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Two T’s Getting the Tea with JACKIE GOLDSCHNEIDER · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: Two Teas in a Pod with Teddy Melli Cats and
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  Speaker 1: Tambra Jedge. Welcome back to two Teas in a Pod
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  Speaker 1: with myself and Tambra Judge. I'm so excited we're going
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  Speaker 1: to have Jacky from who You look beautiful. Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: You guys look great too. Thanks. I love the short
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  Speaker 1: hair on you. It's so much easier. And I've had
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  Speaker 1: extensions and for so many years. To not have any
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  Speaker 1: end is like the most fringed. Well, you have good
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  Speaker 1: enough hair, Like if I cut my hair that length,
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  Speaker 1: it would not look good. No, I thought that was
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  Speaker 1: going to be the case, but no, it's when it's long.
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  Speaker 1: I had like hair that goes into a V because
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  Speaker 1: it's so thin at the bottom. But yes, uh well
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  Speaker 1: that's that's the start, guys. Since is to Cheese Pod,
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  Speaker 1: where we will discuss our extensions and the damage that
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  Speaker 1: housewives will do to your hair. Um, Jackie, thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for joining us. Nice to be here. And
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  Speaker 1: I am an expert on how extensions can look bad
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  Speaker 1: on camera. So I think we all are Jackie. We
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  Speaker 1: all are at her moments. I feel like sometimes maybe
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  Speaker 1: the camera guys could like say, hey, your track showing
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  Speaker 1: there's like things for my first season where I had
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  Speaker 1: like a calic and then you could see the full
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  Speaker 1: blown track, like showing in my house. Sometimes they just
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  Speaker 1: do you dirty and focusing on that Like I honestly
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  Speaker 1: think they live for those moments. Yeah they do. They're like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: track is showing it's not her hair. This season has
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  Speaker 1: been crazy. The only thing wait I have is the
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  Speaker 1: season wasn't long enough. I know, I don't know why
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  Speaker 1: Jersey always gets very few episodes for some reason, but
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  Speaker 1: you know, I will say that those episodes are always
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  Speaker 1: like action packed. There never Yeah, they get great ratings,
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  Speaker 1: so I guess they know what they're doing. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: mean I personally like it that way. I think then
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  Speaker 1: each time I can learn, like and then they'll they
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  Speaker 1: still dive into personal story though, but I think it's
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  Speaker 1: because because ultimately I'll have a connection of some sort,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's good or bad. Nobody feels like strangers on
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  Speaker 1: the show, right because it's been the same people over
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  Speaker 1: and over. Yeah, we all really do know each other.
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  Speaker 1: So before we dive into the season in the reunion,
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  Speaker 1: let's start from the beginning. Um, how did you originally
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  Speaker 1: get cast on the show? Um? You know, I don't
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  Speaker 1: really know. I think they called so many people at
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  Speaker 1: the same time that they called me, because, um, like
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  Speaker 1: half my town was doing like the zoom phone calls
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  Speaker 1: and so I really felt like there was no chance
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  Speaker 1: that I was going to get it. Um, So they
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  Speaker 1: reached out to me. A casting director just reached out
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  Speaker 1: to me. And at the time, I was I had
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  Speaker 1: a pretty popular column in the newspaper, in one of
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  Speaker 1: the New Jersey newspapers. Um, but it was like a
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  Speaker 1: big New Jersey newspaper. It wasn't like a local rag
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  Speaker 1: and I was writing for the huff Post. I was
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  Speaker 1: writing for a few other places. So um, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I think they thought I had like a you know,
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  Speaker 1: like a voice, like I wasn't afraid to be opinionated.
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  Speaker 1: And then obviously I live in a beautiful home. So
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  Speaker 1: I think it all came together. Siggy was leaving, uh,
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  Speaker 1: but she was like the resident Jewish woman, and I
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  Speaker 1: think like maybe I was just, you know, the next
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  Speaker 1: Jewish woman on the list, and so I mean, it
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  Speaker 1: all just came together. I guess I was what they
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  Speaker 1: were looking for at the time. Had you ever filmed
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  Speaker 1: the scene before? No? No, no, I never thought and
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  Speaker 1: I always watched New Jersey, which I feel like, if
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna be on a TV show that you never watched,
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  Speaker 1: that's probably not the best move, Like who doesn't watch?
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  Speaker 1: But I got, you know, torn apart for actually being
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  Speaker 1: a fan of the show before I was on it,
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  Speaker 1: But I never saw that. I saw this tweet and
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  Speaker 1: I actually thought it was like quite rude that they
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  Speaker 1: continued like it was mean where they just keep digging
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  Speaker 1: in you are bro You were being interviewed by Brodie. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I was a fan on the show of the show. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and she and the person kept just like going into it,
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  Speaker 1: like and you're like, where when are you going to
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  Speaker 1: actually ask your question? Oh? That was at Bravo Con. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think that that was a set up. Listen, there's
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  Speaker 1: a certain member of my cast who has very many
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  Speaker 1: fans who hate me terribly and always have and they
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  Speaker 1: go after me and like at the beginning, it used
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  Speaker 1: to be like, oh my god, stop and now I
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  Speaker 1: could give a crap. That happened to me was Bravo Con. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that was ridiculous. So is it fair to say I
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  Speaker 1: am I was a fan of the show. It didn't
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  Speaker 1: mean I was a fan of Teresa in me personally. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like because you actually before when I was on the show,
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  Speaker 1: I had no problem with her. I quite enjoyed watching
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  Speaker 1: her out first. I thought they were very entertaining because
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  Speaker 1: they weren't directed towards you. I ben't wanting to be
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  Speaker 1: friends with like everybody. I mean, I knew Margaret, but
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  Speaker 1: I came in like really open minded about the whole thing.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, I had the delusion that I was going
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  Speaker 1: to be the one who didn't fight with anyone, and
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  Speaker 1: I was just gonna be the voice of reasons down
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  Speaker 1: the toilet when you find out what everyone's saying about
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  Speaker 1: you behind your back. But you know, that's what I
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  Speaker 1: thought I was gonna do, be everyone's best. I have
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  Speaker 1: a very important question, Goad. Did everybody on the cast
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  Speaker 1: get new teeth? But you and Melissa said everybody's teeth
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  Speaker 1: were Wait, you got new teeth too. I got new
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  Speaker 1: teeth like three years ago, after my first time. I
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  Speaker 1: got your teeth, okay, but before the year I was
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  Speaker 1: one of the first. Yeah, did you guys all go
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  Speaker 1: to the same guy we were? No? I went here
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  Speaker 1: in Jersey. I love my dentist, and he happens to
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  Speaker 1: do beautiful cosmetic dentistry. So I stuck with him. But
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  Speaker 1: they all went to I think a bunch of them
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  Speaker 1: went to the same one. I know Margaret used Appa
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  Speaker 1: that was on your cast used, Um, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Theresa just got has done. I don't know who she is.
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  Speaker 1: Jen probably went to Turkey. I don't know. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know who everyone else is. Teeth, I mean I have
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  Speaker 1: fake teeth, I understand, but everybody's teeth were like I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. And I don't know if it's because they
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  Speaker 1: were so spray tand that it made it stand out
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  Speaker 1: more or what. But it was like, I mean every reunion,
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  Speaker 1: everyone's teeth big. It could have been that. Now, it
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  Speaker 1: could have been just the lighting. Yeah, we're on a
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  Speaker 1: group text and world, Like everybody got new teeth, maybe
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  Speaker 1: we should get new teeth. I mean, this is not
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  Speaker 1: subtle about their changes AFT. So I mean this is
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  Speaker 1: a judgment free zone. But um, and then who do
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  Speaker 1: you think when you joined the cast, Like, was there
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  Speaker 1: somebody that you authentically just effortlessly connected with. Well, I
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  Speaker 1: was already friendly with Margaret, but so when we when
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  Speaker 1: I started on the show, like we weren't as close
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  Speaker 1: and we just instantly got super close. I didn't know
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  Speaker 1: Melissa at all, and we instantly connected. And we've been
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  Speaker 1: very close friends since, the three of us especially, we
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  Speaker 1: love being together. I love you guys together, and I
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  Speaker 1: love Melissa, I love Margaret, I love I love all
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  Speaker 1: you guys. Well, so I have to ask I I
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  Speaker 1: understand we've been talking. We were just we did a
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  Speaker 1: recap episode last week about the reunion, and then we're,
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  Speaker 1: you know, having you on, and we're talking about how
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  Speaker 1: you know, when you guys are filming, Teresa's consistently asking
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  Speaker 1: Melissa to have her back, like always, like Melissa, you
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  Speaker 1: have to leave. But then when we found out that
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  Speaker 1: Melissa wasn't going to be a bridesmaid, and Louise sisters
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  Speaker 1: were if you're just gonna have your kids be bridesmaid,
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  Speaker 1: who cares? But it it's a particular slap in the face,
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  Speaker 1: I would be very insulted. I think Melissa has gotten
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  Speaker 1: used to that dynamic in their relationship. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: don't think that anything Teresa does surprises her. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: on the one hand, it's Teresa's wet, she's entitled to
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  Speaker 1: do what she wants. On the other hand, it's just,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it speaks volumes about what she the amount
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  Speaker 1: of respect she has for her brother and her brother's wife.
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  Speaker 1: How often do you think that they spend time together
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  Speaker 1: when you're not on camera? Um, but you know it
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  Speaker 1: goes through waves, like I'll talk to Melissa, they'll spend
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  Speaker 1: like a holiday together, and they'll feel warm, and I know,
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  Speaker 1: you know, when Louis first came around, they did a
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  Speaker 1: lot of like double dates and everything like that, and
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  Speaker 1: then it's just like out of nowhere, it'll be like
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  Speaker 1: cold as ice. You know. She doesn't obviously tell me
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  Speaker 1: everything that happens behind the scenes with her and Teresa,
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  Speaker 1: So I don't think it's great. I don't think that
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  Speaker 1: they have a great relationship. I mean, you could see
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  Speaker 1: that in the reunion episode that just passed. They clearly
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  Speaker 1: don't have a great relationship. But I'm also not you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not there when you know, the cameras are down,
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  Speaker 1: so I don't know really what happens. It must be
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  Speaker 1: frustrating though I can't imagine, Like I I can't imagine
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  Speaker 1: fighting with your family, of fighting with strangers on TV, fine,
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  Speaker 1: but fighting with your family. And they didn't do twelve
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  Speaker 1: years and they do a good job of it. I
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  Speaker 1: could not do it. But I felt like, finally Melissa
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  Speaker 1: at the reunion, she spoke her mind to Teresa and
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  Speaker 1: she stuck up for herself and it made me happy.
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  Speaker 1: And I hope it sticks. I know, because all season
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  Speaker 1: I kind of felt like she was, you know, she
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  Speaker 1: didn't want to say anything. She was afraid to say something.
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  Speaker 1: You know, she don't want to upset Joey shet her,
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  Speaker 1: you know, sister in law. So it was so nice
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  Speaker 1: to hear her speak her mind. Yeah, yeah, I agree,
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  Speaker 1: but it was less shocking to me. Like in my mind,
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  Speaker 1: I kind of always thought that Melissa and Teresa. You
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  Speaker 1: could feel it on Girls Trip to me, like, these
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  Speaker 1: two don't really like each other. They're not They're not
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  Speaker 1: the closest of friends. You could see the dynamic between
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  Speaker 1: Melissa and Kyle and they were having this amazing time,
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  Speaker 1: and I just didn't feel that way ever between Teresa
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  Speaker 1: and Melissa. What we're led to believe watching the show
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  Speaker 1: is that Teresa and Dolores are very close. Do you
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  Speaker 1: think they're actually that closer? It's just loyalty at this point, now,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I am, I have just recently gotten really
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  Speaker 1: close with Dolores and I. We've always loved each other,
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  Speaker 1: but we've recently started becoming more like friends. And the
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  Speaker 1: fight was real on the show. We just we we
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  Speaker 1: go back and forth, but we really, you know, we
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  Speaker 1: really do like each other and enjoy each other. So
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  Speaker 1: I don't really know what goes on between her and Teresa.
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  Speaker 1: There is something off and I don't know what it is.
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  Speaker 1: I I don't think it's the full story that she
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  Speaker 1: just wasn't in a relationship. I think there's something more
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  Speaker 1: to it. I definitely don't think they're as close as
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  Speaker 1: they used to be. But I have no idea. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what might have happened. Um, I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what it could be. But I just get the sense
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  Speaker 1: that it's something more than her just not have, you know,
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  Speaker 1: being in a relationship. I was single for all those
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  Speaker 1: years at all. Yeah, I think we've talked to about Teresa.
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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about you. You really put it out there
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  Speaker 1: this year. You really did. You really opened up your
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  Speaker 1: heart and shared your story that probably helped tons of people. UM,
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  Speaker 1: do you regret it? Are you happy? No? No, I'm
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  Speaker 1: so happy I did it. I mean, I kept it
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  Speaker 1: a secret for a really long long time. I mean
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  Speaker 1: before the show was like fourteen years. And then when
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  Speaker 1: I got on the show, my only thought was like,
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  Speaker 1: how the hell am I going to hide this, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because obviously I didn't want to talk to the world
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  Speaker 1: about it, and I didn't even tell my husband about it.
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  Speaker 1: It was my secret, and and sometimes I would be
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  Speaker 1: thinner than others and you could see and maybe she
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  Speaker 1: has a problem. But I really tried to keep it
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  Speaker 1: under wraps. And you know, for three years on the show,
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  Speaker 1: it was just like, oh my god, wrapped with anxiety,
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  Speaker 1: like what am I going to do in this food
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  Speaker 1: scene if they want me to eat this? Or like
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  Speaker 1: how am I going to go on afford it? Not
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  Speaker 1: exercise my I worked out like systems that I had rules.
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  Speaker 1: I have like guidelines for her how I would eat
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  Speaker 1: and or how I would split meal, or how I
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  Speaker 1: would move food around a plate, and like get away
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  Speaker 1: with it. You know. Fortunately, in the real Housewives world,
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  Speaker 1: you sit down to a meal, you just have to
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  Speaker 1: avoid your food for about four minutes until there's a
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  Speaker 1: big screaming fight and everyone runs away from the table, right.
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  Speaker 1: So I didn't really because it's not and yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: half the cast doesn't eat on camera anyway, or someone's
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  Speaker 1: on a stupid diet, like so I could get away
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  Speaker 1: with it, um, But you know, last year it was
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  Speaker 1: really really hard for me, um, whether or not I
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  Speaker 1: cried too much. Like besides the point, my family was
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  Speaker 1: really from that. My husband was freaking out that they
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  Speaker 1: were using his name to drive a storyline. But he's
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  Speaker 1: really like the greatest guy you ever wanted meat off camera,
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  Speaker 1: he seems like sweet, hard working, like coach of the year,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and like his name was just dragged the
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  Speaker 1: entire season for a storyline. And I had a tremendous
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  Speaker 1: amount of guilt over that. My husband was constantly upset
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  Speaker 1: about it. My kids were crying about it because we
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  Speaker 1: would fight about it, you know. So it was really bad.
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  Speaker 1: My thought my daughter thought we were gonna get divorced.
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  Speaker 1: It was terrible. And then after the season aired we
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  Speaker 1: came to a resolution. Then when the season was on
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  Speaker 1: the air, was like all hell broke loose again. And
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  Speaker 1: then she was like implying she was bringing evidence to reunion.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, what is she going to do with me
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  Speaker 1: at reunion? And like the whole for eight months, I
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  Speaker 1: don't think I had no appetite. I was sick to
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  Speaker 1: my stomach. I was really upset, and I started the
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  Speaker 1: next season. I was going into the next season like emaciated,
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  Speaker 1: really amaciated. Did you ever think about not going back?
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  Speaker 1: Think that we had worked it out? You know, reunion
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  Speaker 1: was Yes, if reunion didn't go well and she was
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  Speaker 1: coming after me again, I might have walked away because
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: I was gonna do whatever Evan needed me to do
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  Speaker 1: at that point, um, because like, listen, this show is
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  Speaker 1: a compliment to my life. It's not my whole life.
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  Speaker 1: So if if my husband hated it, I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 1: do it anymore. You know. But at reunion, Theresa was
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  Speaker 1: really apologetic. You know, they hugged. He felt it about it.
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  Speaker 1: He gets along great with Louis, so I was like,
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  Speaker 1: why not. He was like, yeah, go for it, Let's
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  Speaker 1: do another season. But when I came into the last season,
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  Speaker 1: I was amazingated. You could see it in all the
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  Speaker 1: beginning scenes, and I said, you know what, here's my
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  Speaker 1: opportunity that if I'm ever going to stop doing this
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  Speaker 1: to myself, if I do it on camera, then I
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  Speaker 1: know I'm not going to let all these people watching
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  Speaker 1: me see me fail. I'm not going to show them
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  Speaker 1: like you can have an eating disorder and try to stop,
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  Speaker 1: but in the end it's too hard, so don't bother.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I wouldn't do that. So the minute I
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  Speaker 1: decided to come clean about it, doing it in front
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  Speaker 1: of everybody was so therapeutic for me. That's I mean,
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  Speaker 1: it's huge. I mean the accountability to yourself but also
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  Speaker 1: to others is huge. Accountability to others was really what
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  Speaker 1: got me over. The hardest part of it was it
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  Speaker 1: hard to watch back. No, it wasn't that bad. Um,
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  Speaker 1: it was you know, certain times I felt like, oh god,
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  Speaker 1: are people going to understand, you know, the ice cream scene.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know if people would really understand how hard
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  Speaker 1: it can be to eat ice cream. I thought people
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  Speaker 1: were going to think it was like maybe me like
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  Speaker 1: just being like over the top or like me make it.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's hard to understand and eating disorder unless
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  Speaker 1: you've had one. And people really really loved it and
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  Speaker 1: supported it and could see themselves in that scene, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and it gave people a lot of hope, and and
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  Speaker 1: so I was, you know, I get nervous for the scenes,
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  Speaker 1: but nothing has been you know, a disappointment for me
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  Speaker 1: so far. And I think also because it's not a
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  Speaker 1: forced storyline, it's really happening, and it was happening in
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  Speaker 1: real time. Yeah, any of the girls, doubt you are
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  Speaker 1: who was most supply. I didn't share it with anybody
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  Speaker 1: but Margaret while I was going through it because I
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  Speaker 1: didn't really love to talk about it too much. And
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  Speaker 1: I felt like there's a lot of judgment around eating
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  Speaker 1: disorders if you don't understand them. Um. Also, I didn't
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  Speaker 1: like if people would say to me, well, you didn't
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  Speaker 1: look like you had an eating disorder, like that would
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  Speaker 1: get like, yeah, there's lots of triggers, you know. If
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  Speaker 1: people would tell me, oh, you look so healthy now,
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  Speaker 1: like to me, I hear that differently, you know. So
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  Speaker 1: I just I didn't want to throw myself off, so
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  Speaker 1: I didn't really talk about it with too many people. Um.
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  Speaker 1: And now that I'm like well into recovery, I'm happy
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  Speaker 1: to talk about it with everyone and anyone. That's so good. No,
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  Speaker 1: I think it's helped so many people. And your vulnerability
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  Speaker 1: and just even seeing your kids and how excited it
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  Speaker 1: made them. I mean, I think that was so like
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  Speaker 1: aspirational all of those things. I thought it was beautiful,
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  Speaker 1: and I loved your Instagram. I think it was your
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: Instagram story where you're talking putting on your jeans and
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: oh god, yeah, you know. I still haven't thrown them out.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: I have them here, but like they're they're useless. But
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: I really I didn't let myself get upset about it.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: It is what it is. Um. Another big topic of
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: the reunion prenuptial agreements. So when we're on the topic,
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: do you want to Evan have one? Do you believe
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: in prenups? Yeah? First of all, I was a lawyer.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: I mean I'm in I'm technically in retirement mode right now,
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: just so I don't have to do continuing education anymore.
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: But I can come out of that at any point. Um.
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: So yes, I was actually a divorce attorney for a year,
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: so I know that anything can go south. Um. I
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: strongly believe in prenups. I do not think that they
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: indicate that you ever intend to end your marriage. And
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: my marriage is beautiful and happy and like built on
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: a lot of trust and we have no intention of
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: ever leaving each other. But I think a prenup is
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: a really, really good idea for anybody. I think so too.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: We have a prenup as well, do not you don't, Well,
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: you're just you're more trusting. You guys come in with
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: equal email. I have nothing and my husband had a
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: lot um and now, but you know, you have to
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: you have to put in your asked, like you know,
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: like if we're my dad were to pass away, all
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: those crazy things that you don't want to have to
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: think about, you have to write that in. So even
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: though I didn't have a trust and blah blah blah,
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: so we both had things to ultimately protect. But I mean,
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: California is also like a no fault state. There's all
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: these things like knobs are really kind of bs out
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: here anyway. But we did it mainly because my husband
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: came from nothing and he built this huge life and
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: he supports his whole family, all of his you know,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: his parents and siblings, like and he was so scared
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: of marriage because he was scared there was going to
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: be someone that was going to take away everything he
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: had worked for. And I was like, listen, I'm not here.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: I don't need to own Skyline, like that's your business,
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Like I want to create my own life with you.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: And so everybody's you know, to each his own. But
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: for me, that's how I felt. I mean, I rode
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: horses for a living and like got paid cash. Like
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: it was not it was not the same. Here's a
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: random topic. Okay, we've recently discovered that New Jersey is
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: the only franchise that doesn't hold something in their intra. Yeah,
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: why do you know? Why? What would you want me?
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: What would we hold? Um? Either a tomato for tomato sauce? Um?
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: Does anyone hold a glass of wine? Because somebody holds
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: a Mehito they hold the mehito somewhere maybe Miami and
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: Miami holds mom. I would say, either a glass of wine,
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: a tomato, or Yeah, I don't know what we would hold.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: You know, I think it's dangerous because we probably throw
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: it at each other. So whatever we held should be soft.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: Our diamond things that we hold for Michael that I
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: used to hold from Michael's um. They were quite heavy,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: but they were pretty cheap. They're only fourteen bucks. Uh.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: Have you been prefacing now how every time you say
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: an analogy? Have you been pressing that you're saying an analogy?
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: I haven't used an analogy on the show ever. Since yes,
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: I'm about to use an analogy. Guys. I mean, it's
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: pretty sad ding ding that happened right now. We'll never
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: make that mistake again. And we have to ask because
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: it's everywhere right now. Did you get the Vickie you
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: can't talk about anything? Yea figured blinking, But I mean
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: everything on Bravo's fluid. Yeah, so I can't talk about anything. Answer,
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: I don't take a little break, have a little like
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: not is busy, life is fluid, and like I said before,
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I don't I actually really don't know anything yet to
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: be honest with you. But like I said before, whatever
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: happens like this show, I've love to be on it,
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: but the show is always a compliment to my life
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: and not my whole life, and so whatever happens, like
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm okay with it. Like, but I don't
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: know really what's happening yet. So let's do a hypothetical.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: The hypothetical you know who are mean, I've been, and
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: let's do it. If you're you know what, I really
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to end. I can't answer it really
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: even if it's a hypothetical, because you know, I don't
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: want to piss off the Bravo gods. But I really
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: don't know anything yet. Everything is fluid, no decisions have
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: really been made yet, so I I really don't know. Okay,
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: I get it, we get it. The rumors are the worst.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: It's especially when you can't answer them and like people
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: just assume what your state of mind is. So whatever,
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: I know. That's why I just answered them and got
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: in trouble. I just I just went straight and theyeah,
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: they said you can't say anything for four months, and
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: I went on Intagram and said, hey, guys, I got
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: fired for you. I was like, you know, I just can't.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: I couldn't live with the Instagram attacks. No really, honestly,
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: the truth is like I don't know yet, and no,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: they don't know yet, and nobody knows yet. Well, this
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: season is not even over yet, so I don't even
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: know how. They didn't really yet know. They did like
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: to talk crop on Instagram, so but I've been asked
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: not to discuss it, so okay. So we have fan
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: questions that are less stressful. Um, they want to know
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: the story. I mean, they know when you met Evan,
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: but the story of you guys meeting but we met
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: at a really like a dirty like beer bar in
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: New York City, a very famous one called Brother Jimmy's.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: And I was with my girlfriend. He was with one
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: of his friends. I noticed him there and then my
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: girlfriend I. I hadn't eating disorder at the time. It
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: was at the very beginning of it, so I wasn't
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: like thin yet, but I was really like, I couldn't
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: eat anything at this bar. But she was looking at
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: the menu, and he came over behind us and said, um,
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: I hear the filet mignon is great here, and like
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: I turned around and I was like, oh god, he
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: is so cute. And that was in that We just
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: hit it off and the rest is history. You guys
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: make the cutest couple. Thank you. So, somebody else, how
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: is your food therapy going? It's going great. So I'm
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: in um therapy twice a week with a therapist, and
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: then once a week I have a medical nutritionist, and
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: so with her, I do a lot of like how
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: can I replace like bad things in my diet? Like
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: I did a lot for a long time of like
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: filler food, so like really high fiber, low calorie foods
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: that made my stomach like being not you know, really
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: foods with no nutritional value. So I work on like
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: replacing that with good foods, eating intuitively, all stuff like that.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: In my therapy, I work on, like what are the
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: reasons why I did this in the first place? Why
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: do I starve myself when I get stressed out? Like
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: how do I you have a healthy relationship with myself
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: without using food emotionally? So the therapy is going great.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: I love it. I've learned life skills, coping skills, really
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: like what brings me happiness. I'm in such a good
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: place with that. Um. I'm having a hard time sometimes
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: adjusting to being a bigger size because I was so
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: thin for so long. Um. But you know, I'm working
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: on all of it, and it's it's really great. It's
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: it's such a you know, God send that therapist exists. Um,
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: I don't now I did pre COVID and then stop
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: with my trainer. Um. But so I don't now I
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: do push ups in the morning. But Evan loves yoga.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Do you do yoga? I do? I I love yoga
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: And for me also because you know, I was on
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: the opposite end where I would feed all of my
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: emotions like go over the top with you know, any
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: time I was having a bad day, I would need
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: to eat everything and did it in private, and it
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: just became that vicious cycle. Um. And for me, a
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: big thing is meditation. Oh yeah, meditation that helps. And honestly,
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: like people talk a lot about the obsession with exercise
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: and how that can be linked to it, but for me,
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: outdoor walks and having fresh air and just starting my
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: day with a little bit of you know, whether it's sunshine,
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: but you're in Jersey so not as much sun, but
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: just having that really sets the tone. So it's not
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: about like I'm punishing myself by doing this exercise. It's
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: I'm getting outside and moving my body and breathing in
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: the wonderful life that I have to start doing that
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: because for a very long time, my only workouts were
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: just like punishing really meant to keep me very thin.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: And so now I'm expanding more and it's great. I
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: done yoga twice. I love it. I find doing weight
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: training with heavyweights. Um, it's gonna sculpture body, and it's
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: gonna give you definition. It's going to give you the shoulders,
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: the arms that see yourself. I know, there's a lot
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: of things that I want to, like try so you
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: build your muscle. When you're building your muscle, you burn
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: more fat. You know that having your body, the more
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: fat you're gonna burn. So for me, that's like key,
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: Like I love all the others. I do it all
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: the yoga that I just you know what with all
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: my kids, sports and everything. And then like the show,
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: and I'm also like knee deep into writing a book
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: and so I just like I never had the time
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: for anything. So but um, I do look forward to
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: doing other things with my body physically other than like
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: just you know, like sprinting. Yeah, I know, you just
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: you'll figure out what you are figure out. That's what
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: I tell everybody. There's no right or wrong, it's whatever.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: It's for me, it's my mental state. Like what no
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: I need exercise? I do. Um. And then final question,
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: because I know we're running out of time. Your best
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: memory from Real Housewives of Jersey so far, Um, let's
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: see maybe my kid's birthday party, even though it got
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: called cheap. I like I just loved seeing all the
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: kids from the show, like all the boys jen Aiden's
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: boys and lists boys and my boys just like all
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: being together and like playing and enjoying each other. You
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: know I loved that. Um. I love celebrating my kid's
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: birthdays on camera so that I had them forever. Um
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: probably the times of my family that those are my
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: favorites that we did miss one more. Why why did
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: you say you don't want to be on Margaret's bad side?
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: These are fam questions only because no, no, no, listen,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: it's not because Margaret has anything on me. Margaret is
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: legit one of my very best friends. And I don't
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: know how well you know her, one of the most
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: supportive people you could ever meet in your life. It's
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: just that, you know, there's a Yiddish word called yanda.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: It's like you know you you know everything about it.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: She knows everything about everyone, and so I just feel like,
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: if you're gonna mess with her and you have got
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: one dirty in your past, she's gonna know it and
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: she's gonna toss it right back at you. So just
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: and she's gonna do it. Well, Luckily I'm clean as
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: a that's right. I love it. Thank you so much
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: for joining us, and you guys, I love talking to you.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: I really appreciate it, and thank you for changing so
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: many lives on the show by being Oh that's so sweet.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: Thank you. And and Timer, I'm so excited for Ultimate
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: Girls Trip to thank you. I can't wait either. I'm
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: actually asking that a big brother. You guys are killing it.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: Would you do Ultimate Girls Trip? Oh? Yeah? Hell yeah right?
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: Love it all right? Thanks guys, Bye bye. She was
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: so great, She's so sweet, she looks great, she looks amazing.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: That was so nice you guys, Thank you so much
• 28:49
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