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Food addiction you maybe need to start before you can fix your issues · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Food addiction.
• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about what I've learned about food addiction over the many years I've been addicted to food.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: In a lot of these videos I put out information talking about a time in my past that has given me perspective.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: And it seems to continue to come back that I'm blaming other people.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: Definitely not.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: Everything that I've earned, I've earned it.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_00: Everything in my past I've earned, I've earned it.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever pain and sorrow come out of poor choices and abuse and not being the best person I could be, all of those things I've earned it.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: I accept all of the fate related to my personal decisions.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: And then I also accept the fate that's attached to my personal decisions of a good nature.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I'm doing I did something right or I'm doing something correct, then I also accept those.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: But the good, if you want to title things good and if you need to title things bad, the good and the bad of it, I accept it all.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: When it came down to food addiction, I had realized that the reason why I latched on to food, latched on to alcohol, latched on to those things were because of some kind of issues that had occurred to me when I was younger.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: So that's a lot to unpack.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have those same things.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have things that are limiting your ability for moving forward.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: What I told myself is I don't know how much time I'm going to have to fix all of these things.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: But whether it's an addiction or not, whether it's something I can't live without or not, and if it is, I'm addicted to this thing, and I will then do anything to do it, to be with it, even ruining my life or the others' lives around me, that's definitely an addiction.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: How do you deal with it?
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: If anybody is that addicted to anything, especially something that is going to end up causing your demise, maybe more faster than food would.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: But food is also incredibly painful, also creates a lot of internal issues and agony.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: Overeating, being of such a weight and size that you've developed over time in your self-abuse, you might then start to impose other pain on other people in your periphery.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: And then, of course, then it all just starts to eat in on itself and destroy a lot of things that maybe you could have had some kind of control over.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: Realizing that healing, all of these things from the past, that's going to take time.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're going to go to therapy, whether you believe you need some sort of a program to help you through it.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever that is, great, and that's what you should do.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: No doubt about it.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: But for a little bit, I'm an advocate of maybe just doing the work and not trying to assign any past relevance to the reasons that you are completely addicted to whatever it is.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: We're talking about food here.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: Drugs that's different in a way, still addiction, but different.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: You have food that seems to be accepted.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: Food is the accepted thing.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: You need food to survive.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: Even I'm such a very big proponent for fasting.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: I wish there's folks out there called air breathers.
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_00: You should look this up.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: I think air eaters.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: But people that believe that they don't need any kind of sustenance and they're just going to get everything from being absorbed into their body.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: I haven't found that to be the case.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: I've done some long-term fasts.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_00: My maximum so far has been 14 days.
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_00: 14 days were just water, black coffee, uh, some minerals and electrolytes, that sort of thing.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: But 14 days nonetheless.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_00: In that time, I could have gone longer, sure, but there would have been a point where I would have died for the length of time in the fast, not so much because I'm not capable, but because my buddy, my body would have run out of energy.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: So I would have run out of fuel.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: And then you die.
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_00: How long?
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: Well, as long as I have fat on my body, at least for me, that seemed to work out fine.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: I can still fast now.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: I can I haven't ever been so lean that I would have been scared not eating for two, three, four, five days.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: Back to the addiction thing.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: Food is that accepted.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_00: If you're going to go out and eat, and what you're about to eat is going to put you fatter than you were before, because there's a point.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: Mindless eating, if you're right, devouring everything you can, a bag of chips and ice cream at the time you're watching this video, you're probably not going to absorb it.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: You need to get to that moment of clarity.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: There's going to be a time when you're clear.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if it's the first thing in the morning when you wake up.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if it's going to be in the afternoon, or maybe after you've eaten, after you're completely full and satisfied, if that's where your mind tells you you have to be in order to be great.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you've got to be in that super full feeling where your stomach and your skin is pushed out as far as it can after you've just devoured something that potentially is completely man-made.
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_00: And if it does have some kind of natural base, it's probably too been manipulated.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_00: You have that moment of clarity, and that's when you're going to have to at least have some conversation.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_00: While you might not be able to undo your past, you might not be able to solve those little instances of pain.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: For a while, if you can try to have some moment of clarity, and maybe if you're now satisfied, look at that next moment you're not going to be satisfied and see what that's going to look like.
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_00: Is it going to come because you're with people that are like-minded and everybody likes to share in their own misery and pain, and you got this big pity party going on 24-7-365 that allows you to stay in this particular environment, then maybe that environment needs to be changed in order for you to move on.
• 6:23
  SPEAKER_00: But I don't want that to become a blame mechanism where you're going to be using blame now and staying, and that provides for you to stay in your current environment that is not helping you progress towards maybe not eating those things you shouldn't be, and thereby considering yourself addicted when you can't seem to stop.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: And if it's because people leave five pals of MMs in front of you on the coffee table in the house in which you live, and you can't help but eat half of that five-pound bowl in the afternoons, and those people that are putting the MMs back in the bowl don't care how much you consume.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe a conversation should be had and say, hey, I'm trying to do this for the 50,000th time, and I really need your help.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: Can we just not have the MMs on the table?
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I like MMs, we're gonna leave them here, and that's the way it is.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: Then you're gonna have to figure out another way not to have the MMs.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you spend less time in that room, maybe you don't spend family time in that room, but eventually we're gonna have to settle on who's responsible and who's responsible for putting the MM in your mouth.
• 7:41
  SPEAKER_00: Having it on the coffee table in the five-pound bowl, great, and that's all well and good.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe they shouldn't, but it's still their choice.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_00: If people want to have legal things all around them in plenty, they're allowed to.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_00: Alcohol is completely legal.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: I don't drink alcohol.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: They talk about moderation, and again, with certain types of food and with alcohol and with drugs, I don't moderate.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: I cannot moderate.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: I am unwilling to moderate, so I choose total and complete abstinence.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_00: I choose not to do it.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: Well then, Connor, you were never addicted.
• 8:22
  SPEAKER_00: I still feel drawn.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: I still find myself walking through the liquor aisle of the supermarket.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: I still do that.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: I quit smoking a long time ago.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: Over 10, 12 years at this point.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_00: I won't lie.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: The smell of a cigarette, the smell of to burning tobacco, not bad.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't disgust me, it doesn't turn me off, it doesn't make me want to run away, or it doesn't make me want to scream out foul, I shouldn't be able to smell your secondhand smoke.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not that guy either.
• 8:56
  SPEAKER_00: But I I'd be lying if I said it turned me off.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: Am I gonna go to the store and buy a pack of cigarettes?
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: I bring it to food.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: Food has even more satisfying qualities, I believe, than tobacco.
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_00: And then you combine those two, it was wonderful in some respects.
• 9:15
  SPEAKER_00: However, it didn't help.
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: When I was looking at the weight that I was, I was 365 pounds at my fattest.
• 9:24
  SPEAKER_00: I had a 65-inch waist at my fattest, I was really in pain at my fattest.
• 9:31
  SPEAKER_00: I felt uncomfortable in my skin at my fattest.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I realized that if I wouldn't have had that serious conversation with myself, I wouldn't move forward.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_00: And the biggest part of my understanding was the fact that I'm never going to be ready.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: I'm never going to be ready to get on this journey, this consistent, dedicated journey, until I tell myself I'm going to be forgiving, nurturing, and loving, and I'm going to forgive myself for every time I screw it up.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: That was a big difference than how I did it before, because before, whenever I had gotten somewhat less fat over doing something, whether it was restricting calories, and I'll tell you what, I I must have burned off a lot of muscle back in the day.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: I remember one of the diets I was was noodles, pasta noodles, the flat noodles, and V8 juice.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: Boil the flat noodles, pour in a can of V8 juice after you strain out the water, and that was the that was the meal.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: So you eat that every two or three hours.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: There is zero protein.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: I don't even know, V8 juice.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_00: I I can't imagine there being much in there at all.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: But as far as a protein, one gram per pound of body weight, lean body mass?
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: No, no, nothing at all.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: Teenager, thinking that that was the way to torch off body fat, growing up and seeing how the world had vilified fat.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: And when it did that, then sugar was embraced.
• 11:10
  SPEAKER_00: As long as food was fat-free, it was okay.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_00: You know what fat-free is?
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_00: Candy.
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of candy that's fat-free.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: And that's amazing.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: They make good food fat-free.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: I think Intamins has fat-free desserts.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: And there's a boatload of sugar in there, but it sure is fat-free.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_00: Part of that craze is what started me on my adult obesity, the teenage years, those elementary school years, when I went from being a husky size to a size where the clothes couldn't have been modified enough, so my mom had to make them.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: That's all baggage, folks.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: Going through a lot of years married and then not.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_00: That's things that need to be contended with.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: And how did all that end up?
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: Well, it's still in process.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: It's never finished.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_00: The point is, is there's never a right time.
• 12:02
  SPEAKER_00: You're addicted to food, I get it.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: You're addicted to other things, I get it.
• 12:07
  SPEAKER_00: The world's going to tell you that moderation is okay with a lot of the things that are legal.
• 12:12
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to have that dessert every once in a while.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe for some people it is.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you don't have that luxury of making that okay.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_00: So you need to impose a long superstanding rule with yourself.
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_00: That's going to be the game changer in a way as well.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_00: You making rules for yourself and then sticking by them, not budging, telling yourself that these are things that you're going to allow to be negotiated.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: These other things, maybe drinking a drink of alcohol, maybe that's something you you will not moderate.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_00: You will just say no because your past has indicated that when you drink, it's always to excess.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: And when it's to excess, people pay the price because you're no longer a person that has a warning light on their dashboard.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have a warning light.
• 13:06
  SPEAKER_00: With the alcohol, it removes the warning light.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_00: So you're going to start doing things you shouldn't be doing.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_00: And that typically those things affect other people around you.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe alcohol and moderation isn't good.
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_00: Going to the food, maybe some types of food and moderation aren't great either.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you assign guilt to eating a particular way or amount or type of food, that guilt's going to carry over to the other people around you.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: So instead of maybe you being the victim in your life and being the one that other people are enabling to continue to be fat, maybe it's you that are the problem in these other people's lives because you can't seem to realize that there are certain things you shouldn't be eating and certain things you shouldn't be doing, and you're destroying other people around you until that boils over into a big event where you now hit an all-time low and then you have other problems.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: And the first place, unless you do this right, that you're going to turn is going to be to that thing that you're addicted to, and you're going to do some kind of self-justification talk saying how it's okay, how you're going to be fine, how you've earned it, how you've been good for this long, but people can't expect you to be good forever.
• 14:25
  SPEAKER_00: So you're going to choose this time to go down that rabbit hole and then ruin even more people's lives, then feel guilty about it, and then affect other people even more.
• 14:36
  SPEAKER_00: Food addiction, to try to figure out the mechanisms involved in your food addiction.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: You might not have enough time to do that.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: So my best advice for myself was telling me, Connor, you're not going to have time to get through all of your emotional baggage that you've been working on.
• 14:58
  SPEAKER_00: So let's go ahead and sidable that and let's go ahead and just fix what you know to be wrong.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_00: Is it good to eat pizza for you?
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_00: Probably not.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: Because although moderation looks like one piece, one pizza pizza still isn't a steak or eggs or particular types of fruit or vegetables or a combination of those nature-rich foods versus something that was heavily processed and manipulated to make it taste sweeter and give you more of a dopamine fix.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: And you name it, that's how the engineering of food has become.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: If you look at who owns big food, you'll probably be surprised to find out that in some of those cases tobacco owns big food.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_00: And remember, tobacco, well, tobacco causes issues, very addictive.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: And I was addicted to chewing tobacco, Copenhagen type stuff, and then moved into the cigarettes as well, and there were some overlapping just nicotine fixes that involve both.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: So you had that playing out for a while.
• 16:10
  SPEAKER_00: So coming from that, coming from giving up alcohol as well, coming from giving up certain types of food.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: Now, with food, I can still, although addicted, I can still moderate a little bit better because access.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: Pizza requires me to go somewhere or make a phone call and I'm embarrassed.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: So that keeps me at bay from that most times.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: If there's a certain time that I want to eat it, I will make the preparation and not do it in hiding.
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_00: I will do it in front of God, the law, and everybody and make it an event.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: I will not just do it in hiding.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: I will not ever find myself stuck in a drive-thru having autopiloted myself there and ordered half of the menu.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_00: That's not going to happen anymore.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_00: If I go to a party or an event and alcohol is a plenty, and people ask me to have a drink or even bring me a drink, I'll say no, thank you, or I'll hold it, not wanting to be impolite.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: But at the end of it, I find myself more siding with honesty than trying to be something I'm not.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_00: I will tell them, do you have anything non-alcoholic?
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_00: I don't drink, I don't put alcohol into my body.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: When I say I don't put alcohol into my body, that seems to go a little bit further than telling people you don't drink.
• 17:39
  SPEAKER_00: When you say you don't drink, it indicates there was a problem.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: And even though there was, maybe not one of those going to jail problems, but still problems associated with continuing to habitually drink every day, and in some cases, that drink was taken too far.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: There's always good days, right, where you didn't go too far and you were okay and you felt in that moment, gee, I'm in control.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_00: This is going to be fine.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_00: I can finally be one of those drinkers that drinks only every once in a while, just has a couple drinks and everything's fine.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_00: I was good at that conversation as well as the one where, God, you never drink again.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: I can't believe I did that.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_00: What a mess.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: And then waking up at three o'clock in the morning with your heart about to blow out of your chest.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_00: That's a good sign that maybe you need to rethink what you're putting into your body.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: Food addiction, yes, it's real.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, the food is made very palatable, very tasty.
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_00: They manipulate it and combine it.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_00: The apple today isn't the apple of the past.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_00: The banana today, again, not the banana of the past.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_00: And the difference is they've made it sweeter by removing the fiber through genetically updating and modifying these different fruits and vegetables.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_00: Again, the rule of thumb on most things is you can eat all the meat, fish, and eggs, certain vegetables, certain fruits, seasonal, local.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: If you're not living in a banana-rich environment, they're not growing on the tree outside, maybe that should be something you consider not eating.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_00: And grapes, let's say you live in the environment where grapes are grown, that's great, but they don't grow 365 days a year, at least not in a conventional way.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_00: That being the case, if they're growing for two or three months, maybe that's the time then you can you can decide to have them.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_00: But the rest of the year you wouldn't because they're not growing in that time.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_00: So this makes sense.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_00: Food has been built up to be such an event maker, though, that it's difficult to look at it as fuel for your body because everything we do, if if you're not eating with somebody, what are you doing?
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_00: Going for a walk, playing a board game, watching television, maybe reading a book together, maybe exploring your future together, talking about that.
• 20:00
  SPEAKER_00: But really a lot of that stuff happens around food, and sometimes in some people, food is just not you have it on a different level than other people that move through most of their day and aren't really thinking about it.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_00: I remember times in my life when it was all food.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: What are we gonna eat for breakfast?
• 20:22
  SPEAKER_00: What are we gonna have for lunch?
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: What are we gonna have for dinner?
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_00: And it was it was overly talked about, and it's difficult to not keep food on that pedestal, and it's very difficult to break the addiction when you have food in such plenty.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_00: It's only when we pull back and start to talk to ourselves, talk to ourselves and listen, give ourselves room to screw up, as we have before, but give ourselves room to forgive ourselves as well.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_00: I know that a lot of these programs, especially alcoholic ones, they want you to go make amends with people.
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_00: I am going through work and to make amends is realistically, in my view, going to be more damaging.
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe in those cases, you're gonna have to listen to your therapist, their advice, and take it upon yourself to make whatever adjustments you have to do with those people in your past.
• 21:22
  SPEAKER_00: But if you're waiting for the moment when everybody forgives you and you can be happy, and that's what you require because you've forgiven yourself, but now you need that extra kind of advice or that extra validation, I would come back to you because you're not going to get everything you want.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_00: You're not gonna be able to reverse the clock, and you're not gonna be able to make anybody move forward with their hurt that you potentially cause them before they're ready.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_00: All you can do is be available if you want to be.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_00: Hear out whatever complaint they have.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Have and adjust from there.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_00: But you still can't do that until you're willing to do just a little introspection and realize that while you might not be able to fix whatever is driving you to have this addictive way, maybe it's your parents couldn't buy enough toilet paper when you were a kid.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's your mom didn't hug you enough.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe your dad didn't talk to you nice enough.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you didn't have their support.
• 22:26
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever it is, you might not be able to fix all of it right now.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_00: But you do know that eating two pizzas in a sitting and three milkshakes and half a gallon of ice cream, eating eight or nine thousand calories a day isn't going to help you get into any better health.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_00: And I'll tell you what, that whole better health thing, that's a game changer.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: Changing your body and your physique, if you've been fat for any kind of time, you've probably forgotten what it was not to be.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: And if you were fat from a little kid, you've never known what it's like.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_00: And then when you experience that in your 50s, oh baby, you'll start doing videos.
• 23:01
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with Honor.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_00: I hope this helps guide you.
• 23:04
  SPEAKER_00: I've said a lot about food addiction.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_00: I've opened up a little bit into my world.
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_00: I know you can.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_00: You have to just decide when.
• 23:16
  SPEAKER_00: And realize that every day you continue in your bad health as a result of overfeeding yourself, be it through some kind of an addictive process, through some kind of background, history, past, whatever psychological trauma is present.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: If you're waiting till that gets fixed before you start holding on to the things that are going into your mouth and giving them a review before you stick them in and start chewing, everything like that, until you're ready to do that, you're not going to do anything.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_00: And you're going to continue on that same path that you are.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: I talk a lot about those seven or eight words people need to hear.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what your words are.
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: If you're listening to me, you probably haven't heard them yet.
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_00: Or you've already heard them, you're sticking by them, and you're just using what I'm saying as to have more in your toolbox, just in case some weak moment comes up and maybe you break away from where you're supposed to be and you eat something that you're not supposed to.
• 24:24
  SPEAKER_00: Now you have to forgive yourself or continue to go down that same path.
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_00: And because of this video, you say, you know what?
• 24:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we're not going to live this game that we've been living for a very long time, where every single day I find myself in some drive-thru, I buy 15 tacos, I buy a couple milkshakes and french fries, and then I eat it in my car as I'm hiding in the parking lot.
• 24:46
  SPEAKER_00: Then I drive to some trash can that isn't in close proximity because I don't want to see them, my fat ass, getting out of the car going and throwing trash away after I devoured three and a half pounds of food.
• 24:56
  SPEAKER_00: Then I'm going to go find another trash can.
• 24:58
  SPEAKER_00: Then I'm going to maybe open the windows of the car so I can get it all aired out just in case somebody that I'm with happens to come out and smell the food.
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_00: And then I'm going to try to clean myself up.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_00: I mean that's a lot.
• 25:09
  SPEAKER_00: That's a lot of thought that goes into doing those sorts of things.
• 25:14
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're a food addict, you know exactly what I'm talking about, just like if you're a drug addict, I'll tell you.
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_00: I haven't met that's that's why it's very beneficial for me to give this my experiences advice because I was the fat guy that was lying to everybody about what he was eating.
• 25:29
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you are too.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_00: So that's also another problem.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_00: So are you gonna fix it?
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_00: I believe the best way to fix it is by just attacking it, understanding you're gonna be hungry, understanding it's not gonna be easy, understanding that you're gonna screw it up, but also understanding that when you screw it up, you start again immediately without delay, and you move through that process, the best of your ability, and you just keep it up.
• 25:57
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor McIver, Connor with Honor, thank you for watching, and we will see you on the next one.
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_00: Take care.