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Common Decency, Definitions of Joy and Yes, a Talk About Mothers · All About The Joy

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Carmen Lezeth: Yay, Hi everyone.
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Carmen Lezeth: Welcome to All About the Joy Internacional.
0:05
Carmen Lezeth: Almost Cynthia is in the house and she's where.
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Charlie Mattera: I am at the airport on my way to Italy.
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Rick Costa: Well we're going to Switzerland first.
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh, are you going to Switzerland first?
0:20
Rick Costa: Yeah, we have to stop in Switzerland.
0:21
Rick Costa: How did?
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Carmen Lezeth: I miss that.
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you have to stop in Switzerland.
0:25
Carmen Lezeth: And a layover, yeah, a layover, because it's not your personal jet.
0:29
Carmen Lezeth: You decided to fly commercial this time.
0:32
Carmen Lezeth: Just want to have fun in the commercial world of flying so you have a layover what I said to see how the regulars do it.
0:48
Carmen Lezeth: Not like us emoji people.
0:50
Carmen Lezeth: Let me see if I can close this up.
0:52
Carmen Lezeth: Hey, melanie, how are you?
0:54
Carmen Lezeth: Rick's going to be on, hopefully a little bit later.
0:58
Carmen Lezeth: He's just running late, but he just texted me, so I said we're going to go on early right now so we can talk to Cynthia before she boards her chart and flight.
1:07
Carmen Lezeth: It's so funny.
1:09
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so you land in Switzerland.
1:11
Carmen Lezeth: It's a layover.
1:12
Carmen Lezeth: How long is the layover?
1:13
Carmen Lezeth: Just an hour, it's not too bad.
1:15
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, no, that's going to be.
1:17
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, they're just refueling or something.
1:19
Carmen Lezeth: Maybe we don't know.
1:21
Carmen Lezeth: See, because I always get worried when I have a layover that's that short and they have to move stuff from the place.
1:27
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I shouldn't tell you that, because then you lose your luggage Like this.
1:32
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I only bring a carry-on, but I'm sure you brought more than just a carry-on.
1:37
Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, okay, so an hour, and then you're off from Switzerland.
1:43
Carmen Lezeth: You're going to Venice, right?
1:45
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, oh my God.
1:47
Carmen Lezeth: And then we're on the ship.
1:48
Carmen Lezeth: Wait.
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Carmen Lezeth: So how long are you in Venice?
1:51
Carmen Lezeth: Just a day.
1:53
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, we leave tomorrow night 8 pm from Venice on the ship, okay, and then you get on.
2:00
Carmen Lezeth: I think the worst part of the whole trip, which is the next two weeks right, is your cruise.
2:05
Charlie Mattera: And you're out.
2:07
Carmen Lezeth: Wow, you're going to have so much fun.
2:08
Carmen Lezeth: I would like a large T-shirt, especially from Greece, because you're going to be in Greece, which I think is the best part.
2:15
Carmen Lezeth: I don't want like a cheesy T-shirt, though.
2:18
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just saying Okay, hot men, give them my number freely.
2:22
Carmen Lezeth: You know my type.
2:23
Carmen Lezeth: Find out what's in their bank account.
2:29
Carmen Lezeth: First important one wants to know what kind of alcohol you want.
2:31
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I don't want alcohol, big drinker, okay, but one you're live now you're live now.
2:42
Rick Costa: Say hi to everybody hi, everybody yeah why does he think I'm?
2:45
Carmen Lezeth: a big drinker.
2:46
Carmen Lezeth: Now You're alive.
2:47
Carmen Lezeth: Now Say hi to everybody, Hi everybody.
2:48
Carmen Lezeth: Why does he think I'm a big drinker?
2:49
Carmen Lezeth: He thinks everybody's a big drinker Because he doesn't drink.
2:52
Carmen Lezeth: I think it's funny because he has a perception of me of being like a drinker I'm a floozy, but I'm not a big drinker.
3:01
Carmen Lezeth: That's where his confusion must be.
3:04
Carmen Lezeth: That must be what it is.
3:05
Carmen Lezeth: Okay so what are you most excited for the trip?
3:10
Charlie Mattera: Just to be in the sun and at the beach.
3:15
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, see, I have that all the time here.
3:16
Carmen Lezeth: That wouldn't be my thing.
3:17
Carmen Lezeth: I do too, but Come on, I got to get a little dig in there.
3:22
Carmen Lezeth: I'm jealous not of the cruise part.
3:24
Carmen Lezeth: Now, see, if we had coordinated this well, I could have gone out with you, stayed in Switzerland or Venice while you guys go on the cruise, vaya con Dios, and I could have gone and hung out with Nazeem I was going to say one of my clients, but yeah, that wouldn't have been fun because somehow I would just be doing work Right.
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Carmen Lezeth: So what are you most excited about besides the beach?
3:53
Carmen Lezeth: Whatever?
3:53
Carmen Lezeth: What country?
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Carmen Lezeth: Greece, yeah, I'm so jealous.
3:58
Carmen Lezeth: And the family, the rest of everybody is already there, or did they?
4:03
Charlie Mattera: just leave earlier.
4:06
Rick Costa: They left a little earlier.
4:06
Rick Costa: Yeah, so they're on their way.
4:09
Carmen Lezeth: And I think it's going to be a good trip.
4:10
Carmen Lezeth: I'm feeling very positive of traveling with family Because I know that's always a problem.
4:22
Rick Costa: Hold on one second.
4:24
Carmen Lezeth: Hi, rick, she's listening.
4:30
Rick Costa: Are you?
4:30
Carmen Lezeth: listening to them.
4:31
Carmen Lezeth: I'm listening Okay.
4:33
Carmen Lezeth: So Rick Cynthia's, at the airport, how you doing Good?
4:38
Rick Costa: good, how are you?
4:39
Carmen Lezeth: And she is waiting for her flight, which is going to be in now.
4:42
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, they're starting to board, oh.
4:46
Carmen Lezeth: Do you want to be now 13 minutes?
4:46
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, they're starting to board, oh do you want?
4:48
Carmen Lezeth: To say goodbye to Rick, then.
4:50
Carmen Lezeth: Adios, hey look, it have a beautiful trip.
4:52
Carmen Lezeth: Please text me once in a while and send me a picture or whatever.
4:56
Rick Costa: Yes, I will text you once we land, so you know that we're all there.
5:00
Carmen Lezeth: No, no, that I'm not worried about.
5:01
Carmen Lezeth: I'm worried about when you're all there and Emily.
5:06
Carmen Lezeth: So take a breath.
5:09
Carmen Lezeth: I love you.
5:09
Carmen Lezeth: Bye, tell Juan.
5:10
Carmen Lezeth: I said bye.
5:11
Carmen Lezeth: Have a good trip.
5:13
Carmen Lezeth: Bye, juan.
5:14
Rick Costa: Bye.
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Carmen Lezeth: Juan Bye.
5:15
Carmen Lezeth: Okay bye, bye, cool, hang on, I got you, I got you.
5:18
Carmen Lezeth: She's so cute.
5:18
Carmen Lezeth: How are you Rick?
5:19
Carmen Lezeth: Good, cool, you might have to.
5:22
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, hang on, I got you, I got you.
5:25
Carmen Lezeth: She's so cute.
5:26
Carmen Lezeth: How are you Rick?
5:28
Rick Costa: Good, good.
5:28
Rick Costa: What was funny today was I had to call a particular company to see if they had something in stock and she goes oh, you know what?
5:35
Rick Costa: I'm actually going to refer you to somebody else because I'm on a plane right now.
5:38
Rick Costa: I was like, oh sorry.
5:41
Carmen Lezeth: That's what's going on today.
5:43
Carmen Lezeth: So, how are you doing today?
5:46
Rick Costa: Doing good, doing good.
5:47
Rick Costa: We had a little mini celebration before the bigger one on Sunday.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, Okay, wait First.
5:51
Carmen Lezeth: We have to talk about something first.
5:53
Carmen Lezeth: We've got to talk about something because that's on my list.
5:55
Carmen Lezeth: That's on my list, but here's what happened.
5:57
Carmen Lezeth: So yesterday or last night at some point, when I came home from work, I saw that you had posted something that said happy birthday to your mom.
6:04
Carmen Lezeth: It was really sweet, and of course I.
6:06
Carmen Lezeth: It was like six or seven hours later but I didn't even see that.
6:09
Carmen Lezeth: But I totally freaked out because my mom's birthday is on June 12th and I was like there is no way that Rick and my mother's birthday is on the same day.
6:21
Carmen Lezeth: So I think it was, honestly, I don't know one o'clock in the morning, your time.
6:26
Carmen Lezeth: It didn't even dawn on me because I was shook by it and I text you.
6:30
Carmen Lezeth: And of course you answered back.
6:31
Carmen Lezeth: Did I wake you up?
6:32
Rick Costa: No, I was still up, oh my.
6:34
Carmen Lezeth: God, I don't know how you do that, but anyway you text me back and you said no, her birthday's on the 13th, because for me it was already the 13th because I'm on East Coast.
6:43
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that's right, but you posted it earlier, wait.
6:47
Rick Costa: But it was after midnight.
6:48
Rick Costa: I purposely waited until after midnight.
6:50
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, but that's after 9 o'clock my time, right?
6:52
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that's why.
6:54
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so I totally panicked and I was shook by it.
6:57
Carmen Lezeth: Here's the thing, that's still cool.
7:02
Carmen Lezeth: So 12th and 13th, and then billy my brother from another mother.
7:08
Carmen Lezeth: His birthday is on the 10th and our andrea's birthday is on the 11th, so it's 10, 11, 12, 13, and then you had your son is also on send the last day of the month, on 30th yeah, that's cool too, but anyway, shout out to all the birthdays.
7:21
Carmen Lezeth: I thought that was cool.
7:22
Carmen Lezeth: Andrea is also, I believe, believe she's.
7:25
Carmen Lezeth: I think they were landing in London.
7:28
Carmen Lezeth: So, Andrea is also out of the country and she will be in Germany with her daughters and stuff.
7:34
Carmen Lezeth: So yeah, the two of them are gone.
7:36
Carmen Lezeth: Can you imagine how rude they are?
7:39
Carmen Lezeth: Didn't bring their laptops to just come on in.
7:42
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding.
7:43
Rick Costa: Was it a pleasure or business for Andrea?
7:45
Carmen Lezeth: Oh no, her kids know it's pleasure, and Andrea is going back to Germany.
7:49
Carmen Lezeth: She lived in Germany for a while and so she's going back there to revisit some places and she's excited to bring her daughters there, and so that's cool.
7:59
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so it's a big travel time for people in the summer.
8:03
Carmen Lezeth: I forget that.
8:04
Rick Costa: Yeah, that's true.
8:05
Rick Costa: Yeah, True true.
8:07
Carmen Lezeth: When you were not having to take care of your mom, did you travel a lot more.
8:11
Carmen Lezeth: You're not a traveling person.
8:13
Carmen Lezeth: Nah, okay, is there a reason why?
8:17
Carmen Lezeth: Or you don't want?
8:20
Charlie Mattera: to talk about it.
8:21
Rick Costa: Money's a big thing, but yeah.
8:23
Rick Costa: Plus, if I want to go somewhere, I don't really want to go alone and I'm like who do I have to go with?
8:27
Rick Costa: Not really nobody.
8:28
Rick Costa: Mom doesn't even have a passport, and that's a whole story and a half to get into why.
8:35
Rick Costa: But yeah, but I have been to Portugal when I was in second grade, I've been to Bermuda three times and I've been to Canada multiple times.
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Carmen Lezeth: I feel like Canada doesn't count.
8:46
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding.
8:47
Carmen Lezeth: I think we've all been there one way or another.
8:50
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I love Canada, I do.
8:51
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't mean to say that.
8:54
Rick Costa: I used to think like why do I have to show you a passport?
8:56
Rick Costa: You're practically us anyway, Exactly.
8:58
Carmen Lezeth: Like.
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Carmen Lezeth: That's the whole thing I'm like, but that's why I called it Dear Mama.
9:13
Carmen Lezeth: There's a rap song.
9:14
Carmen Lezeth: For those of you who don't know, I know if Tony was here he would be like oh duh, but it's a Dear Mama by Tupac Shakur, the late and great Tupac Shakur.
9:24
Carmen Lezeth: It's one of my favorite rap songs, but it's more the storytelling.
9:27
Carmen Lezeth: But he's talking to his mother.
9:30
Carmen Lezeth: Singing about his mother and saying you are appreciated is the other part of the song.
9:36
Carmen Lezeth: So I was just thinking do you have I'm sure you do or do you want to share any really cool moments about your mom?
9:43
Carmen Lezeth: And I can go first, but I don't know, because I didn't prepare you for that.
9:47
Rick Costa: So, speaking of that song, I remember I think it was last year when I finally saw the video to that song.
9:51
Rick Costa: I was like oh that's really nice.
9:52
Rick Costa: Oh, it was you to say okay, that's why oh my goodness.
9:55
Rick Costa: Yeah, but I think of that other.
9:57
Rick Costa: Who's the guy that died?
9:58
Rick Costa: The one that sings mama?
9:59
Rick Costa: Who sings that Mustache?
10:02
Rick Costa: Who sings that Mustache?
10:04
Carmen Lezeth: I can't figure that one out.
10:05
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what the song is you're singing.
10:07
Rick Costa: He sang it in concert, like his last concert.
10:09
Rick Costa: Even he sang it to his mom as she watched Sing it.
10:12
Rick Costa: That's all I remember.
10:13
Rick Costa: She's like mama.
10:15
Rick Costa: He has a thick mustache.
10:16
Rick Costa: He died.
10:17
Rick Costa: Freddie Mercury Is that what you're talking about.
10:18
Rick Costa: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I couldn't think of he died a long time ago but I know, yeah, I forget that that's a very famous song because that's the only reason I know, because it's that famous I'm just trying to get the name of the song.
10:30
Carmen Lezeth: It's killing me, okay.
10:32
Carmen Lezeth: Somebody in the audience I'm like because I, okay, anyways, it's freddie mercury, but it's so funny because he's died like a long time ago.
10:39
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, and freddie mercury is one of my favorites prince.
10:42
Carmen Lezeth: Anyway, we don't have to go down that whole road.
10:44
Carmen Lezeth: You know what it just hurt me when you just sang that song.
10:47
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know why.
10:50
Carmen Lezeth: Did Prince ever do a mama song, like a song about his mom, I don't know.
10:53
Carmen Lezeth: I'd have to hear it.
10:55
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think, I don't know.
10:56
Carmen Lezeth: So Prince would do certain covers of certain songs.
11:00
Carmen Lezeth: I don't recall if he ever did a cover of anything by Queen which is Ferdinand Mercury, as Queen.
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Rick Costa: I just thought, since he wrote so many songs, that maybe he had one for his mom maybe I don't know.
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Carmen Lezeth: I know this is sacrilege to all fans of Prince.
11:17
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know every single song of every single artist I love and I know this song you were talking about.
11:23
Carmen Lezeth: Can't think of the name of it.
11:24
Carmen Lezeth: The thing is, it's like happy birthday.
11:25
Carmen Lezeth: Everybody should know this song you were talking about.
11:25
Carmen Lezeth: Can't think of the name of it.
11:26
Carmen Lezeth: The thing is, it's like happy birthday.
11:26
Carmen Lezeth: Everybody should know this song, because that's not the chorus.
11:30
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just a poor girl.
11:32
Carmen Lezeth: That's just the beginning what you're singing is the beginning.
11:35
Rick Costa: Oh, that's not the same song, I think so.
11:38
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, now you're going to make me look it up.
11:39
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
11:40
Carmen Lezeth: Now I'm getting confused because the part you sang is not the.
11:43
Carmen Lezeth: It's a beautiful part of it, but it's not the whole song.
11:47
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I'm going to be condemned by Queen fans, prince fans right now.
11:53
Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, I just want to say thank you so much.
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Rick Costa: Because I think I remember he did like a huge concert and it was televised and he said his mama was watching him sing that song and I was like oh Well, maybe yeah.
12:05
Carmen Lezeth: He said his mama was watching him sing that song and I was like, oh Well, maybe yeah.
12:07
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah, and I don't know if he wrote the song for her.
12:07
Rick Costa: I don't, no, I don't know.
12:09
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know everything.
12:10
Carmen Lezeth: I know it's a shocker.
12:11
Carmen Lezeth: I know it's a shocker, I don't know.
12:13
Rick Costa: The heart just stopped.
12:14
Carmen Lezeth: Everything Right.
12:15
Carmen Lezeth: I know what I know Favorite moment of your mom.
12:21
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I'm going to go first because you're going to deflect.
12:24
Carmen Lezeth: You're like you don't know much trouble I just had today with my mom.
12:29
Rick Costa: No, it was not a bad day.
12:31
Carmen Lezeth: No.
12:31
Carmen Lezeth: So look at again.
12:33
Carmen Lezeth: My mom died when I was really little.
12:35
Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember much and that's what sometimes I focus on, that I wish I remembered.
12:39
Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember what she looks like.
12:40
Carmen Lezeth: I have some pictures, but they're not really of when I was a kid, it's like before she had me, or so.
12:48
Carmen Lezeth: I think that's always a sadness for me to not be able to remember.
12:51
Carmen Lezeth: And then sometimes, when I do remember, it's fuzzy, like it becomes like a montage of Maya Angelou, like other people who I think represent something of my mom.
13:03
Carmen Lezeth: So it's always weird.
13:04
Carmen Lezeth: So I was trying to think about it today and I was like there's a photo of me and my mom that I have.
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Carmen Lezeth: We're in a photo booth and I'm really little and it's the only picture I really think looks like what she might have looked like when she was alive and I was around her.
13:20
Carmen Lezeth: But I'm really small in that picture.
13:22
Carmen Lezeth: I'm really a little kid, so I like that picture.
13:24
Carmen Lezeth: I'm really a little kid, so I like that picture.
13:26
Rick Costa: Kids.
13:26
Rick Costa: Today they're taken for granted.
13:28
Rick Costa: Everybody got pictures of everything today because we got the phones and everything, so they take it for granted.
13:32
Rick Costa: We didn't have that when we were little.
13:34
Carmen Lezeth: Now in my house.
13:35
Rick Costa: My mom took a bajillion pictures of everything, so we got tons oh my God Books and books full of pictures.
13:41
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but here's the thing Are they Polaroids or whatever?
13:44
Rick Costa: they were back then.
13:45
Rick Costa: A lot of them are.
13:45
Rick Costa: A lot of them are.
13:46
Carmen Lezeth: So I remember and this isn't my mom, but I remember vaguely as a kid that we collective, we didn't have cameras, like they were expensive back then to have a Polaroid I can't even say that word very well, but Polaroid and it would come out so you'd have a camera for all the kids who were listening and it would be bulky, it would be big, it'd be like maybe half of this, right, it would be like half of this thing or something, right Like that.
14:21
Carmen Lezeth: And and you would take the picture.
14:22
Rick Costa: And now, no, you had to pose and the button was like a slider on the bottom and it was awkward, I'm like, because how do you not shake the camera and do it at the same?
14:30
Carmen Lezeth: time and you would go whatever, and then it would come out right then and there and that was cool and it would be all white and then it would fade into the picture.
14:41
Carmen Lezeth: It would take I don't know like a minute or two and if.
14:44
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I forgot about that, but that was a really cool kind of thing, but we didn't appreciate it then, but we couldn't really afford that.
14:51
Carmen Lezeth: So that's what I'm saying.
14:52
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if it's we didn't have a lot of pictures, but I think we did not, because we didn't have a camera all the time or the film, cause you had to buy that film all the time.
15:02
Rick Costa: Yeah, yeah, my mom, she was crazy with that.
15:05
Rick Costa: And then she had the little square bulbs that you had to put on top and they got.
15:09
Rick Costa: Yeah, yeah, they got hot too.
15:13
Rick Costa: If you touched it, you were getting burnt after that thing, oh my god, rick, I forgot about that.
15:18
Carmen Lezeth: So on our phones it automatically changes the light or you can, whatever, but you had to buy and you'd screw it on, yeah yeah, you had four times.
15:27
Rick Costa: It was a square that's right.
15:30
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, each flash was a picture, and then you had to.
15:32
Carmen Lezeth: You used all four and then you use another one.
15:34
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, we didn't have that on a regular basis, I'm sure of it now.
15:39
Carmen Lezeth: That's or you would have a camera, not thearoid, and then you would take all the pictures that you were allowed the film.
15:47
Carmen Lezeth: It was like a little film canister and you'd put it into the camera 35 millimeter.
15:53
Carmen Lezeth: Whatever?
15:54
Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know you would take the pictures and be like what?
15:57
Carmen Lezeth: Like 25 or 30 pictures.
16:00
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, something like that, hey, every kid in the room pay attention.
16:03
Carmen Lezeth: You would then take the canister, the film canister, out and you would walk your butt to the local Photoshop or grocery store that would handle it, or whatever, and then you'd have to wait seven days to pick it up.
16:17
Rick Costa: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's true.
16:19
Rick Costa: Photo Mat, I think, was the place we had here here, was like a little booth.
16:22
Rick Costa: It wasn't even like an had here here was like a little booth.
16:24
Rick Costa: It wasn't even like an official building, it was like a little booth and I'm like you sit in this little thing, where do you do all the work?
16:32
Rick Costa: I must send it off, obviously.
16:34
Carmen Lezeth: I remember we would go into the grocery store Maybe there was a little annex or something but we'd be in the grocery store and you could leave them.
16:41
Carmen Lezeth: And then we would not, we, but you could leave them.
16:42
Carmen Lezeth: And then we would not, we, but you could pick it up the next time you came shopping or something.
16:46
Carmen Lezeth: But it would always be like at least five days, and then you had to pay for that.
16:49
Rick Costa: Yeah.
16:50
Carmen Lezeth: So they did it for free and remember they came in those white envelopes.
16:54
Rick Costa: Oh my gosh, we still have some.
16:56
Rick Costa: I'm sure we have some here, I'm sure.
16:57
Carmen Lezeth: That's so cool.
16:58
Carmen Lezeth: So you would go and you would pick up your pictures a week later and you'd be excited and you open it up.
17:03
Carmen Lezeth: And the worst feeling was when you would open it up and it would be like blurry, yeah, and then there would be like two great pictures or something.
17:12
Carmen Lezeth: But when it all came out great, it was awesome.
17:14
Rick Costa: But yeah, oh, my god, I hadn't thought about that in forever yeah, I remember we had like one that was like a rectangular like this and I had the bulb thing.
17:24
Rick Costa: It's just like a little button on top.
17:25
Rick Costa: Then we had like one like this.
17:26
Rick Costa: We actually did have a flash weddings.
17:29
Carmen Lezeth: I see those a lot still at weddings because they put them on every table at the reception and then people.
17:34
Carmen Lezeth: So there has to.
17:35
Carmen Lezeth: You're right.
17:35
Carmen Lezeth: There's still these places that do that.
17:37
Carmen Lezeth: You're right, there has to be and the um.
17:40
Rick Costa: Oh yeah, that's another thing too yes, that's right, mel Melanie Now we got Photoshop to get rid of that mess.
17:46
Rick Costa: Yeah, or whatever.
17:48
Carmen Lezeth: And it automatically does it too.
17:49
Carmen Lezeth: It can fix it too, yeah.
17:51
Rick Costa: Definitely.
17:52
Carmen Lezeth: What were you saying about the flat ones?
17:54
Carmen Lezeth: I forgot.
17:55
Rick Costa: I interrupted you.
17:56
Carmen Lezeth: It's all good, that's right, but what are some good memories you remember with your mom?
18:01
Carmen Lezeth: If you don't, it's okay.
18:07
Rick Costa: One.
18:08
Rick Costa: Remember with your mom.
18:08
Rick Costa: If you don't, it's okay.
18:09
Rick Costa: One thing was her cooking.
18:10
Rick Costa: Cooking, she could cook, oh, she could cook.
18:11
Rick Costa: Past tense she could cook, oh, yes, she could.
18:12
Rick Costa: My god, kodak box camera oh, I remember those two.
18:16
Carmen Lezeth: They were like disposable ones you used to say remember, there's a podcast.
18:20
Carmen Lezeth: So melanie just said my dad had a kodak, kodak I box camera, I know, because it's been so long.
18:29
Carmen Lezeth: No, the only reason why I say that is because, part of again, I'm always going to complain about editing until I have an editor.
18:34
Carmen Lezeth: Sorry, you're all going to have to hear it again, because what ends up happening is, if I don't mention it, it doesn't make sense in just the audio version, and then I have to figure out a way to edit it out.
18:44
Carmen Lezeth: And what ends up happening that's really hard is if we go back like we talk about something else and then we talk about oh yeah, when Melanie said da-da-da-da-da, I have to go find that too.
18:54
Rick Costa: Yeah, but I remember they had disposables and you literally took the pictures and then you turn the entire camera in for the development of the pictures, the whole thing.
19:02
Carmen Lezeth: I think they still do that at weddings that's the only place I've seen it Because they want every table at the reception to have a camera and not just use their phone.
19:10
Carmen Lezeth: So they ask you to take pictures and then you give it back to the bride's cousin or whatever's happening, and they get them developed.
19:19
Rick Costa: And that reminds me of something else.
19:21
Rick Costa: I don't want to get off the mama thing, but that reminds me of something else.
19:22
Rick Costa: I don't want to get off the mama thing, but that reminds me of that post I sent you about the controversial guy that did the favor of taking pictures and they wouldn't feed him.
19:29
Rick Costa: Did you read that thing?
19:30
Carmen Lezeth: I sent you.
19:31
Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, I did see that.
19:31
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know If we're going to talk about it and we can, I don't mind at all.
19:35
Rick Costa: Yeah, I know.
19:58
Carmen Lezeth: We can talk about the mom stuff first.
19:59
Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, no, no.
20:00
Rick Costa: So the video post was.
20:00
Rick Costa: It was like an Instagram or TikTok post and it was about a guy.
20:02
Rick Costa: A photographer took a bunch of pictures at a wedding and then he wanted a plate of food, a favor, and take the pictures, and he paid him for $250, which otherwise that is ridiculously cheap and so he took all the pictures and then he's starving here.
20:15
Rick Costa: Can I have some food too?
20:16
Rick Costa: And they said no.
20:20
Carmen Lezeth: So here's the problem I have with all of this.
20:22
Carmen Lezeth: Number one is just, the comments went back and forth before I make my statement on it.
20:28
Carmen Lezeth: So people were saying he was paid, he's a professional, he shouldn't expect to have food.
20:33
Carmen Lezeth: That was the thing, right, like you're getting paid for a job, you're not there to eat, you have to do your job and I don't know starve to death or whatever.
20:42
Carmen Lezeth: And other people were saying is it's just common courtesy, it's just you have someone come and work for you.
20:48
Carmen Lezeth: And then I thought I read something where people were like they're not feeding all the crew that put up the tents, or you know.
20:54
Carmen Lezeth: So I guess I don't know.
20:56
Carmen Lezeth: Here's my thing.
20:57
Carmen Lezeth: Why don't we hear your perspective?
21:00
Rick Costa: The thing that's different is that was his friend and he told his friend no, you can't eat.
21:05
Rick Costa: I'm like what.
21:06
Rick Costa: First of all, I'm doing you a favor, giving you a stupid cheap price, and you can't let me have some food for real.
21:13
Rick Costa: And then so one of the comments was like what if it was something super expensive?
21:17
Rick Costa: And they just had shoestring budget.
21:20
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, it was not expensive.
21:22
Carmen Lezeth: Here's the thing that would actually be worse to me.
21:24
Carmen Lezeth: Why are you paying me only $250 if you, you know I spent so much more on you know what I mean?
21:30
Carmen Lezeth: Like that would be weird.
21:31
Rick Costa: Yeah, but I feel like give the man some food.
21:34
Rick Costa: That's your friend, my God.
21:36
Carmen Lezeth: But even if it wasn't his friend, I just think there's a weird I've been saying this for a long time a weird idea of what manners are, what common sense is, what courtesy is To me.
21:52
Carmen Lezeth: If somebody's hey, can I grab a plate, they shouldn't even be asked, he shouldn't even have to ask.
22:00
Rick Costa: Yeah, because I would have been even thinking about him like hey, are you hungry, You've been doing a lot of work, blah, blah, blah.
22:05
Rick Costa: I would have been like even thinking about him like hey, are you hungry, Like you've been doing a lot of work.
22:08
Carmen Lezeth: I would have asked before he had to ask, I would offer.
22:09
Carmen Lezeth: I have never been to a wedding.
22:11
Carmen Lezeth: I've never worked at a wedding, so I guess that's different.
22:12
Carmen Lezeth: But I have never been to an event anywhere where there's food that I didn't feel like I could eat something.
22:19
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what professionals go through, but that's happy.
22:24
Rick Costa: We still didn't say the punchline of what happened.
22:28
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, no, tell me.
22:28
Rick Costa: How he got petty.
22:29
Rick Costa: He deleted all the pictures.
22:33
Rick Costa: We forgot that part.
22:34
Rick Costa: He deleted them all.
22:35
Rick Costa: I'm like bro, what that's yikes.
22:38
Rick Costa: I understand you're mad, but ooh, that's somebody's one time in a lifetime memory.
22:44
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that you just deleted.
22:46
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but that's your friend and you just dissed me, probably embarrassed me.
22:52
Carmen Lezeth: That's a friend, come on.
22:55
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you know what I'm petty.
22:58
Carmen Lezeth: When I need to be petty I am.
23:00
Carmen Lezeth: I will admit it right now, especially when it's something stupid like this.
23:05
Carmen Lezeth: That's just and I know it's mean.
23:07
Carmen Lezeth: But maybe what he did was he just said he deleted them.
23:10
Carmen Lezeth: That is probably like in the heat of a moment of an argument.
23:14
Carmen Lezeth: Maybe I would have been like I just deleted them, I'm out and I would have left or whatever.
23:17
Carmen Lezeth: But maybe he didn't and maybe in a few years he might give it back, who knows.
23:22
Carmen Lezeth: But I have no problem with his reaction.
23:25
Rick Costa: Maybe in a few years he might give it back.
23:28
Rick Costa: Who knows?
23:29
Rick Costa: But I have no problem with his reaction.
23:29
Rick Costa: Yeah, yeah, if it wasn't a friend I would have been like but that's your friend, what are you doing?
23:31
Rick Costa: I know, still, you should have gave him food either way, but that's your friend.
23:35
Rick Costa: You can't give your friends some food, seriously.
23:37
Rick Costa: Somebody said why didn't he bring a lunch?
23:39
Rick Costa: Hey, Charlie, hey, charlie, the photographer deleted all the wedding pictures because they wouldn't give him food.
23:47
Carmen Lezeth: I'm okay with it, charlie, I'm going to be petty.
23:49
Carmen Lezeth: So I don't know.
23:52
Carmen Lezeth: I just think it's a weird situation all around.
23:55
Carmen Lezeth: I don't understand why.
23:57
Carmen Lezeth: First of all, I would say to him never, ever, do a favor for a friend.
24:02
Carmen Lezeth: If you're going to do a favor for a friend, just say you know what I'm good, don't pay me.
24:07
Carmen Lezeth: I'll just do this as a.
24:08
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
24:10
Carmen Lezeth: That's what I would do.
24:10
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not going to do business with friends.
24:13
Carmen Lezeth: Because that kind of thing happened.
24:15
Carmen Lezeth: And who knows who said it.
24:16
Carmen Lezeth: Was it the friend, or maybe the mother-in-law or the?
24:24
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know?
24:25
Carmen Lezeth: Who said to him he can't have food Right, it wasn't an Italian.
24:27
Carmen Lezeth: Or a Spanish one.
24:29
Rick Costa: Or a Portuguese one either.
24:31
Carmen Lezeth: My God, yeah, or a decent human being, one, clearly.
24:35
Carmen Lezeth: So, rick, why don't you share a favorite moment with your mom?
24:40
Carmen Lezeth: Or you don't have to if you don't want to, you don't want to no, I'm just trying to go back and think.
24:45
Rick Costa: One thing that we used to do as a family all the time was go to the beach a lot in the summertime and the weekends, and that was always fun.
24:52
Rick Costa: But my mom, she wasn't swimming, she like put her feet in the water and that's it.
24:56
Rick Costa: And my dad would try never, she never went swimming she didn't swim, no, no, and and it was.
25:03
Rick Costa: Oh my god, the food was insane.
25:07
Carmen Lezeth: I think the food makes everything.
25:10
Carmen Lezeth: Do you remember High?
25:11
Carmen Lezeth: Was it High?
25:12
Carmen Lezeth: Look at Charlie.
25:13
Carmen Lezeth: Can you do this, dude?
25:16
Carmen Lezeth: Can you do this with your phone?
25:19
Charlie Mattera: What.
25:20
Carmen Lezeth: Can you do this with your phone?
25:22
Carmen Lezeth: There you go, beautiful man, how you doing.
25:24
Charlie Mattera: Hey, what's up, guys, hey?
25:26
Carmen Lezeth: How are you?
25:27
Carmen Lezeth: I'm good.
25:28
Rick Costa: You know your hand is covering the camera.
25:32
Carmen Lezeth: You got to hold your doobie with the other hand and hold the camera.
25:35
Carmen Lezeth: I got this over here, I know but we can't see you there you go, oh, okay.
25:40
Carmen Lezeth: Don't drop the doobie just got to do with your other hand the whole world could use a good fight.
25:49
Charlie Mattera: All the depressant right now so how was your wedding?
25:55
Carmen Lezeth: were you cheap?
25:56
Charlie Mattera: I told you remember, I told you, I told ryan, I came and I told him I said hey, I'm gonna get married, I want you to stand in for me.
26:05
Charlie Mattera: And he says yeah where we where we gonna get.
26:06
Charlie Mattera: I said we'll do it on the beach in Santa Monica, just me, you, nat and folks.
26:10
Charlie Mattera: And he looked at me and went what are you nuts?
26:11
Charlie Mattera: The guy's jogging around sweating all over the place, people throwing frisbees, dogs.
26:19
Charlie Mattera: We'll do it behind my house, right on the beach in Malibu, he says we'll invite everybody.
26:25
Charlie Mattera: You wouldn't believe the people that showed up at my wedding.
26:29
Carmen Lezeth: Now you've got to drop the tea.
26:30
Carmen Lezeth: What the hell is that?
26:31
Carmen Lezeth: I wouldn't believe it.
26:33
Charlie Mattera: No, it was insane.
26:34
Charlie Mattera: It was like actors, gangsters.
26:36
Charlie Mattera: It was like I looked up over the beach I was like holy shit, look who's here?
26:39
Charlie Mattera: Did he just get out?
26:42
Charlie Mattera: I'm looking, you're so bad.
26:45
Charlie Mattera: No, it was nice.
26:46
Charlie Mattera: It was like 100 people on the beach and they had this thing.
26:51
Charlie Mattera: What are they called?
26:52
Charlie Mattera: The hopa the thing?
26:54
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what the thing is.
26:55
Carmen Lezeth: What is that you?
26:56
Charlie Mattera: know the thing that you get married underneath.
26:58
Rick Costa: That was on the beach Like a canopy.
26:59
Charlie Mattera: Roses all over it, oh yeah.
27:01
Rick Costa: Canopy Roses all over it Some kind of archway dealio.
27:03
Rick Costa: Yeah, yeah.
27:05
Charlie Mattera: No, and it was really cool, and the dolphins showed up and they were jumping around.
27:09
Charlie Mattera: Yeah, I saw dolphins the other day actually that's when I realized that dolphins don't need to be trained to do those flippages and stuff.
27:17
Charlie Mattera: They do that.
27:19
Carmen Lezeth: All the time they're hanging out and playing.
27:21
Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
27:22
Carmen Lezeth: When did you get married?
27:23
Carmen Lezeth: What month was it?
27:24
Carmen Lezeth: Let's see, that was oh shit okay, never mind, we'll edit this out so your wife doesn't hear it.
27:31
Charlie Mattera: I forget what month it was, but I know it's 16 and a half years ago, yeah has it been that long?
27:39
Charlie Mattera: I went to Ryan's service recently.
27:42
Charlie Mattera: They had it at the DGA.
27:43
Charlie Mattera: I come walking in and everybody has it been that long.
27:45
Charlie Mattera: I went to Ryan's service recently.
27:46
Charlie Mattera: They had it at the DGA.
27:47
Charlie Mattera: Yeah, I come walking in and everybody sees me and they're like, oh shit, charlie's here.
27:51
Charlie Mattera: They're all ducking for the exits.
27:53
Charlie Mattera: They know I'm about to go and you never liked you.
27:57
Charlie Mattera: I was such a gentleman, I was so well behaved, but it's funny because everybody's gathered around me and Natalie and all.
28:03
Charlie Mattera: All of a sudden, a couple of the girls are like Natalie, you guys are still married, you haven't gotten rid of him yet.
28:08
Charlie Mattera: And my wife looks at them because that's an LA compliment.
28:12
Charlie Mattera: I'm sorry, that's a showbiz compliment.
28:15
Charlie Mattera: You haven't gotten rid of him yet, traded up.
28:18
Charlie Mattera: Natalie looks at them.
28:22
Charlie Mattera: He goes no, now we're together till the hubcaps fall off.
28:24
Charlie Mattera: Yeah, you found a good one.
28:27
Charlie Mattera: She's a tough lady.
28:29
Carmen Lezeth: It's been 16 years.
28:31
Charlie Mattera: Yeah, isn't that crazy 16 years.
28:35
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that's really weird.
28:36
Carmen Lezeth: How old is your son again In.
28:38
Charlie Mattera: LA Like 50.
28:40
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, no, that's a good one 25 or something.
28:42
Carmen Lezeth: How old is the boy, as you call him, the?
28:45
Charlie Mattera: boy, he's 16 now, ryan.
28:46
Charlie Mattera: Yeah, that's right, that's right, he's like this he's like this big.
28:51
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I don't want people to get confused, but his son's name is after his godfather, ryan O'Neal, so that's his son's name.
29:05
Charlie Mattera: I said don't know what it's going to be.
29:06
Charlie Mattera: If it's a boy it's ryan, and if it's a girl it's ryan.
29:07
Charlie Mattera: I guess I get the picture.
29:09
Charlie Mattera: Hey, for all his madness and all his weirdness, my boy, he was a good guy, he was original.
29:17
Charlie Mattera: I've never met anyone else like him.
29:19
Charlie Mattera: When he was at his best he could put me in tears, man, he could just make me crack up.
29:25
Charlie Mattera: He would do this outlandish stuff.
29:26
Carmen Lezeth: You're still mourning about him.
29:28
Carmen Lezeth: You're still mourning.
29:30
Charlie Mattera: Yeah, it was a rough couple of years because I lost my cousin, who was like my big brother.
29:36
Charlie Mattera: I told you how I found him.
29:38
Charlie Mattera: I was watching television after I came back from college and all of a sudden there's an ad for Big Brothers of Queens.
29:44
Charlie Mattera: And there he is.
29:45
Charlie Mattera: Wow, cousin Charles.
29:47
Charlie Mattera: You know what?
29:48
Charlie Mattera: You didn't tell me that.
29:49
Charlie Mattera: I was like holy shit, this isn't a Cousin Charles.
29:52
Charlie Mattera: So I called the Big Brothers people.
29:54
Charlie Mattera: I said look, here's my telephone number.
29:56
Charlie Mattera: Tell them this is Cousin Charles.
29:57
Charlie Mattera: Tell them I said the freaking call.
29:59
Charlie Mattera: And then, within it was like an hour, all of a sudden he called me up and we were hanging out like it was old times.
30:06
Charlie Mattera: Wow, and he died suddenly Is he here.
30:09
Carmen Lezeth: now Is he in Los Angeles now, you met him.
30:12
Charlie Mattera: I think you saw him walking around.
30:13
Charlie Mattera: He was like 6'5" big and handsome.
30:16
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God, that's right.
30:18
Charlie Mattera: Yeah, yeah, and all the ladies in the gym Charles is your cousin, Is he?
30:23
Charlie Mattera: I go?
30:26
Charlie Mattera: No, no, take him to dinner.
30:27
Charlie Mattera: I do remember him.
30:29
Charlie Mattera: I treat him like a manservant.
30:32
Charlie Mattera: I said he's game.
30:33
Charlie Mattera: A manservant, he's game, Don't worry about it.
30:37
Carmen Lezeth: It's so weird because I'm having so many flashbacks of things I haven't thought about in a long time.
30:42
Charlie Mattera: He was one of the funniest people.
30:44
Charlie Mattera: He was always with me.
30:46
Charlie Mattera: He was with me when I used to get in trouble?
30:47
Carmen Lezeth: Why are you saying was what happened?
30:49
Charlie Mattera: No, he passed away this past year.
30:51
Carmen Lezeth: That's right.
30:52
Carmen Lezeth: You were sick, that's right.
30:54
Charlie Mattera: My dad croaked and that was just.
30:56
Charlie Mattera: I never got to get right with him.
30:58
Charlie Mattera: I never saw the guy for 40 years.
31:00
Charlie Mattera: But I never saw the guy for 40 years.
31:01
Charlie Mattera: But we started talking on the phone again.
31:03
Charlie Mattera: Hey, what am I going to do?
31:04
Charlie Mattera: Hey, charles, you want a clock ball?
31:06
Charlie Mattera: You want a candy bar?
31:08
Charlie Mattera: I'm going to go get some smokes.
31:09
Charlie Mattera: Anybody want a candy bar or something?
31:11
Carmen Lezeth: You guys didn't, you couldn't talk, and that was it.
31:13
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
31:15
Charlie Mattera: It was still uncomfortable.
31:16
Carmen Lezeth: It was still uncomfortable.
31:17
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I was 12, or?
31:20
Charlie Mattera: 13.
31:20
Charlie Mattera: Yeah, I'm coming.
31:20
Charlie Mattera: I'll be there next week.
31:21
Charlie Mattera: You're sitting in the window as a little kid.
31:23
Charlie Mattera: You got your mom over your shoulder, what do?
31:25
Charlie Mattera: You love him so much for I'm the one that stayed.
31:27
Charlie Mattera: Love me.
31:27
Charlie Mattera: That's fucking insane yeah.
31:29
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you did talk a lot about some stuff, but I didn't put it all in the podcast.
31:33
Charlie Mattera: We're smashing it in here, some kind of way.
31:37
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm glad I don't always put in.
31:40
Charlie Mattera: Let's get back to the guy who wouldn't give up the pictures because he couldn't get no chow at the wedding.
31:45
Charlie Mattera: Go ahead, maybe.
31:46
Rick Costa: He said he deleted them.
31:47
Charlie Mattera: he says supposedly oh, that's just awful.
31:49
Charlie Mattera: You know what I'm a big fan of.
31:53
Charlie Mattera: I like what Michelle Obama said you go low, I go high.
31:58
Charlie Mattera: You want to treat me like a fucking hump because you got no class.
32:03
Charlie Mattera: It says more about them than it says about the guy.
32:05
Charlie Mattera: That's true.
32:06
Charlie Mattera: What he, what he should have done was look here's your fucking pictures and just split I you know what.
32:11
Carmen Lezeth: I'm okay with his reaction.
32:13
Carmen Lezeth: That was his friend and I don't think he actually deleted the pictures.
32:16
Charlie Mattera: He might have just said it and walked away, I think just send the whole family in horror to think that all of you for what?
32:24
Charlie Mattera: For the month or half he's gonna go sulk.
32:26
Charlie Mattera: I'm just like okay, charlie, be a man his friend.
32:30
Carmen Lezeth: His friend wouldn't give him a plate of fucking food.
32:33
Charlie Mattera: No, I get it.
32:34
Charlie Mattera: I get it.
32:35
Charlie Mattera: But that would have been the moment I went.
32:37
Charlie Mattera: What you don't want me chowing with the fucking the swells with the guests.
32:42
Charlie Mattera: I would have pulled out the disc, I would have stuck it in the fucking potato salad and I would have said smell you later.
32:50
Charlie Mattera: Or that high class wedding.
32:51
Charlie Mattera: They would have had the chicken I would have stuffed it in.
32:53
Charlie Mattera: I would have split.
32:56
Charlie Mattera: I would have you know go find it in the cocktail sauce.
33:00
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I'm okay with.
33:01
Carmen Lezeth: I'm okay.
33:02
Charlie Mattera: You gotta be old time.
33:04
Carmen Lezeth: No, but Charlie, you're focusing on the wrong thing.
33:06
Carmen Lezeth: His friend, look, if you did that to me, okay, let's say I'm doing something for you, I'm shooting pictures.
33:12
Carmen Lezeth: I don't shoot pictures at all.
33:14
Charlie Mattera: Let's say I'm doing something for you, yeah, but I would never do that.
33:16
Carmen Lezeth: I know you wouldn't, but if you're friends I would never think you wouldn't right.
33:20
Charlie Mattera: I give you my plate here.
33:23
Carmen Lezeth: That's what I'm trying to say.
33:24
Carmen Lezeth: So that's what he thought, too we're friends, now get this.
33:27
Charlie Mattera: You brought this up.
33:28
Charlie Mattera: I just remembered something.
33:29
Charlie Mattera: I was shooting Gentleman Bandit in Santa Monica.
33:32
Charlie Mattera: The guy who owned the bank gave us the bank to shoot him.
33:35
Charlie Mattera: He came over to me.
33:37
Charlie Mattera: He was like Charlie, when did anybody ever say to you here's the keys to the?
33:41
Carmen Lezeth: bank To the bank.
33:42
Charlie Mattera: We're having dinner at the dinner break and all of a sudden I hear that there's a problem.
33:49
Charlie Mattera: There's these homeless guys that buy craft service and blah, blah, blah.
33:53
Charlie Mattera: And I went what the fuck, what's going on?
33:56
Charlie Mattera: And it was my birthday that day.
33:57
Charlie Mattera: So I walked back to them and I go what the fuck's going on?
34:01
Charlie Mattera: And they go oh, these homeless guys, man, they think we're going to feed them.
34:04
Charlie Mattera: And I said fucking, feed them.
34:07
Charlie Mattera: I said life sucks.
34:09
Charlie Mattera: I said we're in their fucking house and they're nice enough to leave us be.
34:12
Charlie Mattera: I said hey, guys, what do you want?
34:15
Charlie Mattera: And I had a plate of my own and Ryan was right there and Leslie Stephenson was over there.
34:20
Charlie Mattera: Ed Lauder was around.
34:21
Charlie Mattera: He was passed away.
34:22
Charlie Mattera: God rest his soul.
34:24
Charlie Mattera: My producers are there.
34:25
Charlie Mattera: My producer's brother, he's screaming and yelling.
34:27
Charlie Mattera: I said dude, calm the fuck down.
34:29
Charlie Mattera: You're a millionaire.
34:31
Charlie Mattera: The guy has something to eat, man.
34:33
Charlie Mattera: I gave him my plan.
34:34
Charlie Mattera: I said here, I don't need to eat tonight.
34:38
Carmen Lezeth: I don't like working on a full stomach.
34:39
Carmen Lezeth: Anyhow, there's also a whole crew of food there.
34:41
Charlie Mattera: It's not like there's not enough, but please, they're gonna throw half of it away.
34:45
Carmen Lezeth: Right, right, that's what I'm saying and people get, so all like pearls clutching, whatever I'm just saying your food and I'll tell you where to put it.
34:54
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just going back to the initial conversation okay I'm friends with you, I am doing something for you for less than my normal amount of money because you and I are friends, which is basically nothing.
35:08
Carmen Lezeth: Here's what I'm saying.
35:09
Carmen Lezeth: And then I go to grab a plate.
35:11
Carmen Lezeth: Wherever we are, you guys are having dinner.
35:14
Carmen Lezeth: I ask if I could have some food or whatever it is, and you say, no, carmen, we can't do that for you.
35:21
Charlie Mattera: Oh, that's right out of wedding crashes or some shit.
35:23
Carmen Lezeth: Exactly.
35:25
Charlie Mattera: It's really hysterical.
35:27
Carmen Lezeth: I'm throwing it down and walking out the house.
35:29
Charlie Mattera: I can see the woman off to the side going.
35:31
Charlie Mattera: We're not feeding the help.
35:32
Charlie Mattera: With the cigarette with the giant ash on it with all the jewels.
35:36
Charlie Mattera: Yeah exactly, this is a charity deal.
35:39
Charlie Mattera: Yeah For sure.
35:41
Charlie Mattera: Tell that person.
35:46
Charlie Mattera: Whoever somebody in the vicinity Came up with that bullshit idea Of not letting homeboy get a plate, I don't know for whatever weird Freak show.
35:52
Carmen Lezeth: I think it wasn't the friend.
35:55
Charlie Mattera: It's not the friend he's covering for somebody, a mother-in-law or somebody.
36:00
Charlie Mattera: I would go with whoever's paying for the child For the wedding.
36:04
Charlie Mattera: That's who I would go with.
36:05
Charlie Mattera: Who's?
36:05
Carmen Lezeth: he Exactly.
36:06
Carmen Lezeth: Okay wait, you just dropped your phone.
36:09
Carmen Lezeth: What happened, dude Charlie?
36:12
Charlie Mattera: you dropped the phone.
36:13
Charlie Mattera: I'm still here.
36:15
Charlie Mattera: Where is it?
36:15
Charlie Mattera: Did I do it right?
36:18
Charlie Mattera: I don't think so.
36:21
Carmen Lezeth: Wow, we could have planned this.
36:22
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, what's wrong?
36:24
Carmen Lezeth: Did you fall?
36:25
Rick Costa: We lost the video of Charlie, by the way.
36:27
Rick Costa: Podcaster people.
36:29
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, his video is out.
36:31
Charlie Mattera: But you can still hear me, yeah.
36:36
Carmen Lezeth: But it's all black.
36:38
Charlie Mattera: I don't know what I'm looking for here.
36:39
Charlie Mattera: Come on, this is like some newfangled BS.
36:42
Charlie Mattera: I'm just a country.
36:42
Charlie Mattera: Come on, this is like some newfangled BS.
36:44
Charlie Mattera: I'm just a country bumpkin.
36:46
Carmen Lezeth: Right, you could also log off and come back up, but it's okay because we're going to wrap up soon anyway.
36:52
Carmen Lezeth: Why don't you?
36:53
Charlie Mattera: guys wrap up and talk about some niceness, don't?
36:59
Carmen Lezeth: jump off.
36:59
Carmen Lezeth: I want to see your face again.
37:01
Charlie Mattera: I don't know how to do it.
37:02
Charlie Mattera: I don't know what I'm doing here.
37:03
Charlie Mattera: Wait, that's oh, he's gone, he's gone.
37:08
Carmen Lezeth: He just logged off by accident.
37:10
Carmen Lezeth: Maybe he'll come back on.
37:12
Carmen Lezeth: Charlie, we love you.
37:13
Carmen Lezeth: He's so funny.
37:14
Carmen Lezeth: He could just talk and make you laugh and whatever, and you would just be engaged the whole time and none of us have to talk.
37:25
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, he's such a fucking storyteller.
37:26
Rick Costa: sorry everyone with your little ears might hurt.
37:27
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god, I swore I just I could listen to him forever, like he's so funny to me and he's such a good storyteller.
37:35
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I'll text him if he doesn't come back on and just make sure he's fine but it sounded like he dropped the phone yeah, yeah, because it sounded a little bit far away all of a sudden.
37:44
Carmen Lezeth: So I was like oh, okay, but I was asking you before that happened, like who was it that was talking in the video?
37:50
Carmen Lezeth: Was it the actual friend who asked him to do the shoot?
37:54
Carmen Lezeth: I wish I could remember now yeah, I know what charlie's saying, but it's a bad it was just a picture.
38:01
Rick Costa: It was just a picture.
38:02
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, right here oh, it was a picture, and then somebody was doing a.
38:06
Rick Costa: Oh, it wasn't a video, it was a article or something hungry photographer deletes all photos and leaves after being denied food at wedding wow, that okay.
38:16
Carmen Lezeth: For some reason I thought it was a video on tiktok, but it was a story.
38:19
Carmen Lezeth: It was.
38:19
Rick Costa: Yeah, I don't know I'm okay with what the guy did one person and I guess in brazil they were like in my country that's unheard of.
38:26
Rick Costa: You would never do such a thing to somebody whatever I would totally be.
38:32
Carmen Lezeth: It's not about the situation, it's about you're supposedly my friend.
38:36
Carmen Lezeth: That's that's where I would be like, oh, done out, you know mean, okay, you still didn't share.
38:46
Rick Costa: I said we're going to the beach with my mom.
38:47
Rick Costa: It was fun.
38:48
Rick Costa: We would cook out there.
38:49
Rick Costa: My dad liked to go search for clams and crabs even little baby ones.
38:55
Rick Costa: He loves seafood.
38:57
Rick Costa: I was not a huge fan, but he loved doing that.
38:59
Carmen Lezeth: I'm allergic.
39:00
Rick Costa: in case anyone doesn't know, In case you ever go out to dinner no seafood place, no seafood, unless you want to see me have a Epilepsy.
39:09
Carmen Lezeth: I do have my EpiPen always and notifications, but anyway, so cool.
39:15
Carmen Lezeth: I don't remember going to the beach as a kid.
39:17
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure we did, but I don't really remember it bums me out or whatever.
39:22
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, did you hear about the Transformer movie Thingamajiggy?
39:25
Carmen Lezeth: No, you haven't heard the unbelievable praise of the new Transformer movie that is animated and starring Chris Hemsworth, scarlett Johansson, jon Hamm, lawrence Fishburne.
39:40
Carmen Lezeth: Are you really serious?
39:42
Rick Costa: you haven't heard of it.
39:42
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, no, I thought, because it was animated you and Tony and all of you boys would be and it got great reviews.
39:49
Carmen Lezeth: It premiered.
39:50
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think it's out yet.
39:51
Carmen Lezeth: I think it's coming out in July for some reason.
39:53
Rick Costa: I'm really surprised.
39:54
Rick Costa: No, I didn't hear about that.
39:55
Charlie Mattera: No the only thing that I heard.
40:05
Rick Costa: You don't follow my beautiful man.
40:06
Rick Costa: That's all I don't know.
40:06
Rick Costa: If I do, no, I think I do, because I saw a picture of him.
40:07
Rick Costa: He was with his family and there was like a display with a Thor's hammer at it and he joked and said I could have called that to me if I wanted to.
40:12
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so clearly you do not pay attention to his stream every single day.
40:16
Carmen Lezeth: Because if you're a true fan of the beautiful Mr Chris Hemsworth Not that I'm saying I am, no, clearly I am but yeah, so I didn't even know they were doing this, but it's animation, it's not my thing, but everyone is giving it great reviews and stuff.
40:32
Carmen Lezeth: So aren't you a Transformer person?
40:34
Rick Costa: I liked it, but I wasn't a huge fan.
40:37
Rick Costa: I think Tony probably was more than I was.
40:39
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, it'll be interesting if we talk to Tony again.
40:42
Carmen Lezeth: I don't mean to do it If I said if Tony no, so that's totally cool.
40:49
Rick Costa: Yeah, Optimus Prime.
40:50
Rick Costa: Whoever that actor is, he has like that amazing voice.
40:53
Rick Costa: Sounds so cool.
40:54
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but I think I don't know what, because I don't really care about Transformers at all Transformers at all.
41:03
Carmen Lezeth: I love Chris Hemsworth and Scarlett Johansson and Lawrence Fishburne for sure.
41:05
Carmen Lezeth: I could take or leave Jon Hamm on any day.
41:06
Carmen Lezeth: I know people are going to freak out about that, but I don't really care.
41:09
Carmen Lezeth: So I don't know what part Chris Hemsworth and Scarlett Johansson are playing or what they're doing, but we'll see if Tony knows anything.
41:16
Carmen Lezeth: I thought I would just mention that.
41:17
Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, other than that, you got anything you want to talk about, because I hit all my stuff.
41:23
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I do have something else, but go ahead, I do have one other thing.
41:26
Rick Costa: This, unfortunately, is not a good thing, but a guy that used to watch a lot of his videos YouTube he had three million followers one billion views on his.
41:35
Rick Costa: Like the car accident, his car rolled and rolled.
41:38
Rick Costa: Because of the injuries, he ended up dying and I was like I just watched this dude three days ago.
41:42
Carmen Lezeth: Why don't you tell people what his name is?
41:44
Rick Costa: So he was known as Comicstorian, but his real name was Ben Potter.
41:48
Rick Costa: In tons of videos he would retell the comic book stories, but not just.
41:52
Rick Costa: He would animate it, do different voices and everything and be all animated and it was fun to listen to him and he's gone Like what it was in 40, only 40 years old.
42:01
Carmen Lezeth: So it's like such it was shocked me, like right before bed is when I heard it I was like I'm gonna go to sleep now I didn't know who he was, but because I follow a lot of youtubers, when I especially when I worked on a different podcast as a producer, we had to know all the top people, whatever I thought that was sad.
42:15
Carmen Lezeth: But he was in a car accident, so it's not even like he was sick or yeah, it was a true accident.
42:21
Carmen Lezeth: And I don't even want to say may he rest in peace, cause I never even followed him that much, you know what I mean Like I just did it, but I'm like that's just wrong and that's nothing to do with his billions of.
42:32
Carmen Lezeth: I don't even care about all that, but it's just he was providing a cool thing for people and I'm I don't know if he was a good person or not.
42:40
Rick Costa: I'm like seemed like he had a wife that adored people.
42:44
Carmen Lezeth: I would prefer sorry to be in a car accident and yeah, you know what I'm saying yeah, his best friend who also does the same thing.
42:54
Rick Costa: I'd actually watch this other guy a lot more because I don't know he's got this really cool sounding voice.
42:58
Rick Costa: But he did a video and I said comics explained is the name of the channel.
43:05
Rick Costa: Now his actual name is escaping me.
43:06
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, that's cool.
43:07
Rick Costa: But he did a video and I'm like, oh, I'm going to need tissues.
43:10
Rick Costa: And yeah, I was.
43:11
Rick Costa: He was crying, I was crying.
43:12
Rick Costa: I was like, oh man, this is so sad.
43:14
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just okay promoting people that.
43:16
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I asked yeah.
43:17
Carmen Lezeth: So he did a video about his friend.
43:19
Rick Costa: Yeah and yeah, and he said they started about the same time and their birthdays were within a few days of each other.
43:23
Rick Costa: Something like that.
43:25
Rick Costa: So he was like it was like we were meant to be friends and, yeah, it was tough yeah that's a downer, rick.
43:32
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know how to make that joyful, but thank you for sharing.
43:34
Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding.
43:36
Rick Costa: Joyful part is live life today to the fullest, because you never know.
43:42
Carmen Lezeth: Or just live life to the fullest.
43:44
Carmen Lezeth: Because what's the other choice?
43:47
Rick Costa: I'm just saying People don't live forever.
43:50
Rick Costa: You don't know that?
43:51
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I know, and again, I'm not arguing with you, I'm just saying this is what I mean by living in a place of joy or from a place of joy.
43:58
Carmen Lezeth: It's like that saying is great, but it comes from a place of fear.
44:01
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I don't want to die, so I better live in joy.
44:04
Carmen Lezeth: It is counterintuitive in a way.
44:06
Carmen Lezeth: My thing is do it because it's a better way to live.
44:10
Rick Costa: Oh, yeah, a hundred percent.
44:11
Carmen Lezeth: And you have joy within you.
44:13
Carmen Lezeth: It's not something you have to find, you just got to train yourself to use it.
44:17
Carmen Lezeth: And I always say that happiness is external.
44:20
Carmen Lezeth: Right, and I didn't come up with that, I don't know who did, but I grabbed onto it and I get a piece of chocolate cake and I'm extremely happy when I eat it because I love chocolate cake.
44:29
Carmen Lezeth: I get a bonus at work.
44:31
Carmen Lezeth: I'm happy because I got acknowledged for the work I do.
44:34
Carmen Lezeth: Happiness is an external thing, right.
44:37
Carmen Lezeth: Happiness is something that, when it happens, it's because oh my God, I saw a rainbow.
44:42
Carmen Lezeth: That's external.
44:44
Carmen Lezeth: But, joy is within you, and it's something you've got to figure out how.
44:48
Carmen Lezeth: In whatever circumstance you're in, you got to find that little piece of light, silver lining, whatever you want to call it hope and learn to live from there so that, no matter what happens to you, you can find your way through it.
45:02
Carmen Lezeth: And that's what I did growing up, not because I'm smarter or better than anyone else, it's just.
45:09
Carmen Lezeth: It was something that I had to figure out because of survival.
45:14
Carmen Lezeth: And then you hone it.
45:16
Rick Costa: Yeah.
45:17
Carmen Lezeth: And what's that noise?
45:19
Rick Costa: Motorcycle somewhere.
45:21
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God, Are our speakers and mics that deep?
45:26
Rick Costa: That's a good microphone, damn.
45:28
Rick Costa: That's like why not live in joy?
45:30
Rick Costa: Why not?
45:33
Carmen Lezeth: But that's what I just said.
45:33
Carmen Lezeth: I think it's hard because people enjoy misery and accidents and yuckiness more, and I don't know why.
45:42
Carmen Lezeth: That's a natural thing that all humans do.
45:45
Carmen Lezeth: If there's an accident on the street, everybody slows down.
45:48
Carmen Lezeth: No one's jumping out to help or whatever, but everyone's oh my, what's happening.
45:53
Carmen Lezeth: They'll stop and now what I think is worse stop and take pictures or video.
45:59
Carmen Lezeth: Now I know I understand that a lot of those videos have helped clarify some issues, especially when it comes to bad things happening, and there's a weirdness that we are fascinated by negativity, and I told you this before.
46:13
Carmen Lezeth: I get more views when I'm screaming and yelling at someone and this is for everyone, by the way.
46:19
Carmen Lezeth: Every person is doing a podcast or doing a YouTube video, whatever.
46:22
Carmen Lezeth: You get more views when there's all this conflict and anger and negativity.
46:26
Carmen Lezeth: But it's really hard to get views if you're not doing either something niche and like I'm teaching you how to I was gonna say weed, but I don't know what that is or like doing something that's really Ohits is what I meant.
46:43
Carmen Lezeth: There's so many youtube channels on how to knit and whatever.
46:45
Carmen Lezeth: So you get followers if there's a niche.
46:48
Carmen Lezeth: You get followers if there's tragedy or somebody's beating up somebody else or somebody's yelling at somebody else, but just having a channel that's about joy and fun.
46:59
Carmen Lezeth: And I'm not just talking about this channel, talking about even there was a news show one time that was trying to just be like oh, this is only news about good stuff.
47:08
Carmen Lezeth: The reason why we don't know it is because it's off the air.
47:11
Carmen Lezeth: It got off the air like within a second.
47:14
Rick Costa: I used to hear remember when we used to have newspapers.
47:16
Rick Costa: They're probably still out there somewhere.
47:18
Carmen Lezeth: When they used to put them on your front door.
47:20
Rick Costa: Exactly somewhere, but put them on your front door.
47:21
Rick Costa: Exactly.
47:22
Rick Costa: And somebody would say we make a newspaper which us just all good news, cause I said cause it'll never survive.
47:31
Carmen Lezeth: And I'm sure people have tried it and it hasn't.
47:32
Carmen Lezeth: It didn't survive and that's why we don't have it.
47:34
Carmen Lezeth: And I don't know what that's about.
47:34
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think that's a flaw in who we are as humans, but there's got to be.
47:37
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure there's some sociological experiment or whatever that they've done to figure out why that is, cause it seems to be everyone.
47:45
Carmen Lezeth: But I think all that negativity ends up being in our.
47:49
Carmen Lezeth: We absorb it.
47:50
Carmen Lezeth: This is just my theory.
47:51
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I don't watch horror films.
47:54
Carmen Lezeth: I don't like.
47:55
Carmen Lezeth: I'm very careful what I digest and people I'm around like toxicity does not work for me because I think all of that we absorb it and then it makes it harder for us to find that little light of joy because it's all piled in with our own crap, with our own things that we're dealing with.
48:12
Carmen Lezeth: I had a client the other day this week it was this week who said to me how come you don't know that?
48:18
Carmen Lezeth: How come you don't know that I'm like because off the top of my head I don't care how much your mortgage is.
48:23
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean I'm like I will look it up for you and let you know, but I don't have that information Now.
48:30
Carmen Lezeth: If you want to ask me what my payment is, I can tell you, because it's my payment.
48:35
Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
48:35
Rick Costa: I mean Like I'm going to walk around and have everybody's mortgage.
48:39
Carmen Lezeth: That's my job to start with.
48:42
Carmen Lezeth: It's not.
48:42
Carmen Lezeth: But how am I going to know that?
48:44
Rick Costa: My brain's always been that way where if I don't really need that information, it just discards it and I forget it.
48:49
Rick Costa: I just don't need it.
48:51
Rick Costa: Why am I going to cram all this stuff?
48:52
Rick Costa: No for what.
48:53
Rick Costa: I don't need to know that.
48:54
Rick Costa: I already got enough issues with regular stuff.
48:56
Rick Costa: I got to remember, let alone all and all this other stuff, Nah.
48:59
Carmen Lezeth: And it's not necessary, you can look it up, because my question is if it's such an emergency, how come you don't motherfucking know your own mortgage that you pay everyone?
49:08
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
49:09
Carmen Lezeth: It's just a weird thing, but that's also taking in like toxicity.
49:14
Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm not going to get upset that he asked that and I told him I don't got it.
49:17
Carmen Lezeth: I will get it to you in a couple of hours.
49:19
Carmen Lezeth: But it's that weird thing where people just pile on and you're right, you got to just take it in and let it out, cause that also adds to the negativity of who we are.
49:31
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just glad I've learned how to do that at a young age, cause I don't know what I'd be.
49:35
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what I would be like now if I hadn't been able to be the person I was growing up.
49:43
Carmen Lezeth: I wish things were different, but not the growth I had because of it.
49:47
Carmen Lezeth: Does that make sense?
49:49
Rick Costa: Yeah, they always say we are a product of what we've been through.
49:52
Rick Costa: That's true.
49:53
Rick Costa: It molds us and makes us who we are today.
49:56
Rick Costa: If things were different, we'd be a different person, literally.
50:00
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, going back to our moms and stuff, I was thinking about this not to bring it down, but it's actually.
50:05
Carmen Lezeth: I was trying to find a way to move through it.
50:07
Carmen Lezeth: It's when I asked you about the birthday thing, when I was freaking out, I thought about this.
50:11
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like I wonder what I would be like if my mother had lived.
50:14
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
50:17
Carmen Lezeth: And I don't think I'd be a better person.
50:19
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I'd be a better person.
50:19
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I'd be a worse person, but the story would be different.
50:23
Carmen Lezeth: That's what I think.
50:24
Rick Costa: Or another monkey wrench.
50:28
Carmen Lezeth: What if your dad was in the picture?
50:29
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I'd be a better person.
50:31
Carmen Lezeth: I think if, after my mom died and after a few years of getting back on track, I found out who my father was, that might've been a more horrible thing, cause I don't think I could have ever dealt with that very well.
50:45
Carmen Lezeth: I wasn't mature enough.
50:46
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
50:47
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I still am, actually to tell you the truth, but I still think, or I would hope to think, I'd still be the same person, but you don't know.
50:56
Rick Costa: Yeah, the core of you is you are who you are.
50:59
Carmen Lezeth: Environment changes things yeah.
51:03
Rick Costa: They say by the age of three.
51:04
Carmen Lezeth: Your personality's set already by age at least three so if you're a bitch today, you've been a bitch since you were three, okay exactly I don't know, I know nothing of these things.
51:16
Carmen Lezeth: I and I wonder is that really true?
51:19
Carmen Lezeth: Who's they like scientists?
51:20
Rick Costa: I've heard many people.
51:21
Rick Costa: Is that really true?
51:22
Rick Costa: Who's they Like scientists?
51:22
Carmen Lezeth: I've heard many people say that Really yeah, but can you change?
51:26
Rick Costa: Would an environment have a lot to do with that If you consciously try to, yeah, and that's why I've always said all right parenting, if you just let everything go, everything go, let them do whatever they want, just go crazy.
51:38
Rick Costa: And then when they're a little bit older, then you said, oh, now I'm going to start to discipline, it's too late.
51:43
Rick Costa: You got to start from the beginning.
51:45
Rick Costa: Yeah, but they're just babies.
51:47
Rick Costa: I ain't saying to kill the child, but you got to show them I'm the boss and you are the child.
51:53
Carmen Lezeth: That's because a lot of parents today I've been saying this for a long time they want to be friends, because whatever trauma they went through with their parents, they want to change it somehow.
52:03
Carmen Lezeth: And it's from a good place, it's not from a bad place.
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Carmen Lezeth: But people need structure.
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Carmen Lezeth: I know people hate to say that no, no, I'm freestyling.
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Carmen Lezeth: But when you were growing up you needed some structure to make wiser decisions.
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Carmen Lezeth: You can see animals in the wild don't do that either.
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Carmen Lezeth: There is structure A baby elephant and a mama elephant.
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Rick Costa: There's a gospel singer, vicki Winans, pretty famous in the gospel world, and she said all these parents make me sick.
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Rick Costa: I'm just going to talk to them.
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Rick Costa: I'm just going to talk to them.
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Rick Costa: She goes yeah, you're going to be talking to them through a jail cell, but you're going to be doing it.
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Carmen Lezeth: Is that what she said?
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Carmen Lezeth: It's the linens, right, they are.
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Carmen Lezeth: That's true, though, but you'll get.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm not questioning parenting because I don't want to hear anyone tell me you're not a parent, so you don't know.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what.
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Carmen Lezeth: Here's the thing I am not a parent, so I do know, because I can be objective, because I was a kid once, and I still remember what it's like to be a kid, and I keep telling some who are parents I think a protective gene comes out that needs to come out when you become a parent and you forget what it's like to be 10 and you forget what it's like to be five.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't have that protective thing.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't.
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Rick Costa: Because I remember before I had a kid and I'm like I'm so empathetic, I could understand, blah, blah, blah, I get it, I get it, I get it.
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Rick Costa: Then, when you have the kid and everybody always tells you before, you don't get until you have a kid, no, I understand, I could get it, I get it.
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Rick Costa: Nah, you really don't.
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Rick Costa: When you have the kid, it changes.
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Rick Costa: Then you really do.
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Rick Costa: They're right.
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Rick Costa: Then you will understand it's just something changes.
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Carmen Lezeth: Well, I'm not trying to say I understand from the point of view of a parent.
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Carmen Lezeth: I would never claim that.
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Carmen Lezeth: But when I look at parenting, I can tell which person sucks as a parent and which one, and let me tell you, I always bring this up too.
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Carmen Lezeth: It's also with pet parents, people who have dogs.
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Carmen Lezeth: I have this thing.
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Carmen Lezeth: It's the same thing.
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Carmen Lezeth: I can tell who sucks as a parent and who does not.
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Carmen Lezeth: Easily I can see it as clear as day from the point of view of a non-parent.
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Carmen Lezeth: I was just talking to my friend Cindy about this.
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Carmen Lezeth: We went on a walk on Saturday and she's actually a veterinarian and we were talking about this and she's no, you're not wrong, and she has tons of pets.
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Carmen Lezeth: And it's this weird thing where people are not, they're more worried about how they're handling or coping or dealing with whatever issue they're dealing with and generally taking it out on the kid.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
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Carmen Lezeth: Like the overreaction to parents from kids doing certain things is and pets doing certain is ridiculous, and then the lack of acknowledgement of what some kids are doing is the other side of the coin.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm like what is wrong with you?
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Carmen Lezeth: It's like what Ms Winan said right, Wait, your kid just said F you to you and you ain't going.
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Carmen Lezeth: That's the worst thing when I see kids at their parents.
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Carmen Lezeth: See how mad I get just saying that Not today I'm just saying a five-year-old is not going to disrespect me or a parent.
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Carmen Lezeth: A 10-year-old is not going to be disrespectful to their parent.
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Carmen Lezeth: A 15-year-old is not going to be disrespectful to their parent.
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Carmen Lezeth: I can go on and on, but when a parent sits there and takes it, okay.
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Rick Costa: I don't even get that.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't even get that Because they remember what it was like.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
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Carmen Lezeth: So this is my perspective when you're a little kid growing up the way I did growing up, and I was safe from this, but I watched it.
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Carmen Lezeth: I was safe from it because my mother wasn't around right, which is not a good thing, but you would see kids try to talk back or try to whatever and I'm not an advocate for this but they would either be beaten with a belt right, which I am not an advocate of that.
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Carmen Lezeth: I was never hit as a kid or punished to the nth degree like a month, and you cannot see your friends or like it would be.
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Carmen Lezeth: There would be no.
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Carmen Lezeth: Let's have a conversation about what just happened.
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Carmen Lezeth: When you spoke to me in that tone, when you swore at me, how did that make you feel, little billy?
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Carmen Lezeth: Let me tell you how it made me feel like, okay, mom, I'm gonna just do it again tomorrow yeah, we're just gonna have a conversation about it when I first heard the concept of time out, I was like what the heck is that?
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Rick Costa: some white people thing?
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Rick Costa: What is that time out?
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Rick Costa: What is that?
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Rick Costa: No, I'm serious, because my father you just look at him, weird that's a problem.
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Rick Costa: Bam, you got him swacked.
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Rick Costa: Ooh, yeah, yeah.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think in my neighborhood there was people who got hit a lot and, anyways, I think I was traumatized by knowing so many people who did get hit.
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Carmen Lezeth: Any last words before we end for the week?
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Carmen Lezeth: Wait, let me just tell you.
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Carmen Lezeth: I now announce that I'm going to go where, we're going to close up and we get more followers.
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Carmen Lezeth: People like to wait.
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Carmen Lezeth: Maybe it's because they like to wait an hour or something, or they just come home or something.
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Rick Costa: I don't know what the deal is.
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Rick Costa: As long as they don't forget to like, share and subscribe.
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Carmen Lezeth: Excuse me, it's so sneaky.
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Carmen Lezeth: I love it.
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Rick Costa: I love it, wait did you get the hat yet don't say what the hat is I'm talking about no, it says friday.
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Carmen Lezeth: Wow, that's pretty bad too.
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Carmen Lezeth: It takes a long time yeah, I wonder why.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know it's okay, we'll figure it out, but I'm hoping by july stay tuned to find out what that means stay tuned figure out what we're talking about.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay, everyone, thank you so much.
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Carmen Lezeth: It was so lovely to have you all here today.
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Carmen Lezeth: It was fun to have Charlie.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thank you so much.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to text you in a minute to make sure you're okay.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm such a good friend.
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Carmen Lezeth: He could be like on the ground sidewalk and waiting.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, melanie.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm now trying to say goodbye to all of our compagnie.
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Rick Costa: That's a song.
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Rick Costa: Is that a song?
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Rick Costa: It sounds like a song, I don't know she's so sweet.
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Rick Costa: I can't think of what it is.
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Carmen Lezeth: Because we're not good enough, we don't know.
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Carmen Lezeth: But yes, I'm going to say goodbye.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thank you everyone.
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Carmen Lezeth: Remember to like, share and subscribe or hate us.
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Carmen Lezeth: It's great too, yeah, but remember, it's all about the joy and we'll see you next week.
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Carmen Lezeth: Bye everyone, see ya.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thanks for stopping by.
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Carmen Lezeth: All About the Joy.
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Carmen Lezeth: Be better and stay beautiful folks.
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Carmen Lezeth: Have a sweet day.