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Season 2 - Episode 65 - Telling a better story about yourself · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So, today I want to talk about the story that you tell yourself
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  that's your story, you know? If someone says to you, well,
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  what's your story and what are your thoughts on what's happened
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  to you in your past? And all of those things are you
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  telling an inspiring story or are you in a place where you
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  realize that that story is not necessarily helping you because
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  I'm very big on being detached from the story.
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  You can have a story, you can talk about a story but being
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  attached to it and still being in the emotion of it robs you
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  from moving forward and helping it.
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  Utilize it to basically move you further in your life.
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  So I'm going to use one of mine as an example because I think
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  that it's incredibly important I was as any of you who listen
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  regularly know, I was definitely someone who was an anxious
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  child. I had really severe anxiety and
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  it was something that Definitely shaped a lot of my life.
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  How I did things, where I went, who I hung out with everything
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  was shaped by the fear of having anxiety attacks and I can talk
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  to you about it now and have zero emotion around it because
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  it's just a fact, it does not affect me.
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  Any longer I recognized that I had to make a decision about how
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  I was going to change it and I had to look at it all.
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  Like it was a gift in the sense that it made me the coach.
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  I am, it helps me to meet people when they are in.
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  Just and be able to shift them out of it.
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  It, it is not something. If I stayed in that state and I
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  stayed in the story, I kept telling the same story that
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  would ever help me move forward. It would it would pull me
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  backwards into it, because when we give energy to something and
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  that's emotion to it, we end up recreating it over and over, and
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  over again, because there's a motion on it.
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  So, the story that you're telling yourself right now about
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  your past, I really want you to examine that and make sure that
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  you're not telling yourself a story that's ultimately
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  disempowering you and keeping you back to where you are
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  currently because you're repeating the story.
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  Because when you repeat the story, you repeat the actions
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  and it's this vicious cycle. And in your head, nothing can
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  move forward because that's where you are.
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  And I can't stress this enough. If you don't make the choice to
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  get out of it no one can help you get out of it.
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  This is this is one of the the confounding facts that we have
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  to deal with. That's maddening for so many of
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  us is that we want to look outside and we want to say well
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  it was because of this and that's why I'm here.
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  And we make up these stories that give excuses.
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  And ultimately yeah, everything that you're talking about in
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  your head was probably true. So what?
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  And now you have to move on. Now you have to look at it and
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  say okay, why am I going to stay attached to something when it
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  doesn't work for me, you know, find out.
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  Ask yourself the question. What can I take from this?
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  What can I learn from this? And then ultimately, tell a
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  better story, you know, I don't think about the anxiety unless
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  I'm trying to help someone else in their anxiety, otherwise,
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  it's just a fact of the past. The story I tell myself now is
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  that I live in a state of being empowered to create the world
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  that I want all the time by staying focused on seeing what I
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  want done. And I don't allow myself to go
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  there. I choose what These are driving
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  my bus. I pick the emotion.
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  I want to reside in, I do not allow it to be random.
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  Now, does that sneak up on me sometimes?
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  Yes. You know why?
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  Because I'm freakin human and I would be lying to you if it
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  didn't do. I get aggravated with things
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  absolutely earlier today was completely aggravated.
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  That I was practicing pressing flowers and it seems like a
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  stupid thing but to me it's a big deal.
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  Took took a peek at them and they were molding and I'm like,
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  what the hell? I got very frustrated, but that
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  was only for a few Few moments. And then I paused and said to
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  myself, you know what I need to do?
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  I really need to focus on figuring out what the reason is
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  for this and what are the correct flowers that will do
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  this the right way so that I don't get myself stuck in having
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  a bunch of moldy flowers. Now, very simple example, but
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  meant to teach you something. Tell a better story all of these
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  Gardens this entire Farm. Everything that we do out here
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  is constantly teaching me things and adding to this array of my
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  awareness. - but I don't allow it to become a disempowering
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  story. What I allow it to become is a
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  way forward and I take what I need, I hang on to the good
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  stuff and then just let go of the crappy stuff.
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  Sometimes it's easier said than done but you can't give up
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  because if you don't believe in yourself who's going to believe
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  in you, so hopefully this is helpful.
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  Go tell a better story today. Enjoy your day and be excited
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  about it because guess what? You get to write the story.
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  I hope you. Guys have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.
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  Guys have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.