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Struggling to Find Allah (ft. Sh Javad Shomali) · After Maghrib 🌙

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Salaam alaikum and welcome back to another episode on the
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aftermarket podcast. Where today we want to know
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where is Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala.
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The main question is are you in search for Allah?
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Are you on the process of trying to find a better connection
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between yourself and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala?
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But before we go into more details on say, salam, alaikum
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my co-host as always Salam aleikum walekum Salam.
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It's, yeah. Abdullah getting there.
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It's literally off the market of right now.
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So said we're trying to show after so, so we're trying to
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keep hydrated and handle other Foster going.
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content throughout the holy month and we're trying to keep
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ourselves growing. We're trying to keep ourselves.
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Developing this is what the holy month is.
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About and of course our two themes this holy month or one
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spirituality and to community and of course last we could
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handle our. We were able to get into the
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spirituality basis and today in sha Allah we are going to extend
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that conversation, we're going to delve more into it and in
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order to do that as always we have a special guest and today's
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special guest is none other than our beloved.
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Our dear Sheikh, Mohammed Jawad Somalia, Somalia, From the unity
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that tree is Caucasian deserve this.
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It's lovely to have you chef of course, but we're big admirers
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of your work, your podcast as well which is called it's not a
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book club possible Club but this is a book club book and it's
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much better this way. Yeah, for those who don't know,
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tomorrow's inshallah the chef's birthday.
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So today we're going to try and celebrate him and his wisdom and
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sha Allah. Sure how the holy month been for
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you so far. So far, and how did it go
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amazing? I really feel the change in like
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life inside. How did I spend great?
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And just, you know, being around people in the center is just
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such a nice feeling, you know, seeing people as it does.
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Anyone know it's amazing? Honestly, is it hard to be an
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Islamic scholar in Ramadan? No, not really.
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No, I love it. It's it's good because what's
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better than talking, you know, to people about God and the
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teachings of the Prophet activate.
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Its I couldn't ask for anything, you know.
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Just a few days ago, I was just telling my wife, I feel like I'm
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really in heaven being with people that were so nice.
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Selfless, everyone's trying to be on their best self and
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remembering God, remembering or on the doors, like, what else
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could I ask for? Yeah, you know, when you're in
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the holy month, it feels like this is undoubtedly.
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The best time of year. And I was thinking the other day
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subhanallah. When I was young, when I had
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just turned bollocks. Yeah, I remember thinking, what
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I do I and I was thinking, like, wow, 30 days of fasting.
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How am I gonna do it? Yeah, I guess.
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But as you grow older and you realize that there's something
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about this month which is sweet. Sweet what she said because I
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was exactly the same. I really what do these guys like
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about it. You know it's there's tits
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hunger but I'm so much work. Do you read this?
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You need not. So I think we really need to try
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and translate. What is it?
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That makes it nice because I don't think anyone did that kind
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of photos. They were like, it's nice.
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Enjoy it. Yeah.
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And if you didn't enjoy it, there wasn't really a pathway.
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You could follow to get there, but you're really right at
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certain age, it's not you don't share a.
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My times were told if you don't force you and nothing helped us
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the joyous. We actually spoke about this on
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the way here. So, say the chef and I were when
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we were driving We talked about the concept of punishment and so
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on which I'm sure will get into today check them before we kind
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of get into the discussion. There's something I think we
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could maybe get into you mentioned about the work that we
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have in Ramadan. A lot of us have a tendency to
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ritualize the holy month and maybe focus on the nitty-gritty
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that our model and all the do's and the don'ts throughout the
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holy month, especially in the nice of color.
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And so on now, of course in shot a bond, there was a discussion
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which I think we had earlier in the car.
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Which surrounded the way the way you approach the holy month and
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specifically in the night elf of Shabbat art, 15th of Shaban and
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and the way we approach our arm on how do we approach our month?
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How do we approach a lot of panel to Allah and do we maybe
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need to readjust our mentality? So, you know, my thank you.
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By the way, for bringing that up, I'm hoping it gives us a
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good opportunity to discuss it as I think it's a very important
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topic. Especially we're approaching the
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nights of glad we're going to have a similar.
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Situation. That is my understanding is
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always. Let's go to The Experts of
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religion to the prophet a little bit and see what do they
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recommend us. Do and when you go there to the
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prophet and a little bit, you see that they have the first
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thing. They try to help us understand
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is that these nights are very special important nights.
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Anyway, I sent, they don't try to undermine it or anything.
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Now, the 15th of Shaban is very important, very special nights
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of neither are very important. Very special.
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Okay. Hello, it's an important night.
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What do you do about it? Then that's that's where maybe
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there's a little bit of room for discussion, right?
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So if it's the most important night, for example, of the year,
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or at least one of the, you want to make the most out of it.
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Now, the question is according to Habit and profit.
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What is the best way to make the most out of it?
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They said hope you're an insomniac.
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I think about it. If you want to build a
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relationship with someone, how would you do it?
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Would spend quality time with them, right?
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If you I know we talked for ten hours but it's not, you know, we
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don't were not honest, we're not in formal, we're not going to
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get closer which is the opposite of what for example, now we're
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trying to do you told me, this is an informal, you know, honest
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discussion Chances Are by the end of it, we're going to feel
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so much closer. So they says, well, when you're
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talking to God, trying to build that relationship with him, like
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keep it real quality over quantity, make sure you that
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connection is there. Focus on what you need.
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All of a sudden they say there's for a month and you want to
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start. Oh see I don't which one you
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feel more needed towards start with that one, if you have time
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for other ones do that too. But don't stress over it, you
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know, it's it's okay. You can go.
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What are the interesting thing is this?
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I told people came us and do as much as you can as much that it
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makes you enjoy it relationship with God.
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After that the game a lot of people message me and say
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alhamdulillah when someone says I'm a mother I have Two
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toddlers, I'm dead, I'm tired, and I'm feeling guilty that I
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have to finish all of the list, but when you said, no, just
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enjoy a cop, I picked a couple of them.
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And someone mother said, I pick one or judge jibanyan.
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And I, another daughter, I don't remember which one.
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So do you read those really enjoyed my time with God and
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afterwards, I didn't feel guilty, so it's about building
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that intimacy. Example lock in a real way.
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One thing I always tell people don't treat the god, the way you
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don't want to be treated, if I read five muscle on massive long
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do, You also let someone in Georgia by all means but I'm
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getting tired. I'm like when is this finish
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God? On the other hand is feeling.
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Hope you came to me. Now, what your every aspect of
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your being is saying you're not enjoying our company, that's
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rude. It's like if I'm spending time
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with you and when will this finish god?
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Well, you know, yeah, well, that's disrespect to God.
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You feel like you're doing something for God, but God's
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that not, you're telling me you don't enjoy your company.
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How is that? Nice hope as I'm saying, don't
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tell people something that makes them go.
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God in a way they don't enjoy. Because that's disrespectful to
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God. God is precious going to God?
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Should be beautiful. I don't know if that makes sense
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or not? Yeah, nothing is such as well.
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Man. Is this?
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Well, it's like the money you should have as a Muslim, your
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create a suppose, a very nice point.
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We give you an example with no, some even tonight.
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It happened in the center of the lecture.
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Some parents have good intentions but they want their
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child to get to know the shareholder, my something
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something magical to going to happen.
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I don't know, I'm a loser myself, but this Messiah they
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want to Send their child to this year.
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On a, some kids are excited themselves.
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That's when I'm happy when I see there's no parents around them.
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The kid himself comes into Sanchez.
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I know my like to lecture that I like, but sometimes the kid
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comes, I know, he doesn't want to be next to me was that I
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didn't support. Sometimes they're so nice and
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innocent even City tonight. He said it said, mommy told me
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to tell you, I like you. I'm like, I didn't think I enjoy
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that. Yeah, you know, listen, I know
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it's good. I'm not judging, she's trying to
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build a nice relationship between her son and a chef
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because she thinks that no judgment at all.
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But I'm like, as a shake, when I hear this kid is forced to come
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towards me. I don't like it.
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I like a, some do because, you know, what's bad thing later on?
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This kid may be five years down the road, he may listen to
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lecture and he may want to come to me, but I don't know the
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game. His head, I'm associated with
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someone. My mom forced me to go to.
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Now seeing if me as a chef, I don't like this whole.
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Don't do the same to God. Don't you need to read, copy?
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Like I do. What you to be forced to come
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towards me? I'm an interesting.
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God, you should come to me when you want it.
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Yeah, sure. How do we find God?
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Because of course, there's a lot of people who have that this
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engagement with The Lost Ones. Allah.
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And as hard as it is to admit, even when you're in the first
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week of shahru, Ramadan and you look around and there's guilt
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everywhere you open Instagram, you're scrolling scrolling.
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You can scroll for half an hour and every post you see is
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something religious people talking about Amazon posts,
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which people are enjoy going to Milan and doing the odd, T and
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so on. And you may be feeling a home
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like I have no enjoyment. I don't feel a place in this.
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I don't feel involved in this Global communal feeling of
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celebrating Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala.
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I'm here I have my struggles in my life for example and I'm not
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connecting with a lot like I used to before or like, I want
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to now. Yeah, because there's a lot of
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people who may feel like they have lost a lot.
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And like for example, you said, Sharon are like the sister who
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read them on our judge shot by near.
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She said I feel dead inside. There's a A lot of people
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perhaps who are listening. Yeah.
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Who want to know how to access Allah subhanaw taala in that
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intimacy that you're telling us about?
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Yeah, not very good point. I think the first thing we
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should try to do is be real about where we are and know that
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God is not exactly like religious people.
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Yeah. You're right.
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Religious people bless them all. It's all good intentions, but
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they want you to get you to. They want to get you to do.
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Good stuff, like, read the Quran, or pray more.
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What did they do? They choose to go through, is it
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is not the best door. Usually, like robotic, it would
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take and also full of RJ, how they would say it.
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I'm so many post like this. It's the month of Ramadan.
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How many pages of mustard? And I don't know Instagram,
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having followed. How many pictures of what I have
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you? I'm not seeing the person has
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bad intentions. It's great intention.
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Oh, but why is he instilling? In me the one thinking, okay,
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well, Wow. Yeah, it's true.
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Actually, I enjoy Instagram more and all of that.
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How would muscle a deliberate approach that I would profit
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approach that they say, you know what, I know, maybe you're right
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now, you're not enjoying it. Maybe you don't feel like
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reading any of these domes and hope.
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Let me sit you down and tell you what is available here?
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What is this month? You know, they come to where you
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are from their day, started discussion with you.
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They don't judge you, they don't show me from outside this hope.
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Maybe if you're not interested in this moment is because no one
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told you, what? An offer here.
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But what is your relationship with God as and where to find
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God? How why should I even care about
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God? I think that's a question we
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should, we should discuss. Why should I care about going?
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Why should I as in, why? This is the month of God?
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Why should I care? Yeah.
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What is on offer in a relationship with God?
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That's the approach that activate.
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The prophet would take. Then naturally something inside
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us awakened, like, okay, what may be interested in this?
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You're saying, for example, there's this reality out there.
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That even if my friends don't get me, my parents don't get me
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people. He gets me.
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He listens to me. He understands me and I can
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build a connection with him. Okay, tell me a little bit more
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about this and you can say, hopefully, if you want to know
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about how he feels about you, baby, there's this line - I want
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to do. Try one, you know what I mean?
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It has to be starting from where that person is and then from
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there you build on top of that basically.
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Yeah, hello. There's so many places we can
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take this but I don't want to talk too much yesterday.
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I was having somewhere I'll handle it.
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Testing, what did you or did? You have said, Allah was my
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mother-in-law's? She's got mention, I must be a
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good of God many different dishes.
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When you don't know was one case.
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Oh yes. Yes, that must be.
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There it is. Those are discussion after about
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a sister right? Because for example to modulus
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every year yes become a harem, she'll come on move on.
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And however yet she still hasn't understood Allah subhanaw taala,
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why she goes for example and the fact you are shared Has the nice
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point to bring it now. Yeah.
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Is she said whenever she comes to these lectures the lecturers
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when they want to talk about Allah rasool Allah elevates,
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they speak to the audience like I already know Allah and already
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know who rasulallah is forever but I don't ask for someone who
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is on the path of wanting to know what real on this camera.
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A connection between themselves on their creator.
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How should one likes of where's the starting point?
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Beautiful, beautiful. Beautiful Point, beautiful.
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Because not everyone is like born into this.
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Oh yes, beautiful faith, for example.
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Yes, yes, yes, exactly. Know.
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You're very right. That's a very important point.
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I would say, you know, God has this verse in the Quran that
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says God is glorified from any description of him, unless from
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a bottle, almost a scene and he says, don't listen to people who
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describe me sometimes their shortcomings.
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In them, go to these people that have been purified their
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understanding of me, is the version that would really help
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you write. In other words, so many people
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in your life are going to come talk to you from your parents on
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cause madrasa teachers. This and that saying you things
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about God speaking. If you want to get to know me,
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there's many versions on offer, right?
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Go to my special people. They were the ones who you can
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see in their life, their relationship with God help them.
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That's why I always tell people, even go to profile, go to
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activate goat, Imam Husain o, let's go to Imam.
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Hussein to talk about this, who is gone Imam Hussain?
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As I said, I mean, do you wanna face is you want to look for God
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to look for him in a lecture in a book, God has been in your own
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life. Find him.
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It turned out, for example, in the lecture, in the middle of
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it, I asked the brothers in the AV room to broadcast part of the
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RFA, and this part in the beginning, Imam Hussein says,
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this is who God is, by the way, for those who want to know, who
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God is this, God is the one. Who before you were even born
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Started. Loving You, Allah Allah.
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It has, you know, it says you started giving me your blessings
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while I'm Michael Che and math cooler.
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I was not even mentioned, I didn't have a name.
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No one even knew about me, says God, You Started Loving Me.
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Then he says go. God, you brought me into a
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family and made me such that. People would sure.
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Love to me. We've all seen how cute children
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are Imam Hussain even looks at Dennis is God, you did that for
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me you made me cute loving. So people would show love to me.
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In other words, almost as his who is gone, this is God is the
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one who put love in the heart of anyone who showed you lost.
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Then he says you helped me grow up.
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You put you know people take care of me.
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Come to teach me till I reached an age where I can start.
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Welcome to directorate. Has in other words, Imam,
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Hussein says, once you reach a certain age that you can't
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understand. God will people put people
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around you to show love but at some point he says come let's
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get that love directly from me, you get, let's make it direct.
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These are all word by word from do out of of Imam.
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Hussain, by the way. Oh, so one who senses if you
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want to find God, God's been in your life.
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Anyone ever who made you feel hurt?
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God sent him. Anyone ever who made you feel?
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Understood anyone who ever gave you A hug.
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God sent them, you know, that love any not as an alhamdulillah
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means that Al hamdulillah means any time you ever saw anything.
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That was worthy of praise God, send that person to your life.
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Sure. All of you want to find God in
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your life. Look at these things and slowly
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slowly in your own life. You find God and India.
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It goes so many places. Yeah, sure.
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But there's a lot of things which might be barriers, perhaps
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obviously it. So for example, people may have
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done so much sin past Where they feel insecure about their own
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relationship with the last Fontina, I, for example.
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Or someone may say I'm ashamed to even sit on a Prayer mat
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because I know that I have, I'm not worthy of people might say
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I'm not worthy of even speaking to Allah.
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Why would he waste his time on me?
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Someone may say. So for example, someone may say
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that my understanding of God is such where like you said, saying
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my perception on him is purely punishment and the love that
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Allah is giving me I don't feel it, I don't understand it, you
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know. A lot of the time unfortunately
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we've grown up in the society where things have become very
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cliche. Ya Allah, Subhan Allah, loves
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you 70 times, more than your mother either phrases that we
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hear so much Allah loves you so much love, isn't this melodic or
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on begins with the word drama? And so we begin, we hear these
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things. And sometimes we become
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desensitized to the Notions of Allah has loved.
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And if anything, what we become conscious of perhaps is the
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punishment. Yeah.
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Now, what does that do to a person when they feel so lost
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that? They feel the shame to It's a
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lot even if they're conscious that a lot of surrounding them.
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Yeah. And that they are aware that.
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If I don't approach him, I'm in trouble.
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And if I do approach him, I'm ashamed.
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Yeah. She said what I mean?
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No, I get you. I get you.
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You're right. We may have heard about love,
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although we don't hear damage that much about it but you're
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right. You see, we've heard other stuff
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as well. Yes, which confuses us, right?
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And that's exactly why I said if you want to get to know God, go
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to people who are beautiful. Because many people, when they
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talk about God, they confuse us with good.
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Intentions are signed. They say something like, This
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God loves you. There were on starts with
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bismillahi r-rahmani. R-rahim, you miss.
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One am I? God will put you in hell.
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And I'm like, is God now, the bylaw?
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Like, oh, this is psychotic behavior.
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Psychopathic Behavior. Sorry.
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I'm like, okay. You're confusing me.
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He loves me. I make one mistake.
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He brings his stick out. So the message we've received
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about God Is So mixed and confusing that or horns.
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Like I don't really feel that love.
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So even With these things, it's so good to go.
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For example, to the demands of aklavik and remind me to
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mention, by the way, the difference between a debate and
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shaitaan, it's a very important distinction to make.
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That's interesting. Yeah.
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So when you go to the doors of all of this and this could talk
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about someone who's committed sins which, by the way, most
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people most of us have. I'm a terrible person myself.
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What trying to become better is not that I'm proud of my
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shortcomings, know, I'm trying to become better in the shoulder
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but, you know, I'm not saying I'm better than anyone, who hope
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in the mussina has Salam. If I made a sin, how does God
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feel about me? I'm sorry.
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Islam says, the all manner of CFS that are you made a scene?
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You disobeyed, God covered it so that others wouldn't find out.
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Why God loves insist Apple, God covers it to your not embarrass.
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You get a second chance. If you make a repentance you
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try, you know what I mean? God doesn't want you get that
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bad reputation. God protects you, God loves you
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hope. Although I haven't the, I didn't
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fix it. I don't use that second chance
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while us almost studied in Iraq. Fight an orangutan - I'm Dorothy
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God comes and helps you with your half a time at and he'll
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kindness gentleness and patience God comes surrounds you with
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that energy. So you can heal my mom was in
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that she's really selling manager job on here is that I
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sent the reason you seen is that your connection ship with God is
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not perfect. You haven't received that much
20:09
love, and support from God. You feel needy, you go to the
20:12
society with needs you get jealous, you get this, you do
20:16
that. You have Sighs on what's not
20:17
yours? Why is all of that happening?
20:20
And what is this? Because you're not internally
20:22
satisfied. Yeah, right elaheh, lambdak only
20:24
Howard on frantically. It's only when you show love to
20:34
me. I become the way you want me to
20:35
be as Emily says, Ascent. If you've committed sin, you
20:39
need God. More and gods do this open to
20:42
you more on the. Let's go to announce a joint,
20:44
the young finish. I know, I'm talking too much.
20:47
I'm lost in this. Go look under think.
20:49
This is what I'm saying. In fact, liberate know how to
20:52
talk to any song to us. Imam, sajjad reason, I'm doing
20:56
this family which a lot of people read these days.
20:58
I hope they read with translation.
21:01
This is elahi in Africa, other moment, I'm Ali or another
21:06
place. He says, so our family, my
21:09
actions are terrible. But looking around for my family
21:12
right? My actions may be bad, but my
21:14
hope in you is very Great great. But another person a shift this
21:19
is not for me, this is for him outside shot but I'm a senior in
21:22
Los Angeles is no no, no no. You know, he encounter a
21:25
mysterious island. Aromatic got if I am not worthy
21:28
of your mercy, fantastic on anti-jew delay before the
21:31
sciatic, you are so generous that you will even give to me
21:35
out of your grace. As when you go to activate this
21:38
end, if you've committed the sin, it means God will pay more
21:40
attention to you. Because what is sin?
21:43
Sin is a kind of assume there's something wrong with media and
21:45
who it DOC. Pays more attention to someone
21:48
who's healthy or someone who's got something going on.
21:51
The doctor would want pay more attention to some father says,
21:54
God is like that. God has so much table and he's
21:57
ready to give it more to those who need it more.
22:00
So if I'm a sinner, it means I need God more and he's ready for
22:03
me more in that. Hadith reports, Egon says LOL
22:08
mode. Beruna and Nick are 5000 km
22:10
Ashoka not good people or if the ones who've turned away from me
22:16
Modena and I mean, you how much I'm hearing for them?
22:19
They would have died out of joy, you know?
22:22
So when you go to a holiday, there is like I said, if you
22:24
committed to go to God more, he's ready for you more, he
22:28
loves you, you'll give you more love.
22:30
So sure when you when you hear for example, my dad foldable
22:33
forked out of order for cut another, when you hear that when
22:40
you when you try to understand that the one who knows himself
22:42
learns about a last poem to Allah, how do we then approach
22:45
that? Because let's say I'm sorry.
22:47
Someone is in a position of insecurity.
22:49
Well, they're feeling this hopelessness.
22:50
How did they even understand Allah subhanaw?
22:52
Taala through assessing their self?
22:54
Uh-huh. Well the that self-knowledge,
22:56
atomizer is Sanam speaks about and we have so many Howard.
22:59
If we have, I have collected around 40 high, this remodel is
23:02
alone without self-knowledge. Many people who talk about it
23:06
that they misguide us a little bit on of self-knowledge.
23:09
What do I know my Solange avoid born on 20th of March?
23:11
What do I do it? Because that is what we ensure
23:15
that we need to talk about that in another Eli.
23:17
Yeah, I don't, I would say to this way the person may say, I
23:20
don't know when I look at myself, can I don't I see a
23:22
sinner or lazy person? Although maybe a few good
23:24
qualities. If you bad qualities.
23:26
How does this get me to God? It will saturate into a Hamza
23:31
thermolysis baby in these aspects of you that you don't
23:33
like about yourself. Let's see my side.
23:35
You get jealous. You're lazy.
23:36
You have these weird desires that you're ashamed to is not
23:40
who you are, he says side, okay? Our society, be listened and
23:44
tried to hold on. Bo says the reason you All these
23:47
weird things. My son, you have these thoughts,
23:48
that you're ashamed of. This is not who you are, this is
23:52
something that happened inside that you're showing these weird
23:55
things. What is happened?
23:56
Your relationship with God was affected.
23:58
So this Divine soul that you are, is not manifesting in your
24:01
actions and thoughts. This is not who you are.
24:04
Come to us, spend some time with God, then after you get tacked
24:08
up, then see who you become, which is so beautiful.
24:11
If you mustn't, look at door committed, it's so profound one
24:15
night, sorry. Like one line.
24:18
We are saying that all I'm awful analog, the very little happy
24:21
realm is skin on this low on feeling terrible now that we are
24:26
morally. My actions have changed me down.
24:28
The next line says, I want from and to offer a half-demon Jamie,
24:34
a hiring and Delta. I want my share of any good
24:37
anyone has given. I want to be the highest of the
24:39
high. Well, I don't know.
24:40
Women can't do. No, well Morrison.
24:41
Hope what happened? One minute.
24:44
You're feeling the lowest of the low the next So I want to be the
24:47
highest of the high - that's what I love.
24:50
It's a bidding there's two parts to you.
24:52
When you're on your own when you're with God on your own, you
24:55
get weird, you get jealous, you get Arrogant with God, you're so
24:59
beautiful. And the shift between these two
25:01
can happen in a second. The moment God comes to your
25:05
life and you realize what you become so beautiful, you become
25:07
selfless, you give to people you go out of your way, your
25:10
patient. And the moment you try to live
25:12
on your own resources, your resources, run out, so you even
25:15
hurt your loved one, you shout at your children, I tell your
25:17
parents, you do this, that doesn't mean you're bad.
25:20
It just means you need more of God, you know what I mean?
25:24
And if you look at it, you do the assigned, all whole life is
25:27
these two scenarios, okay? What life is showing us
25:30
sometimes life on your own. That's where we commit sins.
25:33
That's where we hurt each other. We've all done, that hurt
25:35
people. Now we're so ashamed of, but
25:38
when we live with God that's when we're selfless, that's
25:40
going to be a beautiful sometimes.
25:42
We don't know why I did that. I was so loved it.
25:44
I was so yes, that's when you live with God.
25:47
Liberty. That's the one you really are.
25:50
Hello. If you're I don't talk too much.
25:52
What will show you already want to buy live with God, just so I
25:55
can stand on. Let's go.
25:56
Practical example, let's say, I don't know how to take care of.
26:01
For example, a parent who is ill.
26:03
He's got dementia. Well, I don't come on muscle and
26:05
a mile into our communities. You can do this two ways either.
26:10
You like, okay, let me go take care of my for example, that
26:13
we've got dimensional halfway and I love my dad, obviously is
26:16
my time But after 30 minutes, Colin has less than 30 minutes,
26:19
it's been missing two years of taking care of it that with
26:22
dementia. Tki get burnt out I'll get
26:24
tired, slowly slowly, love becomes resentment, you know,
26:27
especially because I don't know if you've lived with someone
26:29
with dementia, they don't remember you there.
26:31
Get so grumpy because it's so difficult for them.
26:33
They don't even recognize their own children.
26:34
So life becomes very difficult for them.
26:36
That's really it's so difficult to take care of them.
26:38
They don't even know. You're there some Masala.
26:40
Hope you have so much love for that, but it still is.
26:43
So you get tired of him, he doesn't appreciate it.
26:45
Doesn't sound cool. Emily says instead of feeling
26:49
I'm a terrible person now that I hate that I'm getting tired of
26:53
helping him now it says you're not a bad person you're just
26:55
tired. You ran out of patience in this
26:58
very moment. A koala had my take a jaguar in
27:01
this very moment know that they be the reason you get tired and
27:04
resentment of helping your dad is that you relied on your own
27:07
patients it'll run out you got tired.
27:09
Yeah so it is very moment say God give me more strength.
27:13
Give me more love and patience to be there for that any in
27:16
every moment. Ain't no ghosts there with you.
27:19
So this is living with God or that falls is like being God
27:22
conscious. Yeah.
27:23
Like to work alone from the other again to that
27:26
conversation, but not accidental but you have to be mindful of
27:29
God to be able to ask for help. Yeah, and you would only be
27:32
mindful of God, if God is an interesting reality for you,
27:35
they're leasing. Most people are not mindful of
27:37
God in salary. Don't remember him, is that God
27:41
for us is not a beautiful reality?
27:43
Some people say, share, how can I remember God at work?
27:46
My question is this Who do you naturally remember at work?
27:49
Everyone says my children why I love them?
27:51
And you will only remember God as ever Brussels blessings of
27:55
Allah as something. You will only remember God once
27:58
you love him as long as God is not even amongst a Johnny dollar
28:02
homes of family says Farabee. I'm not too shy and I'm the God
28:06
is the most interesting precious thing for me.
28:09
If God becomes like that for you, don't you remember him?
28:11
And you'll remember to ask help from him.
28:13
But now the problem is the version of God.
28:16
We've Saved. It's got so much mix messages
28:19
inside it when people think of God and I know, huh?
28:22
That's the thing, because I think we need to reshape our
28:25
psychology of a Las plantas. On the way, we then approached
28:28
our day-to-day life will change. You know, the way where the way
28:31
we engage with the thought of us in many a time since linger in
28:35
our mind, I think, before we engage with it.
28:37
Your for example, sitting with a group of friends and someone is
28:40
being discussed in conversation and you know, something about
28:43
this person, you think should I tell them?
28:44
Should I not? Will it ruin this guy's Very
28:47
tempted because they'll all Laugh at My jurors Associates,
28:50
you know what I mean? I literally, but I was but like,
28:52
it's, you know, and you there's a one or two or Split Second
28:56
process in your mind that decision-making process we
28:58
think, should I mention this or not the labor or not, for
29:03
example, yeah, or you're on your way to work.
29:05
We talk a lot on this podcast about music and because it seems
29:09
to be something. I think a lot of Youth we
29:11
struggle with, you know that's a classic example as well.
29:15
Now perhaps the way we think about Lot about data from what
29:17
I'm gathering. Schechner is the way we've been
29:21
conditioned or designed by our communities to understand the
29:25
last fan. Tyler has then result in how we
29:27
are now. And if we can rethink and
29:30
reshape our mentality, then maybe we'll have a different
29:32
relationship with God, but does it ever get to the point, maybe,
29:35
where it's too late? Like, for example, I'm too old
29:38
now, I'm set in my ways, I pray the way I pray.
29:40
I forced the way I fast, you know, because unfortunately,
29:42
with our communities and an elder age, or an elder
29:45
generation, everything is very - yeah set in their ways is very
29:49
traditional estate. Yeah.
29:50
Now I'm the law. Hopefully we're still young
29:52
enough to make that transition and even if we're not young
29:55
enough, is there ever a point? Where it becomes too late?
29:58
Yes, all. Yes.
29:58
I've got the right thing for you.
30:00
From my mom, Sandra the alayhis-salam, I have it
30:03
answered my phone because I started started.
30:05
This is a, my idea is that I want to touch upon you.
30:07
It's one of those lines. You know, I want for Cheban.
30:10
I was listening to another shopping every day.
30:12
This one had escaped me, I just saw this one today.
30:17
Imam says in Connick identify jelly when I'm yet while a
30:21
mutiny men. Karim Ali says, if my death is
30:24
approaching, of course, we're talking about someone who says,
30:26
too late for me. So this is saying in contact at
30:29
then. Allegedly, my death is
30:30
approaching it's getting close. Well, I'm your Denim and comely
30:33
and my actions are not such that.
30:34
Take me closer to God. This is the situation we're
30:37
talking about how should I feel? Yeah.
30:39
My mom says that a general, tonic Road, a bit then be like I
30:41
wanna see that he? So how do I what we are used to
30:44
get close to God and a lot better than white.
30:46
Oh, goddamn This mistakes. I'm sorry about it.
30:49
Imam Alice is just this admission and honesty.
30:52
God, I made mistakes, this will be your vassal towards gone.
30:55
You can be on your deathbed. For example, one second, one
30:59
second Jenny. It's a lot more.
31:02
Beautiful thing is this, it doesn't say that.
31:04
Hello, it would be neutral. Yeah, it's a descent.
31:07
This admission will count as good work.
31:10
Good work for you. That's not Vice.
31:13
Exactly, exactly. Okay, hello.
31:16
Someone may I say Pastor I don't any a mom is saying, can you get
31:19
comments in zone? Noah Mom is saying, oh, you all
31:23
commits be honest about it even if there's one second left of
31:28
your life. Say God, I'm sorry.
31:30
Why do a lot of people don't have that Honesty?
31:32
Because people, it's so difficult to admit.
31:35
I wasted a life. Let's say, I'm 70 years old and
31:38
I'm 80, 90, or assign it could happen at any age deal.
31:41
We've lost so many young friends.
31:44
Same as I'm about to die. And I look, and I see you My
31:47
God, hope 70 years, I didn't live properly.
31:50
If I acknowledge that it means I wasted this one opportunity.
31:54
The cost is so high. So a lot of people think about
31:57
it. Yes.
31:58
Your prize is your dignity. Distract yourself from it, it's
32:01
so heavy. I don't know if people know.
32:03
So one of the main challenges we have in Psychotherapy with
32:05
people is not the cost of accepting a mistake is so hot.
32:09
You would much rather blame others not thinking what Imam
32:13
Ali trying to do is reduce the cost.
32:16
Nah. Acknowledge its responsibility
32:19
take responsibility. I know that God will look after
32:21
you. Yeah, you know what I mean?
32:22
So he says, you'll be honest. Leave the rest to God.
32:25
God will take care of you. God will help you, God.
32:27
Will, you know what I mean? Once that caused this gum,
32:30
everyone would become honest. Share the, a lot of this, which
32:32
is sorry State. I don't ask a lot of questions,
32:34
but I don't think a lot of, a lot of what, I'm what I'm
32:37
gathering is that we can understand that we are in a safe
32:41
place with our last one dollar. So, when I'm on a Prayer mat,
32:44
but I feel like I don't act overly religious.
32:47
Because I know it's deceiving, I've done this in earlier in the
32:50
day and now I'm here, maybe a lot, think so lower for me, some
32:54
people who feel that insecurity. I might feel that sometimes a
32:57
lot of us may do at home and in the same point you mentioned
33:00
shake when you look back on your life you think maybe I've wasted
33:02
so many years, it's sometimes that ego inside us, what even if
33:07
we're admitting to someone in our mind all the way to
33:09
admitting to God and a in our mind even that is hard for us to
33:13
do but to understand Allah is a safe If entity for us to
33:18
approach is something, which I think is beautiful exactly.
33:21
Even what I've my understanding of spending years with the doors
33:25
of activate is that their understanding and the same as
33:28
the prophet and all the prophets.
33:29
It's one line of beautiful's messengers of God is this, that
33:34
wherever you're at, go to God at that State, you know, wherever
33:41
you're at at that moment, go to God, even my sad and you're
33:45
angry at God, go on Go, go, go. Damn angry at you.
33:48
Help me find out God, I don't love you.
33:50
Go tell God, I don't love you. Make me feel loved me.
33:53
Whatever it is. You're at take that to God, I
33:57
said one of the lines in module comes I shall Allah - Allah, ho
34:00
Akbar. God, I don't love you.
34:01
I want love or or even for ask for your love as well we're
34:06
saying oh that yeah my side in this hellhole back could be both
34:09
you. That goddamn thing is God's.
34:10
Love is there although we can talk about it because God is
34:13
finally off. God's love is for everyone.
34:15
The problem is we don't feel Feel it, you know what I mean?
34:18
It's like a song. That's always shining.
34:20
Sometimes what we do with our actions, we draw the character.
34:24
So the sun is there. We don't feel it for the shades
34:26
on exactly. Exactly.
34:28
So you look out real, the elevator starts with this,
34:35
allahumma inni, actually can have sin bisher aymara, Elder
34:39
happy at a mobile and see this code.
34:47
Is this part of me that tells me to do bad things?
34:52
Oh, watch that thing. Go say that fast.
34:54
Beeping, I acknowledge there's this part of me bad while
34:56
unhealthy Adam about that. It's not that it just orders me
34:59
to do bad things and it goes and does it.
35:02
What? And Omar, Ock, Mulia started
35:04
enjoys disobeying you. What is amongst a whole thing?
35:08
Beeping, I get you and Son, sometimes something could happen
35:11
to you. You start doing these things.
35:13
It's okay. Go to go and tell God, take this
35:16
complex. In to God God I complain to you
35:19
that sometimes I do this and it amongst slowly.
35:22
Slowly says, once you go that with God, God will help you.
35:25
Learn how you act, how do you address that?
35:27
How do you slowly slowly allow this site?
35:30
That doesn't want these things to overcome the other side, you
35:33
know how real it is? And it's just, you know,
35:36
obviously I enjoy sometimes doing this since hope Allah.
35:38
How can I not how can I overcome that?
35:42
You take all of this and discuss it with God and the important
35:45
thing is what you say To know God is on your side.
35:48
Yeah. Whenever you go you're safe with
35:50
cachaça sometimes it's very hard.
35:53
It's very, very hard because you'll, for example, see us in
35:56
and enjoy this in. Yeah.
35:58
But it's whether you feel that the enjoyment of God is greater
36:01
than the enjoyment of the sin. That's the that's the battle
36:04
people go through this. How do you think it's from a
36:07
woman Ellie said, I'm Gators for every sin.
36:09
There's a kind of Sakura kind of drunkenness.
36:12
And if there is for a few seconds, you may really enjoy
36:14
it. There's that warmth sweetie.
36:16
Initially with a sin so that no one denies that.
36:20
Yeah to tell people no sin is awful, not initially, it's nice.
36:25
What AB is this between man and Maleficent has this beautiful
36:28
Hadith, Mankato metallic enough. So Hannah Talha water this is
36:33
the reason you're enjoying these things were having so much fun
36:36
here is that you've forgotten who you are, you're so special
36:39
there's a whole other level of Pleasures awaiting for you.
36:43
You know that's what they do. Hope they don't take it, don't
36:46
matter. Why are you enjoying this day
36:48
naturally? When you forget what other types
36:50
of life is possible. So let us tell you a little bit
36:53
about that. Let us tell you why did God
36:56
create you? Let us tell you that.
36:57
Don't you want to life in which you're not insecure?
37:00
You're not anxious, you're not worried.
37:02
You don't feel like I'm not good enough.
37:03
You don't feel like my friends are successful.
37:05
I don't know. They have so much money this and
37:07
that I don't have it. No one gets me hope.
37:10
You know why all of this is happening because you miss that
37:12
relationship with someone who's always there for you.
37:15
So if you want all of this He's calm little show.
37:17
You another way then you don't eat any to of in.
37:20
This is the beauty of the teachings of Islam and a little
37:23
bit. They don't tell you want the sin
37:26
and disobey they say, we'll get you to a place and you don't
37:29
want the same honest. It was a, how many of us now?
37:33
This month of ramazan one of our challenges is not eating soil,
37:37
very few people but as a kid was so many of us wanted to put
37:40
everything in your mouth. What happened?
37:42
We grew up. Yeah.
37:43
Now no one will know the kid anymore.
37:46
Let me see. Get you to a place.
37:47
You look at all of this pasta. I don't need anymore.
37:51
That's what Islam is. Is it okay?
37:54
If I just say not who, by the way, they still haven't talked
37:56
about a little bit versus shaitaan, but that's after this,
37:59
I saw a post, someone said Islam is this Freedom till you reach.
38:05
An order of God then you stopped yourself.
38:07
I said that's not that's not say that again Sheriff it said Islam
38:10
is freedom until you reach a rule of God then you stopped
38:15
yourself. I said that is not Islam and
38:17
system level one, level two is become a person.
38:20
That what you want and what God wants is the same thing.
38:23
So you don't even need to stop yourself.
38:26
You naturally, what want, what God wants for you?
38:29
You become Godly exactly. Because, you know, ultimately
38:31
God wants nothing. That's bad for you.
38:33
God wants the best for you. Right.
38:35
That's Islam. Not to tell someone.
38:36
Stop yourself. Show them how to want the good
38:39
thing so that is beautiful for them.
38:41
They enjoy it, you know? And that's I think what we'll be
38:46
trying to help We'll get at yeah, on the line.
38:49
Wow, yeah, I'm just got so many things on my mind at the moment
38:54
and go like a house. A crash course.
38:55
There's three crash course I do. I'm as prepared, the few fire
39:00
questions for you and they shall all join him on in, on that
39:03
dress, I have a question. I really want to ask is that the
39:07
fracture is called on mashallah. I've learned so much and I'm
39:09
100% sure. Everyone is number one
39:10
subscribing to our democracy, but they've all learned, they've
39:13
all like, is you become like a sea of knowledge where we hold
39:15
on, hold on. Can you just say?
39:17
So we have this on camera. Subscribe to our free motherland
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subscribed. Yep, he's honest.
39:28
He's such. Lovely host.
39:30
Subscribe to us. And why not why I really wanted
39:34
to know was why do Scholars play on our emotions when it comes to
39:38
our connection with God that we have to pay him.
39:41
So we worship him because we should fail him.
39:44
Rather, you know where we know, Imam Ali, I Salam you wish.
39:46
And because Allah is worthy of worship center.
39:48
So why why is this not talk to us from a young age?
39:52
Like, for example, you know, right wrong Halal Haram but we
39:56
only know that's her arm because that's punishment.
39:58
Yeah. We only know that's wrong
39:59
because there is punishment. Yeah, this is never, you know.
40:02
God loves you and he never had this.
40:04
Yeah, we heard this in Christianity, a lot.
40:06
Yeah. And they're very good at their
40:08
that, when it comes to how much God, and Jesus loves them.
40:10
Why do we like this? I suppose things that's the most
40:14
painful thing because when you look at the doors of Live bait.
40:17
It's so beautiful. No one speaks about God's love
40:21
more than that a bit. I can't discuss this with anyone
40:24
who wants to know, why did this happen between two to be able to
40:30
speak about God, the way I had a bit.
40:32
Do you have to taste that yourself?
40:35
Unfortunately, many people haven't.
40:37
So they can't really describe God in such a way that's
40:40
exciting for you. And so, in their toolkit, they
40:44
have very few tools, there isn't many Follow mattresses teachers
40:47
parents Scholars, use God's fear.
40:50
A lot is not the, it's good intention or they want you to do
40:52
something good. Yeah, hope they go to their
40:55
toolkit. They like, how can I convince
40:56
this person to do good? They don't find within
40:59
themselves, the ability to explain why you should do this
41:03
so that I hope I can explain it. This kids not going to pray,
41:05
this kids, not going to pray. Let's use fear.
41:07
If you don't God will share the story of a very short time.
41:11
It's a very short time, rationale, as a parent.
41:13
So awful, yeah. Yes, you might get them to pray
41:16
for her. A day or for a week, but long
41:18
term is exactly. You got to try to check the
41:20
reason why I mention this because maybe back in the day
41:22
used to work, but the fact we live in the 21st century, we
41:25
have technology. We see an alternative happiness
41:28
to God. Yeah, also very even back.
41:31
Then a Imam Ali said nigga, it works.
41:33
It may stop you from few sins water, keeps you at start level
41:37
1 of religion nobody said they'd given him a person has that
41:40
Hadith it's out of fear. It's out of reward and
41:43
translation finding God working. So even back.
41:46
Need help you from some sense but kept you stuck in level one
41:50
which Imam Ali set them on personalized from said, we don't
41:52
do this way. We worship God because we found
41:55
it beautiful. Yeah.
41:56
But you're right now, it doesn't even stop people from sinning
42:00
because they make you scared. You'll go to society.
42:02
You see what's what? And you know the fear doesn't
42:05
hold that much and the problem is also what you said as well
42:08
that when you in order to get someone to do something, you
42:11
make them scared of God. You'll ruin the relationship
42:15
with God. This is going to be the root of
42:16
Million more sense, million more challenges in security
42:19
self-esteem, issue, so many things so I did have another way
42:23
they say been we help you. Not send if that's what these
42:25
Scholars, want them address the teachers or lovely parents.
42:28
All of them bless them. If this is what you don't want
42:31
but let us do it activates a will help you not sent.
42:34
But at the same time not, you know, in a very beautiful loving
42:37
relationship with God. So I think it's just that they
42:40
didn't know another way. That's why I mean with that
42:43
limit it was so important who teaches about God or the same
42:46
answer. He sort of has this Hadith.
42:47
It's so interesting amongst other to his companions.
42:51
He said, you guys don't go talk to anyone, you go.
42:55
Try to talk to people about god, you messed them up.
42:57
Well, they were very selective about who should talk to people,
43:01
don't mess around in the like a criteria digit.
43:04
Obviously been assigned, one of it, is this dig in all?
43:06
Because I mean, a person needs to know and son.
43:11
If you in order to get someone to stop wanting, you take God
43:14
away from them. You've damaged this person, you
43:16
saw doesn't humanity and yeah, you know, the soul of and
43:19
inseong, exact your so I repeat were very careful about.
43:23
There's even a headache muscle and there's profit is with
43:25
someone, someone comes and insults, the prophet companions
43:29
want to go and I know how to deal with this.
43:34
Let me handle it. You know what I mean?
43:36
This is what we have lost. Unfortunately, I believe it or
43:38
not profit is not among us. Many people don't know how to
43:41
handle and Son but will you have to treat and so on with respect
43:45
man, cattle? You can have some hot water and
43:48
what he says at no point. You damage a person's dignity.
43:51
Yeah. Because once the dignity goes
43:53
out of the door so much seem calm.
43:55
Yeah. You know you always treat inside
43:57
with honor and dignity. This is the way of profit and a
43:59
little bit. But yeah, you know, when you
44:03
mentioned I had it just now mentioned minimal million.
44:06
I it reminds me, of course, this shot at nights are approaching
44:09
and the way he even approached his killer even more, Jim and
44:13
the dignity, he even showed him and preserving his Killers
44:15
dignity as well. In quenching his thirst and so
44:18
on, and it just hits hard. I think in these days,
44:20
especially as well, sure you are kind of answered my question in
44:24
this question. But I was going to ask you,
44:25
whether you feel, we've become a community of ritual, ization and
44:28
filk specifically. So whether we've become so
44:31
focused on making sure everything is the right way and
44:35
I have no hair coming out of my job or for example, I'm making
44:39
sure that I'm praying the perfect way.
44:42
And if I my back is not 90 degrees when I'm doing real
44:44
Court. Then it's not like I counted and
44:47
So, what I'm saying is because a lot of us have grown up in this
44:50
environment, I remember when I was very young, we had filmed
44:52
lessons every week for 15 years, you know.
44:55
So it was so rigorous and so rigid that it becomes very
45:00
drilled into us and then that takes into our, you know, our
45:02
day-to-day life as adults. Do you feel that we've become a
45:05
community who are like this? And how do we maybe not counter
45:09
it? How do we take that?
45:11
Use it to its advantage and then add more to it.
45:14
Exact, I love the way you phrased it.
45:16
How can we take? Advantage of what good things we
45:18
have. Yeah.
45:19
Do we care about Gamma? I know?
45:21
Yeah. Now how can we need to look at
45:24
halibut? Bless them if you want us
45:27
everything on Sunday departments and one sermon we have from her.
45:30
She says every one of these actions as a purpose salad came
45:34
for this function. First thing for this Hartford,
45:36
is what do they say call after a while of doing it laughing, I
45:40
did it. Do its function or not.
45:42
I said, I'm with salad. Lady for Thomas is what is
45:44
function to get rid of your cable holiday season.
45:46
It's your CDs. What Cordon says people?
45:49
What I'm gives us parametres, it says in that, sell out at an
45:52
artificial way, it should help you give strength to stop doing
45:56
the things you don't want to do well.
45:58
And also a chemist, a lot elevated.
46:00
Got is be concerned about your coming to meet me and how do you
46:04
know if it happened or not? I love with the credit at minor
46:07
illumination. So God says Salat is a meeting
46:10
with me and if you want to know it happened or not.
46:12
See afterwards, do you feel combat or not more peaceful or
46:14
not? Because with the remembrance of
46:16
God, At my envelope Hearts, find the shortest path.
46:19
If we think this is not happening, didn't have to go
46:22
back and see how to do things properly.
46:24
And if I don't, many people tell me that they've learned all this
46:28
outcome of Salamis and what of lean you know, the rack all of
46:33
that. But no one told them not in this
46:35
salad. What are you doing?
46:36
Who I'm talking to? That's a meeting with God.
46:39
Who is this? God yeah well I was having a
46:41
conversation of the day. I think maybe I don't mention
46:45
his name. This having a The station.
46:47
I was like you know, when you lift your hands we say so my
46:50
linemen humming that we've been sitting here for the last 30
46:51
years of my life, all you. Now we understood that you know,
46:54
Allah has the ones, I praise him like the certain things.
46:58
Like we can pray like rabbits and Pirates.
47:00
Sorry. Where you mentioned very nicely.
47:04
You know, that let's say, for example, I'm praying, praying,
47:07
praying, praying, if I'm still sinning or do something wrong,
47:11
maybe I need to come back to check my follow-up because if
47:13
the Quran is saying Salam should actually stop you from singing
47:15
tough on China, Anka, there's nothing wrong with our prayer.
47:19
Exactly. Because there will be people who
47:25
don't pray will pray sometimes. Yeah, it pray.
47:27
Once a day once a week, once a month, once a year, for example,
47:31
we should that be a thing. Like I don't pray, what's it
47:33
going to do for me? Let's see.
47:34
I pray, once I really enjoy it, but I don't, I don't get up for
47:37
fudger the next day. Yeah.
47:39
Is that a bad thing? How do we get around that?
47:42
I think that's not that person's fault.
47:45
It's the fault of people who I need to show this person salary
47:48
is beautiful. He Musta.
47:49
Imagine you're in that honeymoon.
47:51
Phase of your marriage or engagement and you stay off the
47:55
middle of the night, talk to each other or, you know, it's
47:57
like some time flies 24 hours, you know, it's working to your
48:01
Halal partner so that will but would anyone was around feel
48:06
like I'm forced to do this? No, it's so beautiful.
48:09
You want to do that? Yeah.
48:10
And let me see, if you know what's a lord is assigned.
48:13
You can you wake up naturally, we mess around.
48:17
Although that's the unfortunately, our standard of
48:20
it's so low as and if you feel like you have to put an alarm to
48:24
wake up, it means you don't know what's a lot is because I lied
48:27
because after all along we thought right?
48:36
Yeah. But baby it's so beautiful.
48:39
It's like you have a meeting 6 a.m. for our soul will pull us
48:42
your. Yeah, and that's not our fault.
48:45
We haven't been Shown in the beauty of Salat because you're
48:49
right. They always told us, massage
48:50
your clothes off to be taught her Gravely, is this, which are
48:52
important stuff? Of course, what's nothing?
48:55
Cause that's just. The thing is, a lot of us to
48:57
talk that from the age of six or seven or eight.
49:00
And then we're thinking, like, before the age of this, I
49:02
remember. I was thinking about this the
49:04
other day. I remember asking my silk
49:06
teacher, when I was a kid. Yeah, I must have been seven or
49:08
eight years old. I said, term sir, can I blow my
49:11
nose? If I've got a runny nose, while
49:13
I'm praying, can I do this? If when I'm wearing when I put
49:16
My feet on the ground. How many times do I have to
49:18
touch? And I remember, we had a teacher
49:20
and mellow bless all our teachers lesson.
49:22
We had a teacher who would hit us with a stick on the feet or
49:26
kick us when we were not putting our feet down properly and such
49:29
the Lahore. I know.
49:30
So I was thinking like the approach.
49:32
Now that I would even tap here. There's no no.
49:36
But you know, like I said that teacher, what shall I was an
49:38
incredible, incredible inspirational attention,
49:41
attention, techniques techniques and maybe the the Sweetness of
49:47
Salah a young age. You know why that happened?
49:50
Your mother came to me once me, by the way, there's no judgment.
49:54
What all fallible human beings? Trying to learn all in this
49:58
together. Exactly, it's so beautiful.
50:00
It's so interesting. By the way, the difference
50:03
between mustard and humble people, I'm not in the wood on
50:08
one of our Prophet says men and Saudi illallah Yoda.
50:11
Say, let me take you to God, he said, who are the people who
50:14
will help me with together we go towards God, hallelujah.
50:16
Okay, so interesting his followers, say no, we are the
50:19
helpers of God, you know, the prophet himself says bubble.
50:22
That's helped each other go towards God.
50:24
His followers are no, we're helping out anyways.
50:26
So what I was saying is this no judgment but a parent wants ask
50:31
me. How can I get my child to enjoy?
50:33
Sallow asked, do you enjoy send out yourself?
50:36
Hmm, he said no, only hope you been.
50:38
How can I give someone something?
50:40
I don't have if you take heed of that energy.
50:47
He had stopped praying said, well, look, we helped him.
50:49
I know how to get back but it, you know, why I stopped praying
50:51
because I looked at the people who pray, I saw, none of them
50:55
feel like they're talking to anyone, I look at them, none of
50:58
them. Feels like they're actually
50:59
talking to God, but as I said there is no God.
51:01
Why can't these athletes these people who pray they don't look
51:03
like they believe in God. You know, you see children, pick
51:07
these things up, right? In very true.
51:10
If you are on your fourth years old, you don't feel like you're
51:12
enjoying pray. It means hope the way you're
51:14
teaching your child didn't even work for you.
51:16
Has maybe you as well need to focus on something else which is
51:19
that, you know, relationship with God.
51:21
What are we saying? I am Samuel or even have.
51:23
It is such an amazing example. You mentioned all the salad,
51:26
every line of it is like that subhanallah subhanallah, why
51:30
should I say that? What is Roku?
51:35
What am I doing? I'm a tense on.
51:37
I need to know, what am I doing? You open this up?
51:39
You see? It's an ocean.
51:40
It's so interesting. You know, maybe another time we
51:44
can talk about I'll tear up to 10 inch Allah will do Chef final
51:51
final one for me and said if you want to add anything as well,
51:54
can you explain? How do you think 60 seconds for
51:56
us? Because it's the month of
52:02
Ramadan. Let's go with the line that can
52:04
help us. He totally had to Allah I seek
52:08
and also we've always been told you do Tobar of called you
52:11
return to God amongst a judge is God, you return to me so that I
52:16
don't disobey you. Wow, in other words, God, on my
52:19
own, I couldn't stop myself. You come help me.
52:23
And there's this other line in the Bahamas, family, elahi and
52:26
Niall enough. See God, help me with myself.
52:29
I can't handle myself. I tried 30 years, 16 years, you
52:33
come, and he'll wash Allah. So, I think that's a good
52:36
approach for ramazan. Let God be the hero masha'allah.
52:39
Oh, yeah. Answer to, you know, tell us the
52:47
difference between the actual value.
52:49
Theta J, shaitaan is very genius.
52:56
And if the best psychologist in the world is shaitaan, and
52:58
whatever shaitaan is, that's the live shaitaan before you commit
53:02
a sin. It's not that big of a deal will
53:05
repent later. It doesn't matter.
53:07
Do it. No one will lost and who said
53:08
it's wrong? Maybe chefs made up before a
53:11
sin. Hmm the moment you commit a sin,
53:14
you're awful cute. Justic.
53:17
Look at yourself. You terrible person.
53:20
God will never forgive your son. What's the point of talking to
53:23
God? You even you see before, that
53:25
pushes pushes the moment. You call me to sing.
53:28
It starts, making you feel awful with that halibut.
53:31
It's the opposite before. You want to comment a single
53:34
acting, you're better than this. So this is going to hurt you.
53:36
You sure you want to do this, ask God for help, maybe it stops
53:39
you should. Maybe this is going to hurt you
53:41
or we're worried for you. What if God forbid you went
53:45
through they don't God will forgive you return back?
53:48
You made it a hundred times. Don't worry return.
53:50
Go to God, and ask God for forgiveness, you see the moment?
53:54
It's gone. The header keep, send you back
53:56
to God, but shaitan keeps you in that Darkness.
54:00
So, I thought maybe that's interesting for us to recognize
54:03
our voices from Shake. I think we all face this battle
54:07
and you know, I'm sure we'll all the listeners inshallah can
54:10
connect with today's conversation.
54:11
I've learned. Yeah, I mean why do like you
54:14
said, she asked one thing which I think is all that take away.
54:16
For all of us and shot lies, whatever stage you are at, go to
54:19
a lot in that state and that, that line you mentioned, I
54:21
think, is something very relevant and pertinent to us,
54:24
especially in these days. How we use the time in the day,
54:27
and in the night, whether it's in a bada on the prayer matter,
54:30
whether we're reading the Quran and we're just reflecting a,
54:32
we're learning about a lost 12 other and all the bounties is
54:36
given us, you know, you mentioned this point in the
54:38
majlis you mentioned again today about the love that you give
54:41
when from a young age and how we how we personify Allah's love as
54:46
For example, after I had that in the much list, I went home, I
54:49
was with my son. I was like subhanallah, I'm
54:52
loving my son and I'm acting as you know, I think that's
54:55
Bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim you're working in the name of
54:57
God. It really hit me like, you know,
54:59
as a young father to a young child and, you know, I think
55:04
that's something for us. We need to rethink how we
55:07
imagine a lot of pain. And I've said this before, and
55:09
I'll say it. Lastly, again that if we change
55:12
the way, we see a lot in this holy month, we don't have long
55:15
left. We have a couple of Weeks then
55:17
inshallah. We can use it to our advantage
55:19
and continue it on an upward trajectory so you know going
55:22
forward Chef. Thank you so much if you don't
55:25
mind actually just mentioned parents.
55:28
Yeah, I'm going to use you for a second.
55:31
If you don't mind, I have a five-year-old daughter, she's
55:34
six very soon and other day shocks me, whereas got, but we
55:38
out for us, we always say, knowing someone up there around
55:41
us. Why is that actual answer?
55:43
We should give someone our area. Honestly, this is my daughter.
55:46
Yeah. Yeah.
55:48
So is it okay? We do another session just on
55:51
this because if you're happy to this meal of takes 5-10 minutes.
55:54
Yeah and I think it's good for all parents because I get this
55:57
question a lot. Yeah there's a very simple
55:59
technique child-friendly, right. That it's like all theology book
56:04
in one technique, they'll learn it.
56:06
So if you agree maybe another time to do that because I think
56:10
it would help a lot of parents because many questions I have.
56:13
And also on the podcast they all stem from Vibe for my child -
56:16
yeah. Which is true.
56:17
That fitra is very good technique in the door on the
56:23
book on normally but maybe it's nice event to talk about it
56:26
here, the it will equip parents to answer any theological
56:30
questions. Where can we find this book?
56:32
I'll come with you sources any on her Instagram on our Amazon.
56:36
It's everywhere they get it's just god-centered spirituality,
56:38
a commentary on drop bombs and formerly.
56:40
Mmm you know with that technique in Shallow, any theological
56:43
question. Your child asks you would be a
56:45
master in. I'm sure.
56:46
For those who don't know, Chef also has a book on to other fur,
56:49
which is a beautiful commentary as well and check.
56:52
Now, lastly, a final question, how can people reach out to you
56:55
or where can they find your work Instagram?
56:58
MD show Molly. Yeah.
57:00
What if they want to come to our house care?
57:01
There's always tea, ready or Instagram.
57:03
I think is that addresses out so please don't thank you so much.
57:25
Thank you again for tuning in. We will be back as always.
57:28
Hopefully not next week. We'll hopefully in the next few
57:30
days. As always, if you've got any
57:33
comments suggestions topics you'd like to hear us talk about
57:36
get in touch with us on Instagram or on YouTube as well
57:39
or on tic toc even and we're always here to respond and
57:42
Charles, I think that's a wrap up.
57:44
That's all male like Steps. Everyone's at my shop.
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Pop and Sharma. Thank you so much for tuning in.
57:48
Thank you, Chef now. Thank you.
57:49
Thank you soon. So I think a lot alike you look
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