to marry them. And therefore at
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: the wedding, I'm like, Now I can get all the presents.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: But this is another weird part. and i just don't
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: know if this is like always it but basically she's
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: like bye guys bye everyone bye bye and then they
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: just go on the queen mary and they fuck or
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: they do that weird cuddle thing where their legs are
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: intertwined okay asia and maxwell honey it's the morning after
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: you know the whole wedding the whole the whole thing
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: and now they fucked it's their morning after and he
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: says thank you for marrying He has to take off
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: his little wig parts, which he wore that hat, so
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: didn't really have to deal with that anyway. The producer
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: asks her, how was your night last night? And she says,
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: I can't talk about it where I'm a good Christian woman, sorry.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: So then he's in the bathroom and it cuts right there.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: The producer's like, how was your night last night? And
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: Maxwell gives a totally nice answer. He's like, it was
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: good and he was happy. I love that it's a
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: known thing that The producers are going to want you
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: both to separate so that you both can be asked
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: this question, you know, alone. So after her whole like
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: diatribe about, you know, she can't talk about it. In
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: a confessional later, she says that it was like trying
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: to put a plane in a garage, which we know
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: means his big ass dick. In her own thing. Mm-hmm.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: He really enjoyed that sex, though. And you can really tell.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: Unlike Mito. He's like my favorite part of the trip
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: last night. Mito is like, you know, my favorite part
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: of New Orleans. Bad acting class. Yes. The first time
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: I had a Smoothie King smoothie, I've had a couple
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: of them now, but the first time I had the
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: grape expectations, oh my God, I was like, yes, welcome
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: to heaven. New Orleans, these smoothies, the ability to wear
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: tight pants on Bourbon Street, chef's kiss, I'm in the city,
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: you know. At the airport, he says he's a strong guy,
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: but he won't get emotional and goes on to say, baby,
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: You are my moonlight. She goes, okay. He's like, you
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: would love my life. She's like, sweetie, I'm your sunlight
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: and your moonlight. But you could tell the way she said, baby,
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: you are my moonlight, that she was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be that. No, moon is bad.
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: It's dark. It's like witchy. I'm your sun. I'm the light.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: I'm God. God is the sun. Like, you know, you're
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: just like, oh my God. I want this man to
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: just express himself. He can't even express what's in his
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: mind without you having to like hyper fix it, hyper
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: correct him. Why don't you allow what you want and
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: what you think should happen to be in your mind?
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: And then we work on the boundary of what is
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: just allowing other people to live. I wonder if she
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: has like obsessive thoughts kind of too in such a way,
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: except that she can't stop talking about it. Like she
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: has to get them out in such a way. Like,
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: you know, it's so interesting. You can almost like, I
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: felt like her, I felt her anxiety when she said, okay, baby,
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: I'm your sunlight. Like you could almost like feel like
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: she started to panic that her idea of moonlight being
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: not as great as the sun was had to be
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: remedied in his poem for her. You know what I'm saying? So,
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: by the way, I love the fucking moon. It's almost
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: like you're my moonlight. I think that's so sexy. I
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: want to be someone's moonlight. It's the person you go
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: to bed with every night. Because I feel like, you know,
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: it's like, in the day, I don't know when I'm
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: assuming you're with someone, it's like you have your life
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: and you have your life with them, you know? And
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: truly there are people that try and just make them
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: have everyone one life. But I think that that's kind
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: of crazy. You have, especially if you didn't get married
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: like super young, you have all of your wants and
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: dreams and friends and stuff like that that's your life
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: like that's you know in the day usually you go
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: to work or whatever you have your time away from
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: your lover so it gets it doesn't make sense to
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: me for your lover romantic thusly to be like sunlight
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: it makes so much more sense for them to be
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: your moonlight i'm going to be talking about this she
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: says she has to remain strong she's not going to
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: cry in the airport but she's doing it for him
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: because if she didn't she'd he'd lose his goddamn shit
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: Then they pray because she has to leave, obviously. And
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: they did this whole thing to get married so that
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: they would, you know, have his visa be approved. And
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: I also found this interesting from my knowledge of Christianity
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: or praying, which is a Catholic based knowledge, is the
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: difference in which I pray and the language I use
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: when I pray, and I'm not saying either one is
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: better or worse because you could, someone else could be like,
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: is there a God or is praying even worth it?
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: I don't even care. So I'm not saying, I'm not
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: giving a judgment to this, but it's interesting because I
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: will say this, this is Chris Farah praying for something
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: and she has in her past and will pray again.
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: This is me praying. Okay. Dear God slash universe slash
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: mother Mary, Thank you so much for everything you've given me.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: And please, dear God, please, thank you so much. Please
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: keep my dad healthy. Please, and my family, keep my
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: family happy and healthy. A, thank you so much. And also,
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: thank you for everything you've given me. Okay.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: Please, can I just, please, can I? I
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: will do whatever it takes. And I'm so sorry for
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: everything I've done in my past, but also I promise
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: to be better in the future. But dear God, please,
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: I'm so, please give me this sitcom. Please give me
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: this role. I want it so bad. I've trained so hard. Please,
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: I will do, please. I would just, I would love it.
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: And I promise to be better and to do whatever
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: it takes to make this world better in your image.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: And also, thank you. I think it'd be great personally,
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: if you think so too, Cosign by giving me this thing.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: That's Chris Farah praying. This is her praying. Lord, we
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: are going to get approval on the visa. You are
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: going to make sure that the next stamp on the
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: visa will be an approval. God, yes, you are doing
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: this for us, God. And it's interesting because it's a
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: little bit like Paola. She is manifesting like the secret
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: that something has already happened. She is literally visualizing the
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: visa coming. being stamped with an approval. It's already happened, Lord.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: This is happening. I'm seeing the visa. It's you've with
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: your gracious hand, Lord, you've stamped the visa with an approval.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: It's like this manifestation prayer in itself. That's almost like
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: a demand. Like God, you're going to do this. God,
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: you've done this. God's doing this. You better. There's no question. I,
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: my assumption is that this is happening because of you
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: and because I want it without me giving space for
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: any other option that God might have in his back
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: or her back pocket. I don't know about like, you
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying? I can't, I'm hoping that you
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: are making sense of what I'm saying. Her prayer feels
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: like a ransom note or a demand, but it all,
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: but listen, a manifestation secret techniques, all of that kind
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: of like visualization stuff. There's a whole science about it working. Okay. So, uh,
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: And again, my prayer seems like a fucking measly, you know,
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: whiny ass, please, please, sad, sad time. So I'm just
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: so interesting how different they were. Okay. She leaves. He
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: kind of shakes, you know, he's crying as she walks away. Oh,
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: my loves, that ends. We didn't have any Shay and Annabelle,
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: but that ends this episode. Thank you guys so much
• 38:22
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• 38:24
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• 38:27
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• 38:30
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• 38:33
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• 38:35
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  Speaker 1: in September. Thank you so much for being here and
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: spending time with me. Let's breathe and we'll let ourselves
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: go on our merry ways. Oh, feels good. Two breaths.
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: In the present time, give yourself this moment. Don't do
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: it for me, but do it for you because, you know,
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: this could be maybe the only time that you practice
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: present mindful meditation. It might be. I'm hoping it's not.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: But for me today, as I record this, it will be.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: So I'm doing it for me. But you don't do
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: it for me. You do it for you. Because it
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: is a practice where you can control your mind at
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: the end of the day. And it's better to control
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: your mind and your reactions. Control your thoughts. You know
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying? Be able to move through this world
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: with the either grace or capability or power yeah, the
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: pattern in which you want to do it, might as
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: well help yourself hold your heart or just feel where
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: you're sitting, feet on the floor, just a tangible groundedness
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: to what is happening in real time. Then you're going
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: to use my breath, sorry, you're going to use your
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: breath or the sound of my voice to be here now,
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: right with us currently. not thinking about the past and
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: certainly not planning the future, but just giving yourself this
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: weird practice of not judging if it's hard, but just
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: trying without worrying about success, just trying for the art
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: of it to be present with me. Okay, blowing it out,
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: doing it. Two breaths, two shots, even more in the micro-moments.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: All right, babes, take care of yourselves and one another.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: Stand up for what you believe and make art. And
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: I'll talk to you later.