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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ EPISODE #58_HOST NATALIE HARVEY_(SHOW #1) · DA CREW Podcast

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  trust. So i'self between the rock and a hard place, and ain't no
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  room for no funky yeah, smile on, my friends, I M first
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  live with every breath I take. My story is true. Don't forget about
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  the rood do you don't matter what you're going into, that's still a woman
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  living insane. Wel good evening and welcome to our second edition of less Chat
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  with Nat. I am your host, Natalie Harvey, where we just come
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  and we have a chat about any and everything that not just me, but
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  whatever you want to chat about as well. Today's episode is going to be
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  a phenomenal and truly inspirational, and it's just going to be an episode that
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  is near and dear to my heart. I have someone on here tonight that
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  I can say I have known basically just a my entire life. She is
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  not just someone that I consider to be more than a friend, but a
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  family member. She's an author in her own right, but most importantly,
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  she has been a mentor to me from the time that I can remember.
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  And tonight I want to introduce you to none other than the phenomenal, the
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  most humble, the sweetest landa pile. Hello. See, this is gonna
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  be weird for me because I'm so used to calling you sister Row or at
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  Ros, so haven't you in this capacity right now? It's just a phenomenal,
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  phenomenal. Most people don't know that you were the one to really start
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  me on my journey as a writer, and I just have to I've told
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  you this a million and one time, but I have to stay it publicly.
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  Thank you. Thank you for seeing what I couldn't see or what I
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  did not see all those many years ago. You've truly been like that person
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  that always you kept on me. You never gave up. You made sure
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  I think, yeah, my first writing class. You referred me to my
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  first writing class. So I just have to say this thank you before we
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  even get started. I just have to say thank you, thank you,
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  and thank you. You're quite welcome. That well, what most people don't
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  know, most people want to know who Israel on the pile, where you
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  come from, what's your background, what started you on your journey as well
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  as an author, So we're gonna dabble into a little bit of that right
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  now. So the floor is yours. Well, I would say that I'm
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  a social worker by trade, and I would say my journey started back when
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  I was a child. When I was a child, my mother left my
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  family and my father was raising us and his mother helped him, stepped in
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  to help him. And I was always very unhappy as a child because I
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  wanted a mother and I just couldn't understand why I couldn't have a mother like
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  everybody else. So for me, it was really difficult. And but I
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  love to read, and reading was my way of going to other places that
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  I couldn't normally go. And one of the things that happened was I felt
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  like so alone in my situation. One of my friends is funny. I
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  ran to one of my friends years ago. We were friends when we were
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  and look school, and she was telling me how she said, I always
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  wondered if you really liked me, or if you really came to my house
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  to see my mother, because he said you would come to the house and
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  you would just talk to my mother. You wouldn't talk to me, and
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  so that's because I really wanted a mother. And so it wasn't until I
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  read and I was in junior high school and one of the required readings back
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  then was Maya Angelo's I Know Why the Cage Bird Sings. And it wasn't
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  until I read that book that I realized that I wasn't alone in the situation,
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  that there were other people out there who had been raised by the their
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  grandparents as a primary kid giver. And so I it helped me a lot,
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  and it helped me to get over my feeling so alone in the situation.
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  So I always wanted to tell my story. One of the good things
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  is that I liked to write too, and I used to write in it.
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  But I was in junior high school. My eighth grade teacher, Miss
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  Giskin, she told me that I had a creative writing ability. That's why
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  I think what teachers say are so important. So that when I started to
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  write, and then you know, eventually as I got older and I started
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  self publishing and you know, entering contests and different things. So that's how
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  my writing began. I always wanted to help when I was in school,
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  I always wanted to help somebody. That's I didn't know what profession I wanted
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  at first. Then I wanted to be a teacher until I went to seventh
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  grade. And then after I saw how my class how treated the teachers,
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  I said, I'm not going to do this. And then after that,
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  you know, I just wanted to help somebody, and then I became a
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  social worker. Other than that, I'm a Christian. I love the Lord
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  I am. I like a lot of things. I'm an avid knick Knicks
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  fan, as everybody knows. I love basketball, I love New York Liberty,
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  New York Mets. I'm a sports fan. I love Broadway plays.
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  I love like reading and writing, I love I just like cultural things I
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  like, and I like travel, and I've traveled to thirty six states into
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  a number of different countries. And those are the kind of things like.
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  I love my family and I have great friends, and I think that's basically
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  a quick overview of my life. One of the things I can't say,
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  I think I know with us, our families are very close. Our families
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  are very intertwined with each other. And I think you've known me from what
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  about age eight nine. Yeah, you was a little girl, and yeah,
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  and you were also my youth leader at church when I first went into
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  teams. And I always remember one of the things about you was that you
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  always knew when something was bothering me or any one of us. And you
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  always used to say, find that outlet to express what you feel. Find
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  that outlet to you know, don't keep it by the inside. And I
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  think that was how we started on this mentor mentee path. And it has
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  and I'm what I'm telling my age, but I'm forty one, and it's
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  it's been like this for a very long time time. Who was somebody else
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  beside your teacher that you mentioned, who else was like a mentor to you
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  throughout life, throughout any situation that you've dealt with. Growing And I had
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  great on, some great aunts, and one of my aunts when she was
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  very cultural and she took us to a lot of places. She took us
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  like two Mets games, to the circus to play the different things radio City
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  every year. So she was like a mentor to me in terms of the
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  cultural things. I had a great godmother who was always there for me and
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  I could always talk to her. But then after I got involved, Like
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  I said, I got involved in church. I had a great spiritual mother,
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  Carrie Coston, who was like fear for me spiritually or that you know,
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  she was there for every episode of my life, everything that I went
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  through. And also besides that, I just you know, when I first
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  was working in social work, I worked in Forced the Kid and then I
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  ended up working in aging, which I work with senius now, when I
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  had mentors in that field. So I think in every aspect of my life,
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  I've had a mentor or people who mentored me. And I've always looked
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  at people to mentor me because I know they know more and they know and
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  they can help me. That is so true. I think one of my
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  first jobs was with you at the Department of Aging. It was a summer
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  job. Yes, I think I would worked at the Veterans Veterans Hospital one
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  okay, and that's you know you talk. Mentorship is something that I think
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  everybody needs to have a mentor because as we go through life, we don't
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  always know what path we're going to be on, and we need to be
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  able to talk to somebody, have somebody to hear our ideas and tell us
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  and correct us when we are not going the way that we should. You've
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  done that for me, for me quite often that you would say nat.
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  You know every if you know me, you know I have a mouth on
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  me and I can get it a little bit of it when I want to.
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  And it takes certain people. Certain people have that knack of wheeling me
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  back in, and you're one of those people that have always had that nat
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  of reeling me back in when you know. I just want to be like,
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  I don't want to be bothered with this, but I do agree that
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  having great mentors, having people in your life that can help guide you through
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  life and through every aspect of it, it's needed. Um. I also
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  I remember too, when you fifth with you as a youth leader, you
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  are we are awesome a youth leader. But you had a hands in so
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  many of our lives that even today, I know some of my cousins,
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  some of the friends that I grew up with, they still even your family,
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  you know, I go back to that, our families are close.
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  But the impact that you've had on many of us, a lot of us
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  have gone on to do great things, and I think that was because you
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  always have this nurturing way about you. It's never a well you should do
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  this, it's always are you sure you want to do this? Do you
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  think this is right? Let's let's sit and let's think about it. And
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  it's always been in our loving and a corrective way. And I feel a
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  lot of people today, a lot of young adults, a lot of teenager,
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  a lot of children, they need that in this society. It's maybe
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  it was because of the generation that we came from. You know, we
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  had that a lot, but nowadays it's not so much as it should be.
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  One question I have for you, and I know we've talked about that,
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  You've written books and you self published. What took you down that lane
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  of self publishing? The self publishing is not easy. Well, to be
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  honest with you, I really wasn't going to do that. What happened was
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  I love writing poetry. Poetry is one of my favorite things that I you
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  know, I started out writing so I would write poetry for everything. I
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  would write poetry for somebody's birthday, somebody's anniversary, all kinds of celebrations.
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  Then I started writing them for things on the job, when somebody got promoted
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  or when there was like a black history celebration, and I started writing all
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  these different poems, and people kept saying to me, well, how can
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  we get your poems? Where are your poems? Why don't you publish?
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  So really it was people asking for it that put the idea in my head.
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  And then I was going to try to publish it, but I heard
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  that, you know, poetry is not something that's like that publishers are really
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  looking for. They don't look for poetry like they look for like a story
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  or a narrative. So I wanted to publish my poems. So I talk
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  to a couple of people who are self published, and I went down that
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  road, and you know, there was some problems, a couple of problems
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  too, but it worked out. I know, I remember when when I
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  when I told you that I published my book and I self published, and
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  I know, even coming up to that, actually deciding to do it,
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  I think we've had conversations about self publishing and if that was the right way
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  to go and you know, traditional publishing, but you always said make sure
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  whatever you do, that you're comfortable with what you are putting out, who
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  the lanes that you're using to put that out. And even I have to
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  give you your props because you are the ones that check you. You segued
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  me to to this podcast and to even meet Angela because once I published the
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  book, no I think even before Yeah, once I published the book,
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  you tagged me into join the group. And that's how this old howlet's chat
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  when that also came about? So you kind you kind of handing a lot
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  of things with me personally and professionally. I just realized, well, right
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  right now, we're gonna take a quick commercial break and then we're gonna come
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  back and we're gonna talk some more whifty phenomenal Linda Piles. So we'll be
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  back in a few seconds. Get this thing, I feel like its authors.
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  Here's your chance to get to your work seen across the world, be
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  a part about fifties United Authors of Aspiring Authors mag Here's your chance to have
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  your your energy and your work broadcast throughout the work. All right, and
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  we are bad, So I have a question for you. How many books
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  have you written so far? You got it? Yeah, we can't hear
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  you. I think you're muted. All right, just been with this guy.
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  You can hear it. We can't hear you. You may have to
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  go out and come back in in it may have happened. Sometimes there's some
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  technical issues. Can she hear us? You can hear us? I don't
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  think she should hear us? You can? Can you hear us? She
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  can't. I don't think so she's probably gonna have to go out and come
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  back again. Yeah, so you can go ahead. Okay, Well they're
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  having just a little bit of technical issues and Rolanda would be back with us
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  shortly. But I'm so glad that you guys got to see you're getting to
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  see this conversation between a mentor and the mentee. And you know, as
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  I said, over the years, she has been such a big part of
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  my journey of my life and a lot of us that know her, she's
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  imparted so much to us that she's such a treasure, such a gem,
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  and it's so great to have that, you know, in your life.
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  It's great that you can have someone that you can piggyback your ideas on and
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  have someone that can even critique your work. Because this with me putting out
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  my manuscript, there was times where there was stuff that I had and I
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  wasn't sure if I liked it the way that I wanted to be and I
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  said it to really on that she'll she'll give me my little critiques here and
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  there, but it's always been in a loving and corrective way. And you
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  know, we need to do more of that in our society. We need
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  to be able to mentor a lot of our younger generation because they need it,
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  you know. For us in this all of us eighties and nineties babies,
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  even some two thousand babies, early two thousands, we were fortunate to
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  have people that wanted had an interest in us and wanted to be there for
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  us, you know. And to be able to now sit as an adult
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  and talk with your mentor, that's the greatest thing that you can have,
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  and that shows that they have imparted such a great impact in your life as
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  an adult, as a young adult, as no matter what stage in life,
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  we all need it. I hope she can get back on, but
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  if not, you know, it's okay, we go. We roll with
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  the punches here on. Let's chat with now. You never know what you're
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  gonna get. But I love the fact that we can talk. You know,
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  I'll text her at three o'clock and not three o'clock in the morning,
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  No, but I've text her at late at night and just bounce off ideas
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  on her and even with some of some of the other people that I have
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  as mentors in my life. You know, I feel that that is a
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  blessing that you can bounce ideas for from a person and they'll listen to you.
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  You know. So it's always good. It's always good, it's always
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  fun, and it's needed because we're as humans were ever learning. We never
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  stop learning, we never stop needing corrections. We always need someone to pull
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  us up by our bootstraps when no matter how old we get, no matter
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  what the situation is, we need someone that can be that voice of reason
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  for us. So find you a mentor. If you have a mentor,
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  continue to love on that mentor, you to life the wisdom that is being
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  imparted into you, and even sometimes you as a mentee, you in part
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  wisdom on your mentor. You know a lot of us don't know. It's
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  give and take, it goes, everything goes hand in hand. Life is
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  a revolving door and we need someone as someone needs us. So if you
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  always have that listening ear, always have a learning mindset. You know,
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  no matter where you go, no matter what you do, always be willing
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  to learn and always be willing to listen. Then it's it's imperative in this
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  life that we are in. So with that, tonight we are gonna wrap
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  it up. UM So my next show will be the ending of June.
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  Remember we come on every first and fourth Sundays at eight pm on YouTube,
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  Facebook and LinkedIn. UM. Yes, reciprocation, it does always no matter
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  what you do. UM. So we come on every first and fourth Sundays
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  at eight pm Facebook Live, YouTube, LinkedIn also and wrapping up with less
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  chat with Nat until now, Natalie, I just wanted to come on really
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  quick before you go off air because I wanted to UM roll back. UM.
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  She is trying to get back on, but it's not letting her own.
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  I don't know what it's going on. UM there seems to be some
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  technical difficulties with UM Facebook period because I tried to UM go live and it
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  booted us off of UM our normal platform, so I had to go back
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  age. So there is some technical issues. So I definitely want to get
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  her back on here because I know that UM she has a lot to say,
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  so if to give her opportunity to come back, So if you would
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  invite her. Yeah, I definitely. Y'all know here at the Crew podcast,
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  things happen. Um, those that follow know that, UM, we
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  don't stop, we keep pushing. But I like to extend her the opportunity
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  to come back. Um. I enjoyed the show. I hope you guys
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  enjoyed the show. And until next time. All right, y'all, you'll
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  learn my story and it's true. Don't forget about the little girl you once.
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  Don't matter what you're going through,