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Mental Health Matters Renew Your Mind, Renew Your Life - EP-021 - Happy is the man... · Mental Health Matters - Overcomers.tv

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  Speaker 2: It's time to overcome.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks for tuning in to another episode of Mental Health Matters,
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  Speaker 3: because it does. Right, Cody?
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  Speaker 4: Right, Rick?
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  Speaker 3: It does. A lot of things matter, but the way
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  Speaker 3: you're thinking, stinking thinking is not good. So we're going
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  Speaker 3: to do a checkup from the neck up again today,
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  Speaker 3: episode 21. And we're going to be talking a little
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  Speaker 3: bit about that word happy, you know, and yeah. So
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  Speaker 3: Cody and also Rick, we talked a little bit before
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  Speaker 3: going online, Jeremiah 17, seven says happy as a man.
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  Speaker 3: that trusts in the Lord. Rick, you want to set
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  Speaker 3: up this topic for us?
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  Speaker 5: Amen.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: So, you know, I think true happiness and clear direction
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  Speaker 5: obviously comes from seeking God first. But often the heavy
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  Speaker 5: weight of life and the different things that come our way,
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  Speaker 5: we rely on other people. We rely on our own
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  Speaker 5: limited plans instead of really trusting in the Lord what
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  Speaker 5: He has next for us. And we know that people
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  Speaker 5: fail us and we know that God won't fail us.
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  Speaker 5: And so that's what we're going to be talking about today.
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  Speaker 6: Can I.
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  Speaker 3: Add to that? I think you're muted. Are you muted?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, sorry, I'm muted.
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  Speaker 7: Full transparency, my computer sounds like it's about to blast
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  Speaker 7: off like a rocket ship, so I'm having kind of
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  Speaker 7: a hard time hearing. But, you know, I think this
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  Speaker 7: idea of happiness... You know, really, to me, the first
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  Speaker 7: thing that comes to mind is just the fruit of
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  Speaker 7: the spirit, you know, love, joy.
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  Speaker 6: And I think that even.
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  Speaker 7: Joy on a deeper sense is a more profound sense
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  Speaker 7: of happiness that we can find. And ultimately, we find
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  Speaker 7: that true sense of joy being connected to our creator,
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  Speaker 7: our source of life. So that's the first thing that
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  Speaker 7: comes to mind for me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's good.
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  Speaker 2: Good.
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  Speaker 3: And here's that verse. I'm going to get and share
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  Speaker 3: a screen here real quick with Bible Gateway. We use
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  Speaker 3: Bible Gateway on our show, Jeremiah 17, 7. There it is.
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  Speaker 3: Make a big screen there like that. Boom. Blessed is
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  Speaker 3: the man who trusts in the Lord, whose hope is
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  Speaker 3: in the Lord. And I always recommend reading verses before
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  Speaker 3: and after. You know, just to kind of keep things
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  Speaker 3: in the context. But even verse 9 is one of
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  Speaker 3: my go-to verses when we talk about the heart and feelings. Because, again,
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  Speaker 3: happiness is a feeling attached to emotions. But even 9
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  Speaker 3: and 10 says the heart is deceitful above all things
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  Speaker 3: and desperately wicked. Who can know it? Verse 10, I,
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  Speaker 3: the Lord, search the heart. I test the mind. Even
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  Speaker 3: to give every man according to his ways, according to
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  Speaker 3: the fruit of his doings. So we don't have this
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  Speaker 3: pie in the sky God who says, hey, do what
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  Speaker 3: you want. You know, and you guys probably hear it
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  Speaker 3: a lot in counseling. Doesn't God want me to be happy?
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  Speaker 3: Follow your heart, which is like the worst advice based
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  Speaker 3: on that verse to ever tell anybody. Don't follow your heart.
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  Speaker 3: Because it's wicked and deceitful above all things. So make
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  Speaker 3: a list of everything on the planet. Put your heart
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  Speaker 3: on top. Above all things, your heart's right at the top.
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  Speaker 3: Wicked and deceitful. And then everything else on the planet
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  Speaker 3: follows that. Back to you, Rick.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, sometimes we want the easy way to be happy.
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  Speaker 5: And again, a lot of times, as I mentioned, we
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  Speaker 5: count on people who are perfect. Our friends, our family,
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  Speaker 5: our partners. to fill that void and it's just not
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  Speaker 5: going to happen. You know, for starters, having this kind
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  Speaker 5: of expectations in another relationship can move away on another
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  Speaker 5: person that they're trying to carry your happiness and, you know,
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  Speaker 5: help you. You know, a lot of times people don't
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  Speaker 5: even compliment themselves. How are they going to compliment someone
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  Speaker 5: else if they've got their own stuff going on? And
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  Speaker 5: I think we know that facing human validation is just temporary.
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  Speaker 5: Nothing like, you know, sticking to our trusted God. And
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  Speaker 5: so just by acknowledging God as our source alone brings
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  Speaker 5: us peace and joy and all the things that we
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  Speaker 5: can have in our daily relationship. And it's so hard
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  Speaker 5: as he is. humans to surrender to His timeline because
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  Speaker 5: we want happiness now. We want whatever we have going
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  Speaker 5: on right now. That's why it's so important to stay
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  Speaker 5: focused in the present and just to trust God.
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  Speaker 7: You know, as you were talking, Pastor Chuck, I think
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  Speaker 7: that's something that we often hear in culture.
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  Speaker 6: Is just follow your heart.
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  Speaker 7: Again, I think Just to double down on what you
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  Speaker 7: were saying from a Christian perspective, I think that's a very,
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  Speaker 7: very dangerous territory to be in.
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  Speaker 6: Because oftentimes when we say.
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  Speaker 7: That, we're following emotions. We're following things that are fleeting.
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  Speaker 7: And the reality is that our emotions lie to us.
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  Speaker 7: Our emotions don't always convey the whole truth. And when
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  Speaker 7: we act based on our emotions, it's very easy to
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  Speaker 7: set aside the truth. The Bible tells us to forgive,
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  Speaker 7: but if we're holding on to bitterness, resentment, and we're
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  Speaker 7: not forgiving, and we're following our heart, then our heart
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  Speaker 7: is not in alignment with the truth of God's word.
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  Speaker 7: So I think that there's a, from a Christian perspective,
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  Speaker 7: there's a very dangerous territory that you can walk in.
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  Speaker 6: And same thing with happiness.
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  Speaker 7: Kind of like both of you were talking about is
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  Speaker 7: happiness is such a fleeting emotion. You can wake up,
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  Speaker 7: happy and not really know why, but then somebody cuts
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  Speaker 7: you off in traffic and now you're in a bad mood.
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  Speaker 6: So that happiness is just, it's gone.
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  Speaker 7: So I think that's where we have to be completely
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  Speaker 7: rooted in our faith. We have to truly be connected
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  Speaker 7: to the source of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, self,
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  Speaker 7: you know, faithfulness.
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  Speaker 6: Self-control, fruits of the spirit, which.
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  Speaker 7: Ultimately come from having that relationship with the Lord. Um,
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  Speaker 7: And then again, just having those people in our lives,
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  Speaker 7: whether that's a therapist, counselor, whether that's a friend, whether
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  Speaker 7: that's people within Bible studies, small groups, whatever it may be,
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  Speaker 7: that when we're not able to regulate our emotions, they
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  Speaker 7: can walk with us through that and.
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  Speaker 6: Remind us of truth and help us move through that
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  Speaker 6: because we're human.
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  Speaker 7: There's times where things are going to happen and we
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  Speaker 7: need those people around us who can help walk us
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  Speaker 7: through that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. And I'm just going to again, drop the bombshell
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  Speaker 3: because it's adultery. And I don't know how many relationships
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  Speaker 3: have ended with, he makes me happy. You're not making
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  Speaker 3: me happy anymore. Back to, you know, Rick's point, our
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  Speaker 3: family relationships, God is not asking you to be happy.
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  Speaker 3: He's asking you to be faithful. God is faithful. And
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  Speaker 3: that's a quality he wants us to have faithfulness. So
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  Speaker 3: whether you're happy or not, it's actually irrelevant. Now listen,
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  Speaker 3: if you're in domestic violence and you're being abused and
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  Speaker 3: There's a line that's crossed where you got to nip
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  Speaker 3: that in the bud and separate and be safe. We're
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  Speaker 3: talking about mental health matters because fantasizing, daydreaming about somebody
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  Speaker 3: else who may be prettier or more handsome or gives
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  Speaker 3: me more attention and he looks like he'd be a
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  Speaker 3: better husband. Like, let me upgrade. This isn't a car
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  Speaker 3: deal where you trade in your car and get a
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  Speaker 3: newer model, right? So again, the whole happy concept and
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  Speaker 3: the heart is deceitful, wicked above all things. Adultery, we
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  Speaker 3: call it Oh, it's an affair. No, it is adultery.
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  Speaker 3: It's in the top 10 commandments. You're going to be
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  Speaker 3: judged for it. I'm just a messenger, you know, and
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  Speaker 3: I'm probably on my preacher's soapbox here at this point.
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  Speaker 3: But let's just, again, we talk about the Bible. I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to go to Matthew chapter 13. I'm sorry, Hebrews 13. Hebrews,
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  Speaker 3: it's also proof that man needs to make the coffee
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  Speaker 3: in the morning, not the women. It's Hebrews, not Shebrews.
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  Speaker 3: So men, get up early, make the coffee for your woman.
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  Speaker 3: All right. All right, so this starts off with 13.1.
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  Speaker 3: Let's make a big screen. He says, Let brotherly love continue.
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  Speaker 3: Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by doing so,
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  Speaker 3: some have unwittingly entertained angels. That was Lot right before
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  Speaker 3: Sodom and Gomorrah. He entertained the angels, had them spend
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  Speaker 3: the night. Verse 3, Remember the prisoners as if you're
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  Speaker 3: trained with them, those who are mistreated, since you yourselves
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  Speaker 3: are in the body also. And verse 4, ready? Drum roll, please.
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  Speaker 3: Marriage is honorable, and that's between a man and a
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  Speaker 3: woman only. Among all, the bed is undefiled. But fornicators,
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  Speaker 3: that's sex outside of marriage, and adulterers, God will judge.
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  Speaker 3: So call it what you want, feelings, emotions, happiness. This
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  Speaker 3: is for somebody somewhere, but this would solve a lot
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  Speaker 3: of train wrecks. 50% divorce rate, first-time marriages, in the
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  Speaker 3: church and out of the church. 80% second marriages. Third marriages,
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  Speaker 3: even higher than that. So God is calling you to
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  Speaker 3: be faithful to your spouse. And man, if we follow
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  Speaker 3: our heart, it'll lead you into adultery. I'm done.
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  Speaker 8: Next.
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  Speaker 6: Take over, Rick.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 8: We're all going through so many different things and I
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  Speaker 8: think with the society and our friends and community and
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  Speaker 8: all of that, I think a lot of times people
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  Speaker 8: are like, of course, they've seen us, but not really.
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  Speaker 8: And I think that's really not, you know, it's not
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  Speaker 8: nothing that's going to help them. And it's easy to,
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  Speaker 8: the things that we're able to do, like we have
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  Speaker 8: to buy our things, we can build, but, you know,
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  Speaker 8: it's another space that they can think of that, you know,
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  Speaker 8: and so not just to, just to lay it off
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  Speaker 8: and do God, but like to build I don't know
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  Speaker 8: if it's true for both cases, though. You can go
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  Speaker 8: back to your work as your friend, for example, you know,
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  Speaker 8: just to, you know, get off the college and then
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  Speaker 8: coming off at the very time, you're speaking up to women.
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  Speaker 8: All those different things, very different things that you're living,
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  Speaker 8: that I'm dying to let go of. And you're a person.
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  Speaker 5: That you can trust, you can trust.
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  Speaker 8: And so, again, it's just that actualization of, you know,
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  Speaker 8: a person that you trust with.
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  Speaker 7: Again, full transparency, I'm having a really hard time hearing
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  Speaker 7: you for some reason. So I missed some of that.
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  Speaker 7: But just to kind of go off of the, you know,
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  Speaker 7: even the happiness concept, I'm listening to a book that
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  Speaker 7: I would recommend to any man, whether you're married, not married,
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  Speaker 7: whatever it may be.
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  Speaker 6: But it's by Pastor Joby Martin. called Stand Firm and
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  Speaker 6: Act Like Men.
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  Speaker 7: And he really speaks to this concept of what it
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  Speaker 7: means to truly be a man of God and to
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  Speaker 7: be a husband or a potential husband.
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  Speaker 6: Or, you know, he talks about even some people have
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  Speaker 6: the gift of singleness and what that looks like.
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  Speaker 7: But one of the things that he talks about in
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  Speaker 7: chapter two is this, even this idea of comfort, right?
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  Speaker 7: He says that comfort is not a biblical principle. God
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  Speaker 7: does not call us to be comfortable with That's a
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  Speaker 7: cultural thing, right? And oftentimes we seek comfort over everything
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  Speaker 7: else because we believe comfort and happiness are intertwined. You know,
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  Speaker 7: that can show itself in a lot of different ways.
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  Speaker 7: But again, you know, if I'm in an uncomfortable situation
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  Speaker 7: or uncomfortable with circumstance my heart may say like oh
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  Speaker 7: you just need to be comfortable you just need to
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  Speaker 7: be happy you know you just need to be.
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  Speaker 6: This almost like an inadvertently self.
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  Speaker 7: Self-driven motive that again doesn't necessarily line up with the
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  Speaker 7: truth of God's word so I think that there's a
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  Speaker 7: fine line between what true joy looks like.
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  Speaker 3: And happiness yeah that's good So there's the verse 7,
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  Speaker 3: and again, I jumped to 9 and 10 because that's,
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  Speaker 3: to me, you talk about mental health and the heart.
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  Speaker 3: You know, they say the longest 18 inches in the universe,
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  Speaker 3: 18 inches is 18 inches wherever you are in the universe,
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  Speaker 3: but the longest 18 inches is from your head to
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  Speaker 3: your heart, right? And they kind of... They work together,
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  Speaker 3: if you ask me. What you're thinking about affects your
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  Speaker 3: feelings and your heart and your core convictions. Core convictions
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  Speaker 3: can help you start thinking straight, too, when you start
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  Speaker 3: thinking off. I don't know exactly how it works, but
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  Speaker 3: I know they're very well connected. Body, soul, and spirit.
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  Speaker 3: That soul and spirit thing, it's a thing. It's a
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  Speaker 3: real thing. But looking at this verse, blessed is the
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  Speaker 3: man who trusts in the Lord, whose hope is in
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  Speaker 3: the Lord. For he shall be like a tree planted
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  Speaker 3: by waters, which spreads out its roots by the river
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  Speaker 3: and will not fear when he comes, but its leaves
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  Speaker 3: will be green and will not be anxious in the
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  Speaker 3: year of drought. Because he's trusting in the Lord, that
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  Speaker 3: spells out obedience. Back to the whole adult thing. You
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  Speaker 3: start compromising in areas of your life, it's going to
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  Speaker 3: cause problems. And half the counseling, by the time they
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  Speaker 3: come to you, it's a train wreck. It's like they're
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  Speaker 3: at their wits end. And, you know, it's hard to
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  Speaker 3: clean up, backtrack, undo things that are done and things
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  Speaker 3: that are said. So this is why we do the show.
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  Speaker 3: We want to talk about it. Stay focused. Stay obedient.
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  Speaker 3: And not to say life's going to be perfect, but
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  Speaker 3: you're going to avoid some train wrecks. Back to you, Rick.
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  Speaker 6: Give me a favor.
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  Speaker 3: Hold on. Pause for a minute. If you can come
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  Speaker 3: out and come back in. Somehow your audio has been garbled.
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  Speaker 3: And I know everything you're saying is gold. It's pure gold.
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  Speaker 3: But maybe there could be an internet garbling connection. So
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  Speaker 3: maybe I'm going to remove you, have you come back in.
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  Speaker 3: And then Cody will go this time and then we'll
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  Speaker 3: have you come back in with your comment. What were
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  Speaker 3: you thinking, Cody? You want to piggyback on the last
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  Speaker 3: thing I said?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: You know, I've kind of done like a little deep
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  Speaker 7: dive into like the mind, the heart, the soul, spirit,
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  Speaker 7: you know, these different things, these complexities of what makes
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  Speaker 7: us us. And really when we look at it from
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  Speaker 7: whether it's a Hebrew perspective or a Greek perspective, this
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  Speaker 7: idea of the heart is really the centrality of a person,
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  Speaker 7: like what makes somebody.
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  Speaker 6: Who they are, right? The mind, the will, the emotions,
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  Speaker 6: everything is wrapped up in the heart.
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  Speaker 7: So even when we think about, you know, the hardest
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  Speaker 7: deceitfully wicked of all, like who can trust it, that
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  Speaker 7: really just speaks to kind of the, not just the
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  Speaker 7: physical organ or not just the emotions, but sometimes that.
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  Speaker 6: Our mind can get in the way of that.
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  Speaker 7: And one of the things that I often teach and
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  Speaker 7: preach on is that the mind is really the.
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  Speaker 6: Seat of spiritual warfare.
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  Speaker 7: And something I always tell people is that what you
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  Speaker 7: lend your mind to, you'll eventually give your time to.
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  Speaker 7: Whatever is constantly ruminating in your mind, if we don't
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  Speaker 7: grab those thoughts, if we don't deal with them, if
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  Speaker 7: we don't confess them, if we don't cast them down,
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  Speaker 7: eventually it's going to show up some way in our lives, right?
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  Speaker 7: And you gave a perfect example. If you're constantly telling yourself, hey.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not happy in my marriage.
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  Speaker 7: I don't even know if this is going to work out.
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  Speaker 7: She doesn't appreciate me. He doesn't appreciate me, whatever it is.
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  Speaker 7: Whether you realize it or not, you're subconsciously, for lack
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  Speaker 7: of a better term, programming yourself. And you're going to
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  Speaker 7: start doing things that you probably wouldn't do if you
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  Speaker 7: were looking at your marriage from a different perspective.
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  Speaker 6: When we're constantly focused.
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  Speaker 7: On the negative of like, I've been wronged, I've been this,
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  Speaker 7: you're going to do things subconsciously that are going to
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  Speaker 7: lead to an affair, going to lead to adultery, going
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  Speaker 7: to lead to these things that are outside of the
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  Speaker 7: will of God. And it's a very slippery slope. And
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  Speaker 7: I believe that's why the Bible.
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  Speaker 6: Tells us to be transformed by the renewing of the mind.
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  Speaker 7: Repentance literally means, in the Greek, to change your mind afterwards.
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  Speaker 6: And, you know, the Bible also tells us.
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  Speaker 7: To grab every thought and to submit it to Christ,
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  Speaker 7: submit it to the Lord. Because when we let those
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  Speaker 7: things ruminate, right, when the mind becomes filled and the
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  Speaker 7: seed is planted, then it grows to the heart. And
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  Speaker 7: then it takes over not just our thoughts, but our emotions.
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  Speaker 7: And then our emotions then become our will.
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  Speaker 6: And we act on those things. So it's very, very,
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  Speaker 6: they're all interconnected.
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  Speaker 3: Rick, what are you thinking?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know if this is any better, but
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  Speaker 4: I was just going to say earlier that, you know,
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  Speaker 4: that alone, you know, the happiness was there.
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  Speaker 5: And, of course, as we've been talking about, man's pursuit
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  Speaker 5: of happiness could be misdirected through adults and through substance abuse,
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  Speaker 5: through all these different things that, again, trying to make
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  Speaker 5: ourselves happy, that, of course, it's never going to make
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  Speaker 5: them happy. And so, again, just being on that right
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  Speaker 5: path um back to god or staying with god uh
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  Speaker 5: we can keep that true happiness and uh and stay
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  Speaker 5: in a righteous pursuit of god's promises and enjoy those
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  Speaker 5: and trust those because we certainly can't trust our own
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  Speaker 5: uh judgment sometimes much less somebody else's.
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  Speaker 3: Amen that's a good point and you sound a lot
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  Speaker 3: better now that you came out and came back in
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: so um if there was another point in that last
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  Speaker 3: first word bite um Cody couldn't hear. You might want to,
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  Speaker 3: for the record, for the podcasters, add that point again.
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  Speaker 3: And next time you speak, because it's all gold, as
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  Speaker 3: we were saying, you know, we were talking about this
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  Speaker 3: stuff because what we're thinking about, it's going to manifest
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  Speaker 3: in celebration. recovery, which we lead here in Farmington as well.
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  Speaker 3: We talk about relapse, right? So whatever that instead of
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: drug of choice, maybe a sin of choice, it could
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: be pornography, it could be overeating. It'd be a lots
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: of things that we have strongholds. And they say the
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: relapse happens way before they picked up the drink or
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  Speaker 3: the drug, right? So, because again, what they were thinking about,
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  Speaker 3: what they were plotting and planning. And, you know, you
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  Speaker 3: want about, you know, I'll just say this too. South Florida,
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  Speaker 3: a lot of old people, we called them geezers back then,
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  Speaker 3: and it probably wasn't nice, but they would drive and
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  Speaker 3: all you would see is knuckles. And there'd be a
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  Speaker 3: lot of people jogging or riding a bike on the
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  Speaker 3: side of the road. And the old people would be
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  Speaker 3: looking at them because they don't want to hit them.
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  Speaker 3: And they would actually drive into them because you wind
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  Speaker 3: up driving into what you're looking at instead of kind
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  Speaker 3: of keeping it in your peripheral vision, but not focusing
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: it too much because you're going to drive right into
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: what you're looking at. So they would, a lot of
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: old people would hit joggers and bikers because they were
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: focusing on them too much not to hit them that
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: they wind up driving into them. So I think the
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  Speaker 3: same mindset can be applied here.
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  Speaker 6: Cody?
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  Speaker 3: That's a good question.
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  Speaker 7: Very good description of essentially like what I was saying
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  Speaker 7: of what you lend.
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  Speaker 6: Your mind to, you'll give your time to.
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  Speaker 7: And, you know, even just going to throw this out there,
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  Speaker 7: because this is even circulating within the church today, this
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  Speaker 7: whole idea of manifestation.
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  Speaker 6: Or, you know, name it and claim it, blab it
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  Speaker 6: and grab it, whatever, you know, words you want to use.
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  Speaker 7: But they've even proven psychologically that when you're constantly like,
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  Speaker 7: if you're constantly speaking things, It's not just that the
• 21:32
  Speaker 7: universe or God always just drops it into your lap.
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  Speaker 7: What you're doing is you're, again, kind of like subconsciously
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  Speaker 7: programming yourself to take steps in that direction.
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  Speaker 6: Like, oh, I'm going to do this, I'm going to
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  Speaker 6: do this, or I'm just going to keep speaking this.
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  Speaker 7: And I think that even that, and this could maybe
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  Speaker 7: even be like a different conversation for later, but the
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  Speaker 7: Lord tells us in Mark to believe what we ask
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  Speaker 7: for and we will have it. Right. And I think
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  Speaker 7: that that's a biblical principle that's been twisted in the
• 22:03
  Speaker 7: sense of like, oh, I just need this to be happy.
• 22:05
  Speaker 6: I need to do this to be happy. I need
• 22:06
  Speaker 6: to do this to be happy.
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  Speaker 7: So we're constantly telling ourselves these things and we're looking
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  Speaker 7: at those things. And as you said, Patrick, even though
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  Speaker 7: we need to stay within the lanes of scripture because
• 22:16
  Speaker 7: we're constantly saying, I need this, I need this, I
• 22:18
  Speaker 7: need this.
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  Speaker 6: We start to veer off the road. Right. And it's
• 22:22
  Speaker 6: a slippery slope.
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  Speaker 7: I think about it like if you're walking, if you
• 22:24
  Speaker 7: ever walk on a ridgeline and you fall off the
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  Speaker 7: ridgeline just a little bit. naturally because of gravity, you're
• 22:31
  Speaker 7: going to go downhill, right? It's easy to go downhill.
• 22:33
  Speaker 7: And sometimes it's harder to get back up on top
• 22:35
  Speaker 7: of the ridgeline just because of the way that gravity
• 22:37
  Speaker 7: is pulling us. And I think that our thoughts, our
• 22:40
  Speaker 7: desires and our emotions work very similarly that sometimes staying
• 22:46
  Speaker 7: in the lines seems very difficult.
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  Speaker 6: So it's easy to just fall off and keep going
• 22:51
  Speaker 6: with that.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I was going to say that, you know, staying
• 22:58
  Speaker 5: encouraged and staying inspired, that's only done through daily worship
• 23:04
  Speaker 5: and through, you know, daily intent and prayer with the Lord.
• 23:06
  Speaker 5: Something that kind of had come to my heart this week,
• 23:10
  Speaker 5: something that I'm kind of watching someone else deal with,
• 23:13
  Speaker 5: is sometimes we put our faith in humans and we
• 23:17
  Speaker 5: can worship them more than God without even realizing that
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  Speaker 5: by choices, you know?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: By going back to something that we know is not
• 23:27
  Speaker 5: good for us, but we're putting all of our faith
• 23:30
  Speaker 5: and trust in that person versus God.
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: Very slippery. People will let us down. Nowhere in Scripture
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: does it say trust in anybody but the Lord. Trust
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: in the Lord, trust in the Lord from Genesis all
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  Speaker 3: the way to Revelation. Not to say, you know, they
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: should be trustworthy, especially if they're claiming to be a Christian.
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: We know the rules.
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  Speaker 4: We got them.
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: We got a copy of the book. We know that
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: we have to play book, but people just don't always
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: do what you expect, especially kids. I've heard it. Uh,
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: when I was parenting, kids don't do what you expect
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: them to do. They do what you inspect them to do,
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: which kind of brings up the accountability factor, right? We
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  Speaker 3: hold each other accountable, um, to walk in those lines.
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: And as a brother, um, uh, May drift. I'm going
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: to bring up another verse, Galatians 6.1, and we can
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  Speaker 3: talk about that. Because I also live in a world
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: that says, don't judge me, don't judge me, don't judge me.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: But we are called as Christians, if somebody falls in sin. Sorry,
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: is it Galatians 6, I think? Galatians 6. Where it says,
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: come on. Galatians 6.
• 24:45
  Speaker 7: Here we go.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 3: Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: who are spiritual, restore such a one as spirit of gentleness,
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: considering yourself, lest you also be tempted, bearing one another's
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ. You know,
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: so we are called to help each other overcome. So, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Back to you, Cody.
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  Speaker 7: Up to me is Proverbs 4 and more specifically you
• 25:27
  Speaker 7: know towards the end of it in verse 20 in
• 25:31
  Speaker 7: verse 25 it says let your eyes look directly forward
• 25:35
  Speaker 7: and your gaze be straight before you ponder the path
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  Speaker 7: of your feet then all your ways will be will
• 25:41
  Speaker 7: be sure do not swerve to the right or to
• 25:43
  Speaker 7: the left turn your foot away from evil right and
• 25:47
  Speaker 7: I think about that like even.
• 25:50
  Speaker 6: Joshua 1 8.
• 25:52
  Speaker 7: Set your mind on the book of the law, that
• 25:55
  Speaker 7: you're constantly setting our mind to the truth of God
• 25:58
  Speaker 7: and focusing on God, that whenever we put him at.
• 26:02
  Speaker 6: The forefront of everything.
• 26:04
  Speaker 7: It's amazing how everything else falls into line.
• 26:08
  Speaker 6: I was having a conversation yesterday that.
• 26:11
  Speaker 7: Whenever I put God first and I'm solely focused on
• 26:14
  Speaker 7: him and solely focused on communing with him, pleasing him,
• 26:18
  Speaker 7: and not from a performance perspective but just because i
• 26:22
  Speaker 7: love him and everything that he's done in my life
• 26:24
  Speaker 7: it makes me a better husband it makes me a
• 26:26
  Speaker 7: better father it makes me a better friend a better
• 26:29
  Speaker 7: colleague because i'm setting my mind to please the lord
• 26:33
  Speaker 7: and to be an ambassador for him that naturally the
• 26:37
  Speaker 7: rest of it just falls into place right whenever i
• 26:40
  Speaker 7: lean on my own strength and i say oh i
• 26:42
  Speaker 7: gotta do this i gotta do this i gotta do
• 26:43
  Speaker 7: this it really takes away from the the trueness of
• 26:48
  Speaker 7: god and i even think of like the fall After
• 26:51
  Speaker 7: Adam and Eve, it says that they sowed fig leaves
• 26:53
  Speaker 7: for themselves. So oftentimes, even now, we try to cover
• 26:59
  Speaker 7: up our own actions or we feel like I have
• 27:03
  Speaker 7: to do this because the Lord's not moving as fast
• 27:05
  Speaker 7: as I want. Again, the happiness, I look at it
• 27:08
  Speaker 7: in terms of my hands. But when I'm constantly focused
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  Speaker 7: on him and I don't veer to the left, I
• 27:14
  Speaker 7: don't veer to the right, everything else just falls in
• 27:17
  Speaker 7: place the way that it's supposed to.
• 27:19
  Speaker 6: Even if it doesn't look the.
• 27:20
  Speaker 7: Way that I thought it would, you always see the
• 27:23
  Speaker 7: hand of God or those God wings show up in
• 27:25
  Speaker 7: our lives.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: That's a good point. Closing thoughts, Rick? Just that, you know, the.
• 27:32
  Speaker 5: Lord's happiness is eternal. It's self-sustaining and like, you know, humans,
• 27:38
  Speaker 5: the things that we talked about. And I think when
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: that's misaligned, you know, whatever we're seeking is just going
• 27:47
  Speaker 5: to be temporary. It's not going to be lasting like
• 27:51
  Speaker 5: our promises from God. And, you know, just again, as
• 27:56
  Speaker 5: listening to everything that you guys are saying, just a
• 27:57
  Speaker 5: great reminder that our happiness involves humility, you know, obedience
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  Speaker 5: and all these other things too, that will keep us
• 28:05
  Speaker 5: connected to the Lord and keep that long-term happiness, that
• 28:10
  Speaker 5: genuine happiness.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. And that's blessed the blessings of the Lord that
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: comes with obedience, you know, for sure. So that's, that's
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: that true happiness when God is saying, well done, good
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: and faithful servant, even under tribulation, under persecution, under all
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: this stuff, we don't want to write into our story,
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: It's in our story. It's not a perfect world. But yeah,
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: managing our expectations too of other people definitely helps your
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: mental health condition, to say the least. And renew your mind,
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: renew your life. That's the second tagline. You mentioned that earlier, Cody.
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: Mental health matters. Renew your mind, renew your life. So
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: it's all what we're meditating on. Get into God's word, pray,
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: fellowship with other Christians. Talk it out. Even as we're
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: talking it out, the Holy Spirit will tell you if
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: you're off in one area or not. Rick, you want
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  Speaker 3: to lead us in prayer? And then Cody? And then
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: we'll close?
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  Speaker 6: Sure.
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  Speaker 5: Okay. Heavenly Father, we just want to thank you again
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  Speaker 5: for getting the opportunity to be here with the listeners
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  Speaker 5: and to talk about your word and to talk about
• 29:20
  Speaker 5: your happiness, your genuine happiness and the promises that you
• 29:23
  Speaker 5: have for us. And Lord, we know that the enemy
• 29:26
  Speaker 5: can often stray us and And we can be confused
• 29:30
  Speaker 5: about what happiness really is and misalign our happiness with
• 29:33
  Speaker 5: the wrong things. And so we just ask that you
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  Speaker 5: continue to be with us and guide us and strengthen
• 29:38
  Speaker 5: us and just give us that happiness that you want
• 29:42
  Speaker 5: us to have and we just ask for you to
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: bless all the listeners and so glad they're here today
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: and we're hoping that this message can help somebody and
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  Speaker 5: pray these things in your son's name Amen.
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  Speaker 7: Cody Heavenly Father, I thank you for the opportunity to
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  Speaker 7: come together and to speak and to reveal.
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  Speaker 6: Your word as truth, Lord. And Father, I pray that
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  Speaker 6: as we're having.
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  Speaker 7: These conversations, that the ultimate goal would be you, Lord,
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  Speaker 7: that as we seek what we're supposed to seek, Lord,
• 30:21
  Speaker 7: that we wouldn't seek happiness, we wouldn't seek finite things,
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  Speaker 7: we wouldn't seek emotions, but we would always seek you
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  Speaker 7: first as the source of Lord, that if.
• 30:30
  Speaker 6: We want true joy, if we want true.
• 30:34
  Speaker 7: Peace in our lives, that we would just seek you
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  Speaker 7: and know that from you that comes, that you.
• 30:40
  Speaker 6: Are the source of our joy, you are the source
• 30:42
  Speaker 6: of our peace, our happiness. You're the source of all things.
• 30:46
  Speaker 7: So Lord, I pray that we would never seek the
• 30:50
  Speaker 7: emotion or the, I guess, the end state of what
• 30:54
  Speaker 7: we think we need, but we would seek the source
• 30:57
  Speaker 7: of those things. And Lord, I just pray that this
• 31:00
  Speaker 7: message goes out to all those who need it. And
• 31:03
  Speaker 7: I pray that it would just be a spark of
• 31:06
  Speaker 7: internal reflection and this conviction of where are we putting
• 31:11
  Speaker 7: our thoughts? Where are we putting our minds? What are
• 31:13
  Speaker 7: we seeking? What are we setting our minds to? And
• 31:15
  Speaker 7: as Pastor Chuck said, what are we setting our gaze to?
• 31:18
  Speaker 7: And if it's on anything other than you, I just
• 31:21
  Speaker 7: pray that there would be that conviction, that renewing of
• 31:23
  Speaker 7: the spirit, that we would change our gaze to focus
• 31:27
  Speaker 7: on you.
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  Speaker 6: And we would always be looking towards you. We wouldn't
• 31:30
  Speaker 6: veer to the left. We wouldn't veer to the right.
• 31:32
  Speaker 7: But we would always be focused on what you, because
• 31:36
  Speaker 7: when we focus on you and you're the main priority,
• 31:38
  Speaker 7: everything else falls into place. And that you would place
• 31:41
  Speaker 7: those in our lives to help us do that when
• 31:44
  Speaker 7: we don't recognize it within ourselves.
• 31:47
  Speaker 6: And I just pray this in the name of your son,
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  Speaker 6: Christ Jesus. Amen. Amen.
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  Speaker 3: I too thank you, Lord, for our partnership in the gospel,
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: shining our light here in Farmington, New Mexico, and letting it,
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: go far and wide through the worldwide web, through podcasts,
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: through television, internet panels, app channels, all that. And that
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: others would focus on you, your word and be doers
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: and obedient and the ripple effects that follow from the,
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: and the blessings that follow from obeying you. And I
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: thank you for those that are patient enough to help
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: others get out of the mud and after the train
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: wreck and to talk about it and to help show
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: compassion and love and grace and mercy to one another.
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: I pray that would be preeminent in the church as
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: we look to you as a source of all that
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: in Jesus' name. Amen, amen, amen. Well, another great episode.
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: For those listening to the podcast, if they want the
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: number to reach out to Rick Covado or Cody Covado
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: with Desert View Family Services and Counseling, give them a call,
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: 505-326-7878 and mydesertview.com, right? There we go,. org. Very good.
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: Until our next episode on Overcomers TV Live, may you
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: and your families be blessed. Thanks, guys.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, you remember the first time we visited Ark Encounter?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you fainted.
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  Speaker 5: Twice.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, now, let's just say it's a little bigger than imagination, okay?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, they even have zip lines. I guess I
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