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#123 Kids Have Grandparents Wrapped Around Their Tiny Finger · Two Doting Dads with Matty J & Ash

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  Speaker 1: Can you just give us a clap?
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  Speaker 2: Just no, you got at the point.
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  Speaker 3: This is not, this is not, this is not, and
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  Speaker 3: I repeat it.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to two doting parents today. I am Ash
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  Speaker 1: and we have April. For those of you who don't know,
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  Speaker 1: April is my wife, uh and the mother of my children,
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  Speaker 1: believe it or not. And she's filling in for our
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  Speaker 1: friend Mattie Jay who is still in the jungle. This
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  Speaker 1: is a parenting podcast. It's all about the good, the bad,
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  Speaker 1: and the ugly.
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  Speaker 2: Is that what you say? No?
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  Speaker 1: Relatable?
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  Speaker 4: Relatable?
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  Speaker 1: Do you even listen? You definitely don't listen, do you?
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  Speaker 5: I know?
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  Speaker 2: I do? I do you do?
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  Speaker 1: I do? Catch you giggling away? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Favorite episode I did thoroughly enjoy the one where we
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  Speaker 2: did all four of us.
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  Speaker 1: What about whipper oh? That?
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  Speaker 2: Actually that was my favorite guest episode for sure. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I told you that.
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  Speaker 1: You did tell him that. Well, let's start with last night.
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  Speaker 1: You and I did a live stream goggle Box style,
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  Speaker 1: not as an audition, with Matt's food eating challenge.
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  Speaker 2: Do you recall I do recall. I recall you asking
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  Speaker 2: me when I was mid work and I was agreeing
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  Speaker 2: to it without realizing what I was agreeing to, So
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  Speaker 2: thanks for that.
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  Speaker 1: I strategically I didn't even ask you. I told you
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  Speaker 1: and you were like mid email, yeah and you were
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  Speaker 1: like that fun.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then I've left for the day, yeah, come back
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  Speaker 1: and said you ready, and you were like, fuck, what
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  Speaker 1: do we do it?
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  Speaker 2: Well? I actually had a couple of girlfriends screenshot what
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  Speaker 2: two doting dad's.
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  Speaker 4: Share and I was like, what's this happening?
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  Speaker 2: Was this? And I was like, oh my gosh, what
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  Speaker 2: is happening? What if I agreed to?
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  Speaker 1: Whoops?
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  Speaker 4: But no, it was fine in the end. It was fun.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was good. It was fun to watch Matt
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  Speaker 1: suffer this. Madd Alright, So first of all, Maddie did
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  Speaker 1: the trial at Tucker Trial with Reggie and Max. Max
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  Speaker 1: is the TikToker and Reggie is going blind.
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  Speaker 2: I think she's more than that, she's a mum.
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  Speaker 1: She's going blind.
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  Speaker 2: Thoughts on the food.
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  Speaker 1: Initially, do you know what?
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  Speaker 2: I feel like they've done worse things in the jungle.
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  Speaker 1: I saw a heap of comments on the tiktoks like
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  Speaker 1: the UK it must be UK people being like UK people,
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  Speaker 1: the people from the UK saying oh this is way
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  Speaker 1: worse than the UK one. This is way worse like
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  Speaker 1: it was, like it was better.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I think when you've got the liquid, like there was
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  Speaker 2: a smoothie, there was a cappuccino, I.
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  Speaker 4: Feel like that would be a lot easier.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, they used to do a lot well, I think
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  Speaker 1: because they used to exploit more animals.
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  Speaker 2: But now Robert irwins, I agree with you. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So first one they had was the bed bugs. Are
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  Speaker 1: they really bed bugs?
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  Speaker 2: They're huge? Yeah, they're not bed bugs, but to be fair,
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  Speaker 2: they did look a little bit like oats. So I
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  Speaker 2: feel like if he just changed his mindset.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he actually munths do that pretty quick. The next
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  Speaker 1: one he had was the crapper Chino. It looks like
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  Speaker 1: a delicious frape of some description. Mickfraffe, if you, if
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  Speaker 1: you will, re sponsored by McDonald's, no lambtungue and esophocus
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  Speaker 1: with sour milk thoughts, and we've got one here for
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  Speaker 1: you know that.
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  Speaker 2: I just wonder how they can drink that and not
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  Speaker 2: get sick later? Like how much is it, truthfully what
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  Speaker 2: they're saying. That's what I want to know.
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  Speaker 1: You call the conspiracy. I like it, Matt said, and
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  Speaker 1: two quote Matt, it tastes like I'm eating shit, perfect good.
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  Speaker 1: It'd be used to it. And then the last one
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  Speaker 1: was a combined meal they all ate, which was a
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  Speaker 1: Brecky bowl, which Matt and I quite often when we
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  Speaker 1: do record, eat a Brecky bowl from the cafe down
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  Speaker 1: the road. So he would have been stoked when this
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  Speaker 1: came out. It has horse anus, chicken heart, beef tripe,
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  Speaker 1: and liver.
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  Speaker 2: What surprised me in this one is the fact he
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  Speaker 2: chose the anus.
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  Speaker 1: He openly chose anhole.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know what was the last one, the chicken.
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  Speaker 1: Liver, beef tripe. What Oh, that's the one that looked
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  Speaker 1: like avocado. Yeah, imagine that's sliding down.
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  Speaker 2: Your gallot easier.
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  Speaker 1: The horse an has looked a little bit like a
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  Speaker 1: dim sim. It did, actually, I was thinking dim dim sim,
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  Speaker 1: dim sim, dim sim, And that probably was moist enough
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  Speaker 1: to swallow it all.
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  Speaker 4: I think it was a dim sim.
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  Speaker 1: So would that mean that he'd poop out an asshole
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  Speaker 1: out of his arsehole?
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  Speaker 2: You could say that very good?
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  Speaker 1: I thought they did really well. They got all thirteen stars. Third, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they got all thirteen stars, which surprisingly you did recall
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  Speaker 1: when we gave Matt a century egg.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and he was hidering how much he failed at that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm actually surprised.
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  Speaker 1: I did better than him. He ate the eel really well.
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  Speaker 1: But the century egg was like a dirty pond. And
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  Speaker 1: they brang one out for Max last night, and they
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  Speaker 1: looked like they poached it.
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  Speaker 2: It looked like it had a coating of some sort
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  Speaker 2: of flavor.
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  Speaker 1: It didn't look like the one we had. Ours was still.
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  Speaker 4: Yours was brown.
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  Speaker 1: It was in the shell still such I think they
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  Speaker 1: might have cooked cooked it. So Jess potentially our producer
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  Speaker 1: put us at risk with a raw sentry egg. So
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  Speaker 1: God was still here. Anyway, I thought they did really well.
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  Speaker 1: They didn't considering We did call Laura and Marley midway
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  Speaker 1: through the challenge. Marley was still awake, Yeah, and she
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  Speaker 1: thought it was discussed as you would, but she was
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  Speaker 1: holding up compared to the first time, where she cried
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  Speaker 1: a lot.
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  Speaker 2: That's true the first time she watched him.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like she's sort of used to him now.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, probably watched him every night now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, enough of that. Just go and vote for Matt please.
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  Speaker 1: As much as I want him back, I'm enjoying these
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  Speaker 1: episodes where he's not here. I get to look at April,
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  Speaker 1: which it's my lucky day, April. I do want to
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  Speaker 1: start with one thing with you. If I want to
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  Speaker 1: ask you something and what your thoughts are Oscar and
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  Speaker 1: Poppa's relationship. Describe it for me? How would you describe it?
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  Speaker 2: Popper is Oscar's slave, if anything, best friend who's a slave.
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  Speaker 1: Just describe what you saw this morning. For those it
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  Speaker 1: is school holidays. Poppa is April's dad, Frank, and he
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  Speaker 1: looks after Oscar on a Wednesday during a school holiday,
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  Speaker 1: and today's Wednesday, and he picks him up from our place.
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  Speaker 2: April was, I was driving up back home because I
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  Speaker 2: dropped Macy off and I drove past Papa and Oscar
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  Speaker 2: and there's Oscar, window down all the way down, the
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  Speaker 2: breeze in his hair, with his arms behind the back
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  Speaker 2: of his head, just looking out the window on his.
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  Speaker 1: Way living his absolute grapes. Yeah, he looked like he
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  Speaker 1: looked like royalty. And he's got he is the first grandchild.
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  Speaker 1: He's got first grandchild syndrome where he gets everything he
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  Speaker 1: wants right. And parents out there will agree that their
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  Speaker 1: kids grandparents just spoil the shit out of them. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: as they should really, but like with oscars, it's mental.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's next level what that guy gets.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and also Macy. Papa always just carries Macy everywhere
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  Speaker 1: like a trophy.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, like he just her feet can't touch the.
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  Speaker 1: Girl when we're when we're at his place, her feet
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  Speaker 1: do not touch the ground. He's either holding her, she's
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  Speaker 1: asleep on him, or she's sitting up on a kitchen bench.
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  Speaker 2: And he always serves her up chocolate milk in a bottle.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, she's a lucky gout the warm.
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  Speaker 1: Even Oscar though, gets the warm chocolate milk. And I
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  Speaker 1: look over he's eating a Lamington. Yeah, he's going for
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  Speaker 1: ten swims a day. He's just living his absolute best life.
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  Speaker 4: He's a lucky boy. They're both are. I'm very lucky.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm fully expecting Oscar to come back with all
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  Speaker 1: of his bad habits.
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  Speaker 4: He comes back so moody.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, he's never tired.
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  Speaker 4: No, the kid doesn't tire.
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  Speaker 1: He doesn't tire. So how do your parent that when
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  Speaker 1: he gets he's full of sugar. Yeah, he's angry. He's
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  Speaker 1: a roid head, that's what he is. Maybe you should
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  Speaker 1: take him to the gym.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, probably he needs to do something.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe should get like a treadmill.
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  Speaker 2: Treadmill just put it's like a little hamster wheel for him.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, cute. We could always I mean, how do you reverse?
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  Speaker 1: We have told Popper, but Popper lies.
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  Speaker 2: I think we're just so grateful that we have Popper
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  Speaker 2: to take him for a whole day, if not two days.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't really want to tell him, yeah, because
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  Speaker 1: then he'll be like, well.
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  Speaker 2: Also, it makes Poppa's life so much easier. He doesn't
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  Speaker 2: have to run around after him.
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  Speaker 1: And he's just a bad hips and stuff. So when
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  Speaker 1: he gets home, what we'll do, and I think what
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  Speaker 1: we do is we just go no screen time, get
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  Speaker 1: the puzzles out. See how we go with that, and
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  Speaker 1: hopefully goes to sleep.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: No, I agree.
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  Speaker 1: It's the worst when he naps as well in the car.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, then you know he's awake for five more hours.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Remember when we were living in the old house
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  Speaker 1: and a couple of times he get home, Popper would
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  Speaker 1: come and drop him off and he was asleep in
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  Speaker 1: the car and it's like five o'clock and you're like,
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  Speaker 1: God's sake, ruin the rest of the night anyway, But yeah, I.
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  Speaker 2: Think it's I think it's a hard one to c
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what to do because you want to
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  Speaker 2: you want to tell Poppa.
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  Speaker 4: Don't do this, don't do that.
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  Speaker 2: But then it's like you're so grateful that to just
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  Speaker 2: do whatever, whatever makes everyone happy at the time. Sometimes.
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  Speaker 1: Look, I'm guilty of sometimes still just doing the easy
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  Speaker 1: way out. I think we all are.
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  Speaker 2: I've seen you and you're hungover days passing out the phone.
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  Speaker 4: We're not so perfect parents, after all.
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  Speaker 1: I know I do what Yeah, when I'm a bit
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  Speaker 1: hung I'm like, anything goes anyway. I wanted to touch
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  Speaker 1: on that because I thought it was really funny this
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  Speaker 1: morning that you witnessed Oscar in full Prince Oscar Popu
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  Speaker 1: the chow for and he. The thing is that today,
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  Speaker 1: like we don't see him all day until this afternoon,
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  Speaker 1: so I would assume that he he would he would
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  Speaker 1: have like a little bell an popa and he'll come
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  Speaker 1: home with all these new toys, or he would have
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  Speaker 1: eaten far too much chocolate and ice cream.
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  Speaker 2: And watch way too much YouTube, which we've seen now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so just everyone listening. April and I have implemented
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  Speaker 1: the no YouTube rule in this house. Because he gets
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  Speaker 1: so aggressive. He turns into like a roid rager after like,
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  Speaker 1: what is it about YouTube? Is it just the algorithm
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  Speaker 1: of YouTube that just gets him riled up?
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: But in saying that, Macy, I don't think it affects
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  Speaker 2: as much, but Oscar it affects.
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  Speaker 1: He turns into Oscar the Grouch, like it's his alter
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  Speaker 1: ego after watching YouTube. So we've banded in the house
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  Speaker 1: except for drawing videos, which we're fine with, and they've
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  Speaker 1: gotta be on the TV. Yeah, no single screens anymore.
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  Speaker 1: We've changed.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, who would have thought. People used to say, like,
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  Speaker 2: gotta get rid of it, gotta get rid of it,
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  Speaker 2: and we're like.
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  Speaker 1: Hell so easy. But I've noticed his mood is better.
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  Speaker 1: They do sleep better, I would say, because I used
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  Speaker 1: to wake up going, oh whats YouTube? Like it was
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  Speaker 1: like now they wake up they did a puzzle this
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  Speaker 1: morning before doing five years in he's about to go
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  Speaker 1: to school where they have nothing but iPads.
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  Speaker 2: Now, little.
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  Speaker 1: You had a couple of evenings out last week.
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  Speaker 2: I did, you did?
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  Speaker 1: I had the bath duties to do when you were gone, dinner, bath, bedtime,
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  Speaker 1: routine into bed. That seems pretty straightforward.
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  Speaker 4: You'd think, so what happened?
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  Speaker 1: So we completed the bath routine. We've gone through, like
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  Speaker 1: I just said, the third the bath, and then I
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  Speaker 1: put them to bed. I've come out here to finally relax,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, they share a room, so they chatter. Whatever,
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  Speaker 1: it's not a really big deal. I turned the hallway
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  Speaker 1: light on accidentally, and I tried to turn it off,
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  Speaker 1: and you know what Macy's like, once I turn light
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  Speaker 1: and just leave it on for some reason, in as
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  Speaker 1: intrusive as that light is, and I wasn't gonna argue.
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  Speaker 1: I was like whatever. Anyway, they hear him talking, hear
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  Speaker 1: him talk, and then I hear this daddy, and I
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: was like, go to sleep, just like we're doing a
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  Speaker 1: live stream last night. Go to sleep, don't make me
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  Speaker 1: come in there, all the usual, and then Macey's like, daddy,
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  Speaker 1: like they were scared of something.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, and I was like, what the fuck.
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  Speaker 1: So I've walked up there and I've gone like, what
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  Speaker 1: is it? Like, I'm over at this stage, I've been
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  Speaker 1: in bed for like half an hour, still not a sleep,
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  Speaker 1: what is it? And they're like that on the ground.
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  Speaker 1: So the light has lit up over the top of
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  Speaker 1: a toy. Oh, that's created a bigger shadow. I'll show
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  Speaker 1: you the toy.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like we've all witnessed that as a child,
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  Speaker 2: thinking something was massive.
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  Speaker 4: We still witness that as adults. You think, is that
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  Speaker 4: my coat?
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  Speaker 2: Is that the what's the boogie monster?
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  Speaker 1: Trying to figure out what they were trying to trying
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  Speaker 1: to tell me, they're pointing down, pointing down, and i'
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  Speaker 1: and there was a shadow of like a dog like figure,
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  Speaker 1: but like an angry dog like figure. And I thought,
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  Speaker 1: he's not in here. He's the family dog for those
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: And I looked down.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, what is making that shadow? And it
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  Speaker 1: was about two foot shadow, pretty big. Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 1: look at that. It's a tiny little lego. It's a
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  Speaker 1: centimeter in size. Yeah, but it's created this shadow that
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  Speaker 1: scared the shit out of them. So I had to
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  Speaker 1: I was like, look, this is it, this is it,
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  Speaker 1: trying to explain like, don't be scared anyway. I then
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  Speaker 1: had to spend the next five to ten minutes check
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  Speaker 1: in the whole room for creatures. So I'm under the bed,
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  Speaker 1: I'm in the cupboard, I'm behind the curtains. Check the
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  Speaker 1: next room over, check our room, check the hallway, no
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  Speaker 1: other creatures. And I was like, tomazic, can I turn
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  Speaker 1: that light off now? And she was so happy for
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  Speaker 1: me to turn that light. Turn it.
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  Speaker 2: That's it very cute. It's very very cute.
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  Speaker 1: Intil it's a three foot shadow of it. Anyway, Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: I have something to show you because we have been
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  Speaker 1: trying the last couple of weeks. Laura and I we
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: were talking about potty training for Macy, and Macy is
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  Speaker 1: she's potty training to wi, but she's still poops in
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  Speaker 1: a nappy. And it got me thinking about if we
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  Speaker 1: took the nappy off because Laura's advice was get rid
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  Speaker 1: of the nappy, no undies. I listened, Yeah, which I
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  Speaker 1: think is very we haven't followed because Macy's loving her underpants. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: she was weaning and I know that much. And I
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  Speaker 1: was like, okay, well and she's going to start to
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  Speaker 1: pooh with no undies on what's that going to look
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  Speaker 1: like for us?
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  Speaker 2: I think that theory of no underpants is for weeeze.
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  Speaker 2: I think when it comes to poohs, they definitely know
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  Speaker 2: the definitly want.
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  Speaker 1: To continue that. What would it look like if we
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  Speaker 1: went cold Turkey and I've got to found a video.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I think I know what it would look like,
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  Speaker 1: and I'll show you. The shit just really pissed me
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  Speaker 1: the fuck off, because why the fuck would you sit
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  Speaker 1: in my s.
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  Speaker 2: In her shoe? No, look at that thing. Surely that's
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  Speaker 2: a dog shit that is not that is it.
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  Speaker 1: Has got human consistency.
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  Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 1: My fear is that if we take Laura's advice, that's
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  Speaker 1: gonna happen. And do you know what would be worse
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  Speaker 1: is if you were you didn't know, and you went
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  Speaker 1: and put the shoe on.
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  Speaker 2: This is true, but I feel like if anyone's shoes
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  Speaker 2: are going to get shut on in this household, it's
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  Speaker 2: yours mine and neatly put away every day.
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  Speaker 1: Put away bullshit.
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  Speaker 2: If I spotted, oh, yeah, a shoe, I dare you?
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: I dare you?
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  Speaker 1: All fine?
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  Speaker 2: One yeah, point proven, I have picked up your shoes before.
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  Speaker 2: You're not perfect once.
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  Speaker 4: In a blue moon.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe what was destminding against me?
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: All right?
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: She would poop in my shoes?
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: No, she would she would poo in your slipper or something,
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: which honestly, I only got new slippers. Now your old
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: slippers would be.
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: In the old slippers. I don't wear them anymore.
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: But yeah, that my worst nightmare is to find like,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: not be able to find the poop.
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: It's like, there's nothing worse than stepping on dog poo
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: and yeah, stepping on human pool, stepping on human probably
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: worse that squished between you to I want to imagine, imagine. No,
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: definitely not, April.
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: I did warn our listeners that you would be on
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: and I did ask them for some questions to ask you.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: We've got a couple because we could be here all
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: day asking you questions. A lot of people want to
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: know about your diet over that for those who don't
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: know what we're talking about. April I went on a
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: holiday and April got a photo with a stomach out
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: and she had a very are the evidence six pack
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: that no one knew about. Here's a six pack and
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: a lot of the internet went crazy and a lot
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: of people were.
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: Saying, what is how did you do that? How did
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: you do that?
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: And she said, what did you say?
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: Abs are made in the kitchen, babes? That was my
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: exact quote.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and what should go to ab me?
• 18:24
  Speaker 5: No?
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm no qualified person. I do not I'm very
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: balanced in the sense I will eat like a healthy meal,
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: but then I'll be more than happy to have an
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: ice cream after it. KFC, it's balanced. There's no strict diet.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: Somehow I've managed to mention McDonald's and Singer in this episode.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: We'll take either one anyway.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: We'll get into these questions. I've just got two.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: Oh that's fine?
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: Is that only two people asked?
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: No? Thank you for all the listeners. That and April
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: has ready questions and if there's anything that she feels
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: like responding to, she will. But there was two that
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: we thought otherwise we'd be here all day. We're gonna
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: let the people get back to their days.
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: Enough.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: This one's Bri. I would love to know how she
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: handles conversations with Ash about sharing the parenting workload plus
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: life admin in your eyes, how do you think we
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: handled it?
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: Didn't come easy, but I think where our communication had
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: to improve, And one major factor of that is getting
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: a Google Family calendar. Yeah, that is a game changer.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: Well for me anyway, You've.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: Done nothing but coach me for twelve months on how
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: to use this fucking calendar, and I look, I've gotten better.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: You have. I have gotten better. The life admin revolves
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: around that calendar in terms of the parenting workload pretty split.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: Well, to be honest, I don't look like that. I
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: feel like I'm okay to do what I can do
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: because obviously I work from home, so I have more
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: time if you're running out of the door. I also think again,
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: with the open communication, I don't have any issue being
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: like Ashton, can you do this?
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: Do you do you think I do this?
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: Or Ashton, can you get up and do this for me?
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: No? I think you're more passive than that.
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: I'm kind.
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: I'm not passive.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: No, you're more like it would be nice.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: No, that's that's your persona me.
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: I know that's your persona of me online, but in
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: your life.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: I'm actually like, hey, could you do this? Do you exactly?
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: I am not like I am not like that. I'm
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: not like the person like, hi, darling, can you please
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: help me with it?
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: No? You're not.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: You don't so you're not as direct as you think
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: you are. Oh, really pretty direct, But like there are
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: sometimes where you're half in PAF trying to get my
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: attention to be like I'm working over here, get up
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: and help me without actually doing it. Until I'm like, do.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: You need help, and like, yeah, good up, help me. Yeah,
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: But I do feel like I also feel like we've
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: come to like an understanding like if someone's doing chores
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: around the house, someone else can be on the kid judy,
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, refereeing sort of thing.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, very rarely, like I see other couples have
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: the argument where it's like I thought you were watching them,
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: or you know, I thought you were watching him, especially
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: when something happened. Yeah, I mean, we've got you know,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: so much backyard now we aren't used to. We're sort
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: of like, all right, well, if you're out there watching
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: them from the balcony and they're doing their thing, then
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: it sort of gives me a queue to be like
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: quickly tidy up what they've done in here, especially if
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: it's around dinner time, which it usually is, and then
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: someone you'll sit out there, I'll come back and forth
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: and clean them up or whatever, or vice versa. Usually
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: like it's unspoken that like unless the place is like
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: already clean and dinners in the oven, there's not much
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: more I can do than sometimes I can just sit
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: out with you and watch as well, or I will
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: sit here or vice versa.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: I love how you're always sitting. You're like, i'll sit here,
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: I'll sit there, I'll sit here.
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: I don't. I don't often sit.
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: Shut up.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Oh my god. I was just giving us as a
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: couple a compliment in that we we pick up on
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: those cues. But I do like to sit. Yeah, it's
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: a bad thing.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I do like this.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: I like to lay down even better.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: Than I like when you're on your phone and you're like,
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: I'm working, I'm working, I'm looking for inspiration.
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: That's the thing.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: It's hard because that's what you are doing for work
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: inspiration apparently. Fuck nice. But I know, I just feel
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: like we've kind of you know, we've been at it
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: for five years now. I feel like we do have
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: some sort of rhythm. Yeah, I do this, you do that.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it gets thrown, sometimes it gets there's always a variable.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: But yeah, i'd agree with you. All Right, we move
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: on to the next one, please, Celeste, how do you
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: tackle conversations or conflicts with your spouse when little ears
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: are around?
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: Oh, I feel like that happens all the time, and
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: I'm like, Ashton, the children are here.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: When have you ever said that to me?
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: Well, I just feel like if we're talking about something
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: because you just know oscar listening is And I'm just like,
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: I think we.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Don't often have a stern conversation with each other in
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: front of them very often, Like I would agree, yeah,
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: we might have more of a conversation, like I wouldn't
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: say heated, like a more of an adult conversation when
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: they're asleeple they're not here, or will just take little
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: jabs at each other but they don't understand.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: Or when you talk through the kids, it's like Daddy
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: didn't want to do.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: This, Oh is that what mummies? So Mummy let you
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: climb onto the back of the couch. Yeah, or you
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: do that thing where you might be distracted and the
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: kids are doing something and that they shouldn't be doing.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: You haven't quite cotton on yet, but I've like walked
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: in and cotton and I'm like, bape, yeah, oh shit, sorry,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: And I'll do the same thing where I'm just like
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: doom scrolling and they're like at each other's throats. You're like,
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: oh yeah, sorry, yeah, sorry, sorry, So again. I've seen
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: couples fire up at each other in front of their
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: kids and monkey, see monkey, Do I think the times
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: that I have I've raised my voice about something I'm
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: frustrated in front of everyone. I do apologize to Oscar
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: as well.
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: And I was going to say the same thing.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: I feel like if we've ever raised our voices, we
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: usually come back to them and say, hey, guys, sorry,
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: mummy and daddy, we're a little bit yeah, angry just before,
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: but we're okay now.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And it doesn't happen very often. What's my nose
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: getting longer? Also, like with the swearing, I never really
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: watch what I say, Like my man, I do a
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: little bit more, mainly because lolamal, You're like, give me
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: ten push ups and I can't do another push up
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: it hurts.
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah. No, we're terrible with swearing.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: I reckon, but they both know what's bad.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: I was going to say, I feel like after we swear,
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: we as well we tell them that is a word
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: that you can only use as an adult.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: Or when you're alone.
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: Right, I double down on it.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: No, Yeah, And like Oscar is very much like nos
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: not to say that word, and he the times he
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: has said it, they've been under his breath and about
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: something I never I'm really like what just no, nothing
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: like he knows that he shouldn't have said it. Macy,
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: on the other hand, she thinks it's just funny because
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: she's at the age where she's like, oh fuck, and
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: then Oscar's like, she did it, she did it right there.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: I actually caught Oscar, or not caught him. He told
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: me the other day he said Macy said the F word,
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: and I was.
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: Like, what, what do you mean? What did she say?
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: And he said, yeah, shut up. I was like, I
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: was like, that's probably all right, buddy.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: Like what about when you were the other day you
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: were trying to get him to explain what the rude
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: finger meant? Because who Poppa Popper?
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: Apparently the finger oh fuck. I think he showed me,
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: just like quietly on the side and he was like.
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: And I was like, do you know what you're doing?
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: And he goes. He's like yeah, he.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: Goes, and then like obviously put it away and he's like, yeah, Poppa, No,
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: I don't think he said who. He's like, that's the
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: rude finger. I was like, how do you know that?
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: And he said, Poppa showed me.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: I'm surprised he threw pop a rounder the bus because
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: he's the one he won't snitch on, because he'd be like,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: who gave you that? He'd be like, oh, I don't know.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: I think I think it's more of Oscar may have
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: just been holding that finger up and Popper's probably corrected
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: him saying you can't do that around for going around
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: town doing all He's droving around town, not our Popper.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: I feel like our kids some like we just tell
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: them there's a time and place.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like when you locked us in the bathroom and
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: we're like now, yeah, yeah, yeah, we should do that again. Yeah,
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: we do it with me because she just thinks it's
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: all fun.
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like she'll be like, I don't think she'd say
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: anything to be honest, Yeah, I think I don't know. Yeah,
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: we'll have to do it.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: We'll have to try anyway. They are the two questions
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: we had, which I think we're pretty in depth.
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: I was going to say there was nothing juicy or
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: spicy about those.
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: No, No, this one. Oh, actually there's one more from
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: an Ash as well. Would you say you're satisfied with
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: our love with ashes love making?
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: Wait it's from Ash or anonymous?
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: I mean it's from anonymous. On a scale of one
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: to ten, how satisfied are you with ashes love making?
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: We'll take this off line, okay, that's.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: A needs improvement. We do a segment in April here
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: called hack or Fak that usually one of us shows
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: the other, but in this case, I haven't seen this
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: and you haven't seen this, okay, So what we're looking
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: at here is a mum who has tried to set
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: white noise in a child's room, but accidentally played the
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: song from Disclosure White Noise on loop for two hours
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: on loop.
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: It's just been going on for two hours, the.
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: Song that's like white noise noise and it's like fair disco,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: very good. It worked.
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm all for it.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: It's funny like with white noise. We we're a white
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: noise house and something. Matt's never had white noise in
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: their house or anything ever, no, and it's like like why.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: I said to him why and he was like, we
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: just never. It's the best, like the lightning, the storms.
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they haven't noticed it well in saying that we've
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: had the fan on and that's probably than the white noise.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: But I find that like I'm so accustomed and used
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: to it now, it's just like it's part of our house.
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: I feel like, when we lose it, I'll be sad.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, when they don't, when they say they don't
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: want it anymore.
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's kind of like, well, hang on, we've listened
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: to the same song, same noise, yeah, every night for
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: five and a half years so far. It'll be the
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: end of an era. Very good.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: I think that's a hack.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Anything that gets a kid to sleep, I'm sweet with.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: It's almost as good as our two meditations competing against
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: each other. They each Oh.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so April and I, along with the white noise
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: that's in our house, April and I both have sleep music.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: I think we just adopted it from having the white
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: noise on because we had we lived in units for
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: so long with Oscar, mainly that the whole house just
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: was like you walk into a house, it's like all
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: the time, it's just it's like an AM radio station.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: And then we were like, oh, you know, do some
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: sleep music. I think for a while there we had
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: one where we just shared it. And then you've gone
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: more into the meditation side. Chakras, Oh god, it's and
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: mine's more just like piano sleep music. But the thing
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: is your meditation lasts for an hour.
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: It's three hours.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: What but the talking only last for.
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: An hour, talking probably an hour.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: But you're out cold in like two minutes. You're like,
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: it's sleeping next to a dead body, and you are out.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: And so I've got to spend the next hour listening
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: to this woman carry on about different energy chakras. But
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: also I find with those those people. Also I find
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: with people who are really into that and the chakras
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: like me, they really in depthly describe where your chakra is, Like,
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: no one's going to if they don't, no one's going
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: to believe them. So here's an example. They're like, so
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: that she's like, and you're a chakra is in your
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: snuf just below the breast bone, in between both pectorial muscles,
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: slightly underneath the cartilage of the humans to listen to
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: my meditation, that's like, why don't you just say it's
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: in your chest? Do you think that someone's gonna be like, okay,
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: if it's in your chest, where is it?
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: I'm just going to disagree with you because I quite
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: like it.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: It's like they're like, okay, And also how many chakras
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: does one person have? I've listened to it so many
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: times that they're like, and I do go to sleep
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: that easy.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: It takes me forever.
• 31:38
  Speaker 4: And I'm listening to You're welcome you as well.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: And at the top of your head is your twelfth chakra.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Like she's just rattling off the human anatomy. Essentially, it's great.
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: It's all mindfulness.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: What you're fastest, see your story is snoring. And I'm
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: listening to someone and being like, and You're sixth chakra
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: is at the base of your butthole, and it slightly
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: edges up towards the shaft of your penis, and I'm like,
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: fucking hell, how many chakra energy? And they're all energy
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: chakras and then they finish with and if you look up,
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: there is your final chakra hovering above you like a
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: guiding light.
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: Definitely doesn't say that it does directly.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: It must be specific to mothers.
• 32:31
  Speaker 4: Oh really, yeah, that far?
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: You literally have never gotten that far. It gets to
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: a point where it's like.
• 32:38
  Speaker 5: Street noise, traffic noise, nothing will wake you except for
• 32:42
  Speaker 5: the sound of your newborn child. And I'm like, shut up, anyway,
• 32:50
  Speaker 5: your newborn child has fifty five chakras.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: Let's begin, let's.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: Begin, or it's like, now start at your head and
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: work your way down just.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: So you're saying it, maybe I should, maybe you should
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: be the chakra talker.
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: Maybe this doesn't work out.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: If this doesn't work out, then it's let's finish, April.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: As much as I love having you on the podcast,
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: we need to finish. We have a list of question
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: that we do every week. So this comes from Shannon.
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: How has parenting impacted your social life? With everything that
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: comes with being a busy parent, what do you do
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: for self care or to carve out some time for yourself?
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: So it's kind of directed to you and me, like
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: what we do me nothing.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: I think the first couple years, or even just the
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: first year at least, it's very hard to have a
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: social life.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I find that new parents and parents of kids
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: like that are under two and their kids aren't like
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: just i'd say under one. And also I think like
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: when you do have your your kids at first, you
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  Speaker 1: find yourself doing then things because one it passes the time,
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  Speaker 1: and two you can palm your baby off on your mates.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, but I do think it's trickier at that age.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, like if you're like for us, for example,
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  Speaker 2: when we were you know, we wanted them to have
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  Speaker 2: their sleeps at a certain time, and so it's trickier that.
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  Speaker 2: But I feel like as they're older, like our kids
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  Speaker 2: are three and five now, and we have such a
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: good community of friends who also have three and five
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  Speaker 2: year olds. So our social life is just getting everyone
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  Speaker 2: together at a pub, at a pub or at a
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  Speaker 2: house and just making it work.
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  Speaker 4: Kids are happy, parents are happy.
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  Speaker 2: But then I think also we are pretty good at
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  Speaker 2: managing like you going out with your friends, me going
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: out with my friends, and just making sure that you
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: get that social cup field.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think like it's I feel like it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: need to be one hundred percent balance because blokes go
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  Speaker 1: out more than women like your mum usually most of
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  Speaker 1: the time.
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  Speaker 4: Interested in going out more.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, as well at all also depends on your personality,
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  Speaker 1: but like, yeah, we're pretty good, like we neither of
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: us take the piss. But the other also where I
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  Speaker 1: noticed the other day when you were going out, you
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: were like, oh, I've got two things in two nights,
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  Speaker 1: and it's like that's I couldn't care less, Like as
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  Speaker 1: long as I know what I'm up for, if you
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  Speaker 1: just say to me, hey, I'm actually going to go
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  Speaker 1: out now, I'm like, oh, well, but like yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like if we it's important that you go and
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  Speaker 1: I go, and we go separately, and then we also
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  Speaker 1: do the things with the kids and other because then
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: also you know, kids, they they've got friends too, they
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: want to socialize as well, and it's much easier to
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  Speaker 1: wear them out when there's a bunch of them exactly.
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  Speaker 1: And I love how a lot of pubs and stuff
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  Speaker 1: now becoming way.
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: More family friendly. What do you do for self care? Though?
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: What do I do? Drink? Now?
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  Speaker 2: Look?
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  Speaker 1: You know me, I it changes so often. I feel
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  Speaker 1: that like I I'm on a roller coaster all the time,
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  Speaker 1: so I don't really know what. I don't really know
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  Speaker 1: what helps me self care. Sometimes I'm sometimes I'm really
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: like motivated to you know, run and stuff, and that
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  Speaker 1: makes me feel good. But then sometimes I like now
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: or I don't feel like doing anything because the things,
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: those things make me miserable, you know, running, Yeah, running,
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  Speaker 1: I serve that I paddled out. I was like, I
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: fucking hate this, But it's just my mindset at the moment,
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  Speaker 1: and that's it'll come back. I just need to not
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  Speaker 1: be so.
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  Speaker 4: Hard on my tear personally.
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  Speaker 1: That's just me personally. I can't have a routine because
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: I'm just so bored. Like it's so bored. And I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: if you say to me, Okay, you're gonna have to
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: wake up at five o'clock every day as part of
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: your routurn routine, and if you wake up at five
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: o'clock every day, at the end of the week, you
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: get one hundred thousand dollars, I'd be like, fuck that.
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: I'm not getting that. That might be like, oh fucking
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: fuck that, because it's like it's just too repetitive for me.
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  Speaker 1: I get bored. I don't mind.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: Just like a nap, true, that's a bit of self care.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I nap a lot at the moment. And it
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: might be maybe I've got chronic fatigue. I don't know, maybe,
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: but I am enjoying that. I love it so much.
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  Speaker 1: When I get to nap with Macy, I love that
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  Speaker 1: so much, so sort of like a bond. But then
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: it's self care and wake up and she's really happy
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  Speaker 1: that I'm there, and I'm.
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: Happy she's going to catch you. Like when I walk
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: past the other day and you're pretty much out cold,
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: and her little arm was on your head like resting,
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  Speaker 2: Like it's like.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that, love that. So that's I mean,
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  Speaker 1: that's that's me. What about Well, what do you do
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: for self care? Like?
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: I think I'm pretty good with self care.
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: Jim is your Yeah, I notice the difference between you
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: training and not training that day days you're not like
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: you just you've got way more of a pep in
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: your step when you've been to the gym. Yes, And
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: it's not whether you're cranky or you're happy, you're just
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: way more motivated to you know, to do anything anyway. April,
• 37:56
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• 38:26
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  Speaker 1: see other than that, April, would you like to say.
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  Speaker 2: Them thanks for having me, goodbye bye.
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