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You Need to Hear This: The Motivation You’ve Been Waiting For · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: When you're nothing nothing and change yourself into something like me.
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  Speaker 1: You call it happiness, peace, wherever you want to call it.
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  Speaker 1: People are missing exactly what went on with David Gottins.
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  Speaker 1: Why don't you smile? I do, I do, but I
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  Speaker 1: figure something out. That's why I am never You never
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  Speaker 1: hear me say I'm missing something. I found it years ago.
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  Speaker 1: You find it in the suck. You find it in
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  Speaker 1: the suck, and you find it repeatedly in the suck,
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  Speaker 1: to the point where you know exactly who you are.
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  Speaker 1: Most people are missing something because they don't know who
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  Speaker 1: they are. They never examine themselves. They've never done this
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  Speaker 1: experiment on themselves. The labrat. We're all laborrats, but you're
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  Speaker 1: also the scientist. You create your own self. Most people
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  Speaker 1: are missing something because it's so much trapped in there.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to say potential. I think that's where
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  Speaker 1: use out too much too. There's so much in you
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  Speaker 1: that God or whatever the hell you believe in, or
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  Speaker 1: if you're an atheist, in you that you have not unlocked.
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  Speaker 1: That you walk around with this gorgeous wife or a
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  Speaker 1: great husband and all this money. You're like, God, I like
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  Speaker 1: I'm missing something. Yeah, because it's about seventy five of you.
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  Speaker 1: It is still fucking in there. It's still chained up
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  Speaker 1: because you just didn't want to find your willpower, didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to find your soul, your will, your heart, your determination,
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  Speaker 1: your guts, your courage, and what that looks like. It
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  Speaker 1: looks scary, like your little scary lab. I went in
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  Speaker 1: scary to wake up every day and say I'm stupid,
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  Speaker 1: but I want to figure out a way to be smarter,
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  Speaker 1: versus saying, man, I just can't do that, So you
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  Speaker 1: limit this box, so your box becomes so small of
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  Speaker 1: things you can do. My box wasn't even the box.
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  Speaker 1: It was a little pinhole. And then through examining myself,
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  Speaker 1: getting some willpower, some courage, it became bigger than this table.
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  Speaker 1: But that's what we all do. That's why I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to come here today and talk to you about real ship,
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  Speaker 1: not no like hacks. There's no hacks, bro. It's you
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  Speaker 1: against you, you against you, And if you misunderstand that
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  Speaker 1: you have a real problem, real problem. I can understand.
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  Speaker 1: You misunderstand me running on the street shirt off, No,
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  Speaker 1: yeah I can. I can get it. I get it.
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  Speaker 1: If you misunderstand saying right now today. The problem is you,
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  Speaker 1: and you don't want to fix it. Our culture has
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  Speaker 1: become hooked on the quick fix, the life hack efficiency.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone is on the hunt for that simple action algorithm
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  Speaker 1: that nets maximum profit with the least amount of effort.
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  Speaker 1: There's no denying this attitude may get you some of
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  Speaker 1: the trappings of success if you're lucky, but it will
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  Speaker 1: not lead to a callous mind or self mastery. If
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  Speaker 1: you want to master the mind and remove your governor,
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  Speaker 1: you'll have to become addicted to hard work because passion
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  Speaker 1: and obsession, even talent, are only useful tools if you
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  Speaker 1: have the work ethic to back them up. My work
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  Speaker 1: ethic is the single most important factor in all of
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  Speaker 1: my accomplishments. Everything else is secondary. And when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to hard work, whether in the gym or on the job,
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  Speaker 1: the forty rule applies to me. A forty hour work
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  Speaker 1: week is a forty percent effort. It may be satisfactory,
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  Speaker 1: but that's another word for mediocrity. Don't settle for a
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  Speaker 1: forty hour work week. There are one hundred and sixty
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  Speaker 1: eight hours in a week. That means you have the
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  Speaker 1: hours to put in that extra time at work without
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  Speaker 1: skimping on your exercise. It means streamlining your nutrition, spending
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  Speaker 1: quality time with your wife and kids. It means scheduling
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  Speaker 1: life like you're on a twenty four hour mission every
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  Speaker 1: single day. The number one excuse I hear from people
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  Speaker 1: as to why they don't work out as much as
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  Speaker 1: they want to is that they don't have time. Look,
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  Speaker 1: we all have work obligations. None of us want to
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  Speaker 1: lose sleep, and you'll need time with the family or
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  Speaker 1: they'll trip the out. I get it, and if that's
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  Speaker 1: your situation, you must win. The morning. When I was
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  Speaker 1: full time with the Seals, I maximized the dark hours
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  Speaker 1: before dawn, when my wife was sleeping, I would bang
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  Speaker 1: out a six to ten mile run. My gear was
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  Speaker 1: all laid out the night before, my lunch was packed,
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  Speaker 1: and my work clothes were in my locker at work
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  Speaker 1: where I shower before my day started at seven thirty.
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  Speaker 1: On a typical day, i'd be out the door for
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  Speaker 1: my run just after four am and back by five
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  Speaker 1: point fifteen am. Since that wasn't enough for me, and
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  Speaker 1: because we only own one car, I rode my b
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  Speaker 1: I finally got my own twenty five miles to work.
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  Speaker 1: I'd work from seven to thirty am to noon and
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  Speaker 1: eat at my desk before or after my lunch break.
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  Speaker 1: During the lunch hour, I'd hit the gym or do
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  Speaker 1: a four to six mile beach run. Work the afternoon shift,
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  Speaker 1: and hop on my bike for the twenty five mile
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  Speaker 1: ride home. By the time I was home at seven pm,
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  Speaker 1: i'd have run about fifteen miles, rock fifty miles on
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  Speaker 1: the bike, and put in a full day at the office.
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  Speaker 1: I was always home for dinner and in bed by
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  Speaker 1: ten pm, so I could do it all over again
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  Speaker 1: the next day. On Saturdays, i'd sleep in until seven
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  Speaker 1: am at a three hour workout, and spend the rest
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  Speaker 1: of the weekend with Kate. If I didn't have a race,
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  Speaker 1: Sundays were my active recovery days. I'd do an easy
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  Speaker 1: ride at a low heart rate, keeping my pulse below
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  Speaker 1: one hundred and ten beats per minute to stimulate healthy
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  Speaker 1: blood flow. Maybe you think I'm a special case or
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  Speaker 1: an obsessive MA, fine, I won't argue with you. But
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  Speaker 1: what about my friend Mike. He's a big time financial
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  Speaker 1: advisor in New York City. His job is high pressure
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  Speaker 1: and his work day is a hell of a lot
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  Speaker 1: longer than eight hours. He has a wife and two kids,
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  Speaker 1: and he's an ultra runner. Here's how he does it.
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  Speaker 1: He wakes up at four am every weekday, runs sixty
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  Speaker 1: to ninety minutes each morning while his family is still snoozing,
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  Speaker 1: rides a bike to working back and does a quick
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  Speaker 1: thirty minute treadmill run after he gets home. He goes
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  Speaker 1: out for longer runs on weekends, but he minimizes its
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  Speaker 1: impact on his family obligation. He's high powered, wealthy as
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  Speaker 1: and could easily maintain his status quo with less effort
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  Speaker 1: and enjoy the sweet fruits of his labors. But he
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  Speaker 1: finds a way to stay hard because his labors are
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  Speaker 1: his sweetest fruits, and he makes time to get it
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  Speaker 1: all in by minimizing the amount of bullsh clogging his schedule.
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  Speaker 1: His priorities are clear and he remains dedicated to his priorities.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not talking about general priorities here either. Each hour
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  Speaker 1: of his week is dedicated to a particular task, and
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  Speaker 1: when that hour shows up in real time, he focuses
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  Speaker 1: one percent on that task. That's how I do it too,
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  Speaker 1: because that is the only way to minimize wasted hours.
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  Speaker 1: Evaluate your life and its totality. We al waste so
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  Speaker 1: much time doing meaningless both We burn hours on social
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  Speaker 1: media and watching television, which by the end of the
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  Speaker 1: year would add up to entire days and weeks. If
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  Speaker 1: you tabulated time like you do your taxes, you should
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  Speaker 1: because if you knew the truth, you deactivate your Facebook
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  Speaker 1: accounts stat and cut your cable. When you find yourself
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  Speaker 1: having frivolous conversations or becoming ensnared in activities that don't
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  Speaker 1: better you in any way, move the gone. It's more
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  Speaker 1: important to own your weaknesses. You have to really triple
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  Speaker 1: down on those, man because why you want to become
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  Speaker 1: a full human being. We like to run away from weaknesses, like,
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  Speaker 1: for instance, if you're good at running, all you want
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  Speaker 1: to do is run. If you're great at reading, you
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  Speaker 1: have several books. But we don't do those things that
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  Speaker 1: we're not good at. So for me, I realized, I
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  Speaker 1: keep on running away from these things I'm not good at.
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  Speaker 1: I have to dive into these things. I have to
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  Speaker 1: become one with these things. And that's what happened, And
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  Speaker 1: so I own them both and I talk very openly
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  Speaker 1: about them both. For years, I've lived like a monk
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  Speaker 1: I don't see or spend time with a lot of people.
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  Speaker 1: My circle is very tight. I post on social media
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  Speaker 1: once or twice a week, and I never check anybody
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  Speaker 1: else's feeds because I don't follow anyone. That's just me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying you need to be that unforgiving because
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  Speaker 1: you and I probably don't share the same goals. But
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  Speaker 1: I know you have goals too, and room for improvement.
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  Speaker 1: And I guarantee that if you audited your schedule, you'd
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  Speaker 1: find time for more work and less bullshit. It's up
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  Speaker 1: to you to find ways to eviscerate your bulls. How
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  Speaker 1: much time do you spend at the dinner table talking
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  Speaker 1: about nothing after the meal is done. How many calls
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  Speaker 1: and text do you send for no reason at all?
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  Speaker 1: Look at your whole life, list your obligations and tasks.
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  Speaker 1: Put a time stamp on them. How many hours are
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  Speaker 1: required to shop, eat, and clean? What's your commute like?
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  Speaker 1: Can you make it there under your own power? Block
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  Speaker 1: everything into windows of time, and once your day is
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  Speaker 1: scheduled out, you'll know how much flexibility you have to
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  Speaker 1: exercise on a given day and how to maximize it.
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  Speaker 1: Perhaps you aren't looking to get fit, but have been
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  Speaker 1: dreaming of starting a business of your own, or have
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  Speaker 1: always wanted to learn a language or an instrument you're
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  Speaker 1: obsessed with. Find the same rule applies. Analyze your schedule,
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  Speaker 1: kill your empty habits, burn out the bullet, and see
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  Speaker 1: what's left. Is it one hour per day? Three? Now
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  Speaker 1: maximize that. That means listing your prioritized task every hour
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  Speaker 1: of the day. You can even narrow it down to
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  Speaker 1: fifteen minute windows. And don't forget to include backstops in
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  Speaker 1: your day to day schedule. Remember how I forgot to
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  Speaker 1: include backstops in my race plan at Ultraman. You need
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  Speaker 1: backstops in your day to day schedule. Two. If one
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  Speaker 1: task bleeds into overtime, make sure you know it and
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  Speaker 1: begin to transition into your next prioritized task straight away.
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  Speaker 1: Use your smartphone for productivity hacks, not click bait. Turn
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  Speaker 1: on your calendar alerts, have those alarms set. If you
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  Speaker 1: audit your life, skiptable and use backstops, you'll find time
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  Speaker 1: to do everything you need and want to do. But
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  Speaker 1: remember that you also need rest so that in listen
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  Speaker 1: to your body Sneak in those ten to twenty minute
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  Speaker 1: power naps when necessary, and take one full rest day
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  Speaker 1: per week. If it's a rest day, truly allow your
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  Speaker 1: mind and body to relax, turn your phone off, keep
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  Speaker 1: the computer shut down. A rest day means you should
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  Speaker 1: be relaxed, hanging with friends or family and eating and
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  Speaker 1: drinking well so you can recharge and get back at it.
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  Speaker 1: It's not a day to lose yourself in technology or
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  Speaker 1: stay hunched at your desk in the form of a
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  Speaker 1: damn question mark. The whole point of the twenty four
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  Speaker 1: hour mission is to keep up a championship pace, not
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  Speaker 1: for a season or a year, but for your entire life.
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  Speaker 1: That requires quality rest and recovery time. Because there is
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  Speaker 1: no finish line. There is always more to learn, and
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  Speaker 1: you will always have weaknesses to strengthen. If you want
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  Speaker 1: to become as hard as woodpecker lips, hard enough to
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  Speaker 1: hammer countless mind and finish that strong, would you say
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  Speaker 1: you've built it so much like sadistic quality where you
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  Speaker 1: almost enjoy the paint. I don't enjoy it. It's necessary, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's necessary. So every morning I wake up. It's not
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  Speaker 1: just about working out, But for me, working out has
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  Speaker 1: been a very big part of my mental growth. So
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  Speaker 1: for me, if I am not challenging myself every day.
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  Speaker 1: That's where to God, people will not believe it. I
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  Speaker 1: was over almost three hundred pounds twice in my life.
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  Speaker 1: A person that does that twice in his life does
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  Speaker 1: not enjoy cardiovascular like okay, So people can put anything
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  Speaker 1: they want to in their head. I did realize one
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  Speaker 1: thing the things I don't enjoy that I still do.
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  Speaker 1: That's where growth is at. And for me, the only
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  Speaker 1: place growth is at is in that very uncomfortable in
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  Speaker 1: that uncomfortable zone, so I have to visit it every
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  Speaker 1: single day. The main objective here is to slowly start
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  Speaker 1: to remove the governor from your brains. First, a quick
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  Speaker 1: reminder of how this process works. In nineteen ninety nine,
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  Speaker 1: when I weighed two hundred and ninety seven pounds, my
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  Speaker 1: first run was a quarter mile. Fast forward to two
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  Speaker 1: thousand and seven, I ran two hundred five miles and
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  Speaker 1: thirty nine hours non stop. I didn't get there overnight,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't expect you to either. Your job is
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  Speaker 1: to push past your normal stopping point, whether you are
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  Speaker 1: running on a treadmill or doing a set of push ups,
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  Speaker 1: get to the point where you are so tired and
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  Speaker 1: in pain that your mind is begging you to stop,
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  Speaker 1: then push just five to ten percent further. If the
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  Speaker 1: most push ups you have ever done is one hundred
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  Speaker 1: in a workout, do one hundred and five or one
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  Speaker 1: hundred and ten. If you normally run thirty miles each week,
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  Speaker 1: run ten percent more next week. This gradual ramp up
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  Speaker 1: will help prevent injury and allow your body and mind
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  Speaker 1: to slowly adapt to your new workload. It also resets
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  Speaker 1: your baseline, which is important because you're about to increase
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  Speaker 1: your workload another five to ten percent the following week
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  Speaker 1: and the week after that. There is so much pain
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  Speaker 1: and suffering involved in physical challenges. That's the best training
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  Speaker 1: to take command of your inner dialogue. And the new
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  Speaker 1: found mental strength and confidence you gain by continuing to
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  Speaker 1: push yourself physically will carry over to other aspects in
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  Speaker 1: your life. You will realize that if you were underperforming
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  Speaker 1: in your physical challenges, there is a good chance you
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  Speaker 1: are underperforming at school and work too. The bottom line
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  Speaker 1: is that life is one big mind game. The only
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  Speaker 1: person you are playing against is yourself. Stick with this process,
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  Speaker 1: and soon what you thought was impossible would be something
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  Speaker 1: you do every day of your life.