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Married or Single · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas. Dear mamas, what's
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  Speaker 1: your recommendation to young women, should they get married and
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  Speaker 1: have kids or stay single and focused on their career. Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's ask out American mamas.
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  Speaker 2: Alma Mama, she said.
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  Speaker 1: And Jodi us Now we're American mamas turned out Ofville
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  Speaker 1: and Kimberly Burlason. Well, look, I mean you guys, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: y'all got went to school, you got kids, you got well,
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  Speaker 1: you got married, then you had kids. Your kids have
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  Speaker 1: grown up. Some of your kids are having kids now
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  Speaker 1: after they've gotten married as well. I don't is this
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  Speaker 1: really an either or question, you know, I mean, do
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  Speaker 1: you have to do you have to focus just on
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  Speaker 1: your family or focus just on kids. I mean, you've
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  Speaker 1: got you've got some kids that are doing both right.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, We've got plenty of friends. You know, I
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  Speaker 3: can see where just because I am a married mom,
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  Speaker 3: you know, a married woman with children and grandchildren and
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  Speaker 3: great child, it's the most fulfilling role. It's the it's
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  Speaker 3: the greatest thing I've ever done. You talk to a
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  Speaker 3: lot of women who have jobs and they have a family, right,
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  Speaker 3: if you ask them which one is the most fulfilling
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  Speaker 3: What part of your life matters the most to you?
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  Speaker 3: Every single ninety nine point nine will say the most
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  Speaker 3: fulfilling thing in my life is being a mom raising
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  Speaker 3: those children. They are everything to me. It doesn't even
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  Speaker 3: compare to my job. But you know, I was looking
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  Speaker 3: at this. This was on X and there's a poll out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, there's there's a poll out. This is a survey
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  Speaker 1: done by General Social Survey from Family Studies two twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty two, and it shows that women with children
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  Speaker 1: are by far the happiest out of compared to women
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  Speaker 1: with no children, married women with no children versus single
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  Speaker 1: women with no children and single women with children. By
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  Speaker 1: far the happiest group was married women with children.
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  Speaker 2: But what was interesting about that survey, that article was
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  Speaker 2: that when they get older, it seems to go into
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  Speaker 2: a decline. And one thing is that I saw this
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  Speaker 2: real this man talking after I saw this article, and
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  Speaker 2: he said that in every woman and every man there
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  Speaker 2: is a animus in an anima. So there is a
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  Speaker 2: masculine side and a feminine side, Okay, in both, all right?
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  Speaker 2: And he said, we both we carry both energies. And
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  Speaker 2: he said, but the thing is we carry these energies
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  Speaker 2: at different times. So when a woman is young, that's
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  Speaker 2: when she's like nurturing and very feminine and very giving.
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  Speaker 2: That's when a man is very masculine, very self centered,
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  Speaker 2: very focused, driven, that kind of thing. But then it
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  Speaker 2: flip flops. So then when a woman becomes older, she's done.
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  Speaker 2: She like, she takes on that more masculine side. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: she no longer is very given, very but then the
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  Speaker 2: man takes on the feminine side where he's looking for
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  Speaker 2: that nurture, loving feminine side. And that's why they think
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  Speaker 2: that's where midlife crisis comes. And when you know, in
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  Speaker 2: many cases men have looked for younger women and they
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  Speaker 2: said that the object is to find that synergy where
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  Speaker 2: a woman recognizes that self, herself and that and that
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  Speaker 2: when they're older, she gives more of a feminine side
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  Speaker 2: instead of pulling out her swords. Basically what this guy said.
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  Speaker 2: And I understood that. I understood that.
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  Speaker 1: Oh really I.
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  Speaker 2: Understood because now at this part of my marriage, I'm like, no,
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  Speaker 2: I'm tired of always deciding where we're going, what we're doing.
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  Speaker 2: If you want to have fun, you tell me where
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  Speaker 2: we're going and what we're doing. And if you you know,
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  Speaker 2: I feel myself becoming more that way, and I realize, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 2: you can't do that. You need to be more, you know,
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  Speaker 2: be like you used to be when you were younger.
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  Speaker 3: Well it makes me think that, you know, I think
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  Speaker 3: about one of our aunts, you know, Betty, that she
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  Speaker 3: was the subservient, you know, she kept the peace, and
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  Speaker 3: you know he was the you know a lot. And
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  Speaker 3: we're of a family where the man is the leader.
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  Speaker 3: We like it like that, that's how we believe it's
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  Speaker 3: supposed to be. There are times where it's taken too
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  Speaker 3: far and the woman just has to kind of go
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  Speaker 3: along with it, and you go stand up for yourself. Well,
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  Speaker 3: then as the age the kids are out of the house,
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  Speaker 3: they don't have to keep the peace for the kids.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of times that's what happens. You don't want
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  Speaker 3: to argue and cause strife when the children are little.
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  Speaker 3: When they're growing up, you take those arguments to the
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  Speaker 3: bedroom most of the time. Kevin and I did not.
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  Speaker 3: We just did it right out there with everybody. But
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  Speaker 3: I think that's probably what you're talking about. But what
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  Speaker 3: I thought was so interesting is in that same piece,
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  Speaker 3: there was a man who I thought, this is interesting.
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  Speaker 3: He said, these women were sold a bag of goods
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  Speaker 3: by the feminists, who promised them that being treated no
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  Speaker 3: differently than men and having their own careers untethered from
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  Speaker 3: marriage and children would free them from what they were
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  Speaker 3: told so and that was terrible. It didn't work out
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  Speaker 3: for them. I do believe that is a lot of it,
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  Speaker 3: a lot of women that grew up in that era,
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  Speaker 3: especially because now we're learning that the feminists only stand
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  Speaker 3: up for certain women of one political side.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, they don't seem to stand out for married women.
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  Speaker 3: It's not true unless you've got the tennis player Navratilova, right,
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  Speaker 3: or the one that wrote the book, Harry Potter. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: jk Rill, you've got those true feminists who are all
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  Speaker 3: about women. But for the majority, they were sold a
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  Speaker 3: bag of goods. They were disparaging something that was christ
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  Speaker 3: centered as family, saying you don't need a man, you
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  Speaker 3: don't need to I can't even imagine the work that
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  Speaker 3: it takes to try to be a single mom or
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  Speaker 3: single dad, you know, raising children when you have both parties,
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  Speaker 3: that makes it easier, more fulfilling.
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  Speaker 1: The pole says, no group of women's happier than married
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  Speaker 1: moms with children, and no group of women is less
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  Speaker 1: happy than single, childless women. This is what the pool says,
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  Speaker 1: I like to ask American Mom is a question good
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  Speaker 1: click on the ass the Mama's Button. Terry Netville, Kimberly
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  Speaker 1: gre listen. Thank you so much, Thank you,