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Off The Record Ep.3 · What More Can I Say?

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What's up y'all? Welcome choice the What More Can I Say? Podcast?
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Off the Record, Episode three. It's the audio only. Of course,
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if you're listening, that means you won't be able to see some of the
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crazy faces in here that will be making Hey, I'm one of your whole
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soga pauls. She is fluffy and five. Her name is Kiki and that
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is the funny man, Zach, Buz, what's up? What's up y'all?
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What's happening? Man? So what are we talking about? Crazy is
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what we're doing. We're talking about like, you know, when you break
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up, just say you're in a relationship, it was a long relationship,
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you shared friends and all of that. When you break up, how do
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you split up the friend group? Ooh, that can get tricky sometimes.
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I know some people who were in relationships, like in college or whatever,
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and they actually share, genuinely share the friend group and then they then they
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break then they break up, and it's weird, huh when somebody has something
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that's interesting because I've exactly no I know I have, but I've never been
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broken up with. But I've never I don't believe in my we not all
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friends like I got my friends. He got his friends, you friends,
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No, Like I'm cool with his friends. You know what I'm saying.
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They cool, they come out of the house, they cool, cool.
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But those are his friends, right and my friends are my friends. There's
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no reason for my friends to have your number or be calling you or y'all
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need to be communicating without me present, you know what I'm saying. So
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like, I don't even believe in the whole mixing like that now with with
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relationships like that, I feel that are mixed in college and stuff, you
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cause that's where it should start. I just feel like as adults, like
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if I'm in a relationship with a man and I'm grown, I don't need
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to His friends ain't my friends, you know what I'm saying. But if
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we are talking in college, then you always find out who the realists like
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because the group gonna go with whoever was the the cooler person the real list,
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because a lot of times we just tolerating y'all partners, you know what
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I'm saying. Like Zach, my homie, I just tolerate whoever he deal
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with because I'm cool with Zach. Get rid of that heifer. No,
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that's happy. You know what I'm saying, So it's weird, Like I
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just had a friend and two of my closest friends was dating each other and
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they broke up. Yes, now, admittedly me and the guy, we
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have been closer for a while, you know what I'm saying. We just
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worked We've worked together for a long time. We just we just had had
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a closer relationship. But this is my girl from grade school. She might
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girl like you know what I'm saying. So they had a very messy breakup,
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and when we would go, I had events where I have to invite
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both of them, Like I'm not gonna not invite her because you're coming,
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and I'm not gonna not invite him because you're coming. Yeah, because y'all
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just gotta be a hey. I want that when y'all was bumping, and
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I don't need to be in the middle of it when y'all ain't you know
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what I'm saying, Like, don't make me choose as the one as being
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a friend. I'm not choosing like it, y'all need to come and support
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me and act like adults or yeah, I'm gonna figure out who cooler,
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you know, Like i'mna feel I'm gonna figure out who the realists. But
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as the friend, I'm like, so you cool with both of them?
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Still? Yes, And both of them have beened to me about the other,
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and I would never go back and tell each part. I don't get
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in that. You know what I'm saying. But I'm a listener here and
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I love both of y'all. And when it's my birthday, both of y'all
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don't get an invite. And if you mad that I invited him to them,
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bad, If you mad that I invited her, get over it.
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I don't give a damn. It ain't about y'all. It's about me,
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So come and support and have fun. But yeah, so I'm I'm the
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friend that ain't choosing. I'm not making like, don't put me in that
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spot. No, you got to choose. No, No, I always
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think that, like if, because what happens with me a lot of times
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is like the women that I date, they still want the access. I
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got pretty cool friends. They still want some of that accents. Yeah,
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they want the access. They were like, okay, I they got cool
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with some of his business partners because I was getting in the club. But
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I you know, I ain't need to be here because if I'm looking you
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know, not for tall women. Nah, you don't do that no more.
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You know that. Ain't that my business partners. I don't put them
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in a position where they got to look out for you because they didn't help
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looked out for you once. Y'all ain't real friends. They only was rocking
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with you because he was with me, And like it's it gets triggered because
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I wouldn't. I ain't gonna never be like man, some of her cool
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homies that I was cool with, Damn Kiki, some of the some of
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the cool homies that I was cool with her girls that I thought was cool.
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I'm not gonna be like start inviting them back out to the club.
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Ay, y'all good, y'all want to come to the club, y'all want
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to sit with me? None of that stuff. Ain't none of that now.
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If you out, I'm not gonna her friends are out. I'm not
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gonna be mean to him and tell them they can't sit at the table.
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But I'm also not going to invite them to the table. And if they
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her friends, they shouldn't be at your table. No way. Yeah,
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I don't let Yeah, I don't. They don't do I don't think.
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I don't think they do. I don't think no, no, no,
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they'll do it. They'll come and speak and say what's up? Like I
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just leave when you your friends, your friends and your friends like, I'm
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not mad at your friends, but I'm not following them on Instagram. I'm
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not doing nothing. I'm just hey, we had your friends, go with
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you, my friends, come with me. Don't try to use I've had
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people because of the they got cool with the Team Hennessy stuff and go out
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of town and hit hit my hit my friends with Team Hennessy and be like
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hit him and be like, yo, is it cool? You get me
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into the cub like my boy hit me? Like, hey man, right,
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ain't no way? What should I do? I was like, hey
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man, do what you do, whatever you feel, do whatever you feel.
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Let me tell you something. The dudes that's doing you need to keep
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an eye on. Oh yeah, okay, No, I wouldn't say that,
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yes you do, because what what what? Hey? Hey, I'm
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your friend, so you shouldn't you hitting me. It's even irritating me because
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you should have just knew what to do in that situation anyway, and then
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hit me on the late light Bro, you know so and so tried to
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pull up on me. I told her ass now because I know y'all are
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fucking with each other no more, and leave it at that. But if
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you come calling me to me, yeah, she's standing right here. What
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else what you want me to say? And then I say, because I'm
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gonna keep a player right in on the phone. Do whatever you feel and
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you give her a section what you want, Bro, that's real, like
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you put I think it's levels. I'm not gonna get her a sex Let
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me talk to Okay, So here's no no, I'm gonna tell you.
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Let me explain. Okay. One of my best no, okay, go
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ahead, Sorry, my best friend. He's on and off with this girl
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all the time. They've been on and off since I've known him. He's
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one of my best friends in the world. He knows it. Would never
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do anything behind his back. That's crazy, all right. Well, his
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they broke up, but then they get back together, they break up,
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they get back together every time they break up. I never talked to her,
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you know what I'm saying. The only time I talk to her is
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when they are together and he's with her. You know what I'm saying,
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that's the only time. Now. What I'm trying to say is I have
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known her long enough. I've known her over fifteen years. If she was
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in Chicago, okay, and she and she hit me and was like,
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Zach, I'm at the wit, can you get me in? I would
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do it get yourself. But it wouldn't it wouldn't be don't I wouldn't go
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out my way to do it. Like what I'm saying is like, but
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you see, you know what I'm saying, My boys ex my boys even
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if they on and off again, any of that stuff. I would tell
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my boy to my homies. But I understand that, but I don't I
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look at it because I already know he would tell me. Yeah, let
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her in tell me what you know what I'm saying. He wanted to see
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what she's doing. You know what I'm saying, Like I wouldn't go Like
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I guess what I'm saying. We were all I guess. The difference is
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we were all one big friend group in college. We all hung out together.
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Like I know these people personally as but when they when they're their thing,
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they they think when they not I don't talk to her or anything like
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that. But I'm saying there, if she was there, she would be
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there because I used talk to her friend. So if they were group opposed
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to like adults, that's college friend groups. But if you know me and
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my girl not together, you know that we're not together right now, you
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finish bring her in the clubs, you can find another man. No,
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what I'm trying to say is, what I'm trying to say is if I
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if your girls shouldn't even have my number, thank you in the first place.
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So what I'm saying is if she can call me and contact me about
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getting in somewhere, then I must have a relationship with that person. But
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I'm not gonna have the number of my friend's girl anyway, Like why would
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that number even be? Why would I have her number? But something happened
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to me recently, and I'll give you an example, and I felt a
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way and it was like it was like I was like, Yo, don't
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put me in my you know, I had a situation. Don't put me
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in my girl in y'all situation. I'm sitting we switcherling, and I let
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it slide. Who said that? One of my friends said that said we
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said me and my girls are switching. We Switzerland. Don't put us in
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y'all situation, I said, and I I didn't want to ruin the night,
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but I had to go back and explain. I said, hey,
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bro, that made me feel feel a way. I felt bad. Why
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I'm just saying, I don't want to be in y'all mess. I don't
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want to. You know, we don't want to be in between us.
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So I said, I understand that. But when you say you switzerling to
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me, that means that you're neutral. And I was like, I was
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like, you wouldn't know her if it wasn't for me. Now I know
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y'all built a relationship. I know y'all built a relationship. That's cool.
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I'm not saying hater, but hey, man, if if you my dog,
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you ain't Switzerland, you're supposed to be on my side. Because I
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was like, if somebody asked me about if somebody, if it came between
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you and your situation, I'm with you. I with you all day,
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foe, and I don't care what going on. Hey, I don't got
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done. I ain't against her. I don't hate her, but I can't
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and I think a real person will understand me. Saying, Hey, I
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can't fuck with you because you ain't fucking with my boy no more. I'm
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sorry, I'm sorry. I just can't. I can't be around I can't,
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I can't. I just not gonna do that. I'm not gonna be
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around you and fuck with you. But honestly, in his situation, it
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sounds like he said we Switzerland. So when he said we, I hear
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that differently. I heard that as me. And when he say we,
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he probably saying me and my lady. Yeah, correct, Okay, So
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he's saying me and my lady are out of it. And the only reason
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I think he said we is because she and I don't know the situation.
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But I'm just the way it sounded. It sounds like she don't want to
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be in the middle of it. Does that make sense? Like his girl
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don't want to be in the middle of it, and I just has a
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better relationship with you. So he has to speak. He's speaking for the
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group. He ain't speaking for him. He's saying we ain't saying that.
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That makes sense. That's what that sounded like to me. He's like,
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we ain't got nothing to do with that. That makes it seem like I'm
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taking up for my lady right now. She don't want to be in the
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middle of y'all. Yeah, thing and thing, that's what that sounds like.
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I don't think that's to me, that didn't sound like. But initially
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when I heard it, I was I felt a way because I was just
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like yo, bro, like because like I said, like, like,
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hey, I love Tim. I love Tim. That's I met him a
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bunch of time. Nice guy. He ain't Dad Kiki, no more your
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ghost to me. And that's just the fact that that it's it's nothing against
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him, there's nothing against him. And if I saw him, I wouldn't
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be like, I wouldn't ignore him, but I would just it's just how
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I move, bro. And that's that's why I said, like, when
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you know I've dated, I've dated women that we are. We have had
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intertwine friends, crazy intertwine friends. Once it was a rap. It's a
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rap, like my like dude, like my my baby mama sorrow. Trinity's
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mama sorrow was my dog, you hear me, like, such a nice
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person, such a great that's just my dog coole as hell. But when
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it was over, it was over with. I reach out to her when
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I was in Ohio, like, hey, like you know that type of
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stuff. What I like, I like, I said, I tend to
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find is that which I get. I get it, but it ain't right.
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It's like I introduce you to these power players that you would have never
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had access to, or you would have had access to for you could have
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had access to them for another reason or whatever that is. But now you
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still trying to use my hookups that I got. You try to use my
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hookups to keep your life straight and eat no like when my life when when
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you you not with me no more? You got to go make your own.
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You got to make your own wook cups. Since the hookups die,
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the hookups die, ain't no way, ain't no way. Talking about can
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you get I wish, I wish somebody ex? Would you talk about Zach?
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Can you get me some tickets to what? Or like, okay,
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so what about one of your exes family members one of my ex's family members.
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Yeah, so like you and your ex we was together and then when
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do you cut off the family? That's that's that's tough. You know what
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I'm saying. It depends I guess it depends on the relationship. You know
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what I'm saying, like, what what were we You know what I'm saying,
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if we were just dating, if we were married, I think that
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makes a big difference, just just a relationship with you know what I'm saying,
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Like I still have a very good relationship with my ex wife's dad.
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Okay, you know what I'm saying, Like, that's that's your grandfather.
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But we we share we share a common interest, right, my son.
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So you know what I'm I'm saying, like that's his grandfather, that's and
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that's never gonna change. That's always his grandfather. But if there was no
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just like there was no Noah, you dated you? Oh I'm gone,
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what fuck I'm talking you for? Oh my god? Okay, all right,
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to make mister Weston get off my life. I want to make sure
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I'm not going he may call. I mean, I'm not saying on his
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phone, but I'm saying like it wouldn't be the same, Like we literally
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have a common interest. So yes, you know what I'm saying. But
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it's it's hard, you know what I'm saying, Like it ain't Actually it's
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not hard. We cool, but I understand how that could get how that
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could get tricky. If we ain't got no common interest, I don't have
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to talk to you. I don't have to see you. You shouldn't have.
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I guess what I'm trying to say is the people who can contact me
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can contact me. If that makes sense. I don't know. I don't
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exchange numbers with my friends women, right. That's why I brought it to
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family, because I was like, maybe family would be a little different.
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We just not feinna. I'm just not finna have your IM not gonna be
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walking around with tone woman number in no way, shape or form. If
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I got something to ask her, And guess what I'm gonna do, ask
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him, and he gonna ask her, Like I'm gonna ask through him.
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I'm not gonna hit up. But why would I have I never should have
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my friend woman number. And it's not a it's not a thing communicating in
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that way like I just had even I had even what does this go to
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friendships too? Because I had a friendship like like my homie, like man,
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cool cool cool. We fell out and that and that that was it.
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And then they went and tried to ask one of my hookups for something
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to help him. It was like, yeah, I know, bro,
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like you know me and tone you know, we ain't cool no more,
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man, but hey, I really need your help on some business stuff.
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And I'm like, now. My boy called me instantly like I ain't really
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let him have it, but I just was like, you know, bro,
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I'm busy right now. I can't do it. He was like,
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he was like, dudesus crazy. Yeah, it be acity. It's always
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the audacity because you you introduce people to each other and they start thinking that
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they don't need you or like and it's like yeah, like that people people
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get wild, you know what I'm saying, Like that's the reason. Yeah,
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yeah, that's crazy. So that's one that I've noticed especially. I
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mean, I know if y'all know this is with our jobs. There's two
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things about our jobs. Is that when people start hanging around us and I'm
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going to say the one thing that probably is going to you, you both
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then ran into they think anybody could do it because the way we make it
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looks it's so easy. Your job so easy, man. I wish man,
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I wish I had a job. I could just sit out at the
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talk yep. They think that they think that this is the easiest job in
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the world not although this ain't this, ain't picking up boxes at ups.
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Why you tied? You have no idea? Asked you why you tired?
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The stress? So they hang around you and then they start. I see
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how you move, and they see how you move, they see the connections
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they see They're like, I could do that, that's easy. But they
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don't understand. They ain't see the role that you took to get all of
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those connections. And it just you make everything look so easy. They see
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the finished products, so to speak. They have no idea. You look
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like you will you live in that? Oh yeah, I mean people think
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it's always. It's always. That's why I'm like, anytime I get to
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tell my story somewhere, I love to share it because people think, like,
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how she get that and why she get that? And she don't what
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she don't deserve and she y'all couldn't last five minutes. And the ship I
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had to do to get here, okay, and the ship I had to
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learn and go and figure out, Like I didn't wake up like this.
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I fucking built this, Like I work my ass off to get the same
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thing for y'all. Like people just think, you know, oh, you
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just woke up on the radio like are you kidding me? No? And
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so it it's crazy to ever assume that about somebody's career. And I I
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just pray for the people who think like that because they go to bed at
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night really upset that it's them, that it's not them, you know what
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I'm saying, Like people are losing sleep over your life right now. Tone
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like they going to bed like punching their like what the wow? How?
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And they have no idea, no idea. And I say stuff all the
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time like when people get to talking, I'll let you. I'll let you
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have it every once in a while. But again and I just like you
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said, you have no idea that the building blocks of it like it just
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it looks easy because we've been doing it for so long, the way we
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move within these spaces and how to. But I always tell people like I
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like, yo, bro, like you were you were having fun and you
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was out here having sex with all the chicks downtown and you was partying,
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staying up and doing bro. I was I was in the studio. Yeah.
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Or you had a decent salary when you first came out of college.
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You got a job with a good salary and benefits and able to start a
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family and take care of a family and build up a nice, beautiful life.
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It. I got ten plus years to get the money, and I
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still ain't got no money. They broke it. Spent the first eight years
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of my career without health insurance, thank you, because I couldn't afford to
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take that money out of my check. I needed that to make the budgets.
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I'm praying I don't get sick. I'm hooping like like, man,
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I hope I don't break nothing, because if I break, maybe I think
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I broke my ankle. Man, I just paid that medical bill. I
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wasn't giving them money that. I was like, yo, I'm not gonna
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give you nothing like so it's a they don't understand those different things. But
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I think that I think that's probably my my biggest thing is when people try
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to use hookups. Like I said, I've dated some powerful ass women,
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some powerful women, and they introduce me to some real bosses, some real
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bosses. I would not reach out to them people after it was over.
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I wu was not going to reach out and be like, hey, you
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know, me and me and Rocket no more. But you remember you had
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said about that restaurant kind of thing. We get. I'm not doing that,
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And I don't think people realize how stupid they look when they do that.
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The peril like that's my home me Like, you you talking to me
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and you think you're gonna get something from me, child, I don't I
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fool what You're gonna be half of them? Yeah, I only talking to
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you because I think a lot of people don't understand. Like and the people,
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especially the people that you introduce them to, they're only giving you this
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conversation on the strip. For me, yes, that's it. Other than
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that, you're just another person. The audacity. Audacity be the name of
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this episode, The audaccity Off the record, Episode three, final Thoughtsfore we
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get out, we're gonna we're gonna do another conversation where we expound on how
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we got to where we're at. Because people for yeah, people, people
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I'm sure would love to hear the journeys. Yeah, I know you guys,
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journeys. You no, don't know that journey. You just made my
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name. He told it to me. What time you did? He probably
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was lying, Okay, see if you match up, see if you're the
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one he tell this year match up away man, my journey, I got
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a journey, drugs, prostituting itself, the women all over, sex with
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the elderly, slept his way to the top bas let. The old lady
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that has some power, that you got. That work, she say,
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made me feel young again. Crazy. Oh my god, I gotta go,
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We gotta go. She has a very important last last that's it,
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and she all you got to just take your friend and tell you a little
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behind Marie Beauty my way. Shout out all that to do it for this
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version of Off the recommend Thank y'all for listening. Let's go Peace,