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Jordan Peterson_ Get Your Life Together · Motivation study

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  Speaker 1: I don't know what the hell you should do with
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  Speaker 1: your life. I can help you figure it out, maybe.
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  Speaker 1: We can talk about it. But you are the person
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  Speaker 1: who has to decide if the things that you're aiming for,
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  Speaker 1: you know, get you out of bed in the morning.
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  Speaker 2: Then you've got to.
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  Speaker 1: Specify the transformation processes and start practicing them. And you
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  Speaker 1: have to understand that you're going to be bad at it,
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  Speaker 1: but it doesn't matter. Because bad's fine. Persistent is what
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  Speaker 1: you need to be. If you persist, with tiny improvements,
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  Speaker 1: if you persist, you win. It's direction that produces primary
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  Speaker 1: positive emotion. And so, if you need positive emotion to
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  Speaker 1: move through life, which you do, because you can't even
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  Speaker 1: move without positive emotion, and also positive emotion is a
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  Speaker 1: good bulwark against terror and pain. If you need those things,
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  Speaker 1: then you need direction, you need a goal, you need
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  Speaker 1: a value structure. You let all that nonsense burn away.
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  Speaker 1: And you might say, well, I don't know what I
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  Speaker 1: should leave behind. And the answer to that is, that's
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  Speaker 1: a lie. All you have to do is ask yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You'll come up with a list instantly of a hundred
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  Speaker 1: stupid things that you're doing that you know you could
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  Speaker 1: stop doing. Take on the consequences of error and learn
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  Speaker 1: from it. And then you win constantly. Because even if
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  Speaker 1: something goes sideways, you think there's something to be derived
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  Speaker 1: from this. When you're in the world... And something objects
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  Speaker 1: to you. Something that matters objects to you. Then in
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  Speaker 1: the entire unrealized world is in that thing that objects.
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  Speaker 1: It's all tangled up inside it. That's why it's the
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  Speaker 1: great dragon of chaos. It's everything that's outside of your
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  Speaker 1: conceptual structure. And what is that? It's everything that lurks
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  Speaker 1: outside of your walled city. And it's manifested itself like
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  Speaker 1: the snake in the garden. And the easiest thing to
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  Speaker 1: do is say, I'm not having anything to do with that.
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  Speaker 1: But the problem with that is... Well, you get your
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  Speaker 1: C minus and you don't do anything about it. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: you're a little bitter and more resentful and your study
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  Speaker 1: habits get a little worse. So the next time you
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  Speaker 1: get like a D plus and then you collect a
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  Speaker 1: bunch of Fs and then you stop going to school.
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  Speaker 1: Then you stop showering, right? Then you end up jumping
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  Speaker 1: off the bridge. And so that's how the dragon eats
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  Speaker 1: you when you don't pay attention to it. And so
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  Speaker 1: it's no bloody wonder that people avoid, you know. It's
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  Speaker 1: really no wonder that they avoid because... error messages contain
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  Speaker 1: within them the implicit world now the upside of that
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  Speaker 1: is while they contain within them the implicit world and
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  Speaker 1: the world isn't all negative and so maybe you get
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  Speaker 1: your c minus and that's actually the best gift you
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  Speaker 1: ever got because somebody finally took you and went whack
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  Speaker 1: you know clue in and so you take that apart
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  Speaker 1: and you think oh i don't know how to write
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how to think.
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  Speaker 2: I've never read anything in my life.
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  Speaker 1: My study habits are abysmal, you know, like maybe I'm
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  Speaker 1: working at 2% efficiency, which.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, you gotta, that's so, to find that out
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  Speaker 2: is so optimistic.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, if you're barely hanging in there, but you're
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  Speaker 1: only working at 2%, you might imagine what you could
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  Speaker 1: have as a life if you were working at, like, 50%. So,
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  Speaker 1: the C- can be the best gift you ever had,
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  Speaker 1: and that's the goal that the dragon hoards. That's exactly
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  Speaker 1: what that means. That doesn't prove that you're stupid. And
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  Speaker 1: now it implies that you might be stupid.
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  Speaker 2: But it doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: Right. Really. It does. And that's why you don't want
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  Speaker 1: to look at it. Maybe it implies that you're lazy.
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  Speaker 1: Or implies that you're ignorant. Or like it implies all
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  Speaker 1: sorts of terrible. But you don't want to leap to that.
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  Speaker 2: And that's sort of the proclamation of innocence before guilt.
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  Speaker 1: You are the thing that is. And you're the thing
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  Speaker 1: that becomes. And you should put the thing that becomes
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  Speaker 1: at a higher place than the thing that is. That
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  Speaker 1: means you also have to allow yourself to shake off
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  Speaker 1: those things about you that you might be pathologically attached to.
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  Speaker 1: Habits and people, for that matter. Ways of thinking. All
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  Speaker 1: of those things. You have to allow yourself to shake
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  Speaker 1: those off. And that's more like a burning. That's why
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  Speaker 1: the phoenix is the symbol that it is, right? It's
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  Speaker 1: old and it deteriorates. It bursts into flame and then
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  Speaker 1: it's reborn.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, well.
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  Speaker 1: do you want to be reborn? It's like, that's not
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  Speaker 1: the question. The question is, do you want to burst
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  Speaker 1: into flame? And the answer to that generally is no.
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  Speaker 1: But that's the wrong answer. The right answer is, you
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  Speaker 1: let all that nonsense burn away. And so then you
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  Speaker 1: look at the micro-routines. It's okay, well, I got a
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  Speaker 1: C- in this course. Maybe I should study for that
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  Speaker 1: course 15 minutes more a day for the next three months.
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  Speaker 2: And then you ask yourself, do you think you could
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  Speaker 2: do that? No, I'm too useless.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, how about 15 minutes every second day? You think
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  Speaker 1: you could do that? You put it in your schedule,
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  Speaker 1: like 15 minutes every second day in the morning. And
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  Speaker 1: that's while you think, well, what's wrong with me? Well.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not very good at managing my study schedule.
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  Speaker 1: That's not quite down here at the behavioral level, but
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  Speaker 1: it's pretty close because you can take an action. You
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  Speaker 1: can open up your schedule and you can say, well,
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  Speaker 1: mark 15 minutes aside. Then you can practice doing that.
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  Speaker 1: It's pretty low level in the hierarchy. It means while
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  Speaker 1: you're still not a horrible person, you just got to
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  Speaker 1: polish up your work ethic. It's like shut the hell
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  Speaker 1: up most of the time. But now and then you
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  Speaker 1: don't shut up because it's time to say something. You
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  Speaker 1: don't want to make unnecessary enemies though. Well, You don't
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  Speaker 1: want to take yourself apart any more than is absolutely necessary.
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  Speaker 2: Develop some of the.
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  Speaker 1: Micro-routines on the other side of the personality distribution. So
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  Speaker 1: if you're disagreeable as hell, maybe you could start learning
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  Speaker 1: how to do nice things for people.
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  Speaker 2: And that actually works, by the way.
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  Speaker 1: So if you take disagreeable people who are depressed, and
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  Speaker 1: you get them doing nice things for other people, their
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  Speaker 1: depression tends to lift. But then by the same token,
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  Speaker 1: if you're agreeable, then you should practice... doing some things
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  Speaker 1: for yourself and being more tough-minded in your negotiation. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you're extroverted. It's like, okay, man, learn to spend some
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  Speaker 1: time with yourself, right? You're low in openness. Well, try
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  Speaker 1: reading a book that's outside of your, you know, your
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  Speaker 1: sphere of interest now and then. If you're conscientious, well,
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  Speaker 1: you should probably learn how to relax occasionally and so forth.
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  Speaker 1: So you can, I think partly what you're doing as
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  Speaker 1: you're developing your personality is not moving the mean.
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  Speaker 2: Much, the average much. you know, where you're located, but you're.
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  Speaker 1: Extending the standard deviation so that you're a bigger bag
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  Speaker 1: of tricks than you were before.
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  Speaker 2: Life has got its rat's nest of miseries, and that's
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  Speaker 2: for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you could even make a categorical statement that life
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  Speaker 1: is mostly a rat's nest of misery. You know, you
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  Speaker 1: can make a pretty powerful argument for that. But then
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  Speaker 1: there's a counter question, which is, well, what if you
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  Speaker 1: tried not to make it any more miserable than it
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  Speaker 1: had to be, right? Then what would it be like?
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  Speaker 1: I would suspect that most of that misery would go away.
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  Speaker 1: Because it's the unnecessary misery that really brings you down.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's like, well, if someone has cancer, it's like,
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  Speaker 1: that sucks. But it's not like you can say, if
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  Speaker 1: only we had done this differently, then that wouldn't have happened.
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  Speaker 1: But when someone's out, like, torturing you in a malevolent way,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe you're doing the same, you can always ask yourself, well,
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  Speaker 1: is it really? Is this really necessary? Is this just
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  Speaker 1: like a useless add-on to the miseries of life? That's
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  Speaker 1: what disheartens people. And so even in your own life,
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  Speaker 1: if you aren't suffering from self-imposed misery, and you're only
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  Speaker 1: suffering from inescapable misery, maybe you could handle that.
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  Speaker 2: And even maybe without becoming irredeemably corrupt.
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  Speaker 1: So the goal would be, well, yeah, life is a
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  Speaker 1: rat's nest of miseries, and maybe it has no ultimate meaning.
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  Speaker 1: We could say that if we're feeling particularly pessimistic. But
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  Speaker 1: it still leaves one question open, which is, if you
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  Speaker 1: didn't do everything you could to make it worse... How
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  Speaker 1: good could.
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  Speaker 2: You make it be?
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  Speaker 1: And the least answer is, well, it could be tragedy,
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  Speaker 1: but maybe not hell.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.