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My father got engaged to a woman YOUNGER than me, and I feel so worried! | Reddit Stories | EP3096 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 2: My father got engaged to a woman younger than me,
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  Speaker 2: and I feel so worried.
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  Speaker 3: Keep up with those vows.
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  Speaker 2: I found my biological father six years ago through a
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  Speaker 2: DNA test. But that's a long story for another day.
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  Speaker 2: Two years ago, I finally got the chance to meet
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  Speaker 2: him for the first time. We live in different countries,
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  Speaker 2: so I stayed with him for two weeks. We were
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  Speaker 2: so alike, it was almost creepy. We liked our food
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  Speaker 2: the same way, could practically read each other's minds, and
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  Speaker 2: our lives had all these weird similarities. We even had
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  Speaker 2: matching tattoos, the same breed and color of dogs, and
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  Speaker 2: the family resemblance was uncanny. He had recently gone through
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  Speaker 2: a divorce when I visited. I also have a younger
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  Speaker 2: brother who was 15 at the time. Fast forward to now.
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  Speaker 2: My dad had been planning to come and visit me,
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  Speaker 2: but he kept putting it off for two years because
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  Speaker 2: he wanted to wait until my little brother was old
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  Speaker 2: enough to be independent. My brother is now 17 and
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  Speaker 2: in his last year of high school. Since I left,
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  Speaker 2: my dad has been living like a college bachelor. He's
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  Speaker 2: fallen head over heels for at least five different women.
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  Speaker 2: The first one turned out to be a Russian spicy worker.
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  Speaker 2: who ended up locking herself inside a booze fridge at
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  Speaker 2: a liquor store during what seemed to be a psychotic episode.
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  Speaker 4: Nice.
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  Speaker 3: Sick.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. He really chose someone. The police had to escort
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  Speaker 2: her out. She was only 30 years old. I was
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  Speaker 2: 33 at the time. Ooh.
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  Speaker 3: He can't be stopped.
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  Speaker 4: Find someone younger? It's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from OwnTask7932, and if you
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  Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
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  Speaker 2: slash OKStarTime subreddit. I am Sophia.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Mike.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm Savannah. And we're here to give good advice goofily,
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  Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers. We only know
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  Speaker 2: what we do, so if you do something different, prove
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  Speaker 2: it in the comments. And Opie says... The most recent
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  Speaker 2: girlfriend before this one, he got engaged to her after
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  Speaker 2: only a few weeks. What? How old was she? Then
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  Speaker 2: he ended things just as quickly after finding out she
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  Speaker 2: spent every afternoon at bars with her daughter's ex-husband. Her
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  Speaker 2: daughter's ex-husband?
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  Speaker 3: What is going on here?
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  Speaker 2: That's a... I need a board. I need a board. Well,
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  Speaker 2: I think she's not going to stick around.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, good.
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  Speaker 2: Who also happened to be a substance user. Now there's
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  Speaker 2: a new woman. She's 30 and I'm 34. Yikes. That's
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  Speaker 2: a big yikes. At first, I didn't think much of
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  Speaker 2: it because I assumed it was just another long distance relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Then I found out my dad was planning to rent
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  Speaker 2: out my little brother's room while he stayed with his
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  Speaker 2: mom for a month. And someone suggested this woman needed
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  Speaker 2: a place to stay. Within days, they were sleeping together.
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  Speaker 2: Someone was like, hey, hey, I heard this girl, she
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  Speaker 2: needs a bed. And he's like, well, she can stay
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  Speaker 2: in my bed.
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  Speaker 3: Is she younger than my daughter?
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  Speaker 2: Is she 30?
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  Speaker 5: Ooh.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have a checklist. How old is she? A
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  Speaker 2: few days ago, he called me to tell me they're
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  Speaker 2: already talking about getting married and having babies. What?
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  Speaker 5: What?
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  Speaker 2: My dad is in his late 50s. I said that
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  Speaker 2: would make you almost 80 by the time your kid
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  Speaker 2: turns 18. He just laughed and kissed her. This guy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't like him?
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  Speaker 4: Not really.
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  Speaker 3: This guy sounds like my hero.
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  Speaker 2: My hero. Nothing stops him. Age, just a number for him.
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  Speaker 2: Then he started talking about bringing her with him when
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  Speaker 2: he comes to visit me. That's when I got really upset.
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  Speaker 2: I told him, Dad, I really need you to think
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  Speaker 2: about what you're doing. He'd always talked about coming to
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  Speaker 2: visit me a few times before eventually moving here. It
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  Speaker 2: was already going to be difficult for him to get residency,
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  Speaker 2: but now he's talking about adding a new wife and
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  Speaker 2: a baby into the mix, which makes it even more complicated.
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  Speaker 2: He already delayed visiting me for years because of my
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  Speaker 2: younger brother. And now I feel like he's starting an
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  Speaker 2: entirely new life. Kim Foy says, Opie, your dad's a creep.
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  Speaker 2: And also, pausing there, Opie didn't know her dad for
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  Speaker 2: a while. It seems like he came into her life later.
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  Speaker 4: Getting reconnected with your dad and then just finding out
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  Speaker 4: he's the worst possible guy.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, aw, man. Did I really need a dad anyway?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. She might have been better off without her dad.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you just kind of like never meet your heroes.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I told him that if that's what he wants, I
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  Speaker 2: don't think I can keep investing emotionally because I need
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  Speaker 2: to protect myself from being hurt and let down again.
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  Speaker 2: I also told him that if he marries her, I'll
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  Speaker 2: never call her my stepmom. That would be insane to
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  Speaker 2: call a 30-year-old your mother.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: A younger mom?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, your younger mom. This is my mom. She's four
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  Speaker 2: years younger. I'd probably joke that she's my little stepsister
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  Speaker 2: with a really weird relationship with our dad. Ew! Why
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  Speaker 2: would you make that joke? Please don't make that joke.
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  Speaker 2: So am I the a-hole. And we do have relevant comments. No,
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  Speaker 2: this is just weird, and I would distance myself from
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  Speaker 2: this parent. But what would you do?
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  Speaker 4: I would try to reconnect with him, try to play catch,
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  Speaker 4: work on cars together.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like, hello, Papa.
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  Speaker 3: Hello, hello, Papa.
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  Speaker 2: Please, please can we have a relationship, but just leave
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  Speaker 2: your wife at home.
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  Speaker 4: Your child bride. I don't know. Yeah, this is gross.
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  Speaker 4: I just disconnect, I guess. Just like stop talking to him.
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  Speaker 2: Comment one says, is your dad hoping you'll sponsor him
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  Speaker 2: and the fiance du jour for residency of the country
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  Speaker 2: you live in? OP says, no, he's funding himself, but
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  Speaker 2: I am his sponsor. He would come on a parenting visa.
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  Speaker 2: So if he marries her, technically she would be a
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  Speaker 2: stepmom relation. And more from OP, I actually did that.
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  Speaker 2: We don't know yet what that was. I have four kids,
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  Speaker 2: I'm pregnant, and I have an amazing husband. We've been
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  Speaker 2: together for 14 years, and we've built a wonderful life together.
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  Speaker 2: Both my husband and I have a complicated relationship with
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  Speaker 2: our parents, so I know how lucky I am to
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  Speaker 2: have the family we've created. I'd be lost without them.
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  Speaker 2: I think I'm just going to focus on everything good
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  Speaker 2: in my life and be grateful for what I have.
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  Speaker 2: And we do have an update 16 days later. Boy,
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  Speaker 2: oh boy. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: What are you thinking? What are you thinking, Sophia?
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  Speaker 2: I think you could have kind of just a surface
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  Speaker 2: level relationship with your dad.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: You know, like you don't have to call stepmom stepmom.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have to.
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  Speaker 4: Yo, Sophia, I'm banging this broad right now.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is my 30-year-old brat. She's younger than you.
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  Speaker 2: You're fine with that? I feel like you could just
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  Speaker 2: be like, okay, dad, whatever. You're going to live your
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  Speaker 2: own life.
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  Speaker 3: Fine.
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  Speaker 2: You don't really want to listen to me or my
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  Speaker 2: fears about that. And just don't let it get under
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  Speaker 2: your skin. Just have a surface level relationship with them
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  Speaker 2: if that is what you want.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I kind of agree.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, like, I was like, because I can only,
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  Speaker 4: the only thing I'm thinking is like, I'm putting myself
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  Speaker 4: in like dad's shoes, you know, and I have to
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  Speaker 4: put myself in like Opie's. Don't talk to him. Just
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  Speaker 4: ignore him when he talks about his dating life, too.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.
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  Speaker 4: You don't need to know about who your dad's banging, right? Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: You really don't.
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  Speaker 2: Or who he's trying to marry after two weeks. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Just be like, Dad, I want to talk about that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Keep that to yourself. 16 days later. It's been about
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  Speaker 2: a week since I made my original post.
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  Speaker 4: Nope.
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  Speaker 2: 16 days is way more than a week. That's two weeks.
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  Speaker 2: Past two weeks. What an idiot. You know what? That
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  Speaker 2: is true. He's still completely head over heels for her.
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  Speaker 2: That again? My dad is incredibly stubborn. So even if
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  Speaker 2: he started getting bored, I think he'd probably still try
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  Speaker 2: to make it work. I think what hurts the most
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  Speaker 2: is that this isn't really about his girlfriend. It's about
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  Speaker 2: everything that could come after. I've told him over and
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  Speaker 2: over that I really love my little brother to come
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  Speaker 2: visit too. My hope was that if dad ever decided
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  Speaker 2: to move here, and my little brother liked it, maybe
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  Speaker 2: one day he'd want to move too. Of course, his
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  Speaker 2: mom still lives in the States, so we may decide
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  Speaker 2: to stay there. And I'd completely understand that. I just
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  Speaker 2: wanted us to have the chance to be closer as
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  Speaker 2: a family. I was more than happy to sponsor my
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  Speaker 2: dad while he visited, and my little brother too, but
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  Speaker 2: I'm not willing to sponsor someone he's known for maybe
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  Speaker 2: three weeks. Girlfriend, fiance, wife, whatever she is at this point.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't tell my dad what to do. I made
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  Speaker 2: it clear that it's his life and his decision. I
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  Speaker 2: just told him I don't know if I can keep
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  Speaker 2: getting my hopes up, only to be let down again.
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  Speaker 2: Hopes up about what?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Like him moving there?
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  Speaker 3: Maybe.
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  Speaker 2: Him finding an age-appropriate bride? What are you getting your
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  Speaker 2: hopes up about?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true. We need more information.
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  Speaker 2: I also couldn't keep my mouth shut about how uncomfortable
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  Speaker 2: the age gap makes me. Maybe everything works out and
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  Speaker 2: they're happy together. I honestly hope so if this is
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  Speaker 2: the person he chooses, but I can't ignore that I
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  Speaker 2: feel like he's making some huge life decisions incredibly fast.
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  Speaker 2: And those decisions could end up changing whether he ever
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  Speaker 2: visits or whether we get the opportunity to spend more
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  Speaker 2: time together.
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  Speaker 5: As a family.
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  Speaker 2: And we have a second update two days later. Is
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  Speaker 2: it actually two days? It's a week later, actually. She
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  Speaker 2: don't know. Update two, two days later. Three weeks ago,
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  Speaker 2: my dad... Oh, come on! A different date! Three weeks ago,
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  Speaker 2: my dad started dating a woman who was younger than me.
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  Speaker 2: He was absolutely head over heels in love with her. Well,
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  Speaker 2: three weeks later, he called me while he was out
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  Speaker 2: having dinner by himself and said, I can't stand that woman.
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  Speaker 2: I almost punted her out last night. We've got a
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  Speaker 2: little bit left. I would be like, Dad, please don't
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  Speaker 2: talk to me about this.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I know. No more.
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  Speaker 4: No, I would just cut off ties, dude. I would just,
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  Speaker 4: you made it this far without, like, getting on to, like,
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  Speaker 4: stepping on any toes.
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  Speaker 3: Like, I mean. Yeah. You can keep it going.
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  Speaker 2: I would just say, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Good for you, right?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, good for you, Dad. When are you coming
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  Speaker 2: to visit with my little brother? After reading all of it,
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  Speaker 2: I think the only reason why I wouldn't cut off
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  Speaker 2: ties is because she wants a relationship with her little brother. So, like,
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  Speaker 2: just surface level.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: He went on to tell me she's been drinking heavily
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  Speaker 2: and has become belligerent towards him. Sadly, it sounds like
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  Speaker 2: the relationship is already falling apart. Yeah, well, the relationship
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  Speaker 2: that lasted, what, three weeks? What? No.
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  Speaker 3: Shocker.
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  Speaker 2: But she's so young and pretty. I thought she could
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  Speaker 2: make it.
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  Speaker 4: No, the booze hound. What?
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  Speaker 3: The booze hound for a month.
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  Speaker 2: No, that was the Russian spicy work. Yeah, don't get
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  Speaker 2: that mistake. Don't get it twisted.
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  Speaker 4: I got it mixed up. I got it mixed with
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  Speaker 4: the other nine women that he's dating.
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  Speaker 2: The second I hung up, my husband and I did
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  Speaker 2: a little happy dance and then gave each other a
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  Speaker 2: big hug. Not because we're happy he's hurting, but because
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  Speaker 2: we've been so worried this relationship was going to stop
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  Speaker 2: him from visiting us. I'm really hoping that once this
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  Speaker 2: is behind him, he'll finally focus on making the trip
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  Speaker 2: to meet his grandkids and the new little one on
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  Speaker 2: the way. Okay, I guess. I don't know. He's kind
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  Speaker 2: of strange. He's a strange man. But, you know, if
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  Speaker 2: this makes you happy, then yay.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, love is love, I guess.
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  Speaker 2: Love is love. He's happy-ish. You're happy when he comes
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  Speaker 2: to visit. So I don't know. I don't know. This
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  Speaker 2: feels like Legally Blonde. As long as you don't try
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  Speaker 2: to take out his wife, then I think we're good.
• 11:42
  Speaker 2: How is that Legally Blonde? Literally the whole plot. A
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  Speaker 2: daughter is upset that her father married a woman younger
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  Speaker 2: than her, so she unalives her. Okay, that was... That
• 11:57
  Speaker 2: is not the whole plot. That's the whole plot. That
• 11:59
  Speaker 2: is not the whole plot. That's the whole plot. There
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  Speaker 2: is no other plot. It's not even... That is just
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  Speaker 2: like the tip.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: That is not the whole plot. There is not like
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  Speaker 5: 15 songs about being Lele Blonde.
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  Speaker 2: That has nothing to do with it. There's not 15... Nope.
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  Speaker 3: You didn't even mention who was blonde in that story.
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  Speaker 2: The person who... No, she's... Oh, wait.
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  Speaker 4: She's brunette.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't think it really says. But
• 12:27
  Speaker 2: we've got another story, folks.
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  Speaker 4: My wife is jealous of my bond with our daughter,
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  Speaker 4: and it blew up our marriage.
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  Speaker 2: I wish you loved me as much as our daughter.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, so for background, my wife, Bridget, 37 female, and I,
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  Speaker 4: 34 male, were in a relationship for four years until
• 12:45
  Speaker 4: we broke up. Well, during that time apart, she fell
• 12:48
  Speaker 4: pregnant from another guy. Long story short, we got back together,
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  Speaker 4: and I've been raising Haley, 16 female, as my own
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  Speaker 4: ever since. My relationship with Haley started getting close when
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  Speaker 4: Bridget had to leave the country for a three-month business trip.
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  Speaker 4: It wasn't supposed to be that long when Haley was five.
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  Speaker 4: Needless to say, this was a very rough time with
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  Speaker 4: a lot of mistakes, but we just figured things out
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  Speaker 4: together and got a chance to really bond. And ever
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  Speaker 4: since then, we've just been inseparable.
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  Speaker 2: Daddy-daughter. I love that. I love father-daughter relationships that are
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  Speaker 2: very strong. I think it's very sweet because I have
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  Speaker 2: a very good relationship with my dad.
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  Speaker 4: Shout out to my dad. One night while I was
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  Speaker 4: up working in my office, Haley, 11 at the time,
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  Speaker 4: came downstairs and just stood at the door crying yet
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  Speaker 4: smiling at the same time. When I asked what was
• 13:34
  Speaker 4: going on, she blurted that she just had her first period.
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  Speaker 3: At first I.
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  Speaker 4: Froze, but being a proactive dad, we went out to
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  Speaker 4: go get her some pads and treats. Changed her sheets
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  Speaker 4: and we kind of just watched movies together for the rest.
• 13:47
  Speaker 3: Of the night. By the way, this comes from... Throw
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  Speaker 3: R a dad.
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  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 13:54
  Speaker 4: to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Mike.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia. And I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 4: And today we're here to give good advice goofily, but
• 14:01
  Speaker 4: we don't know all the answers. And if you guys
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  Speaker 4: have anything that you'd like to say, sound off in
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  Speaker 4: the comments.
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  Speaker 2: Wait, that's not her dad? Did I miss that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So you had the wife or like the mom got
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  Speaker 4: pregnant with another guy. Oh. And now OP is raising.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, so that's her dad. He's raising this child?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, he's raising this child.
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  Speaker 2: So this is her dad, okay.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so.
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  Speaker 3: Well, not like, you know.
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  Speaker 4: What I mean?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that was an important distinction, but like.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, stepdad, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Still our dad. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: So same page. I was like, oh, this is like
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: an uncle. All right.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, but as OP says, here's where I might have
• 14:42
  Speaker 4: been wrong, but I do have an excuse. I'm a
• 14:45
  Speaker 4: book editor by profession. So as soon as I wake up,
• 14:48
  Speaker 4: I go straight to the office and start editing for
• 14:50
  Speaker 4: hours before taking a break. Well, it got to about
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  Speaker 4: noon and my wife came in holding the pads in
• 14:56
  Speaker 4: her hands. She first thought Haley got them on her own,
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: but when I told her what happened, she completely lost
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  Speaker 4: her mind. The whole, why didn't you wake me up
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  Speaker 4: and you just robbed me from a milestone rant, which
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  Speaker 4: I understand since she would have had more experience, but
• 15:13
  Speaker 4: Haley came to me and I just acted without much thought.
• 15:17
  Speaker 4: After a long period of the cold shoulder, she finally
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: forgave me and we went on with life.
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, she's the one who had an affair, baby. So,
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: you know.
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: When we're forgiving sins.
• 15:30
  Speaker 4: It's a real fine line.
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: She's like, I guess I'll forgive you for giving my
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: child a pad. He's like, yeah, well, you know, I
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: forgave you for cheating on me.
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah. So Haley and I spend a lot of time
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: hanging out. Well, now that she's a teenager, she's been
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: asking me more questions about guys and what we like, etc.
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: My wife was a bit jealous, but she understood my position. Then,
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: a couple months back, she told me she wanted to
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: go to her first party that weekend. Knowing better, I
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: sent her to her mother, who agreed with a few rules.
• 16:04
  Speaker 4: The morning of the party, we were in the kitchen
• 16:06
  Speaker 4: making smoothies, and I could see something was wrong. When
• 16:10
  Speaker 4: I asked, she made me swear to never tell Bridget.
• 16:13
  Speaker 4: I agreed, and she proceeded to tell me a secret. Well, apparently,
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: Bridget caught on to it. She confronted Haley, and they
• 16:22
  Speaker 4: got into an argument about it since she didn't approve
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: of it.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: Okay, I feel like probably some sort of spicy sleep
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: or some sort of substance.
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's either one of the two. So after their fight,
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: she stormed into the bedroom and woke me up. I
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: was pretending to be asleep to tell me what was
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: going on. I guess she noticed I wasn't too shocked
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: and called me out for knowing this whole time. She
• 16:45
  Speaker 4: then broke into tears, saying that she's jealous of my
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: relationship with Haley and it breaks her heart because she
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: doesn't share that with her. At the end, she low-key
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: suggested that I stop spending so much time with Haley.
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: When I explained that I wasn't comfortable with that, she
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: blew up, saying that she doesn't even understand why I
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: cared so much when I'm not her father. This obviously
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: cut deep and I left the house.
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: That's so messed up. Like, again, if you raise this
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: girl for like her whole life, right?
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, essentially.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: Her whole life. That is your dad. That's your dad.
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: That is your dad.
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: That is your dad. Also, Ronan really hates this guy.
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: I don't know why. Like, I'm like, did I not
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: hear a part of the story? I keep second guessing myself,
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: but I've been here.
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: So now I get how she feels.
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: But on the other hand, Haley came to me as
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: her father because she trusted me enough to talk to me.
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: And at least this way we'll know she's safe. What
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: should I do? Counseling is not possible right now. And
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: the period thing honestly wasn't a secret. Just a matter
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: of her finding out before I could tell her.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: I guess like regardless of, you know, his relationship with
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: his wife, it seems like he's built this beautiful relationship
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: with His daughter?
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: And I feel like he just has to have a
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: conversation with Bridget and be like, hey, it really hurt
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: me when you said that because we worked through that
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: thing that happened.
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: I stayed.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah. And I, like, what did you want to happen?
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: But as a mom, the mom is just like, just
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: being like.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: She's like, well, I cheated on you, so you can't
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: have a good relationship. He's like, I don't know what
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: you want.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: What do you want? Tell me. Yeah.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: What would you have suggestions for OP for the dead?
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Sit down conversation with Bridget.
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: And say like, I think there's, cause I think there's
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: two issues here.
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: The first issue is clearly the jealousy, you know, she wants.
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: I think it's, I think it's, I think the jealousy
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: stems from guilt.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 18:42
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: She's guilty about the cheating.
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: Oh, Pete clearly has like moved past it.
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: To the point where, again, he sees this, like this
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: is his child.
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: Mm hmm.
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: He's moved past it in an incredible way and built
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: this incredible relationship. So she's jealous and guilty. And I
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: think you have to sit her down and say, hey,
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: you can have your own relationship. You would have that
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: outside of my relationship. You just have to talk to
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: her and spend time with her. And that's how I
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: built that relationship. Putting the work. Putting the hours.
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: Everything costs work, dude. Everything costs work.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: Oh, and they didn't even cheat.
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they were separated. Oh, yeah, they were separated.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: So probably the guy that she had the kid with
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: is probably a scumbag, dude.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: I was here for this story, guys.
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, are you okay? Do you know what day it is?
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: Ronan threw me.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: So far off that I thought that I misheard it.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: I thought that there was cheating because Ronan, you were
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: so hard on this.
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: You got gaslit, bro.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Oh my God, I'm being gassed and I'm like, what?
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: What did I miss?
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: No, she was cheating.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: How does it feel? Yeah. I need to ignore the
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: comments because they're confusing me. Anyway.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: Well, we got an update.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I just talked to her.
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: So Bridget, Haley, and I sat down and started talking
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: about what's been going on, how we each feel about
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: how things are and how we want them to be
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: with a therapist on a video call. A lot was said,
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: some arguing in between, but after about four days, we
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: each got it all out. Since then, Haley and Bridget's
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: relationship has been looking better. Nice. Though Haley says that
• 20:15
  Speaker 4: she's just doing it for me, I know she enjoys
• 20:17
  Speaker 4: hanging out with her mother and getting her mom's perspective
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: on things. Okay.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: I think that was a great thing to do, like
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: get into counseling.
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: But we need something, someone else, a mediator in.
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: This, clearly.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: At some point, there just kind of just needs to
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: be like, you got to be, you got to get
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: like a professional to like handle stuff like this.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: But I'm glad that you have such a nice, I'm
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: glad that outside of all of this, you still have
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: that great relationship with your kid.
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: Nice.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: It seems like OP would not trade that.
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: I wish OP was my dad, dude. OP seems so great. Yeah,
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: he's a really nice guy.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: It really feels like OP does not care. He's like,
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: this is my kid. I love her. I would not
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: trade that. And I think that's pretty incredible. A WOP.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah, WOP. So let's finish this story up. It is
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: still early days, of course. And it might not last long,
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: but I'm just glad they're both happy about this and
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: equally trying as hard. Bridget has lightened up a bit
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: with Haley on certain subjects and is becoming more of
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: a support system for her. Our marriage still isn't necessarily
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: returned back to normal, though. I'm still sleeping in the
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: guest bedroom, but we are talking things through and attending
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: couples therapy online. And I've joined a few groups on
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: finding our way again. We're nowhere near divorce, so I
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: guess things are still well. Nice.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Jen Thompson says, L for the mom, yeah. L for
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: the mom. She seems to be on the right track back, though.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: You know?
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: Seems like she is working.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Ronan's basically saying, you know what? The dad should
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: cheat on the wife and have a kid.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: I think Ronan's saying have another cheating. The wife should
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: cheat again.
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: Oh, for two times?
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: I don't understand that take. But that's okay. We can
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: have different opinions. And put your guys' opinions in the
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: comments below. I personally love the bonding between dad and daughter.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Stuff King says, I still think Opie did right by
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: the kid. The kid was innocent. The wife deserves her
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: kid to hate her. I mean, it seems like the
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: kid doesn't hate her. It seems like they're just not
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: as close. And that was it. Which happens. I feel
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: like sometimes there's a parent. It fluctuates. There's a parent
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: that you're close to. And then there's a parent that.
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: Were you really.
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: Close with your parents?
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: I am still very close.
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: Really?
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah. In some ways, I know people who are much closer,
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: but I see them all the time. So I definitely
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: say we were a close family.
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: Makes sense why you go into improv. I feel like
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: improv is like.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: You need your family's support. Well, my dad was an actor.
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: Oh, really?
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: He still works in the industry, but no longer as
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: an actor. So he was always very supportive of.
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so he knows.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: He's been in the business.
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: Creative feels.
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: I remember when I told my, when I told my family,
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: I told my dad, I remember I was like, yeah, dad,
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: I think I'm going to, I think I'm going to
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: go like pursue standup. Yeah. I remember he just like
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: laughed at me for like five minutes.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: Well, your first job. You're like, oh my God, this
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: is working already.
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: I remember telling my dad that I was going to
• 23:19
  Speaker 5: go do theater.
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: And he said, that's a hobby.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, that it doesn't even, it doesn't
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: even register that it can be like, that it was like,
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: that was.
• 23:26
  Speaker 5: The first time like we've ever like disagreed, I guess.
• 23:30
  Speaker 5: And I was like, you've always been very supportive of me.
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: And it was just really weird. And my mom was my,
• 23:35
  Speaker 5: I would think my mom would be like now because
• 23:38
  Speaker 5: she was calling all the shots.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: But like, I was like, interesting.
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: I don't know how I feel about this.
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: But I think it did, it did turn out good though.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: Because like, because I think like the, the first time
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: that you get like a, you get a disagreement, you
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: learn how to like stand up for yourself and stand
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: up for like stuff that you believe in. Yeah. I mean,
• 23:57
  Speaker 4: I remember like, I remember like after, after like, My
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: family was just like, what are you doing?
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: You know, I was like, no, I don't know.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no.
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: I believe in myself.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: We got another story.
• 24:08
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• 24:11
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• 24:16
  Speaker 2: My family let an in-law say mean things for years
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: because of his identity.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: This in-law saying out-of-pocket stuff.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: My grandma's 70th birthday was celebrated a couple of days
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: ago in her house. My elder cousin came with her
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: husband of three years, and his attracted the same gender brother,
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: male 32. I am female 17, and on the way
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: to my grandma's home, there was a fair, and I
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: bought some very pretty baby hair clips, and I intended
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: to save it for my future babies, like it's that cute.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: I showed my grandma these clips, and she loved them.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: And Chris, who was sitting on the other end of
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: the room, suddenly made a joke about Is this a
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: pregnancy announcement? Because my tummy does look a bit round.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: Loudly followed with a laugh, and I swear almost everyone
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: in my family went pale. Shut up! That's so messed up!
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: To say to a 17-year-old? A 32-year-old man said that
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: to a 17-year-old. The mood turned awkward so quick, and
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: my grandma was looking at me for clarification or something. Like,
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: what the F? I'm an introvert. I hate confrontations, unwanted attention...
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: or people in my business. The problem I've always had
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: with Chris is he's, in his own words, an extrovert,
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: an honest queen, and a fashion police. Yeah, no, he
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: can't just say, I'm an honest queen, so I can
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: say whatever I want to you.
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: Say the worst things possible.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yikes.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: So you must be pregnant because you look fat. Yeah,
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: it's like, okay, well, shouldn't have said that, Chris, to
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: a 17-year-old. Big old red flag.
• 25:48
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: In the three years, he has said the meanest things
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: about our clothes, weight, and whatnot, but everyone has let
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: him get away with it because of his identity, as
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: they don't want him to think he is being targeted
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: because of it. By the way, this comes from Orchids
• 26:02
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• 26:03
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• 26:06
  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: I'm Mike.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: And I'm Savannah. And we're here to give good advice goofily,
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers. We only know
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: what we'd do. So let us know what you would
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: do in the comments. And OP continues, anyway, I guess
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: everything just came to me at once after the joke
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: he made at my expense. I stood up from the
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: couch and asked him, why did a grown man in
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: his 30s think it would be funny to make a
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: joke about a teenage girl like that? Oh, damn. Mic drop.
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: Mic drop.
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: Drop.
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: Mic drop.
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: Perfect.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: Nice, OP. Yes, call him out. Because he should not
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: be saying that.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: No, that's insane, dude.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: The lack of awareness, the lack of social awareness is
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: like out of pocket.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: This is somebody that like hasn't.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: Been checked.
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: Has not been checked, bro.
• 26:55
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: Or like anytime someone does call him out, he's like, oh, well,
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: is this because I'm like attracted to men?
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: No.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: Like an immediate defense. Yeah. It's like, no, it's just
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: because you're an a-hole.
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: Much like the things that you like to smash.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: That's it.
• 27:08
  Speaker 5: You are an a-hole.
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: His smile drops.
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: You are what you eat.
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: That's funny.
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: His smile dropped so quick, and my cousin jumped into
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: his defense with the exact words, oh, love, it's fine.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: You know he's attracted to the same gender. I'd be like, what?
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I didn't realize that him loving
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: men meant that he could be just a raging angel.
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: Just the worst person of all time.
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: What does that have to do with anything?
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: No, but I'm gay.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: No, but you consider that. I lost it there, I guess.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: started yelling about things like, what is fine? Does his
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: identity make him not a man? He's like all men
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: out there for me. If your identity doesn't make you evil,
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: then why the F would it make you a saint?
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: He's still a man, still a man in his thirties
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: who should have the same sense to know how to
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: behave and what to say. And the way he talks,
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: it's obvious that he's an effing misogynist. Like he thought
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: child support should be illegal because according to him, his
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: ex and he broke up because his ex had to
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: pay an outrageous amount every month, leaving nothing for savings
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: for a mistake he made as a teenager. The mistake
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: is a child and wife he had as his cover. Damn,
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: OP said, I've been holding all of this up.
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, sounded off. Sounded off on that.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: He said, well, now I have everyone's attention. While we're
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: on this subject, I was in tears by the end
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: of the rant and I finished it with the fastest
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: run ever to our car, followed by my parents. Regardless,
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: my cousin is bombarding my phone with calls and texts
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: talking about teenage rage, anti-queer, and an expected apology from me.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: Why am I being accused being anti-queer now? Am I
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: in the wrong here? And we do have some other
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: comments from OP and an update, but what do you think?
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: Is OP in the wrong here?
• 28:56
  Speaker 4: Absolutely not. No. Dude, this is, honestly, man, it's so
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: funny because some of my friends who are can be
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: the meanest guys of all time.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: I do think that a lot of queer men, they
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: forget that they can be misogynist, like misogynistic because they're like, well,
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: I am part of a disenfranchised group. So like I
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: can make fun of women. It's like, well, no, you're
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: still a man though. You still can be rude.
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: No, this is insane. This person needs to be checked in.
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: Get him in a room with me right now.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: Get him in a room. Me and Sophia know someone
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: like this. We do. We do.
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: The 32 guy or the guy that would check him?
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Just a queer man who thinks that he can say
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: anything that he wants to about women.
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: Get me in a room with you.
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: Get me in a room.
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: Get me in a room with him.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: There is a surefire way for OP to combat this.
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah. How?
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: She comes out as queer. Whoa. Got him. He's got
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: nothing on you. He's got nothing on you.
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: Genius.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: He goes, oh, well, you're anti-queer. You go, no, how
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: can I be? How can I be?
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: I am.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: I'm one of them.
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: So now you're attacking your own people?
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Who are you? Who are you? Additional comments from OP.
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: Thank you for all your time. I do get some
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: may find it weird that I collect these things for
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: my future kids going back to the clips, I guess.
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: It's just what I find something cute and if it's
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: something I have already outgrown like a baby toy or
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: hair tie I like to save for the future where
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: I can give it to my kids. My parents and
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: all other family members were also very sweet about it
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: so it became a habit and Chris knew this habit.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: Him intentionally poking fun at it and twisting it and
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: my grandma not defending me really made me go crazy
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: I guess. I'll be honest I haven't replied to any texts.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: The adrenaline rush is gone. I am feeling mortified. The
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: mere thought of the whole family focusing on me or
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: my every action is just terrifying. Chris always came with
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: my cousin because he and my cousin's husband are the
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: only family they have in the city or like in
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: the continent. I am from Europe and they are from America.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: We have an update three days later. Let's get into it.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: So I never replied to my cousin's message and kind
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: of hoped it would all just go away because I
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: am mortified at the entire situation. and detest the attention
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: because almost every family member is calling my parents every day.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: But yesterday evening, my cousin and her husband came for
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: a surprise visit. They stayed for like three hours, and
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: the summary is they're afraid that the family bonds may
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: suffer Because of a misunderstanding and miscommunication. What was miscommunicated?
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: He's like, no, no, no, I communicated everything. I want
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: to know what you thought I didn't mean.
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah, bro. What could you possibly mean by that? What
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: are you not talking?
• 31:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: Do you want me to say it again?
• 31:54
  Speaker 5: Yeah, like everything I said I meant.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: What's misinformed? What are you not getting here? We are
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: the only family Chris and his brother have here because
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: they're from America and we are in Europe. They came
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: here seven years ago and they told us their birth
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: families cut ties with Chris for being attracted to the
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: same gender when he was 16. And my cousin's husband
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: stood with him and they did the same to him.
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: So yeah, my cousin is asking all of us to
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: prove that we are better than their family and to
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: not do the same thing. When I told her it's
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: not his identity but his personality, she told me that
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: it is his identity, which makes it okay for him
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: to have this personality. So be understanding. No. That's the most...
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: insane thing I've ever heard.
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 32:39
  Speaker 5: So you can do whatever you want without consequence because.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: Of your identity. Also just like so incredibly stereotypical and
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: like awful to say that you are like one it
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: is okay if you are attracted to men to be
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: like this but also that just like that is the identity.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: That's what comes with it. Like it's like it's You're
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: an immediate bully. Yeah, it's like, oh, that's kind of
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: messed up.
• 33:07
  Speaker 4: You decided to make this your personality? Could have been
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: anything you wanted.
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: And that he only made the joke because he thought
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: I was a good sport. And my dad kind of
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: made her stop the rant and told her how the
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: three of them need to get their act together. And
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: not take the family for granted because everyone has their
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: breaking point. Suddenly, my cousin's husband yelled at my dad, asking,
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: are we threatening to cut ties with them too, like
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: their birth family? And yeah, by that time, my mom
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: was like, leave now. Because she has three surgeries to
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: do tomorrow and she needs to rest. My cousin was
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: crying when she left. Family group is going crazy and yeah,
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: the mess is just getting messier. Regardless, thank you guys
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: for the comments and advice. My bully, my boyfriend. Is
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: that Dear Evan Hansen? It does kind of look like,
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 33:57
  Speaker 4: It looks very AI.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 34:01
  Speaker 5: The thing that I searched here was bullying but kissing
• 34:05
  Speaker 5: J with a G.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: Well, there we go. And that's what came up. Yeah,
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: do you think that they're going to actually cut these
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: people off or are they going to somehow work it out?
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: I mean, here's the thing, dude. The guy's been doing
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: this for like 32 years. Yeah.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: He has not changed.
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: He's not changed at all.
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I really, I think the way that you have
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: to do it is you need to go to him
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: and he's like, you're cutting me off because I'm, you know,
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: my identity, my identity. And you go, look me in
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: the eyes. I love you for your identity. I hate you.
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: For your personality. You're a terrible person, not because of
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: your identity.
• 34:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah. I've never seen so much hate with somebody that's
• 34:54
  Speaker 4: supposed to love everything.
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: It means happy. What are you doing? That's the miscommunication here.
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 35:01
  Speaker 4: This guy's just sad all the time. Oh, man.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: We got a second update. Let's see if anything changed.
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: Eight months and 25 days later. Wow.
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: That is a long time. My cousin is pregnant and
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: her brother-in-law was diagnosed with terminal illness six months ago.
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: So yeah, everything's back to square one. Wow. Nothing has
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: changed and no one can speak about it considering they're
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: both in a vulnerable position. I don't want to do anything.
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: Also considering I am leaving for my university in a
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: couple of weeks. It's out of Europe. So whatever is
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: going to happen next. Good luck to my family, I guess. Yeah,
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: I guess so. Wow. Nothing was solved.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: Nothing was solved in this.
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: That is fun, fun, fun. Fun, fun, fun.
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: Yikes. Dear Evan Hansen, my bully, my boyfriend.
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: Hey, can we read this?
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: I'll read this.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: Dear Evan Hansen, you're my bully and my boyfriend.
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: You push me up against lockers when I want to
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: push your lips.
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: Against mine. On mine. I mean, there's already a Dear
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: Evan Hansen song that kind of ships into it. Yeah,
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: it is.
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: Anyway.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: But we got another story coming up.
• 36:16
  Speaker 4: Hey, this is Riley, the new Californian here.
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: We're going to get back to these stories, but here's
• 36:20
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• 36:23
  Speaker 4: I was accused of abandoning my siblings when it was
• 36:27
  Speaker 4: my mother who made me leave.
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: Whoa, whoa, whoa.
• 36:30
  Speaker 6: Don't point the fingers over here. I, female 17, am
• 36:34
  Speaker 6: the oldest of three living with my two siblings, female
• 36:38
  Speaker 6: 14 and male 10, and our mother.
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: Our father left when my brother was born, and afterwards
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: we moved states closer to family for help. Since then,
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: I've been helping my mom with raising my siblings the
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: best I can. We've had family come over to help
• 36:54
  Speaker 4: when I was busy and my mom was at work,
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: but for the most part, it was just the four
• 36:58
  Speaker 4: of us. When we moved, I was placed back in
• 37:01
  Speaker 4: school as soon as I could be. I've always been
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: more quiet than most, and living in a new state
• 37:06
  Speaker 4: only made social awkwardness worse. But eventually, I met another
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: girl around my age, and we started to become good friends.
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: The girl Alana and I started doing a lot together.
• 37:16
  Speaker 4: It only took a couple years, if not less, to
• 37:19
  Speaker 4: be considered like family. A little over five months ago,
• 37:22
  Speaker 4: Alana and I started dating. We took it very slow
• 37:26
  Speaker 4: and kept it to ourselves.
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: Well, I hope you don't still see her as family.
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: That'd be weird.
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: Last month, when we hit five months, she convinced me
• 37:34
  Speaker 4: to tell my mom. She was fine with the ex-boyfriends
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: I've had, and based off prior comments, seemed to support
• 37:41
  Speaker 4: the LGBTQ plus community. Last Sunday, I decided to tell her.
• 37:46
  Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from M-I-V-A... 87th throwaway. And
• 37:52
  Speaker 4: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 37:54
  Speaker 4: the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: I'm Mike.
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia. And I'm Savannah.
• 37:59
  Speaker 4: And today we're here to give good advice goofily, but
• 38:01
  Speaker 4: we don't know all the answers. So we just know
• 38:03
  Speaker 4: what we would do. And if you guys have anything
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: that you'd like to put, sound off in the comments below.
• 38:09
  Speaker 4: But anyways, as OP says, Alana spent the night because
• 38:13
  Speaker 4: she wanted to be with me when I told my mom.
• 38:15
  Speaker 4: So in the morning, we both sat her down with
• 38:17
  Speaker 4: us at the dining room table. When we told her,
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: she freaked out. She said all sorts of angry things
• 38:23
  Speaker 4: at us. My girlfriend and I tried to keep our cool,
• 38:26
  Speaker 4: but before the conversation was over, I was in tears
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: and she was clearly pissed. That was the only time
• 38:33
  Speaker 4: I ever swore at my mother. I left the house
• 38:36
  Speaker 4: for a few hours and I needed to relax and
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: calm down before making any hasty decisions. When I returned later,
• 38:43
  Speaker 4: I opened the door to see my suitcase packed and
• 38:46
  Speaker 4: sitting next to the couch. I took the hint, grabbed it,
• 38:50
  Speaker 4: and left again. I've been staying with Alana since, but
• 38:53
  Speaker 4: it's difficult because our parents don't know about us either.
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: Her parents.
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and because her parents don't know about us either.
• 39:00
  Speaker 4: I said that, didn't I?
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: I think you said R. My bad. His funky flow.
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: His funky flow. It sounded like R.
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: Pow, pow, pow.
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: Ow, ow, ow, ow.
• 39:12
  Speaker 4: Her parents don't know about us either, and they just
• 39:15
  Speaker 4: know my mom and I got into an argument. This week,
• 39:18
  Speaker 4: my phone's been blowing up with family members criticizing me
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: for leaving my siblings and mom like that.
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: How dare you?
• 39:24
  Speaker 5: Whoa.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: I would respond to the mom and say, oh, wait,
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: did she tell you that she punted me out?
• 39:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: How about you ask mom what happened?
• 39:34
  Speaker 4: I can only assume they've been giving one half of
• 39:36
  Speaker 4: the story, but maybe I'm wrong. My mom hasn't called
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: or messaged since. I feel sorry, but at the same time,
• 39:44
  Speaker 4: I don't know if she understands how she hurt me.
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: So, read it. Am I the a-hole here?
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: I mean, like, in no world.
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: No.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: You're, like, a 17-year-old young woman who just, like, is bi.
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: and evicted you for that.
• 40:00
  Speaker 4: You're trying to figure out your place in the world,
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: trying to date, you know? Here, your parents are messing
• 40:06
  Speaker 4: up your funky flow, bro.
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: They're messing up.
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: Your funky flow. That's what I'm saying.
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: Back off my funky flow. Yeah, I would tell those
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: other family members, because hopefully there would be another family
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: member who would be like, I'm super supportive of you,
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: and that's messed up that your mom is a bigot.
• 40:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah, well, we have an update here. So eight days later, Firstly,
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: I called my father. Ooh, dad's back.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: Daddy's home.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: Daddy's home.
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: Let's see what he thinks.
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: Our relationship is strained.
• 40:39
  Speaker 4: Being separated and not seeing each other often, but he's
• 40:42
  Speaker 4: made it to some of my bigger events since the divorce.
• 40:44
  Speaker 4: Double digits, sweet 16, mostly birthday stuff, but sometimes other things.
• 40:50
  Speaker 4: He never wanted us to move away, just felt he
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: couldn't handle a third kid.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: At the time.
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: I digress.
• 40:55
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: I called him, and it went to voicemail. I found
• 40:59
  Speaker 4: myself crying into the phone as I relived the past
• 41:02
  Speaker 4: two weeks, but I made sure to word it as,
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: Mom punted me out because I have a girlfriend. He
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: called back a few hours later and said he'd see
• 41:12
  Speaker 4: what he can do to help and will keep me
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: updated and ask me to do the same. Secondly, on Tuesday,
• 41:18
  Speaker 4: I talked to Alana about us telling her parents. Between
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: people saying I should to get their support and those
• 41:24
  Speaker 4: saying I shouldn't in fear of more backlash, it wasn't
• 41:28
  Speaker 4: an easy choice. I was hoping worst case scenario, my
• 41:31
  Speaker 4: dad would be able to help. That's what I'm hoping too.
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: And in the best case, we'd have three adults rooting
• 41:37
  Speaker 4: for us. She was hesitant seeing how things went with
• 41:40
  Speaker 4: my mom, but ultimately agreed. We sat her parents down
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: similarly to my mom. When I say we, I really
• 41:47
  Speaker 4: mean she did most of the talking. I was still
• 41:50
  Speaker 4: worried things would go wrong. She started off by simply
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: explaining why I've been here for over a week during
• 41:55
  Speaker 4: class finals. We tried coming out to my mom, which
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: created an argument and led to me getting kicked out.
• 42:00
  Speaker 4: Her father said he wished we had told him sooner,
• 42:03
  Speaker 4: and I'm sorry for failing you two, for making this
• 42:06
  Speaker 4: feel like an unsafe place to be who you are. W, Dad.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: Aw. W, Dad.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm glad that you guys have good parents.
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: That's good.
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: Alana's stepmom and dad talked for a few minutes before
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: coming back with new rules.
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: They wanted their couch back.
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: If that meant dusting off the air mattress from when
• 42:26
  Speaker 4: we were kids or just getting some extra blankets, they
• 42:29
  Speaker 4: didn't really care. We do us so long as it
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: isn't illegal and we don't get into trouble. But that said,
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: since I was now under their roof in a slightly
• 42:38
  Speaker 4: less temporary way, I'd have to start following the same
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: rules Alana did. Curfew, grades, things like that. all of
• 42:45
  Speaker 4: which I agreed to. Her parents are going to take
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: us back to my house today. I want to give
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: my mom another chance. I mean, I don't get how
• 42:52
  Speaker 4: you can just walk away from someone after your entire life.
• 42:56
  Speaker 4: I'm either going to get the documents I need or
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: my mom back. In the latter case, I still don't
• 43:01
  Speaker 4: know if I'm going to go back to sleeping there
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: quite yet. I'm still hurt. After talking to my sister,
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: she understands and would rather me stay away if needed.
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: My brother's a little confused, but says he just wants
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: us all to be happy. Thank you all again for
• 43:15
  Speaker 4: your overwhelming support and advice.
• 43:19
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: I mean, I think sometimes parents like this just need time.
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: And other times you could use physical force.
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: Other times just beat the ever-loving snot out of your kid. Yeah.
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: Sometimes people who just have a lot of prejudice in
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: their minds and hearts, it's either time and they realize, oh, shoot,
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: I love my child more than this prejudice. Yeah. Sometimes
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: they just kind of hold on to that and you
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: have to focus on the people in your life who
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: do love you unconditionally. But you do have people who
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: support you. W. Alana's parents is Katie Paladin. W.
• 43:55
  Speaker 4: Alana's parents. W.
• 43:56
  Speaker 3: Alana's parents. Do you think mom's going to take her back?
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: I hope so. I hope so. But I think, you know,
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: you see it so many times of these like prejudiced parents.
• 44:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: Holding on to that hatred and stuff. So I don't know,
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: but I really hope so.
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: Well, hopefully we'll find our answer. Yeah. With this second update.
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: Oh, there's more.
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Five months later. Oh, boy.
• 44:19
  Speaker 4: All the comments talking about legal action. Well, none of
• 44:22
  Speaker 4: those really got much input from me. It just seemed
• 44:25
  Speaker 4: like so much at the time. And I knew the
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: best way I could help my siblings was to be
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: their escape when they need me to.
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: But also not to do. Man, God, being the oldest
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: is crazy.
• 44:35
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: That's insane.
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: When you're also trying to.
• 44:37
  Speaker 4: Dude, you're like a trailblazer. You have no idea.
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: What you're doing.
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: I mean, there is a chance that I think like
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: I've also you also see this a lot where you
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: have an older sibling who comes out as, you know,
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: a certain identity. And then they get like a lot
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: of backlash and stuff.
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: And then the parents get used to it. And then
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: like four years later, younger sibling comes out and they're like, oh, well,
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: now I understand.
• 45:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah. They don't have to worry about it.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: More so like it's, you know. OP, it really sucks
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: that you have to experience this, but also know that
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: you are trailblazing for your younger siblings. Not that that
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: should be your responsibility.
• 45:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, trailblazing is punk rock.
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: Yes, it's very cool. Too update, too furious.
• 45:15
  Speaker 4: Too update, too furious. But also not to do anything
• 45:20
  Speaker 4: to leave the residency as questionable as mine. Alana and
• 45:24
  Speaker 4: I are still together and very happy.
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: Hey, congrats. Good for you.
• 45:27
  Speaker 4: Should be hitting 11 months at the end of this month.
• 45:30
  Speaker 4: By far the longest and most authentic relationship either of
• 45:33
  Speaker 4: us have been in. It's had some rough moments with
• 45:35
  Speaker 4: family drama and all, but frankly, I wouldn't trade it
• 45:38
  Speaker 4: for anything in the world. She even had me pitch
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: in my thoughts when redecorating her room this summer, trying
• 45:44
  Speaker 4: to make it feel more like our room, I guess. LOL.
• 45:48
  Speaker 4: Her family has been incredibly sweet as well.
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: I feel like I have.
• 45:51
  Speaker 4: Been such an inconvenience, but they hardly seem to notice,
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: or at least try to not let me think I am.
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: W parents, man.
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: These parents are great. Imagine letting your 17-year-old daughter's partner just.
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: Move in with you like that's like that's yeah you
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: know very cool parent move.
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah that really is i remember that's like all i
• 46:12
  Speaker 4: wanted to do like as a kid too it was
• 46:14
  Speaker 4: just like i just want to be with like my
• 46:15
  Speaker 4: friends you know like being like we could like hang
• 46:18
  Speaker 4: out and live together yeah so an aunt or grandparent
• 46:22
  Speaker 4: sibling here and there who don't agree with our lifestyle
• 46:24
  Speaker 4: but they don't get humored much by the rest of
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: them heaven knows our biggest fighter is right by my
• 46:29
  Speaker 4: side half the time My dad's been trying to help
• 46:32
  Speaker 4: the best he can. There's little he really can do
• 46:35
  Speaker 4: after all, but he's trying. I don't know how much
• 46:38
  Speaker 4: he's talking to my mother in all of this, if
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: at all, but I still appreciate his efforts. Kind of
• 46:42
  Speaker 4: wish it didn't take this to hear from him more,
• 46:45
  Speaker 4: but it's nice to know he's still looking out for
• 46:46
  Speaker 4: me after all these years. My sister and I have
• 46:49
  Speaker 4: been doing things more now that school started back up,
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: and I try to help her with her homework or
• 46:54
  Speaker 4: just hang out to help blow off some steam. She
• 46:56
  Speaker 4: still wishes I was home for all of this, but
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: knows she wouldn't be either if she were in my shoes.
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: She's also been keeping me up to date with my brother.
• 47:04
  Speaker 4: He's starting to understand things more. But she also told
• 47:07
  Speaker 4: me something I don't think I can forget. She told
• 47:10
  Speaker 4: me about my mom. My mom's not taking things so well.
• 47:13
  Speaker 4: According to my sister, she's a mess. Not as happy
• 47:17
  Speaker 4: as she used to be is the easy way of
• 47:18
  Speaker 4: putting it. Still taking care of my sister and brother,
• 47:21
  Speaker 4: trying to not let it affect them, but noticeably not well. Apparently,
• 47:25
  Speaker 4: my sister has caught her lingering by my door a
• 47:28
  Speaker 4: couple of times, but she still hasn't messaged me since
• 47:32
  Speaker 4: our falling out. Well, apparently, there's been a whole lot
• 47:35
  Speaker 4: of miscommunication. My mother packed my suitcase after our fight, yes. However,
• 47:40
  Speaker 4: she seems to recall hearing me say something about leaving
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: before I stormed off. After she calmed down and processed
• 47:46
  Speaker 4: her emotions, she packed a case and wrote a note.
• 47:49
  Speaker 4: The note was supposed to be on the coffee table
• 47:51
  Speaker 4: next to my suitcase. I just must have missed it.
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: Okay, so mom is implying, no, wait, I didn't.
• 47:58
  Speaker 4: Punch you out.
• 47:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't really buy that.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: I don't either because, like, why wouldn't you have texted,
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: called anything and been like, hey, I didn't actually want
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: you to leave. I thought you wanted to leave.
• 48:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you should have at least said something.
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like, I love you.
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: Also, it's been, like, five months, eight months.
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but maybe she's trying to reconcile.
• 48:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess. But, like, at that point, I think, like,
• 48:20
  Speaker 4: the mom is just, like, being, like, Like, petty, I guess.
• 48:23
  Speaker 4: Or not petty, but just, like, not willing to admit that, like.
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: She messed up.
• 48:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yes. Yeah, exactly.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, oh, I don't want to be like,
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: I was terrible and I punted my daughter out. So
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: I'm just going to say, oh, you missed something.
• 48:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: You just didn't interpret what I was doing.
• 48:38
  Speaker 4: Well, so this is to wrap this up. My sister
• 48:41
  Speaker 4: paraphrased the note, but she recalls it saying something along
• 48:44
  Speaker 4: the lines of my mother apologizing for the argument. saying
• 48:47
  Speaker 4: she hopes I can forgive her, but if not, she
• 48:50
  Speaker 4: wanted to make it easier for me to not be
• 48:51
  Speaker 4: stuck in such an awful home for any longer than
• 48:53
  Speaker 4: I needed to. This had me confused, because if that
• 48:56
  Speaker 4: were the case, why didn't she ever text or call me?
• 48:59
  Speaker 4: Not even a letter or email? Why did nobody else
• 49:03
  Speaker 4: know of this note until my sister found it a
• 49:05
  Speaker 4: couple of weeks ago? What about the initial family blowback?
• 49:08
  Speaker 4: I'm honestly quite confused. It's been some time, though, so
• 49:11
  Speaker 4: I might try and reestablish some contact with my mother
• 49:14
  Speaker 4: again to get some answers for myself. I don't know
• 49:17
  Speaker 4: what I'll do with them, if anything, and I might
• 49:19
  Speaker 4: up you again.
• 49:20
  Speaker 3: I might not.
• 49:21
  Speaker 4: Only time will tell.
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: Only time will tell.
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: Well, I don't know.
• 49:29
  Speaker 4: Maybe time could heal this wound.
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: I think it could. I agree with Kim K. I
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: think mom's being stubborn.
• 49:36
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: I think she just doesn't want to admit that she
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: messed up.
• 49:39
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: But she did. Admit it.
• 49:42
  Speaker 3: Yes, she did. She did.
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: Can't take back words.
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: Cannot.
• 49:46
  Speaker 3: Cannot take back words.
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: But we've got some comments.
• 49:52
  Speaker 3: Ooh.
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: We got comments from the video, I dumped my boyfriend.
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: Now I'm living with his brother. And this was posted
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: June 17th, 2026. TLDR says, Opie's boyfriend blew up at
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: her over nothing at her own birthday party. He called
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: her mean names and told her to hide in a
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: room all night. His brother stepped in and helped her
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: get away safe. Now the boyfriend is saying she has
• 50:14
  Speaker 2: to cut off his brother completely before he will even
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: talk about what he did. OP is stuck trying to
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: figure out what to do next. If you're curious to
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: know the full story, go check out the full video
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: where we got comments. Yeah, we do.
• 50:29
  Speaker 5: And the comments that I have here, the first comment is,
• 50:34
  Speaker 5: Hockender in the movie says, I bet boyfriend was abusing
• 50:37
  Speaker 5: the rest of the family too because they too quick
• 50:39
  Speaker 5: to cut him off.
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: True. Yeah.
• 50:42
  Speaker 5: Next comment, Callie Tag says, The same manipulative skill that
• 50:45
  Speaker 5: allow abusers to lure in and control people are also
• 50:49
  Speaker 5: what keeps family members from truly seeing who they are.
• 50:51
  Speaker 5: It's really difficult to believe the worst of close family members.
• 50:56
  Speaker 5: And comment number three from SuggLV75 says, Says, I'm so
• 51:01
  Speaker 5: happy she dumped him.
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: You are allowed to have fun. You're allowed to jump
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: on the trampoline. You're allowed to have fun. Jump on
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: the trampoline. This is so controlling.
• 51:10
  Speaker 4: Jump, jump, jump.
• 51:12
  Speaker 5: And then comment number four says.
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: Story one.
• 51:17
  Speaker 5: Doesn't matter if this was the first time. Physical altercation,
• 51:20
  Speaker 5: violence caused by bad temper and drinks is never okay.
• 51:24
  Speaker 5: If boyfriend really wanted to salvage the relationship, he would
• 51:27
  Speaker 5: have needed lots of counseling and anger management courses for him.
• 51:31
  Speaker 5: But he showed his true colors and hopefully doesn't bother
• 51:34
  Speaker 5: Opie again.
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: Hopefully not.
• 51:35
  Speaker 5: Also hoping that she never gets another violent boyfriend after
• 51:38
  Speaker 5: this experience.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't remember this story, but it sounds pretty... Intense. Intense. So,
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: good luck. But that's the end of those comments and
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: the end of the episode. So if you love us,
• 51:50
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• 51:51
  Speaker 4: And we love you.
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: And see you tomorrow.