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The kids I babysit have a code word for danger and they used it when their grandfather showed up · Martin Animations

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  Speaker 1: The kids I babysit have a code word for danger,
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  Speaker 1: and they used it when their grandfather showed up. I'd
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  Speaker 1: been babysitting the Whitmore kids for about four months when
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  Speaker 1: I first heard about the code word. It was a
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  Speaker 1: Wednesday afternoon, and I was helping six-year-old Lily with her
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  Speaker 1: homework while her older brother Owen played video games in
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  Speaker 1: the living room. Their mom Natalie had just started a
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  Speaker 1: new job at the hospital and needed someone reliable three
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  Speaker 1: days a week after school until she got home around seven.
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  Speaker 1: The pay was good, and the kids were sweet, so
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  Speaker 1: it seemed like an easy gig. That day, Lily looked
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  Speaker 1: up from her math worksheet and asked me if I
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  Speaker 1: knew their special word. I said I didn't know what
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  Speaker 1: she meant, and she glanced at Owen, who paused his
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  Speaker 1: game and walked over. He was nine and took his
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  Speaker 1: role as big brother seriously, always making sure Lily stayed safe.
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  Speaker 1: Owen explained that their mom taught them a code word
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  Speaker 1: to use if they ever felt unsafe or needed help
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  Speaker 1: but couldn't say it directly.
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  Speaker 2: The word was lighthouse.
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  Speaker 1: If either of them said lighthouse in a sentence, it
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  Speaker 1: meant something was wrong and I needed to pay attention.
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  Speaker 1: I asked why they needed a code word, and Owen's
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  Speaker 1: face got serious in a way that seemed too old
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  Speaker 1: for a nine-year-old. He said their grandfather wasn't allowed to
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  Speaker 1: see them anymore, and if he ever showed up, they
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  Speaker 1: were supposed to use the word. Lily added that Grandpa
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  Speaker 1: used to be nice, but then he got mean and
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  Speaker 1: scared Mommy. She said sometimes people's brains get sick and
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  Speaker 1: they don't act like themselves anymore. I could tell Natalie
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  Speaker 1: had worked hard to explain it in a way that
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  Speaker 1: made sense to them without being too scary. I told
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  Speaker 1: them I understood and would remember the code word, then
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  Speaker 1: asked if they wanted to tell me what their grandfather
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  Speaker 1: looked like so I'd know if I saw him. Owen
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  Speaker 1: pulled out his mom's phone, which she'd left for emergencies,
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  Speaker 1: and showed me a photo from two years ago. A
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  Speaker 1: tall man with gray hair and a thick beard, smiling
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  Speaker 1: at the camera with his arms around both kids. He
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  Speaker 1: looked like a normal grandfather, and that somehow made it worse.
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  Speaker 1: That conversation stuck with me, but I didn't think too
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  Speaker 1: much about it at the time. Natalie had seemed stressed
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  Speaker 1: when she hired me, but I figured it was just
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  Speaker 1: the normal chaos of being a single parent with a
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  Speaker 1: demanding job. She told me during the interview that the
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  Speaker 1: kid's father wasn't in the picture, and her own parents
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  Speaker 1: weren't available to help, which I now understood meant something
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  Speaker 1: more complicated than just being busy. over the next few
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  Speaker 1: weeks i noticed small things that seemed unusual natalie always
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  Speaker 1: texted me when she was exactly five minutes away from
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  Speaker 1: home she'd installed cameras at every door and checked them
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  Speaker 1: obsessively on her phone the kids knew not to answer
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  Speaker 1: the door for anyone even people they recognized unless their
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  Speaker 1: mom had specifically told them someone was coming one evening
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  Speaker 1: when i mentioned that an older man had waved at
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  Speaker 1: us from across the street while we were getting the
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  Speaker 1: mail natalie's face went pale and she made me describe
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  Speaker 1: him in detail before relaxing and saying it was just
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  Speaker 1: their neighbor. The afternoon everything changed started normally enough. I
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  Speaker 1: arrived at 3.30 like always and let myself in with
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  Speaker 1: the key Natalie had given me. Owen and Lily got
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  Speaker 1: home from school about 15 minutes later, dropped their backpacks
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  Speaker 1: in the hallway, and immediately started arguing about whose turn
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  Speaker 1: it was to pick the snack. i was mediating their
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  Speaker 1: debate between apple slices and crackers when someone knocked on
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  Speaker 1: the front door the kids both froze instantly and looked
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  Speaker 1: at each other with wide eyes i checked the camera
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  Speaker 1: feed on the tablet natalie kept by the door and
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  Speaker 1: saw an older man standing on the porch holding a
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  Speaker 1: grocery bag he had gray hair and a beard thinner
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  Speaker 1: than in the photo but definitely the same person my
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  Speaker 1: stomach dropped as i realized this was their grandfather owen
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  Speaker 1: grabbed lily's hand and pulled her toward the kitchen while
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  Speaker 1: i stood there trying to figure out what to do
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  Speaker 1: the man knocked again harder this time and called out
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  Speaker 1: that he knew the kids were home because he'd seen
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  Speaker 1: them walk up the driveway I told the kids to
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  Speaker 1: go upstairs to Owen's room and close the door while
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  Speaker 1: I handled this. Lily started to cry and Owen put
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  Speaker 1: his arm around her shoulders, guiding her toward the stairs.
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  Speaker 1: As they reached the top, Owen turned back and said clearly,
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  Speaker 1: I hope the lighthouse is still standing after that storm
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  Speaker 1: last week. My heart started pounding because I knew exactly
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  Speaker 1: what he meant. I pulled out my phone and texted
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  Speaker 1: Natalie that her father was at the door, then dialed
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  Speaker 1: 911 and kept my finger hovering over the call button.
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  Speaker 1: The man knocked again and said he just wanted to
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  Speaker 1: see his grandchildren for a few minutes. He said Natalie
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  Speaker 1: was being unreasonable and keeping them apart for no good reason.
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  Speaker 1: His voice sounded normal and friendly, which made the whole
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  Speaker 1: situation feel surreal. How could someone who sounded so calm
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  Speaker 1: and reasonable be dangerous enough that the kids needed a
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  Speaker 1: code word? I walked to the door but didn't open it,
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  Speaker 1: calling through the wood that Natalie wasn't home and he
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  Speaker 1: needed to leave. He asked who I was, and I
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  Speaker 1: told him I was the babysitter. There was a long
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  Speaker 1: pause before he said, that was perfect, that I seemed
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  Speaker 1: like a responsible young person who would understand that grandparents
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  Speaker 1: have rights. he explained that his daughter was going through
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  Speaker 1: some things and had gotten confused about some incidents that
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  Speaker 1: never actually happened he said the court case was all
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  Speaker 1: a misunderstanding and he'd been cleared of any wrongdoing his
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  Speaker 1: tone was so reasonable and persuasive that for a second
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  Speaker 1: i almost doubted what the kids had told me then
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  Speaker 1: i remembered lily's face when she'd said grandpa got mean
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  Speaker 1: and scared mommy and i knew i couldn't trust anything
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  Speaker 1: this man said i told him again that he needed
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  Speaker 1: to leave and i was calling the police if he
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  Speaker 1: didn't he laughed like i'd made a joke and said
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  Speaker 1: there was no need to overreact he just wanted to
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  Speaker 1: drop off some presents he'd bought for the kids couldn't
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  Speaker 1: i at least take the bag from him I said
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  Speaker 1: no and pulled out my phone so he could see
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  Speaker 1: it through the window. His friendly tone disappeared immediately. He
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  Speaker 1: started pounding on the door with his fist and yelling
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  Speaker 1: that these were his grandchildren and nobody had the right
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  Speaker 1: to keep him away from them. He said Natalie had
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  Speaker 1: poisoned their minds with lies and he was going to
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  Speaker 1: make sure everyone knew the truth. The kids could hear
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  Speaker 1: him from upstairs and I heard Lily crying louder. My
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  Speaker 1: hands were shaking as I actually called 911 this time.
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  Speaker 1: The dispatcher answered and I explained the situation as quickly
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  Speaker 1: as I could while the man kept pounding and shouting.
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  Speaker 1: She said officers were on the way and to stay
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  Speaker 1: inside with the doors locked and not engage with him anymore.
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  Speaker 1: I could hear her typing rapidly and asking for details
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  Speaker 1: about the protective order. I didn't know the details, so
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  Speaker 1: I texted Natalie again asking about it. She responded immediately
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  Speaker 1: saying there was a restraining order and he wasn't supposed
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  Speaker 1: to be within 500 feet of the house or the kids.
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  Speaker 1: She was leaving work right now and would be home
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  Speaker 1: in 20 minutes. Those 20 minutes felt like hours. The
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  Speaker 1: grandfather stopped pounding and everything went quiet for about 30 seconds.
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  Speaker 1: I checked the camera and saw him walking back to
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  Speaker 1: his car, an old blue sedan parked across the street.
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  Speaker 1: For a moment, I thought he was leaving, but instead
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  Speaker 1: he opened the trunk and pulled out a metal baseball bat.
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  Speaker 1: My entire body went cold as I watched him walk
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  Speaker 1: back toward the house, swinging it casually. He called out
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  Speaker 1: that if I wasn't going to be reasonable about this,
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  Speaker 1: he'd find another way in. He walked around the side
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  Speaker 1: of the house toward the backyard, and I lost sight
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  Speaker 1: of him on the camera. I ran upstairs to Owen's
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  Speaker 1: room where both kids were huddled together on the bed.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for watching. and the man calling out.
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  Speaker 2: For Owen and Lily in a sing-song voice that made
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  Speaker 2: my skin crawl.
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  Speaker 1: He was saying he'd brought them presents and didn't they
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  Speaker 1: want to see what Grandpa bought them. His footsteps started
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  Speaker 1: coming up the stairs slowly, one at a time, and
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  Speaker 1: each creak of the wood made my heart pound harder.
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  Speaker 1: I could hear Lily crying quietly in the closet and
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  Speaker 1: Owen shushing her gently. The footsteps reached the top of
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  Speaker 1: the stairs and paused. I held my breath and tightened
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  Speaker 1: my grip on the bat. Then his voice came from
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  Speaker 1: right outside the door saying he knew they were in
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  Speaker 1: there and they needed to stop playing games. The doorknob
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  Speaker 1: started to turn and I raised the bat above my head,
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  Speaker 1: ready to swing at anyone who came through. The door
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  Speaker 1: opened slowly, and I saw his face. angry and determined
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  Speaker 1: nothing like the smiling grandfather from the photo he saw
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  Speaker 1: me standing there with the bat and actually laughed saying
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  Speaker 1: i was just a kid myself and needed to put
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  Speaker 1: that down before someone got hurt he took a step
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  Speaker 1: into the room and i swung the bat as hard
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  Speaker 1: as i could not aiming for his head but for
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  Speaker 1: his shoulder it connected with a solid thunk and he
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  Speaker 1: stumbled backward dropping his own bat with a clatter he
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  Speaker 1: grabbed his shoulder and swore then lunged at me i
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  Speaker 1: swung again but missed this time and he caught the
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  Speaker 1: bat yanking it out of my hands with more strength
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  Speaker 1: than i expected now we were both in the room
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  Speaker 1: and he was between me and the door holding both
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  Speaker 1: bats He told me I'd just made a very big
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  Speaker 1: mistake and he wasn't leaving without his grandchildren. That's when
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  Speaker 1: I heard sirens getting closer and his face changed from
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  Speaker 1: angry to panicked. He looked toward the window and then
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  Speaker 1: back at the closet where the kids were hiding. Police
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  Speaker 1: sirens were right outside now and I heard car doors slamming.
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  Speaker 1: The man swore again and threw the bats on the floor,
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  Speaker 1: then ran out of the room and down the stairs.
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  Speaker 1: I heard him thundering through the house and the back
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  Speaker 1: door slamming. I ran to the closet and opened it,
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  Speaker 1: finding both kids clutching each other and shaking. I told
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  Speaker 1: them it was safe and the police were here, but
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  Speaker 1: Owen wouldn't let go of Lily. Police officers were coming
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  Speaker 1: through the front door now, calling out to announce themselves.
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  Speaker 1: and I yelled down that we were upstairs and safe.
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  Speaker 1: Two officers came up with their weapons drawn, checking every
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  Speaker 1: room before lowering them. A female officer knelt down in
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  Speaker 1: front of the kids and introduced herself as Officer Williams,
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  Speaker 1: asking if they were hurt. Lily shook her head but
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  Speaker 1: couldn't stop crying. Owen just stared at the floor and
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  Speaker 1: held his sister tighter. Officer Williams said they'd caught the
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  Speaker 1: man trying to climb the back fence, and he was
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  Speaker 1: in custody now. She asked if I could tell them
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  Speaker 1: exactly what happened. I walked them through everything from the
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  Speaker 1: first knock to him breaking in with the bat. Another
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  Speaker 1: officer was documenting the broken sliding door and taking photos
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  Speaker 1: of everything. More police arrived and started setting up a
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  Speaker 1: perimeter around the property. Natalie burst through the front door
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  Speaker 1: about 10 minutes later, wild-eyed and frantic, pushing past officers
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  Speaker 1: until she found us upstairs. She dropped to her knees
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  Speaker 1: and pulled both kids into her arms, sobbing and checking
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  Speaker 1: them over for injuries. They weren't physically hurt, but they
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  Speaker 1: were traumatized, and I could see that in the way
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  Speaker 1: they clung to their mother and wouldn't look toward the door.
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  Speaker 1: Natalie looked at me with tears streaming down her face
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  Speaker 1: and thanked me over and over for keeping them safe.
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  Speaker 1: An ambulance arrived even though nobody was seriously injured, and
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  Speaker 1: the paramedics checked everyone out while police continued documenting the scene.
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  Speaker 1: Detective Laura Sullivan showed up about an hour later, a
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  Speaker 1: woman in her 40s with sharp eyes who'd apparently been
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  Speaker 1: assigned to the family's case months ago. Detective Sullivan sat
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  Speaker 1: down with Natalie in the living room while a victim
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  Speaker 1: advocate stayed with the kids upstairs. I could hear Natalie
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  Speaker 1: explaining through tears that her father had been diagnosed with
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  Speaker 1: early-onset dementia two years ago, and his personality had completely changed.
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  Speaker 1: He'd become paranoid and aggressive, especially toward her after her divorce.
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  Speaker 1: There had been an incident eight months ago where he'd
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  Speaker 1: shoved her so hard she'd broken her wrist, and another
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  Speaker 1: time when he'd grabbed Owen roughly enough to leave bruises.
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  Speaker 1: The restraining order had been in place for six months,
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  Speaker 1: but he'd never violated it before. Natalie had thought maybe
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  Speaker 1: he'd accepted the boundaries, but now she realized he'd just
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  Speaker 1: been planning. Detective Sullivan said the violation of the restraining order,
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  Speaker 1: plus the breaking and entering, plus the assault on me,
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  Speaker 1: meant he'd be going to jail this time, not just
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  Speaker 1: getting a warning. She asked if I'd be willing to
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  Speaker 1: give a formal statement, and I said yes. even though
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  Speaker 1: my hands were still shaking. That night, after the police
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  Speaker 1: finally left and Natalie got the kids to bed, she
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  Speaker 1: sat me down at the kitchen table and apologized for
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  Speaker 1: putting me in danger. She said she should have been
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  Speaker 1: more explicit about the threat level when she hired me.
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  Speaker 1: I told her it wasn't her fault and I was
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  Speaker 1: glad I'd been there to protect the kids. She insisted
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  Speaker 1: on paying me triple for that day and said she'd
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  Speaker 1: understand if I didn't want to come back. The truth
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  Speaker 1: was I was scared and shaken up, and the idea
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  Speaker 1: of being alone in that house again made my stomach hurt.
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  Speaker 1: But I also thought about Owen using the code word
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  Speaker 1: at exactly the right moment, and Lily's brave face even
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  Speaker 1: though she was terrified. I told Natalie I'd keep babysitting,
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  Speaker 1: but I wanted her to walk me through every security
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  Speaker 1: measure in the house and teach me exactly what to
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  Speaker 1: do if anything like this happened again. We sat there
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  Speaker 1: until past midnight, going over emergency protocols and contact numbers
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  Speaker 1: and the locations of every camera and alarm. She showed
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  Speaker 1: me the panic button app on her phone that connected
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  Speaker 1: directly to police dispatch. The next morning, I went to
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  Speaker 1: the police station to give my formal statement to Detective Sullivan.
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  Speaker 1: She recorded everything while I walked through every detail I
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  Speaker 1: could remember. She showed me photos of the man being arrested,
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  Speaker 1: his shirt torn and his face red with fury as
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  Speaker 1: officers handcuffed him. She explained that he'd be held without
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  Speaker 1: bail because he'd violated a protective order and the judge
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  Speaker 1: considered him a flight risk. There would be a hearing
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  Speaker 1: next week and I'd need to testify about what happened.
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  Speaker 1: The idea of standing in a courtroom and talking about
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  Speaker 1: it in front of him made me want to throw up,
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  Speaker 1: but Sullivan said my testimony would be crucial for keeping
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  Speaker 1: him locked up longer. She also mentioned that Natalie's father
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  Speaker 1: had a history I didn't know about. Before the dementia diagnosis,
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  Speaker 1: he'd been arrested twice for assault, once against Natalie's mother
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  Speaker 1: before she passed away, and once against a neighbor. The
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  Speaker 1: dementia had apparently removed whatever impulse control he'd maintained before.
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  Speaker 1: I started having nightmares after that day. I'd wake up
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  Speaker 1: sweating and seeing his face in the bedroom doorway, or
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  Speaker 1: I'd dream that I hadn't locked the closet and he'd
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  Speaker 1: gotten to the kids. My roommate noticed I was jumpy
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  Speaker 1: and having trouble sleeping and finally got me to talk
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  Speaker 1: to someone at the university counseling center. The therapist said
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  Speaker 1: I was experiencing trauma symptoms and that was completely normal
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  Speaker 1: after what I'd been through. She taught me breathing exercises
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  Speaker 1: and grounding techniques for when I felt panicked. She also
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  Speaker 1: said it was okay if I decided to stop babysitting
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  Speaker 1: for the Whitmores, that I didn't owe them anything just
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  Speaker 1: because I'd been there during the crisis. But every time
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  Speaker 1: I thought about quitting, I remembered Lily asking if I'd
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  Speaker 1: still come over next week because she didn't want a
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  Speaker 1: new babysitter who Thank you for watching. Natalie met me
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  Speaker 1: outside the courtroom looking exhausted, dark circles under her eyes
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  Speaker 1: like she hadn't slept in days. She said the kids
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  Speaker 1: were staying with her best friend today because she didn't
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  Speaker 1: want them anywhere near the building. Inside the courtroom, I
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  Speaker 1: saw her father for the first time since that day.
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  Speaker 1: He was wearing an orange jumpsuit and handcuffs, looking smaller
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  Speaker 1: and older than I remembered. His lawyer was a tired-looking
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  Speaker 1: public defender who kept sighing and shuffling papers. The prosecutor
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  Speaker 1: was a sharp woman named Diana Foster who'd already talked
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  Speaker 1: to me twice about my testimony. She called me to
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  Speaker 1: the witness stand and I had to put my hand
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  Speaker 1: on a Bible and swear to tell the truth. My
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  Speaker 1: voice shook as I described everything that happened, from the
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  Speaker 1: first knock to swinging the bat at him. The defense
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  Speaker 1: attorney asked if I'd actually seen him hurt anyone or
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  Speaker 1: just heard the kids' stories about past events. I said
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  Speaker 1: I saw him break into the house with a weapon
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  Speaker 1: and chase me upstairs, which was enough for me. The
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  Speaker 1: judge was an older man with gray hair who listened
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  Speaker 1: carefully and took notes. When both sides had presented their evidence,
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  Speaker 1: he ruled that there was probable cause for all the
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  Speaker 1: charges and the defendant would remain in custody until trial.
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  Speaker 1: The bail amount was set at $ 500, 000, which everyone knew
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  Speaker 1: his social security checks couldn't cover. Natalie cried with relief
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  Speaker 1: when the judge announced it. Outside the courtroom, Diana Foster
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  Speaker 1: explained that the trial wouldn't happen for several months because
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  Speaker 1: the court calendar was backed up. In the meantime, the
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  Speaker 1: restraining order would remain in effect and be extended to
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  Speaker 1: include me since I'd been threatened. She said I should
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  Speaker 1: document anything suspicious. Any unknown cars parked near my apartment
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  Speaker 1: or campus.
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  Speaker 2: Any. Feeling of being watched or followed.
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  Speaker 1: The dementia made him unpredictable, and they couldn't be sure
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  Speaker 1: what he'd do if he somehow made bail.
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  Speaker 2: That possibility terrified me more than I wanted to admit.
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  Speaker 1: I went back to babysitting the following Wednesday, and the
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  Speaker 1: kids were different than before. Owen was quieter and stayed
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  Speaker 1: close to wherever I was in the house. Lily had
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  Speaker 1: started wetting the bed again, according to Natalie. something she
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  Speaker 1: hadn't done since she was four. Both of them flinched
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  Speaker 1: at unexpected sounds and wouldn't go near the sliding door
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  Speaker 1: that had been repaired with new reinforced glass. Natalie had
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  Speaker 1: installed an alarm system that beeped whenever any door or
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  Speaker 1: window opened, and the constant monitoring made the house feel
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  Speaker 1: like a fortress. The kids were seeing a therapist twice
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  Speaker 1: a week who specialized in childhood trauma, and slowly they
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  Speaker 1: started to seem more like themselves. Owen smiled at jokes again.
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  Speaker 1: Lily stopped asking every five minutes if Grandpa could get
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  Speaker 1: out of jail. but I could tell something had fundamentally
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  Speaker 1: changed in how they moved through the world. They'd learned
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  Speaker 1: too young that people who were supposed to love you
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  Speaker 1: could also hurt you. Three months passed before the trial
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: date was set. During that time, I'd become almost part
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  Speaker 1: of the Whitmore family. I was there four days a
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  Speaker 1: week now because Natalie had been promoted and needed more help.
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  Speaker 1: I attended Owen's school concert and Lily's soccer games. I
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  Speaker 1: helped with homework and made dinner and read bedtime stories.
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  Speaker 1: Natalie said I was more than just a babysitter. I
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  Speaker 1: was someone the kids trusted completely, and that trust was
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  Speaker 1: precious after what they'd been through. The night before I
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  Speaker 1: was supposed to testify at trial, I couldn't sleep at all.
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  Speaker 1: I lay in bed rehearsing my answers to the questions
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  Speaker 1: Diana Foster had prepared me for. I worried about forgetting
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  Speaker 1: important details or saying something wrong that would hurt the case.
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  Speaker 1: My roommate brought me chamomile tea and sat with me
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  Speaker 1: until I finally dozed off around 3 in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: The trial lasted four days. I testified on the second day,
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  Speaker 1: walking through everything again with Diana guiding me through questions.
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  Speaker 1: The defense attorney tried to make it seem like I'd overreacted,
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  Speaker 1: that an elderly man with dementia wasn't really a threat,
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  Speaker 1: and I'd been the one who escalated by swinging a
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  Speaker 1: bat at him. Diana objected multiple times, and the judge
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  Speaker 1: sustained most of her objections. When I stepped down from
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  Speaker 1: the witness stand, my legs were shaking so badly I
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  Speaker 1: nearly tripped. Natalie testified next, describing years of escalating violence
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  Speaker 1: and control from her father. She talked about the broken
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  Speaker 1: wrist and the bruises on Owen and the constant fear
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  Speaker 1: she'd lived with. Owens' pediatrician testified about the injuries he'd documented.
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  Speaker 1: Detective Sullivan presented all the evidence they'd collected, including security
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  Speaker 1: camera footage from a neighbor that showed the man walking
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  Speaker 1: up to the house with the bat in his hand.
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  Speaker 1: The defense tried to argue diminished capacity due to dementia,
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  Speaker 1: but the prosecutor showed evidence that he'd planned the visit carefully,
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  Speaker 1: proving he knew what he was doing was wrong. The
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  Speaker 1: jury deliberated for six hours before coming back with guilty
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  Speaker 1: verdicts on all charges. Breaking and entering, violating a restraining order,
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  Speaker 1: assault with a deadly weapon, attempted kidnapping. The judge scheduled
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  Speaker 1: sentencing for three weeks later. Natalie collapsed in her chair
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  Speaker 1: sobbing when she heard the verdicts, and I sat beside
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  Speaker 1: her with my arm around her shoulders. Outside the courthouse,
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  Speaker 1: Diana told us that with his prior record and the
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  Speaker 1: severity of the crimes, he was looking at significant prison time,
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  Speaker 1: probably 8 to 12 years. Given his age and health issues,
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  Speaker 1: that might mean he'd never be released. The thought should
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  Speaker 1: have made me feel safer, but instead I just felt
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  Speaker 1: sad for everyone involved. Owen and Lily had lost their
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  Speaker 1: grandfather not because he died, but because his brain betrayed
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  Speaker 1: him and turned him into someone dangerous. Natalie had lost
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  Speaker 1: her father years ago to dementia and now had to
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  Speaker 1: watch him go to prison. There were no winners here,
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  Speaker 1: just damage control. Sentencing day came on a morning in
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  Speaker 1: late October. The courtroom was packed with people I didn't recognize,
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  Speaker 1: apparently advocates for dementia patients and prison reform, who thought
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  Speaker 1: incarcerating someone with a degenerative brain disease was inhumane. The
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  Speaker 1: judge listened to their arguments and then asked if anyone
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: wanted to speak on behalf of the victims. Natalie stood
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  Speaker 1: up and walked to the microphone with a piece of
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  Speaker 1: paper shaking in her hands. She talked about loving her
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  Speaker 1: father and grieving for the man he used to be,
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  Speaker 1: but also about the terror of living under constant threat.
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  Speaker 1: She described Lily's nightmares and Owen's anxiety and her own
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  Speaker 1: inability to trust anyone. She said she wanted her father
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  Speaker 1: to get medical help, but she also needed her children
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  Speaker 1: to be safe, and she didn't know how to balance
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  Speaker 1: those two truths. The judge listened carefully and thanked her
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  Speaker 1: for her statement. Then he sentenced her father to 10
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  Speaker 1: years in a prison facility with a specialized dementia care unit.
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: He'd be eligible for compassionate release if his condition deteriorated
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  Speaker 1: to the point where he was no longer a threat,
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: but that decision would be made by a review board,
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: not automatically. After sentencing, life slowly started to return to
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  Speaker 1: something like normal. The alarm system became background noise we
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: barely noticed. The kids stopped checking every room before entering.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: Natalie started sleeping through the night again instead of waking
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  Speaker 1: up at every sound. I continued babysitting and watching these
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  Speaker 1: two kids grow up and heal. Owen started playing baseball
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  Speaker 1: again and was really good at it. Lily joined a
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: drama club and discovered she loved performing. Both of them
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: knew the code word lighthouse would probably never be needed again,
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: but they still remembered it. Some things you don't forget
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: even after the danger has passed. Natalie told me one
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  Speaker 1: evening after the kids were in bed that she felt
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  Speaker 1: guilty for how everything had turned out. She loved her
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  Speaker 1: father and hated seeing him in prison, deteriorating further every
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  Speaker 1: time she visited. But she also knew she'd made the
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  Speaker 1: only choice available to protect her children. Sometimes there are
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  Speaker 1: no good options, just less terrible ones. A year after
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  Speaker 1: the trial, I graduated and moved across the country for
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  Speaker 1: a job. The goodbye with Owen and Lily was harder
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  Speaker 1: than I expected. These kids had taught me things about
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  Speaker 1: resilience and courage that I'd carry forever. Natalie gave me
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  Speaker 1: a photo of the three of us at Lily's seventh
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  Speaker 1: birthday party, all of us smiling like we didn't have
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  Speaker 1: a care in the world.
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  Speaker 2: On the back, she'd written, Thank you for being our lighthouse.
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  Speaker 1: I cried on the plane ride across the country, not
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: because I was sad exactly, but because some experiences change
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: you permanently and you can't go back to who you
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: were before. I learned that normal looking people could be dangerous,
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: that love and fear could exist in the same relationship,
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: that sometimes protecting someone meant testifying against their family member
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: in court. Those weren't lessons I'd wanted to learn at 22,
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: but they'd made me stronger and more aware. This was
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: just one of many wild stories. Stick around by hitting
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