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DA CREW PODCASTSEASON 1| EPISODE #30 HOST MINISTER ALMA THOMAS|(SHOW#6) · DA CREW Podcast

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Bo bo bo bo bo bo bo bo bo bo Bie do need to the
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all new Living to need to the all new Liver Again podcast show with your
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host Amma Thomas. For God's who love the world, that it gave his
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only begotten son, that who shall ever shall believe, shall not perish but
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half liver. That's Team M. Good evening and welcome to the Living End
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for podcasts. This evening, I have a special guest that you might remember
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her from last week, and I'm bringing her back because of technical difficulties.
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But right now we're gonna have a word of prayer. Dear Heavenly Father and
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the precious matchless name of your son, Jesus have your way on tonight and
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the name of Jesus. Hallelu Let somebody be touched and inspired by this story.
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Amen. Now, so next we're gonna have our very excite didn't guess
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Tycey Winfield, the author of Shattered but Not Broken? How are you?
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Must elm hi? Miss ty is good to have you back again because last
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week we had some technical diffically, but we're back this week with you to
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share your story. You know, one of my most favorite quotes is if
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your mind can conceive it and your heart can't believe it, then you can
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achieve it. And you're a living example of putting your heart and soul into
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something that you birthed and you knew that it was gonna come to manifestation and
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that it was going to affect women worldwide. So, UM, let's start
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by you just introducing yourself. I know you were some other people might not
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know you. Hi, good evening. My name is Tysy Winfield. UM.
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I'm the author of Shadow but Not Broken and uh CEO of Diamond Lotus
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Production UM and a strong um mentor where I live in Long Island. Amen.
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Amen, um you're from Amityville, UM, Long Island. So tell
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me what inspired you to not only tell your story and your truth, but
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to share it for the world to see on pages. Well, what inspired
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me? One would be um you. UM you was a big strong help.
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You knew me since um you I was seven years old and I was
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able to um and UH was basically able to come to you prior to us
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UM working on the book and you always was explain it to me. It's
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a good idea to unsuppress and write about the book and including you know other
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um, other mentors um that live where I live, older mentors um to
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unsuppress the trauma that happened to me. Okay, Um, when you came
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out and you express your truth to the world, how did your family react
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to you telling your story? Well, my family, my biological family,
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wasn't happy, um, because it's basically it's it's a generational curse in my
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family and from back in the day, you you don't talk about molestation,
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you don't talk about rape, you don't talk about anything that happened to you.
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So for me to expose that a couple of family members, Um,
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they don't like it. They still don't like it, but no one gets
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to shut me up anymore. My immediate family that I built with my husband
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is very supportive. My husband and my son and my bones distaughter. They're
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very supportive in my life and they know my story from the beginning to the
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end, so they're very supportive on a daily basis. Right now, now,
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this is a question that because I know that as we were writing your
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story, a lot of memories was triggered and remember a lot of things that
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happened to you. How has this affected you? How did writing the book
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affect you? Mentally, it acted a lot because I had to open some
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opening. I had to open some closed wounds that I thought that I shut
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out UM and it it affected me basically, UM. Opening up those wounds
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wasn't wasn't good because those was hard territories to go back in and to unsuppress
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everything when you make yourself forget all a hurt and a trauma is not easy.
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So you caused me to take a look at that girl in the mirror
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that was hurt and I didn't want to deal with that. But writing a
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book you put me you opened some doors for me, UM with himself and
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it's I'm still dealing with opening, unsuppressing on a daily basis, but it's
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I'm working on it. I'm a working progress. You're working process. You
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get trust the process. Um, you will get through. You will get
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through this. And it's what's so UM not remarkable. That's not the word
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that I want to say. But what stands out to me is like you
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said that I knew you since you was seven years old, and everybody else
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saw the tea interior, the shell that you surrounded yourself as so nobody could
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get in. But I always knew that there was something I didn't know that
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your story was as deep as it was and that you survive all the things
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that you've been through as a child. But it made me have more respect
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for you and to see you as not a victim for being victorious and still
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achieving the things that you achieved in life to despite what you've been through.
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So I know that before the book was getting published that I told you to
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make sure that you set your family down and they understand. So once you
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set your family down and your husband saw how deep this book was, what
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was his reaction and how did he still support you? Well? Like you
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said, you know me from the age of seven and being a strong until
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now, putting that tough for side up in the multiple personalities that kept me
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alive during the trauma, because you gotta remember, my molestations started at the
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age of four and sixteen years of the trauma continued, and then after that
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was the rate um and then after that being moved to um friends that my
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mom knew, and then it was daily torture of the same thing, and
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then living on the street and being homeless, and then become when you have
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to be on the street, you're gonna do whatever it takes to survive,
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and that's what I basically was just raised up to do survival to fittis,
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So that's all I knew. Meeting my husband and then having children actually taught
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me what love was about. UM. Basically, Uh, my husband,
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he's a strong supporter because he during the relationship, he kind of my reactions
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kind of triggered off, basically him asking me what happened to me and then
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maybe being able to expose it and on a daily we work on it um
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and then the reflection of me and myself. I work on myself day basically
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to continue being. You have to work on yourself or you'll break because the
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trauma can overwhelm you mentally if you allow it to. And I don't believe
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that. If you can't flash is one thing, but if you can't break
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you, I don't believe no one can break my soul. So right,
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So that's why the name of your book is shattered but not broken, that
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you made it on those broken pieces. You need it to where you are
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today. Then now we're gonna go briefly to a commercial break and we'll be
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right back with further questions, and you're gonna let everybody know on what you're
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doing and how they can reach you. Um, and the next half,
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your new books. I dayre okay. Hello, Hello, and welcome back
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to the Live Again podcast where I have author and someone who um am happy
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to cool friend and she's talking about her book Shattered but not Broken. And
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so we're gonna go on with the second half of the show. And so
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tell me, um, I know that in life we said goals in life.
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As you go through each goal and each objective that you've said in life,
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how do you celebrate your wins? How do you celebrate that you can
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go on after all you've been through? How do you celebrate living through that
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trauma? Well, my celebration every day is to stay focused on the dream
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that I have, which is to one day build a shelter for a little
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girl that is basically homeless or enforced to care. That's my big dream with
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the Diamond Lotus production is to be able to build a shelter for homeless women.
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For women. Agree, I also was a part well throughout my family
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and throughout the stuff that I through my trauma, I would also was human
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trafficking. So I also would like to be able to help women that is
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part of the human trafficking and that their life can was disturb but not taken
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and if they can. Now I'm gonna ask you a very deep question,
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and it's about forgiveness. And we know that the Bible says to forgive seven
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times, but there's so some things that are so traumatic and so life shattering
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that we find it hard to forgive. Have you forgiven your molesters or do
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you still struggle with that? I'm glad you asked me that. Actually it
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was control of my life so much that God has put that on me to
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do that. So for the last couple of years, I forgo gave my
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mom, I forgave my father, I forgave all of the people that decided
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to try to trauma continue trauma and to do what they did to me.
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And they don't control my life no more. So I had to forgive them
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because I don't want to hold that no more. And in being able to
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forgive them, I was able to see other doors where I can help people
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to not let anything that hurts you physically control you your mind, body,
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and soul. And for that, my wins is to do everything that I
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dreamed about and not think of the people that told me I couldn't and not
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think of the people that told me that how they was going to take me
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out of this world and what they was going to do in the threats.
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So my wins is to be the strongest woman I ever could be and to
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be able to open up all doors or women of my work that I'm That
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is basically my dream. So that's my wins that I'm actually living daily to
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make sure that that happens. Yes, And that's that's so true that when
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we think about forgiveness, we think that it's for the other person, but
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forgiveness it's really for us that they hold when we hold unforgiveness in our hearts,
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that they had that hole over us. I remember that. I always
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tell my students I've been heavy set all my life. So when people used
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to tease me, and I feel bad about it. I was giving them
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that power. But when I would say to them first, all right,
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I know I'm fad. Now what you got, Now what you got,
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You're not hurting me anymore. And all the people who hurt me before I
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became a minister, I had to forgive those people and from the playground because
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little girl refused to grow up. She was still hurt by the things that
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had happened in her life. So that's when I realized that forgiveness isn't for
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me. I'm not forgiving them for me, but I'm giving them back to
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hurt the pain and I'm taking back my power. So I'm glad that you
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learned those lessons. Um. Where have you found your most success and doing
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and doing like um and writing your book and the Diamond Lotus the company that
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you're gonna tell us about in a minute. What is your biggest success?
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My biggest success is to be the woman that I am today, to be
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the wife, the mother, the mentor, and to see change in women
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that came from where we came. And basically back in the seventies when this
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all this trama started, like back when of course the block and crack was
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part of this. My wins is to be able to grab me back and
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every other woman for us to win us back and to stand like we're supposed
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to stand and let them know that it's not their fault. A lot of
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children who go through these things that are like if only I was good,
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if only um I was quiet, and you think that it's something that you
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did and all your life, because it's like a dog can smell when you're
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afraid of them, you become vulnerable. So in our lives that people can
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smell when we're vulnerable, and we're looking for love in all the wrong places
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because, as you said, when you never experience real love and then love
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comes along in your husband, in your children, sometimes that trauma that you've
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been through makes it so that you can't love another human being. You can't
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appreciate their love because you never had love like that before. So you don't
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know what right because we don't have that example in our homes, in our
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neighborhoods, in our communities anymore that we don't have those examples of true men
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and women. And I know that it does my heart good to say then
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for you to say that I was one of the people who inspired you.
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But other than your husband, UM, I know there was them other people
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that inspired you, Um, to be the woman that you are, to
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let that little girl grow up and you be the woman that you are.
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So who else some of those people that inspired you? Um? Oh well,
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I'm probably not able to mention their names here. But my sister friends.
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Um uh, she's basically a mom to me. Um. She mentors
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me on a daily blake basis. We actually work together. Um, she
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mentor me. She's just like you who coached me for a long time of
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how to forgive, how to tell my story, how to be able to
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show me what family looks like, what love looked like. Um, and
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just support me in those areas where I was missing at and didn't know what
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it looked like. UM. My husband, Um yeah, and my sister
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friends Okay, okay, And I know that UM. In your work environment,
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also, you had people that supported you to be the first, the
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best version of you that you can possibly be. And UM, I want
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to be the one of the first to tell you that I really celebrate you
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because I've seen the growth in you. I've seen a little bit by a
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little bit that heart eternal shell be picked away, and you learn how to
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soften up a little bit and show people the heart that you have inside of
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you. I'm so glad. Like um my motto is that I want to
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look at people's they're not there outward appearance, but they're hard. So that's
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why a lot of times I asked for the difficult children, the children that
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nobody else wants, because you don't wake up in the morning and say I
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want to go to preschool and kick some foot today. But you had some
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trauma in your life. Maybe mom and daddy was fighting, maybe there was
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I remember as we were talking on the subject of molestation. I had a
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baby in my class, three years old and we were at that time,
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and she started crying out in her sleep, and I was like, what's
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the matter, what's the matter? She was like, I don't want to
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take the black seed. I don't want to take the black sea. And
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I thought that she was talking about medication or something. And when I spoke
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with her grandmother, she had been molested by her own father and the black
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seed that what she was talking about was her father was doing ungodly things to
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a three year old. And I had to tell her that you'll never have
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to take the black seed. Here, go ahead and sleep and rest,
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and you could be a little girl here and I won't let anybody hurt you
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anything that happens that you want to share with me. But even at that
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age, at three years old, I had to be a safe place for
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a girl that was going through and her grandmother thought that just taking her out
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of that situation was enough, but I had to tell him she needs therapy,
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It's all right. And that's another thing. The Black churches are not
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a quip to deal with the people that have the mental issues from this trauma.
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They want you to get on the prayer line, and prayer does work.
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I'm not talking against prayer, you know. I love the Lord in
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prayer, but sometimes you need a little bit more than prayer. When you've
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been through some things and you you have been traumatizing, victimized that you just
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can't put a little oil on it, like slide a little oil to me,
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right, So you need someone. You need someone who knows that you
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know it's okay not to be okay, that your mental health is important.
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So can you tell me, Um, what is one thing that Um you
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would like to share with other I'm not gonna say victims. I'm gonna say
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other survivors over over other overcomers, because we're victorious and Christ Jesus, So
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what has made What would you want to say to someone who comes to you
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and tells you, after reading Shattered but Broken, I know what you're talking
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about, miss Tysy. What can I do not to feel like a victim
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anymore and not to feel traumatized anymore? What would you tell that first?
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They would have to My first thing that I started doing is looking in the
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mirror. Shattered but not broken is the shattered mirror, and which means I
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never looked in the mirror, so I didn't even know how I looked.
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People gave me comments, said how I look It meant nothing to me because
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I was shattered for so many years and I was I didn't like the girl
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in the mirror, so I never looked in the mirror. So I would
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tell them to look in the mirror and meet yourself first, and work on
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that girl first and speaking in her in her soul every day every day.
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Know how good you are every day. Don't remember the bad things that they
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said, yet you was and what you had to do and wear your past,
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and you have to just get up another thing. Like you said about
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what weight, I ate my trauma every day, which caused me to gain
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a lot of weight, have high blood pressure. Now that I'm doing is
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shred trauma, and I'm working that off as much as I'm shredding it off.
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So do you have to start in your mind to try to control that
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thing inside, and you have to go in your heart, and you have
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to love you from the head to toe and work on yourself even I'm even
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looking in the mirror, not just my face, my body because this always
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so tortured. I couldn't look at that, and I don't want to know.
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I didn't want anyone else to look at it. So working on that
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for twenty plus years, you have to work on yourself. You can't stop.
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And you need a support system of especially women that know what you're talking
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about, not reading what you're talking about, not being able to physically feel
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what you went through to have that kind of conversation, or they won't be
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able to relate. It's two different stories, right right, So can you
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tell us a little bit? I here earlier I heard you mention that you
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are the CEO of Lotus Productions. Can you tell us a little bit about
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loads production, show us where we can get shattered but not broken, where
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we can get in touch with you. What is diamond Productions all about?
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So, diamond production is basically, um, I don't know if you guys
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can see this. Right here is diamond production. This is my symbol.
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Oh sorry, right here, this is the diamond Lotus symbol, which this
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is the diamond and this is the lotus with the diamond and the loadus.
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They basically the diamond was hard and the lotus is dirt. So when you
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put those together, that's me. I feel that Diamond Lotus is going to
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be able to speak to so many women. Um and the product that I'm
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trying to produce for them to empower them, to show them how strong they
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are. Um that, and also built up this product, to build this
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shelter, to be able to give this whole trauma, it's this whole trauma
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walk of my life. To be able to bless it to to a million
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women if I can, and to have over a million women said at my
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table, and that we be able to go out and help women of this
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because no one talks about it, no one UM. These are some of
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the items. This is if no one was able to purchase this is Shattered
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but Not Broken. You can get this book all of Amazon Shadow but Not
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Broken by Tyson Winfield UM on Amazon. You can also um inbox me or
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massively or d in me UM on social media on Instagram and Facebook under Tyson
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Winfield UM. These are one of the This is the Diamond Warriors which is
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part of Diamond Lotus UM production. UM items there. These are eight UM
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women no Face, No Identity and no no Face, no Identity and No
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Voice UM. And these are all journals. These are also These are also
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products that I that just came out. These are also being based on tumblers,
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UM and other items. I have numerous items. I'm also going to
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be given a pop up soon so i can invite the old world into where
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all of this is coming from and how the story came along and what I'm
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trying to do UM. I'm also interested in trying to find some investors to
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help me build this whole UM big thing that I'm that's that's that I'm dreaming
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about UM along with me using the proceeds from Diamond Loadus production UM so that's
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basically what I'm working on. If you would like to see any of the
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items, it's on Diamonds Lotus Production dot com. It tells you what diamond
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Lotus Production means. The whole too long for me to talk about right now.
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Um it's it tells you everything about us UM and and some up and
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coming UM ideas. I mentioned them on Facebook and Instagram, so those all
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of that you can follow, because as we we're talking, there's a lot
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of things that's going on to to bring out diamond Loadus along with the website
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and pop ups and invite the mole world. That's wonderful, wonderful that you
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were Thank you for being so transparent and opening up your life to us.
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And if anybody wants to be a part of this vigim make sure that you
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invest into some of the products from diamond Loads Lotus. And thank you miss
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Icy for coming on this show again and to share what you've been through and
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how you made it over And as I said earlier, I'm really really extremely
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proud of you. I am very happy that you came on the show to
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share you with us. So thank you very much, miss Ticy, and
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thank you for our appreciate you as always my mentor, my everything. I
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am so blessed to have you in my life, and I'm so blessed to
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have you open the doors that were closed during the pandemic and prior to since
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I was seven. So I appreciate you and I can't wait for the doors
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that we're getting ready to open and where we're going. It's not just going
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to be this podcast and you're sitting right at the table with me. Queen.
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I love you, Rob, blessed said glove be to God be the
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glory. So once again, thank you for listening too to Live Again podcast
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with our guests, I see Win Phil. We will see you on the
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first and third Wednesday of every month. Please thank you for tuning in.
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Have a great great night. God bless you. See you later, Queen
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later, Queen, love you, Rob. You