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Unleash Your Authentic Version of Yourself to Create Epic Success – Re-Root the Script · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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  Hey, hey, hey, hello, hello and welcome to Terry Messenger's
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  Genius Zone. And you know, as I say, every
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  single week, this is the place in the space where you are going
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  to shift the needle in your life because every week we bring on a
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  superstar. We bring on a coach, healer and
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  leader to impart their wisdom, to talk about their authentic
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  story. And with no further ado, today
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  I'm going to bring forward a wonderful woman.
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  She is really self invented. She completely created herself
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  from the ground up through, you know, lots of experience in
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  sales, going through many, many elements of career paths and she
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  became the founder of Reroute the script.
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  Now this incredible woman, she understands that people want
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  success, but they quite often undermine themself.
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  So this is going to be a great podcast if you are ready to
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  leave your mark on the world because she believes your mark
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  is your movement, your mission. And she understands very well
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  that limiting beliefs can absolutely capture your life and
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  keep you stuck and paralyzed. And you don't have to stay that
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  way anymore. So if you're ready to rise, if
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  you are ready to speak your truth, if you are ready to stay
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  to the end and experience a incredible sequence where she's
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  going to help you reroute the script, then you're going to
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  want to get yourself relaxed. Your favorite drink, sit back,
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  relax. And with no further ado, I
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  introduce Kelly Parker. How are you, Kelly?
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  I'm wonderful, so glad to be here.
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  Fantastic. And where are you?
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  I am in Kentucky, USA. Beautiful, beautiful.
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  So we are all on the other side of the world from each other.
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  And it just goes to show that it doesn't matter whether we're in
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  Rome, Paris, London, KY, Australia, New Zealand, we are
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  all the same. We are all human, We all have
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  limiting beliefs and we all really get down on ourselves.
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  But you know, for you, you have invented yourself here and you
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  had a massive download transmission on your signature
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  program of rerouting the script. Now firstly, I think we'd better
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  speak in plain terms for our listeners.
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  What exactly does rerouting the script mean?
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  The script that I'm referring to is our limiting beliefs
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  basically, or the well, all the beliefs that we developed as a
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  child and a lot of them are limiting.
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  Not all of them, but I'm focusing on the limiting
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  beliefs. But we have to 1st find out what
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  they are, where they came from and see how they've affected our
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  lives all the way to today. And you can see that pattern
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  once you once you see them first and experience them back when
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  they happen. And then you can know and be
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  aware of what they are. And then that's the.
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  That's the starting point of re routing them in truth.
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  Wow. So that's going to be something
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  that we are going to get to do at the end.
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  So that's exciting and I cannot wait to experience that.
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  And when I experience it, everyone that listens into the
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  show is going to experience it too.
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  So obviously you, you are right because they say that, you know,
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  all our beliefs are set up between the ages of zero and
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  seven and they can be good, bad, happy and sad.
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  However, as you have very wisely pointed out, it's where we come
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  stuck, really. And when things are not working,
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  and it's even getting to that point because some people don't
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  even realize that. Hang on a minute, it's just a
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  belief. Yep, this is not true.
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  Yep, this is. This is not truth, you know,
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  because it's just something that I am telling myself.
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  And they often say that fear means false evidence appearing
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  real. So you know what happened for
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  you. Tell us a little bit about your
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  story. You, you talked about going from
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  career path to career path and how you would start out very
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  excited and it was almost like you had shining object syndrome.
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  You would kind of find that energy falling flat and then you
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  move on. And I think this is a big trap
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  that a lot of people fall in. They go for the next shiny
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  object syndrome and then they kind of find that that wears out
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  and then they move to the next. What did you actually discover?
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  What was it that you actually discovered was the reason for
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  that? Because a lot of people do it.
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  And you know what was the reason?
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  I'm sorry, I'm laughing. It's just, that's just exactly
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  what I did. I was always, I guess I was
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  always looking for something to help me be successful.
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  You know, I wanted to be successful and shiny objects,
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  you know, I like to shop. And so it's like, oh, I like
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  this. Oh gosh, I got to have this.
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  I don't want, I got to do it right now because I might miss
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  out on it later. I was always fearful of missing
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  out too. So I would see some opportunity.
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  And of course, people are usually recruiting you, trying
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  to get you to join them. And you know, you're going to do
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  you're going to be able to do this.
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  It only cost this. These products are great.
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  You can win this trip. The company's the best there is,
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  you know, and so it was so exciting at the beginning, like
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  how can you not do this? And and then, you know, you're
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  excited and you get take off and you're doing pretty good and
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  they're cheering you on and helping you.
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  And then it gets less and less and it starts to fizzle and
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  fizzle out that initial excitement.
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  And I've come to realize that it fizzles because it's not my
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  fire, my true passion. That's lighten me up.
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  I'm using other people's, I'm borrowing theirs, I'm feeding
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  off of theirs. And once you realize it's not in
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  alignment with what my purpose is, even if we don't know what
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  it is at the time, that's what's happening and it it fizzle.
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  You can't sustain that excitement and that passion
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  because it's not yours. So you can't sustain it for
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  somebody else. And I've realized now, I didn't
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  then I didn't know what was going on and I had other
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  reasons, you know, all these other reasons that my
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  inadequacies and all that, my shortcomings, but, and possibly
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  part of it could have been some of those things, but the
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  majority, the main reason is because it wasn't my purpose.
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  It wasn't fueling my flame, my spark that I had at the
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  beginning and it got a little bigger, you know, but then it
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  fizzles back down and I didn't have that internal passion to
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  keep that going. And it's a totally different
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  whenever it's rooted in your purpose, your purpose.
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  We all have 1. And I was mistakenly borrowing
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  other people's over the years and trying to just use theirs to
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  get ahead and to be successful. And it lies within us.
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  That's huge. I mean, that is absolutely huge.
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  I am sure there's going to be some great big, massive pennies
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  dropping right now because sometimes people don't even
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  realize. Why is it that I keep doing
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  that? I, I, I'll go to one thing and
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  then I'll go to the other. And I'm always excited when I
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  start and then next thing you know, it fizzles out and I go to
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  the next. And really what you have
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  discovered in it's, it's about purpose.
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  Yes, and and it's so funny because at times you know the
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  people around you, you know, my my children, you know, and
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  friends and family. It it got to the point where I
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  would see the next one and I said, Oh, I'm doing this.
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  And then it would be something would be said like, oh goodness,
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  what is she doing now? What are you doing now, mom?
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  What's, what's it this time? And so whenever and then when
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  you hear that, that is also just knocking against your confidence
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  too. There's they don't believe in
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  you. They don't think you're going to
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  do it because you never have. So it's feeding the those
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  negative thoughts you already had and it's adding to them.
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  So you really go into it a little less empowered to do it,
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  a little less belief on your own part.
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  Even though you say this is the one, there's always that.
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  And then you've got the fear of going out there like, OK, they
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  heard me talk about this two years ago.
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  Now I'm going to go out there and talk about this.
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  They're going to not believe me. They're not going to trust me
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  because that she pops from this to that.
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  There it is just a whole mass of of just the hints that you take
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  and internal ways. Yes, and this is what I took
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  from you that I was able to learn from you backstage.
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  And firstly that is that for people.
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  I mean, I have never been an employable person anyway, so I
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  wasn't easily roped into, you know, network marketing or, you
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  know, different things. But I was always a very, very
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  good sales person. But, you know, there is
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  something to be said about living somebody else's mission
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  and living your own. And that is exactly what your
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  point here is. And So what I have literally
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  learned from you is #1 identify what it is that is your mission,
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  what lights you up and notice, you know, what it is usually
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  that you could do for hours and what aligns with your values
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  and, and pay attention to your natural gifts as well.
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  So as as you knew kind of progressed, what I learned from
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  you is that your gift has come out through your adversity.
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  So your, you know, this is my favorite saying at the moment.
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  Your adversity became your university, literally.
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  Oh, I love it. Yes, it did.
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  It did totally. Yeah.
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  And I wasn't even planning on that.
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  You know, it's so funny how it works because, you know, I
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  figured these things out and I know I stumbled upon it, and
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  then I'm like this, this is profound.
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  People need to know how to do this because it's life changing,
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  you know, and so it, I think, you know, now that I can see how
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  people develop their own methods and frameworks of business and
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  all, but I never dreamed I would have my own even, you know, I
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  just knew I wanted my own business, but to have my own
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  method and signature method, you know, I'm like, so it's just
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  like I'm going, you know, it's just keeps stacking and it's
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  exciting, but I, you don't realize it until you are aware.
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  You've got to be able to find out why.
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  Why are you getting held back? Yeah.
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  And I'm, I'm going to really bring out, you know, some of the
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  gold that you have discussed with me because obviously we
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  want to give our listeners, you know, the greatest value.
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  That's always my promise that we will give very, very good value.
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  So firstly, Kelly, you, the number one thing that you're
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  very passionate about is obviously apart from knowing
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  thyself and getting to know who you are, is to identify your
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  limiting beliefs and thoughts of fears and what's keeping you
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  stuck. What is one of the best ways for
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  a person to come to know what their limiting beliefs are?
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  I I've always heard of limiting beliefs.
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  You know, you hear about them, they say we've all got them.
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  They started back around, you know, 7 or younger.
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  And I'm thinking, OK, I've got limiting beliefs.
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  OK, we all do. I don't have much confidence,
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  you know, Why am I insecure? We hear about it, but it's very
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  surface level. And I stumbled upon a way to
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  really identify them, I mean, and feel them over again.
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  You can actually feel your emotions from third grade, you
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  know, and so we need to go back to then we need to go back to
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  when were they were really showing up in a childhood for us
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  to experience it. And then we can compare and see
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  how they're same exact things happening now.
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  And then it's almost like, wow, here we go.
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  This is, you know, so that's how we have to really focus and dig
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  deep and visualize and put us there to what they were actually
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  coming about. Yeah, I mean, what happened?
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  You talked about the way you were thinking about yourself,
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  and it wasn't, it wasn't that fancy, you know.
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  You know, you thought you weren't good enough.
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  You want to go through some of those, you know, thought
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  processes you were actually telling yourself before we teach
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  everyone how to turn them around?
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  Yeah. Yeah, I was back in school and I
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  was always a bigger girl. I was never the cute little
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  petite things that made cheerleader.
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  Even though I wanted to be 1 so bad, you know, I wanted to be
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  cute. I never thought I was pretty.
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  I had buck teeth and you know, so I never felt pretty.
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  And then I always compared myself with the little cute
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  petite ones. I wanted to be the teacher pet.
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  I wanted to be needed. I wanted her.
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  You know, I would be inside grading papers for the teacher
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  versus being outside and playing.
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  Because outside on the playground, if we were picking
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  teams for kickball or whatever, I was always last.
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  I wasn't athletic. I was always last.
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  I was always last in all of the physical fitness things, you
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  know, that we had to do. I'm, as you know, the big long
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  mile run. I was last, you know, I just
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  couldn't succeed at anything. I felt like I never could be the
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  winner of anything. I tried out for cheerleader
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  twice. Didn't make it either time.
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  Crushed my soul. And then I would, you know, show
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  it in ways like talking about the one girl that did make it.
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  There's no way that she's better than me.
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  She's pigeon toed even. Look at her.
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  You know, I would find ways, you know, I would have a crush on a
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  little boy, you know, and he would talk to me and I would
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  feel like I would just blooming flower.
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  But then he might say, would you go over there and ask so and so
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  a cute little girl if she likes me and sure, you know, I would
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  say, OK. And even though it just crushed
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  me, you know, I would go do it for him because I wanted them to
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  be happy. I wanted to please them.
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  I wanted, you know, not I don't want anybody to feel any type of
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  conflict or whatever. I wanted to please everybody,
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  but I wanted to be included. I mean, it was just like I was
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  dying to be included and the validation that I made it from
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  everybody else. But you do understand and I and
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  I feel that this is really the turning point in your career is
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  that you understand so very, very well that everybody is
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  worthy. However, it's also coming back
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  to that. Great challenge, that adversity
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  and how you felt that has brought you to being this
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  incredible mentor, this incredible coach, and, you know,
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  a person who has a mission and a vision to grow people and really
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  help them to show up. Because, you know, one of the
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  things you also mentioned backstage is so many people are
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  afraid to show. Show up.
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  Yeah. So many people are afraid to use
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  their voice. And, you know, and then you talk
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  about authenticity. And it's great that you have
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  been able to really create that power through your genius zone
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  because that's what this show's about.
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  Yeah. It's about that pain.
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  Turning to power. Anthony Watkins, he became this
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  great iconic transformation person because he had such a
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  depraved life, because, you know, sometimes he wouldn't even
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  be able to celebrate Christmas. Oprah Winfrey, she had her major
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  adversities as well. And you know, because you know
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  what it's like to be in that position.
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  You came to learn, but it's quite incredible how you had
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  that moment when just suddenly you were able to go back into
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  your mind's eye and go on a journey and see that little
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  girl. Yeah.
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  What happened when you saw that little girl?
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  What did you discover? First of all, I felt very sad
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  for her. My heart broke for her at her
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  desperation of wanting to belong.
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  I just wanted to belong and be wanted.
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  And I can still feel that desperation that she had.
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  It's, it just kind of, it's sad because I think I've used that
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  as a shell of a confidence that I have portrayed because I've
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  always looked confident on the outside and I've not been too
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  shy about doing things. But to reveal myself to be
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  vulnerable and to say that because we think if we're
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  vulnerable, we're weak. And it's the total opposite.
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  I mean, it is the total opposite and being vulnerable is a
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  strength. I mean, it's a stream.
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  And I also realize that I've got a story that could connect with
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  so many women, especially that I guarantee you there's so many
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  women listening right now that experienced what I experienced.
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  I just know it. And it's not something that we
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  find out some things that we don't really like.
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  It makes this a little sad, you know?
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  And it gave me a it, it just stuck a little spear at my
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  backside to say, this is your mission, this is your story,
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  this is your impact because you can help other women get past it
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  as well. This is it.
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  And so it just gives me a reason to get up in the morning.
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  You know, I get up excited now. And it's, it's life changing.
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  It really is. And so many of us, I mean, I'm
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  56. I was 56 before I discovered
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  truly what's been holding me back.
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  Wow. So it just goes to show that,
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  you know it is never too late. You look amazing for your age,
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  by the way. How important, how important is
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  it to embrace your story? Because obviously when you're
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  talking to other people who are really wanting to make an impact
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  on the world and you're helping them to move forward, I would
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  say from what you are saying that being vulnerable, being
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  such a superpower in their business and what they're doing
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  and with their success, that obviously means that they need
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  to accept their story. Do you feel that accepting and
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  facing the truth and releasing the shame and and and actually
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  dealing with it head on actually freeze them so that they can
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  actually be free to move forward?
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  I do. I think that some of us may take
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  a little longer though, depending on what you uncover.
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  You know, because some things are more painful than you might
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  think and it might take you just a little bit to accept it
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  because sometimes it's not that easy to accept.
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  Like I had to accept my desperation.
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  You know, I was a good girl. I made good.
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  I was out, you know, I took up a little bit of space.
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  I didn't want to cause problems. I was the good girl and and made
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  the good grades and did what my parents wanted.
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  I wanted to, you know, make everybody happy, but I've never
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  thought about myself really. I did what it was kind of
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  supposed to do. You know, I did what I was
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  supposed to do. And I think that once that we
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  can realize it's our story and it's a story that we should, I
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  don't want to say glamorize or anything, but to, to take hold
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  of it, own it. Embrace it.
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  Yeah, embrace it. Embrace it.
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  And. Use it to help others.
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  I mean, I think that, yeah, our adversity could be the medicine
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  that other people need, and our struggles and our overcoming can
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  be what they need to hear. I mean, what you say to somebody
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  could be the turning point in their life and that that's a
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  responsibility. I feel like it's my obligation,
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  you know, to make a difference that is.
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  So I look at it as which I love that obligation, but I do, I
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  look at it as I'm responsible for everybody I come in contact
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  with and I'm going to use whatever it takes.
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  And if it needs to be my vulnerability and my struggles
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  and my shortcomings and my insecurities and my failings and
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  all, I'm going to use it because it's in my arsenal.
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  I can use it. Yes, yes.
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  So obviously, really understanding your limiting
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  beliefs and understanding also that you can recognize the root
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  cause. So like Kelly has just said, by
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  actually understanding that a lot of these limiting beliefs
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  are coming from, you know, a story that you heard that you
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  told yourself a long time ago. But then once you recognize the
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  root cause of it, then you move on to the next part.
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  And that part is, as Kelly said, it's not about glamorizing it,
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  but it's about accepting, embracing it.
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  And there's something very, very powerful in being able to do
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  that. Now, last but not least.
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  And this is where the whole foundation of your, you know,
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  your wonderful program comes from, you know, rewriting the
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  script. Now, because I'm a trainer of
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  NLP, in the world of NLP, where I'm teaching people acquisition
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  and it's very powerful and it's built all around these elements.
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  We talk about recoding, rewriting, and you talk about
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  rerouting. And in my mind, I'm kind of
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  gathering this vision, and I would ask you to please correct
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  me, but this is how I see it. I'm imagining my client going
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  right back to when they were a child and when they were in that
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  place in space where they were devastated that they, you know,
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  lost out on something. They, you know, were bullied or
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  they were made to feel insecure or unloved from a parent and
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  whatever that is, going back and obviously identifying it,
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  recognizing it and then re actually going down and up,
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  rooting it and lifting it from the very root.
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  And what happens when you pull something from the roots?
• 28:34
  It's kind of releasing all the other stuff, like all the leaves
• 28:40
  and the other parts that are around it.
• 28:43
  But that's how I'm seeing it. And then we talk about re, you
• 28:49
  know, rewriting it. So then what are we going to put
• 28:53
  in in its place? So let's talk about what you did
• 29:00
  and how you journaled and perhaps you can just cover what
• 29:06
  I just said about uprooting and you call it rerouting and
• 29:11
  perhaps define the difference. Yeah, well, we have to uproot it
• 29:17
  before we can reroute it. So that's the first step is
• 29:22
  uprooting it, digging it, outgoing deep, digging all the
• 29:26
  way down to the tips of those roots and finding out where it
• 29:29
  came from, where it started. And right now, those roots are
• 29:34
  rooted in a foundation of beliefs, not necessarily truths.
• 29:42
  So it might be based on something that was said.
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  Maybe it was based on never seeing your parent, you know,
• 29:56
  maybe they worked all the time. Maybe it was a lot of yelling in
• 30:00
  the house and you felt like they're always arguing.
• 30:04
  I think it's me, you know, they would rather argue than talk to
• 30:08
  me. You know, There's so many
• 30:10
  things. I was always made fun of a lot
• 30:15
  on the because I was always, like I said, a bigger girl.
• 30:19
  I was like, I wasn't obese, but I was taller and chunkier.
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  You know, I was just, I was not, you know, I was overweight.
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  But, and I think when I experienced the the making fun
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  of it was the bullying. Today, bullying is at a whole
• 30:36
  nother level. But nevertheless, it felt the
• 30:39
  same to me back then because that was all I had to measure it
• 30:44
  against. That was bullying.
• 30:46
  So we have to uproot that because it's all based and it's
• 30:50
  the, what it's planted in, what it's sitting in is just your
• 30:57
  environment. It's the, you know, your
• 30:59
  culture, your environment and the beliefs that have come from
• 31:03
  being around that environment. That's the foundation you're in
• 31:06
  and it has to come out of there. We've got to uproot that and
• 31:09
  dig, like I said, dig deep. Once we once we uproot that, we
• 31:15
  can now focus on truth. We're going to look at who you
• 31:20
  are, what you have, and then we're going to plan it and
• 31:24
  reroute it back in truth because belief and truth are different.
• 31:30
  They can be the same, but they not necessarily.
• 31:35
  So we want to just make sure that what we're going to reroute
• 31:38
  it in truth and those will be our new beliefs based on truth.
• 31:43
  Because a lot of times that our worth, worthiness is based out
• 31:48
  of something that's not true, just not true.
• 31:54
  You know, I don't have any skills.
• 31:56
  That's not true. I'm not qualified.
• 32:00
  That's not true. And I'm going to prove to you
• 32:04
  that that is not true. And not qualified in what right
• 32:09
  this is happening. People generalize, they, they
• 32:13
  put a blanket over themselves. But like you, you're pointing
• 32:19
  out when you're really getting to the to the crux of it.
• 32:24
  And they're having that realization, Hang on a minute.
• 32:28
  You know, what am I saying to myself here?
• 32:31
  And it's come to me that our listeners are going to be, you
• 32:38
  know, in that space and place where they're fearing showing
• 32:43
  up. That's what I'm getting as a
• 32:45
  download. And maybe this is going to serve
• 32:51
  some people out there that are going to be listening to this.
• 32:55
  And whether it is when it drops or whether it's six months time
• 33:01
  from now or even 6 years time from now, I'm really
• 33:07
  understanding that your audience is that person out there that
• 33:14
  wants to show up, but they've got a lot of fear around it.
• 33:18
  They're procrastinating and also they're shrinking themselves and
• 33:22
  they're not expressing themselves because they're
• 33:27
  afraid to speak their truth. They see being authentic as a
• 33:34
  weakness rather than a strength. So if we can, if we can set the
• 33:39
  scene for that, and let's just say I'm representing every
• 33:46
  person out there that would love to experience this.
• 33:52
  I'm gonna ask you now, like what we have promised to our
• 33:55
  listeners? Let's go through this exciting
• 33:59
  sequence. Yes, let's do we're we don't
• 34:02
  need to play small anymore. All right, so I want you first
• 34:07
  of all to just try to clear your mind completely.
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  And I want you to go back to the time and I would like for you to
• 34:16
  go back to a time early grade school age probably.
• 34:20
  And you can go back to sitting in your classroom.
• 34:24
  You can go back to being on the playground, sitting at your
• 34:28
  dining room table at home, sitting in your bedroom.
• 34:33
  Can I just say something? I've already had something flash
• 34:36
  up. That's really weird because I
• 34:37
  wasn't going to do that. Suddenly I was in my Grade 3
• 34:42
  classroom with Mrs. Ford and she used to call me a daydreamer.
• 34:48
  Then I had this Just flash of being this little girl walking
• 34:53
  out of the class and everybody taunting me, calling me
• 34:56
  Daydreamer. Anyway, I just thought I would
• 34:58
  say that I had to say that that good.
• 35:01
  Because that's what I want people to experience.
• 35:03
  Just a certain when you're sitting there and you're looking
• 35:06
  around that classroom and you see your teacher and you see
• 35:09
  your classmates and something like that pops up.
• 35:14
  A memory. It's a memory that pops up and
• 35:19
  somebody says to you, you know, you're a daydreamer.
• 35:24
  Well. What does that mean?
• 35:26
  That you don't concentrate, You can't focus?
• 35:29
  You're not participating, You aren't doing what you're
• 35:34
  supposed to be doing. You're not a good student.
• 35:38
  You're Kevin Martin Luther King was a dreamer.
• 35:41
  You know, some of the biggest. But we don't know that the.
• 35:45
  Leaders in the world were dreamers.
• 35:48
  And so, and then people like rude kids, you know, kids can be
• 35:52
  brutal, just take off on it and add to the flow.
• 35:57
  And but that's exactly what I want people to experience, to go
• 36:00
  back and to pick up something. Because when I did it, if I went
• 36:04
  out on the playground, then I would have another memory.
• 36:08
  Something else would come up. Like I said, I would be picked
• 36:12
  last or somebody would want to just really, you know, Bing me
• 36:17
  when you're playing keep away or something, you know, whatever
• 36:20
  that one dodgeball thing. There were so many things and so
• 36:25
  that particular that one particular instance, though,
• 36:29
  made an impact on your life. That one thing that's just one
• 36:34
  of thousands and that could be interpreted in so many ways, but
• 36:42
  it but once it happens, then the next time another instance of
• 36:50
  similarity happens, it just it'll reinforce that and it'll
• 36:54
  reinforce that that you're a daydreamer.
• 36:57
  You are. Compound effect isn't.
• 37:00
  It and then it gets to where you're like, you're a dreamer,
• 37:04
  like what you are thinking about is not attainable.
• 37:09
  What you are dreaming about. Keep on dreaming, honey.
• 37:14
  Just like when people want to, you know, go to be a movie star,
• 37:18
  you know, all these things. I want to be a pro basketball
• 37:21
  player. It'll never happen.
• 37:22
  We are totally knocked down because our dreams are not
• 37:28
  reality. And it it affects us, We want to
• 37:35
  make sure now, a lot of the times a lot of things come from
• 37:39
  our parents and our grandparents and our siblings and our
• 37:42
  teachers and everywhere. And a lot of times, I'm not
• 37:46
  saying this is true for everything, but a lot of times
• 37:49
  these are not I'll intended at the time.
• 37:55
  A lot of times a teacher may be saying that thinking that she's
• 38:00
  helping you to set. In.
• 38:02
  Reality, she may have done it out of what she knew, what her
• 38:09
  limiting beliefs were through her lens of life, and she was
• 38:14
  doing it out of the goodness of her her heart to help you not do
• 38:20
  that because you're going to be disappointed, you know, and a
• 38:24
  lot of times our parents do the same thing to protect us.
• 38:28
  Because everybody comes from and this is an NLP presupposition,
• 38:33
  the highest intention and. You know they.
• 38:38
  Do the best with the resources they have at the time.
• 38:42
  So as I am seeing that little girl, what do I?
• 38:46
  What's the next step? I want you to think about how it
• 38:53
  made you feel then and what do you think it did in a in your
• 38:59
  adult life? Like, can you see that thought
• 39:04
  that, you know, I'm a daydreamer, My dreams are too
• 39:07
  big. I don't do what you know, I'm
• 39:12
  not doing what I'm supposed to be doing.
• 39:15
  I waste time. I know, I know, I know how it.
• 39:20
  It was really an energetic feeling that came from that seed
• 39:26
  of limiting belief, thought, and the energy behind it was
• 39:31
  definitely intimidation. I felt intimidated.
• 39:37
  So I feel that yes, I can see how that little girl did emerge.
• 39:45
  You know, obviously before I did a lot of inner work and, and she
• 39:50
  still pops up from time to time to show a little face and you
• 39:56
  know, but I can see that and that's like little Terry.
• 40:02
  So then what? What do I do with that then?
• 40:07
  It's so funny, I love the word intimidation because I'm easily
• 40:10
  intimidated too just because of other, you know, same things.
• 40:16
  But once you've, you realize that, that if you still see it
• 40:21
  popping up because you, you saw it before you did your, you
• 40:24
  know, work on yourself, you know, you can see it that you
• 40:27
  were easily intimidated by certain things.
• 40:29
  People could intimidate you. You know, I'm easily intimidate.
• 40:34
  Some people aren't. I'm easily intimidated.
• 40:36
  So maybe you were easily intimidated until you started
• 40:39
  realizing, you know, and worked on yourself to better yourself.
• 40:43
  But if it comes back up, you know, and she pops her head ugly
• 40:47
  head back up, making you feel intimidated for wanting
• 40:51
  something, first of all, just catch that thought, catch it
• 40:55
  really fast. Be that's why you have to be
• 40:59
  aware 1st that it's there, that it came from there.
• 41:04
  And now you think, oh, I'm getting intimidated.
• 41:06
  Somebody I know we got to catch it, catch that thought very
• 41:13
  fast. So you got to be quick handed
• 41:16
  and then just drop it, catch the thought, drop that thought and
• 41:23
  re root it. In truth, I'm not intimidated.
• 41:27
  This does not intimidate me. I'm not easily intimidated.
• 41:33
  And then you're going to. Look and then look at the proof
• 41:36
  in your life where you haven't been intimidated.
• 41:39
  You. Know go back and find actual
• 41:42
  proof where Look what I did here and look what I did here.
• 41:47
  People didn't believe me either and look what I did here.
• 41:50
  That's the truth, that where you want to reroute that.
• 41:56
  I love that and the truth. You're catching it.
• 41:59
  You catch it first. Drop it and then.
• 42:02
  You you identify it and then you drop it and then you reroute it.
• 42:10
  In truth, because there's lots of places.
• 42:12
  Yes, in truth. Because.
• 42:18
  We all have evidence of the of the opposite of what we're
• 42:21
  throwing away. There's so much evidence to show
• 42:24
  you, even if it's something that is like I'm not equipped or I'm
• 42:29
  not qualified. Look what you did right here in
• 42:32
  this span of whatever years of raising your children.
• 42:35
  You are very, very equipped to handle this.
• 42:41
  There is. Yes.
• 42:44
  We have a lot of evidence in our lives we don't realize and I'll
• 42:47
  I can point that out and show you once I know your story.
• 42:51
  This right here is where the truth is it is not in this.
• 42:55
  Ditch it. I love it.
• 42:57
  So just to bring conscious competency to our listeners, you
• 43:03
  are obviously looking at whatever it is that's going on
• 43:06
  your world at the moment. And it may be in that sense of I
• 43:10
  don't want to show up or I'm not good enough.
• 43:12
  You've got to be able to trace it back.
• 43:15
  It's like detective work. Yep.
• 43:17
  Then allow yourself like I saw my inner child.
• 43:22
  Yes, grab it. Yeah.
• 43:24
  And then drop. It drop it.
• 43:27
  And then reroute it. Now this is the part I like
• 43:30
  next, 'cause I'm, I'm just gonna open this part up.
• 43:34
  And that is that we reroute it by understanding that that's no
• 43:40
  longer true for me. Now.
• 43:41
  That's in the past. So today I'm actually empowered.
• 43:46
  I'm not that little girl anymore.
• 43:48
  And then anchor. So go back and ask yourself all
• 43:54
  the times that you have done a really great job and this is
• 43:58
  what I love. And I'm just bringing the
• 44:00
  conscious competency around what you just said.
• 44:03
  So bring up perhaps three memories or more, I always say
• 44:08
  around your confidence, around your courage, around your
• 44:13
  empowerment, and anchor them in. And then what's the next step?
• 44:20
  Then go tell somebody else get. Invited.
• 44:26
  Go tell and share because the more you do, the more that
• 44:31
  you're going to get revealed. Revelations every day, every
• 44:36
  time I do a podcast, more things are revealed to me.
• 44:39
  The more I talk about it, the more it empowers me because I
• 44:44
  can see it more clear every day. So whenever you are re routing
• 44:52
  that in your truth, because there's evidence in your life,
• 44:55
  so much evidence to plan it in some truth, it will change you.
• 45:00
  First of all, it will empower you and it will light something
• 45:06
  up in you. That's where we're going to draw
• 45:10
  your purpose from. That's where that magic is going
• 45:15
  to happen. Now.
• 45:17
  That's whenever we need to decide what is your purpose?
• 45:20
  We've got to figure it out. We're going to make it work and
• 45:22
  we're going to impact your world with it and be successful and
• 45:28
  you could have a business that is life changing for others.
• 45:32
  Whatever it is, whatever it is, that's the way it's going to
• 45:38
  come about. That's where you're going to
• 45:40
  find your sweet spot right there.
• 45:44
  Now, did you hear that what Kelly has just said?
• 45:49
  Well, do you know that you can make this your reality?
• 45:53
  You can go to our show nights and you can find Kelly so that
• 45:58
  you can go through this, but she's going to give you that
• 46:01
  bespoke ability to really tap into your empowered self.
• 46:08
  You'll be able to unleash your authentic version, understand
• 46:13
  that your story is your glory, and create your success through
• 46:20
  being able to acknowledge and own your life.
• 46:27
  Kelly, I just wanna thank you so, so much.
• 46:30
  But I do have one last question. And it just would not be.
• 46:34
  And time has just gone so far. We're already after 45 minutes,
• 46:39
  but I, you know, I, it just would not be right if I didn't
• 46:43
  ask you this question when we get off the call.
• 46:45
  If we got off the call and you left this out.
• 46:48
  Now, maybe it's something you've already said and you would like
• 46:51
  to reinforce it or it's something that you would love to
• 46:56
  say to this person out there that is in this position.
• 47:01
  You know, what would you say? Last words?
• 47:03
  What would you tell them? I would first tell you, you have
• 47:09
  value. Every person listening to this
• 47:13
  has value. You have a story that matters.
• 47:17
  Whether you think it does or not, it does.
• 47:22
  And you have a story that others need to hear.
• 47:25
  And I think that you do too, because you might not realize
• 47:30
  what your real story is. And I think that that is part of
• 47:34
  the beauty of doing this whole process is learning and
• 47:39
  understanding your story, realizing it's powerful and that
• 47:46
  you have value. Every person listening has
• 47:50
  something somebody else needs. And that's, that's our mission
• 47:55
  is to to go find those people and change your world, make your
• 48:01
  mark. Kelly Parker, thank you so much
• 48:05
  for coming on this show and teaching us how to really turn
• 48:10
  your story into your glory. Thank you so much, it's been
• 48:13
  wonderful.