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The Power of Retreats and Intentional Self-Care · Candid Coach Conversations

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  Hello and welcome to Candid Coaches Conversations.
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  I am Coach Mai Lee and with me is Coach Shunta' good morning,
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  Shunta'
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  Good morning.
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  And today we have taken over the podcast.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  as you can tell, Kimberly is ~ has allowed us to hold the mic for this week
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  and we're really excited and ~ Shunta' how has your week been?
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  My week has been phenomenal because I have a countdown to my trip.
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  I'm going on a one-week vacation to Puerto Rico.
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  So I'm so excited.
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  Yeah.
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  It's a well deserved vacation.
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  And it's a family vacation like all four of us and that has never happened.
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  So I'm super excited about that.
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  that's wonderful. ~ and
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  Yeah.
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  you said Puerto Rico? ~
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  Yes, ma'am. Thirty two people.
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  Whoa, wow. you mean your whole family?
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  Well, it's the four of us. So my husband,
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  my daughter, and my son. That's what I really mean.
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  However, yes, it includes what,
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  twenty-eight more people? So my
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  Well.
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  sister ~ is turning 40. And so her goal was 40 for 40.
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  So
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  ~
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  she came up short, but I don't think she's too disappointed with 32 people going
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  to Puerto Rico with her.
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  Wow,
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  that's a monumentous event. That's amazing.
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  Yeah, it's gonna be interesting.
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  Like
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  Yeah.
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  twenty something people are gonna be in one house together for a week.
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  Wow.
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  Exciting.
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  Okay, bold.
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  Yeah, and gosh I've heard so much ~ so many good things about ~ Puerto Rico,
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  so I hope you all really enjoy.
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  Get some sun, sand
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  Thank you. Thank you.
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  and beach in for me.
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  Yes. How's your week been?
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  it's been it's been actually really good.
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  I don't know if you can hear my dog.
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  She is very excited about her week.
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  Ha ha ha ha.
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  yeah, solid, solid week, solid things going on.
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  yeah, I think I need to put a vacation on the calendar though,
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  because yeah, I'll take some of that energy.
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  Please do. I think that
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  vacations are important, staycations are important.
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  so even a one night out and just away from your home environment,
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  going and renting a room and just giving yourself the freedom to not
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  do anything is so important.
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  Yeah, that's a great idea. Yeah,
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  I might do an I've been talking to some friends on doing a staycation into Austin.
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  Yep.
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  Mm-hmm.
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  So I might figure out what that looks like.
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  Yeah.
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  Yes. Keep us posted.
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  Yeah, absolutely. fill up fill up my own cup.
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  we, you and I were talking, we were looking at the calendar and
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  that our next retreat, planting seeds for 2027,
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  was coming up. And
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  Yay!
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  and then we I would love to know like how in the world,
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  what was your journey on being a part of retreats and how did that come about?
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  Wow, that is a very, very great question.
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  so it's twofold, right? So sit back and bear with me.
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  back and enjoy. We like a good story.
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  Yes. Okay, so when I started my coaching career,
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  well, prior to starting my coaching career,
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  I always believed that I was built for greatness.
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  However, I didn't know exactly what that looked like,
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  who that was going to have me around,
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  or where I was gonna go with that.
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  I would even say younger, I was like,
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  I want to be a motivational speaker.
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  Not knowing exactly what that meant,
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  what that entailed, what was that,
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  I
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  was just like.
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  I want to speak to people and help them,
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  right? And so then I didn't know that they had conventions,
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  they had conferences, they had workshops and things until I met Kimberly.
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  And so ~ I was invited to Growth.
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  They went there, enjoyed it, loved it,
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  hired her as my coach. And when I hired her as my coach,
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  whoa boogie.
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  Yeah, like when you hire a coach,
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  get ready to go. Full throttle.
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  I don't
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  Yes.
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  think I've slowed down since. Life has happened and I'm still moving,
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  shaking, going, doing things. Like,
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  whatever you tell your coach, she's gonna push you through to that.
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  And it's great because I have mentioned,
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  like, I think I want to become a motivational speaker.
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  And so she was like, great. I was in my ~ internship for becoming
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  a licensed professional counselor,
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  and so we had supervision hours that we had to get every week.
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  So she was like, You're gonna start presenting to supervision or suggested.
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  I was like, okay, and not even knowing what to present,
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  what to say to people. I mean,
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  some were old, some were younger,
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  some were experienced, more experienced than me.
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  I'm still trying to get the counseling thing underway.
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  And now you want me to go talk to people and speak to people?
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  Like shy, scared, nervous, like what?
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  However, when you hire a coach,
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  you do it, right? You hired them to push you,
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  you hired them to be your accountability partner.
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  So I was like, okay, let's go,
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  let's do it. So did that. loved it.
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  And I mean, it really just seems like it's been a ripple effect ever since.
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  Like I spoke at my mom's ~ where she
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  was a homeless resident.
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  So she was a resident at a homeless shelter.
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  And then she worked her way up and became the kitchen manager.
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  And so she was a kitchen manager there and they asked me to speak there.
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  So that was such an honor and such a privilege to be able to go and speak
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  to the women that poured into my mom.
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  or the place that poured into my mom and others.
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  So love that. And then I believe Kimberly ~ hosted
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  a when life throw you limits make lemonade
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  Mm.
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  retreat. And I went there and I was like,
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  well this is a little bit more closer to home than Growth Day.
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  Cause you know, when I went to Growth Day I said I want to be on that stage one day.
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  And then when Kimberly did her
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  Retreat, I was like, ooh, so I,
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  Shunta' never done this before,
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  made a bold declaration that retreat that I would be speaking at the next retreat.
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  okay, hold on. In what way did you make this bold declaration?
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  ~
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  I said it out loud. I stated
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  it out loud at the retreat that I was going to be speaking at the next retreat.
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  Okay.
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  Yes! I cannot believe I did that.
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  ~
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  Wow, like
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  with your whole chest. Heck yeah.
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  Yes! And
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  I mean I I yeah, when you when you speak things and when you write things down,
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  it's like the magic just starts to happen.
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  And so I don't even know if Kimberly planned on doing more retreats or
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  how did that even come about? But ~ like we just sat and like one,
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  two, three, four, five. I spoke at five of her
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  Last retreats.
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  Yeah you have.
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  Yeah, you have put that into existence.
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  Yeah.
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  And
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  isn't that phenomenal? Like it's been a growth curve.
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  It's been a whole learning experience,
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  trying to get over my nerves. I don't even know if I'm ever over
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  my nerves because each experience is different.
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  However, you know, my prayer is still the same that I may say something that impact
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  and make a difference in someone's life to help change their ripple look
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  at their generations.
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  Yeah, that's amazing. That's absolutely tremendous.
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  And what a journey.
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  Thank you. That's my story. I love it.
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  Like what a journey. And
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  like as I hear you share kind of your pathway,
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  I think it's so fabulous 'cause I've heard,
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  FYI, it's been on our podcast in the past,
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  how you have
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  figure it out like, hey, I want to speak this into existence.
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  And you started with speaking at supervision.
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  I actually just listened to that podcast.
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  Ha ha
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  and then ~ I've heard Kimberly's side of like she's kind of always had this
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  in her heart to to do retreats.
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  And you know, her and her husband have been working on it ~ and figuring
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  out how they do so and how they create that,
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  right? And the lemons, what was it?
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  When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
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  Yes, which was her first like curated retreat that she hosted,
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  which was amazing. I've seen the pictures,
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  I've heard the stories, I was not able to attend.
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  and then how so I it was twofold.
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  I went to a retreat. I was ~ brand new to kind of the Houston area
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  and I was getting myself settled and I was doing supervision as well and
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  I went to my own retreat. it was phenomenal.
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  I loved it. And I came out of it and I was like,
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  gosh, I how do I figure out how to do this?
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  Like I wanna do that, like that's what I'd like to do.
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  I think there's a way to do it.
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  and with my military background,
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  I've worked with veterans who have gone to retreats as well.
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  And the like what it what people walk away with
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  Right, and I'm talking like big infantry men,
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  right, who like like may like scoff at the idea of feelings,
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  like they go to retreats and like come out of it
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  with just greater insight, greater growth and like greater connection
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  for themselves and I was like,
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  that's awesome. Like how do I be a part of that?
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  And what I heard was like all three of us plus the concept plus everyone else who's
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  a part of the Live Life Fully community have kind of come together
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  and it just gained momentum and how we it all kind of got built up.
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  Because we all had this individual desire and how
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  Yeah.
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  I think life, universe, God put us all in contact with one another to like grow this
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  forward and now we're about to host our fifth one.
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  Like,
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  Yes. Yes.
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  what is that? It's amaz
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  Amazing. ~
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  my gosh.
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  Yeah, I think it's tremendous.
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  Ha ha ha.
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  And so we've done we've done renewal.
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  We started with renewal.
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  Mm-hmm.
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  we've done planting seeds, and that was last year's planting seeds.
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  So this year we are doing planting seeds for 2027.
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  Yes.
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  We did
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  No yeah.
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  New Year, New You. and
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  Yeah.
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  what were you for that?
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  New Year, New You was when was that one?
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  Was that in April? Yes.
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  That was the one in January.
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  Okay, so in April I was the butterfly.
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  And I talked about boundaries,
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  For spring. Yes.
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  yes.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah. So that's a segue on what Mai Lee is talking about
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  of how I I don't know, I guess I I got this bug to dress up.
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  So my first ever speaking engagement was at the homeless shelter.
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  And I wanted to not only make an impact with my words,
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  but how I came into the room.
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  ~ what I provided the attendees with.
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  So not only do I give did I give like excuse me information for them
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  to workshop and take away with,
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  but I wanted to just be the whole package,
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  right? And so my very first time I dressed up as captain,
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  captain of a plane, an airplane.
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  And my whole thing I had
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  ~ passports because you were about to take a flight and it was self-love flight
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  101 and you were going to love going to learn how to love yourself and
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  so so many time as women as men as whomever entrepreneurs just anyone
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  we give give give we take care of others we do for others we do so much
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  for others that we forget to take care of ourselves and
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  And so that's truly my message that I wanted to hone in to those women
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  in the shelter, to anyone that has come to our retreats,
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  that you are important and that you matter.
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  And that if you want to live your life and take care of others,
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  great. However, if you don't start taking care of yourself first,
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  you won't be there to help and take care of others.
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  And I've seen that in so many different avenues of my life where you're
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  the caretaker or you're the
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  The mom or you're the wife or you're the provo the provider,
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  you're this person to everyone that your health is goes last,
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  and your self-care and self-love just goes last.
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  And it's like, I don't have time for that.
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  I don't have time for that. Well,
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  your your body and your illness will start making you have time to start taking care
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  of you. And sometimes by then it's too late.
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  So I said I'd just say that I love dressing up.
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  And so with that one thing.
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  I got the bug and I loved it. So the very first time I dressed up as
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  the captain of your plane, captain of your self-love flight.
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  And then the second one, I was the sun goddess,
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  and it's still, you know, sun goddess of self-love.
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  butterfly, when I dressed up as the butterfly,
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  it was more about setting healthy boundaries,
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  which is still self love, right?
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  You have love and you have respect for yourself,
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  and so therefore you set those healthy boundaries.
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  And then my most recent, well,
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  okay.
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  For Live Like Fully, my most recent one was I dressed up as the boxer.
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  And that one was me versus me.
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  And that one was really dear to my heart because a lot of times it's so easy
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  for us to blame our past, blame bosses,
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  blame the world on our problems,
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  blame the world on what we're going through.
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  However, as long as you're giving someone else control over your life.
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  you're not able to change your life.
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  The moment you take accountability and control of your life,
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  your problems, your situation,
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  whatever the case may be, the moment you have the ability to change it.
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  And so me versus me was just explaining that you got to get out of your own way,
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  take accountability of your actions,
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  and make your life the life that you want to live with intention and purpose.
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  And then we have a separate side,
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  the collective, where I dressed up as the lighthouse keeper.
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  And I love that as well. I love the meaning that it had for I like
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  all of them actually. It's really fun and creative ~ to actually play the role,
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  dress up as the role, and I go all out.
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  So if you haven't been to one,
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  I encourage you to come because my dress ups are a surprise.
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  No one really knows until the day of
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  They
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  are. I think we're gonna have to like start like keeping it quiet
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  and then maybe doing like little peak peak previews and having people guess.
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  Ha ha ha ha.
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  I think
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  would be so great. ~
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  Yes.
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  and so yeah, let's so you do create this whole package and this whole experience
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  and I love how you kind of envision that from the get go to figure out how they get
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  a a very real holistic kind of concept.
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  and so at our retreats, right,
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  I I'd love to share like what a an attendee would be able to experience
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  and get so they they understand what they're signing up for and what they're walking
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  into. And so if you could say
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  If you could pick th three main ideas,
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  right, that an attendee would get ~ by signing up and coming to a Live Life Fully
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  retreat, what would that be?
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  Three main ideas that an attendee would get from a retreat.
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  Okay. one, I think our main purpose is reset,
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  right? It's the reset, refocus,
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  and recharge because like I like I just say it really,
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  like
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  We're so busy taking care of everyone else that we forget to take care of ourselves.
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  And so when I say reset, I we just started implementing.
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  So you're getting a sneak peek if you listen to this podcast.
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  silent retreats. And I attended a silent retreat before and mine was a day,
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  like eight hours, silent retreat.
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  Full day. Right.
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  Yes, silence, like
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  Not even talking to tell you it's food time.
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  and to be honest, it was really amazing.
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  It was good. I've never really completed a coloring sheet like
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  the adult coloring books. It took me three hours,
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  however, I did it. filled the time.
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  However,
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  Yeah.
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  the time that I was able to sit with myself was beautiful.
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  Like to try to just quiet my brain.
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  Like how many times like we can't even cry out our brains at night because we're on,
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  we're thinking. And so just to reset and say,
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  you know what, it's time to quiet your brain,
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  it's time to relax, and it's just time to focus on you.
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  It's time to pour into yourself.
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  You have three to six speakers.
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  So you have different perspectives or people telling you that you matter,
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  take care of you, and who are you,
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  right?
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  Trying to find your identity. We have somatic exercises.
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  so we do some different things.
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  So it's not just it and it's a workshop.
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  Like we want you to gain some knowledge about you and what does that look like?
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  Who are you? And how can you grow?
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  How can you get to the next level?
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  So essentially it's a coaching session with four to six different perspectives
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  of coaching you through.
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  an event like and you can come to every retreat and get free coaching.
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  And we've had we've had a few guests who have come to multiple retreats,
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  who have also shared that they get something different out of it each time.
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  Yeah.
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  Yes, yes. And
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  we will coach you through some things.
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  Yep. I like this. Reset, refocus,
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  and recharge.
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  Yes.
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  And so
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  we would love to invite you to Planting Seeds for 2027.
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  It's going to prepare you, right,
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  and how we want to move into our new year.
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  And we will do it three months ahead of schedule so we can use that time wisely
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  and get ourselves set up for success and what success looks like.
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  And Shante, what day is that?
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  October the third.
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  so you can go to our website and check that out and sign up.
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  Sign up now because we still have early bird special occurring and prices
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  are still at ~ early bird discounts.
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  So absolutely check that out.
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  Yes, llfuly dot com backslash retreats.
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  Very very exciting. And we're excited to see you there.
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  So let's figure out what continued re you said continued reset,
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  refocus, and recharge looked like.
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  I love this.
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  Yes.
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  Okay, wonderful. Shunta' this has been so lovely.
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  It has. Thank you for taking over podcast.
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  Yeah,
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  we might have to we might have to try this again.
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  Okay, outstanding. All right all we
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  I agree.
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  wish you a great week and we will ~ talk to you later.
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  Bye.