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8. Asteya: Living from Abundance, Not Lack · Lately with Lexi

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  SPEAKER_00: Hi friends, welcome back.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Through the Veil podcast where we explore the weekly theme.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm teaching students in my yoga classes and spiritual living workshops.
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  This week's theme is Ustea,
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  which is the third yama in Patanjali's yoga sutras.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are going to be exploring how cultivating non-stealing,
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  SPEAKER_00: not just with physical possessions,
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  SPEAKER_00: but of time,
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  SPEAKER_00: energy,
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  SPEAKER_00: attention,
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  credit and even from ourselves transforms our relationship with
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  abundance and
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  wholeness so buckle up this is a great topic i'm really excited
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  to share over the
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  past two weeks we have explored the first two yamas of the yoga
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  sutras so ahimsa
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  which is non-violence and satya truthfulness i will link those
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  episodes in the show
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  SPEAKER_00: notes in case you are catching up
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  And what's beautiful about the Yamas is how they all build upon
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  each other,
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  creating a foundation of integrity that ultimately helps to
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  support our entire
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  SPEAKER_00: spiritual practice,
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  SPEAKER_00: regardless of what yoga lineage you maybe practice or religion is.
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  it these practices can be applied to anybody and everyone and
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  they only help to
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  just improve your quality of life so as i mentioned this week
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  we're going to dive
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  into a stata and this word comes from sanskrit and just like
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  all the yamas do and
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  SPEAKER_00: it's around this idea of non-stealing so
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  SPEAKER_00: So you might be thinking, well, okay, I don't steal.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this one's easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we're going to take this so much deeper.
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  And this is where the yogic teachings gets really interesting
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  and also at times
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  SPEAKER_00: challenging and confronting.
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  Asteya isn't merely about not taking other people's physical
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  possessions.
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  SPEAKER_00: It extends to much subtler forms of taking,
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  SPEAKER_00: coveting,
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  SPEAKER_00: exploiting,
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  SPEAKER_00: and living from a mindset of lack or scarcity.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in the Yoga Sutras,
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  SPEAKER_00: Patanjali,
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  SPEAKER_00: he states essentially that when non-stealing is firmly established,
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  SPEAKER_00: all jewels approach and all treasures manifest.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you live with this level of integrity,
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  SPEAKER_00: when you stop taking what isn't freely given,
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  SPEAKER_00: abundance will flow naturally towards you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's what I've discovered in my own personal practice.
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  So most of us are,
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  you know,
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  we're stealing in ways that we don't even recognize.
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  SPEAKER_00: We maybe take credit for somebody else's idea and
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  SPEAKER_00: I see this a lot on social media and also in the coaching industry,
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  SPEAKER_00: like,
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  SPEAKER_00: oh my goodness,
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  why doesn't anybody talk about their teachers or where they're
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  learning and
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  SPEAKER_00: studying from?
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  SPEAKER_00: We steal time by showing up late or canceling at the last minute.
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  SPEAKER_00: We steal attention by constantly scrolling through our phones.
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  SPEAKER_00: And gosh, especially like when...
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe someone's trying to have a conversation with you,
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  SPEAKER_00: like those moments and we're just,
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  SPEAKER_00: we're stealing attention.
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  We also steal energy from others by maybe taking up more of
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  their time and energy
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  SPEAKER_00: than we give to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we want to just become more aware of this idea of stealing,
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  SPEAKER_00: not just with possessions,
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  SPEAKER_00: but in forms of these other types of currency,
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  SPEAKER_00: time,
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  SPEAKER_00: energy,
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  SPEAKER_00: attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: And perhaps we're stealing more from ourselves than anybody else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, how do we steal from ourselves?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well,
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  SPEAKER_00: Well,
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  SPEAKER_00: by neglecting self-care,
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  SPEAKER_00: by losing our boundaries,
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  SPEAKER_00: or over committing,
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  SPEAKER_00: pushing ourselves beyond our limits because,
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  SPEAKER_00: well,
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe we think that we're just not enough as we are.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's really the root of all of this, isn't it?
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  SPEAKER_00: The feeling of not enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not enough time, not enough money, not enough success, not enough love.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we operate from that scarcity mindset, we are constantly grasping.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're constantly grasping.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're constantly taking.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're trying to fill a void that can never be filled from the outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: I see this a lot having worked for over a decade now with entrepreneurs.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is so common.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we want to be mindful of this.
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  And here's the beautiful shift that this concept,
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  this third yama in the yoga sutras invites.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that when we root ourselves in this practice of non-stealing,
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  ultimately having greater amounts of self-worth and trust that
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  the universe always
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  SPEAKER_00: provides and we're exactly where we're meant to be,
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  SPEAKER_00: we'll start to begin realizing that we have enough because we are enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we don't need to take more from others or more from life.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's plenty.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this completely transforms our orientation to the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it is something that I want everybody to experience,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially if you are someone who is striving,
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  SPEAKER_00: striving for more,
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  SPEAKER_00: more recognition,
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  SPEAKER_00: more acolytes in your career,
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  SPEAKER_00: more revenue growth for your business,
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  SPEAKER_00: like whatever that is,
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  SPEAKER_00: whatever ambition that is.
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  I want you to start to think about where is this striving maybe
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  preventing you from
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  SPEAKER_00: being more present?
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  really enjoying all of the abundance that's right here in your
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  life right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So instead of constantly looking at like what it is you lack,
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  SPEAKER_00: you will start to see what you already have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of comparing yourself to others,
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  SPEAKER_00: feeling deprived,
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  SPEAKER_00: you will honor your own unique path and timeline and
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  And that is so freeing when you can throw out the rule book and
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  just trust that life is good.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are where you are and that's perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: And instead of maybe coveting what someone else has, you celebrate it.
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  You celebrate it because you trust that there's enough for
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  everybody,
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  including you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is what Patanjali means when he says all jewels approach.
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  when you live from abundance rather than lack you stop grasping
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  and you start
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  receiving life meets you differently opportunities appear
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  generosity flows
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  naturally and just like we discussed last week like this isn't
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  something we do once
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  and like we're good this is a lifelong practice this concept of
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  non-stealing and a
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  SPEAKER_00: stay is something we want to come back to time and time again
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  So trust will deepen in our relationships because people feel
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  that we're not trying
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  SPEAKER_00: to take from them.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're simply sharing space together.
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  SPEAKER_00: And on the yoga mat...
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  A stata might not mean trying to like steal somebody else's
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  yoga practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like that doesn't exactly make sense, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But okay,
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  you know that moment when you're in class and maybe you glance
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  over to the person
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  next to you who's in like a beautiful advanced pose and then
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  suddenly your own
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  SPEAKER_00: practice feels inadequate or you're at the gym and you're seeing someone
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  you know I don't know why I keep saying bench press because
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  like I'm not really
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  bench pressing at the gym but like maybe squats you're seeing
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  someone do squats
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  you're like dang they're lifting a lot of weight or their form
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  is superb whatever
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  SPEAKER_00: that is when we are judging our own practice and
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  SPEAKER_00: That is a subtle form of stealing,
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  SPEAKER_00: stealing from our own piece,
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  SPEAKER_00: our own process,
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  SPEAKER_00: our own unique timeline.
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  And so off our yoga mat outside of the gym,
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  this can show up so many ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you borrowing ideas without acknowledgement?
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  Are you taking more of someone's time or energy than you're
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  giving back to them?
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  Are you constantly wanting what somebody else has rather than
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  tending to what's
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  SPEAKER_00: already growing in your own garden?
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  SPEAKER_00: That one I see a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I see that a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this week,
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  I want to invite you to sit with these reflections and some of
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  these prompts and
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  SPEAKER_00: just ask yourself,
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  where in your life are you maybe silently stealing from
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  yourself or from another?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: What would it feel like to rest in enoughness,
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  knowing that where you are right now is enough instead of
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  constantly reaching and
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  SPEAKER_00: striving for more?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not to say don't be ambitious.
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  SPEAKER_00: God knows I'm very ambitious and
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  we want to check that and where is that stemming from and can
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  we be content while
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  creating something new and how does maybe scarcity mindset show
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  up in your life and
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  what would need to shift if you truly believed you already had
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  exactly what you
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  SPEAKER_00: needed because i promise you you do
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  SPEAKER_00: Life just always seems to work out, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So take some time, journal on these prompts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just notice throughout the week.
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  Notice anytime you sense this feeling of not enough or judging
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  somebody else for
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  SPEAKER_00: their accomplishments or wanting what they have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just bringing awareness to it.
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  It's always the first step in any of these yamas that we're
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  practicing and we're uncovering.
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  so usteda like all of the amas is a practice it's not about
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  perfection our
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  awareness will help guide realignment so there's a couple
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  practical ways we can
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  integrate this so number one is pausing before we act before
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  you know we take
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  SPEAKER_00: something whether it's we're taking somebody's time attention ideas
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  SPEAKER_00: Space, resources, pause and ask yourself, is this freely given?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I honoring what I'm receiving?
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  SPEAKER_00: This simple practice of pausing,
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  it'll help to create a moment of consciousness between impulse
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  and action.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what that does is it helps to...
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, it really helps us to choose integrity over just habit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Especially I would say like personally when I think about relationships,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially like my closest girlfriend lives in California.
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  We're literally on opposite sides of the country and we don't
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  talk nearly as much
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  SPEAKER_00: as when we lived in the same city.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when we do talk, like I –
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  try to be mindful of how much am I like giving and pouring into
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  her versus like how
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  much I'm maybe taking or asking or getting advice from her it's
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  this dance and it's
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  this balance and so that's the opportunity to pause and listen
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  like life happens
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  there's certainly been times where like I'm gonna need more
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  time with something I
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  have going on and vice versa but it's just something to be
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  mindful of especially in
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  SPEAKER_00: all of our relationships and
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  SPEAKER_00: I think with mothers too, like with your mom.
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  Like are you taking more of her time and energy than you're
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  giving or you're pouring into her?
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  SPEAKER_00: I think especially as we get older, like we want to check that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm speaking for myself for sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the next is cultivating gratitude and contentment.
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  So this is,
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  of course,
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  one of the most powerful antidotes to scarcity mindset.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you think about gratitude, think about –
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  like your own personal accomplishments things that you're proud
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  of you know i think
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  that that's something my dad had me from a very young age uh
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  keep a brag book all
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  of my accomplishments and he he you know has a sales background
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  he was like you
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  always need to have a brag book so that when you're having a
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  down day or you know
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  you get told off by a customer like you can remind yourself of
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  who you really are
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  SPEAKER_00: and all of the wins in your life and you can
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  SPEAKER_00: you know, get back up and you can build that resiliency.
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  So if you get knocked down,
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  you're not going to stay down for,
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  you know,
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  indefinitely.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can get right back up.
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  SPEAKER_00: So work on cultivating gratitude,
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  not in like a spiritually bypassing way that ignores real
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  challenges because
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  SPEAKER_00: certainly like
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  SPEAKER_00: When real life happens,
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  but in a genuine recognition of the abundance that is already
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  in your life,
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  you can take an abundance walk where you're just like looking
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  at the abundance all
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  SPEAKER_00: around you,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially as the season is turning.
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  we can just acknowledge that and find so much gratitude and
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  appreciation for the
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  abundance out in nature so this helps to really start to shift
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  maybe even our
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  language around like I don't have enough I'm not where I want
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  to be to I am enough
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  I have more than enough I have everything I need God always
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  provides for me
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  right and then third lastly honor your commitments and others
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  time so time is a
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  precious resource and when we're late when we cancel at the
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  last minute like we're
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  not honoring our own commitments we're stealing from others as
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  well so this week
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  you know pay attention to how you treat other people's time are
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  you showing up on a
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  SPEAKER_00: zoom call four minutes late
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  Are you present when you are with someone or are you stealing
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  that moment by being
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  SPEAKER_00: distracted,
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  SPEAKER_00: by being on your phone or mentally somewhere else?
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  SPEAKER_00: And just notice too,
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  SPEAKER_00: are you stealing from yourself by over committing,
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  SPEAKER_00: by not building in time to rest or time for self-care?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're saying yes when your body's asking you to say no.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, when non-stealing is deeply established,
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  SPEAKER_00: generosity and sharing comes naturally.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll find yourself wanting to give rather than take.
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  You'll find yourself collaborating more so than competing and
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  you will celebrate so
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  SPEAKER_00: much more than
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  maybe you have in the past because you know in your bones that
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  there is enough for
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  everyone and if you've ever been in a really hard spot where
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  you're like I don't
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  know how this is going to work out and it has just like remind
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  yourself of that
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  moment I have been there so many times in my life like I feel
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  like I'm a cat and
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  SPEAKER_00: I've had how many lives we get nine yes I keep thinking like I'm I'm
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  I've gone through all my lives and all the changes in my career
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  and my living
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  SPEAKER_00: circumstances and like in my health.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then things just work out, right?
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  So continue to develop that trust muscle and look back and see
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  when were those
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  SPEAKER_00: moments when you thought like,
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  SPEAKER_00: oh my gosh,
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  SPEAKER_00: there's no way out of this because I guarantee there was,
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  SPEAKER_00: there always will be.
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  So those are just some closing reflections I wanted to touch on
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  because when we can
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  SPEAKER_00: release that grasping,
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  SPEAKER_00: that coveting,
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  SPEAKER_00: the constant sense that we need more,
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  SPEAKER_00: we will create space for what is already flowing,
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  SPEAKER_00: what's already abundant.
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  So notice those moments of where can you practice Usteta in
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  your life this week?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where can you practice non-stealing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's acknowledging someone's contribution.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's putting our phone away when someone is speaking to you or,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: planning time for self-care.
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  SPEAKER_00: And,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: remember Patanjali's promise that when you establish yourself firmly and
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  SPEAKER_00: non-sealing,
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  SPEAKER_00: all jewels manifest,
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  SPEAKER_00: all jewels manifest,
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  SPEAKER_00: not because you're taking them,
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  SPEAKER_00: but because you finally created the space to receive them.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is all I have for you this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening to Through the Veil.
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  SPEAKER_00: about my next workshop,
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  SPEAKER_00: which I'm gonna share with you right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So mark your calendars,
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  SPEAKER_00: winter solstice,
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  SPEAKER_00: December 21st,
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  SPEAKER_00: one of the most auspicious times of the year.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will be leading an in-person workshop in Southwest Florida.
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  SPEAKER_00: We did a similar workshop this past Friday
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  fall for the equinox and I would love to have you so if you're
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  in Florida if you
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  want the details please reach out to me all the links to work
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  with me to book a
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  SPEAKER_00: session will be linked below as well
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  And as soon as I have a link for the workshop,
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  I will share that as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also email me if you want to get on the wait list.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's nothing official, but it's going to be great.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love getting together in person.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is my absolute favorite thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So hopefully I'll have a retreat to announce soon as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: But for now, mark your calendar for December 25th.
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  SPEAKER_00: first.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I hope you have a beautiful week living from this state,
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  SPEAKER_00: your innate state of abundance and enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a beautiful week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Om Shanti.
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  SPEAKER_00: Namaste.