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- Kait Tregenza: Hello beautiful people and welcome back to another episode of Becoming Flame podcast. I am Kay Tregonser, I am the host and today we are talking about another juicy topic in the series of transforming the seven deadly sins into the seven embodied desires. Today is the topic of jealousy or envy. whatever wanna ⁓ it. Now I've been talking about jealousy as a superpower for so many years to ⁓ who would listen, which is part of the reason why I need a podcast because I need to stop lecturing people at bus stops and at ⁓ on these that I develop. theories around or hypotheses around. So you get to listen to it all today. This is a very practiced this is a very very practiced ⁓ of mine. It takes up an entire chapter in my book which is called The Desire Sh- the chapter is called The Desire Shift Overcoming Blocks to Instantaneous Creation and I want to sort of come at this at a number of different perspectives because we hear it all the time right? Oh don't let the green-eyed monster get a hold of you or you're just jealous of me. We hear this all the time and many eons ago when I was young and working ⁓ call it coaching the simplistic way of saying that. I had lot of people come to me who were really struggling with jealousy and jealousy can very many different forms right it can be comparison, comparisonitis I call it, jealousy, envy but what it does is it it gives you information you're able to see it like that. ⁓ so if I am jealous of a particular person I don't know who has a particular thing let's not even name it right now ⁓ like keeping the abstract. So I'm jealous of a particular person who has a particular thing that may come from insecurity you know it may come from a lower reaction it may just be about coveting something or desiring desiring something that other people have and about how it makes them look or how it makes them to be appearing and versus me but I really want to talk about jealousy from a very different perspective and I want to talk about it as it relates to creation and feminine embodiment. Okay, so I don't know if you've spoken about this from this perspective anymore as before but this is, this is so juicy and this is so so so so valuable. because despite the initial pain that might be aroused from envious feelings it's not entirely true. So you might believe that you are experiencing a low level emotion because of the indoctrination of jealousy has been told to you in various ⁓ different and societal concepts. ⁓ You what your mother said what other people say to you what everybody says on social media. So there's this ⁓ societal ⁓ of jealousy and so then you think about jealousy ⁓ bad thing that you shouldn't feel and that you shouldn't have and if been listening enough, if you've started connecting the dots anytime that you have an emotion or a bodily reaction and you name it as bad, you're gonna little bit of a difficulty in the body okay. So if we looked about jealousy as a wish list, a shopping list, a registry in the universal game of creation if you will? Because remember we are creators and like any artist, any creator, any designer, we pull inspiration from all around us. an artist paints a flower, they're not jealous of the flower, they're in appreciation of it. ⁓ not a requirement to paint from their imagination or create a new flower that doesn't exist just so they can paint one. It is completely acceptable to see a flower, cherish it, adore it, admire it and covet the flower. in such a way that you seek to replicate its beauty in your own creations, in your own art. Yet somehow we can all accept this example of a flower But if I say to you, my goodness, I love your husband. I want your husband. I want who he is, those aspects, but not those ones I want. I don't know. Seems to be popular. His height. whatever reason that is. ⁓ want his looks. I want his charisma. I want his charm. I want his romanticism. I want the way he looks at you. ⁓ want his fullness. I want his masculinity. I want this. I want that. want blah, blah, blah. ⁓ you've made this entire shopping list based on your friend's husband and you tell her in great detail just how much you want him. imagine yourself doing that. Does your friend offer you ⁓ husband as willing ⁓ willingly as she offers you the flower? I don't know, it's just a question. Whatever you feel about this is yours to feel. It's yours to know, it's yours to process, it's yours to understand. But I'm trying to make a point here that... For many of us, we don't even want her husband, right? We want aspects of him. Or we want an amalgamation of all of your friends' husbands or, ⁓ know, your... variety of different traits and aspects of people that aren't even gender-based. That might be this and that and you make this composite, francozoid sort of creation of someone in your life that you're yearning for and jealous of. And what I really want to move into into this topic of jealousy is that ⁓ as ⁓ ⁓ yourself ⁓ about designing the life that you want to be living. You are here to replicate pure love into form. So is perfectly acceptable to create a shopping list based on an amalgamation or a singular source of information from your external world in the exact way in which you know how to replicate love and create life that you wish for. And you can do it for anything, for everything. When you take stock of the times that you have been jealous, the times that you've coveted something, been envious of something, for it, longed for it, you know, whether it's somebody or something that exists ⁓ someone else but that you don't have, it can create a sense of jealousy or longing or desire within you. ⁓ all I need to you to do at this point in the podcast is accept this as information. take another abstract example because I really want to this in a that doesn't trigger and that steps you through this conceptualization. Let's talk about sunsets. A sunset can desire. can spike so much desire within you. Maybe your desire is to get out in the evening more, to take time to watch it descend, how you feel on holiday into your everyday life. Maybe you want to get out of your life and go travel ⁓ move to that tropical island, take that plunge with that special someone you stopped to the sunset with only last month. I don't care. Whatever it is, it is information for you to take note of. Being triggered by it or even being triggered by photos of somebody who watched the sunset or said the sunset last night was amazing. Can I be jealous of the sunset? Nobody owns the sunset. It happens every single day and there is zero barrier to accepting the sunset into your life. You literally just have to step outside, look up, see it, experience it, take a pause. So you have as much access to the sunset as anyone else on the planet. It's truly democratic. So any emotional arousal about the sunset is information about something else. Think about when you do have those moments where you stop and you look at that sunset and it's this moment of ⁓ of beauty, of truly a pleasurable moment into your life. There's as much to pleasure in your life in the small and in the big things as there is for you to access the sunset. The sunrise is a different conversation because people are like ⁓ but then I need to change my sleeping pattern. Okay fine. Most people are awake at Most people are awake at sunset. It's not a huge barrier to accessing that. And so if we were sitting and we were talking about you being jealous of the sunset and you were really triggered you had to overcome and push it down or you found embarrassing or it was undesirable to have jealousy. That's like saying it's embarrassing and undesirable to go grocery shopping with a list and you should simply just wing it every time. The ⁓ jealousy is simply a shopping list is really neutral way of approaching jealousy and when have around something then we can actually use the power of it. So let's first at least accept that jealousy can be neutral for you. Okay so Oftentimes the way in which jealousy first comes to us is experienced as a toddler when our mother or caretaker told us don't do that. No, you can't have that. Don't feel bad. Don't grab that other tie. have these big emotions about wanting what you want. And so we are trained to thwart, to ignore, to reduce, to ignore, ignore, ignore, ignore. And so the question right now is like ⁓ in your body were you told to ignore your jealous desires and where did those desires still exist, want to be fulfilled but thwarting them, you're not acknowledging them, you're not allowing them to be what you want and Do you therefore on top of that have shame for having had them? So I don't know, you want a toy? you're not allowed to have that toy, you're told no, you're told you're not allowed to like that, you're not allowed to want that, it's not good. And then you're denied and you learn over time to ignore your jealous desires or your desires in general and have shame for wanting, for desiring, for expressing desire. Okay, so... Just allow this conversation to bring up wherever that is listed in you, stored within you. And just keep breathing. And if you're yawning a lot, you're getting uncomfortable in your body, that's a really good sign that something might be to communicate with you or shifting out. So good parenting tips aside, not going to get into that conversation today, ⁓ what this does is it creates a sense of embarrassment and disconnection ⁓ our ⁓ desires, i.e. that which we want in the moment and the disconnect between having it, acquiring it, creating it. Okay, so it's that disconnect that was created between simply being in collaboration with that wanting feeling and another disconnect was created around receiving it. for some people they can't even feel the wanting let alone the receiving of it and for other people they deeply know the wanting but disconnected around the receiving. Okay so for many both wanting something ⁓ and receiving it has some kind distortion. So another way to view jealousy is As that multi-dimensional shopping list of the desire. Wow that piqued my interest that stirred my passion that's got me excited. Wow that's my sense of envy is my barometer for life. It's showing me where my joy could come from. My desires are what I want to start creating. This is the life I want to be living. This is what I want to bring in. You know snap you tell your friend this is like I really love your husband. I want this this this this and all of a sudden you're being received in a really weird way or you're being thwarted in that or you're thinking oh my god that's so weird to say to my to my friend I'm definitely not even going to to voice that but in non voicing your desire you also shut down the desire itself so you might be in all of them in some of them and you know your body feedback is going to tell you if it's a receiving problem if it's a desire problem if it's both it's a voice problem, a communication problem. So not quite the same ⁓ hedonism and it's not quite the same as lust but it has applications into both of those. two so-called sins as well that we will into in a separate moment, maybe in a separate episode. But what really talking about here is what we see in others, what we see the world around us through the lens as artists or creators or as designers ⁓ and recalibrating ⁓ or into this is the stimuli for our own creations. which means it can be nothing. can be free. It can be the sunset. It can be, you know, looking at flowers as you pass them by, changing your entire operating mechanics to live an extremely focused, present, pleasurable, accepting life where it doesn't cost anything more but your presence, but your focus, your attention. or it can be extravagant. You know, you can be like, want to be living a yacht life. I want to be having a G-Wagon and an Hermes bag and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Whatever it is for you, it doesn't matter. Every one of us wants different things for different reasons. For some of us, it's not about things at all. not about a material possession. It's about a feeling, a state, ⁓ coherence. It be ⁓ could just be a moment of peace. It could be simply enjoying a cup of tea ⁓ it's hot. I know it's been a few years for me since I've been able to drink a hot cup of coffee. so, you know, ⁓ just ⁓ simple act of I have uninterrupted coffee drinking time in the morning. heaven. Okay, so it's actually irrelevant what it is that you personally wish to create. What it matters about how you it ⁓ So it's relevant as to the amount of atoms that we put together. More atoms, bigger things doesn't create more work. That's a very old idea, very, you know, I have to hustle and grind idea that building a tall building is more difficult than building a small building, that you need more materials, you need more energy, that you need more. No. Where we're at is intention is what creates the desire is what creates. And the outcome of the creation is simply what is held within your identity, your choice, your frequency and the coherence that you can hold within your body. If your intention, that you're holding so dearly, so strongly is a small cottage in the middle of a forest hidden away from view from absolutely everyone. By the way, that's every way my dream. I want to be a recluse in the forest and never see anyone ever again. But you're being pushed into, know, ⁓ a grand... penthouse apartment in the middle of the city or or you know you've got a disconnect between what your body wants and what your ego says or what other people are saying from you ⁓ you're buying into that disconnect then you'll very naturally put you ⁓ of as shopping list into ⁓ comparison, and and back into that lower vibrational jealousy where it's not about serving creations and your desires and what you truly want but it's back into that you know green eye and jealous monster and so And so we'll just pause here and really re-label and reclassify this jealousy the marking of the page for later. It's a stepping off point for your own creations. ⁓ And it didn't need to come later for you to see something in the moment. that you would like to see for yourself and then claim it in that moment for yourself and be aware that without your specific understanding of your desired outcome, you may only get an approximation, right? So is really about ⁓ through a magazine, knowing you want to order, knowing what you want in your life. And sometimes you can't even see that until you consume the information and until you consume the video, the image or the of somebody else that is living what you want. Sometimes you don't even know that you want that until you see it. And then that's that opportunity of going, ⁓ that feels in my body like I really want that. And so the opportunity is in that moment that you go, I really want that. I really want what they have. The difference between knowing that it's a shopping list and knowing that it's jealousy and that you're like of somebody else is belief that you have in yourself to create anything that you desire. So It's not about being humble. It's not about shaming yourself or anguishing or being embarrassed or apologizing for that which we want in something else or even for wanting at all for unabashedly desiring whatever it is that we want. It is in that moment to say I recognize myself as a creator someone who can create anything that I truly want and My creations at the speed of choice. My creations happen at the speed of choice. Whatever I choose in this moment is what shall come. It might not appear and materialize before your very eyes, but if you keep making choices along that track to what you truly, truly want, there's way that it cannot come to you because you are choosing and choosing and choosing. And every of your life adding up to the choices that you are making. conscious about the choices that you're making then you're choosing unconsciously to live the life that you are. But no matter who you are your life happens at the speed of the choices that you're making. And if you keep choosing to believe that somebody else can have it and you can't then somebody else can have it and you can't. So it's not about complaining it's not about just taking what we get as good little slaves, going to work Monday to Friday, clocking in nine to five, taking our little tiny paycheck and trying to agonize how to spend it just to get through the month until you get another one. no humility in that. There's no goodness that. You don't get rewarded for that and those choices. It is just simply that you haven't broadened your choice set to choose differently, to choose better and to believe that you can choose to create at all. So think about something that you really, really want and then realize how much embarrassment or shame or discomfort that brings you to tell somebody else about it. Do you tell people about your dreams? Do you shout it from the rooftop? Or do you hide it? Do you keep it so close to your chest? ⁓ my gosh, I can't let anybody find out what I'm going to do. Because they'll... What? judge you, they'll hate you, they'll steal it, they'll... What is... What is ⁓ something for you? What is the fear that enshrouds... ⁓ wanting something, craving something, desiring something. And here's a really good question if nothing comes to mind. If you don't want for anything. you don't crave for anything. What are you using your oxygen, your time, your two arms, your two legs, your mind, your voice, your heart, your creator biotechnology to do, to be? What are you contributing? What are you ⁓ for? Because even if you don't have a job and you don't earn money, that's so irrelevant to what you spend your time and applying your frequency to. So for example, I took a number of years off doing anything else other than raising my little girl because I could not think of anything that was more important to do. I wanted to do that more than anything that I had ever wanted or desired in the world. I wanted that mummy time more than money, more than career, more than assets, anything. I did no emails, no phones, no nothing and it was bliss. I can tell you it's really really hard to come back and then go to work afterwards it's also really really hard to spend time constantly at the level of a child and you know giving to that. So I have both worlds and I have deep ⁓ admiration for who work and mother and women who don't work and mother because I've done both and both are damn hard. But it was my ⁓ and think that makes a huge difference when you are doing something that you choose, that you desire, that you want. So even if you are a stay-at-home mom or you're unemployed or whatever it is that... and even if you have a really big job, life not equate and does not begin and end with what you do for work, with how much money you get paid to do that thing. And the more that we can decouple our desires, from a direct productive output, the more we can play with what desire is, with how it feels in your life, with how it feels in your body, with what is asking you to explore, to develop, to get into, because creation is not linear. Creation does not happen in a corporate nine-to-five, does not happen in a quarterly fashion where everything only goes up. That is capitalist. That is patriarchal. That is not living. That is not feminine creation. That is not quantum. Right? Your life is truly about being in creation of everything you want to desire. It's not about living in the scarcity of barely meeting your needs, nor is it about accumulation just for accumulation's sake. And you can let go of all of these external thoughts ⁓ societal constructs, You can also release and purify the shame, the anguish, the discomfort, the wrongness in wanting or desiring, the jealousy for wanting something that somebody else is having or in acquiring anything that we desire. You can also purify the numbness around not even wanting at all and somehow thinking that's... valuable way of living. Well I'm so small and I take up so little space on this planet so I'm there for whatever you think that is. Because the name of the game and becoming flame is being so to yourself, so magnetic in who you are and the truth of you. that these human limits and the limits imposed on us by an alternative agenda or whatever you want to call outside forces that has nothing to do with you whatsoever and what you want and what you can create. that you can release it. Release from the fears of what other people think or will say. Release about having candid conversations of what we want or how we're going to get it. All of the anxiety around how can be just Because if you practice every day, desire, I desire to smell that flower. I desire to see that sunrise. I desire to kiss my baby. I desire to feel my own hands touch my own skin for a moment. I desire a hot cup of coffee in the morning. desire long sleep-ins and decadent mornings. desire feeling the earth on my feet. desire it is for you. If you can practice very easy daily activities of desiring something and fulfilling that desire releasing shame, angst, anxiety, discomfort, I don't know any other emotion that isn't coming to me so quickly at this moment and step into being the creator of your own desires, wants and needs ⁓ now knowing your life changes at the speed of choice. then you get to go to work and you get to practice and revel in this skill of creating the life that you desire. You will be so excited when you feel jealous about someone or something because you'll be really specific now. You'll be like, that specific thing that she had did said whatever, what I want. ⁓ That's what I need. That's what I'm ⁓ where it is for me. I'm feeling light there. I'm feeling excited there. And it doesn't matter if you want to seek radical or very demure things. Ask everything or ask for one specific thing. It does not matter. Because whatever it is that you wish to create now, understand that the jealousy that you have for others is there to tell you something that you too can create for yourself. You don't need to block it from yourself. You don't need to push it away, suggesting it's for others. You don't need to be humble about it. You don't need to reduce it by suggesting, I don't know, you need... your desires to be in a certain way or have a certain background or education or experience parental or familial structures around it. You don't need to say, well, I don't come from that town or from that country or have that circle of friends or that particular job background. Stop that's in your body, registering in your body, whether it's via jealousy or excitement ⁓ envy or something. You are a creator. Go wild. Take whatever it is that you want for yourself. So consider this deeply. could you create an entire new future if you are blocked creatively? ⁓ unless you start to actually see what other people have. Unless you start to use your eyes as if you were an artist, a creator, a painter, a sculptor, a designer. If you didn't know what you could create, how you could create something, wouldn't even ⁓ those lenses on, you wouldn't even make those connections. ⁓ Jealousy for some people is the avenue into understanding, possible. And jealousy can sometimes be the feedback loop ⁓ showing you ⁓ you don't believe you an unlimited infinite creator, which is why you get angry about it. angry and you're triggered at the fact that you think that person knows how to create and you don't. But the only reason you would be jealous or upset about that is because your body knows, yes I am. Yes. Yes I am. You're having these inspirational downloads into all that is available to you. You're opening your eyes, your ears, your senses, your mind, your dreaming, and you're opening your hands and your sensations to create, to walk in, to feel, and to live in this new paradigm of the freedom of the life you want to create. And so anywhere, where desires and creations are stopped, reduced or redirected. When you say, I don't need it, I'm fine. What else do people say? Like, ⁓ no, it's fine. I'm happy with what I've got. then they say things like, ⁓ but you know, money can't buy happiness. What ⁓ you talking about? Nobody's even talking about whether, ⁓ said that you had to give up your happiness. So commonly implanted thought form for an agenda of keeping yourself small, not having to risk anything, not having to step into a higher identity, removes the construct that art is only made to be bought or sold or is ego-based or is just about surviving. Life and life force is about beauty. It's about creating daily in your life. It's about creating beauty for the world. Your life could be seen as greatest art form that you've ever produced. As the greatest act of beauty. Imagine if everyone made their life beautiful. Imagine if everyone's goal in life, if you have to use that word, was about creating joy from artistry and from pleasure. Because at the deepest core of you, are begging to live a beautiful, big, pleasurable life. And if you could apply that ⁓ system... ⁓ a life and breathe life into it to exist in that way ⁓ an became your creation, your life force and your inherent need to replicate yourself, then you could only replicate yourself as love outside of you because you would start to see yourself and feel yourself and live yourself as loved by you, even if nobody else does it. But you know what happens ⁓ you unconditionally love yourself? You want to replicate that in ⁓ way outside of you, external to you. you and other people want to be in your orbit because it feels good to be around someone who loves themselves. Just think about that. You know your depresso friend that's always complaining, that's always, you know, and moaning and talking about the drama and the loopty loops that they're going in and you're just like, ⁓ my God, I'm so exhausted from being around you. Now think of another friend who's all about what they're doing in their or in their business or in their family and they're excited and they're so happy and they're happy because they're doing something they love. They're replicating the love that they have for themselves outside of themselves and that's the person you're jealous of right and it's not about what they do or what they have it's about that feeling state. have what she's having you know. So when ⁓ we orgasmic people. You can feel it. can feel it. Of course you can feel it. You know what the old adage they say that the woman who's going to attract all the other men or I don't remember the expression it's like that woman who can find the next boyfriend is the one who's already in love. People love ⁓ around people who are in love and you don't need a partner, you don't need a husband, you don't need a boyfriend, you don't need a girlfriend, you don't need a whatever them. You don't need anyone else to fall deeply and madly in love with yourself and express ⁓ as your creation. Express it. as your inherent need to replicate the love of you that you have for yourself outside of you. So wherever you were reducing the life force that you exist as to reduce your needs, to not take up more space, to turn off your voice, to sit on your hands, to eat crumbs instead of your creations of an amazing buffet. You aren't doing that from a place of humility or a place of... We've changed the word selfless to mean a good thing and the word selfish to mean a bad thing. But really think about the etymology of those words. To be without self somehow good. Do know why? Because you're Because if you don't have a sense of who you are, ⁓ If you don't know what you want, if you don't know who want to be, what you want to create, and if you don't believe in the power of your ⁓ capacity create your own life, from your own desires, from your own pleasure, from your own life force, ⁓ do know what you're gonna do? You're gonna other people's stuff. and you're going to fill your house with it. Are you going to eat more? Are you going to ⁓ of something else external because you're not full internally? Because be in your truth and to be in your life force of power and of love You don't need anything else. So any perception of difficulty the notion that you need to work hard to create something, you need to push yourself through a line that is not opening easily for you now, ⁓ that you need to hustle, grind, push boulders uphill, whatever you say or think you want is not what you actually want. Whatever it is that you're saying that you want is because of somebody else you're afraid to look at what you want. You're too afraid to accept that you have wants or you have needs or you have desires. Just let go. You have your head, your ideas, your creativity, your heart, your truest desires, your truest joys and your truest ambitions, all so you can work as one being in one singular direction to choose what want, what you what you desire. So any fractalization or fracturing your body system where you weren't allowed to feel what you want, where you weren't even allowed to feel what you craved and what you were lacking or missing. It's your body, your being, the completeness of you in your truth, in your full understanding that your physical apparatus, your body technology has this creation process and jealousy is an aspect of that that's giving you information, giving you an opportunity to understand your desire, your truth, what you physically require, what your... what your higher destiny is, what your higher image of life is. And as you regulate around jealousy and you optimize your nervous system and your adrenal system and your alignment through your spinal system and every other system in the body that would allow this to come through to you and to be held by you and to live this. you actually just step into the world where your desire already exists. Because in the quantum, possibilities are infinite and already existing. So sometimes it's not your responsibility to manifest or to create anything. It is your simply your to feel the full desire of what it that you're wanting ⁓ in your body. And then the recalibration of your body to that desire will shift you quantum, quantumly shift you into a physical location where you're able to meet it or where it's already at. And other times it's a requirement that you have to bring the codes into your vessel to incubate it within you before you're able to bring it into reality. way creating this desire that you have before you and each thing is different, right? Some things are really instant and some things take time, but listening to your body about what it for each creation and creating in unison with the fullness of your body, the fullness of your truth will guide you on these case by case requirements to whether it needs to be acting spontaneously in the correct moment sitting in stillness and allowing the silence to guide you into the next step. Your creativity system is so infinitely powerful. We understand almost ⁓ about how we create as humans yet. And yet we're finding a lot of the pieces of the puzzle coming from quantum mechanics and even in many ways still trying to understand how Einstein's special relativity and quantum mechanics even fit up. are so many years away from truly understanding in the mind how this works, ⁓ the body already knows you don't need language to create in this way. And you know that think about all of the things that have just come to you. or being created when you were in this state ease, of peace, of spontaneity. Because spontaneity collapses time. And as you outside of the construct of time and start to come into life as art, ⁓ life as life as pleasure, ⁓ these upgrades occur. And get to to act in alignment with your truest possible knowing, the truest possible frequency. the truest possible earth body that you can attain and it's so exciting it's so so so exciting. So there's a lot about jealousy you can not only neutralize but then start to transform into power, ⁓ this for creation, into an opportunity to say okay. wherever I'm feeling jealousy in my body, wherever I have in the past felt jealousy about the body, let's remove the charge around every single aspect of that. Let's remove the blocks that it created or the shame is you know piled on top of that. The temptation here is to say that no suffering is real or that you know all you have to do is choose to have or to not to have. But that's a very out of body experience. That's a very way approaching it. Really what you want to do is start to have these really strong conversations in silence with your body and simply say to it, buddy where is jealousy holding me back? Whether because I don't want to feel jealous or because jealous means something to me or Where am I holding shame because I had the jealousy? where have I not allowed myself to want, to need, to desire, create anymore because there's a belief within the system I'm holding, the calibration I'm holding to that says I can't create, whether or not. so what's internal ⁓ recalibration necessary to embrace instantaneous creation jealousy is let go of, these ⁓ are dissolved or neutralized. ⁓ so that the internal patterns and beliefs that we've been running on can be transcended ⁓ a spiritual mental level but because they're dislodged somatically from the body or they're transformed and alchemized with the body system so you have a greater coherence into allowing that which you do want to be known to you And then most importantly, being able to receive it. three Know what it is, ⁓ receive and keep it. Don't have that taken away from you because you couldn't hold your nervous system and your coherence weren't wired to that which you truly wanted. Because that's another aspect of this which we stop feeling jealous. people or we start feeling jealous of people because they can hold something that we can't Because they might have produced exactly what we produced, but they got to keep it and we didn't we lost it So that's my belief system around jealousy. I really hope that was useful and gave you information. if you start looking at everything that you're ⁓ up against in life as information, as data, it gives you a lot of freedom to determine what you're going to do with that information, with that data. Alright beautiful people, thank you so much and I will catch you very very shortly next week for the next episode of Becoming Flame.