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BONUS/ENCORE EPISODE: SO, THIS IS MY LIFE NOW: THINGS WE SAY WHEN WE ARE OVER 50 · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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  professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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  Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden Kendall.
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  Welcome everyone to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast for
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  women over 50. My name is Eden Kendall and with
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  me is Christine Stone. Christine is a professional
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  organizer of many years. I am professionally a mess but
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  getting better every single day for being a part of this
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  podcast. I agree, I think you're doing
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  great. Thank you.
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  Thank you. Today's topic is a really fun
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  one. It's this is my life now.
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  Yes, So this is my life now. And you know, it's not all
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  complaints. No, no, I think it's just
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  reality. It's just reality.
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  So, you know, sometimes the if this is my life now, Mark might
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  sound like we're saying like now I have to deal with this.
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  Well, some of it is that way, yeah, but not all of.
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  It not all of it. It just, have you ever heard
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  that term when it rains, it pours?
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  Yeah, that's what I feel like always seems to happen.
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  And now I think instead of saying when it rains, it pours.
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  It's like this is my life now, I mean.
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  This is just how. It.
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  Is this is how it's going to be? Roll with it.
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  Kind of and. You know, this, This remark
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  first came up when I had asked you about a weekend and we went
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  through all the different activities that were part of
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  that weekend. And then at the end you said,
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  well, this is my life now, right?
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  And we want to be sure that nobody thinks the reason I keep
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  stressing like this is not a complaint because a part, just a
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  little part of that weekend was also mom's doctor's appointments
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  and things like that, which is a privilege to be able to provide
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  that for your your relatives and your family members.
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  But it is different than the kind of day-to-day routine you
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  had when you were doing this with your kids.
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  Right now, you're doing it your parents.
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  Right. And it's not just your parents.
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  It's like your grown kids. I'm a grandma.
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  My daughter's pregnant again. I I don't know about Steve, but
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  my husband, he's like one of my kids.
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  Yeah, sometimes. Like, look, look what I have on
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  my wrist. And I'm like, what?
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  I don't see anything. You.
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  Know what I mean? You have to put on like magnify
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  batch. So, OK, you know.
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  So your doctor mom do him too. And then the dog threw up twice
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  and then I had to take her to the vet and she had eaten some
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  palm berries and was sick. You know, it's like it all
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  happens though. At one time everything.
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  And I got sick for like 3 full weeks.
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  I had COVID, not COVID. They didn't know what it was.
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  Well, my mom had to go to the hospital.
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  So here I am, like coughing into my mask and because I'm still
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  sick and you're like, can I have a tad bit of a break?
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  Just a little tiny bit. And the answer to that is no.
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  You'll you'll sleep when you're dead.
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  Yeah, you'll sleep when you're dead.
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  So that's what made me think of this, because it all seems to
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  always come at one time. Or the other day I woke up and
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  my hip was hurting and I was walking funny and my husband
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  said, what did you do? I said, don't know, this is my
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  life now. Things hurt.
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  Sometimes things hurt and you don't really know why they do.
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  You don't? Yeah.
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  Or you're just extra tired even though you used to do these
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  things when you were much younger, stay out late or what
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  have you, and you no longer can suck it up the way you used to
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  be able to. Anyway, we we found a fun meme.
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  So let me read you the meme and then we posted it in our ladies
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  only Facebook group and invited you all to add your own.
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  So first we'll start with the the meme.
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  Middle age is just walking around all day muttering things
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  like, what was I going to say? OK, that's a big one.
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  Yeah. I was just going to remind you
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  something. What?
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  What was I going to do? Yeah, why did I even?
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  Walk into this Why did I walk into this room?
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  Why did I come in here? That's one of them.
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  Did I already take my pill? Well, I have a system for that.
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  Because it was. Happening too much?
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  That's going to have to be 1 of your organizational tips.
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  Then how did I get this bruise? Big time.
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  Why am I sore? That's me.
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  Where did I leave my phone? OK, maybe not you.
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  Certainly me. Yeah, but I love Siri because I
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  just asked her where my phone is and it starts ringing.
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  I do that all the time. I'll I'm constantly asking her
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  where. She is.
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  I love her now. I used to hate her, but anyway.
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  So here's here's what you all said.
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  So thank you for everybody who chimes in when we ask these
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  questions. You are helping us with content
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  because obviously if you're coming up with it, we don't have
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  to, right? Oh, this is my life now, my
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  Libby. This is me saying this while I'm
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  looking at my phone. My Libby notification just went
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  off to say that I have a new library book that just came off
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  hold. This is my life.
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  Wait, what is Libby? Oh, I'll get to that.
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  But but I'm just saying that's not something younger me would
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  be saying. Younger me wouldn't be excited
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  that a library book just came off.
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  Hole. Yeah, I don't even know what
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  that is. OK, well, I'll tell you.
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  OK, Squeeze and sneeze. That's Margo, she said squeeze
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  and sneeze. Do you know what she means by?
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  That I definitely know what that means.
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  Yes, I do. Squeeze and sneeze.
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  Maybe this is my life now, Liz said.
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  When did I last charge change my estrogen patch?
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  Oh I love. That too.
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  When did I last change my estrogen patch?
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  This is my life now. Staying in bed after 7:00 AM and
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  not feeling guilty is glorious. It's heavenly, It's so nice.
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  It's heavenly. What a nice thing.
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  Is it bedtime yet? Doesn't have to be bedtime if
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  it's bedtime. Actually sleep time.
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  It can just be it's bedtime. And Leah and Morgan said it
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  best. I'm taking to my bed.
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  Yeah, I love that. Let's see, where did I leave my
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  readers? For me, the answer is every room
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  in the house. Yeah, but where did I leave my
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  glasses is a major, major thing. Where did I leave my glasses is
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  a constant? Well I I wear contacts so when I
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  take my contacts out I have to have glasses or I'm blind so I
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  never lose them because they're on my face.
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  So that's very fortunate for you.
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  You just wait, Tina said. That one, you just wait.
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  That's something I've said many. Times I say that a lot to you.
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  I always say that to you. You just wait.
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  You just wait and it's just a matter of a few years.
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  It matters. Cheryl added this one.
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  Did I tell you that already? I have told my husband the same
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  story over and over again so many times.
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  Or I tell him I've told him something and he'll say no, You
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  must have told someone else that story.
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  So trying to remember who I've told what story.
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  To. Right, that is definitely.
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  Well that's why it's good to be married to someone your own age
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  because they they are like I don't know, you might have but I
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  already forgot it so go ahead and tell it again.
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  She said my knees don't do that anymore.
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  I've said that many. Times so this is fun.
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  We we had a new a photo session the other day and I walked into
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  the photography studio and Chris was getting her photos done for
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  neatly designed her business before we were doing our joint
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  photos and she's crisscross applesauce on the ground.
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  And Carrie Wilson, our friend, the makeup professional that
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  you've met many times on this podcast, she and I took a little
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  aside and I was like, what's the over under on the cramp?
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  And she said, oh, she's getting a cramp, she's going to get a
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  cramp. Down there so sore from having
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  to sit like that for a. Long.
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  I mean, it was adorable, but. There was pain behind that
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  adorableness. Let's see.
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  So Savannah said. Things I thought I'd never say
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  back in my day. Oh, I say that all the time.
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  When did my mother's hands end up on my wrist?
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  Yes, I say that a lot too. When did 80s songs become
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  oldies? Well, imagine how I feel about
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  70s songs. Same girl.
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  Shame. Where is my AARP card?
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  Those kids today? We have a whole episode about
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  those kids today coming up and why that actually isn't
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  necessarily always the case. Yes, go around me.
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  Go around me, yeah. Go around me is great.
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  Oh my gosh. OK, Robin says, eating supper at
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  5:15. I do that.
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  I told my husband I'm you know, I will keep it warm for you.
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  But if I eat after like 5:00, I have officially become old.
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  If I eat after 5:00, I don't digest properly.
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  Honestly, I have to eat like by a certain amount of time in
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  order to really digest my food. That's part of getting older,
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  like you wouldn't normally eat at. 5:00 Well, considering
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  digestion as part of when you're going to eat is definitely an
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  old person, right? Like I don't think ever when I
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  was trying to figure out what time we were going to meet for
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  dinner before going out afterwards, I ever said the
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  words digestion. Oh yeah, I'm all about the
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  digestion now. Yeah, totally.
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  OK, let's see, Stacey has kind of a longer 1.
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  So I put I literally had to put my readers on getting a
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  trampoline for the grandkids and then loving it.
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  But they always want me to jump with them.
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  So now I I keep those little annoying panty liners on hand
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  for when they want Mimi to jump with them.
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  OK, this is my life now, she says.
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  Oh, yeah. And my, I was just with my
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  grandson and he has a chair that turns around, like, spins
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  around. He's like, come on, CC, get on
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  the chair. And I'm like, no, CC gets dizzy.
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  I mean, I can't go on a chair and have someone just spin me
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  around and around. He can go.
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  He can go for 20 minutes. That's youth for you.
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  I mean, like young people, young kids, they can spin and spin.
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  You wouldn't catch me spinning, skating around and around and on
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  anything. No chance, no way.
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  I took a pole class once. Oh God.
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  Just, you know, for our show that we do on on TV, we try all
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  these different things. It was called roller pole.
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  I was on roller skates and I spun around and I was getting
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  seasick, right? I couldn't do it.
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  I was like, how do you guys do this?
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  How do professional skaters? I don't know do spins.
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  I can't do anything that spins around.
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  Kim said. Do I have a mustache?
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  Oh yeah. Where we are on this day, Aaron
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  says. Why did I stand up?
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  Why did I come into the kitchen? Do we really have to go tonight?
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  Well, that's me. Do we really have to go tonight?
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  And when you've run out of excuses why you can't say you
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  can't go, right? Like that's being older.
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  It's like, oh God, I've used that excuse so many times.
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  I'm gonna. I don't have anything left.
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  How did my keys get in here? That's Jill.
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  Thank you. Jill Michelle's just going with
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  the flow. She says all of that Oh not sure
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  if I already told you or if I just I just thought this what
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  day is it today that's. Another Oh, I do that all the
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  time. That's more for, I think if you
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  don't have the 9:00 to 5:00. No, I think we're used to
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  looking at our phones for everything.
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  And if your phone isn't in front of you, I, if you asked me
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  today, I know it's Monday, but you know what I mean?
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  Like you're constantly like, what's today's date?
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  What's today's date? Because you're used to just
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  looking at your phone. Here's one I absolutely love,
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  Cheryl said. Can you turn down the music in
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  the car so I can see where I'm going?
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  I have to turn down the music to follow a map.
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  I just can't do both. I can't.
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  And then Aaron also said getting old isn't for sissies.
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  It's not for sissies, not for the weak, No, no.
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  Together, we can save lives. I mean, try being with your
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  grandson for a week. Yeah.
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  I mean, it's not for the week, I'm telling you.
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  Because it's like, Cece, come on.
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  Get on the floor. Cece, let's go here.
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  Let's see. You know, they're busy, busy,
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  busy, busy. And I'm like, oh gosh.
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  Let me ask you a question too. Do you ever feel this is such an
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  odd thing to feel the guilt about it?
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  Like I'll tell you, I feel like I'm constantly trying to shield
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  my kids from me getting older. I.
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  Used. To you did I used to is that one
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  of those just a few more years. And yeah, now I don't, I don't,
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  I'll say, honey, I wish I was 10 years younger or 20 years
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  younger. You know, I'll say stuff like
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  that. Because if not, they forget how
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  old I really AM. And then they'll be like, come
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  on, let's. And I'm like, mom doesn't know.
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  It was my daughter's birthday this weekend and she was having
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  a little get together and they were doing drinking games, beer
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  pong and all of these games and cup.
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  I don't even remember what they're all called.
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  I know everyone you know around me knows what these games are,
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  but there were tons of them, just all of them.
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  And I, we stopped by just to say happy birthday and all the
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  friends wanted us to stay. And I had to say, listen, that's
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  not something that sounds like a great time to us.
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  We're not going to sit if you would add some games of skill,
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  you want to play Jenga, add some other.
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  Games, right? Like Scrabble.
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  Put some other games in there, you know I and you know I'm even
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  willing to do a pull up contest again.
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  Give me your best. But I'm not playing a drinking
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  game against a 25 year old. No, no way.
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  No, those days that really that. Ship has.
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  Sailed that ship has sailed with the drinking games.
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  I just in general. Do find myself sometimes wanting
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  to, I don't know, you know, I just feel guilt, guilty, or I
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  just want to protect my babies from knowing that mommy and
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  daddy are getting older. And I feel like because it's sad
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  when you realize that about your parents.
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  Well, it's even sadder when you have grandkids because you do
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  want to do a lot of things that you know, you may not have the
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  staminate. Not that you can't do for short
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  periods of time, but it's the longer periods of time.
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  Even my husband because he was such a St. but he happened to be
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  having sciatica the week we were there where his back low back
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  was killing him because. This is his life.
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  Now, Yeah, yeah, because this is his life now and he just put on
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  such a brave face to be able to do everything.
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  But little did he know he had like a salon pause and took some
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  anti inflammatories. And that can we put that in our
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  products. We love the salon pause patch.
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  God, that is like the best invention they ever made.
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  If. You don't know what that is that
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  we'll put that in one of our products we love.
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  You buy them at CVS and Walgreens.
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  Yeah, so he. Had a patch on a paint.
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  Patch on. He had already taken a couple
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  anti inflammatories in order to play with his grandson.
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  Yeah. So yeah, I mean, I, I don't.
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  First of all, he's tall, so that's not helping.
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  Yeah, and they like to do everything on the floor, you
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  know what I mean? Kids like to play cars on the
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  floor, do everything on the floor.
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  And it's like, we can get down, but it's getting up.
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  That's the tough part, so. One of you has to stay up just
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  in pain. Right, right.
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  So I mean, like I said, that's why I say, you know, this is
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  this is my life now. I mean, you just work around it.
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  But no, I don't. I used to feel guilty and I used
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  to hide it from them because not for them.
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  For me. I didn't want to think I was.
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  Getting old, vanity. Yeah, Now I'm like, yeah, sorry.
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  It is what it is. I can only do this or that or so
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  much of this or going out till a certain amount of time.
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  I have limits. I have boundaries.
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  I like though, that it's kind of now spoken about more.
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  You know, there was a time where if you were not the party
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  animal, if you were not the one going out, people would you
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  whether they were, they weren't judging you, you would think
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  they were right. And I do enjoy the fact that now
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  we're this whole community that embraces it to the point where
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  it's it's a running joke. Or you can be real about it, you
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  know what I mean? Like now I love being around
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  other like 50 somethings and 60 somethings because they're not
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  trying to hide it and act like you know what I mean?
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  Like they're like, oh, me too. Or I like to be in bed by this
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  time too. Or do just walking for a form of
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  exercise and not hit class. You know what?
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  I. Mean like, yeah, it doesn't have
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  to be that intense. Right, exactly.
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  Doesn't. So I think the whole, you know,
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  just the whole thing of getting older, being grandparents doing
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  even my kids age because they're five years apart.
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  You know what you did five years ago for this one?
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  It's like, oh geez, I'm going to be 70 years old before.
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  Yeah, the the young 1 needs to get on it.
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  It's like, wow, that time flew quick.
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  Yeah. So yeah, I just think you have
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  to accept it and, and I used to say, why does everything happen
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  all at the same time? Because that's life.
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  It's just life. Happened.
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  It doesn't spread itself out so you have time to recoup.
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  It all happens at the same time. So if you find yourself saying
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  this is my life now, that's probably why.
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  So we have an organizational tip and we talked about 1 before we
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  started, but I also, I kind of want to pivot because you
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  mentioned how you organize your pills.
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  Oh yeah. And so since we always, always
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  have an organizational tip at the end of every episode, why
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  don't we do the one about, about also, you know, keeping
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  everyone's appointments straight and what you're being told.
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  And let's, let's give a little bonus too, because I feel like
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  that's something that I mean, I, I feel like I could, could throw
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  a rock and hit a million people who are taking 3456 different
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  kinds of medications. Or vitamins, like I include
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  vitamins because I mean it's not just medication you've or like
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  did I take this? But you're like did I take that
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  vitamin C already or that vitamin DI can't remember.
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  So I pre every week on Sundays I have those little flip top
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  things with the days of the. Week.
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  And I pre load them because if I don't I really will forget what
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  I took 100%. OK, so your your your hack is
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  really the old school pill box. Right.
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  Or just as you take something, I always also for that day, if
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  it's vitamins, not not prescription medication that I
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  do in a pill box, but I will take a paper cup that I have and
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  I'll just put in what I've already taken out and then put
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  because I keep all my vitamins in a Lazy Susan, of course.
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  And then I'll of course, and then I put it back in the
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  cabinet. But I'll still have everything
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  I've already taken out in 1 cup so that I know I've already
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  removed it. You have to have some sort of.
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  System. So in other words, you can't
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  remove it, down it, open a new bottle, remove it, down it,
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  because then you don't know what you've taken out.
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  Of a bottle? No no and having a Lazy Susan.
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  Also you can just twirl it around and grab what you need.
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  Also, when I'm traveling, I have those little pouches that you
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  get from Walgreens, CVS, whatever, and it has a place
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  where you write the date and day or whatever and that's how I use
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  those for travel. Like AM PM Monday, what do?
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  You mean little pouches? They're little tiny pill
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  pouches, kind of like a Ziploc bag for pills, but they're
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  small. They're not.
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  Big and I write on them first and then I put in Monday,
• 20:13
  Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or AMPM or magnesium only in this
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  pouch. And that way when I'm traveling,
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  it's super easy to just throw in my purse that day if we're going
• 20:25
  out and about and eating. So I have a whole system on that
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  because for a while there, back in my young days, yes, I did
• 20:34
  forget when I took something and then I would just say forget it.
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  And that's how you have two daughters.
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  Just kidding. So that's what I do.
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  I definitely keep them organized.
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  So because that can be dangerous if you forget and you keep
• 20:47
  taking things that you forgot you already took.
• 20:50
  Yeah, that could be, even if it's vitamins.
• 20:53
  I don't know how, I don't know how I did things before I could
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  put alarms on my phone, honestly, because I do for my
• 21:00
  estrogen patch. It's Tuesday, Friday, and I have
• 21:03
  a little thing that will remind me Tuesday, Friday.
• 21:06
  It'll go off in the morning. So those are the days because I
• 21:08
  don't ever remember when it's something that's only twice a
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  week. That's a weird thing to have to
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  remember. That's funny.
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  Yeah, you do use your alarm. Of course I do.
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  I I never. Did so The other The other
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  organizational tip you were going to share was just about
• 21:21
  bringing notebooks to. Well, I I got my new planner,
• 21:25
  which we already kind of touched on a little bit, but the reason
• 21:28
  why I love having it don't have to be a planner.
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  It could be a notebook. It can be anything that you
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  write on, but when you're juggling different things going
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  on in your life. So for me, if I'm going to my
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  own doctor's appointment or a doctor's appointment for my mom
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  or dealing with, you know, something my daughter needs for
• 21:49
  her new apartment, you know, you just, you got so many things
• 21:52
  going, making lists by handwriting it and checking off
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  or crossing out when that's done that way, you just don't think,
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  oh, I forgot. And I know everyone's going to
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  say, well, you can do it in the notes app on your phone.
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  It's different. It's just different when you go
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  back to look at something. Not that you can't put it in
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  your notes app, but I always go home and then write it down so I
• 22:17
  know what's going on and I keep it open during the day so that I
• 22:21
  can check things off as I go. But writing it down, especially
• 22:25
  as you're older, everyone, it helps you remember things in
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  your brain that if I don't write it down, I don't remember so.
• 22:34
  Makes perfect sense. It makes great sense.
• 22:38
  All right. Well, we've, we've covered a
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  lot. And I think that the most
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  important thing is to just instead of trying to change the
• 22:46
  way things are, is to kind of slide into that humorous and
• 22:51
  accepting vibe and just really know that, you know, this is my
• 22:57
  life now. And once you stop, you know,
• 23:00
  really trying to buck the system, you can you can have a
• 23:02
  good chuckle about it with your friends.
• 23:04
  Yeah. So we would love you to be one
• 23:06
  of those friends. If you're wondering what is this
• 23:08
  Facebook only group that all of these women made that comment
• 23:12
  for? That's just on Facebook.
• 23:14
  Just search uncluttered and unfiltered ladies only.
• 23:17
  We do have every other social media way for you to connect
• 23:21
  with us, but this is the one that you actually have to
• 23:24
  request and then we let you in and then you can be a part of
• 23:27
  the conversations. Yep, kind of gives you a more
• 23:30
  private way that you can actually interact.
• 23:32
  With other women, With other. Women that are in, yeah.
• 23:35
  Same boat. Exactly.
• 23:37
  So remember, the next time you think you have to come up with a
• 23:40
  fake reason for walking into a room versus admitting that you
• 23:45
  don't know why you got there in the 1st place, you can let it
• 23:48
  go. And don't look back.