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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Repeat After Me: Flexibility Opens Up Opportunity · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What's shaken Emily. Here, you're listening to five Minute Friday
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  Speaker 1: from Hurdle, the last episode in what may have seemed
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  Speaker 1: at one point to be a never ending season nineteen.
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  Speaker 1: I started taking season breaks. God, I think I did
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  Speaker 1: the show regularly for maybe three or four years until
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  Speaker 1: I finally got to a point where I was like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I need to take some time every now and again.
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  Speaker 1: So this season went on much longer than anticipated. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of irons in the fire, a lot of things happening.
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  Speaker 1: But what happens now is that Hurdle will be offline
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  Speaker 1: for two weeks. I may launch a special episode in
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  Speaker 1: there to be determined, but I will be launching season
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  Speaker 1: twenty and some changes for the show and coming back
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  Speaker 1: with some exciting news to say the least, on November eleventh.
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  Speaker 1: So for those of you that are longtime hurdlers, maybe
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  Speaker 1: you're a new hurdler either or I'm grateful that you're here.
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited to take you on this journey with me,
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  Speaker 1: and I cannot wait to share more. I am also
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  Speaker 1: leading into my favorite time of the year here in
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  Speaker 1: New York. It is New York City Marathon Week. Next week,
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  Speaker 1: the New York Marathon is next Sunday, November second, and
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  Speaker 1: it is my favorite day to be a New Yorker.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone comes together and is so happy and the vibes
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  Speaker 1: are high, and I'm praying like many of you, for
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  Speaker 1: good weather. And I also have many events happening throughout
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  Speaker 1: the next week, So if you are local and you
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  Speaker 1: wanna come hang out, make sure you're following along with
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  Speaker 1: me over on Instagram where you can get all of
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  Speaker 1: that information. Again, my handle just my name over at
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  Speaker 1: Emily a Body and Hurdle as always is over at
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast for five Minute Friday this week, I want
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  Speaker 1: to talk about being malleable and adaptable. I will never
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  Speaker 1: forget choosing a major in college and thinking to myself, genuinely,
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  Speaker 1: at age seventeen, how am I supposed to know what
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  Speaker 1: I want to do with the rest of my life?
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  Speaker 1: And luckily for me, I always wanted to be a writer.
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  Speaker 1: I got into the field of journalism quite young, working
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  Speaker 1: at the school paper and then the college paper, and
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  Speaker 1: then pursuing internships and magazines and newspapers and digital and whatnot,
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  Speaker 1: and it all kind of worked out for me. But
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  Speaker 1: I think and know so many people right now, especially
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  Speaker 1: that are similar in age to me in their thirties,
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  Speaker 1: that are having this reckoning of sorts of maybe I
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  Speaker 1: want to do something else, maybe there's more out for
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  Speaker 1: me than what I started in And oftentimes that reckoning,
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  Speaker 1: that thought process can be really scary, understandably so, But
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  Speaker 1: you know what else is really scary doing something just
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  Speaker 1: because you're afraid of starting over, sticking in the same lane,
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  Speaker 1: on the same path, just because you're scared of the unknown.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, Clarity is always a good thing,
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  Speaker 1: even if the clarity doesn't give you what it is
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  Speaker 1: that you want. Learning what it is that you need
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  Speaker 1: to know so that you can then make the choices
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  Speaker 1: you need to make to move forward is so valuable period.
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  Speaker 1: And so I bring up the topic of flexibility and
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  Speaker 1: being malleable today because that is an opportunity. It is
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  Speaker 1: an opportunity to do things differently. It is an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to try new things. It is an opportunity to start
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  Speaker 1: over and in that process get to know yourself better.
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  Speaker 1: When I started podcasting, I mean I didn't know the
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  Speaker 1: first thing about podcasts. I asked as many people as
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  Speaker 1: I could a series of questions until I knew enough
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  Speaker 1: to just begin. And something that's really resonating with me
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  Speaker 1: here is that if you do nothing, you have nothing
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  Speaker 1: to work with. Yeah, so there is the paralysis that
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  Speaker 1: comes with starting over and starting fresh, whether that be
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  Speaker 1: in your work or perhaps with a new relationship. And
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  Speaker 1: if you start to build it, then you can adapt
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  Speaker 1: as you move in group. You don't get to where
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  Speaker 1: you want to be by avoiding taking action altogether. You
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  Speaker 1: take action and then you do something with it. And
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  Speaker 1: if you are just frozen by the idea of starting
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  Speaker 1: over or beginning again, then you're not doing yourself any favors.
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  Speaker 1: I'm kind of rambling here a bit, and I think
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  Speaker 1: that I often say that on five Minute Friday. But
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  Speaker 1: this lesson this like start with what you have and
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  Speaker 1: do the best you can with what you have. It
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  Speaker 1: is so apt, polokable to so many avenues in life.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not just talking about starting fresh in relationships or
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  Speaker 1: with work. I'm also talking about starting fresh with your routines,
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  Speaker 1: your habits, your wellness practices, your movement. Right why not you?
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  Speaker 1: Why not? Today? So I'm asking you, my listener prompt
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  Speaker 1: you this week. Where are you hesitating your fresh start?
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  Speaker 1: Where could you be a little bit more flexible. What
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  Speaker 1: is it that excites you right now? And would it
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  Speaker 1: hurt you if you just began food for thought? And
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  Speaker 1: now a listener question. Hey, Emily Stephanie from Ohio here.
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  Speaker 1: Have been listening to the pod since COVID lockdown and
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  Speaker 1: you've kept me company on many runs, walks and commutes.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for bringing your perspective to the masses and
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  Speaker 1: keep it coming. There's always such powerful goodness in the
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  Speaker 1: hurdle feed. I appreciate you. I wanted to ask a
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  Speaker 1: listener question about dealing with disappointment after a big effort.
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  Speaker 1: I'm writing you the day after my third marathon, and
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  Speaker 1: while I'm trying to be proud of the accomplishment, all
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  Speaker 1: I can seem to feel is disappointed and embarrassed in
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  Speaker 1: the outcome. I set an aggressive time goal and fell
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  Speaker 1: short by significant a measure. In fact, this was my
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  Speaker 1: worst time of all three races. I recognized there were
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  Speaker 1: hurdles along the way. I trained fresh off of months
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  Speaker 1: and months of downtime and planter fasciaitis. I know, I
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  Speaker 1: know how that is. We had pouring rain and strong
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  Speaker 1: wings on Rees Day and so on, but I know
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  Speaker 1: from my training that the goal was in reach, so
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  Speaker 1: that those facts feel like excuses. That brings me to
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  Speaker 1: my question, how do you respond when you pour yourself
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  Speaker 1: into an audacious goal, speak it to the world and
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  Speaker 1: fall short. Thank you so much for everything you do,
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  Speaker 1: and hope to keep hearing more from you. Stephanie, Stephanie, Stephanie, Stephanie,
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  Speaker 1: I feel this in my bones. I hope that you
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  Speaker 1: listened to my Chicago marathon recap because I really do
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  Speaker 1: think that this can bring some perspectives, specifically to what
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  Speaker 1: you are dealing with. I recognize and appreciate that we
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  Speaker 1: don't work hard at something for it not to go
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  Speaker 1: as we'd hoped, but especially when it comes to a
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  Speaker 1: goal that requires so much opportunity cost, whether we're talking
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  Speaker 1: about a marathon or something else. You have to find
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  Speaker 1: joy in the journey and return to that joy and
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  Speaker 1: understand that the journey is the destination. Now that sentence
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  Speaker 1: that understanding it is not something that you can really
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  Speaker 1: take solace in within the immediate time period after you
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  Speaker 1: fall short of your goal. You have to feel your feelings.
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  Speaker 1: It is completely understandable that you are feeling this way
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent, So know that You're not alone in that.
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  Speaker 1: Feel your feelings, right on those feelings and utilize that
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  Speaker 1: as your motivation to figure out what's next. I've said
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  Speaker 1: this before. My dad asks me this question all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Whenever something doesn't go as I'd hoped, or I'm experiencing
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  Speaker 1: or really big letdown, he says, what's next? And sometimes
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  Speaker 1: I want to like shove him to the side, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not ready to answer that question yet.
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  Speaker 1: But I can promise you that the journey is the
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  Speaker 1: destination and setting your next big goal after a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of downtime, that is going to be the thing
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  Speaker 1: that helps you move on, that helps you graduate, that
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  Speaker 1: helps you appreciate all of the effort and the good
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  Speaker 1: things that came from that sixteen to twenty week experience
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  Speaker 1: prepping for this really big day. And kudos to you.
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  Speaker 1: You're recognizing that a lot of things didn't go as
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  Speaker 1: you had hoped. The weather was hard, you came off
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  Speaker 1: from downtime conquering a marathon after dealing with plantro fasciitis.
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  Speaker 1: Again that if you know, you know situation, it's not easy.
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  Speaker 1: So I want to commend you for your work. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to be proud of the journey, and I
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  Speaker 1: hope that moving forward, you can continue to find that
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  Speaker 1: grace with yourself as you set your next big goal.
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  Speaker 1: I'm always here to answer your listener questions and I
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  Speaker 1: want them, so email me them over at Hello at
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  Speaker 1: hurdle dot us. You can also always DM me again
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  Speaker 1: over at Hurdle Podcast and at Emily a Body, Another
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  Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.