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Therapy, Rodeos, and the Dogs We Love (and Sometimes Don’t) · You Know What I Mean?

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  Welcome to the You Know what I Mean podcast by Kate and
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  Hi. Hi, good morning.
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  Happy Wednesday. Happy Wednesday.
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  Oh my gosh. OK, so there's so many things
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  that over the week now, I think I said this last time, I almost
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  made a list of things that I wanted to share with you.
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  It's nothing exciting, but it's like things.
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  But first, did you see this comment from Sarah on the last
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  podcast episode? Which comment?
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  I got chills when Kate said. Oh, no, no, let me you.
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  Want me to read it real quick? Yes I got chills when Kate said
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  she can see caterpillars on the road from the car because stuff
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  like that happens to me a lot. I think this might be a Pisces
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  thing because I always notice the smallest details or things
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  that are different or out of place.
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  If there's a bug in the room, even if it's an Ant, I will see
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  it. Same.
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  An Ant. Oh my gosh, Sarah, yes, I I
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  totally align with you on this. Well, think about Bethany how
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  you even pointed out which this was me being like particular.
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  But if you guys are watching the video, the sun is coming in from
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  our. Sorry.
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  It makes my hair look like it's chopped up to my cheekbone.
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  But even you noticing, like how I noticed the fan.
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  Yeah. Like, it's just like little
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  things. Yeah.
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  Oh, I love that. It was actually interesting
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  'cause this past week, the shadow students we had, one of
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  the girls, I could definitely tell just based on what she was
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  saying, was super into talking about, like, signs.
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  And she's like, she's like, it's kind of insane how much of A
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  Pisces you are. But like she's like, I need to
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  know like what you're like moon rising and what's the other one
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  is because she's like, you're also a little bit too fiery to
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  be just a Pisces. And I'm like, thank you.
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  But all the other ones that I was was it made a lot of sense
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  also for that like super intuitive, super like mindful of
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  like those little things that I'm not even looking for them,
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  but they like present themselves to me is how I feel.
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  Wow, I love that. Well, thanks for that, I don't
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  get. So you don't get any.
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  Literally will tell me like hey, did you see this comment?
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  Do you get alerted or do you just go into it?
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  No, I get an alert. I don't get an alert for
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  anything else except that. OK.
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  That's why you're so on it, because I don't get alerted
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  because Bethany's technically like the main host and so she'll
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  remind me sometimes to go check on because you guys make such
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  nice comments. I know I was going to text you,
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  but I was like, oh, it'd be fun to think of it, Save it for
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  that. But oh, OK, one.
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  Well, first it's kind of weird because we text during the week,
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  but just like jumping into things instead of like.
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  Our main, like, yeah, this is like our main, like ketchup.
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  Yes. What's new with you?
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  Not a whole lot, I think. When yeah, 'cause we recorded on
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  Tuesday of last week and we're recording actually on Wednesday,
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  so already had her surgery. I hope anyone that saw like on
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  stories I updated that it went really well.
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  Casey actually had to take her to the vet yesterday 'cause we
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  sent pictures because the last like 3 days.
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  It must be healing, which is great, but it must be extremely
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  itchy for her and the cone that they gave us to use for her is
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  ridiculous. I'm gonna try to pull a picture
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  just to show you like she can't do anything with this on like
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  this. She looks like she's from The
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  Handmaid's Tale. And she's just like.
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  So upset with it on so she like won't move.
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  She just like it's so big it like doesn't she gets it off all
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  the time. So she's been licking it and I'm
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  like, Oh my gosh. Like to the point where it's
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  like the first couple of days, like we really didn't have to
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  like have anything on it. Like, 'cause we also were
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  monitoring her, she was not touching it.
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  But now that it must be itchy, she's been like the second you
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  get the cone off, she like wants to go back there and lick it.
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  I'm like, oh, no, When we thought she had an infection,
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  luckily they're like, well, we wanna see her.
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  I'm like, Oh my gosh. Cause of course, which is like,
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  fine, but, and we also choose to have a vet that's a little bit
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  further away from us. But it was like, OK, well, an
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  hour round trip just to go to the vet for them to just say
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  like, no, like it's looking good.
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  We're like, could that be in the FaceTime?
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  But that's OK. So she's doing, she's doing
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  well. It's we're just in the face now
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  of like literally she has to have the cone on her.
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  We got a different cone. It's a hard cone.
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  She still hates it, but at least she can like see and stuff like
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  that. But yeah, she's doing good.
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  We haven't gotten the results yet on the pathology, which is
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  expected, like probably wouldn't hear anything until later this
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  week. But otherwise she's healing up
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  good, actually like her normal self, so that's good.
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  I was looking through pictures and 'cause sometimes I'll get
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  like highlight pictures from different times and while I was
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  going through somewhere with you and then one was with Birdie, I
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  think it was when y'all went down South and I was watching
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  her. We're on the back chair and
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  she's giving me a side eye where I'm like smiling at the camera
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  and she's like side eyeing me. Yeah, that is on brand for her.
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  Do you like documentaries, Love? OK, well, one that I was
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  obsessed with last last week, I think after we talked.
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  It's like a religious one, but it's about the extreme
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  Mormonism. Oh, I would be.
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  So like stuff like that. Oh my God, it is.
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  It's about like polygamous, like the extreme, like the guy that
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  has like 50 wives. These two people got into like
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  into this like sphere of people or whatever their community and
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  the way that they film it. I've never seen anything like it
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  where they're like so into this and like this guy is letting
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  them film him like say all these things.
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  It's wild. Oh my gosh, how long?
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  Like is it a documentary with just like an hour and a half or
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  is it episodes? Episodes.
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  It was like 6 episodes. OK, yeah, we'll definitely have
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  to watch it. When I saw you also posted that
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  you watched the Noah Khan one. Oh, so good.
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  Casey was actually gonna start watching it the other night.
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  I was going to bed early. It was one of the nights of the
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  shadow students. I was like, no, don't start it
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  because I saw that you watched it.
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  I'm like, I wanna watch it with. You so good.
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  Yeah. I haven't watched it yet.
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  You should. OK, yeah, I love watching people
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  in their, like, creative process.
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  And I really didn't listen. I loved one of his songs,
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  Northern Attitude, which I really like, but I didn't know
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  all the other ones. Yeah, so good.
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  I have a funny story for you. So this past weekend we went to
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  a rodeo in Madison. So we've gone to it a couple of
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  years ago. We went to it once because it
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  was Casey's uncle who passed away.
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  His family was coming into town. I think this is probably, well,
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  no, it's more than this had to have been six years ago because
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  we were at our old house. They stayed it with us at our
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  old house. So we went to it and we had no
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  idea what we were going to. But I will say like the crowd is
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  definitely like we stick out like a sore thumb.
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  Like there's even the vibes in there.
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  I'm just like, Oh my gosh. Like, I, I don't even know how
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  to explain it, but it's just, we stick out like a sore thumb.
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  Yeah. But the actual rodeo part of it
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  is extremely entertaining. Like, it's really cool to see
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  what animals can do. A couple of things I will say is
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  pretty hard for me to watch like like they do the, you know,
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  you're watching Clarkson's Farms and stuff like the things that
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  they do for the animals and like things that they have to do to
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  them. It's like that all makes
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  complete sense because you can tell it's very much like for the
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  well-being of the farm and for the well-being of the animals,
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  Like they have to make hard decisions and have to do tough
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  things. But like, I mean, Jeremy is like
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  emotional about every decision they have to make.
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  So one of the, I guess you would call it like entertainment
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  things is like roping baby cows calf.
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  Yeah. So like the they come out on
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  their horse and they lasso the horns of the cow are the around
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  the neck of the cow and they go and they flip them and they tie
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  their legs and then like the horse like backs up.
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  And so like, that was because then the baby cows just like,
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  like I'm like, Oh my God, Casey and I were like, we can't do
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  this. Like things that I thought were
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  cool was like the bronc riding and stuff.
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  Which, yeah, I'm still, I don't know.
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  I'm sure there's a lot of opinions to get the.
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  Did you know that like for bronc riding, when they're bucking the
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  horses, they have like basically put a strap around the horse's
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  Dong to like get them to want to buck?
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  No. Yeah, so like, I don't know.
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  I don't know. So I I have mixed feelings but
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  they invited us to go and. That's funny you said Dong.
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  Anyway, sorry. I'm like, I don't want to say
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  the P word. It's just so immature of me.
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  But so I was having a little bit of a hard time with some of the
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  things. But the reason I'm telling the
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  story is not just to talk about the fact that we went to a rodeo
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  is the woman sitting behind us. So we sit down and like I'm
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  like, cool. Like no one's really behind us.
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  And this is like a sold out thing.
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  So I was like, I'm actually surprised about 20 minutes and
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  these two women come waddling. I like, I guess like swaying up
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  to their spot. And I'm like, oh boy,
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  annihilated. And I'm telling you, like, this
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  is not an environment. Like a couple people were like,
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  you know, people are have like a beer or something, but they're
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  not, there's not a bunch of drunk people walking around like
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  she stuck out like we stuck out like a sore thumb.
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  She stuck out like a sore thumb and she gets behind me and she's
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  got this giant sign for, like, this clown that's a part of this
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  rodeo. And she's like, I just have to
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  tell you, I'm so sorry. I had a time.
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  But John the clown is definitely coming up here.
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  I'm like, OK, like, cool. Like sounds good.
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  Oh, she's saying this to you, she sings.
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  To me and she touches my head to tell me and I was like, oh, and
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  you know how she. Put her fingers in like she
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  touched. My head like this.
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  Oh, Tap. Tap.
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  Tap, tap, tap. No, not like rubbing it.
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  I would have been like, holy, yeah, yeah.
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  But Long story short, she ends up being just obnoxious behind
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  us. But I'm like, whatever.
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  She's just like John, John come up here and she's just like
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  screaming and she's just profanities left and right.
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  Then we're talking, I don't know, 45 minutes till the end.
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  She's getting up and going down the stairs.
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  You can tell she's needs to go do something and she's peeing
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  her pants. No.
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  Peeing her pants as she's walking away and I'm seeing the
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  pee coming out of her. That's how annihilated she was.
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  Oh my God, you did not know where this was going.
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  Wow, I've never seen someone actively pee.
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  No, not like this like. Shorts on.
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  No, it was like these like khakis.
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  It was black. No, I know.
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  I thought about you and the khakis or she was wearing jeans
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  because like everyone there is pretty much wearing like their
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  like buckle jeans, like the type that has like the embellishment
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  on the butt and stuff. She's wearing more like black
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  joggers. But yeah, she's walking down the
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  stairs and I'm seeing the pee coming out of her and I'm seeing
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  it trail her and like I'm like, is anyone else seeing this?
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  Like she passed one of Casey's cousins.
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  I'm like, did you just see that? She's like, no, what?
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  I'm like she was peeing herself and she's like, and she looked
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  on the ground. She sees the pee.
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  And so I'm thinking she's not coming back.
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  There's no way. What do you do?
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  Come back with pee covered pants. 15 minutes later she's
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  she comes in and she needs someone to basically escort her
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  to her seat because she doesn't remember where her seat is.
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  Like that's again how drunk she was.
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  So they brought her back. I'm thinking I'm seeing her with
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  someone that works there. I'm thinking yes, like they're
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  going to ask her to leave. No, she just must have needed
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  help finding her spot. And then I'm just thinking
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  behind me. She's sitting on a cloth seat
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  with her pee covered pants. Wait, OK, So what people don't
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  know about you is you have an incredible sense of smell.
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  Like one time you asked me, have you ever smelled a rotten tooth?
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  And I was like, what? I am, that's a thing.
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  Literally when she was talking to me from behind my head, I
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  literally halfway through said to Casey, her breath is
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  unbearable. And so then I could smell her
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  too after and I was like sitting forward in my chair because and
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  I'm just like, I'm just like now I like can't even enjoy this.
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  Like I'm all I'm thinking about is when she's going to touch me
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  next because I'm like, she touched my head so many times
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  and like I came up behind my hair and I'm like, no.
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  And I'm just thinking like, what if she didn't wash her hands?
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  Like she's sore? She's not thinking about it.
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  Oh she has penis for sure. For sure, because she's probably
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  like trying to like dry it out. I don't know.
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  What do you, what do you do if she's wearing underwear?
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  I told Casey she probably for sure ditched the underwear and
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  then like, you know what? I don't, I don't know.
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  But yeah. So that was that was part of
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  that. And then we I'm like, OK, let's
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  leave early. A, it's a super long thing.
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  And B, I'm like, I don't need to be sitting here smelling or like
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  the potential of her touching me was giving me such an ick.
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  Oh. My God, that makes me sweaty.
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  My hands are sweaty right now. The.
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  Drunkest woman in this huge arena How many seats is the
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  arena case? 10,000 seats the the drunkest
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  ones are behind us. Of course.
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  It was love you. Bye.
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  Wild. Oh, sorry, Hon.
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  Does she ever cone on? OK, thanks.
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  Hi. He's heading out for a filming
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  day. Oh.
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  Nice. Yeah.
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  OK, that's exciting. Yeah, he was out yesterday.
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  So I'm like, Oh my gosh, like I'm so busy.
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  Help, help. Where's my friend going?
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  Like yesterday I went to get a massage.
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  Bobby was like, Oh my God, I'm going to get separation anxiety
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  when you're gone. I'm like, Oh my God.
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  Oh. My God.
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  Oh, you love it. You love it.
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  I do. Yeah, of course.
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  Of course you do. Did.
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  You ever see Shayna? Shayna, obviously.
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  Oh my God. You think I'd see someone else?
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  Great. Amazing.
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  You should go see that one, lady.
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  But you're like, why would I drive that far when, let me
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  guess, you've probably not done the chair one?
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  No, I wouldn't have it. Oh, shoot, what was I going to
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  say? OK, well I forget but.
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  I brought a couple of games to the pod.
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  You did. Yes, OK, I want to try them.
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  Yeah, sure. OK, so the first one is a word
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  game. So I've heard this on another
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  podcast. I don't remember which podcast
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  it was, but then Casey and I sometimes when we're in bed,
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  we'll do this as we're trying to fall asleep.
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  Like if we feel like we're not very tired, we'll lay there and
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  do this word game. So I'm going to count 321 and
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  we're both going to say whatever word comes to our head like, oh.
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  I see this to y'all all the time.
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  What? Don't I say this to you like?
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  Well, it's not. I don't call it a game, but I'm.
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  Yes, no, But yours? Yeah, Yours is just like, but
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  I'll just explain. So we're gonna say whatever word
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  comes to our head. And then with with those two
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  words, we're trying to find a common word between the two
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  things that we said. So we might be starting like
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  completely on the ends of the spectrums.
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  We're trying to end up saying the same word.
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  OK, got it. That's what we're trying to do.
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  So let's do, let's say our first word.
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  So I'll do 321. And then we'll say our first
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  word that comes to our head and then we'll go from there.
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  OK. Alright.
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  Are you ready? Yeah. 321 feather, OK, gorilla
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  and feather. So those are two words and then
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  we're going to count 321 and we're going to say something
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  that could be aligned with gorilla and feather.
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  OK. OK, 321 jungle bird.
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  Is a gorilla a bird? Wait.
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  Well, I thought it's a word. Literally just like Casey did,
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  you're now saying something that has to do with my word.
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  Yes, it connects the 2 words. Yeah, but how does a bird have
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  anything to connect with gorilla?
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  Because a gorilla lives in the jungle where there are birds and
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  a bird probably dropped a feather.
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  Oh OK, but I just said jungle now.
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  Wait, So what? What is our words are now jungle
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  and bird? So now what are we?
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  What am I trying to do? We're trying to say the same
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  word. OK, so a word that has to do
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  with those two words. That has to do with those two
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  words. OK, we're trying to get.
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  The same jungle and bird. Yep.
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  And try to say it when I say 321, try to say it at the same
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  time. OK, OK, this is just practice
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  round. We can do another round.
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  Oh my God. OK.
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  OK, so bird and jungle bird. And jungle.
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  All right, 321 nest. I already said feather.
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  You can't say this when earlier when I go do you get it?
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  You're like, yeah. You're like, let's.
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  Go. This is literally how it was
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  playing with Casey the first time.
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  OK, let's try that again. OK.
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  What is it Feather and? Jungle, let's start fully over,
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  yeah? OK, so new words.
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  New words. OK, New words.
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  All right. 321 fan. Convertible.
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  OK. So convertible and fan.
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  OK. All right.
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  Ready. You're so focused.
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  All right. 321 AC OK, see in here.
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  All right. 321 cool. Wind.
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  You say it on 3/2 one word. Oh, when did I say it?
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  You're saying it directly after me.
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  Oh, I. Am yes.
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  Are we delayed? OK, OK, OK.
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  OK, so now it's cool and air. OK.
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  Is that what you said? Wind.
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  Wind. Yeah, cool and wind.
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  All right, 321 storm. Oh no, I don't like this game.
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  I'm not good at it. I keep getting nervous and I'm
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  going to get it wrong. There's no kidding.
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  Wrong. OK, OK.
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  I brought a different game. I brought a different game.
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  We'll try a different game. Yeah.
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  Yeah. OK.
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  You have to rank these things one through 5.
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  OK. But I say 1 and you have to rank
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  it right away so you can't go back and re rank.
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  OK, Does that make sense? Yes.
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  So. I would say, OK, so the first
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  word and you're gonna have no idea on the topic or anything
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  like that. OK, school bus driver three.
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  OK, so that's midline 5 is the worst, one is the best.
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  OK so now I only have 1245 T correct?
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  Yep, 5 is the worst you said. Yep.
• 18:54
  So you put school bus driver is 3 OK port a potty cleaner 5 OK
• 19:03
  farmer. 1. Really.
• 19:08
  Amusement park caricature 04 salmon fisherman. 2.
• 19:16
  All right, you ended up pretty good on that 10.
• 19:18
  That's not bad. So those are basically your
• 19:21
  careers you're going to be it would have been farmer would be
• 19:23
  your first choice, then salmon fisherman, then a school bus
• 19:27
  driver, then amusement park caricature and then a port a pot
• 19:29
  cleaner. I feel like that's for those.
• 19:32
  Options. That's pretty spot on, yeah.
• 19:34
  The only ones I personally would have flip-flopped is actually, I
• 19:37
  don't know, salmon fishermen. I feel like that's pretty
• 19:38
  dangerous. But the spot on the ocean, like
• 19:42
  the breeze. I know, but storming like they
• 19:45
  still go out in storms. I feel like Farmer, you got it.
• 19:48
  I got that spot on. That would be.
• 19:49
  My first well, now we're saying farm, we're thinking more of
• 19:51
  like Clarkson's farm type farming.
• 19:53
  Yeah, or just like having a bunch of land and farming it and
• 19:58
  growing things. Yeah, OK.
• 20:00
  Yeah, Next one, iced tea. Iced Tea 3.
• 20:06
  OK, water. 1. Mountain Dew 05 bee's knees.
• 20:18
  AW2. Coffee.
• 20:22
  Oh. Shoot, I know. 50 Well, that's
• 20:25
  your 4. I know I was shocked to.
• 20:27
  I mean, obviously we need water to live.
• 20:28
  I mean for you. Not as like enjoyable.
• 20:31
  I saved coffee for the end 'cause I'm like, she's gonna,
• 20:34
  she's gonna like either hold out on it.
• 20:37
  OK, one more. OK, reactivity. 1.
• 20:45
  Wild puppy, OH. 2. Whiny FOMO. 5.
• 20:54
  Nervous. 3. Overly friendly. 4.
• 20:59
  OK. Oh, is that pretty accurate for
• 21:02
  you? Yeah, well, it made me think
• 21:03
  about because I just watched. Do you like watching
• 21:05
  documentaries about wild animals?
• 21:07
  Yeah. I mean, I don't watch that many,
• 21:08
  but yeah, I would. Well, I just saw one.
• 21:11
  It's on Netflix. I really like TV, but I also
• 21:14
  feel like this is a space we're talking about.
• 21:16
  TV things is kind of fun. I think it's called Gorilla or
• 21:19
  something. But you know David Attenberg.
• 21:21
  Who I know the name? He has like an English accent.
• 21:25
  He narrated the planet. I forget.
• 21:29
  I love the planet, yeah. Planet, yeah, he's the narrator
• 21:32
  of that. So this was it's #4 on movies
• 21:37
  for kids. I don't know what that says.
• 21:39
  Anyway, it's a little bit over an hour and fascinating.
• 21:45
  I had to skip through the parts where they're fighting sometimes
• 21:48
  the males, and I just don't like seeing that.
• 21:50
  But it just made me think about like animals and how with dogs,
• 21:54
  people don't. I think so many people do not
• 21:57
  view dogs as like where they came from, you know?
• 22:03
  And honestly? Oh, hi beanie, beanie.
• 22:06
  Probably a beanie. Beanie.
• 22:09
  Beanie. Hi, Bobby.
• 22:10
  Hi. Beanie.
• 22:16
  Oh look at him, I got a poop dad.
• 22:21
  In potentially unpopular opinion, I think it's a
• 22:24
  disservice to dogs. Oh, for sure.
• 22:27
  Like not that people need like my dog's a wolf like no, they've
• 22:30
  been so domesticated for so many years, like I freaking know
• 22:33
  that, but like do you go and roll in poop pile or like
• 22:38
  rolling deer Dong? No, my dog loves to like I don't
• 22:45
  know. So I'm sure that was.
• 22:47
  I'm actually super surprised you put wild puppy as #2.
• 22:50
  I love like animals. But you don't love.
• 22:53
  Oh no, I would love to have a job where I'm working with.
• 22:56
  Wild. I mean like wild puppy meaning
• 22:57
  like a crazy puppy. I mean, not like I'm going to
• 23:00
  train a wild puppy. These were all like kind of
• 23:02
  like, and I didn't give you the topics, but they're all like
• 23:05
  reactivity, like a wild crazy puppy FOMO.
• 23:08
  Like it's all like behavioral issues all the time.
• 23:12
  So that's why I was surprised you chose 2 because you don't
• 23:14
  really train puppies cuz you're like no thank you but.
• 23:18
  When you said why, what did you say?
• 23:19
  Wild puppy? Yeah.
• 23:20
  Oh, so not like from the wild, like no maybe wolf or whatever.
• 23:24
  No, not like a feral little. That's what I interpreted it as.
• 23:28
  So I. Was like OK, cool, like #1 yes,
• 23:31
  yeah that's so funny that you said reactivity is number one.
• 23:34
  I would honestly, if I knew the list ahead of time, probably
• 23:37
  choose like overly friendly is number one just cuz that's I
• 23:40
  feel like very straightforward and easy.
• 23:41
  But I agree, like reactivity is up there for me and I.
• 23:44
  Just love it cuz it's so you can see the transformation.
• 23:48
  Yes, in the whiny FOMO. I'm right with you on that.
• 23:51
  Oh, if I could just exit out of my life forever.
• 23:54
  So even if this owners listens, these owners listen to it,
• 23:57
  they'll totally know because they send me like memes of being
• 24:00
  like their regrets of their dog. But they're joking.
• 24:03
  They love him. But yeah, two of my shadow
• 24:05
  students that were here this past week, they're also clients
• 24:08
  of mine. So they were originally going to
• 24:10
  do like a just a three day refresh and like, you know, we
• 24:14
  want to be like more involved with it.
• 24:16
  Like what are the options for that?
• 24:17
  And so I was going to do like the private thing that I did
• 24:20
  like with the other owner and then that I did with the
• 24:22
  trainer. So I gave them that as an option
• 24:26
  and they're like, well, we're actually kind of interested in
• 24:27
  doing your shadow program, like also working hands on with the
• 24:30
  other dogs. I'm like, awesome.
• 24:32
  I feel like you guys be great for it.
• 24:33
  So they came from my shadow program and they brought their
• 24:35
  dog. Yeah.
• 24:36
  And I feel like the whiny phone. Well, stuff is probably one of
• 24:42
  the most draining things for both the trainers and the owners
• 24:45
  because he is their dog. He's a little dog.
• 24:51
  He'll have no reason to be whining and he's.
• 24:55
  Oh yeah. Constantly like, Oh yeah, but if
• 24:59
  you, if you put like in the crate.
• 25:00
  So I'm like, you know, you guys we're going to have like they've
• 25:02
  had tough moments with him at home, but they don't have a Bart
• 25:04
  collar and like we're going to put the Bart collar on him in
• 25:06
  the crate. Like he knows how to be quiet.
• 25:08
  He's just doing it to see like if mom gets up and moves and
• 25:11
  like walks upstairs to the upstairs portion of the kind of
• 25:13
  room, it's immediately and it's just like excessive.
• 25:19
  And so, but the second the bark caller goes off once he's
• 25:22
  completely silent. So like he knows how to be
• 25:25
  quiet. He just chooses not to.
• 25:27
  But at the end of it, obviously, you know, it was a great three
• 25:31
  days, a little like I felt slightly with like a chicken
• 25:34
  with my head cut off just because the day of them coming
• 25:36
  here was birdie surgery. But they were all so great and
• 25:39
  like, you know, flexed and we're very understanding.
• 25:44
  But at the end, mom got a little emotional because she's just
• 25:48
  like, she's like, I think it was so great, but also so hard for
• 25:52
  me to like see him in comparison to other dogs because like it's
• 25:57
  validating because like, you know, I just thought maybe we
• 26:00
  were doing something wrong and that's why he was like so
• 26:02
  challenging and so pushy and so whiny.
• 26:05
  But she's like, but now that I'm seeing like he's just also
• 26:09
  genetically has probably a lot of stuff going on.
• 26:11
  So she was like, it was almost validating and also like
• 26:14
  embarrassing to see like that. My dog's the one that's like the
• 26:17
  annoying one that's like, Oh yeah, constant whiner.
• 26:19
  The constant. So like the fact that the
• 26:22
  trainers are picking reactivity over whining and FOMO.
• 26:26
  We feel for you owners that are dealing with for sure the whiny
• 26:30
  stuff, the whiny stuff. Like these are owners that
• 26:31
  literally do everything. They're not.
• 26:34
  I'm not. We're not talking about a dog
• 26:35
  who's whining because they've haven't been walked for a week.
• 26:38
  Yeah, this is their walks daily treadmill place time, kennel
• 26:43
  time, play time, everything you could ask an owner to do, they
• 26:46
  do. And it's still a tough dog.
• 26:50
  Well, it's like this dog I worked with, Jax, who's an
• 26:52
  Australian Shepherd, the whiniest dog I've ever worked
• 26:55
  with in my entire life. But he was great in the kennel,
• 26:57
  which, So that is the thing for me.
• 26:59
  If a dog is good in the kennel, I can take some whiny stuff.
• 27:03
  It's. But then I have an off switch
• 27:05
  where it's like, I don't have to even worry about separation
• 27:07
  anxiety. I can work through stuff and
• 27:09
  then put them away. But the owner had been dealing
• 27:11
  with this chronic whining for years.
• 27:15
  And I was like, how do you stay sane when you're constantly
• 27:18
  hearing this? She was like, I don't know.
• 27:20
  I think I just tried to tune it out.
• 27:22
  Yeah. We ran into that of like, we'd
• 27:25
  be sitting there and he'd be on place excessively whining and
• 27:28
  I'd have to finally be like you, you need to tap him for that,
• 27:32
  like. Yeah.
• 27:33
  And they're like, oh, we didn't even, like, we didn't even
• 27:35
  notice. Yeah.
• 27:35
  And I'm like, oh, interesting. What and me and the other
• 27:37
  trainer, because that trainer was here from Miami, she's also
• 27:40
  like, how are you not hearing it?
• 27:42
  And I think that they're probably hearing it.
• 27:44
  But like once we pointed it out, things were like, oh, whoa, I
• 27:46
  didn't even realize like probably how many times we're
• 27:48
  missing it because it's so chronic that like, and I'm like,
• 27:53
  I don't even know how you tune that out.
• 27:55
  Like wow, that is, that's like a skill.
• 27:58
  Like you guys maybe should do a little side hustle training dogs
• 28:00
  because I can't tune out whining.
• 28:03
  Yes, they would be great. Literally.
• 28:05
  Well, it's interesting because I even like especially her husband
• 28:09
  who's there, his handling skills like which makes total sense.
• 28:14
  Like there's less confidence in them handling their own dog.
• 28:18
  And I would say mom actually had more confidence handling her own
• 28:20
  dog than some of the others. But dad was like extremely
• 28:24
  confident handling the other dogs.
• 28:25
  I was like how like he's a really good handler.
• 28:27
  I was like, he could easily help people, but then when you would
• 28:31
  handle his dog, he still did a great job, but you could tell
• 28:34
  the emotion came into the mix. That then blurred the lines of
• 28:38
  like, you're missing things that matter.
• 28:40
  But with the other dogs, you're coming to them super fair and
• 28:44
  like blank sleep, but you don't have this emotional tie to them
• 28:47
  that it was like it was night and day difference.
• 28:50
  And I will say all of the dogs we had except for him are bigger
• 28:53
  dogs. And these are very tall people.
• 28:55
  I'm like you guys, next time you need to get a big dog.
• 28:57
  What are what are we doing with these little guys?
• 28:58
  Like we love them too, but I'm like, you guys are like handling
• 29:01
  these bigger dogs like amazingly.
• 29:04
  So that was interesting to see too, because I don't know that
• 29:07
  I've actually never, I've never really had that like comparison
• 29:10
  because they've started this. I've had other owners come and
• 29:13
  work with me, but I've never allowed an owner to bring a dog
• 29:18
  for the shadow program. Okay, so.
• 29:20
  What a valuable experience for them, yeah.
• 29:23
  Yeah, I don't know how often I would offer that.
• 29:25
  I think it would just be dependent on if it would fit in
• 29:27
  the program because also understanding they were great
• 29:30
  about it, but their main goal is their dog.
• 29:33
  Yeah. So like, you know, a lot of the
• 29:35
  questions were about their dog. And so got it, yes.
• 29:38
  Totally fine, but I would want to make sure that it's like
• 29:40
  balanced well for everyone there.
• 29:42
  Yeah, but it actually ended up being nice because the trainer
• 29:45
  that came, she also struggles with one of her personal dogs.
• 29:47
  She's 11 dogs so. 11 personal. 11 personal dogs.
• 29:52
  I thought you were crazy with your 4.
• 29:54
  I told her I was like huh? What?
• 29:57
  Yeah, but one of hers is really challenging and it sounds like
• 30:02
  in a different way, but some of the similar stuff.
• 30:04
  So they all very much could like relate of being like, yeah, we
• 30:07
  love our dog and yeah, hate them sometimes.
• 30:13
  Oh my gosh, you know, it's so funny.
• 30:15
  Like, well, so I think I told you, I'm not gonna say the
• 30:18
  person's name, but I mean, I could tell you obviously offline
• 30:21
  or whatever, but. I'm not on the T.
• 30:25
  Well, I don't know if this will come across as I don't want to
• 30:27
  feel like I'm gossiping about him or whatever, but I just
• 30:30
  thought it was interesting about like relationships and how I'm
• 30:33
  at a certain stage where I, I'm so spoiled by you and being
• 30:39
  around you and Casey and Bobby and like, I like being around
• 30:41
  people. I like being around.
• 30:43
  So even like talking to people, like, I don't want to spend time
• 30:47
  talking to someone that it just doesn't feel like it clicks if I
• 30:50
  have the choice. But so this one trainer who has
• 30:52
  a podcast, I think I told you I reached out because I was in
• 30:55
  this phase of like, I don't know, I just had the thought and
• 30:58
  then I was impulsive. And so I, I was like, you know,
• 31:01
  the thing where I was like, people who do things other
• 31:04
  people won't do, you know, are successful.
• 31:07
  And I was like, I'm going to reach out to this trainer and be
• 31:10
  like, can I get on your podcast? I want to promote my book.
• 31:13
  And so I reached out to him. And so we've kind of been going
• 31:16
  back and forth a little bit for months.
• 31:19
  And then the other day we got on a phone call.
• 31:22
  And it wasn't, I couldn't tell right away, but he started
• 31:26
  talking about he's from out West.
• 31:28
  And he was like, oh, yeah, I was just recently in Orlando, and I
• 31:32
  hung out with this other dog trainer's name.
• 31:35
  And he was like, have you ever heard of him?
• 31:36
  And I was like, no. And he was like, oh, my God,
• 31:38
  He's like the best dog trainer in the entire world.
• 31:40
  And I was like, wow, OK, no, I don't know him.
• 31:44
  And then he was talking about another trainer.
• 31:46
  I make sure I know who he was talking about.
• 31:48
  OK, yeah, I I didn't it's not like any shade.
• 31:51
  It's just like, I don't know, I didn't know another trainer.
• 31:54
  I did know the name of where he has a big space in Florida and
• 32:01
  he's very like working dog. OK, so, but also I guess pro E
• 32:07
  caller, whatever. But he was like, he was almost
• 32:09
  like saying it as if it was like a I idolize these people kind of
• 32:15
  in a dog training industry. And he was saying it in that
• 32:18
  way. And I was thinking like, oh,
• 32:19
  that's cool. Like I wish I idolized dog
• 32:21
  trainers, I guess. But I just don't jive in that
• 32:24
  way. I don't like really want to talk
• 32:26
  about. I love talking about training
• 32:28
  stuff with you because I love your perspective and I think.
• 32:31
  You're talking about like the owner dynamic.
• 32:33
  We don't talk about the other trainers.
• 32:36
  So but the way he was talking, it was very like, I love these
• 32:42
  trainers, like I love dog training, like telling me all
• 32:46
  these things. And then towards the end he was
• 32:49
  like, yeah, so we can schedule a time.
• 32:52
  It was he was supposed to reach out Monday hasn't because I
• 32:54
  don't think it was really the right fit.
• 32:56
  So, but he said have like it open-ended because the other
• 33:01
  trainer, the one with the big facility, we were talking for
• 33:04
  four hours. So like leave your schedule
• 33:05
  open. And I, I was thinking we were on
• 33:08
  a phone call and I was like, well, for schedule purposes,
• 33:12
  let's just mark out like 1 1/2 two hours.
• 33:15
  And I don't think he really liked that.
• 33:16
  I think he's used to just talking about this stuff
• 33:18
  forever. And I was like, I don't think I
• 33:21
  could do that for. Can you imagine being on a phone
• 33:23
  call and then not having a way to get out and then just being
• 33:26
  like, I just sound rude? No, no, I I wouldn't.
• 33:31
  I'd be like AI don't want to sit that long.
• 33:35
  I'm not sitting for four hours unless no traveling somewhere
• 33:39
  cool. Like what?
• 33:41
  Who is sitting for four hours? I don't.
• 33:44
  I mean, I can't. I mean, I'm sure a lot of
• 33:45
  people, but like I can't, I'll be like my hips will be tight
• 33:48
  like, and also this is me. I have no idea of the person
• 33:53
  that you were talking to and stuff like that.
• 33:54
  Like to me, it's like, to what point are we just talking about
• 34:00
  the same things? And like, how much of it is him
• 34:03
  potentially talking to you or some or a guest?
• 34:07
  And then they're like, yeah, uh huh.
• 34:09
  Yep. Because it's like his platform.
• 34:11
  Yeah. It's like, maybe he just likes
• 34:13
  to hear himself talk. Maybe he should just do his his
• 34:15
  solo thing and. I think he's doing the right
• 34:18
  thing because he does like to talk.
• 34:19
  Like we he was like talking, talking, talking.
• 34:21
  And I was like, whoa, whoa. I feel like this would be great
• 34:23
  on the podcast episode, you know, like to know you on there
• 34:26
  or whatever. Totally.
• 34:28
  Yeah. So it was kind of, I'm glad I
• 34:30
  reached out to him because you just never know.
• 34:32
  And also part of me was like, oh, he has a following of a lot
• 34:35
  of dog trainers. And I was like, I can mention
• 34:37
  the trainer in you. And then I was thinking, I
• 34:40
  don't, I don't ever want to feel like I'm forcing anything that
• 34:43
  just doesn't feel like it aligns or he's seems like a great guy.
• 34:47
  Yeah, I'm kind of happy he didn't reach out.
• 34:49
  Yeah, to see where that potentially goes.
• 34:52
  And I think that's one of the things too is like that what's
• 34:57
  the word? I'm looking for that theme that
• 34:59
  you've almost like how you just said.
• 35:00
  I kind of wish I Ialized like a dog trainer or like I'm like, do
• 35:05
  you though? We've talked about.
• 35:07
  This, I know we've talked about this, but like I feel like you
• 35:09
  say it and then you talk yourself out of it.
• 35:11
  Like I don't want to be about something that I'm like force
• 35:13
  her like not be aligned. Well, I wish there was like a
• 35:16
  dog trainer like us that was older and wiser and like could
• 35:20
  take me under her wing. Like just like it's like the
• 35:23
  totally made-up version of like, if I could have Elizabeth
• 35:27
  Gilbert, who's a famous writer, she would eat.
• 35:29
  They love if she was a dog trainer and she could like be
• 35:32
  someone I could text and be like, but no, because I don't I
• 35:36
  don't love working with dogs. So but it's.
• 35:38
  Just like, yeah, you're like loving this, not training a
• 35:41
  dog's life, but you. I just don't like, I love that
• 35:45
  for you. That's true.
• 35:45
  But I'm like, are you making yourself believe something
• 35:48
  that's not true? Yeah, I don't know.
• 35:49
  I think I'm just I, I like I've romanticized the idea in my
• 35:52
  head. But yeah, even when I'm talking
• 35:54
  to him, I would want to talk about things we talked about.
• 35:57
  Yeah, like me trying to get you to play a weird game or talking
• 35:59
  about the woman peeing her pants.
• 36:02
  Yeah. It's like one time when I was
• 36:04
  saying I was thinking of doing like a shadow program.
• 36:06
  Yeah. I love that you do it.
• 36:08
  I think it is so helpful for dog trainers.
• 36:10
  And I just think it's so cool. A big part of me does not want
• 36:15
  to because I get way too exhausted and like, it's just
• 36:18
  too much talking and like, I don't like when it's on me.
• 36:21
  I like being a family in the room and like, yeah.
• 36:24
  Definitely don't do a shadow program if you get too tired
• 36:27
  from talking or especially with a day, like a day one is like it
• 36:31
  is kind of like, you know, it's a warm up period for them.
• 36:34
  It's like especially if I'm doing 1 and it's like early dogs
• 36:37
  that I'm just getting to know like it is all me on day one.
• 36:41
  That day one, I went to bed at 7:30.
• 36:43
  Wow. Yeah.
• 36:45
  So you know I. Was like, that tells me
• 36:47
  everything. Yeah, yeah.
• 36:48
  So you need to go to bed at like 4.
• 36:51
  Well, because one time I mentioned it to Dee and I was
• 36:55
  like, but what if someone, what if someone signs up?
• 36:58
  I don't like want to be around and I don't know who that would
• 37:02
  be. And but and I was like, I don't
• 37:03
  know if I would too. Shadow program definitely.
• 37:06
  My shadow program definitely tracks different than the
• 37:09
  trainer knew. Not fully because obviously a
• 37:12
  lot of shadow Sims have also come to the trainer in you.
• 37:14
  Yeah, but like I've gotten people that are so, so, so, so,
• 37:18
  so different than me and it works out for a shadow program.
• 37:21
  It actually works out for me because I'm not doing it
• 37:23
  one-on-one. That would be tough.
• 37:25
  Oh yeah. Now I have like AI have to at
• 37:28
  least have two people signed up, otherwise I'm not doing it.
• 37:31
  I've used to do one on ones and those were fine when I first
• 37:34
  started because it was a little bit more like people I was
• 37:36
  connecting with on social media and stuff that were like, oh, I
• 37:39
  could hang out with you for three days.
• 37:41
  Yeah. But yeah, like you also, if you
• 37:43
  did end up ever doing something like that, you don't have to do
• 37:46
  like 3 full days. Like you could do three half
• 37:50
  days or something like that. It would just have to be someone
• 37:51
  that maybe would be able to like drive to you and make it like
• 37:55
  worth their time as well. Like, I don't know if
• 37:58
  necessarily someone would maybe I don't know, but like fly to
• 38:02
  then be like, OK, well, we're only spending, you know, 12
• 38:05
  hours together versus all days. I don't know.
• 38:09
  Well, what I realized is that I felt like I should do a shadow
• 38:12
  program. Maybe it's kind of the same
• 38:14
  thing where I feel like I should have someone I idolize in my
• 38:16
  industry where I work. But then when I was talking with
• 38:20
  Dee, because I also mentioned it to Heather and Korean, I was
• 38:23
  like, wouldn't that be cool if like people came to like learn
• 38:26
  about the creative side of dog training?
• 38:28
  And then I talked myself out of it because I'm like, oh, I don't
• 38:31
  want that. I don't want to like teach
• 38:32
  people about it. I just want to be around people
• 38:34
  working on creative things. Yes.
• 38:36
  And that's one thing. Dee said she was like, why don't
• 38:38
  we just go get coffee and bring our laptops?
• 38:40
  And I was like, Oh my God, that's exactly what I.
• 38:42
  Want. That's all I wanted to do.
• 38:44
  I just want to create a friend when my best friend lives in
• 38:47
  Wisconsin. I know, yes.
• 38:51
  Yeah. So what made you, what were when
• 38:53
  you texted me the other day and you're like, can I come visit
• 38:55
  you guys the first week of June? Were you just thinking about it
• 38:57
  or you're like, were you? Like, well, I love hanging out
• 39:02
  with you. And so I just felt like, I don't
• 39:04
  know. We are coming in August, but.
• 39:08
  The limit does not exist. No, seriously.
• 39:10
  And I love the in person is so different.
• 39:13
  Like this has been so nice. But you know, so so yeah, I
• 39:16
  just, I was just thinking about it and I have that week off and
• 39:19
  then Bobby was looking up flights and they actually found
• 39:22
  one where there's a straight flight to Wisconsin, which is so
• 39:25
  cool. Yeah, but it's like a newer
• 39:27
  airline, which immediately made me feel anxious.
• 39:29
  What is the airline? Breeze.
• 39:31
  I've actually heard from that direct flight from MSN, which is
• 39:36
  US to Orlando, it's actually a breeze.
• 39:40
  Like I've heard. It's not going to be like your,
• 39:42
  you know, I don't it's not going to be like your Delta.
• 39:45
  But I mean, also, I feel like one way flight versus a stopping
• 39:52
  somewhere trying a new airline. They wouldn't be able to do it
• 39:55
  obviously, if it wasn't like safe or something.
• 39:57
  You just might not feel as like, I don't know, comfy cozy as
• 40:01
  Delta, but it's a 2/2 and 1/2 hour flight.
• 40:05
  Yeah, it's so nice. Easy.
• 40:08
  I know my brain started going to like really leaning anxious like
• 40:11
  the other night I had a dream about my dad which I have not
• 40:14
  had. It was such a bizarre dream
• 40:16
  where my mom was in a in like a juvenile detention center.
• 40:20
  Why a juvenile? I don't know.
• 40:22
  But then all of a sudden Johnny was there too.
• 40:24
  So anyway. Obviously.
• 40:26
  But my dad was walking with me. I I haven't like I've heard of
• 40:29
  people say like, oh, if you want to like connect with your loved
• 40:34
  1, you can like say it out into whatever, write it down.
• 40:37
  I I want you to show up in my dream.
• 40:39
  I just never really wanted to do that.
• 40:40
  So. When he first passed, weren't
• 40:42
  you having a lot of dreams of him though?
• 40:44
  Only a couple like the first one was his parents in A and we were
• 40:48
  in a cafeteria and they were sitting on a bench.
• 40:51
  Bizarre. His parents like your dad's.
• 40:52
  Parents. His parents I never remember.
• 40:55
  Really. No, I only I knew my grandma and
• 40:58
  she was very like the opposite of my dad.
• 41:00
  She was very grumpy and oh. My.
• 41:02
  God, but it was them sitting. Yeah.
• 41:04
  In a cafeteria. It was like an elementary school
• 41:06
  cafeteria. OK, He wasn't in it.
• 41:08
  The other one is when he was mowing the lawn.
• 41:10
  He walks past a window and he's like don't be mad at her.
• 41:13
  And he's like really fit had a shirt off go dad and I, it was a
• 41:19
  few days later. I got really mad at my mom and
• 41:20
  then I remembered like, Oh my. God, Oh my gosh.
• 41:24
  Oh, that just made me chills. I don't think so.
• 41:28
  Because at the time I. Remember you saying go with the
• 41:30
  shirt off looking really fit? I remember that.
• 41:34
  At the time I was really upset with my brother so I remember
• 41:37
  waking up and feeling like why would he say her?
• 41:38
  Like, why wouldn't did he mean him?
• 41:41
  And then a few days later, we go over to my mom's house.
• 41:44
  I literally have so many chills. It was like two or three days
• 41:47
  later, he totally redid she redid my dad's office.
• 41:51
  I do remember that. It was for my my nephew Jack.
• 41:54
  It was a little bed, so all my dad's stuff was gone.
• 41:57
  And I remember immediately, just like feeling so much anger.
• 42:01
  Totally, Yeah. And then I was, then I remember
• 42:03
  that. I literally remember my dad
• 42:04
  saying that. And I was like, Oh my God.
• 42:07
  You're like, Dang it, I have to listen to him.
• 42:09
  No one else can tell me not to be angry, but he's telling me
• 42:13
  it. Oh my gosh.
• 42:15
  Yeah, so in this dream we were walking and I haven't talked to
• 42:20
  my mom in like 2 1/2 weeks. This is going to sound bizarre
• 42:22
  to some people, but my mom is very.
• 42:25
  She's more, she likes being to herself and I have a hard time
• 42:29
  being in a relationship with people who don't reciprocate
• 42:31
  reaching out. And so I think I'm kind of like
• 42:34
  her in some way. Where I could disappear and not
• 42:37
  really talk to people, but so it kind of we kind of mirror each
• 42:42
  other in that way sometimes. So I was feeling a little guilty
• 42:46
  about it the day before. And then I have this dream and
• 42:48
  I'm walking with him and we're going to go visit my mom, but
• 42:51
  we're an hour late and he's like trying to like hurry us and I
• 42:54
  don't. There was some other thing like
• 42:55
  he was picking up some stuff and it was very random.
• 42:59
  Then we ended up getting there. My mom was so upset.
• 43:02
  She was like, Oh my God, I can't believe you were an hour late
• 43:05
  because visiting hours whatever and detention center.
• 43:08
  Oh yeah, that's where she is. OK.
• 43:10
  So then the next morning I wake up and I'm like Oh my gosh, I
• 43:12
  need to text my mom and I look at my phone when I don't know,
• 43:16
  like an hour after I woke up and she texted me.
• 43:18
  No. Way yeah, she was like, do you
• 43:20
  want to get breakfast this week? So.
• 43:23
  Oh my gosh, that is wild. Right.
• 43:27
  That's really. That's cool.
• 43:29
  I like that. I feel like that like.
• 43:32
  I love stuff that feels like it, like it.
• 43:33
  Felt like that was supposed to happen.
• 43:35
  I know. Yeah.
• 43:36
  Oh, that's good and it's good. I'm glad that like it was you
• 43:39
  both being like, you both probably were like, Oh my gosh,
• 43:42
  not like you guys want to see each other.
• 43:44
  So I think that's the thing that's hard is it's not like AI
• 43:47
  should reach out, but it's probably just like a, does she,
• 43:51
  do you think she just gets kind of like out of sight, out of
• 43:54
  mind where you think more about it?
• 43:56
  What do you think she's thinking about it?
• 43:58
  Well she ended up canceling on me and saying.
• 44:01
  Oh. Well, so she has a house,
• 44:05
  obviously, and then in the back there's this little like shed
• 44:07
  cottage where they have like a little porch.
• 44:10
  And I think it's just for storage now.
• 44:13
  But my mom yesterday texted me and she was like, can we cancel
• 44:16
  and get together next week? A guy's coming by to put a new
• 44:19
  roof on the cottage. And I was like, oh sure.
• 44:23
  But she said next week where it could have been, you know, do
• 44:27
  you have time Friday afternoon? But this is how my mom is where
• 44:30
  this trickles into my personality too with like
• 44:33
  controlling things around time. She needs a week to like
• 44:37
  mentally not prepare for being with me, but more like making
• 44:40
  sure everything is in the right spot schedule wise.
• 44:44
  I. Know does she work?
• 44:47
  No. OK.
• 44:49
  No, she has a wide open schedule except for Bible study on
• 44:52
  Wednesday, but that's neither here nor there when I said this
• 44:56
  to Bobby this morning because I always unravel a bit with
• 44:59
  hopefully other people have issues with family in some
• 45:02
  capacity. Well, in like A yes and B like
• 45:07
  when you and your mom get together, especially for recent
• 45:09
  like, it's very positive. Yes, it's very nice.
• 45:12
  Yeah. It's just all I'm a lot of talk
• 45:15
  outside of it where I like overthink it.
• 45:17
  And then we get together and I'm like, Mommy, hi.
• 45:19
  Literally I was saying Bobby, I could he probably knows me very
• 45:26
  well where I can really like unleash and just like go wind
• 45:31
  down this whole path of a conversation where it's like
• 45:34
  unnecessary, you don't have to unload everything right now.
• 45:36
  But I was like, I know I was like, I just don't understand
• 45:41
  why my mom would cancel. Like, does she really need to
• 45:44
  get the roof put on on Thursday? Could it be Friday?
• 45:47
  And he was like, well, usually he's right there with me.
• 45:50
  And it's so support. He's always supportive.
• 45:52
  But I liked that he was like, well, you know, it's probably
• 45:55
  hard for her because your dad took care of a lot of stuff
• 45:57
  before, and now she is. And so she feels like she needs
• 46:00
  to be there. And I'm like, yeah, I could just
• 46:02
  feel my blood pressure go down. I'm like thank.
• 46:04
  Goodness for Bobby. Yeah, yeah, well, and yeah,
• 46:09
  thank goodness for you too. It's you guys are that for each
• 46:11
  other. Yeah.
• 46:12
  Yeah. Oh, I would be very much with
• 46:14
  you on that. I'd be like insert eye roll
• 46:16
  emoji here. Well, and I always compare to my
• 46:19
  dad. This is so unfair.
• 46:22
  I'm like, he wouldn't do that. Or if he did, he'd be like, how
• 46:24
  about later in the afternoon? Wouldn't your mom ever go to
• 46:26
  therapy together? She wouldn't.
• 46:28
  I would love do. You go to therapy on your own.
• 46:31
  No, I have before in the past, yeah, yeah.
• 46:34
  I just haven't found one that I really like.
• 46:36
  Casey and I this week had our first therapy session together.
• 46:41
  Yeah, it was, it was great. I will say like for the first
• 46:43
  one, because it's a local place downtown and they do virtual as
• 46:48
  well, but we wanted our first one to be in person.
• 46:50
  I wish it was closer cause like being in the room versus like on
• 46:54
  the screen. Just like we talked about like
• 46:56
  there's something about being like in the physical presence of
• 46:58
  someone. Yeah, I did not like it was
• 47:01
  emotional like. Oh yeah, I barely.
• 47:04
  Like I didn't think like, like I knew we were going to because
• 47:07
  the main reason we wanted to go is AI think it can be extremely
• 47:10
  healthy for you to do even when things are fantastic, which is
• 47:14
  like this year and a half has just been like so heavy on us.
• 47:17
  And it just makes like, you know, me feel a little bit like
• 47:20
  the caretaker. And, you know, so there's just
• 47:22
  things that like we want to talk about how we can best support
• 47:25
  each other. But it was like an hour of
• 47:29
  basically him crying, me crying. And we talked very little
• 47:33
  honestly. Like we talked a lot about like
• 47:35
  our relationship, but so many other things came up that had
• 47:38
  nothing to really do with like, like it's not, we're not talking
• 47:41
  about like arguments we're having and stuff.
• 47:43
  Like we're talking about family dynamics this, that.
• 47:46
  I'm like, I'm like, where do we even go for the next one?
• 47:48
  Because it was literally just, she was just, she knew what
• 47:50
  questions to ask to get us talking.
• 47:52
  She's just trying to get to know us like.
• 47:54
  The first. Couple of sessions they're not
• 47:56
  going to be anything groundbreaking except for I did
• 47:59
  feel after it exhausted but also like a weight off of it I'm.
• 48:04
  Just like. They're all things that both
• 48:06
  Casey and I've said to and around each other.
• 48:08
  But it almost like feels really good having someone here that's
• 48:12
  not someone that knows us so personally.
• 48:15
  Sure, yeah. Like it's the same types of
• 48:16
  things I've said to you before or like to my sister, but like,
• 48:21
  even though you guys are so like also close to Casey, like of
• 48:25
  course you're going to feel for me a little bit more vice versa.
• 48:29
  So yeah, it was really good. And I was just like thinking
• 48:31
  about that. I'm like, I feel like this could
• 48:32
  be super beneficial for even like people with family
• 48:35
  dynamics, if not just couples, but like people that really care
• 48:38
  about their relationship with like their parent or sibling or
• 48:42
  something. I feel like that could be
• 48:44
  equally as like rewarding and beneficial.
• 48:48
  I would do it in a second. Yeah, I figured you would never
• 48:52
  really. It's I don't think.
• 48:54
  Yeah, like, I wish both my parents were in therapy.
• 48:57
  Like, respectfully, they all need it.
• 49:00
  Like, yeah, it's so much. It's just helpful.
• 49:03
  To have a space where you can unload stuff and even if it's
• 49:06
  just going into the room and like crying for an hour, like
• 49:08
  just having a space where you feel safe to.
• 49:11
  Do that. And it was only our first.
• 49:12
  So I found the place that we're going to.
• 49:16
  I actually trained the owner's dogs.
• 49:17
  So I knew I didn't want to work with her because I just.
• 49:22
  It's just I don't need to live too close, too close.
• 49:26
  Yeah, but I had asked her which of her therapist explaining our
• 49:31
  situation, who she'd recommend. And like my first, I'm very
• 49:36
  strong. Like I feel like I have a really
• 49:38
  good read on my first impressions of people.
• 49:40
  And I already felt like very comfortable with her.
• 49:44
  Oh, good. Yeah.
• 49:44
  Like it was interesting because she kind of came off initially a
• 49:47
  little bit like, I don't know, very stoic and like, not cold,
• 49:53
  but kind like I'm just used to, Hey, like how it wasn't that I
• 49:58
  was just like, come on in, guys. Like very like, like I'm like in
• 50:02
  trouble. And then she was like, she was
• 50:03
  like talking about how she was asking if we have done
• 50:06
  individual therapy. And we were talking about like
• 50:08
  how Casey's in it very consistently, how I've done it,
• 50:11
  but I'm not currently an individual, which I probably
• 50:13
  should. And then she was just talking
• 50:16
  about the differences of how she approaches it with couples
• 50:18
  therapy. And she's like, I will tell you
• 50:21
  with certain things like I will be very direct.
• 50:23
  She's like I, you know, if I hear something that like is, you
• 50:27
  know, becoming a constant between you guys or I can like
• 50:29
  pinpoint it, She's like, I will tell you guys right away like
• 50:32
  that. I'm gonna and I'm like, I like
• 50:33
  direct, like this is great where I was kind of like you.
• 50:36
  I know, but she is it's actually very interesting.
• 50:40
  I felt kind of self-conscious in it.
• 50:42
  Like, and I even like, I will say like the last podcast
• 50:46
  episode I listened to, I felt self-conscious when I was
• 50:48
  listening. I realize when I'm like
• 50:52
  emotionally struggling with something because I don't always
• 50:56
  show it as like I'm super sad. I will like overcompensate with
• 51:02
  a lot of talking. And so the last one I was
• 51:05
  annoying myself of like I didn't stop talking and you probably
• 51:09
  didn't even notice it. No.
• 51:11
  And like, we get excited. And like, once in a while, like
• 51:13
  cut each other off. It's hard when you're on a
• 51:14
  podcast but like I felt like I was cutting you off like every 5
• 51:18
  seconds. I was like no so annoyed with
• 51:21
  myself so I literally had to stop listening to the episode.
• 51:25
  Oh, I didn't think that at all. And I listened to the episode.
• 51:27
  Good. And I'm sure yeah, I knew it was
• 51:29
  like a me thing, but I found myself when because she's she
• 51:33
  lets you talk. I was rambling and I'm like, I'm
• 51:38
  like, I think that must be like one of my coping mechanisms is
• 51:40
  like Casey locks up. I like unload.
• 51:44
  Yeah. So I had to like think.
• 51:46
  I'm like, what question did she even ask me now?
• 51:48
  Like I'm talking about a different topic she didn't even
• 51:51
  ask me about, which is probably the point of it.
• 51:54
  But I found myself like almost, which I'll have to just like, I
• 51:59
  don't know if I should bring it up to her or if I should just
• 52:01
  let her bring it up to me. But I almost feel like I was
• 52:03
  then changing how I would answer things so that like I was almost
• 52:09
  was answering them right. Like it's like there's no right
• 52:12
  way. Oh, you should bring that up.
• 52:14
  Yeah, I think she can already tell, like, right off the bat
• 52:16
  because like, I just kept talking about how like, I try to
• 52:19
  control the things I can control because the last year and a half
• 52:21
  I felt so out of control. And I've always been particular.
• 52:27
  I've always liked things a certain way, but I've never felt
• 52:30
  so much like a control freak. Like, that's something that I'm
• 52:34
  like, that's not serving anyone. That's probably obnoxious to
• 52:37
  Casey. It's annoying to me because it
• 52:39
  makes me feel like I'm crazy if something's like, out of line.
• 52:43
  Even when you mentioned and I loved this, and I would feel
• 52:45
  this way too. Like, if Eloise came here, how
• 52:47
  you were talking about your mom with her lamp of like, hey,
• 52:50
  you're just like, I don't, I don't want to be like my nephew
• 52:53
  to Remember Me is like, uptight about a lamp.
• 52:55
  Yes. And I remember you saying that.
• 52:58
  And I thought about, like, Eloise, when she comes here
• 53:01
  more, it's like, I want her to be safe.
• 53:03
  I could care less if she breaks something.
• 53:05
  Yeah. But there are definitely things
• 53:06
  that I'm like, I'm uptight about that, like, like messes and
• 53:10
  things where it's like, is it that big of a deal to, like,
• 53:12
  care about that right now? Yeah.
• 53:14
  But I don't. Even know what made me here I go
• 53:16
  again. I am fine.
• 53:18
  Well, with something like that, like, but do you go over and
• 53:20
  you're like, what a mess like and clean it up or you just go
• 53:23
  over and pick stuff up? I just go over and pick stuff
• 53:25
  up. Oh.
• 53:26
  So that's totally different. Yeah.
• 53:27
  But like, I don't know that it's necessarily like the healthiest
• 53:30
  thing for my brain to be like, I need like I need to do this
• 53:33
  right now. Got it.
• 53:35
  It's something I can control. And I've never felt that like
• 53:39
  the past year and a half, I felt that so strong where sometimes
• 53:43
  it's like when we go to bed at night, I'll leave the blankets
• 53:45
  how they are on the couch. And I've always picked them up
• 53:48
  in the morning. So I just like to be clean.
• 53:50
  But like, just even things like that, like it's like I feel like
• 53:52
  I need to like do it before I go to bed now because like, it's
• 53:56
  something I can control and do and take care of.
• 53:59
  And so yeah, it was interesting. And like, the thing that just
• 54:04
  kept coming up for me is like, I feel like I need to like, keep
• 54:08
  Casey safe, keep, you know, the dog safe.
• 54:11
  Like, so then he didn't feel this way, which I'm so glad.
• 54:14
  But I felt like with Birdie, like I'm to blame for what
• 54:17
  happened. To her, Oh my God.
• 54:19
  Because I'm like, yeah, I'm like, what did I not like make
• 54:22
  sure was clean enough in our home or like I was just
• 54:25
  spiraling of like, are we the reason like this all happened
• 54:29
  type of thing? And I'm like, it's good Peace of
• 54:32
  Mind. But like all of our tests and
• 54:34
  stuff that I told you we got like they're all coming back
• 54:36
  like super clean, like great. The only one that was a little
• 54:42
  high. And but it wouldn't at all like
• 54:46
  affect the things that Casey and Bertie had.
• 54:48
  It would be like a lung cancer situation is our radon is a
• 54:51
  little high. So we're like having a radon
• 54:53
  company come in and do whatever they need to do for that.
• 54:56
  But it was the only thing that was like could use some support.
• 55:00
  I'm like, OK, so like that, that's like where my brain goes
• 55:04
  for like, and that's why I think like with the training stuff
• 55:08
  like that's so easy for me, even if it's a challenging dog.
• 55:12
  But like, that's the thing that it's like I can control in a
• 55:16
  way, like without it sounding creepy.
• 55:17
  Like how a dog's going to respond to something.
• 55:19
  Like they respond to me so well. So even like when I'm doing like
• 55:23
  the shadow programs and stuff, like it makes me feel really
• 55:28
  good to like share that with people and like it doesn't.
• 55:33
  It feels so natural for me where everything else has just felt
• 55:37
  kind of like unnatural the last like year and a half.
• 55:42
  So anyways, I'll obviously to the whatever I feel comfortable
• 55:45
  with and I'll keep you guys posted on their therapy journey.
• 55:48
  But session one I was like I just apparently need to talk a
• 55:53
  lot because. I don't ever I people like
• 55:56
  listening to talk. I think that's also something
• 55:59
  like what you're saying is interesting.
• 56:00
  It's very relatable and you know.
• 56:03
  And it's it's more of a me thing.
• 56:05
  Of course. Like it's just I don't ever
• 56:07
  listen to someone where it's like, because I feel like a lot
• 56:09
  of podcasts, especially if there's two people, one person
• 56:11
  always tends to be a tad bit more chatty.
• 56:13
  That's why people work well together.
• 56:15
  And I never am like God, like cut it off.
• 56:20
  It's just me listening back to myself.
• 56:21
  I almost kind of feel like beginning years of training and
• 56:26
  watching myself in videos and literally, and that's what we
• 56:28
  talk about, you know, at the trainer and you.
• 56:30
  It's like I I hated, hated watching myself, needed seeing
• 56:35
  how I talked my mouth. Like I would literally pick a
• 56:38
  part. And you were kind of talking
• 56:39
  about your stories the other day of like, you're sitting there
• 56:41
  and you could be picking a part yourself.
• 56:43
  Yes. But like, I go to the extent of
• 56:45
  like one of my sides of my mouth, like lifts up different,
• 56:49
  like I, you know, especially as women.
• 56:52
  But like, that's where I've been kind of feeling like listening
• 56:56
  to myself of recent or back to that.
• 57:00
  Because now when I watch videos of myself, I'm like, I've been
• 57:03
  there, done that. Like, yeah, I've seen myself in
• 57:05
  a bazillion videos and I'm probably the most confident in
• 57:08
  myself. Yeah, you're much more
• 57:09
  confident. Yeah.
• 57:10
  And I like, you know, feel proud of all I've done and stuff like
• 57:13
  that. But yeah, it was, I honestly
• 57:16
  love listening to our podcast. It was just this last one.
• 57:18
  Maybe it was because I was, you know, it was an emotional one,
• 57:21
  but I'm just like, Oh yeah, I just was like being mean about
• 57:25
  myself. Well, I think I kind of because
• 57:27
  I texted you when I was like when I felt like I, I was not
• 57:32
  embarrassed, but I was more like, oh man, I shouldn't have
• 57:35
  talked so much about that owner who texted me, who I really do
• 57:38
  adore. But like, totally.
• 57:40
  I just kind of unloaded it. But I think, yeah, it's just
• 57:43
  like I was drying my hair today because I'm going to get my hair
• 57:46
  done on Thursday, and for some reason I'm noticing Gray hairs
• 57:50
  more and more, which is very upsetting.
• 57:52
  It's not fun, really. No, I don't know.
• 57:56
  That like I'll mine will show so different cuz I have lighter
• 57:59
  hair but. Yeah, you're very lucky.
• 58:01
  Like now I'm noticing it on like my temples more.
• 58:04
  But anyway, so, but I so I was like, OK, I'm gonna wash my hair
• 58:07
  this morning. I'm gonna dry it.
• 58:09
  Yeah. And then even if I was as I was
• 58:11
  drying my hair and I'm looking in the mirror and I'm like, you
• 58:13
  can do better than this. Like just how I looked when I
• 58:16
  was drying my hair like God. It's so mean.
• 58:18
  I know this is. Insane.
• 58:20
  And I think you're so beautiful. I feel like like I'll not that
• 58:25
  this is like a let's complement each other, but like you have
• 58:28
  such like a natural beauty, like you don't have any makeup on
• 58:31
  right now, right? No some.
• 58:33
  But it looks like you have some, like, blush on and like, your
• 58:36
  eyelashes aren't, they're like naturally dark.
• 58:39
  It's like, thank you. You just look like ready to go
• 58:41
  for the day. Well, I'm slightly warm, I think
• 58:43
  that's why my cheeks are a little red.
• 58:46
  Doing you favor or heated OK. Yeah.
• 58:49
  No, but I love, I think it's really relatable you sharing
• 58:51
  about the stuff because it's so it's so interesting, like where
• 58:56
  Someone Like You, and I think I've said this to you before,
• 58:58
  where it feels like you are so confident and it comes across in
• 59:02
  videos you do and dog training and like at the trainer in you
• 59:05
  when you're like doing hands on in front of the trainers where
• 59:08
  I'm thinking in my head, Oh my God, I'm getting nervous.
• 59:12
  It was me doing it like, but so watching you, you're in your
• 59:16
  element. It's very cool.
• 59:17
  So I think there's always two sides to everyone.
• 59:20
  There's things we feel really good at doing, and then the
• 59:21
  other stuff we're like a little self-conscious, totally normal.
• 59:25
  Yeah, yeah. So, but I felt that that was
• 59:28
  like, I'm like, I'm glad we're doing it.
• 59:30
  It was, you know, the first one was hard, but not hard from the
• 59:32
  standpoint of like, I mean, I'm sure there's stuff that we're
• 59:35
  going to get into our case scenario and feel like
• 59:37
  uncomfortable having to talk about and stuff.
• 59:39
  And you know, we're, we're great, but we're not perfect and
• 59:42
  no couple is and stuff. And so it's just like we want to
• 59:46
  be the best versions of ourselves for us, but then also
• 59:48
  for each other. And I think that we're going to
• 59:50
  be able to do that with just having a little extra support in
• 59:54
  doing that. Now I want to go to therapy.
• 59:56
  Have you ever seen the show Couples Therapy?
• 59:59
  Yes and then there's a new one out on Netflix.
• 1:00:02
  It's called Blue Therapy. I don't know what it's about,
• 1:00:04
  but I'm definitely going to watch it because I.
• 1:00:06
  Love. So I started, I don't know if
• 1:00:07
  it's the one I started watching a few weeks ago.
• 1:00:10
  I couldn't get into it because I love Lorna or Orna.
• 1:00:14
  Orna from a couple therapy. That was a handful of years ago,
• 1:00:17
  right? Bless you.
• 1:00:18
  Excuse. Me, there's I think like Four
• 1:00:20
  Seasons. There's a new one coming out in
• 1:00:22
  May. It's on Paramount, OK?
• 1:00:25
  I love her. Like, if I went to a therapist,
• 1:00:27
  I would love to be her. And also when I watch her with
• 1:00:30
  these different couples where it's like, I wonder if they're
• 1:00:33
  getting paid because to be so open and honest about all these
• 1:00:36
  things, Yeah, is wild. But yeah, I don't know if you'd
• 1:00:40
  want to watch that because you're in therapy.
• 1:00:42
  It's me. It's like I try to channel
• 1:00:44
  Orna's energy because she's so calm when she's talking with
• 1:00:46
  them and. Yes, that was the thing too.
• 1:00:49
  It's like, I don't know, I feel like like if I was in a
• 1:00:53
  different, you know, I feel like I would like being a therapist,
• 1:00:57
  but I think that I, well, I don't know, like I immediately
• 1:01:02
  as I'm talking, start crying. And I think it's also just a
• 1:01:04
  little bit of like nerves and stuff.
• 1:01:06
  Yeah. But like she's asking why we're
• 1:01:08
  here. And it's like, to me, that's
• 1:01:10
  emotional to talk about. Yeah.
• 1:01:12
  So like, but she she just stays completely neutral.
• 1:01:16
  I'm like like, I don't know, I feel like if someone were to,
• 1:01:19
  I'd want to like comfort them. Yeah, but she doesn't.
• 1:01:22
  But she also doesn't feel cold. It's like she just lets you say
• 1:01:27
  what you want. Like there's always Kleenex.
• 1:01:29
  Like she never like said go ahead and grab a Kleenex.
• 1:01:31
  She let me do whatever. And so it was kind of weird
• 1:01:34
  because I'm like for me if like I have sometimes like an owner
• 1:01:37
  cry or something. Yeah, like I want to comfort
• 1:01:40
  them. Yes, and I want to like, but I
• 1:01:42
  let them like say and feel their feelings.
• 1:01:44
  But I'm like, I feel like I would potentially be too much of
• 1:01:46
  like a empathetic therapist that would probably just not even the
• 1:01:51
  the goal that she's trying to get us to talk and be feel like
• 1:01:55
  it's safe to do that. She's doing that and it's just
• 1:01:58
  like, but it's weird because yeah, I feel like she should be
• 1:02:01
  comforting me, but she's not comforting me.
• 1:02:03
  I would love for that to be my job where it's like the thing
• 1:02:06
  you instinctually think you should do, Like, certainly.
• 1:02:09
  And then it's permission not to because you're not looking at
• 1:02:11
  her, like, excuse me, Like, why aren't you consoling me?
• 1:02:14
  It's more like, yeah, this is a therapist.
• 1:02:17
  Yeah. How long is therapy school or
• 1:02:19
  going to be AI think? A long, I think you have to get
• 1:02:21
  a PhD. Pretty sure.
• 1:02:23
  Yeah, so long I'm. Like.
• 1:02:25
  Part of me now. Should I go back?
• 1:02:27
  And no, no, I really don't like school.
• 1:02:30
  I know I was going to go to well for like a second after watching
• 1:02:33
  a Top Chef episode and I was like, should I go to chef
• 1:02:35
  school? And Bobby's like no, you don't
• 1:02:37
  like night time stuff. But one thing I was thinking of.
• 1:02:42
  Work at like a brunch place. Oh yeah, daytime only.
• 1:02:45
  Well, it's kind of wild. There must be like good money in
• 1:02:47
  it because this girl that I was best friends with when I worked
• 1:02:50
  at Houlihan's Pre Bobby and we became best friends there.
• 1:02:56
  That was, I've been married to Bobby about 15 years.
• 1:02:59
  It was like 5 years before that. Oh my gosh.
• 1:03:02
  So but she works at a restaurant up the road.
• 1:03:05
  She did for as long as Bobby and I have been together still
• 1:03:08
  there. I drove past.
• 1:03:09
  She's out there at brunch time. Yeah, but I was thinking because
• 1:03:15
  I you were talking about like being like talking is maybe like
• 1:03:19
  a coping mechanism where when I was going to text you and I had
• 1:03:23
  to actually tell myself, don't I don't even know if I did say
• 1:03:25
  this, but I was like, OK, I'm I'm a texture and be like, what
• 1:03:29
  about this week if I flew up to Wisconsin and then I was going
• 1:03:32
  to overcompensate or whatever by saying like, but if you're busy,
• 1:03:36
  no worries. Or if you have too many dogs,
• 1:03:37
  totally get it. Don't worry about it.
• 1:03:39
  Do you notice it like that? Yeah, that I do that.
• 1:03:43
  I think a lot with people. I don't think I did to you
• 1:03:45
  because I was like, don't do that.
• 1:03:47
  You still slightly did. Oh, I did.
• 1:03:49
  Not fully. It was like, like, and if you
• 1:03:52
  have dogs like I'm I'm happy, like take content for you or
• 1:03:55
  whatever. And I'm just like, I don't even
• 1:03:57
  care if I have dogs. Just as yeah, like if you'll
• 1:03:59
  help me walk them and also don't mind hanging out by yourself
• 1:04:02
  sometimes. And I'm like, I know she doesn't
• 1:04:03
  mind. You don't have the bird
• 1:04:05
  sanctuary to hang out at. We put a Hummingbird feeder out.
• 1:04:08
  Did you would do? Nothing's happened.
• 1:04:10
  I think it. Takes some time.
• 1:04:12
  OK. Did you make?
• 1:04:13
  Sugar water, right? Yeah, got it from Amazon.
• 1:04:16
  Someone told me do not put a bird feeder in the chicken coop
• 1:04:18
  because they are savage and one day her chickens were going
• 1:04:21
  after murdering a cardinal. Oh my God.
• 1:04:24
  Oh thank goodness you didn't take my advice on that.
• 1:04:27
  I know. I was more worried about like,
• 1:04:28
  can they eat bird seed? Can you imagine you'd just look
• 1:04:31
  out in some murderous scene in the backyard?
• 1:04:34
  You can't handle that. No, we don't need that.
• 1:04:36
  Oh my gosh, that just ruins the cuteness of the chickens and
• 1:04:39
  they're so dirty and I still pick them up.
• 1:04:41
  It's I don't want them being murderers though.
• 1:04:44
  No, we don't need to. No, they're already lizard
• 1:04:46
  murderers. Well, one time they did run
• 1:04:49
  after a rat. Yeah, I was there.
• 1:04:52
  Oh, you were there, Loretta. Yes.
• 1:04:54
  She was like going ham on it. Well, what's the rest of your
• 1:05:00
  day look like? We have to take Charlie to the
• 1:05:03
  vet later today because he's been.
• 1:05:06
  Huh. OK stuff.
• 1:05:07
  Yeah, well, he one of his, like the side of his mouth looks a
• 1:05:10
  little bit inflamed and he's been like scratching at it a lot
• 1:05:13
  and it looks like a little puffy.
• 1:05:15
  He's been excessively licking things, which is ultimately my
• 1:05:19
  worst nightmare. Like if you want to.
• 1:05:20
  Torch already a liquor so excessively.
• 1:05:23
  What at times 10? So I'm just always on edge, like
• 1:05:28
  I have to go outside. Like he'll stop and he'll like,
• 1:05:32
  you know, eventually relax. But I looked it up and it could
• 1:05:35
  be something that's like health related.
• 1:05:37
  He could be nauseous. So we're going to take him and
• 1:05:41
  I'm also going to check if we should get a surgery to remove
• 1:05:44
  his big fatty tumor. I just don't think he doesn't
• 1:05:48
  walk that well. And I think it's because of
• 1:05:50
  that. Like his gait is off and I could
• 1:05:52
  see him living three more years or something.
• 1:05:55
  So I don't know. So.
• 1:05:56
  And I will say, and I don't know if you're about like for a
• 1:05:59
  removal type situation, like it still was inexpensive surgery,
• 1:06:03
  but it wasn't like they don't have to obviously open him up
• 1:06:07
  like internally and stuff. So you know, if you're kind of
• 1:06:10
  like if he's healthy to go under anesthesia, that's obviously the
• 1:06:14
  biggest thing. Or if like you want to do that
• 1:06:17
  at that age. But at least it wouldn't be like
• 1:06:19
  a really hard recovery type thing if it if it at all ended
• 1:06:23
  up being like how Bertie's recovery has been, except for
• 1:06:26
  the liking. But hopefully that's something
• 1:06:29
  like, I don't know, maybe I should put him on a probiotic or
• 1:06:33
  so I just want to go and get like some feedback on what
• 1:06:36
  should I do. Yeah, so.
• 1:06:39
  Do you guys have Theo surgery scheduled?
• 1:06:42
  No, we have to go up and we have to make an appointment to go to
• 1:06:45
  U of F, which is like 3 hours away.
• 1:06:49
  So no, we still have to make that appointment.
• 1:06:52
  But he's not been on some pain meds and his leg doesn't shake
• 1:06:54
  anymore, which is really nice. Yeah, I've always been walking
• 1:06:57
  them each morning on their nice long walk.
• 1:06:59
  Yeah, it. Seems much happier.
• 1:07:02
  Yeah, that's awesome. What are you excited about right
• 1:07:04
  now? Anything.
• 1:07:06
  Excited about the things warming up.
• 1:07:11
  Things are blooming. Our tulips popped.
• 1:07:14
  We're gonna go at some point this week to the greenhouse and
• 1:07:18
  get more plants for the front of our house.
• 1:07:20
  Casey's birthday is next week. That's right, that's on my
• 1:07:25
  schedule. It's on Monday, Yep, Monday of
• 1:07:27
  next week. It alerts me a week before.
• 1:07:29
  And so I was like, I got an alert on my Gmail, Google
• 1:07:32
  account calendar. It was like Casey's birthday.
• 1:07:35
  And I was like, what? It was like a week from today
• 1:07:37
  like. OK, good, I didn't miss it.
• 1:07:39
  Wait, did we mention how I continued to send you wrong
• 1:07:43
  things? Oh my gosh, we did mention him
• 1:07:46
  sending the Stanley thing and then you sent me.
• 1:07:51
  AI actually told Mandy this because she listens to our
• 1:07:54
  podcast and she was like, Oh my gosh, that's Stanley's story was
• 1:07:56
  so funny. I was oh, it didn't stop there.
• 1:07:59
  Bethany sent a Frisbee and like a chucket ball with a rope on
• 1:08:03
  it. I'm immediately like that
• 1:08:05
  Frisbee is for Louis. I'm like, this was not meant to
• 1:08:07
  send to our dogs. And also like, how many balls do
• 1:08:11
  our dogs need? So I'm like.
• 1:08:13
  I don't think she's like, still sending me stuff.
• 1:08:16
  So I sent a picture and I'm just like, Bethany, did you mean to
• 1:08:18
  send this to me? And you're like, no, I literally
• 1:08:20
  shouldn't. I literally was.
• 1:08:22
  I yelled at Bobby like I did it again.
• 1:08:25
  Oh my God. Like what am I doing?
• 1:08:27
  So now the last few times I've ordered something, I'm like,
• 1:08:29
  look, it says my address right? Like this is right you.
• 1:08:33
  Must have accidentally when you sent me the Chuck it thing.
• 1:08:38
  Sometimes Amazon will automatically check off like
• 1:08:41
  make this my new primary address and it was probably checked when
• 1:08:46
  I couldn't use stuff before. I make sure that that's not
• 1:08:48
  checked so that I don't have that issue.
• 1:08:51
  I'm guessing that's probably what happened.
• 1:08:53
  Yeah, and then Kate was like, I'm so glad that you didn't
• 1:08:55
  accidentally send a sex toy our way or whatever like that.
• 1:08:58
  Would have been hilarious, I said.
• 1:08:59
  That would have made great content for the pod.
• 1:09:03
  Because that's where our mind goes now.
• 1:09:04
  Like, this is gonna be great for the pods.
• 1:09:06
  Yeah, yeah. Definitely.
• 1:09:08
  Awesome. All right, Well, I hope you have
• 1:09:11
  a great yesterday. Yeah, you too.
• 1:09:13
  You too. OK, bye.