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MARRIED TO YOUR MOMMY - YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH, LITTLE BOY · CALL ME MISTRESS

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Hi, welcome to the latest episode Call Me Mistress.
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I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, and today to talk about a few
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different things. As always, I've gotten some
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great e-mail, great fan mail from just everyone all over the
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globe. And it's just it's honestly so
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sweet, so cool. But one specific someone, he had
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messaged me and he actually said that it was interesting how I
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was able to analyze someone based on their kinks and their
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life and he wanted to know why he had the kinks that he
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actually does now as an adult. So to give you some context,
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he's a 55 year old male. He lives in the States and he's
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been married and with his significant other for the last
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12-13 years now. He's super nice guy, very well
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spoken, very educated. And when he contacted me, I, I
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thought, you know, why not? I have no issue doing this
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because not everyone wants to know their reason behind the
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fetishes that they do have. Some people just go and just
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embrace them and leave it at that.
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But he said he kind of wanted to analyze everything so OK, let's
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do it anyway. I told him I didn't really want
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any back story on anything specific about his parents or
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his life, but he told me that his kinks were to potentially be
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a cuckold. He told me that he not
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desensification, but he was into humiliation, degradation.
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He obviously believes in. He believes in the concept of
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women being superior. He loves the idea of being a
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service sub, loves the idea of being submissive to a woman.
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He's gone to a few doms over the years and unfortunately he
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doesn't have any type of sexual dynamic or BDSM dynamic with his
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his partner. With his wife, he said it's very
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sporadic that they even have sex and he said it's been like that
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for years. And I found it really
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interesting because I've been with my husband too, same time,
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same time frame. We met back in 2012.
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And so here at this point, he told me that he's not even
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attracted to his wife any longer and he actually felt guilty
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about it. So with the fetishes that he
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has, I asked about the cock holding scenario, the cock
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holding the the concept as to would he like to see his wife
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have sex with other men. He didn't respond.
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He said, you know, he wanted to, he wanted her to be happy, he
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wanted her to be satisfied. But ultimately they hadn't
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branched into that. He said it was because they were
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afraid that it would interfere with their marriage or it
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wouldn't be very counterproductive.
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So nothing good would even come out of it.
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So I'm listening. I'm listening and the reason why
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I kind of roll my eyes to that is if he's not even attracted to
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his wife and he said he feels guilty about it, then why would
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he even want to be a cuck to her?
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That makes no sense because you really have to have that sexual
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connection to the woman you're with because if you don't,
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you're not going to want to be a cuck to her because you don't
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even find her attractive. It was very, very strange to me
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in that that sense all together. That was #1 red flag right
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there. The second one is he started
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telling me some faults and some scenarios in their relationship
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where they weren't compatible. I asked him.
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I said, well, do you find that maybe she's submissive?
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And he's like, to tell you the truth, I don't even know if she
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is or isn't. I'm like, you've been fucking
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since 2012 and it's now 2026 and you don't know if she's
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submissive or not. Yeah.
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So that tells me boring sex life, for one, completely
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vanilla two And three, they don't have a connection.
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They can't even talk about sex together.
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They can't even talk about what they want.
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How is that even a relationship? Yeah.
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So I listened some more. I listened to it again.
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And he told me that what he thought he had been married to
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before was more or less a nightmare.
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It was a terrible relationship, a terrible marriage.
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And he thought that when he met this woman, he said, you know,
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she was so, you know, compassionate and she was so
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nurturing and caring. And I was like, huh, second red
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flag. So then the other kinks he told
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me was that he loved bondage. He loved extreme bondage.
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He loved shiny things. He loves latex.
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He loves loves latex, loves it on a woman, loves high heels on
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a woman. And so none of these fetishes
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stuck out to me as strange because how many millions and
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thousands and hundreds of thousands of people you know
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have the same exact fetishes. My only issue is he really wants
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to know and when he starts to question everything is to why he
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likes them, quite truthfully, it tells me he's not happy.
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So I broke down a few other things with him, but ultimately
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he had said one thing which was his mother and father worked
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very hard throughout his childhood.
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And I said, OK, so you didn't get to see them very much, did
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you? You didn't get the love and
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acceptance and the nurturing part from your mother.
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So I hope you realize that with your wife, when you described
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your wife as nurturing and caring, you're describing a
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mother. So subconsciously you're
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thinking of her as a mother because you told me that you
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feel guilty that you're not attracted to her.
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Well, subconsciously you wouldn't be attracted to your
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mother either. So the question is, is your wife
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attractive and you just can't find her attractive, or was she
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really never that attractive and you just settled?
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Well, he admitted to me that he settled on some level.
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It was interesting because he never really wanted to give me a
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definitive in the conversation. He kept saying things like, oh,
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well, you know, that's a possibility.
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And yeah, you know, I mean, I over all the encompassment of
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the La, La, La, La, la denial. He told me that he'd been to
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three therapists, but he'd gone to several sessions over the
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last several years. And again, what does that scream
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unhappiness? I told him I said more than
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likely with you enjoying the latex fetish.
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And he specifically said shiny things.
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I said, did you grow up poor? And he's like, he didn't really
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want to give me a definitive, but he said he can remember
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coming home and the power being out and then not being able to
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afford the power bill. OK, you were poor.
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OK. And typically someone who likes
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shiny things and especially that that connection when light hits
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that latex and you see how shiny and pretty it is, it's not the
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fact that he said latex first, It's the fact that he said shiny
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things. And I was like, well, you're
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probably poor and you didn't have shiny things growing up and
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your mother didn't give you attention and you never got true
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acceptance from your mother and father because he likes the idea
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of guess what? Forced by, Well, why would
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someone want forced by? So here's the thing.
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You want to be forced because you don't want to feel guilty or
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think in your mind that you're gay or bisexual because it
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would, you know, diminish yourself esteem.
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Or you might think less of yourself, or you might be scared
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that someone else would think less of you, which is, you know,
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silly. But if you want to be by on any
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level in this situation, he wanted acceptance from his
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father. He wanted to get his approval.
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And you get approval by sucking a man's cock, by satisfying him.
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It's that subconscious feeling that you need that you want from
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your daddy. So a lot of women, it's the same
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concept. You want to suck that Dick
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because you know, you want to get that approval, you want to
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be filled. You want that that feeling of
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being able to satisfy that man daddy issue.
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All right, so you know, I can say all these things and you can
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be like, Mia, you're full of shit, I don't care.
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This is my opinion and that's just the way it is.
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He asked for my opinion, I gave him my opinion.
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Now overall the conversation went very well, but I told him
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that when you're in a relationship and you're with
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your significant other, this is always been my very clear advice
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on everything. I I told him I said I'm not
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going to throw punches. I'm not going to sugarcoat
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anything, but if you start saying flaws and faults in your
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partner, then you don't truly love them.
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You just don't. And the fact that he doesn't
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like the way she looks now, he said, you know, she was
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attractive, you know, 12 years ago.
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And they're both 5556. And it happens.
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You know, we all grow older. We don't look as good as we do
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in our 20s. It happens.
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Life happens. But if you truly love someone,
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you don't see those things as a flaw.
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You see those things as growing old together and being happy
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together. And then the fact that he
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couldn't talk to her about sex says and speaks volumes.
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Why wouldn't you want to talk to your partner about sex?
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Well, usually it's because you really have an issue with her
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potential disapproval. But they talked about
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cuckolding. They just didn't continue or
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even pursue it. And me it it's because he wasn't
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attracted to her. Now I told him I said I always
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believe, you know, there's there's people out there for
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people. You know, we we all match and
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not always do we find that person that meets all of our
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needs because I don't think any of us can really meet all of
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those perfect needs for a partner.
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But we get 90% of what we truly want in so many partners and who
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we choose to be with. You know, sometimes it's less
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than others. Liv always says it's
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interesting. She she told me because we've
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we've both been married and divorced and you know, with our
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first marriage, I couldn't give you a percentage on how shitty
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our relationship was. I was, I was done after the
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first two years, if that, probably the first year,
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honestly, I tolerated so much, but I was young and stupid.
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But Liv would always say, do you get the 8020?
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And I said, well, what's the 8020?
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And she says, 80% is what you truly need with everything. 20%
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is the things that you don't necessarily get but you want.
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So it's, you know, do you have the 80%?
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I like that. I like that comparison.
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I like that analogy. It's about what really makes you
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happy and the fact that this man is in his latter 50s.
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I said, you know, how much, how much more do you have in your
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life? 20, maybe 25 years, maybe 30 if
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you're lucky. I don't know the longevity in
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your family, you know, who is never able to make peace with
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his mother. So that continued in his toxic
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relationship that he has with his wife.
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And he was able to make peace with his father.
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So that was a plus. But you know, he still seeks for
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a woman's approval. And a lot of men do, you know,
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they're shit mothers. And that's why we have the kinks
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that we do. And there's no judgement.
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But once I talked to this gentleman for an hour and we
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discussed so many things and he really couldn't give me a
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definitive. It was because he was in denial.
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He wanted to lie to himself. And then once we once we ended
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the conversation, he pretty much had a fucking meltdown that
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night and he messaged me and he's like, I'm fucking losing
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it. I had to take a Xanax.
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I because I told him I said, why are you with her?
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Why continue to stay with someone you're not truly happy
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with? You know, you're seeking other
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women in the in the concept of seeing other doms.
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And I know people stay together because they're married, but
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they have no kids. And sometimes they stay together
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for the wrong reason for children, which it doesn't work,
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obviously. But it was funny when I
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mentioned the idea to him, just my opinion of how he
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subconsciously viewed her as his mother.
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He says, you know, it's funny you say that because there was a
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point when we had been together already, you know, at nine years
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and we were more or less going really good.
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You know, everything was great on a lot of levels.
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And then she wanted to get a dog.
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And when she got this dog, he's like, I don't know what it is.
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He's like, I love my dog. And you know, when I'm with this
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dog, with him, I love him and it's great.
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But she really needed that, that level of nurturing and caring
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for something else. And she got it with this dog.
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And, and I really didn't know how to handle that for a long
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time. And I said, think about it, your
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mommy's only little boy. And then she decided to get a
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baby, and mommy didn't give you enough attention then.
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So you weren't getting mommy's love and acceptance and
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approval. And he's like, boom, mic drop.
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He just didn't know what to say. And he also said that he's
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always going to need the love and acceptance and approval of a
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woman. And I said, well, yeah, yeah,
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you, you will, because Mommy fucked you up.
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And it is what it is. You know, you have to come to
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Jesus and come to that moment where you say, you know, I don't
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need a woman's approval. You know, maybe you want to live
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your life and say that you don't need it, and that's fine too.
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You just need to make your own conscious choice about what
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you're doing. And do you want to continue to
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be married to a woman you view as your mother?
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Do you want to have a sex sexless marriage?
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Do you want to have a loveless marriage?
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And he doesn't think it's loveless, but it is.
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And the interesting thing is she's never even told him what
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she wants sexually. So what does that really say?
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It says she doesn't want to open up to him either one, she
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doesn't want his opinion or or even desires his approval.
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Or maybe the fact because she's almost 60, she doesn't even have
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a sex drive. Maybe it's just kind of a moot
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point that she doesn't care and that's OK too.
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But again, you know, what do you truly want?
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I think it's, I think it's interesting because, you know,
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we do have married men that come to the dungeon.
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We do, but I always think, hey, you know, if I'm dressing this
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guy up as a Sissy, his wife doesn't want to see him as a
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Sissy. It's not her thing, you know, So
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I feel like I'm, I'm doing a service to her as well.
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And then we have men that, you know, what corporal punishment
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or they want, you know, extreme bondage or discipline.
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And and that's fine too because we like doing it.
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But you know, a lot of wives, they don't want to beat the shit
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out of their husbands. Now, I'm one of those people who
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do and I'm happy to beat the fuck out of any man who really
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wants it. But in this situation, it is
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what it is. But I always give the advice to
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people that ask me for it. If you want my advice and you
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want to know about your relationship or why you have the
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kinks you do, I'm happy to answer that.
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But to me, life is entirely too short to be unhappy, to be with
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someone you don't love, to be with someone you share no
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commonalities with, no no sex, no no fun, no nothing.
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You share a dog, you know, and you know, he just had that
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realization very quickly after we got off the phone and once he
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had a few moments to really think about it.
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Yeah, You know, I, he didn't want to hear it.
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But don't ask me if you don't want to hear it.
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There's that old saying and it's don't go and look for the devil
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because he might be staring at you in the face.
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Not that I'm the devil. However, the devil in this
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scenario is the truth. And if you didn't want to hear
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the truth and don't ask for it because life can throw
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curveballs a lot and it's not always easy.
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But you know, we're just one little person in one big world
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and things always have a way of working themselves out.
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So I've got a dog who wants to sit on my lap and I've got so
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much more to do. But I will say I had a fabulous
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session yesterday. I did a tickling session and it
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was a gentleman who is absolutely wonderful.
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He was so sweet and so kind and we had the absolute best time.
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I tied him down on the surgical table and he did not want it to
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end, but I ended it with nice sensual touches and nice soft
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tickling and it was a hit, really and truly.
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Anyway, I. I'll be adding more content to
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my YouTube page and you'll be hearing many more stories about
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sysification and bondage. And this past week has been
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absolutely crazy. Liv was coming in to do this
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smoking session with me a few days ago and as luck would have
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it, she was wearing 6 inch heels, was walking down the
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driveway and decided that she was going to fall.
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And it was bad. It was a bad situation.
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She fractured a few bones in her foot and Barbie came to the
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rescue with me. We did the session together and
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what was supposed to be 3 hours was 4 hours.
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It was a lot of fun. We, we did a couple little
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videos. We did a couple.
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Well, we did a lot of pictures, but I posted the pictures on,
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I'll be posting them on fat and I posted a cool video on fat and
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TikTok that you know, anyone can view.
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But but yeah, it was, it was interesting.
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But unfortunately for Liv, she is now wearing a sexy little
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rehabilitation boot. So it doesn't go very well with
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her heels. And yeah, she's wearing crutches
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or using crutches, using crutches.
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So it sucks, it really sucks. It's been a crazy fucking week.
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But aside from that, you know, I wish you all the best.
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And you know, you come to watch me and listen to me here on Call
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Me a Mistress, but go over and listen to my other podcast,
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Mistress Mia's Bedtime Stories. And yeah, tell me your thoughts.
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Tell me what you think. I I post some fictional stories
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and some true stories and it's a lot of fun.
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But until then, I'll see you soon, my darlings.
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Have a wonderful rest of your day.
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This has been the latest episode of Call Me Mistress.
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Music.