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Molly Hopkins - Empowering Women Entrepreneurs · Cats & Pudding with Jennifer Dilandro

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  Speaker 3: This is the Cats in Footing Podcast, a melting pot
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  Speaker 3: of pudding and now here's Jen.
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  Speaker 4: Good afternoon, everyone, and welcome to this episode of Cats
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  Speaker 4: and Pudding. And I'm Jennifer Delandro and today I have
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  Speaker 4: a wonderful guest who is a friend, who is a peer,
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  Speaker 4: and who is a fellow woman in business, my friend
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  Speaker 4: Molly Hopkins. Look at her, She's so cute.
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  Speaker 1: I love.
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  Speaker 5: I'm excited.
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  Speaker 4: I'm excited you're here today. I'm so happy. Yeah, we
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  Speaker 4: spent like the whole weekend together. We had a great
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  Speaker 4: but a great event on Friday.
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  Speaker 5: It was incredible.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, today it was awesome.
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  Speaker 5: I'm grateful for the opportunity to be here.
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  Speaker 3: And show you how I get down, because you know,
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  Speaker 3: I've came to see you a few times when I
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  Speaker 3: come here, so I know how you do the things.
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  Speaker 3: So it's been awesome. Like I love New York. I
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  Speaker 3: knew from a very early age that at some point
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  Speaker 3: I would have a store here or be here more
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  Speaker 3: than I am because I love.
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  Speaker 2: It, and you know what, it's a it's a great place.
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  Speaker 2: It is.
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  Speaker 4: It is a great place. It's got a different vibe.
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  Speaker 4: But I also love Atlanta too, and I love the South.
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  Speaker 4: I do love the South. Molly's a Southern bow well,
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  Speaker 4: like two polo opposites, but yes, yeah, with the same.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know why we're the same because I'm like
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  Speaker 3: Southern hell. I'm really sweet, but don't mess with me.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm like the combo.
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  Speaker 2: She's not a Southern bowel, she's Southern hell.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I had to hang out with a few ladies
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  Speaker 3: from up here to really understand how to throw it
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  Speaker 3: down like that.
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  Speaker 5: So I'm changing.
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  Speaker 3: You know, you're about to hit fifty and you just
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  Speaker 3: don't tolerate the bs anymore.
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  Speaker 5: So I feel like I'm changing.
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't tolerate. I'll be fifty to fifty four.
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  Speaker 3: But my heart's always been in the right place, and
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  Speaker 3: you can't take that away from somebody who grows up
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  Speaker 3: in the South.
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  Speaker 5: That's very loving and giving me your fall.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, that part two, that's so cute.
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  Speaker 4: What since so coming to so now you're coming to
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  Speaker 4: New York a lot more now because obviously Molly was
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  Speaker 4: on very a very popular show. She was on ninety
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  Speaker 4: Day Fiance ninety Day also Paradise and.
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  Speaker 2: What other show was?
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  Speaker 3: I did singles single? You did the whole I did
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  Speaker 3: the first ninety days. It's been on singles, Yeah, and.
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  Speaker 2: You shared her own diary show right with Downe all
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  Speaker 2: of it.
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  Speaker 3: I did happily ever after I was so low, So
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  Speaker 3: clearly it wasn't happily, but it.
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  Speaker 5: Was because I wasn't where I was.
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  Speaker 4: You were happy because you were in a toxic relationship,
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  Speaker 4: so it should be happily alone ever after.
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  Speaker 5: That's that's right.
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  Speaker 4: You should have a show happy alone. That's that's gonna
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  Speaker 4: be the next premise to a show I'm going to do,
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  Speaker 4: is being happy alone, right, because everybody seems to like
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  Speaker 4: they have to be happy with somebody and not saying
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  Speaker 4: that no, that you shouldn't be with somebody.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just saying, sometimes it's okay to be alone.
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  Speaker 5: It absolutely is.
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  Speaker 3: And I think in the past year that's what I
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  Speaker 3: have done is really worked on myself being by myself,
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  Speaker 3: knowing that I can do myself alone enough and focus
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  Speaker 3: on my business and my kids. Like that's why I'm
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  Speaker 3: here now right because I want to expand brand.
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  Speaker 4: She's amazing. I was very impressed with working with her.
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  Speaker 2: She you're just You're great. She has.
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  Speaker 4: Will tell us about your company, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 4: tell you. Let's let's tell tell about your company and
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  Speaker 4: what what what your product gears towards and who would
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  Speaker 4: who would who?
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  Speaker 2: Your your target markets are well.
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  Speaker 3: Since two thousand and six, Livy Red Lingerie has been
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  Speaker 3: in you know, established business and we specialize in profiting
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  Speaker 3: for bus health. And the thing is is, like I
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  Speaker 3: think when people hear Lingerie, they think, oh.
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  Speaker 5: We just sell like all this sexy stuff.
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  Speaker 2: And like.
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  Speaker 3: It is, But when it comes to foundation first, I mean,
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  Speaker 3: it's kind of like you can't build a house without
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  Speaker 3: a firm foundation, right, You can't go about daily life
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  Speaker 3: unless you have a firm foundation, whether you found it
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  Speaker 3: through you know, religion or spirituality or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: It is.
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  Speaker 3: You have to have a good core, a good foundation,
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  Speaker 3: and so very important because it's the first thing we
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  Speaker 3: put on and.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's the best feeling when you take it off
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  Speaker 2: at night.
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  Speaker 4: Right, when I take my bra for night, that's like
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  Speaker 4: the best, Oh, free at layers, free at last, Thanks
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  Speaker 4: Lord Jesus on free at last.
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  Speaker 2: Like that's the way I feel well.
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  Speaker 5: I feel totally opposite.
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  Speaker 3: I don't take it off until I go to bed
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  Speaker 3: because my boobs will fall to the floor. I will,
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  Speaker 3: but you do feel good because it's binding on the body.
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  Speaker 4: But it does I have to say with when you
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  Speaker 4: fitted me for my bro the other day, you don't
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  Speaker 4: realize how so many women don't wear the right So
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  Speaker 4: I was.
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  Speaker 3: Brought right eight percent, they say, And it hasn't changed
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  Speaker 3: since I started.
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  Speaker 2: It's crazy.
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  Speaker 4: And the way even when my boobs were like just
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  Speaker 4: bra and it was just like I couldn't believe. I said,
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  Speaker 4: this is the way my boobies is supposed to work,
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  Speaker 4: this is how.
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  Speaker 2: They were like I just wanted to rub them.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I compare it to somebody get in their
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  Speaker 3: first apartment, right, like you don't got the furniture.
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  Speaker 2: When you know you could.
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  Speaker 3: Go into like your mansion, like, no more Section I
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  Speaker 3: eight public housing, like you gotta.
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  Speaker 2: Get right, no more get broads for me.
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  Speaker 3: Why would anybody leave their hands or their hands their
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  Speaker 3: boobs in the hands Walmart?
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  Speaker 2: Like why why do you know what?
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  Speaker 4: You know what? That's absolutely right? I mean, I war
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  Speaker 4: seriously spredser sung asses. I wear expensive bands and I'm
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  Speaker 4: putting myself in a ten dollar broll, Like why would
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  Speaker 4: I do that? Because we give a victorious duff socks.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sorry about Victoria's secret the socket, but it does
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  Speaker 4: suck because they're teenagers. They're pretty, that's it, But they're
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  Speaker 4: not for women who are full figured and.
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  Speaker 2: Have you know boot like big tits.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, Well even in America today, we eat a
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  Speaker 3: lot of chicken as a nation.
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  Speaker 5: It's packed with hormones.
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  Speaker 3: Why do you think there's thirteen year olds walking around
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  Speaker 3: looking like they're twenty two?
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  Speaker 2: That's why.
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  Speaker 3: And white girls in Georgia are having asses because they're
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  Speaker 3: eating the food and they're getting boobs.
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  Speaker 4: In butts and tall. They're like amazons. It's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know a girl that tall when I was
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  Speaker 2: in grade school.
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  Speaker 4: Like when I was at my daughter's graduation and from
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  Speaker 4: eighth grade my daughter, and my daughter's five to ten Eva,
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  Speaker 4: she's huge.
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  Speaker 2: I call the baby drift.
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  Speaker 4: She All the kids in Hull grade were all over
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  Speaker 4: five five five.
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  Speaker 2: Six, like they were huge.
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  Speaker 4: And I was like, it was like, I mean, I'm
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  Speaker 4: five five five six, but these kids were towering. I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: I can't I don't remember kids being that tall.
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  Speaker 2: There was always like maybe one.
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  Speaker 4: Or two kids were really tall, but everybody, all the
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  Speaker 4: girls were tall. And it's definitely because of the freaking hormones.
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  Speaker 4: I agree with that, but you.
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  Speaker 5: Have to think you have to go with the times.
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  Speaker 3: And then when implants, you know, started really really becoming
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  Speaker 3: a thing and all these surgeries and all this stuff,
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  Speaker 3: like you can't just have I mean, how many women
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  Speaker 3: are in the stream right now or how many were
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  Speaker 3: in that space. No one had the same thing. And
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  Speaker 3: in most commercial stores you get a choice of like
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  Speaker 3: ten to twelve sizes. We have over one hundred and fifty. Wow,
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  Speaker 3: And not everybody that wears the same size has the
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  Speaker 3: same shape. No. I always tell girls that come in
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  Speaker 3: and like Georgia, it's a very Southern slang thing. You
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  Speaker 3: cannot put forty pounds of meat in a twenty pound size.
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  Speaker 4: You cannot five, we said, Or no, you're not gonna
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  Speaker 4: put a five pound sociage in a two pound bag.
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  Speaker 2: That's what somebody looks like. Yet the case.
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  Speaker 5: Say it differently.
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  Speaker 3: But it's really all about the health of the fit.
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  Speaker 3: And that's what I focused on. And I think that's
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  Speaker 3: why you being a doctor, you being in the space
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  Speaker 3: that you're in with your business, there's there's complete synergy
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  Speaker 3: because when a woman comes in and I say, oh
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  Speaker 3: my gosh, you have to take your shirt off, the
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  Speaker 3: first thing she wants to say is I'm fat, old,
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  Speaker 3: ugly or I used to be. That's very true, And
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, this is absolutely true. Well I can help
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  Speaker 3: you with this and then we'll work on that. But
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  Speaker 3: when I align myself with women who are in business
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  Speaker 3: to be the problem solver for the things of how
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  Speaker 3: we see ourselves, there's no way we can't win. Right
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  Speaker 3: because you're an expert in what you do. I'm the goat.
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  Speaker 3: I don't care. Line me up a thousand women on
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  Speaker 3: the streets of New York they've never had a profiting
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  Speaker 3: and give me the tools, and they're all leaving better
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  Speaker 3: than they came And really seeing ourselves differently.
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  Speaker 2: And like the way you have it. Like I.
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  Speaker 4: Was behind me, she was like, get your boobs in
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  Speaker 4: and lifted my straps up. I was like, damn. And
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  Speaker 4: the way just just just fitting it right. It's just
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  Speaker 4: amazing what a difference it is. And it's just maybe
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  Speaker 4: a stitch here or a stitch there, but you have
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  Speaker 4: to have the ay.
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  Speaker 2: And that's why you're an artist, because.
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  Speaker 4: You you see that, you vision it and you and
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  Speaker 4: every woman is different.
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  Speaker 2: There's no one woman alike.
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  Speaker 4: And you can't say, well, yeah, I could take this
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  Speaker 4: bram and put this on this one.
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  Speaker 2: This one might not fit this person.
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  Speaker 4: You might have to alter it to write, you to
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  Speaker 4: adjust it to people.
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  Speaker 3: And I have a background in sewing and specialty design.
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  Speaker 3: I went to school for music. I really thought I
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  Speaker 3: was gonna lay a mega choir and you could still
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  Speaker 3: say in the shower, but it just made sense. And
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  Speaker 3: when you follow what you're calling is and you really
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  Speaker 3: listen and you pay attention, and for me it's not work.
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  Speaker 3: I love it and I have to remind myself, you
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  Speaker 3: have to go home. I got kids, I gotta do
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  Speaker 3: the laundry, I gotta go be with my family. But
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  Speaker 3: like I feel like when you're in a space, right,
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  Speaker 3: So take this show for example, Yes, everybody wants love.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't really have control over that. I didn't really
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  Speaker 3: know what was going to be shown. I really didn't
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  Speaker 3: know that my story was going to be dissected and chopped.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, you had some really, especially the last season,
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  Speaker 4: you had some issues of what was going on.
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  Speaker 2: Can we talk about that, Okay.
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  Speaker 3: But in this space where I'm at and being able
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  Speaker 3: to leverage a show for your brand, I would do
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  Speaker 3: it all over again.
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  Speaker 4: And this was the paradise paradise well where I came.
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  Speaker 2: That's I mean.
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  Speaker 3: But when you can do that and the women that
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  Speaker 3: come are like I didn't see that, but I did
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  Speaker 3: see you fit a brock and you help me, like
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  Speaker 3: that makes it all worth it, right, Because my whole
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  Speaker 3: life mission is to just do this work and I
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  Speaker 3: love it. It's not I feel like I can't fuck it up. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: Like I don't know if I can say that, but
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  Speaker 3: you can't say where you want can't fuck it up?
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  Speaker 3: I love New York because.
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  Speaker 4: Like fuck, it's like saying It's like saying daf new York,
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  Speaker 4: New y fucking New York that's it, but like it
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  Speaker 4: was so good.
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  Speaker 3: And then when I meet women like you who see
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  Speaker 3: me and how you saw me? Right, the first exchange
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  Speaker 3: I had with you was because I was coming here
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  Speaker 3: and I'm like, I want to use you for your service,
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  Speaker 3: I want botox or come to your space. And then
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  Speaker 3: over the last couple of years it's progressed.
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  Speaker 2: Didn't she But how did you found me on your own?
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  Speaker 2: Through Tom?
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  Speaker 1: Was?
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  Speaker 4: Because I do a lot of the Ninety Day Fiance cast,
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  Speaker 4: so it's like it's and and I don't know if
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  Speaker 4: it was if it was you found me from following
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  Speaker 4: me or you found me through Tom I was I
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  Speaker 4: don't remember how that somebody posted something and actually it
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  Speaker 4: could be maybe it was Ashley because I had met.
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  Speaker 5: Her in La.
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  Speaker 2: She's she's the sweetest.
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  Speaker 3: She was so kind and we connected and I think
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  Speaker 3: it was that's exactly what happened. It was because she
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  Speaker 3: sent me a message about a lip thing you guys
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  Speaker 3: were doing.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and we have a lipstick.
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  Speaker 5: Then I saw you and I just started following you.
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  Speaker 3: And it was truly because like every single day you
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  Speaker 3: post you're doing, You're hustling. I see you here, I
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  Speaker 3: see you there, I see you everywhere, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: that's who I am, you know, And I feel like
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  Speaker 3: I have changed the way I view myself and who
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  Speaker 3: I want to be around, because when you're around people
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  Speaker 3: who are powerful and hustling, like it's not easy.
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  Speaker 4: No, it's true and hard, it's not people. We had
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  Speaker 4: this discussion yesterday. I said, people only see the end result.
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  Speaker 4: They don't see the work that goes into it. When
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  Speaker 4: especially when you own a business, and you own a
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  Speaker 4: business too, and they don't see like I'm the first
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  Speaker 4: one there, I'm the last one to leave. My data
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  Speaker 4: doesn't end when I shut the door. I'm talking to people, emailing,
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  Speaker 4: you know, making deals, you know, figuring out what my
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  Speaker 4: next move is. I'm working Saturday Sundays. I sometimes I
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  Speaker 4: don't get I work fourteenth day straight and I don't stop.
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  Speaker 4: And people don't see that. They only see my rewards.
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  Speaker 4: They don't and they don't care. And people don't care
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  Speaker 4: how you got there and what you did to get there.
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  Speaker 2: They only want that.
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  Speaker 4: And then those are the people who are jealous of
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  Speaker 4: you and then don't wish the best of you and me.
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  Speaker 4: While it's like, dude, nobody stopped you from doing that
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  Speaker 4: go to school for twenty years like I did get
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  Speaker 4: four degrees. You know, you know, take a chance and
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  Speaker 4: work hard, and anybody can you know, can can achieve it.
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  Speaker 4: You can't be You can't discourage me because I took
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  Speaker 4: that chance or you took that chance. And you and
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  Speaker 4: I have the same story in that way where we
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  Speaker 4: had people that we were in business with, you know,
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  Speaker 4: didn't just the right right, which was terrible.
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  Speaker 3: And the thing is this, like I'm excited, Like if
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  Speaker 3: I have someone who comes to see me and they're
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  Speaker 3: gonna do a bra and you're there as another business,
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  Speaker 3: as a woman owned business, and the first thing they
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  Speaker 3: say is like, oh my god, I don't love this,
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  Speaker 3: or I can't lose the weight, or I don't like
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  Speaker 3: my saggy neck.
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  Speaker 2: A perfect fish.
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  Speaker 4: It's a perfect fit, especially for women, because you know what,
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  Speaker 4: we seem to always neglect ourselves. And then you have
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  Speaker 4: these women like don't do bad attacks, don't do this.
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  Speaker 4: You know what, I want to look good. I want
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  Speaker 4: to be a woman. I don't want to be a man.
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  Speaker 4: I don't want to go to work, I don't want
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  Speaker 4: to be I don't want all these new feminists want
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  Speaker 4: us to be men, And I don't want to be
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  Speaker 4: a man.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I just don't. I'm a powerful woman.
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  Speaker 4: I want to be respected, but I still want my
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  Speaker 4: door open for me, and I still want to look
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  Speaker 4: glamorous and I still want to be beautiful and I
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  Speaker 4: don't care, and I think men should. And that's the
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  Speaker 4: problem is I feel like we want to make women
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  Speaker 4: like so why we can't like talking about braslets. For example,
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  Speaker 4: people don't sit there and talk about their bra So
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  Speaker 4: I was like, we should be able to talk about
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  Speaker 4: that and say that this is something for women that
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  Speaker 4: makes them feel better and look better when clothes and
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  Speaker 4: makes them be able to stand taller and walk taller
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  Speaker 4: because they did something that makes them look better.
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  Speaker 2: And it's so true.
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  Speaker 3: You know our physical and visual yes, and even same
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  Speaker 3: sex couples that come in my store because we have
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  Speaker 3: a very open, non judgmental space, and I do you
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  Speaker 3: know binders for trans clients and I build non surgical
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  Speaker 3: breasts and I helped post cancer patients with prosthetics. Like
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: it's not just about that, but when we're coming in
• 15:21
  Speaker 3: to our right of passage as women, what's the thing
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: we talk about our tits? Getting bras the first time
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: you get a bra like I got period.
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: Yes, that's the first greatest conversation. Yeah, the greatest.
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: But yeah, but segueing into the whole thing from the show,
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: Like you said, I want to feel like a woman.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: I did not want to be seen as this emasculating bitch.
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: I'm a home girl, like I'm gonna cook, I'll clean,
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: I'll iron your freaking T shirt if you want me
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: to do.
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: They Did you feel like this show wanted you to
• 15:57
  Speaker 4: do that? Did you feel that this show wanted you
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: to be a massing to to to who you were
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: dating or who you were married.
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: Were you married to the person or what you.
• 16:06
  Speaker 5: Were No, I wasn't.
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: I don't feel like they wanted me to be that.
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: I felt like at the time in filming, I was
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: so angry. I did not want to be there working
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: on something that I knew was not gonna work. And
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: so all of the things that they showcased me stating
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: made it look like you were angry that I wanted
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: this do boy or I wanted all this stuff, And
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: I'm like, no, I want a man that can be
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: a partner, not work for me, not.
• 16:39
  Speaker 5: Me boss around, but.
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: Like somebody was gonna be who's gonna compliment you. And
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: that's what a partner is, as somebody who's gonna compliment
• 16:47
  Speaker 4: you and walk through life with you too and help
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: each other. It's not just one now, that's just not
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: just one way.
• 16:54
  Speaker 3: Well, I'm the chick that calls if I'm on my
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: way home from work and says, hey, do you need anything,
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: even though you been at home all day. I'm gonna
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: make sure that you want something inform of.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: I don't do that. I'm sorry.
• 17:05
  Speaker 5: It was about reciprocity.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: It really is just the reciprocity, Like don't ask me
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: what I want for dinner, and I'm coming forty minutes
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: to your apartment away from my home where I'm going
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: to be comfortable to spend time, and then I get
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: there and you're like, you're on your own.
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: I already know where was the because I didn't want
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: I have to watch for a season.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: What is what?
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: Who was the person that you were with? Like what
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: country were they from? Because you know, everybody knows the
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: promise of the show. Basically it's you're it's a couples
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: who they're they're dating or engaged to somebody from another
• 17:41
  Speaker 4: country and then at the end that they're going to
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: see if they're gonna wind up being together and coming
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: in with a green card and staying here as your
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: spouse basically.
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: So I initially knew nothing about this show. I did
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: not watch this show. I don't watch a lot of
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: TV like that because I'm always working, and so my
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: business partner at the time and was like, you're gonna
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: kill me. I watched the show. I love it, and
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: at the end it said, do you know somebody going
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: through the.
• 18:06
  Speaker 5: K one process?
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: And I had met Louis in the dr like three yes,
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: but it was controversial. When he was younger, I felt
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: like he could keep up with me. It was handsome,
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: you know. I loved the country.
• 18:20
  Speaker 5: It was great.
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: But I had no idea that two and a half
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: years of grooming basically would lead to him getting here
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: and turning into a complete.
• 18:29
  Speaker 5: Dick, like hateful, angry. He had someone here, so.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: Wow, it behind your back?
• 18:35
  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, he had someone here in Jersey.
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: Wow, so is he still here?
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: I have no idea. I don't know.
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: He got married right after he got here, to someone else.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: To someone else, So who is a citizen they were?
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: I just feel like that this show kind of causes
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: people to become predators. It's like it's like an open
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: forum for predators of people. They go online, they try
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: to find women and then they're like, oh, now let's
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: see you know what we could do? Now have a
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: show that you could go on TV. And honestly, I
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: was telling you this yesterday. I feel like a lot
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: of people who go on Reality of TV people I'm not.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: I'm not. I just don't want I don't want to bash.
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: Your show, but a lot of people they put fame
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: into ordinary people's hands who can't handle it, and then
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: that's a problem.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: And then on top of it.
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: You're with somebody and you're going through this like real,
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: you know, real like serious process of bringing them over
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: to become a citizen, and you're basically taking their life
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: into your hands because you are responsible for this person
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: when you're with them. That's it once. Yeah, people don't
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: understand when you marry them. And there's a lot of citizens.
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: If the's anything that they do falls on you, like.
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: You have to write, you have to pay for isn't
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: it like if.
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: They what happens is if they end up on like
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: supplemental income or get food stamps or any of these things.
• 19:54
  Speaker 5: You're responsible for ten years.
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: But I didn't have to imagine like that because I
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: had well, thank god, but you but you were never
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: married though, right.
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: We got married. Okay, So this is what happened. He
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: wanted to work, and I'm like, okay, then let's do
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: the thing.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: So it should.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: When my officiant came, I said, can we just sign
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: the paper and then go through with the wedding on
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: the for the thing, because I need this man to
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: get a job. But it wasn't about that his job,
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: unless that he wanted to get here his papers and
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: his stuff.
• 20:25
  Speaker 5: Like, it wasn't about working.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: At all, right, No, he wanted his papers.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: He was going to be a freaking prince and free
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: America is what everybody quotes. I'm like, shit, ain't free. Yeah,
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: you've got to work for some people, you know what
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: I mean. But that led into me meeting someone from here, yeah,
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: and from New York, from New York, from Brooklyn, and
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: so I didn't even talk to him like I talked
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: to him just through chatting for about seven months.
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: That's the police officer around.
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: But what happened was he said, I'm almost ready to retire.
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: And so I dated him for a couple of years, right,
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: and I would come back and forth and he would
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: come to Georgia. But as soon as he retired and
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: decided to come there, he got an apartment closer to
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: the city, because I mean, I live in the country, right,
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: so you're not going to be transplanted from there to there.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: But I really believe that he is a serial reality watcher.
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: I really believe that I was like this fantasy girl.
• 21:28
  Speaker 5: You're probably right, and it wasn't what it was and it.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: Was like it was like it was like it was
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: all it was all hype. It was like an act.
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: It was hyped up in an act.
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, you have no kids, you're not married,
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: and like when you're always like and didn't want to
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: come back home and seell people you have a place
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: you live with your mother and so does your brother,
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: Like come on, now you have an apartment?
• 21:55
  Speaker 5: No lying Like I never said about it about a guy.
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: Are you because a bad word?
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: Yeah? Now he just tells all this crazy stuff and
• 22:04
  Speaker 5: I'm like trying to get a.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: Lot of it is just to sell tell things so
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: they could get like interviews and stuff.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: Oh absolutely, But when you're with like people who have
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: nothing better to do than troll false drama and shit.
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: Like there's a lot of like ninety Day Fiance trolls.
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: They I think your show is the worst of the
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: troll terrible anybody. I have never seen people. I mean,
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: I thought, like you could put the Housewives every freaking show,
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: the kardash every show together.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: There is nothing worse than them.
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: They are horrible and they will find everything they go
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: through stuff they like and they say they in box
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: the cast members and stuff like that and tell them things.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: I have no problem with the troll, but like, what
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: kind of person would just spread false narrative when they've
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: never even asked anything right or think they know something
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: because it's very you know, unhealthy, and it's unhealthy.
• 23:07
  Speaker 5: But I get it. That's the part of taking on
• 23:08
  Speaker 5: this role, right.
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: But if I didn't have a good foundation and a
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: good constitution about myself and know that my truth, I
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: can sleep at night knowing the real, absolute truth, I
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: would probably have fallen into a deep depth. But instead
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: of eating my food, my food, my feelings, I decided.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: To do yoga and not go off the rails.
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: You know, you handled it with grace and you had
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: you had a lot of issues, and you could you
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: could go into that. I wanted you to tell them
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: a little bit of the story. But you handled it,
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: and you would. You didn't fall off the rails. It
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: didn't You didn't make it crazy. You didn't want going
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: on on social media doing ranting. You weren't doing that.
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: You were You handled it that way, and that's the
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: way it should be handled, you know. And you went
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: through a lot too, You went through a lot. It
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: wasn't like that. It wasn't a bad scene. It was
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: a bad scene, right, But I just feel like when
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: and I discussed this with you also, I think yesterday
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: and I said, you know, I think that when you're
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: on these shows, you get wrapped up in this negatively
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: and you think, and this is all you do is
• 24:12
  Speaker 4: you're involved in this negative all day long, every day,
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: and you think that everybody else knows what's going on
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: every minute of every day, and you're like, but I'm not.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: I don't know what's going on, you know, like every
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: minute of what's going on on your own show, you know,
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: But they get so wrapped up and it's like and
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: it becomes I see, it becomes obsessive, and it becomes, you.
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: Know, really almost like a cultish obsession. And I only
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: say that due to what I get on the back end,
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: or like letters, someone went out of their way to
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: send a letter to my store and call my place
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: of business to be hateful and ugly. And that's when
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, I can't do this anymore,
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: Like this is not how I live my life.
• 24:55
  Speaker 5: I am actually a.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: Very positive, productive person in society.
• 25:00
  Speaker 5: Like I don't want to do this.
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: I don't do this, Like I would rather pray for
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: you and say, hey, what's wrong?
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: Is that why you walked away?
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: Because you're just yes, because I can't do it anymore.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: And like, if I can't be the executive producer of
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: my life and I'm living every.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Day and that's the problem to tell my story.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: Then I gotta go because this is not healthy. Yeah,
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: it wasn't healthy for my kids. Tell them a little
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: bit about what happened, which is what happened with Livy,
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: because you know, my daughter has grown up in this
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: reality sector of my life prior to that, and she
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: wasn't doing that great, right, But kids go through shit
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: in your early twenties. I mean you're just figuring out
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: out having kids and working three jobs, like I got this,
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: and so this whole mental health thing and you know, drugs,
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: things that are accessible. It's like they don't know how
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: to navigate it because they're still learning, and that even
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: though they're grown, they're not grown up. They're actually twenty
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: years old. Doesn't mean you're grown. It means that you
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: coming into your adulthood. So my daughter was having a
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: little bit of a time about it, and she actually
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: really respected Kelly, and we went on trips together. But
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: there came a moment where she was in my store
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: and he thought I was there with someone else.
• 26:14
  Speaker 5: It was before Thanksgiving. This was right after he had
• 26:17
  Speaker 5: been down there.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: And this was the last one you did. This was
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: last year, right, Yes, it was.
• 26:21
  Speaker 5: In twenty two.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: Yes, and right before we filmed that. He busted up
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: in my store and he choked my kid. He choked
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: my kid, and there was a warrant after the filming.
• 26:37
  Speaker 5: But I did not want to film you.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: Actually I did not want to come. Yeah.
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: I yoked her up and put her against the wall
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: and then said it didn't happen. But the next day
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: said I'm out of here. I'm gonna go home. I'm
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: going to New York.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: Your poor daughters have been terrible.
• 26:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah, she was.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: I mean he is like two eighty five seven eight
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: hundred pounds fives, not a small guy. But we didn't
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: want want to say anything at the time because I'm like,
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: I don't need this, we don't need the press. I
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: was splitting with my partner at the time, and we
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: couldn't get access to the video, like there was a
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: lot going on, so we just didn't say anything.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: She's kind of But what happened was.
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: He wanted to go on the show for last resort,
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: I guess and try to think, and he felt like
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: he felt stupid because I was like, I'm not reconciling shit, right.
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: So when he came back, he pitched some texts because
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: she exchanged a few things with him, but he tried
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: to make it look like we were racist and this
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: what you get from going to the South. I'm like, no,
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: what we got is an abusive ass police from Brooklyn
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: and you're not telling the truth.
• 27:47
  Speaker 5: Like that's the truth.
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: So we just had to navigate for a year, my
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: daughter and it was terrible and like she was people
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: were saying she's spoiled.
• 27:56
  Speaker 5: She's rotten.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: She ruins all my relationships. He's not ruined a thing nothing.
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: I love my kid, like we go through stuff with
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: our kids.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: But I mean, you, Joda wouldn't make that off.
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: It's not like I was gonna go and make and
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: make an accusation that somebody choked.
• 28:10
  Speaker 5: Them and there was someone else there.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: Right, somebody else you know, well, you know it happens.
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: It's you know, I don't see your daughter doing that,
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: and they're not. Unless your daughter is the most screwed
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: up human being on the planet, You're not gonna do No,
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: you're not gonna accusse somebody, especially if something like that,
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: just not gonna do that. For him to even say that,
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: he looks ridiculous, and everybody knew he was lying anyone.
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: He was embarrassed, fat and lazy and you need to
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: buy bigger pants. You got a dusty ass, like she
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: said that, and then she used a word, and then
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: that's when everybody was like, oh my god, they're racist.
• 28:45
  Speaker 5: She's like, my.
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: Dad's black, he's from California, Like, what are you talking
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: about just because I'm light skinned. But it's like then
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: there comes to controversy of what are you doing or
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: what are you saying? Hell, I got talked about because
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: my youngest little girl's hair wasn't done, And I'm like,
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: do you know what it's like to have a fragmented
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: chromosome child that has sensory issues?
• 29:07
  Speaker 5: She can't brush their hair.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: There's days where you can't touch her them because they're
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: gonna scream.
• 29:11
  Speaker 5: So we pick our battle.
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: It's like, like, oh, you get your hair done all
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: the time.
• 29:15
  Speaker 5: No, I don't. I wake up and I brush it
• 29:17
  Speaker 5: and I go, I'm not bush.
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: Money, And I told you I'm I'm Sometimes I don't
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: wash it for two weeks.
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: It's it's so yeah, and it's just one of those things.
• 29:25
  Speaker 5: And now it's different, right, she can get it braided.
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: She's thirteen, she's matured some, but she's still very skittish,
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: and so all these things are not what we're allowed
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: to talk about. And I did a diaries cut it
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: off because her dad's girlfriend had gotten it permed and
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: it was so fried. And then she stuck gum in
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: her hair during COVID.
• 29:47
  Speaker 5: Who the hell was going.
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: To the beauty salon during freaking COVID? Nobody? So you know,
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: what I mean, got the clippers out and we started
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: fresh with great curls and she loved it.
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: Good fu huh.
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: But every but that's what they show, not the reason
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: behind why why And they shows in my kid's hair off. Yeah,
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: it's gonna mess it. And that's why I hate this.
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: You don't know the story really truly.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: Well, they're never going to show that. You're not going
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: to do that.
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: They're gonna everything Well, there's no ratings, there's no ratings,
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: and they're not going to get that that's what they need.
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: I mean, let's be honest that ninety Fiancee is probably
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: the biggest, biggest, biggest conglomerate in in in the in
• 30:33
  Speaker 4: the reality worlds. Right now, they have triple the viewership
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: of any any other show they do. People love to
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: watch it because there's a lot of train wrecks on
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: that show. I mean, let's let's say that. And there's
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: a lot of drama on that show. And there's a
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: lot of things like they make it look and the
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: way they edit.
• 30:49
  Speaker 5: It, it's all in editing. Almost have to watch it
• 30:53
  Speaker 5: all in editing.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: And I can say this from having double datas in
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: the BRA show we had a beautiful girl that worked
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: for us that she was young, and she was hot,
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: and she sang and she did all the things. And
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: then a couple came in to buy lingerie and the
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: way they cut it, it said she said, ooh, but
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: it wasn't against the lady.
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  Speaker 5: But the way they did it.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: And her heart was broken because she's such a beautiful
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: soul because she didn't she didn't say that bad and
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: we would never say that because it's just how it is.
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  Speaker 5: And I knew then.
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  Speaker 3: But it's okay, right because it landed me as a
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  Speaker 3: ra mega girl. I'm like, oh, and you had to
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: be made right.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Never we might have read into it. We might have
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: there was a destiny whether but this is what the
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: world led you. So that's you took something like that
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  Speaker 4: and made it positive. You know, you took the opportunity
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: and made it a positive. A lot of people don't
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: do that, you know. They think the reality TV is
• 31:56
  Speaker 4: going to be their lifelong career and they don't understand,
• 31:59
  Speaker 4: all right, well, you know, five years from now, when
• 32:01
  Speaker 4: the show's over and nobody cares about you anymore, what
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: do you got now?
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: And I feel like I in order to be a
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: good steward with my gifts and talents as well, and
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: having done a business and been up and down, been
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: all around. Like, there's been a few people that are
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: going to be on the show and they trust me,
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: so they'll say, what's going on? What should I I'm like,
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: do you have a business? Do you have a product?
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: You need to have it ready to rock? Because if
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: you're not going to use this type of situation to
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: leverage your business, then I would not do it.
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: And that is the only reason why and I we
• 32:32
  Speaker 4: talked about that too, is that I would ever do
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: a show or ever been is to you know, it's
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: supposed to help the business. That would be the only
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: reason unless because if I'm going to take time away
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: from my business to go and film and I'm losing money,
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: I'm not and then I'm getting aggravated and upset on
• 32:48
  Speaker 4: top of it, and with negativity, is it worth it?
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: It's not worth it.
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: I would like to be on a show that it's fun,
• 32:55
  Speaker 4: that it's uplifting, I said. And everything now is so negative,
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: it's so negative. There is nothing positive on any of
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: these shows. There's nothing every everything is negative. And that's
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: why I really don't watch them because it's like, oh,
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: I don't even get a good feeling anymore. Like I
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: used to the gears ago when when the reality TV
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: first came out, we used to watch it. It used
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: to be fun, like watching the dumb shows, like like,
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: what was the first one that I loved watching?
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: Like it was?
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: I mean Gotty Boys, of course I love I don't
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: know what my name? Uh, every Rollway has this thorm
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: whatever what's his name? Like, there's a dumb show? Was
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: that was lighthearted? They were fine. There was drama, but
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: it was cute like it was. It was it was happy,
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: it wasn't all The worst show was Bad Girls, And
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: now every show was like Bad Girls.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: Now every show is like Bad Girls now so funny.
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: Well, that's why I wanted to maybe do something or
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: even just do webisodes or anything that I can actually
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: have conversations with women businesses or if the catalyst was
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: there that brought them there and you just said a
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: minute ago, lift you up, let us lift you up.
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: That's like my mantra and the BRA's the catalyst that
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: gets them there.
• 34:08
  Speaker 5: But it's not about the broad all.
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: It's about something deeper that they want to talk to
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: me about and I was like, why can't we take
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: it back like how it was in the eighties where
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: there was a public service announcement at the end, or
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: are you struggling with or do you know somebody who
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: needs like your hotlines for or that? Seriously, but I
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: felt like that would be better for me because Molly
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: on a mission is really my thing and if I
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: can't help you with pelvic issues or incontinence, or you
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: want to lose weight or you do all these things,
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: then I'm aligned with other women that that's their specialty.
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: And this is the to the show, like it's got
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: to be something good.
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: I can't do it.
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: I'm not mentally Is that why I can't do it anymore?
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: I said, no, that was the to Graw. They cut
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: it with him on the show.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: Did they make it? Did they make you guys look bad?
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: As I was?
• 35:07
  Speaker 5: It just that way?
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: So I have to watch the set there to try
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: to repair a relationship. And I wasn't they knew that.
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: I went for the therapy and the keys. I'm a
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: water girl. I find solace and really connect water. I'm
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: a cancer. I'm seven to eleven.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: I wanted to be able to just have that downtime.
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: But I felt like I needed closure as well, because
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: I knew this is it.
• 35:31
  Speaker 5: I'm not doing anything after this. I know I'm not, and.
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: I thought that I had moments that would have made sense.
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: But then when I saw the first episode after a couple,
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: I was like, I can't do this anymore. To see
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: myself in that light and to be so hurt and
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: feeling awful and knowing that this is how this is
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: going down. And no one's talked about the elephant in
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: the frickin' room.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: Right now, like are getting choked? No, I got I.
• 36:02
  Speaker 5: Can't do this to my kids.
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: I can't do it to myself, and I can't do
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: it to the detriment of myself that I can't serve
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: in my business the way that God designed me to
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: serve because I can't.
• 36:13
  Speaker 5: I don't want to do this. But I am grateful.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: Also, of course for the people that knew right like
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: they know and then they call me up or I
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: get messages in the back end like how did you
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: do it?
• 36:24
  Speaker 5: I want to talk to you. I love you. I
• 36:26
  Speaker 5: saw something in you. Can you help me? So now
• 36:29
  Speaker 5: I'm like a therapist, Well, you're in a person.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: You're a good person.
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: You and you exude a good energy and you're not
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: you know, you just are. You're a good person, you know,
• 36:39
  Speaker 4: and you know I think you handle what you handled
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: with grace. Look you you you had an opportunity, you know,
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: you took it to where you wanted to take it.
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: And you know what now you're you have your business.
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: And of course I'm sure if you had an opportunity
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: to do a different type of show that would be
• 36:54
  Speaker 4: more uplifting and about you know, your your business, that
• 36:58
  Speaker 4: would be something. But the whole relationship and this whole
• 37:02
  Speaker 4: it's just too negative.
• 37:03
  Speaker 5: I don't care.
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: And it's like I don't have this master checklist, but
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: I'm not looking either. And it's like I truly never
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: thought about what is being equally yoked mean or like
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: someone that's driven and has passion. If I'm going to
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: show up to your business and help you scrub the
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: floor as a toilet, put the packages together, like do
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: whatever I want? The same person that knows that I've
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: been here for ten frickin' hours and now I really
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: need you to come and help me bang out these
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: last two hours because it's not nine to five, it's
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: more like eight to eight.
• 37:34
  Speaker 5: Some days twenty four.
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: Hours, and some days you get half a day and
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: you just feel bad by leaving because somebody may not
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: have gotten help. But like, I don't want anybody with
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: me that doesn't see that and know that this is
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: where my strengths lie. But I want a partner, a
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: real solid partner that gets it.
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: Well. Well, hopefully we'll have something up here very soon.
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, one of twin powers in the shape of a
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: big s shape of a large penis.
• 38:08
  Speaker 5: Well, there's room for that to sex sales.
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: I mean, I can make little cock sock or I'm
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: hiding a drawer and getting there and having knitters of
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: cock sock.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: I love, I love it.
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: We have to find somebody big enough to put it
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: a cock. So Molly, tell everybody way to find you.
• 38:24
  Speaker 4: Let everybody know the name of your business, where you located,
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: and give them like the next anything else coming out,
• 38:31
  Speaker 4: as far as any other shows coming out of the
• 38:33
  Speaker 4: Rose and any other episodes of anything going now.
• 38:36
  Speaker 5: I'm working on a couple of things myself.
• 38:39
  Speaker 3: It really just depends on again, if I cannot be
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: in charge of creative and production and really understand because
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: I know now.
• 38:48
  Speaker 5: I've been doing this forever. Like if it's not like this,
• 38:51
  Speaker 5: then I'm not doing it.
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: You're not compromising.
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: No, I'm at Livy Ray Lingerie.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: Nor is that cute? L I V I R.
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: Yes, and so like come, I do virtual fittings all
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: across the world.
• 39:05
  Speaker 5: I have clients everywhere, and it's my gift. It truly
• 39:09
  Speaker 5: is my gift.
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: And I'm walking in that and I'm walking in purpose
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: with purpose and to be able to facilitate a non
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: surgical breast job on women that have had cancer, whether
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: they have a full mestectomy or they just need evening
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: out from a lumpeg to me, all the things I
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: do Brosbrains and beauty for the young girls, I help
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: inner city youth. They serve on the board for Breast
• 39:33
  Speaker 3: Cancer and Georgia And like it's truly my passion, like
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: I want to lift you up and i want to
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: talk about it and be about it, and I'm not
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: gonna get distracted. That stuff was a distraction from my
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: true purpose. Like really, well, now you're gonna focus on
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: this now and I'm gonna tired to have a store
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: in New York and I'm gonna be duo back and forth.
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: I think we're doing it. That's all gonna happen. And
• 39:59
  Speaker 4: you're also on social media, Molly Hopkins, Yes, Molly Hopkins.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: And what about Twitter or I.
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: Don't do Twitter. I don't know.
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: I don't swait, I said, even though I love you,
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: I just don't there and talk about tits.
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: No, talk about tits on X.
• 40:17
  Speaker 5: I just can't.
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: I barely do TikTok like they give me the store.
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: I'm doing the thing. I'm like, I don't have time
• 40:22
  Speaker 3: for this, Like I barely can navigate that.
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: We're gonna have to make some funny tiktoks.
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: And I love social but it's too much. Sometimes it's
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: a lot of work.
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: It's a second job.
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: It's really truly that.
• 40:31
  Speaker 4: We could get somebody to help us. I'm so happy
• 40:35
  Speaker 4: that you came on the show today.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: And I'm so.
• 40:37
  Speaker 4: Happy we spent this whole weekend together and we finished
• 40:39
  Speaker 4: it off on a good note. Yeah, and she came
• 40:42
  Speaker 4: on my cuts and Pudding. I'm so happy everybody. Thank
• 40:46
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• 40:51
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• 41:13
  Speaker 4: you again, my friend you.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: That was good