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Do You Want To Ride In My Mercedes, Boy? · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: iHeart podcasts, bring you the ultimate Summer of love tree.
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  Speaker 1: This is Famously Available. It's been and I'm back with
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  Speaker 1: another episode of our new favorite show, Famously Available. Well,
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  Speaker 1: I do a deeper dive and try to kind of
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  Speaker 1: play matchmaker for some great, absolutely fantastic eligible single women.
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  Speaker 1: But before we start sending them on dates, I gotta
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  Speaker 1: get to know them so well. I want to know
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  Speaker 1: what they're looking for today. I'm joined by how I
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  Speaker 1: describe it, a cloud of joy. I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: cloud actually works there, but a bundle of joy, A
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  Speaker 1: bright light in our Bachelor World contestant from Zach Season
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  Speaker 1: and Bachelor and Paradise contestant Mercedes Northup.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for being back with us.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I'm excited.
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  Speaker 1: We're podcasting today from the Verbo Summerhouse in Lake Tahoe.
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  Speaker 2: Mercedes's beautiful.
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  Speaker 3: Oh it's stunning here. This is my first time here.
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  Speaker 3: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: It's incredible. It's an amazing place to vacation, to hang out.
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  Speaker 1: Verbo offers last minute deals for private vacation rentals.
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  Speaker 2: Did you know that? It's pretty exciting.
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  Speaker 1: On the Verbo app and website, you can get last
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  Speaker 1: minute deals that are showing travelers nearly three hundred thousand
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  Speaker 1: discount of properties. They can do this in book within
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  Speaker 1: thirty days of check in some amazing places like Tahoe obviously,
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  Speaker 1: Hilton Head, South Carolina, Cape Cod, Massachusetts, San Diego, Portavarda.
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  Speaker 1: And I think today we're having this wonderful conversation about
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  Speaker 1: future love that I believe we're going to find you, Mercedes,
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  Speaker 1: in the most beautiful house, in the most beautiful setting
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  Speaker 1: I've been in in a long time. Mercedes, Yes, play
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  Speaker 1: little game today with you. Okay, ready, You're going to
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  Speaker 1: answer these questions for yourself, not for your future.
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  Speaker 2: Guy pal.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously, we talked about you being on Zaz season. That's
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  Speaker 1: how we know you were on Bachelor in Paradise. Yep,
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  Speaker 1: you are still single. When we caught up last time,
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  Speaker 1: kind of about dating. Dating was a little bit slow.
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  Speaker 3: Yep, very still slow.
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  Speaker 2: It's kind of shocking to me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's I'll be honest, it's very confusing. So at
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  Speaker 1: Generous Coffee, the company operate. We just not on purpose
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  Speaker 1: or for whatever reason. We just hired a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: like really great twenty five to thirty year old like women.
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  Speaker 1: At the beginning, there were people I knew or friends
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  Speaker 1: of friends or you know, daughters of friends of my families.
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  Speaker 2: And all of these women were single.
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  Speaker 1: And I've sat with him so many times in the
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  Speaker 1: midst of these conversations about future love and wanting to
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  Speaker 1: find a partner, and now, you know, seven years in,
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  Speaker 1: some of them have found that. But it's shocking to
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  Speaker 1: me always that people like you are single and that
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  Speaker 1: like you don't have people knocking down your door.
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  Speaker 2: I don't get it. I really don't understand it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean I don't know. I just feel
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  Speaker 3: like the like dating today is just like awful, and
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  Speaker 3: so I kind of I wouldn't say give up, Like
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  Speaker 3: that's not the right word, because like I'm still very
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  Speaker 3: open like if someone like I've gone on random dates,
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  Speaker 3: but I feel like, I don't know, it's just like
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  Speaker 3: my generation of dating is just like insane.
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  Speaker 2: What are you running into?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I live in Nashville, Yeah, and the dating scene
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  Speaker 3: there is horrific, Like I feel like, Okay, the way
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  Speaker 3: I explain it is Nashville obviously a ton of people
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  Speaker 3: come and visit, like every single weekend there's a new
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  Speaker 3: and like girls come and they're like their best you
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  Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, like they have the new clothes
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  Speaker 3: and the out and like people are going there and
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  Speaker 3: like whatever. So the men that live there, I feel
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  Speaker 3: like they have like just this constant flow of like
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  Speaker 3: women coming in. So a lot of guys there are
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  Speaker 3: not wanting to like settle down where they're like very
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  Speaker 3: much just like having fun in there, like you know,
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  Speaker 3: going out and doing all that stuff. So I feel
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  Speaker 3: like because of that, it's really really hard to find
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  Speaker 3: someone who's like genuinely looking to settle down in Nashville.
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  Speaker 1: Does that make sense, Yeah, it does make sense. I
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  Speaker 1: want to I just kind of want to talk to
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  Speaker 1: you like a friend, Okay for a second. Yeah, Like
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  Speaker 1: do you feel like the like it's kind of the
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  Speaker 1: grass is greener? Like you're beautiful, you're sweet, you're kind,
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  Speaker 1: you're joyful. Like if the right guy who's really wanting
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  Speaker 1: to find like a companion and a person to share
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  Speaker 1: life with.
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  Speaker 2: Mm hm, who's serious about that would look at you?
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  Speaker 1: I think on any day be like goodness, I'm lucky,
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  Speaker 1: like I I found it. Yeah, but I do think
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  Speaker 1: you're you're touching something that so many people are feeling
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  Speaker 1: there are living in these cities that are transient and
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  Speaker 1: focused around the bachelor parties and the Bachelorette parties and
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  Speaker 1: the scenes downtown. That it's not like guys are looking
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  Speaker 1: at you and be like, yeah, I'm not interested. It's
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  Speaker 1: just that they're they're not slowing down for a second
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  Speaker 1: to think, Wait, I might have found the person I
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  Speaker 1: could be with, because tomorrow night I'm having fun going
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  Speaker 1: back out to some pool party and I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: be with this new girl. Yeah, and I do think
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  Speaker 1: I'm running into that as I talk to my friends
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  Speaker 1: about dating. It's it's just just like inability to just
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  Speaker 1: say life needs to slow down so I can commit
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  Speaker 1: to something.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, for sure. I definitely think that's like one
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  Speaker 3: of our biggest like downfalls in my generation in dating
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  Speaker 3: is like it's just like the fast life and especially
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  Speaker 3: social media and dating apps. Like I think it literally
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  Speaker 3: has which dating apps like they're amazing. I know, like
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  Speaker 3: people have met people and whatever. But I feel like
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  Speaker 3: because of that, it's just yeah, you just you just
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  Speaker 3: are fast like all the time, like there's something new
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  Speaker 3: to look forward to, and a lot of people don't
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  Speaker 3: like slow down and be like okay, wait, like you're amazing,
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  Speaker 3: Like I you know, like, let's like see this out.
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  Speaker 3: It's hard.
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  Speaker 1: You kind of want to, like for me, and I've
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  Speaker 1: been in that world. I mean I have, I've I've
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  Speaker 1: come off the show and we you know, I had
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  Speaker 1: the breakup and dated and it was fun and is it.
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  Speaker 1: It was exciting. And I remember telling my wife this
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  Speaker 1: right before we got married. So excited to marry my wife.
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  Speaker 1: But I was like, it's going to be really weird
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  Speaker 1: for me. I've always been known as a bachelor. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's going to be really weird to like identity shift.
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  Speaker 1: And so now that I'm on the other side of
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  Speaker 1: that years later, you almost just want to shake people
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  Speaker 1: and be like it's so much better on the other side,
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  Speaker 1: Like this sounds fun, it sounds exciting. You're gonna hit
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  Speaker 1: thirty five, it's going to be exhausting. Yeah, you don't
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  Speaker 1: want to leave your house, Like, it's so much better
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  Speaker 1: to have your partner there with you to build this
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  Speaker 1: life together. And I wish I would have done it
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  Speaker 1: ten years ago with her. I mean, we're just so
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  Speaker 1: new to it, back to the game because we do
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  Speaker 1: have some things to get to know you and kind
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  Speaker 1: of still try to figure out what this is going
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  Speaker 1: to look like, and who we're going to set you
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  Speaker 1: up with.
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  Speaker 2: We've already mentioned your.
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  Speaker 1: Name, your age yep, twenty seven, twenty seven years old.
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  Speaker 1: If you could describe your physical appearance for somebody listening, okay,
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  Speaker 1: could you describe it for us? Yes?
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  Speaker 2: I feel so creepy.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I don't have dark hair, brown eyes, five to seven.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I've never.
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  Speaker 2: Been asked what's your shoe size?
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  Speaker 3: Size nine? I got skis for feet, some big feet
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  Speaker 3: on that beautiful feet.
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  Speaker 2: I just want to be clear.
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  Speaker 1: If you look back now, obviously we know you from
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  Speaker 1: the show, and we're soon going to know you from
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  Speaker 1: a new show, this show. What's the best thing that
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  Speaker 1: happened to you from being on the show. We've already
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  Speaker 1: talked about in the past. Your friendships. Hm, So I'm
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  Speaker 1: actually gonna take that out of play here. Okay, you
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  Speaker 1: can't mention the other girls.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. The best thing that came out of it honestly
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  Speaker 3: putting myself like outside of my comfort zone. I feel
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  Speaker 3: like I'm kind of I mean, I always say I'm shy,
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  Speaker 3: and then people are like, what, Like, You're literally not shy,
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  Speaker 3: But I feel like I am kind of shy and
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  Speaker 3: going on the Bachelor and like doing these podcasts and
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  Speaker 3: all this stuff, Like it really pushes me outside of
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  Speaker 3: my comfort zone. So I think that's like the best
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  Speaker 3: thing that's come out of it, outside of the friendships.
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  Speaker 3: But like it really has pushed me. And honestly, like
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  Speaker 3: my relationship, like I've really had to like lean on
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  Speaker 3: God a lot too, so I feel like my relationship
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  Speaker 3: there has grown. So I don't know, just like growing
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  Speaker 3: as a person. I feel like the whole Bachelor everything,
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  Speaker 3: like it really pushed me to get outside and learn
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  Speaker 3: more about myself and just be better and learn things.
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  Speaker 1: I'm really interested in this. So going before you went
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  Speaker 1: on the show, could you describe yourself then?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I was. I mean I was always like in
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  Speaker 3: like the in the mix of people, right, Like I
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  Speaker 3: was never like a homebody, Like I love being a
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  Speaker 3: home but like I was always like going on and
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  Speaker 3: doing stuff. But I was always just like kind of
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  Speaker 3: like in my shell. Like I had my few people
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  Speaker 3: that I was like comfortable with and I would be
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  Speaker 3: like completely me, but then like talking a random people,
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  Speaker 3: I'd be like, oh my gosh, like hi, like and
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  Speaker 3: I would just get so in my head, and then
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  Speaker 3: I'd be like, oh my gosh, I didn't say enough
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  Speaker 3: or like all this stuff, and like now I don't
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  Speaker 3: really have that, And I feel like it's because I've
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  Speaker 3: talked to so many people that I've never met before
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  Speaker 3: and I had to like have a conversation with them
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  Speaker 3: and like hold a conversation. So yeah, I feel like
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  Speaker 3: I was just a little more quiet before the show.
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  Speaker 2: I can relate with this.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you're like me, but there was
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  Speaker 1: many of nights that even last night was a night
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  Speaker 1: and it's been a while for me. When I'm in
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  Speaker 1: social situations, I'll go to bed and lights would turn off.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be laying on my pillow and I'll run back
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  Speaker 1: through every conversation I had in that day and if
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  Speaker 1: I made somebody feel, if I said something that came
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  Speaker 1: off wrong and maybe didn't have a chance to clarify it,
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  Speaker 1: or if I said something that was hurtful, or if
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  Speaker 1: I embarrassed myself.
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  Speaker 2: And I used to do that.
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  Speaker 1: Before the show specific especially every night.
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  Speaker 2: Of my life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it would it would wreck me to where
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  Speaker 1: I became anti social because I was so much living
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  Speaker 1: in my own head.
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  Speaker 2: Can you relate with.
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  Speaker 3: That, yes, very much.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and the show kind of does push you. I
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  Speaker 1: think it's because you kind of like dive in head first,
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  Speaker 1: ye to a world where you're dealing with so many
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  Speaker 1: people that you just kind of have to say, like
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  Speaker 1: I don't know really what I'm going to say, but
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  Speaker 1: whatever I say, I'm sure, well we can clear it
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  Speaker 1: up at some point. Yeah, And it does.
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  Speaker 2: But it makes it really hard to date.
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  Speaker 1: Because you're trying to be intentional, you're trying to be intimate,
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  Speaker 1: you're trying to be vulnerable during these dates. You don't
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  Speaker 1: know how much you say or or how little to say.
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  Speaker 1: And so I for a large period of my life
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  Speaker 1: I personally stop dating. Not because I wasn't interested in
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  Speaker 1: like the idea of it, yeah, but because I was
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  Speaker 1: so insecure or I had lacked so much confidence in
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  Speaker 1: myself too doing Yeah, do you.
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  Speaker 3: Relate kinda Yeah, I feel like I always so. I
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  Speaker 3: was actually talking to my best friend the other day
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, because we were just talking because
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  Speaker 3: we're both single and we're twenty seven whatever, and I
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  Speaker 3: was like, I feel like I have like one more heartbreak,
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  Speaker 3: Like I like, I don't know why I feel that way,
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  Speaker 3: but like, I feel like I have one more heartbreak
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  Speaker 3: to Like I was like, I feel like I still
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  Speaker 3: have like things to learn about myself in relationships and stuff.
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  Speaker 3: She's like, that's so crazy, and I was like, no,
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  Speaker 3: but I really do because I think, yeah, I not.
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  Speaker 3: I wouldn't say it insecurity, but I do think there's
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  Speaker 3: things I need to grow in to, like fully like
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  Speaker 3: be in a relationship where it's like this is like endgame,
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  Speaker 3: you know, Like I think, you know, and I do
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  Speaker 3: therapy and all that stuff, but yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like, yeah, definitely, I feel like the whole
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  Speaker 3: taking a break in dating, there's definitely a reason behind it.
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  Speaker 3: I just haven't like truly figured it out yet.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna get you back in the dating. I'm assuming
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  Speaker 1: you've had a serious relationship before in the past. When
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  Speaker 1: I say serious relationship, I'm sure there's somebody that comes
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  Speaker 1: to mind. Yeah, can you describe that relationship to whatever
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  Speaker 1: depth you want?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a COVID relationship, So I feel like
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  Speaker 3: those are like a little weird in the beginning because
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  Speaker 3: you know, you were stuck in I was stuck in
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  Speaker 3: a house with him, right, And I always think I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: if it wasn't COVID, would we have dated because we
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  Speaker 3: would have been going out and meeting new people and
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  Speaker 3: doing all these things. But because it was COVID, it
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  Speaker 3: was like, okay, like we're locked in. I like you, you
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  Speaker 3: like me, Like, let's just write this whole COVID thing out.
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  Speaker 3: And I did love him. We dated for a year
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  Speaker 3: and a half and then yeah, we broke up when
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  Speaker 3: was it, like February, And it was not a great
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  Speaker 3: breakup and there's still like a lot of I don't
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  Speaker 3: have hate towards him, but he, like, I don't know,
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  Speaker 3: just not a great breakup. And so I feel like
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  Speaker 3: that kind of turned me off from dating too, because
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  Speaker 3: I was like, literally that breakup it felt like I
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  Speaker 3: was like dying like that heartbreak, Like I was literally
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  Speaker 3: like heartbroken. I wasn't eating, like I couldn't sleep. It
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  Speaker 3: was like a whole thing. And I was like, I
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  Speaker 3: never want to feel that again, Like I literally never
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  Speaker 3: want to feel that again. So that could maybe be
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  Speaker 3: a reason why I stopped dating too.
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  Speaker 2: Have breakups always been really hard for you?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I feel like I get like attached to
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  Speaker 3: and like because breakups you're like losing someone you know,
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  Speaker 3: like especially like being with them day in day out,
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  Speaker 3: like sharing everything with them, you know, like your life
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  Speaker 3: is meshed together, and then yeah, you just one day
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  Speaker 3: there it's just not that anymore, which is like really
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  Speaker 3: hard for me to like, yeah, grasp kinda. So I
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  Speaker 3: feel like, yeah, I take a breakup's pretty hard.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I really disliked that.
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  Speaker 3: No, they're literally the worst. I'm like, I wouldn't never
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  Speaker 3: wish this upon anyone.
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  Speaker 1: No, But they teach you a lot too, they do,
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  Speaker 1: And I think one of the most beautiful things looking
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  Speaker 1: back at all of this experience is the things you
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  Speaker 1: learn from these serious relationships, and especially when they end,
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  Speaker 1: you get some clarity on the other side.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So with the serious relationships that you've had, the breakups
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  Speaker 1: that you've had, the people.
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  Speaker 2: That you've been on to meet.
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  Speaker 1: The final question about you personally, if you give me
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  Speaker 1: three requirements for your significant other based on what you've
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  Speaker 1: learned so far at this point in your life, what
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  Speaker 1: are you looking for?
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  Speaker 3: Definitely someone who's family oriented. It's like my biggest thing
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  Speaker 3: because I'm like, I mean, I have a four ye
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  Speaker 3: old brother and a twelve year old brother, Like I
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  Speaker 3: need someone who can like be around family and enjoy
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  Speaker 3: family time. I think that's my biggest thing. And I
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  Speaker 3: grew up with a family that you know, we had
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  Speaker 3: Sunday lunch every Sunday together after church, so definitely family oriented.
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  Speaker 3: I would say religious is definitely a big one for me,
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  Speaker 3: or open to it or like, you know, my third
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  Speaker 3: one hmmm, I don't know. Probably someone who just is
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  Speaker 3: just like genuine, Like I just want someone who like, like,
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  Speaker 3: I love volunteering, and I want someone that's like, yeah, like,
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  Speaker 3: it's a Sunday afternoon, let's go under. I do this
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  Speaker 3: thing called under the Bridge on Sundays, and it's like
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  Speaker 3: the best thing ever. It's like with homeless people, but
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  Speaker 3: like someone who like would want to do that like
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  Speaker 3: with me. So I feel like just someone who's genuine and.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, this isn't a part of our plan. But
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  Speaker 1: I do think you get to know a lot about
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  Speaker 1: somebody by their passions, know what you spend your time doing,
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  Speaker 1: Explain more of why you chose under the Bridge as
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  Speaker 1: your volunteer shoot.
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  Speaker 3: So I got involved with it at my church. I
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  Speaker 3: go to cross Point in Nashville, and basically under the
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  Speaker 3: Bridge Ministry we go. Oh, it's like under the bridge
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  Speaker 3: and like the homeless people used to live there but
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  Speaker 3: they can't anymore. So that's like where we meet. But
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  Speaker 3: we go and we always do music, we worship together,
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  Speaker 3: and these people are literally like the best people ever,
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  Speaker 3: And like, I don't know, I fell in love with
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  Speaker 3: it because these people are like obviously don't have a lot, right,
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  Speaker 3: but they're so happy and they're just so grateful that
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  Speaker 3: like we put this on and we worship and there's
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  Speaker 3: like always like a pastor that comes in and does
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  Speaker 3: a sermon. Then we feed them food and then if
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  Speaker 3: it's cold, we'll give them blankets or socks or like
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: whatever they need. So yeah, I just feel like being
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: around those people is really like it makes my heart
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: so happy because seeing how happy they are and how
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: little they have, like it's like very eye opening, right
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: because I think sometimes especially like in this life, you
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: can kind of get caught not caught up in things,
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: but just like care about that doesn't matter, right, And
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: it's like you take a step back and you're like,
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: oh my gosh, what matters is like having a roof
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: over your head, like loving people, having a good relationship
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: with God and like I don't know, it's just I love, love,
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: love love under the Bridge. It's really like changed my
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: heart And Yeah.
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: It also is very antithetical to the fast pace that
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: we're talking about the beginning of this of the Nashville
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: scene or any of these cities scenes with the dating, Yeah,
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: and the kind of the flash and the pan nights
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: out like moments like this on a Sunday. I'm sure
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: under the Bridge it slows life down to where perspective
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: is like reintroduced to what life is really like for
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: so many people. Yeah, and allows.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: You an appreciation. And here's the cool part.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: You get to be where your feet are, Like you're
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: not thinking about a thousand other things. Yeah, you're not
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: looking around being like you know, how how do I
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: gain followers from this?
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: Ye?
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: You're just in that moment. And I think that's such
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: an like that is those moments are beautiful because you're
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: doing it for somebody else. But I also think we
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: just can't skip over that here, because it's why you
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: have the perspective of I want to find somebody, I
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: want to be intentional, I want to commit to somebody,
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: because you've taken time out of your life to do
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: that yeah. I think it's taught you more than probably
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: you even know, or that any of us could even
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: point to. We're gonna rapid fire kind of some like
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: really tough dating questions. I'm scared I might get creepy again.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'm going to kind of fire
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: him at you spend as much time on them as
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: you want. They're just to get to know you better,
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: to get to know what you're looking for a little
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: bit more. Are you willing to be the primary breadwinner?
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: Oh god, I feel like be honest, be honest.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you can't go dating in line, that's brutal.
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: No, I don't want to be the bread winner.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: Do you want to be a stay at home mom?
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: Yes, Okay, it's like my dream. Like.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: I like how Trista categorizes that. I think it's a
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: beautiful because I've seen my wife do this. She calls
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: she calls herself the household manager. Yes, which I think
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: is such like a It's a perfect description for a
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: stay at home mom. You're not just like a stay
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: at home mom, No, you're yeah, you're like managing a household.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: Yes, No, being a stay at home mom is like
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: it's a lot of work. Yeah, I'm like, yeah, he's
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: my only job.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: Would you date someone that your family does not like?
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: No? Ah, it depends, it depends, it depends, like, but probably.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: Not no, because I feel what would be that, Like,
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: give me a scenario here.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: I mean, if it's like over something stupid, like if
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: it's like, oh, I don't like the way he dresses
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: or like, I'd be like okay, like doesn't matter. But
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: if it was like genuinely like no, he treats like
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: I don't like the way he treats you, then I
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: feel like I would take that and be like okay,
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: like let me take a look at this. But if
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: it was like over something dumb, I wouldn't be like
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: it's fine, that's fair.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: Family can be tough. Yes, yeah, my daughter will never date.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna like anybody describe the like the physical,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: like when you think about your perfect person to date,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: like they're walking into the beach in Tahoe, okay, shirtless, shirtless?
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: What I like tall, I like dark hair, I like
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: dark features. And then I smile. Yeah, I feel like
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: the smiles like the biggest thing. I look at good teeth.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: They can they can wrap you up. If they just
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: give you that little grin, right, I get it, and
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: I get it. If you meet someone and they want
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: to date other people until you, guys, make it official.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: So if you're on your first date and they're like, hey,
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: we're going to define the relationship. You and I are
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: just like getting to know each other here. But you know,
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: if you see me tomorrow night out in Nashville with
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: somebody else, don't be mad?
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: Are you cool with that?
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: No? No, I would literally would. I would crash out
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: like no, you're going to respect me? Thank you?
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: Just to make things less awkward here.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: I cannot be included in the next two questions, Okay,
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: can't even think about it.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Okay. The question is of all the bachelors.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Since the beginning, who is the most handsome in your opinion?
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: Oh? Geez, the most handsome? I don't know. Why do
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: I want to say Jesse? I think Jesse is so cute.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: How can you not think Jesse and his.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: Personality is so great? Okay, I'm going with Jesse.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: He's like six.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Four pounds, solid, jawlne NFL foot ball player, your perfect male.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: I watch him on TV at times and like goodness.
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: And in person, I'm like, I'm like, how are you like?
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: He literally looks like perfect. I'm like, yeah, it's crazy.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: I'm with you.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, So now you can't have Jesse or myself.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Of all the Bachelor's, who do you think was the
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: greatest guy? Like, if we're taking physical appearance out of it,
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: matching what you're looking for in a personality, who would
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: be the greatest guy?
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: Oh? I don't know.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: I mean they all haven't sucked that bad.
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: No, No, I'm trying to like think of people the
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: great like personality. Yeah, I honestly didn't. You've really watched
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: The Bachelor before? Though.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: We do have Bob Guinea with us right now at
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: the Verbo hilarious.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I love him.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: I think Bob would love a shout out.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, all right, we're going with Bob.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, Bob has Bob has of the best personalities anybody.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: I've ever met.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: He's so funny, he's so funny, He's very sweet. Yeah,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: he's a very very very handsome man is himself.
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, Bob.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: A couple more questions here. How do you feel about
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: being set up?
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: Honestly, I'm down to try anything at this point. So
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm okay with being set up.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: And do you believe you can be in love with
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: two people at one time?
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: Oh? No, no?
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: Uh would you kiss on the first date?
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: Mmmm? Yeah kiss only?
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: Kiss only?
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I would do that. I think that's fine.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm no judgment.
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: I think it's good.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: Kiss. Okay.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: Final question for you, Okay, what is your goal? From
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: famously Available?
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: My goal is to learn more about myself obviously in dating,
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: because I feel like I've like definitely pushed it off
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: to the side and I'm definitely ready to get into
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: the dating scene again. So I feel like, yeah, learning
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: more about myself in that way and then hopefully meeting someone.
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: Never know, I meant what I said, like, no matter
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: where this spits us out, somebody's gonna be very lucky
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: they are.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: I don't know when.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: I hope you don't have another heartbreak in front of you,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: but if you do, well, you get through it. I
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: had a really bad heartbreak right before I.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: Found my wife.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Really yeah, I dated somebody kind of in between for
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: a period of time. They just weren't the right person,
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: and it hurt really bad. I think it hurt us
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: both really bad. And then my wife came in like
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: a month later to my life and I learned so much,
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: and like at the time, I felt like nothing was
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: ever gonna work. And then as I started dating my wife,
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: I was like, I know why, you know all this happened,
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: but somebody's gonna be very lucky. I can't wait to
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: just see where this goes and to hear about your
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: experiences and then also to follow your story going forward.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: I think years from now we're going to be sitting
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: here being like, how cool is this?
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: You found it?
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: So, if any guys are out there listening, or any
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: girls with brothers, cousins, friends, family members, Mercedes is a catch.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: We're lucky to have her. Thanks for coming on, Thank you.
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: I had fun.