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392: Making Space for Your Evolution · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, the show dedicated to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to flow without sacrificing results.
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  Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, everybody.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and I want to talk about evolution today.
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  Nicole Laino: Personal evolution and business evolution.
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  Nicole Laino: This all came from me thinking about this from my own business, just sort of witnessing what's happening with our clients and with just people that I know within the industry and.
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  Nicole Laino: And in my life.
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  Nicole Laino: And I feel like I also think about the 2027 change that is coming.
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  Nicole Laino: We're very close to it now.
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  Nicole Laino: You know, we are evolving as humans.
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  Nicole Laino: We are evolving as business owners.
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  Nicole Laino: And I see the mental process when I say I see this with people, I see these things in myself as well.
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  Nicole Laino: So I'm always speaking from my own personal experience with this stuff too.
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  Nicole Laino: And what I see is there can be this feeling of things need to stay the same.
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  Nicole Laino: I've seen this with a few clients where they haven't felt as connected to their message in a while.
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  Nicole Laino: And there's a fear of, well, if I shift things and this is working, what if the next thing I doesn't work?
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  Nicole Laino: And I understand that fear.
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  Nicole Laino: I do get it.
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  Nicole Laino: But this idea that we will never change, that our message will never change, that our offer will never evolve, that we will never evolve is crazy.
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  Nicole Laino: It's wrong.
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  Nicole Laino: And, and.
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  Nicole Laino: And the reason that I. I'm saying that it's wrong is that it boxes us in.
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  Nicole Laino: It gets us afraid of what's next.
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  Nicole Laino: And what I think is, you know, a lot of people, they'll resist the change or the other.
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  Nicole Laino: The opposite side of it is that some people will feel that everything needs to change.
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  Nicole Laino: I feel like I'm evolving.
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  Nicole Laino: I feel like things are changing now.
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  Nicole Laino: I need to wipe the slate totally clean.
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  Nicole Laino: I have to start from scratch and build everything from the ground up all over again, like, nothing fits anymore.
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  Nicole Laino: And that's not the case either.
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  Nicole Laino: Most of the time.
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  Nicole Laino: We don't need to take a sledgehammer to our life to evolve.
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  Nicole Laino: It doesn't mean that everything has to go.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm not saying that if things have fallen apart and you feel like I've been talking to a lot of people recently where, you know, what they were doing before isn't working anymore, and now they don't know what to do what is next for them.
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  Nicole Laino: And I understand this feeling because those people are going into like, well, what do I do?
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  Nicole Laino: What do I do?
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  Nicole Laino: What do I do?
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  Nicole Laino: And I feel like this is almost that argument between, you know, uber masculine, where we go into massive action mode, trying to figure everything out.
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  Nicole Laino: What do I do?
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  Nicole Laino: Trying a million different things, really scattering our energy a lot of places.
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  Nicole Laino: Or we go to the ultra feminine, which is to do nothing and sometimes shut down, to hide from that action.
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  Nicole Laino: But evolution, in my experience, requires some balance of these two principles.
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  Nicole Laino: We have to honor the time and space that evolution requires.
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  Nicole Laino: And human design can give us a little bit of a window into what that looks like for us.
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  Nicole Laino: How do we create space?
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  Nicole Laino: It tells us a little bit about our own personal process through our design, like as a manifesting generator.
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  Nicole Laino: Something that I know is that manifesting generators go through periods of great growth and then they go through plateaus.
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  Nicole Laino: They're like these personal peaks and then leveling off.
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  Nicole Laino: And you have to allow.
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  Nicole Laino: I know that I have to allow that leveling off.
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  Nicole Laino: I have to allow for that plateau in order to understand what the next growth phase will look like.
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  Nicole Laino: Manifestors, they have to honor their rest cycle or they're not going to get the next download because there isn't space for it.
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  Nicole Laino: Projectors are always creating space.
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  Nicole Laino: You are always in a game of creating enough space for things to flow in to you.
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  Nicole Laino: Reflectors, I mean, you're on your own timeline, you're on your own kind of little planet making space and being open to the world around you.
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  Nicole Laino: Generators, you're going to be looking for those next responses.
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  Nicole Laino: But the moments in between are what create those responses.
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  Nicole Laino: It can give us that nuance to let us know what we should trust, Help us trust ourselves in these transitional periods.
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  Nicole Laino: Because they can be scary.
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  Nicole Laino: Change is scary, and sitting and doing nothing is scary.
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  Nicole Laino: So sometimes we sit in these.
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  Nicole Laino: These two places where we resist the change, or we feel like everything needs to change.
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  Nicole Laino: And the reason for that is because sitting in the unknown can be so uncomfortable.
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  Nicole Laino: I don't know what's coming.
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  Nicole Laino: I feel like I need to do something so I can control the outcome of what comes next.
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  Nicole Laino: And don't get me wrong, you can succeed doing that.
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  Nicole Laino: I just don't know how happy a lot of people end up when you do that for too long and too often, eventually the change that is meant to come to you will find its way.
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  Nicole Laino: You can't outrun it.
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  Nicole Laino: You have to create space for it eventually.
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  Nicole Laino: Or it's been my experience that the universe creates it for you.
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  Nicole Laino: Something falls apart, something that you have been ignoring, that needed to change, starts to not work anymore.
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  Nicole Laino: And then we're left with like, okay, well, now what do I do?
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  Nicole Laino: The universe took it away.
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  Nicole Laino: Now I don't have the choice.
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  Nicole Laino: But I think what we have to do is we have to shift our idea and our mindset around what the unknown is.
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  Nicole Laino: The unknown, I understand is scary because we want to know because knowing makes our brains feel safe.
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  Nicole Laino: NLP teaches us that your brain will constantly be trying to.
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  Nicole Laino: And, you know, when we work with clients, give them a roadmap.
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  Nicole Laino: Because if they are afraid of what they will do next or where they come to next, or how this will all play out, it doesn't mean that they're necessarily scared all the time.
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  Nicole Laino: But their mind is trying to work that out.
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  Nicole Laino: And if it's trying to work that out, it's not focusing on other things that would be more productive and healthy for it.
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  Nicole Laino: It's the same reason.
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  Nicole Laino: Like when I get onto a call with people, I tell them, so this is how it's going to go.
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  Nicole Laino: We're going to talk about this.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm going to ask you a few questions and then we'll do questions at the end.
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  Nicole Laino: Is that okay?
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  Nicole Laino: When I start my readings like that?
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  Nicole Laino: Here's how it's going to go.
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  Nicole Laino: Here's what you're going to get after the reading.
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  Nicole Laino: Here's what's going to happen during it.
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  Nicole Laino: Here's how you can ask questions throughout.
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  Nicole Laino: But I'm going to leave a couple of minutes at the end so that you have time to ask those questions so that you can absorb it all and then ask some at the end.
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  Nicole Laino: But you can also interrupt me throughout the reading if you need to.
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  Nicole Laino: That letting them know where things are going to go and how things are going to go gets them leaning back and sitting back and relaxing versus wondering, is this going to come up?
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  Nicole Laino: Are we going to talk about this?
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  Nicole Laino: Are we going to do this?
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  Nicole Laino: Can I ask questions?
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  Nicole Laino: I don't want your mind elsewhere.
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  Nicole Laino: So the mind always wants to figure it out because the mind's job is to keep you safe.
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  Nicole Laino: So it's always trying to figure out what's coming next and how do we make the future more favorable for us so that we stay safe.
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  Nicole Laino: But what we have to do is we have to shift that perspective on the unknown.
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  Nicole Laino: It doesn't have to be scary.
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  Nicole Laino: The magic happens in the unknown.
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  Nicole Laino: Because everything else is everything we've always gotten.
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  Nicole Laino: Now I get it.
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  Nicole Laino: If everything has been going really well and now you're feeling a shift and you're feeling like things are changing or they need to change or something's not working the way that it used to, it can be scary because it's like, oh, no, I was just getting comfortable just means that you are ready for your next level.
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  Nicole Laino: And if you're listening to the show and you're a human design enthusiast or you're an expert or you're an entrepreneur who's looking to feel more connected in their work, I get it.
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  Nicole Laino: You know, you're on an evolutionary journey.
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  Nicole Laino: If you were satisfied with the same thing day in and day out, you would just go get a job.
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  Nicole Laino: You would just go do what everybody else is doing, but you're not.
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  Nicole Laino: You chose this.
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  Nicole Laino: You chose the unknown, and that's awesome.
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  Nicole Laino: But now you have to keep choosing it.
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  Nicole Laino: You have to keep choosing the magic versus the scary mystery.
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  Nicole Laino: You have to keep choosing yourself in that moment.
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  Nicole Laino: And this is why evolution requires this kind of balance of space and action, of masculine and feminine.
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  Nicole Laino: These principles, they need to be balanced, or we end up in a hyperactive state of one or the other hyperaction, where we're just scattering that energy like I spoke about before, or we are retreating and resisting and fearful of taking action, of really going out and doing anything.
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  Nicole Laino: But what I found is that the more curious we become about ourselves, the more aware we become of what is happening in the moment.
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  Nicole Laino: The truth, I am uncomfortable.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm scared.
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  Nicole Laino: This is the work that I do with efts.
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  Nicole Laino: So much of it is honoring where you are right now and coming to terms with that, clearing the energy around the emotion so that it can just be pure.
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  Nicole Laino: And you're not led by that emotion, and it's not driving you.
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  Nicole Laino: And there isn't fear bubbling under the surface.
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  Nicole Laino: Because when we have fear bubbling under the surface, we start to get more of the things that were scared of happening.
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  Nicole Laino: They start to show up for us because we're operating in that field versus the field of possibility.
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  Nicole Laino: Your evolution can be anything that you want it to be.
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  Nicole Laino: This is what the embodiment journey is about.
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  Nicole Laino: Embodying possibility, embodying your gifts and your way so that you are guided on your own path.
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  Nicole Laino: You're not looking to the outside world, wondering, you know, should it be like that?
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  Nicole Laino: Should it look like that?
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  Nicole Laino: Should I do what she did?
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  Nicole Laino: That can all be data.
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  Nicole Laino: That can all be really exciting, interesting things for you to chew on.
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  Nicole Laino: But I know when I get ideas about Something, you know, as an emotional authority, I have to wait so I might hear something that sounds really good.
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  Nicole Laino: But my process is to hang out with that for a while and then see do I get something to respond to later on that drives me to take an aligned action versus me.
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  Nicole Laino: Just saying something's gotta change.
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  Nicole Laino: I heard about this idea shift.
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  Nicole Laino: She said it worked for her.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm gonna go do that thing that is probably going to get you.
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  Nicole Laino: It's like a one way ticket to burnout town.
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  Nicole Laino: And usually the results are not anywhere near what we wanna make them.
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  Nicole Laino: It's not calculated enough, it's not inspired enough.
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  Nicole Laino: To tell you the truth, it's coming from a place of lack.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm scared that what I'm doing now won't work.
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  Nicole Laino: So I'm gonna change to doing the thing that person said worked.
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  Nicole Laino: And I'm gonna do that thing and I'm gonna do it quickly because I'm so afraid.
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  Nicole Laino: When you're in that energy of fear, we get more of what we don't want.
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  Nicole Laino: If you're in the energy of lack, you will start to see lack all around you.
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  Nicole Laino: You will start to feel that, you will start to experience that.
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  Nicole Laino: This is why embodiment is more than understanding.
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  Nicole Laino: Embodiment is being able to have presence enough to know what you are feeling, to know what your energy is aligned with.
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  Nicole Laino: Have the tools to work through that.
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  Nicole Laino: Ask yourself, am I clear energetically here?
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  Nicole Laino: This is why all of our clients in business by design get my deconditioning library.
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  Nicole Laino: If you are in a state, recognize that state, move the energy around that and then see what action feels aligned after that.
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  Nicole Laino: Align with your possibility.
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  Nicole Laino: Now you'll notice that there's a shift in you when you align with possibility.
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  Nicole Laino: When you can really.
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  Nicole Laino: I don't want to use the word attach because I don't like the word attachment when it comes to results, but can you connect with a vision?
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  Nicole Laino: It's very difficult to connect with a vision of something positive when you are in a negative state.
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  Nicole Laino: This is a great test for you.
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  Nicole Laino: So can you visualize something really good happening and have that vision and hold it and really feel like it's possible?
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  Nicole Laino: If there's even a part of you that can't see it can't really connect to it, can't really.
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  Nicole Laino: It's just not coming through.
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  Nicole Laino: It doesn't really feel real to you or more.
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  Nicole Laino: Fear gets stirred up when you try to envision something big.
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  Nicole Laino: So if you try to envision, you know, your $500,000 year and you're creating this vision around it.
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  Nicole Laino: You're creating what it could look like.
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  Nicole Laino: And you're, you're really playing in the what ifs, the best thing could happen kind of realm.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm playing the what if awesome game instead of the what if doom game.
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  Nicole Laino: Right.
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  Nicole Laino: So you're playing it, you're doing it, you're really able to do that.
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  Nicole Laino: Then you'll notice that the action that you have to take will just start to appear.
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  Nicole Laino: That possibility you connected to will start to make the next steps a lot clearer for you.
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  Nicole Laino: But what happens is when we, you know, you're trying to envision that $500,000 a year, but deep inside the fear is stirring because there's a bill that, you know it's bigger than you thought it would be and more money is going out than is coming in.
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  Nicole Laino: And oh my God, oh my God.
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  Nicole Laino: If that's where your energy is, you have to deal with that because you're embodying your fear.
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  Nicole Laino: You're not embodying your future.
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  Nicole Laino: And by embodying your fear, you're going to make decisions in alignment with that fear and it will affect your results.
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  Nicole Laino: This is what real feminine energy is about.
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  Nicole Laino: It's about recognizing that when you embody possibility, if you can truly energetically connect with it, you can create it.
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  Nicole Laino: Those questions about what am I going to do?
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  Nicole Laino: They start to go away.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm not saying instantly.
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  Nicole Laino: And this is the thing, the part of you that wants instant results and instant action and instant answers is a less evolved version of you than your highest self.
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  Nicole Laino: Your highest self is not anxious.
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  Nicole Laino: She's not scared.
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  Nicole Laino: She knows that what she embodies and is energetically a match for, she will get.
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  Nicole Laino: So your first job has to become the energetic match for what you want and recognize how you might be already an energetic match for what you do not want.
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  Nicole Laino: And we're all going to have times where this is going to be.
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  Nicole Laino: There's going to be some times where this work feels so easy.
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  Nicole Laino: This work feels so like.
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  Nicole Laino: It's like this is who I am.
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  Nicole Laino: I embody this higher level version of myself.
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  Nicole Laino: I embody all of this stuff.
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  Nicole Laino: It's all working.
• 15:12
  Nicole Laino: And then there are going to be periods where this is more challenging for you than before.
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  Nicole Laino: This is why there is no one tool for entrepreneurship.
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  Nicole Laino: There is no one thing that you need to learn.
• 15:24
  Nicole Laino: You when have to become the next level version of yourself, the greater results and opportunity you want to bring in, you have to raise yourself to the level of those results and those opportunities.
• 15:39
  Nicole Laino: When we talk about being the version of yourself who has those things already, that's about.
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  Nicole Laino: That is about adjusting, regulating and expanding your nervous system to handle what's happening in the here and now and still believe to this to a cellular level that everything you want is coming to you.
• 16:02
  Nicole Laino: This is what it means to be unshakable.
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  Nicole Laino: It's what I named the show for a reason.
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  Nicole Laino: Because this work makes you unshakable.
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  Nicole Laino: Even in periods where it's extremely difficult, you can find yourself, you can find your way back to that centered place where anything can happen, where you get to choose what life looks like and really feel it and start to see things turn around.
• 16:28
  Nicole Laino: I want to call out that we have these beautiful one one private retreats with me here in Austin.
• 16:35
  Nicole Laino: If you're looking to really connect with both the masculine and feminine in your business, you don't have to have a business to do one of these because it's completely private and totally curated and customized to you.
• 16:48
  Nicole Laino: If you're interested in coming to Austin, Texas with me, spending two days with me, having a private call with me prior to prepare and to set goals and intentions, meet with me for two days, be put up in a beautiful place here in Austin, Texas, have an entire weekend with me curated, this is on your schedule and my schedule.
• 17:10
  Nicole Laino: We don't have to have it.
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  Nicole Laino: There's no set days that I'm doing this.
• 17:13
  Nicole Laino: This is all about you coming in, saying that when you want to do it, and we figure out a date based on our two calendars.
• 17:18
  Nicole Laino: I curate an entire experience of practitioners and myself and work that we're going to do to get you to your goals, whether it be to remap your funnel, to rework your messaging so that we get to your core arguments for the next level client that you are calling in.
• 17:35
  Nicole Laino: If you want to dive into your human design and weave all of that together, we will do all of that together based on your goals and your intentions.
• 17:43
  Nicole Laino: And then after the retreat is over, we don't just send you off on your way.
• 17:46
  Nicole Laino: We give you 30 days of voxer access with me where you get to ask me any questions and you get to integrate everything that we worked on together for the next 30 days.
• 17:56
  Nicole Laino: This is the most exciting offer I have ever put together.
• 17:58
  Nicole Laino: I am so like beyond thrilled to be offering this because this is the level that I've desired to work with people on, to go this deep, to have it be this personal and the fact that it's in person and is just honestly, it's just going to take it to the next level.
• 18:12
  Nicole Laino: This is like everything that I do with my private clients condensed into a two day in person event and then that integration period, I get to do that.
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  Nicole Laino: So in a month we can transform you and your business.
• 18:26
  Nicole Laino: I'm so excited about it.
• 18:27
  Nicole Laino: If you're interested in applying for this, please DM me the word retreat or go to nicolelaino.com forward/retreat and you can fill out the application and we will get back to you with details.
• 18:38
  Nicole Laino: All right.
• 18:39
  Nicole Laino: I hope to see you in there.
• 18:40
  Nicole Laino: Thank you so much for being here.
• 18:42
  Nicole Laino: I appreciate you.
• 18:43
  Nicole Laino: And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human.
• 18:48
  Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design.
• 18:51
  Nicole Laino: We'll see you next time.
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