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Love On The Spectrum - Good Or Harmful To You? · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  So is Netflix TV show Love on the Spectrum good or damaging to
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  the image of autistic individuals and personally to
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  those autistic individuals? I'm covering all that right now,
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  so don't go anywhere. Coming right up.
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  Hey guys, welcome back to the Aspy world.
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  My name is Dan. I'm for autism, ADHDOCD and
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  dyslexia, and I make weekly videos all about this stuff.
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  So if you're new around here and you'd like to learn more,
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  remember to hit that subscribe button by clicking the
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  notification bell down below. But I don't know my hair guys.
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  So there's been this cute controversy, right?
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  Mega controversy about love on the spectrum because of because
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  it's something I'm going to get into it right now.
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  But I want to talk about autism and reality TV because this is
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  really, really important. And and to go along with that
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  kind of like whole thing, you know, I'm going to share a
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  little story about my experience with reality TV as being a
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  popular social media influencer who has autism and representing
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  autism in the media. But before I do that, I just
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  want to say that I have a free Autism Life Act PDF book that
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  you can get right now for free from autismtips.net.
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  The link is in the description or in the link in my bio, or you
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  can just go to autismtips.net if you're listening to this video.
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  OK, so on with this love on the spectrum, right?
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  So it's an Australian TV show. If you've ever heard of it, it's
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  an Australian TV show funded by Netflix.
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  I don't know who created it. I think there's an Australian,
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  more of a, a local to Australia Network who created the actual
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  TV show. And basically it followed the
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  lives of some really interesting artistic characters, you know,
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  men and women on the spectrum in Australia.
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  Some of them watch my channel. So hey, shout out to you guys.
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  I know Chloe watches it. There's a bunch of people
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  watching it and you know, it was really interesting.
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  It was nice to see them on TV and it followed them around.
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  I mean, it was very wholesome because it got to show people
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  how, you know, vulnerable autistic individuals can be in
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  dating situations. It showed you how vulnerable
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  autistic individuals can be, you know, in any situation, but
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  going out their comfort zone and also how difficult dating on the
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  spectrum can be because one of the biggest issues was your your
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  face challenges as an autistic person.
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  Like everyone expects you to date and you want to date, you
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  know, you want to have a partner, you want to have
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  somebody who could be romantically involved with right
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  and do all those things that you know, people are going to love
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  do. And there should be no exception
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  to that. You know, autistic people should
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  be treated like anybody else in that way.
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  But when you're dating people who are non autistic and you're
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  autistic yourself, it can be quite, you know, clashes with
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  understanding your specific needs, understanding how you
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  should act in front of them in terms of relationship goals and
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  issues and stuff like that. So there are some challenges,
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  but one of the things I think is most beautiful is when 2
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  autistic individuals come together and they start dating,
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  I think because they can understand each other on a level
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  that is kind of far superior than everybody else.
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  You know, they connect on a level which is it's just
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  beautiful, right? So I understand the reason for
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  the show. And one of the interesting
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  things about the show is in the Australian version, which is the
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  first one that came out, I think a couple of years ago, two years
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  old, maybe 3 years old, maybe it was just after the pandemic,
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  right? And they had different like
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  people like therapists, They have like somebody who is like a
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  support worker for autistic individuals who'd come and
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  intervene and talk to the, the, the young adults who, who are
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  kind of, you know, on the show trying to find a partner, trying
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  to date. And then they'd also have a
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  relationship specialist in autism coming in to coach these
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  young people. Now, this was fascinating
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  because it showed it showed that you can have outside input from
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  professionals to really overcome certain challenges for autistic.
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  I learned so many things from it, right?
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  And I thought it was really good initially, right?
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  We're going to get to the juicy stuff in a minute.
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  As far as it goes, I was aware that this is reality TV show,
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  right? So Netflix doing a show where
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  they follow real life, real people around and they show
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  that, you know, vulnerable, you know, sometimes intimate sides.
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  And because of that, it's reality TV, right?
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  There's no longer the short of it.
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  It's reality and it's on television.
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  That's reality TV show like any other reality TV show.
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  Now, my experience with reality TVI was championing this show
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  because it was doing something with breaking the mold, right?
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  It was giving reality TV real autistic individuals so the
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  world could see how autistic individuals are and, and how
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  they're represented, how they're treated, how how different our
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  needs and conditions may vary. Right now, my experience of this
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  in the UK was I was asked to go on a show called The Circle
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  Right season 2. And if you haven't seen it, it's
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  on Netflix as well. And it was a big show over here
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  in the UK. And so I was asked to go on a
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  circle and I said, okay, what was interesting, I went through
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  all the all, everything else and we discussed all my specific
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  needs. And they found it really
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  interesting because I'd be a player, I'm autistic person.
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  And you know, showing autistic people on reality TV would have
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  been like a first. And so I was like, yeah, this is
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  2019, right? So I went through all the things
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  I did all the adverts that gave me a bunch of money to like do
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  this reality TV show. But right at the last hurdle I
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  was I was basically they did this thing called hiding, right?
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  So you go into hiding beforehand.
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  So they, they kind of put you away not to speak to the press
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  and you've got no access to your phone and stuff like that.
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  And then you go on the show, right?
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  So I was player number one on the Circle season 2 here in the
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  UK. Now, as I was about to go into
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  hiding, I get a call from my, the senior casting producer from
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  Warner Brothers, right? And she's like, hey, they've
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  decided to drop you from the show because they want to play
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  it safe, right? And I was like, what the heck
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  does that mean? And then I realised they were so
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  scared of having an autistic representation on television and
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  how they would have treated me. They didn't want the backlash of
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  potentially people saying, oh, this person, you know, I did a
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  whole video on it. So I'll try and link out the
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  video down below. So you can, you can watch that
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  video I did after the show and show some pictures of me by the
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  scenes and stuff like that. And it was really interesting
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  because it was one of those moments where I thought, wow,
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  you know, my disability has stopped me progressing in
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  something, not because of the disability, because of the
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  stigma attached to it, which really made me feel kind of a
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  certain weight, right? So staying with Love on the
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  Spectrum, right? We Fast forward to to now I know
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  how reality TV car works. So when I saw Love on the
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  Spectrum going live, I was like, yeah, this is so, so great
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  because of two things. It's showing autism
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  representation in the media professionally, but it's also
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  giving the the autistic people an opportunity it has to be on
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  television, which has mean paid for work and potential exposure
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  to work on other shows. I know Mike done a lot of things
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  absolute legend of a guy. I know Chloe and a bunch of
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  other girls have done a podcast and I think those two girls are
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  dating, which is really awesome. I love saying that and it just
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  it just made me feel like, oh, this is awesome.
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  However, I came across a video the other day of my friend Orion
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  Kelly, who is an autistic YouTube as well.
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  So Orion was doing a live stream and I came across his live
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  stream and he was talking about how annoyed he was that the the
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  cast from love on the spectrum didn't get paid to be on the
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  show because the TV show said it's not reality TV, it's the
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  documentary, which is garbage. It is reality TV.
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  It's it's a reality TV show sensationalized by Netflix.
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  This is reality TV. Every single person on that show
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  needs to be paid fairly. Now the biggest this is this
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  what annoys me. This show has just taken
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  advantage of autistic people. They've made entertainment out
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  of their vulnerabilities. Weaknesses are not paying them
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  fairly for contributing towards the shell, which is quite
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  sensational, right? I'm sure it's won awards and
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  everything and it's a global like everybody knows of all of
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  them on the spectrum. And it really is something that
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  is kind of to admire as in like it's showing people for who they
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  are, right? But they didn't pay them for it.
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  And this really bugs me because everybody who does anything will
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  be paid fairly, right? Apart from autistic individuals.
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  Why are we always getting the back end of everything don't get
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  paid for the reality TV won't put you on reality TV in a mix
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  with other people who are not autistic because they don't want
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  to get that backlash It's time for change it's time for change
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  time is now I'm sick of this I'm sick of being thrust aside I'm
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  sick of autistic individuals getting the back end slap it's
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  time to go big go global and change this right, so leave me a
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  comment. I want to talk to you guys about
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  this open this discussion right open to the floor.
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  What are we going to do about it?
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  I have some ideas. I want to collaborate with you
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  guys on it so I can make another video about it in the future,
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  but list your ideas down below in A and I will personally reply
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  to every single one that if you don't want to put a public
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  comment out, you can actually e-mail me the ASP
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  world@gmail.com and I'll get back to you personally, right?
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  And that is me answering emails. My team don't touch that e-mail,
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  so that is what I had to say on this now give it a thumbs up if
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