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Happy Hour #48: What SMNTY's Thankful For · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Steph.
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  Speaker 1: I never told your production of I Heart Radio. It
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  Speaker 1: is time for another half hour, the second to last
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  Speaker 1: one of the year. I'm pretty sure we're closing in
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  Speaker 1: on the end of the year, so we want to
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  Speaker 1: take a survey of some things were thankful for it.
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  Speaker 1: But first, as I always drink responsibly if you choose
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  Speaker 1: to do so, Samantha, what are you sitting on? Um?
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  Speaker 1: I feel like this is my staple. I always seem
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  Speaker 1: to have it in the house. But I'm drinking my
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  Speaker 1: vino Verde from Trader Joe's, my five dollar bottle of wine.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't make me super sleepy, and it's crisp and
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  Speaker 1: lovely and very green. Appily, that's my two go keeping
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  Speaker 1: house stock if because I will say I do love
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  Speaker 1: red wine. That's probably my faith faith, but it makes
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  Speaker 1: me a little more st be sometimes. So it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: feel as appropriate for our happy hour because it would
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  Speaker 1: be a sleepy hour. I kind of like the idea
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  Speaker 1: of a sleepy hour that feels right. Half the time.
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  Speaker 1: We're very tired a lot everyone. That's true, it isn't
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  Speaker 1: actually it's appropriate for today because we've been recording in
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  Speaker 1: a long time today because we're trying to wrap everything
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  Speaker 1: up for the end of the year, so bear with us.
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  Speaker 1: It is December. Um, I feel like I have to
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  Speaker 1: put a time stamp on everything because who knows what
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  Speaker 1: could happen within the next hour. I'm drinking a Gin
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  Speaker 1: and tonic, which is also my staple, just simple and
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  Speaker 1: although now I wish I had opened I do have
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  Speaker 1: a bottle of sparkling wine, but it's too late. It's
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  Speaker 1: too late, um, And I love a good I love
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  Speaker 1: a good gin and tonic. So we did want to
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  Speaker 1: go over some things as we're closing out the year
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  Speaker 1: that we're thankful for. Thankful can be a very loaded term,
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  Speaker 1: but adding that aside for now, yeah, just as we
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  Speaker 1: were closing out the year. Um, one of the things
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  Speaker 1: I will I was curious about because the pandemic is awful.
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  Speaker 1: I think we can all agree it has been awful.
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  Speaker 1: But is there anything during this year, during this pandemic
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  Speaker 1: that you've been thankful for, either something that helps you
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  Speaker 1: get through it, or like I know a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people were thankful just to have kind of a pretty
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  Speaker 1: steady excuse to stay in anything like that. Oh, absolutely,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, as the introvert, it is not the helpiest
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  Speaker 1: for me to be in all the time. And since
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  Speaker 1: going out recently, you and I went to a outside
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  Speaker 1: event with this really small amount compared to what we
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  Speaker 1: typically do of I heart podcasters and I will end
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  Speaker 1: the year celebration. I was super awkward, like painfully awkward.
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  Speaker 1: Like my quick exit goodbye, you know, the one way
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  Speaker 1: you don't talk tell anybody and you just try to
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  Speaker 1: slip out did not go successfully because of my awkwardness.
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  Speaker 1: My first attempt went down the wrong way, so that
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  Speaker 1: means I had to come back. The second attempt, I
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  Speaker 1: had to come back because I left my jacket. And
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  Speaker 1: then I at my third, like final attempt, I was
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  Speaker 1: standing ready to leave getting my valet, found out I
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  Speaker 1: did the valet wrong. Having to make excuses and run
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  Speaker 1: away from everyone. So hasn't been the healthiest of things,
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  Speaker 1: maybe when it comes to learning social skills or relearning
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  Speaker 1: social skills. But I've been grateful to be able to
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  Speaker 1: just kind of like nah, I'm good and for what
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  Speaker 1: it is. I have been very grateful about being able
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  Speaker 1: to work from home and having a job because as
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  Speaker 1: we talked about my job with the Department General Justice
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  Speaker 1: ended right before the pandemic started, and that would have
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  Speaker 1: been such a disaster and it would have been such
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  Speaker 1: I was very the timing it was perfect. At the
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  Speaker 1: end of the job happened, um, but I could not
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  Speaker 1: imagine trying to do that job. But this job was
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  Speaker 1: very accommodating to that. So both of those things being
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  Speaker 1: able to be in this atmosphere knowing that we can
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  Speaker 1: do it has been quite delightful in its own realm.
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  Speaker 1: I guess, yes, oh agree, It's definitely a privilege, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm very, very grateful for it, and I I think
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  Speaker 1: what my answers no surprise fan fiction, of course, star
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  Speaker 1: Wars always, but also friends. Friends like you, Samantha, We've
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  Speaker 1: been there and we've been able to to support each
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  Speaker 1: other and hang out and have our ups and downs
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  Speaker 1: together and then just be like so comfortable in each
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  Speaker 1: other's presences. That were just like due to the other day.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't mean to, but completely had no mindset to it,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my bad. This was a friend.
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  Speaker 1: This was a friend of it, not a work of it,
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  Speaker 1: no sexual harraspect. It was. We're so we're so like
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  Speaker 1: comfortable with each other that we do hang out often
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  Speaker 1: outside of work, and then I was talking to you,
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  Speaker 1: trying to show you something forgetting I was like, oh, well, damn, okay,
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  Speaker 1: my bad. I'm really comfortable with you and that I
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  Speaker 1: appreciate it as well. Yeah. I was just like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: so I appreciate that level of friendship that we've been
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  Speaker 1: able to have and maintained during all of this. Okay. Also,
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to ask, like podcasts specific anything you're thankful for.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously they're working from home. Um, I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: there's any topic that resonated with you or just listeners
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  Speaker 1: anything like that. I have really appreciated the responses to
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  Speaker 1: our podcast, so I know, especially when you and I
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  Speaker 1: are talking very vulnerably letting people know what we're thinking,
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  Speaker 1: people have reached out to us and and been very
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  Speaker 1: appreciatives sharing their own stories. And that's just that's such
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  Speaker 1: a privilege to be able to share something with you
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  Speaker 1: and then coming back and feeling the trust from y'all
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  Speaker 1: to tell us your story as well. Um, because this
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  Speaker 1: is our job. But don't don't get me wrong, we
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  Speaker 1: don't have to, but you know, this is our job
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  Speaker 1: and for you to share with us and feeling connected
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  Speaker 1: with us. That is such a privilege, and I will
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  Speaker 1: say some of that. One of the ones was a
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  Speaker 1: parentification episode. I was really proud of what we did
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  Speaker 1: with that because it is so unheard of or not
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  Speaker 1: talked about out loud, even though everybody kind of knows
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  Speaker 1: what it is. And then having so many of you
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  Speaker 1: writing in talking about your own experience as trying to
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  Speaker 1: move past it or trying to figure out how to
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  Speaker 1: navigate that trauma as parents yourself like things like that,
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  Speaker 1: It's so amazing and just I cannot tell you what
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  Speaker 1: happens when I read this. It really gets to my
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  Speaker 1: heart and just feeling so connected, so much like community
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  Speaker 1: in a way that I never expected. I guess. Don't
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  Speaker 1: get me wrong, I want to be accepted, but this
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  Speaker 1: is this whole new level of just being loved as
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  Speaker 1: a community and hoping that we were returning that same
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  Speaker 1: love when we were sharing with you these things and
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  Speaker 1: letting you know we really like I feel like whatever
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  Speaker 1: I respond back is not enough to tell you how
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  Speaker 1: much it means to us when you tell us or
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  Speaker 1: share with us something so personal. And I think I
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  Speaker 1: felt the same way again, like when they would express
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  Speaker 1: to you just me reading it, about feeling so connected
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  Speaker 1: to you about certain things. I've had listeners right to
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  Speaker 1: us about my adoption experiences and their adoption experiences. Um.
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  Speaker 1: And then also like having a couple of people connect
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  Speaker 1: with me on the not wanting babies or to giving
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  Speaker 1: us really good advice on life stances like that. Like
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  Speaker 1: stuff like that has been part of my favorite thing
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  Speaker 1: of being on this podcast. Oh absolutely, Yeah. There are
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  Speaker 1: episodes that are so vulnerable and scary for us to do.
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  Speaker 1: And for instance, one that I think of, UM was
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  Speaker 1: when a Monday many I did about not being Pretty
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  Speaker 1: Enough was about sexual assault and it was really hard
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  Speaker 1: and I remember when it happened because it was like
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  Speaker 1: Labor Day weekend and I just couldn't get it off
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  Speaker 1: my mind. And and so many of you wrote in
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  Speaker 1: and you were so kind and so open with your
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  Speaker 1: your own experiences, and it's very very rewarding and just
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  Speaker 1: it helps. It does help, like you know, feel not alone,
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  Speaker 1: but also kind of healing of hearing from other people
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  Speaker 1: and hearing like okay, that resonated. I've also really enjoyed
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  Speaker 1: getting to do fiction. I'm so excited about that. And
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  Speaker 1: it's just honestly it's always always a learning experience. I've
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  Speaker 1: learned so much through this podcast and I continue to
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  Speaker 1: and I learned so much through you listeners. I learned
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  Speaker 1: from you, Samantha. So that's amazing and I'm just so
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  Speaker 1: thankful for it. It's exciting. And also, Christina are amazing
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  Speaker 1: Sea for producer. UM started this year and just took
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  Speaker 1: off with fit and handled like all of you were like, well,
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  Speaker 1: we do you know, five episodes to be plus classic
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  Speaker 1: and we kind of do this way, in this way,
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  Speaker 1: in this way, and she's just a champ and so amazing.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, and yes to that note, our team, we
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  Speaker 1: were very sad when Eve's left us, but we know
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  Speaker 1: that she is doing what she needs to do and
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  Speaker 1: doing amazing things. And she's also still around. Don't get
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  Speaker 1: it wrong, but she was just our executive producer for
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  Speaker 1: a while and then she left and now we have
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  Speaker 1: Maya and so having this dynamic team that I feel
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  Speaker 1: like are all on the same page, I love it,
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  Speaker 1: like having that workspace because again, I am very isolated
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  Speaker 1: with just y'all. This has been a privilege to be
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  Speaker 1: in this group. Yes, totally totally agree, Um, And also
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  Speaker 1: don't worry even it's still coming on for female. First,
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  Speaker 1: we love her too much and she cannot go away.
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  Speaker 1: Every can never let her go. Um. So here's my
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  Speaker 1: closing question for you, Samantha. And this is brought on
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  Speaker 1: by a discussion we had with a friend of mine
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  Speaker 1: about what these fictional candles you're supposed to be. What
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  Speaker 1: a character smells like? Oh yeah, if you were a candle,
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  Speaker 1: what do you think he'd smell like? So it has
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  Speaker 1: to be a little bit, a little bit spicy, because
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  Speaker 1: apparently my dry wit is intimidating. Is that what I've
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  Speaker 1: been told by a couple actually recently, of fellow podcasters,
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  Speaker 1: uh to, one of which was with stuff they don't
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  Speaker 1: want you to know. He told me. I was like, okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I know. There's another one. I can't remember which one,
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  Speaker 1: but essentially I was like, yeah, I don't know how to.
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  Speaker 1: I can't tell if you're mad at me or you're
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  Speaker 1: being funny. So I feel like if we could get
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  Speaker 1: some kind of chili pepper type of smell. But also
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  Speaker 1: because I am genuinely like, I am caring enough and
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  Speaker 1: I try to, you know, make you feel comfortable. I
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  Speaker 1: am very intense though I know this as well. That
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  Speaker 1: would probably be something like a vanilla, which is warm
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  Speaker 1: but very like you need to wake up, or maybe
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  Speaker 1: a mint. I can't remember how which is better, like
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  Speaker 1: something I don't want to be eucalyptus because that's too much,
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  Speaker 1: but maybe I am is that bad? But I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I would be definitely a spicy If there was
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  Speaker 1: a spicy version of like a spicy cinnamon bourbon ish,
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  Speaker 1: that would be me. I like that, Okay. I think
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  Speaker 1: mine is very based on kind of the products I
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  Speaker 1: use and smells I like. But mine I feel like
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  Speaker 1: a like a lavender, cinnamon mm hmm, flower kind of thing.
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  Speaker 1: But if I like going by, like if I symbolically,
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  Speaker 1: it would have to be more earthy. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I'm a I see Yeah, does I mean like being
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  Speaker 1: mossy smell or piney smell or you can't fire. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like a kind of a mossy like clean kind
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  Speaker 1: of that clean water, clean air breeze thing. But there
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  Speaker 1: would have to be not necessarily something spicy, but like
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  Speaker 1: a spice, because there's also I don't know, this is
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  Speaker 1: a deep question. Yeah you did well. I want to
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  Speaker 1: turn this around and ask how you would describe me
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  Speaker 1: and I want to describe you. Oh no, here we go.
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  Speaker 1: I'm ready. You'll may tell you what I think you
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  Speaker 1: would smell like. Yes, so in my mind for you,
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  Speaker 1: I see, I'm very ready. Like lemon grass would be
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  Speaker 1: a smell that I would come for you because you're
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  Speaker 1: the life of the party. People want to be around
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  Speaker 1: you whether you know it are not, and people are
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  Speaker 1: attracted that and like, to me, lemon grass is fresh,
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  Speaker 1: very vibrant, and it also yeah, it kind of like
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  Speaker 1: surprises you, but you want to be around that more.
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  Speaker 1: I love that. Lemon grass is probably one of my
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  Speaker 1: favorite herbs and spices and incense to feel like lemon
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  Speaker 1: grass would be a part of that. And again something
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  Speaker 1: like a lemon because it wakes you up and people
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  Speaker 1: around you liven up like it. Literally, our person who
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  Speaker 1: takes care of the parties asked you about it. Because
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  Speaker 1: you are the life of the party. People don't go
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  Speaker 1: to things unless typically you are there. So I feel
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  Speaker 1: like that would be or an orange blossom, something very
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  Speaker 1: sitrusy that wakes you up in the mornings, um ready
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  Speaker 1: to go, but it's still like very refreshing to be around.
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  Speaker 1: So I would say maybe like a cinnamon orange blossom
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  Speaker 1: or something in that realm would be your candle. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I love it so nice? Are know? Like, can we
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  Speaker 1: make these candles? I was hoping someone would come and
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  Speaker 1: listen to us and then create it for us. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: oh I would love that too. I feel like you totally.
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  Speaker 1: You would have a very like calming, comforting, welcoming smell,
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  Speaker 1: but then there would be that like that back of
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  Speaker 1: like spice or heat. So I'm trying to run through
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  Speaker 1: the rollo decks of of things that might fit that
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  Speaker 1: because I also like, I'm bad at describing taste. I
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  Speaker 1: am bad at remember when things smell like, yes, I've
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  Speaker 1: tried my best. I feel like maybe I'm thinking of
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  Speaker 1: something kind of like there's a kind of like a
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  Speaker 1: grapefruit cucumber, but then like a fresh I actually really
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  Speaker 1: love the smell, but like the fresh kind of linen
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  Speaker 1: are like just laundry that's just come out one of
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  Speaker 1: my favorites. It's so good it. I feel like you
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  Speaker 1: would have that. I would hug you like a bank
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  Speaker 1: it out of the dryer. Good. Nice, this is gonna
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  Speaker 1: really but I want to be a blanket. Yeah, yeah
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  Speaker 1: like it and then a nice kind of yeah, a
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  Speaker 1: nice spicy something on the back. But yeah, M like
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  Speaker 1: a warm hug on a fall day. Maybe I'm a margarita,
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  Speaker 1: but not like a spicy like a great fruit margharita,
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  Speaker 1: but with a helopeno in it. Yeah, or I'll have
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  Speaker 1: a row if we were a cocktail, Okay, We'll have
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  Speaker 1: to do these questions later because I've have so many
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  Speaker 1: other thoughts. If you were a cocktail, what would you mean?
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  Speaker 1: And how I wanted to think about that too? Okay, Well, cheers,
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  Speaker 1: cheers everyone, Yes, cheers to you. We want to know
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  Speaker 1: if you were a candle or a cocktail, what would
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  Speaker 1: you be? If you have other ideas about us? Let
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  Speaker 1: us know, Yes, please let us know. And I seriously,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, can we make these candles? Oh? Now I
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  Speaker 1: want to like, but I also want to describe Christina who.
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  Speaker 1: I think she's like chocolate, like smells like she is surprising,
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  Speaker 1: quiet and subtle, so like dark chocolate, but like she's
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  Speaker 1: there and her very presence is very well known. I
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  Speaker 1: love dot chocolate. It's one of my favorites. Oh that's
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  Speaker 1: not offensive, but I'm like, I feel like that's her. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: maybe some coffee in there, and yes, we would love
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  Speaker 1: to get these responses from you very important. You can
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  Speaker 1: Told You, or on Twitter at mom Stuff Podcast. Thanks
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  Speaker 1: as always to your superproducer Christina Again, my chocolate the candle,
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