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- Wayne Sutton: Have you ever noticed that we have more than ever before? Yet people seem less happy than ever before. Think about it. We have smartphones that can access nearly all the information in the world. We order food without leaving the couch. We can connect with people across the globe in seconds. We have comforts that kings and queens couldn't dream of just a few years ago. Yet anxiety is rising, depression is rising, loneliness is rising. And many people wake up every single day with the sense of something is missing. How can that be? today we're gonna talk about why so many people are miserable despite having more than ever and what we can do about it. Welcome to another episode of Prosper with Wayne. I believe that one of the biggest lies in our culture tells us is if I can just get a little more, I'll finally be happy. A little more money, a little more followers, a little more success, a little more recognition, more stuff. And the problem is that happiness was never designed to be found in accumulation because every time we reach the next level, our expectations rise with it. The car we once dreamed about becomes normal. The income we prayed about becomes expected. The house we wanted becomes ordinary. Psychologists call it hedonic adaption. The Bible describes a thousand years ago when King Solomon, one of the wealthiest men to ever live, pursued pleasure, possessions, accomplishments, and status, only to discover they couldn't satisfy the deepest needs of the human heart. The problem is, my good friend David Jones says, we always move the goalpost. But the truth is, external success can improve your circumstances. But it cannot automatically create that internal piece. Another reason people struggle today is comparison. For most of human history, people compared themselves to their neighbors, literally like their next door neighbors. Today we compare ourselves to millions of carefully edited highlight reels online. Someone's always wealthier, someone's always more fit, more successful, someone's always someone is. Always on a better vacation. And comparison creates a game you can never win. And the more you focus on what others have, the less grateful you become for what you've already been given. And then there's purpose. Many people are surviving but not truly living. They're working jobs they don't enjoy, following routines they don't love, chasing goals they inherited from someone else. But success without purpose often leads to emptiness because deep down we weren't designed to merely consume. We were designed to contribute. To grow, to serve, to love, to make a difference. I've learned that some of the happiest people I know aren't necessarily the wealthiest people I know. They're the people who have meaning, who get up in the morning and knowing who they are, people who have relationships that matter, people who are growing, people who love, people who have hope, and hope changes everything. When you have hope, even difficult seasons become bearable. You believe tomorrow could be better than today. You believe your best days may still be ahead of you. You believe your current circumstance Doesn't have the final word. So if you're feeling stuck, unhappy, or dissatisfied right now, I want to challenge you to do three simple things. All right. So as I tell people when I'm coaching them in business, grab a pen. Okay. Go hit the pause button wherever you're consuming this and go grab a pen. I want you to write these three things down. First, write down the thing you're grateful for. Write down the things you're grateful for. Not someday, not when things improve, today. And listen, here's the beautiful part. If you'll do this daily and try not to repeat what you said yesterday. Like today, if I do gratitude, this is what I call gratitude priming. I learned that from Tony Robbins. If I do gratitude priming, every day I'm coming with three things. Now, my family, my relationship with God, my home, my car, all these things can matter, right? But if I've said my car yesterday, maybe today I've got to get a little more outside of the box. Maybe it's a good cup of coffee. I'm thankful for a cup of coffee. I love this coffee mug. So what am I thankful for? And it can be that small. In fact, I recommend find something small. I'm thankful for, you know, whatever, breakfast. I'm for, you know, investment account, whatever it may be. Find something you're thankful for. And when you're thankful for it, really focus on it. Focus on how it came into your life and again how Is a blessing to you, even if other people may not see it. We're not comparing. Listen, we're not going to compare to other people, nor will we be compared. Second, spend less time comparing. This is my second point. And more time creating. Create values, create memories, create opportunities, create relationships. Let me say that again. Create value. Go and serve someone. Create memories. Me, my wife, and my four daughters are about to go on a vacation. I'm like, great, we can go do this, we can do that. But what memories do we want to build? What memories do we want to have? Create opportunities. Create relationships. That one's key. Be intentional about going out and starting relationships. Recognizing is this person worth a relationship? Should they be in your circle or not? Some people are not going to be in your circle. But I think we lose out on value, on opportunities, on memories. Because we don't create relationships. Okay, and number three, ask yourself this question. What would make today meaningful? What would make today meaningful? Not perfect, not extraordinary. What would make it meaningful? And if you ask yourself that every day, what would make today meaningful? How will I make today meaningful for myself, my family, for someone else? That one question can begin changing the direction of your life. Now, I believe one reason hope is so powerful is because we were created for more than positions accomplishments. I own this, I accomplished this. There's a deeper purpose available to every one of us. A purpose bigger than our career, bigger than our bank accounts, bigger than our circumstances. When we connect with that purpose, we begin finding the peace and fulfillment that success alone will never provide. So I want to thank you again for joining me on Prosper With Wayne If this episode encouraged you, Share it with a friend who needs a little more hope today. And I'm gonna ask you to go back and listen to it again. And maybe even again. Take notes. Grab the pen. Write down the three areas. And remember this. your happiness isn't waiting for you somewhere in the future. It begins with the choices you make today. I'll see you on the next episode.