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Hypnosis to Activate a Calm, Confident Unflappable Resource State · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, Demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam Smith in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi. It's Adam here, and you're about
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  to listen to a hypnosis session all about changing anxiety into
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  a much more resourceful state. And I was working with a client
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  that was very successful in the area of healthcare, but part of
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  their job was to make presentations to very senior
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  people and we're talking very highly educated.
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  People like doctors. And clinicians, and sometimes
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  they would feel a bit of apprehension presenting to these
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  people. So in this hypnosis session, we
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  actually use a form of stage disassociation and this contrast
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  between association and disassociation.
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  A lot of people when they're anxious, they associate into an
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  unresourceful state like anxiety or apprehension.
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  And to get to that state of calm confidence, it doesn't work that
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  well if you just say be confident, be calm.
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  Because you can't. Plant a tree where there's
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  already a tree. If you're already apprehensive
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  and anxious, it's difficult to then move from that state to a
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  confident state. So what we do is something
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  called disassociation. So you're here in this hypnosis
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  session, the suggestion to go to a cinema in a city and they
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  observe a memory that was anxious as it happened and then
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  rewind it and then see as they would want it to be if they were
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  calm and confident in the same situation.
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  And only when they're 100% confident that the new version
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  is a resourceful state, then they take a first person
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  perspective. And this is an element of
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  priming. We've primed the resource state
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  before, we've accessed the resource state now this is a
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  memory. But then the memory shifts into
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  a future event that doesn't have, that hasn't happened yet
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  because a lot of anxiety is not anxious doing the thing, it's
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  the anticipatory fear before the thing even happens.
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  So it's someone that is nervous of public speaking and they
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  can't sleep the night before their presentation or they feel
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  really anxious just before it starts, or someone that's booked
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  a. Flight and.
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  You know, they know they've got that flight to catch, but
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  they're anxious even on the journey to the airport.
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  They're not on a plane at that point, but they're thinking
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  about the thing before it's happened.
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  And that's connected to anxiety. So it's really important that we
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  prime things that haven't happened yet to be calm,
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  confident and resourceful. So we get this post hypnotic
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  suggestion of a resource state. So that's what's going on here.
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  Now this client, it happened to be presenting in front of senior
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  audiences. For you, it might be different.
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  This is broad enough for you to connect it to something that
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  relates to you. So it might be a memory where
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  you are anxious around a dog and then in the future you see
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  yourself calm and confident around a dog.
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  Or it might be something else. It might be social anxiety, it
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  might be something to do with flying or something else.
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  Whatever it is. Just think of.
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  Your memory update it and then the future thing that would
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  normally cause anxiety in a way where you can imagine it going
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  well in a calm, confident way. And then you'll get more from
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  this. It was created for an
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  individual. Some of the suggestions are
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  going to be good for them and not quite right for you because
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  it was created for them. So if you like the idea of a
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  bespoke session just for you, have a look in the description
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  and the show notes and you'll see various resources, including
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  how to work with me directly. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  wonderful feeling of calm relaxation and as you exhale,
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  feel a wonderful feeling of release, as if any tension,
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  stress and worries just leaving your body and you're out with
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  breath, breathing and relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  Feel your arms and legs feeling limp, loose and heavy, the tiny
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  muscles in your forehead and your jaw starting to relax.
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  And you may notice your breathing changes.
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  Not just deeper, but lower. Less from the chest and more
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  from the diaphragm. That's it.
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  Just imagine how it would feel if any tension was melting away
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  like ice cubes in the sunshine. And I want you to imagine you
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  keep your body exactly where it is.
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  But your imagination can go on a journey.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing a bookshelf with books of
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  destinations around the world. Imagine choosing a book and just
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  imagine flipping through the pages until you see a city.
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  A city you've been to, or a city you would want to go to and
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  stare at an image that represents that city.
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  And imagine how you would feel if you were floating through the
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  pages and being in that city. Imagine exploring the city.
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  Just imagine there is something strange about that city.
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  The city is the city, but you notice a cinema that does not
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  belong in that city. A familiar cinema.
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  And yet it's there in that different country, that
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  different city. Imagine walking into the cinema
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  having a choice of screens, and each screen is a memory, a
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  moment where real anxiety existed in the past.
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  And I want you to choose one, a real memory.
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  Each screen has a different number, and just imagine walking
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  to that screen to see that memory, but you've got the
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  entire cinema for yourself. No one else is there.
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  And I want you to imagine opening the door or walking into
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  that cinema, having a hundred seats or more to choose from,
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  and choosing the one that seems to be the most comfortable, with
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  the best view of the screen. Imagine sinking into that chair
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  and seeing the screen, and maybe you see those velvet curtains.
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  And then just imagine there is a colour around that you just
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  associate with fun or friendliness, maybe pink or
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  yellow, something that feels light and not heavy.
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  And I want you to imagine the movie starts, but I want you to
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  imagine how connected you feel to the chair.
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  You know that you're watching this on a screen, you're not
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  living this. And imagine just seeing the
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  memory as it was, as an observer.
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  Not better, not worse, just as it was.
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  Observe how you arrived, what happened, and notice certain
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  things about you. Your facial expression, your
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  posture, a tone of voice. Not to judge, just to observe.
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  And then recall the time you've seen movies where they have a
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  flashback scene. They go back to a memory.
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  And just imagine seeing on this screen a memory of you at your
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  most confident, most composed, unflappable, unfazed, oozing
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  resources. That version of you, highly
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  capable. Just imagine observing that
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  version of you from the past that had all of those resources.
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  Imagine floating into the screen and feeling that way, and taking
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  those feelings back with you as you're there on that cinema
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  chair, seeing the screen. Now you see that scene and you
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  rewind it. You rewind reality and you play
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  it forward. But you now see the qualities of
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  that confident, composed, unflappable, determined version
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  of you in the very same environment you were before.
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  But you see yourself dealing with it differently now,
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  breathing slower, looking more relaxed, smiling more, This
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  version of you cool, calm, composed, unflustered.
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  And just play it forward and if anything isn't quite right, just
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  rewind it and start back until you've got a version of you
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  you're seeing on that screen. We handled that same situation
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  that did have anxiety in the way that no longer has anxiety.
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  Not because things are perfect, but because you have the
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  resources, the mindset, the skills and capabilities to
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  handle any challenge. And just observe that confident,
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  resourceful version of you doing the same thing exactly as you
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  would want it to have been. And when you've seen that memory
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  updated with that resourceful version of you, let me know by
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  nodding your head and then rewind it as we start to play a
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  game. You float into the screen before
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  it's even started, feeling all of those confident feelings.
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  You're breathing confidently. You're in a dialogue is
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  encouraging, calm and relaxed. You're alert but not
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  apprehensive. You're confident.
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  And just imagine from a first person perspective, you are now
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  the character in that scene. You're living that moment from a
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  place of pure confidence, calmness and composure.
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  Any challenges, you feel that you can handle them.
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  But the game is that if any anxiety appears, you leave the
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  screen, go back there into that chair in the cinema.
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  You rewind it, see yourself handling it the way you would
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  want to handle it, and then jump back into the character.
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  The challenge is to experience the whole moment from that first
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  person perspective, connected to that confident, resourceful
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  feeling. So take a moment and relive that
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  moment as you would want it to have been with all of these
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  wonderful, confident, calm, resourceful feelings.
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  And the moment you get to the end of that memory, feeling how
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  you would want to feel if it was completely within your
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  capabilities. Let me know if I'm nodding your
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  head. Jump back to the beginning.
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  And now let's call this bit training at altitude, make it
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  more challenging than it actually was and still connect
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  to that feeling of calm confidence.
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  If you can handle those challenges, remain in your body.
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  You feel any anxiety or apprehension or feeling
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  flustered, you jump back to the observer, see it as you would
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  want it to be, and then continue in that first person
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  perspective. And you can make it as
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  challenging as it could possibly be.
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  Absurdly so. A ridiculous level of challenge
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  as we plant a seed of an idea that the moment your mind
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  absolutely believes that you could handle something more
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  challenging than reality, than reality itself, feels well
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  within your sphere of capability.
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  Anxiety is normally a warning sign that you're getting close
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  to your limits, but if your limits have expanded, you never
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  quite reach those limits. So if you could imagine what it
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  would feel like to be living a more challenging version of what
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  happened and still feel confident, let me know.
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  By nodding your head. That's it.
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  Notice how you're breathing in that state and notice it's not
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  relief that you feel at the end. It's pride, confidence,
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  competency, an ever growing certainty that you can handle
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  it. Jump back into the cinema.
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  As we now watch a future that hasn't happened yet.
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  I want you to think of the next thing.
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  Maybe it's scheduled, maybe it isn't.
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  Or maybe it's just a possible thing, being asked at short
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  notice to do something you haven't prepared.
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  Maybe the scale is bigger, more people, maybe the stakes are
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  higher, more seniority, but see something in the future and see
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  that future version of you with all of those qualities of
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  resourcefulness. You see yourself prepared, but
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  not over prepared. See yourself thinking, but not
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  overthinking. See that version of you, excited
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  but not jittery. See that version of you perhaps
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  researching where it would be the kind of people, the kind of
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  faces most websites share BIOS and pictures of rooms.
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  See yourself knowing what to expect, and then observe that
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  version of you on the screen, confidently preparing
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  beforehand, arriving in a relaxed, friendly way.
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  See yourself meeting perhaps people before things start, and
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  then see. See that version of you in a
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  situation that hasn't happened yet, handling what is likely to
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  happen completely fine? Maybe you have an idea of where
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  it is, how many people, the size of the room see it going well,
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  when that future moment that hasn't happened yet seems to be
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  well within your capabilities. Let me know by nodding your
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  head. Jump back to the beginning and
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  imagine it's more challenging. Tough questions, stern faces,
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  bright lights, big room. Maybe see that you've been
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  caught off guard with lack of preparation that you would have
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  liked to have done, and still see that even when all of that
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  is true, that version of you handles it fine, well within
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  your capabilities. And when you've seen a future
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  that hasn't happened yet, when you've observed it more
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  challenging than it's likely to be, and yet you can still feel
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  confident, composed, calm, determined.
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  Unflustered. Unflappable.
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  Then it's time to rewind it to the beginning before it started
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  and shift perspective into the screen where you are that person
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  and scan your body and just breathe the way you would
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  breathe if you were calm and confident.
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  Arrive the way you would if you were unflustered, unflappable.
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  I just imagine hearing some inner dialogue that says bring
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  it on, I'm ready. Imagine there's a part within
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  you that wants to be tested. That part that hopes nothing
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  difficult comes up is the wrong part to be there.
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  We want that strong, defiant part, the part that would run in
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  the rain and like it more because the weather is
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  difficult, or that would feel more pride after running in the
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  heat because it was challenging. That strong defined part wants
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  it to be challenging because you know the more challenges you
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  face, the more confident you become.
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  And the more confident you become, the more relaxed you
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  are, creating a wonderful self fulfilling prophecy of ever
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  increasing calmness, relaxation and confidence.
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  So just imagine experiencing experiencing it the way you
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  would want to experience it. Not because it's easy, but
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  because you're resourceful. Any anxiety comes up, Switch
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  perspectives to watching it on that screen, adjust it, change
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  it, and only return. When you're fully.
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  Confident again, and then continue knowing that when you
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  can imagine reliving a moment of anxiety without anxiety, you're
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  teaching your brain how to be resourceful in difficult
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  circumstances. And when you imagine a future
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  that hasn't happened yet going the way you would want it to go,
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  not because it's easy, but because you can handle any
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  challenge, notice how easily anxiety switches to excitement,
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  apprehension to appreciation. Calm composure becomes the
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  default. And if there are difficult
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  variables, that just means it's more fun for you because now
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  from this point on, challenge equals fun.
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  There are things you've done in your life not because they were
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  easy, but because they were challenging.
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  And what if this is no exception?
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  You'd be bored if it was too easy.
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  You want the challenges, and you can handle the challenges when
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  you've imagined that future event that hasn't happened yet
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  going well from that first person perspective.
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  In circumstances that. Aren't optimal, but they don't
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  need to be. Let me know by nodding your head
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  and then float back from the screen into the cinema.
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  Leave the cinema with a sense that you can handle whatever is
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  coming your way. Each challenge builds resilience
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  and confidence. And find yourself out in that
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  city, the city in the book, and look up at the sky and imagine
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  floating up in the sky and find yourself holding that same book,
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  putting the book back on the bookshelf and floating.
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  Back in your. Body exactly where you are now,
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  but taking all of these new beliefs and resources with you
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  as it's time to return. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7. 8 Open your. Eyes open Your eyes 910 Wide
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  awake, Wide awake, Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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