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414: 3 Energetic Shifts Every Entrepreneur Must Make · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: And.
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Nicole Laino: And it's just you and I today.
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Nicole Laino: We're going to have a little chat about beliefs, shifts in mindset shifts in the way that we approach business.
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Nicole Laino: I have my top three mindset energetic shifts that.
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Nicole Laino: These are the ones that I come back to over and over again.
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Nicole Laino: We have been doing calls where we had opened doors to business by design.
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Nicole Laino: We're taking applications.
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Nicole Laino: I'm talking with a lot of people.
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Nicole Laino: I had a conversation with my husband about this.
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Nicole Laino: This comes up in business by design, with the clients that we have.
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Nicole Laino: It all comes back to these three things and these.
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Nicole Laino: If you live by these three tenants and you deepen your connection with them and you start to live by these, I don't want to call them rules, but schools of thought.
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Nicole Laino: These are growth ways of thinking.
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Nicole Laino: Three of the most powerful ways of thinking that I believe you have to have.
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Nicole Laino: If you are an entrepreneur, if you are looking to grow in this life, if you are looking to go from good to great in your life, if you are looking to uplevel your life, your business, your life, your bank account, all of the things, these three things are not an option.
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Nicole Laino: They are essential.
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Nicole Laino: And the faster you learn how to get into the energy of these, the faster you will actually see that growth.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so I'm super excited about this.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, cool.
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Nicole Laino: So let's dive into this.
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Nicole Laino: The top three mindset shifts, energetic shifts.
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Nicole Laino: I think they're more of an energy shift because it's a way of thinking.
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Nicole Laino: But if you're not really following it in your energy and in your action, then they're just words.
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Nicole Laino: They're just thoughts like everything else is.
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Nicole Laino: But it starts With a thought.
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Nicole Laino: It starts with being able to catch yourself in the opposite of this thought.
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Nicole Laino: To catch yourself in the gunk, to catch yourself in the low vibration and to shift.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, and this could apply.
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Nicole Laino: I talk about it in the context of business, but I think it can apply in our relationships.
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Nicole Laino: It can apply in all aspects of our lives.
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Nicole Laino: Because this is an energetic conversation that we're having.
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Nicole Laino: We're always having an energetic conversation with everything in our lives.
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Nicole Laino: We are speaking with our energy and we're either coming in high frequency or we're coming in low frequency.
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Nicole Laino: Low frequency us gets low frequency results, gets low frequency relationships, gets fighting and gets bickering and gets this and you get stuck in it and you feel like you're having the same conversation over and over again or the same argument over and over again.
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Nicole Laino: These three shifts will shift you from that pattern.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so let's dive into the first one.
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Nicole Laino: The first one is, you know, we can't predict life.
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Nicole Laino: We try to, you know, we put our best foot forward, we plan, we do the work, we show up.
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Nicole Laino: But sometimes things don't work out the way that we had planned.
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Nicole Laino: They don't work out in the way that we wanted.
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Nicole Laino: We set a goal and sometimes we hit it, and sometimes we don't.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes we set a goal and we don't even come close to it.
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Nicole Laino: And we wonder why.
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Nicole Laino: And it's so easy to get stuck in a space of it didn't work, oh my God, it didn't work.
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Nicole Laino: And then we start looking at the outside world and we start saying like, well, what can I do to change this?
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Nicole Laino: Or oh my God.
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Nicole Laino: Or we get stuck in this feeling of it didn't work and we stay there.
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Nicole Laino: The quicker you can shift out of disappointment, anger, frustration, you know, all of our not self themes in human design, all of those.
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Nicole Laino: And human design can really help you navigate all of this.
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Nicole Laino: That's why I feel it's a universal tool.
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Nicole Laino: Having, you know, human design as a shift of following your own alignment.
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Nicole Laino: I think on this show sort of goes without saying it doesn't need to be on the list.
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Nicole Laino: But I'll add it as a little caveat there.
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Nicole Laino: Human design is on the list.
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Nicole Laino: It's on every list.
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Nicole Laino: Because I believe that it is the most powerful tool and framework to understand yourself.
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Nicole Laino: And when you understand yourself so deeply and you start to follow your design and ask great questions of yourself based on your design, not based on the outside world and the results that you got or the questions that you or the criticism that you're getting from people.
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Nicole Laino: If you start asking questions about your own design, then you start to find the answers that are right for you.
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Nicole Laino: I talked with someone who's thinking about joining Business by Design actually this week, and were talking about her journey and were talking about her business and were talking about what she's building and she's a three line.
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Nicole Laino: And I'm asking her questions and I'm talking to her about, you know, she's afraid of making a move because things haven't worked before.
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Nicole Laino: Because things haven't, you know, she's like, oh, I, I've done that and you know, it hasn't paid off.
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Nicole Laino: And I'm like, it hasn't paid off yet.
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Nicole Laino: You haven't really been doing this that long.
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Nicole Laino: You're still learning.
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Nicole Laino: I always say that, like sometimes we can.
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Nicole Laino: And again, this is a mindset shift.
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Nicole Laino: This is the way that we look at things determines the way that we interpret our results, interpret where we are and interpret our possibility of success.
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Nicole Laino: So if you are in it's not working energy, then you're probably going to get it's not working results.
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Nicole Laino: In fact, you're probably going to quit or you're not going to invest when it feels right.
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Nicole Laino: You're not going to trust yourself.
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Nicole Laino: And if you don't trust yourself, you're not making the moves in alignment with a big future.
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Nicole Laino: You're making moves in alignment with the fact that you did something in the past and it didn't work.
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Nicole Laino: That's the shift you have to make.
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Nicole Laino: So for her, she's a three line.
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Nicole Laino: And I'm like, you really have to get over that.
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Nicole Laino: You have to get over the fact that things haven't worked in the past because they're not meant to work in the past.
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Nicole Laino: Everything isn't meant to work for you.
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Nicole Laino: You learn so much from the failures, from the things that.
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Nicole Laino: And sometimes things run their course.
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Nicole Laino: They don't work forever.
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Nicole Laino: And threes have to get over the thought that they will work forever.
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Nicole Laino: And in contrast, I have another former client who came to me.
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Nicole Laino: She's thinking about rejoining business by design because she's building something new.
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Nicole Laino: And I'm always flattered when clients come back.
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Nicole Laino: And she's a three line as well.
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Nicole Laino: And she's super resourceful because she doesn't let the fact that things have not looked perfect in her past stop her.
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Nicole Laino: She's amazingly resilient and resourceful.
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Nicole Laino: Like she has that, like, I can handle anything because so much has gone awry in my past.
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Nicole Laino: Like I'm so used to it.
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Nicole Laino: So instead of looking at it as evidence that nothing works out, she looks at it as evidence that she can handle anything.
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Nicole Laino: That's three line magic.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so I just went off on a tangent.
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Nicole Laino: I just wanted to kind of like, kind of wrap this whole thing in.
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Nicole Laino: Human design goes without saying that learning to navigate your design is essential because it builds trust in you and your process.
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Nicole Laino: That client, she kind of always intuitively knew that she was meant to be resourceful, that she was meant to be resilient, that things were going to be different for her, that she was going to be kind of like a bit of a rock star with this stuff.
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Nicole Laino: She was going to be a bit rebellious.
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Nicole Laino: It wasn't going to look like everybody else's stuff did.
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Nicole Laino: And that serves her because it's in alignment for her.
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Nicole Laino: I didn't have to teach her that, but I did reinforce it and I did give her confirmation of that and encourage it and push her to lean in even more in those ways.
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Nicole Laino: And it's had amazing effects and results for her.
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Nicole Laino: So let's dive into these three shifts that I think every entrepreneur needs to have in order to have, you know, in order to go from good to great, in order to up level their life and their business in a big way.
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Nicole Laino: The first one is shifting from this thing happened to me to this thing happened for me.
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Nicole Laino: Everything is happening for me.
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Nicole Laino: Everything is happening for me.
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Nicole Laino: Another way to look at this one is, you know, everything is rigged in my favor.
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Nicole Laino: There's nothing that's happening.
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Nicole Laino: There's nothing that happened today, yesterday, the day before.
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Nicole Laino: That didn't happen for a purpose.
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Nicole Laino: It happened for a purpose to guide you to the next thing.
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Nicole Laino: Now, whether you picked up what the universe was throwing down or not, that's open to interpretation.
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Nicole Laino: So if you look at it like everything is happening to you, that's where you get victim consciousness.
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Nicole Laino: That's where you feel like the world is against you.
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Nicole Laino: So now you are in the energy of things aren't working.
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Nicole Laino: So now you aren't taking leaps, you aren't doing the work.
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Nicole Laino: You maybe are finding that you, like, do a little bit of work and then you have to take a big gap because it took a lot of energy, because you're in the energy of what the hell am I doing this for?
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Nicole Laino: Things don't work for me.
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Nicole Laino: Investments don't pay off, people don't buy.
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Nicole Laino: My last launch was shit, so why should I show up for another one?
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Nicole Laino: When you're in the energy of that, you get that and when you're in the energy of everything is happening.
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Nicole Laino: For me, it's all rigged in my favor.
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Nicole Laino: This failed launch was a gift.
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Nicole Laino: This client leaving was a gift.
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Nicole Laino: This other unfortunate thing, a gift.
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Nicole Laino: If you get into the energy and into the frame of mind of looking at things that way, you see opportunities everywhere.
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Nicole Laino: You see opportunities everywhere.
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Nicole Laino: And that's where you don't have to take weeks off when something bad happens because you're not looking at it like that.
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Nicole Laino: You're not feeding the energy of failure.
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Nicole Laino: You're not feeding the energy of it's not working.
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Nicole Laino: You're not in alignment with that.
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Nicole Laino: You're in alignment with, okay, how can I look at this as an opportunity?
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Nicole Laino: How can I look at this as something that is helping me get what I ultimately want?
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Nicole Laino: If you can get into this mindset, you are unstoppable.
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Nicole Laino: If you can't, then you're stoppable.
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Nicole Laino: And you're probably seeing that.
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Nicole Laino: So take a pulse.
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Nicole Laino: Do you look at things like they're happening to you, or do you look at them like they're happening for you?
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Nicole Laino: Oh, the relationship fell apart.
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Nicole Laino: Well, is this serving you in some way?
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Nicole Laino: Can you look at it that way?
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Nicole Laino: I know it can be painful.
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Nicole Laino: I know it can really hurt.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not saying that it's comfortable to live like this, but it's a very different energy of looking at it through a victim consciousness.
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Nicole Laino: Victim consciousness gets.
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Nicole Laino: You get a lot of shit.
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Nicole Laino: Life's going to be hard because you believe life is hard.
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Nicole Laino: When you are a victim of circumstance.
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Nicole Laino: You feel like you have no control.
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Nicole Laino: You feel like you are struggling all the time.
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Nicole Laino: Nobody gets you.
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Nicole Laino: And you see it everywhere.
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Nicole Laino: It's the lens that you look at the world through.
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Nicole Laino: So you see struggle even where there isn't any.
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Nicole Laino: You're anticipating it.
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Nicole Laino: And when you're anticipating it, what we anticipate, we get.
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Nicole Laino: What we anticipate, we're attracting.
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Nicole Laino: And we wonder why it's not working right.
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Nicole Laino: People do a lot of things.
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Nicole Laino: They show up, they do the work.
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Nicole Laino: But if they're in the energy of it never works.
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Nicole Laino: That's what they get.
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Nicole Laino: And this is a key shift that you have to make.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so the second shift is, am I in the energy of what I want, or am I in the energy of what I don't want?
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Nicole Laino: Am I in the energy of nothing is working or am I in the energy of.
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Nicole Laino: I either get the result that I want or the lesson that I need?
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Nicole Laino: I am here for it.
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Nicole Laino: I am connecting with and calling in the thing that I want.
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Nicole Laino: And I'm getting into the energy of I get to have it.
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Nicole Laino: Am I focusing on how there are no clients coming in, or am I focusing on how good it will feel if I got one right now?
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Nicole Laino: These are exercises.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not saying that this stuff is easy.
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Nicole Laino: This is stuff that.
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Nicole Laino: This is why we have mentors, because they can remind us of these principles, and they can see when we are in it.
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Nicole Laino: They can see our blind spots.
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Nicole Laino: They can let us know that you're in this.
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Nicole Laino: You're in a funk.
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Nicole Laino: It's happening to you, not happening for you.
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Nicole Laino: Could you look at it from this perspective?
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Nicole Laino: Could you see how you're showing up here?
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Nicole Laino: Could you see how maybe you are in the energy of what you don't want right now?
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Nicole Laino: You're in your fear, and if you're in your fear, you get more of it.
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Nicole Laino: So how can we shift from that?
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Nicole Laino: Could you maybe look at it from this perspective?
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Nicole Laino: That's powerful.
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Nicole Laino: These are powerful shifts.
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Nicole Laino: And I'm not saying that this is something that if you have bills coming in and you know, they were unexpected.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not saying that's fun.
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Nicole Laino: We all have scarcity thoughts.
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Nicole Laino: At every level, there are scarcity thoughts.
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Nicole Laino: Why do you think billionaires want more?
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Nicole Laino: Because there's.
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Nicole Laino: Well, there's definitely a power grab there, but there's also.
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Nicole Laino: There's this sense of, like, their scarcity is.
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Nicole Laino: They want more because they're hoarding to a certain degree.
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Nicole Laino: They don't need more.
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Nicole Laino: There's something going on in their minds, too, where they're stockpiling and they're grabbing because they're wondering if they're running out of time.
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Nicole Laino: They're wondering if tomorrow will be different.
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Nicole Laino: But they get good at not feeding that.
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Nicole Laino: That's the game.
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Nicole Laino: Can we have a scarcity thought and not stay in it?
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Nicole Laino: Can we have a scarcity thought and not entertain it and give more energy to it?
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Nicole Laino: Okay, now the third one.
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Nicole Laino: This is one of my favorites, because this will tell you all you need to know about everything.
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Nicole Laino: My world mirrors me.
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Nicole Laino: The outside world mirrors my inner world.
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Nicole Laino: If I'm getting a result in the outside world, I could look at it and I could say, well, why did I get this?
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Nicole Laino: These all are very connected.
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Nicole Laino: They're all very much.
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Nicole Laino: These are different ways of thinking about kind of the same things.
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Nicole Laino: This one, there's a bit of more nuance to it, and I'll explain it some more.
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Nicole Laino: My world mirrors me.
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Nicole Laino: So if I get a reaction, if I get a bunch of clients saying, no, Then I could blame them and be like, why do I have all these people that are just not getting it?
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Nicole Laino: Or I could look at it and I could say, where is their uncertainty in my own energy?
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Nicole Laino: Where am I not really welcoming them in?
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Nicole Laino: I could look at my sales process.
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Nicole Laino: I could look at my sales call process.
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Nicole Laino: I could look at it and say, well, did I really ask the right questions?
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Nicole Laino: And I'm not a pushy salesperson, so I don't have this, like, terribly strict sales call process.
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Nicole Laino: I ask questions, I help people get clarity.
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Nicole Laino: I help them see the value in the program.
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Nicole Laino: I help them see what we can do for them.
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Nicole Laino: The decision's up to them, though.
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Nicole Laino: I don't like to push people or feel like I'm manipulating people in that process.
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Nicole Laino: But sometimes I can notice that maybe I'm leaning back a little bit in my own energy, and I'm not leaning in and I'm not really welcoming them in.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not really sending out that vibe.
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Nicole Laino: So if they say no, I look at myself and I say, is there something strategic that I need to change here?
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Nicole Laino: Did I not ask the right questions?
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Nicole Laino: Did I not provide the right information?
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Nicole Laino: Or is there something energetically here that maybe I wasn't in?
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Nicole Laino: Yes.
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Nicole Laino: Energy.
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Nicole Laino: I wasn't in.
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Nicole Laino: Welcome you in.
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Nicole Laino: I can help you.
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Nicole Laino: Energy.
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Nicole Laino: I wasn't in.
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Nicole Laino: You know, we look at this with, if we're getting clients who are at this lower level, and we want the higher level clients, we have to ask ourselves, well, who do I have to be a match for that person?
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Nicole Laino: Well, I have to deal with anywhere where I'm playing small.
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Nicole Laino: If that's the case.
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Nicole Laino: Right.
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Nicole Laino: Where am I playing small?
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Nicole Laino: Where I'm getting people who are playing small.
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Nicole Laino: The universe is communicating to us through our lives.
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Nicole Laino: So the other way that I say this one is, triggers are gifts.
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Nicole Laino: If you have something that is triggering you, if you have something that is not going well, if you are in a relationship and you are just continually frustrated and mad and snapping at your partner and it's over nothing, then those are triggers.
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Nicole Laino: And the kind of 3D version of looking at this would be to be like, oh, well, he's just a problem.
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Nicole Laino: I need to get a new partner.
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Nicole Laino: Or maybe I need to, like, I need to end my marriage.
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Nicole Laino: And sometimes that is the case.
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Nicole Laino: But a lot of other times it's showing us where we have a wound that hasn't been healed that we haven't paid attention to, and it's getting so bad that it's festering.
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Nicole Laino: It's pain.
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Nicole Laino: Think about it.
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Nicole Laino: If you had a wound that you ignored on your physical body and you kept walking around, and then every time you touched your leg, it hurt, and you're like, oh.
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Nicole Laino: And then you ignore it, and then it starts being like, oh, I kind of feel like a radiating pain in my leg kind of all the time.
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Nicole Laino: It's getting worse, right?
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Nicole Laino: Why?
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Nicole Laino: Because you left a wound long enough.
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Nicole Laino: You left it too long.
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Nicole Laino: Now when you walk, it hurts.
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Nicole Laino: Now it's like, even I can't even put weight on this foot, on this leg.
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Nicole Laino: Every time I do now it's like burning, and now it's like stabbing pain.
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Nicole Laino: Now it's unbearable.
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Nicole Laino: That's what happens when we get little triggers, like little things coming through that we can ignore.
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Nicole Laino: Now, in my world, we don't ignore those, because if you can pay attention to them when they're small, you can get rid of them when they're small, and then you're not dealing with them.
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Nicole Laino: And that's how we start to elevate and escalate as human beings, as entrepreneurs.
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Nicole Laino: If I can get through shadows and through triggers and deactivate those triggers, that's what we do with eft.
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Nicole Laino: That's the deconditioning work.
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Nicole Laino: If I can break those triggers and I can deactivate those, I can make you superhuman.
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Nicole Laino: I can make you somebody who goes after what they want and has a clear road ahead.
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Nicole Laino: But if you aren't willing to do that work, what happens is the pain gets more frequent, the pain gets worse.
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Nicole Laino: It becomes something you can't ignore.
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Nicole Laino: And now it's a problem.
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Nicole Laino: Now we have more work to do.
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Nicole Laino: Now there's more to dig out because the wound's infected and that happens.
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Nicole Laino: And still the same work.
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Nicole Laino: It's just we've got to dig deeper.
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Nicole Laino: Now you're going to have to wear a bandage for a while, and you're going to have to clean it.
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Nicole Laino: And the wound might get infected again.
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Nicole Laino: You might have a harder time with it.
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Nicole Laino: That's how this works.
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Nicole Laino: So if you can live your life with triggers or gifts, and it's the universe's way of showing you exactly where you need to clean the wound, this is where you need to heal.
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Nicole Laino: It's right here.
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Nicole Laino: It's around this thing.
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Nicole Laino: It's.
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Nicole Laino: It's around this topic.
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Nicole Laino: Look at the trigger.
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Nicole Laino: Can you figure out what set you off?
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Nicole Laino: I promise you, it wasn't the fact that he didn't take out the garbage.
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Nicole Laino: That's not why you lost it.
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Nicole Laino: Nobody loses it over somebody not taking out the garbage.
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Nicole Laino: It's a chain of things.
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Nicole Laino: And it has to do with the way that it makes you feel.
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Nicole Laino: If you can start to look at that.
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Nicole Laino: Because what happens is the universe is like, this is the biggest problem you have right now, and it's holding you back from more than you know.
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Nicole Laino: I need you to deal with it.
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Nicole Laino: You asked for this great thing in your life.
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Nicole Laino: You asked for more money.
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Nicole Laino: You asked for greater clients.
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Nicole Laino: You asked for more success.
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Nicole Laino: But I cannot let you have it while you have this wound.
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Nicole Laino: This thing ruins it all.
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Nicole Laino: So the universe is telling you, here, fix this, and I'll give you what you want.
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Nicole Laino: Heal this.
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Nicole Laino: And see, the doors I can open for you, they are right here.
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Nicole Laino: But this is the wall that needs to be knocked down.
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Nicole Laino: And that's what the trigger is showing you.
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Nicole Laino: Here's the wall.
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Nicole Laino: Now kick it down.
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Nicole Laino: And everything you want is on the other side of it.
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Nicole Laino: But so many of us are so afraid about what's on the other side of that wall.
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Nicole Laino: We're so afraid of what happens when we touch that wall that we don't go for it.
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Nicole Laino: And this is why entrepreneurs stay stuck.
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Nicole Laino: This is why they don't grow.
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Nicole Laino: This is why human design becomes something that's interesting but not terribly useful.
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Nicole Laino: This is why they don't get the benefits that someone like me has gotten from it.
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Nicole Laino: Because it isn't just that I understand my human design.
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Nicole Laino: It isn't just that I live by it.
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Nicole Laino: It's those things.
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Nicole Laino: But it's also that I decondition as a daily practice because I recognize that it's my conditioning.
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Nicole Laino: And triggers are just life conditioning.
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Nicole Laino: Human design shows us where we might be most apt for conditioning.
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Nicole Laino: So it's the map showing you to where you have cleanup work to do.
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Nicole Laino: So deconditioning, if you decondition every day, if you make it part of your practice, if you make it part of, like, my success is equal to the level of the amount that I'm willing to heal and to go into the dark parts of myself, turn on the lights and say, you are welcome here, too.
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Nicole Laino: All of us is required for the entrepreneurial journey.
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Nicole Laino: It isn't just part of.
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Nicole Laino: It isn't just the parts of us that we deemed acceptable or that were told were acceptable when were kids.
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Nicole Laino: We have to look at all of this, and this is what I mean.
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Nicole Laino: So an example, open ego.
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Nicole Laino: Have this with a lot of people.
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Nicole Laino: You know, they have an idea that they should make lots of money from what they do.
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Nicole Laino: And when they're not making lots of Money, they feel not successful.
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Nicole Laino: That's conditioning.
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Nicole Laino: That's not what's supposed to make you feel successful.
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Nicole Laino: And they're like, oh, but my success, Like, I feel super successful when I'm coaching people and I'm talking with them, I'm like, you have to let that be enough right now.
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Nicole Laino: What's the wound that's making you feel like this has to be this way?
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Nicole Laino: You're saying it actually feels great the other way, and it's working.
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Nicole Laino: It's your obsession with the idea that you have to make money that's probably keeping you from making money.
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Nicole Laino: If you're a projector and success is your signature, you don't question success.
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Nicole Laino: I get it that you might want more of it.
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Nicole Laino: But if you're falling into the open ego trap that says I should be making more money, I should be supporting people financially, I should be doing this, then that's exactly the thing that will keep you from getting that.
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Nicole Laino: Instead, you follow the success and then the money comes.
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Nicole Laino: It can't be the come from.
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Nicole Laino: That's a trigger.
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Nicole Laino: That is a warning.
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Nicole Laino: That is a trap.
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Nicole Laino: Human design shows you where your traps are and you get better at not falling in them.
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Nicole Laino: All right, I'm going to leave this one here.
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Nicole Laino: I hope you enjoyed this.
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Nicole Laino: I hope that this inspired you to take some aligned action, to see things differently, to maybe see where you are falling into one of these traps.
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Nicole Laino: And I hope that it helps you turn it around and make different choices.
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Nicole Laino: So I appreciate you.
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Nicole Laino: Remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakeable human.
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Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design.
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Nicole Laino: We'll see you there.
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Nicole Laino: Sam.