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I Found Out My Wife Was Getting Married On Social Media — Roby Ekpo Reveals · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to NBC about it Lorencia, how are you
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  all doing if you're doing great For today's episode, I want to
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  talk about the drama between Muyo and her ex-husband Ruby.
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  Now we're just in our mind, in our business, we saw videos and
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  photos of Muyo are getting married now, according to
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  everybody because I I didn't know both of them before now.
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  Muyo and Ruby met in 2015 and according to Muyo are according
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  to Ruby, MUI was lead into his DM and you know, told him sweet
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  things that he's handsome, she likes him and all that.
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  And then they started dating. Five months later they were
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  married. Fast forward 11 years later,
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  according to Ruby, he said just the way everybody saw her
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  wedding videos and photos online was how he learned that his
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  ex-wife was or his wife before now he didn't know he was he was
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  the ex was getting married. So he congratulated them at that
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  point saying that, oh, you know, congratulations.
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  So people were thinking who you are.
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  Ruby, were you aware that your wife is dating or your ex-wife?
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  Were you divorced before she got married?
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  What happened? Tell us the story now.
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  Trust the Hornets bunch podcast. They got MUI immediately and MUI
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  spilling the sea. Now let me just play the video
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  from the Honest Bones podcast before we proceed.
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  After 11 years in a long distance marriage, our guest
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  woke up to videos and pictures of his wife on Instagram getting
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  married to another man. Up until now that I'm speaking
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  to you, she doesn't know that I saw this message.
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  I don't even care if he loves me or or not 'cause waiting love do
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  for me besides stress me. He isn't taking care of me as a
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  man should, he isn't satisfying me sexually, he isn't helping my
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  spiritual life, he isn't spoiling me, he isn't energetic
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  enough towards any goal, he isn't anything good.
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  Rubbish. Meanwhile, sorry I yelled again,
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  I'm just trying. I'm just very irritated by him
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  and really he's really bad that if he tries to touch me I can
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  scream out of irritation. Dealing with this and then I
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  have to deal with bad news. Now who I've been coping with
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  on. I've been coping with
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  unsatisfying sex for almost three years.
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  Stupid idiot. He's your friend.
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  Better tell him he shouldn't dare to try to be egoistic with
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  me. It will be the last mistake he
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  makes. God forbid I let another man use
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  me, whether deliberately or not. I'm 48 years old, I don't have a
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  kid. I started I started going for I
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  started going for spent. It's OK.
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  I was going for spend tests. I was going for spend tests.
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  I see I become Obama. No, do you understand?
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  I'm not hearing that that she was taking contraceptives and
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  I'm how did you hear what my wife travelled to Miami, go to
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  BBL and she told me that she went to do surgery for something
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  that would make her be able to conceive.
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  If I send my wife DM on Instagram, if you post something
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  on Instagram on her story, she'll tell me to why you start?
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  Why you sending me message here? Why you sending message here?
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  Send it on WhatsApp. And yeah, that they check.
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  They check. You know why did they
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  immigration? I don't know whether they check.
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  Now this is Ruby, you know he went on the Honest Bunch podcast
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  to tell his own side of the story.
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  This episode will be dropping I think 6:00 PM today so we all
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  will be glued to watch the full episode.
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  Now according to Ruby everything was OK.
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  They were living fine until Moiwa travelled.
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  I think he said 2019. And According to him since then
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  he had been sending money to Moiwa.
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  If he makes 500,000, he sends 200,000 to Moiwa.
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  He's been trying to, you know, live up to expectation, he says,
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  since 2020. Muyo has not been to Nigeria
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  until last year when he sent her tickets to come back to Nigeria.
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  And he was also complaining that since they got married that she
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  has not, you know, taken him. And he later learns that she was
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  using contraceptive while telling him that she had issues
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  with conceiving. So she will.
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  According to According to Ruby, he said Muya went to was he
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  Canada or where to say she wants to get her to to do an operation
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  to get to be able to conceive. Maybe he told her he had she had
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  fibroids and she needed to get it done only for him to realise
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  that Muya actually did BBL. We as a jagged a woman on social
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  media shaking. What's her Mama gave her what
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  her doctor gave her. Now this is not funny.
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  This is a very actually very emotional episode because, you
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  know, sometimes we see that men don't talk.
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  We say that it's not about because a lot of people are
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  saying, oh, what's about what's women or what's men are doing to
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  women. I think if we could focus on one
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  particular story at a time, that would help us to not generalise
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  everything or not to personalised things based on
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  experiences or based on what we've heard.
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  Now this is a man who is coming out to say that a woman slid
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  into his DM proposed to him, they got married, they were
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  happy. And according to what he read
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  from the text that we were sent to somebody, not even him that
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  we were was has never been satisfied with his sexual his
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  sexual prowess. So he was not doing his he was
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  not doing a good job in the other room.
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  Now, listen, I don't want to even laugh about this because
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  they're very serious matter. But the truth is sexual
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  satisfaction is one of the the reasons why people cheat in
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  relationship or in marriages, be it a man, be it a woman, OK.
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  It's just that men in, in the cases of men, it is very much
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  allowed to, you know, for people to cheat.
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  Now she said three years, they were married in 2015, sixteen,
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  1718. So three years before she
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  travelled. I think she was already cheating
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  on him maybe which was why she travelled in the 1st place,
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  because she knew that the relationship or the marriage was
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  not going anywhere. She decided to travel.
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  But I think that the problem here is she should have broken
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  it off with him, but she was getting money from him, so she
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  was happy to to string him along.
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  Whether man or woman, that is not a good thing to do.
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  So if we could address things one at a time, one individual at
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  a time, it would help remove all the noise.
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  Muyiwa is Ruby is hot. And there was a video where they
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  shared where they were interviewed and they talked
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  about how they met or he talked about how they met and we always
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  there and you could see that the chemistry was off.
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  You know something. Listen, let me just play that
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  video. By the way, how long ago did you
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  meet? 2015.
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  OK. And you've been married for how
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  long? Since 2015.
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  You met on the same day at. Marion, you married five months
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  after you gone. Oh.
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  My. Goodness.
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  But so you know how people always say like you have to give
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  time, plenty time. How were you not scared to marry
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  five months in? Well, did I always say that
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  once? Once you see what you want, once
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  you, I mean you go for it. Are you trying to be sweet but
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  like you're trying to also be a bad guy?
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  No, I think no, I you know what you want when you see what you
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  want. I mean, she's slid into my DM so
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  yeah. Was that what happened?
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  Look, I'm a confident woman, OK? So it was.
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  What happened? And they answer.
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  The question. And when confident women want
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  something. They just.
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  Go yes or no, you just like you did Okay, so you did and what
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  were your words? Because for people who are
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  watching at home and they're like, I need this kind of
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  confidence that my has, I want to be able to slide into my
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  crushes. DM, like my Co host, I really
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  care. There's one guy she been
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  crushing on, but she can't slide into DM.
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  She's like, we don't do that. But you did that.
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  And I mean, it's worked out. It's almost four years.
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  So yeah, give some advice on what to say.
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  You come in like, oh, and I I misplaced my number.
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  Help me find it by giving me yours.
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  Like how does it work? I don't think I'm the right
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  person to answer that question. Let him tell you what I said,
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  because coming from me. Number.
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  That's all. I I said uncle, send us.
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  Uncle send us. It was funny.
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  It sounded funny, you know. I'm not surprised though.
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  You don't send me uncle, send us your number.
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  And I was like. How many of us I just I sent
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  everything I swagged in. Yes Sir.
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  And did you like check pictures about the number?
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  Well, The thing is, I had liked a couple of her pictures, plenty
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  of her pictures. So you see, I didn't exactly
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  like him. He was.
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  He was setting the pace, you see, I just took the step.
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  So I like plenty of her pictures.
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  And then she reciprocated. And then I reciprocated again.
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  Wow, picture like you OK guys. I think the chemistry was off.
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  You could tell that Miwa was a bit, you know, this was four
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  years after they got married. So and I think that was sometime
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  immediately after then that she travelled.
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  So there's only this conversation about women
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  approaching men. There's a reason why that man,
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  he might be liking your pictures.
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  He might be sliding into, he might be, you know, liking all
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  your pictures, hurting all your pictures.
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  If he doesn't communicate with you.
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  There's a there's a reason. There's a reason maybe along the
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  line he liked her, but maybe not the way he would.
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  I don't know. But there's just something off
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  about that interview. And today Muiwa is married.
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  She has remarried without his consent or without divorcing
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  him. I don't know.
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  Maybe they did traditional marriage.
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  So obviously in court that does not count.
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  I don't know, but jackpa and jackpa marriages, I tell people
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  if you want to travel and you're married, make sure you go with
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  your partner. Look for a way to go with your
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  partner, sit down, plan it properly.
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  If it's going to take you 3-4 years to make sure you to you
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  align everything. Travel with your partner.
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  If you're in a relationship and you want to be with that person,
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  make sure you travel with that person or make sure you your
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  jackpot dreams aligned with that person.
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  Because the the reality of things is one person is going to
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  get the short end of the stick. If the man is travelling without
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  the woman, there's every possibility that that man can
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  stay 4-5 years, even 10 years without coming back to see the
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  woman. And trust me, within those years
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  that they are abroad, they are going to be sleeping with
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  people. They may fall in love with
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  somebody else. They may even just mistakenly
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  have a child with somebody else. Maybe it wasn't planned but she
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  got pregnant and now they have to have a child or so.
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  There are different challenges to travelling abroad, especially
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  if you're married or if you're in a relationship that you want
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  that person to be part of you. I know a lot of people who maybe
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  the man or the woman travelled and after some years the the
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  partner living in Nigeria will be like, OK, come back.
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  I can't join you abroad. And if you want this marriage or
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  relationship to work, you have to come back to Nigeria.
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  And sometimes it's either they move back to continue the
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  marriage which they later regret or they will remain back where
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  they are. And then that marriage breaks
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  up, which also one of them is going to regret because they've
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  spent all this time building with this person thinking this
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  is the person, this is my person, this is the person I
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  would do life with. He is accusing Muya of cheating,
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  saying that she moved into an apartment and she got a roommate
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  who is a man and the man she, he later found out that man, that
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  the man was servicing Muya and the man is not the man that Muya
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  married. She married a different person.
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  BBL. There's there's something with
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  BBL, According to him, we are muy waggon BBL and her, her
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  value increased and she's been, you know, sleeping and dating
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  everybody. But let's learn from this whole
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  thing because he was crying bitterly.
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  He said, you know, he's 48 years old.
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  He doesn't have a child of his own because it's been a long
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  distance marriage. Don't do long distance
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  marriages. If you're going to marry person
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  anybody's child, anybody's son, anybody's daughter, make sure
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  that you have a plan on how you're going to settle down with
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  that person. Marriage is just a one day
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  activity. Marriage is just a gathering of
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  family members to to welcome you into a family.
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  But the the ahead of that, after that marriage, you have to do
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  life with that person. How do you plan on doing that?
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  Life with that person is left for you to then decide or the
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  both of you to sit down and have an agreement on how you're
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  going. If you don't align, don't do it.
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  Yes, change is the only constant thing in nature.
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  Maybe he was hoping that once we were settled down in Canada or
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  in America, she's going to send for him, which was why he said
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  he was sending money to her. He never had a car.
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  All the money he was working, he was sending to Muiwa.
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  We've not heard anything from Muiwa's side because from the
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  text messages, messages that she she sent, all she was
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  complaining about was him not being man enough, him not being
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  a provider. If you marry somebody that is
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  struggling, don't complain that that person is not a provider.
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  If you marry somebody that doesn't have money, don't then
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  start putting the person down based on their financial
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  capabilities. You knew before you got married
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  to that person. You knew before you said yes to
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  that person. That was all be kind.
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  That was all be kind. Yes, we've relationship right
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  now it's it's crazy. Everybody's moving mad.
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  Everybody's both male and female, everybody's moving mad,
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  but a little kindness will go a long way.
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  If you meet somebody that you don't want to be with and maybe
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  that person is giving you some level of satisfaction, don't
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  just waste their time. Tell them.
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  Break it to them, regardless of how difficult.
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  I think the reason why he's crying this bitterly is because
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  she did not tell him. Or maybe she did.
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  Maybe she she was just giving attitude.
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  Because most times people just give attitude.
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  Give attitude. They will not really come out
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  and tell you. Or maybe they told him and he
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  was not just willing to move on from her.
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  Anyway, let me know what you think.
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  Do you think that Muya did the right thing by moving on to a
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  better and richer husband or more financially stable person
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  and leaving her ex-husband hanging after 11 years?
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  Or do you think that the ex-husband, Ruby should have,
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  you know, upgraded himself? If he had upgraded, if he had
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  been successful, if he had chased money instead of sending
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  Muya money, if he had used all those monies to to invest in
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  himself and build something, Muya could have easily come back
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  to Nigeria to be with him. Do you think regardless of
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  whether you're a man or a woman, investing in yourself is the is
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  the greatest gift you can give to yourself?
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  Or do you think that building together as a couple, as a
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  married, you know, couple is the best thing to do?
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  Regardless of how things is going to come out, whether
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  you're going to get short end of the stick or whether you know
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  you're going to be happy. Let me know what you think.
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