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My friend cannot respect my boundaries! · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Nevea. Hello, Hi, Hi, I heard you just call this.
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  Speaker 1: You need advice.
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  Speaker 2: I have two different problems. So Number one, I have
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  Speaker 2: been friends who I don't know what to do.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know whether I should stopping.
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  Speaker 2: Her friend or set boundaries with her, because every time
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  Speaker 2: I say anything to.
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  Speaker 3: A guy, talk to a guy, call a guy hot,
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  Speaker 3: or date anybody, she sweeps in and talks to them
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  Speaker 3: and tries to date them and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't know what to do.
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  Speaker 3: About that problem.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, what's the other problem.
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  Speaker 2: The other problem is I have this problem with my mom.
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  Speaker 3: Or we're arguing over my little sister, and so my
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  Speaker 3: little sister is allergic to bananas, but my little my
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  Speaker 3: mom thinks that she could just like mash the bananas
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  Speaker 3: up and like still feed them to her and it
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  Speaker 3: will make her stop being allergic.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I would think you have to consult the doctor
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  Speaker 1: for that one. I don't know that. I don't think
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  Speaker 1: you want our advice on that one. But the other one,
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  Speaker 1: the friend, I think I think that's a very common situation.
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  Speaker 1: Have you, guys Kyle Payne been through something like that? Oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I've been there, And give her some advice.
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  Speaker 4: Well, in your situation. I, well, I guess if I'm
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  Speaker 4: putting yourself in my shoes, like what happened with me.
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  Speaker 4: I had a best friend for a really long time,
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  Speaker 4: like from the time we were like in the fourth
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  Speaker 4: grade up until we were in high school, and she
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  Speaker 4: was very much like that to the point where like
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  Speaker 4: I was like, this is kind of weird. My mom
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  Speaker 4: would point it out and I would be like, no,
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  Speaker 4: like it's nothing, Like it's nothing. And then she ended
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  Speaker 4: up sleeping with my boyfriend. So at that point I
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  Speaker 4: was kind of like, oh wait, everyone was right, and
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  Speaker 4: I put a shit these I should have put these
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  Speaker 4: boundaries up. But I a'll now boil it down now
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  Speaker 4: to like my age, where I'm like, okay, she had
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  Speaker 4: daddy issues for one for two she I mean it
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  Speaker 4: got to a point where I was like, do you
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  Speaker 4: want to be me? Like why are you trying to
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  Speaker 4: date every single person that I'm talking to? But I
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  Speaker 4: think I think that's completely is She never really had
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  Speaker 4: like long term friends or anything like that. And to me,
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  Speaker 4: if I went back, I would just keep, you know,
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  Speaker 4: a healthy distance because he had so much fun. But
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  Speaker 4: then again, like she stabbed me in the back, tell.
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  Speaker 1: Us about your friend. Does she have a good relationship
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  Speaker 1: with her dad?
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  Speaker 3: No, her dad's in prison right now. Well, and I
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  Speaker 3: feel like i've like i've like tried to set boundaries.
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  Speaker 3: Like I was dating with one guy and she kept
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  Speaker 3: like flirting with him, and when she came over to
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  Speaker 3: my house and he was there, she would like wear
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  Speaker 3: kind of revealing stuff, and I like would ask her
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  Speaker 3: not to and like I would put it really respectfully,
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  Speaker 3: and she would always be like, oh, I'm just having fun,
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  Speaker 3: Like I don't even notice he's there when she spends
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  Speaker 3: like the whole time flirting with him.
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  Speaker 1: That I would like to have. Why is your dad
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  Speaker 1: in prison? What do you do?
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  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure he did drugs and so he ended
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  Speaker 3: up stealing from his mom and pulled a gun on her.
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  Speaker 4: That stuff, And plus like girls, I mean sometimes like
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  Speaker 4: when they can be so men centric, it's like, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: there's probably a lot of like internal healing that has
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  Speaker 4: to happen, and then you know, maybe you could revisit
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  Speaker 4: that friendship. But if I was you, I would not
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  Speaker 4: be friends with them.
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  Speaker 1: I would run. Yeah, Yeah, did we give you good advice?
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  Speaker 1: Did that help you at all?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Actually, I think I'm gonna maybe try and set boundaries
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  Speaker 3: like one more time, like really clear boundaries, and if
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  Speaker 3: she doesn't follow them, I think I'm going to tell
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  Speaker 3: her we need a break.
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  Speaker 1: Where are you right now?
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  Speaker 3: We are walking? I'm walking right now?
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  Speaker 1: Who's we?
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  Speaker 3: Me and my boyfriend?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? So does your friend try to hit on your boyfriend? Yeah? Dang?
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  Speaker 1: What do you say about it? What does he notice it?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: What's your boyfriend's name?
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  Speaker 3: Kyle Burgess ran.
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  Speaker 1: Like away from you because you thought I was gonna
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  Speaker 1: put him on the phone? Or does something happen? Is
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  Speaker 1: he going to pull a child out of a burning car?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, he doesn't he's not very confrontational.
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  Speaker 1: Oh boy wanted to talk to though, he doesn't want
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  Speaker 1: to talk to us, that's why he ran away. Talk
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  Speaker 1: to him, put him on the phone. Can we talk
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  Speaker 1: to him? Or no?
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  Speaker 3: Hold on, let me see. Do you want to talk
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  Speaker 3: to them? She shook his head and cut running.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's all right, Wow, that's I think that's interesting though.
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  Speaker 1: Why would you want to talk because your friend's hitting
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  Speaker 1: on him and he's probably.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and you need to cave your man really close
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  Speaker 4: and her really far away?
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  Speaker 1: You tell me you better keep running Kyle, keep running.
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  Speaker 3: He's set boundaries with her too. He's like entirely asked
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  Speaker 3: me to just stop inviting her over when he's over him,
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  Speaker 3: feel entirely so uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 1: How far away? How far away is your boyfriend?
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  Speaker 3: For me?
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  Speaker 1: Right now? He's running like he's far away, Like he's
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  Speaker 1: far away.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really far.
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  Speaker 1: Chase him. Let me hear you run right after, Kyle,
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  Speaker 1: don't you run from me? All right? Hey, thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for listening calling the show.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you. I I've been listening for like five
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  Speaker 3: years now. Basically I've been listening for like a while.
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  Speaker 2: I've texted.
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  Speaker 3: I've texted off my grandma phone a couple of times,
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  Speaker 3: and I texted and I was telling you guys about
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  Speaker 3: how like we love drama. So every morning when I'm
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  Speaker 3: in the car with her, because I spend every morning
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  Speaker 3: with her, but every morning when I'm in the car
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  Speaker 3: with her, we're always listening to the show. And she'll
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  Speaker 3: always tell me to whenever there's drama.
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  Speaker 1: Like how old are you?
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  Speaker 3: I'm sixteen?
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  Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you for listening. Yeah, tell Kyle
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  Speaker 1: to keep running.
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  Speaker 2: He's slowly walking back now, all right, thanks for jumping
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  Speaker 2: on there have a great day you too, B