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how to heal your mental health · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  Some days, it may feel like your mental health is improving and
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  then other days, it feels like you've slipped back today.
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  One, if you've experienced this, I want you to ask yourself, are
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  you really healing? Or are you just distracting
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  yourself from the emotions that you need to feel?
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  Hey, there and welcome back to another episode of feel your
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  feelings, with me? Ethan, Jewel.
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  Now I'm not a psychiatrist or a professional in the mental
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  health industry whatsoever. I'm just a normal guy.
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  Who is felt some big? Feelings is incredibly
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  passionate about mental health, and wants to start the
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  conversation. So, without further Ado, thank
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  you so much for being here. And, as always, let's feel some
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  feelings now. I've struggled with my mental
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  health, a lot over the past few years, and I have noticed a
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  pattern within my healing process.
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  You see, I start to heal, and I really do feel better.
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  I feel better for days weeks, even months at a time.
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  And then suddenly the I'm less busy, the moment I'm doing less
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  things. I start to slip back.
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  I have time by myself. I have silence.
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  I have moments in my own head and I begin to realize that I
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  was not as healed as I thought I was in this made me realize a
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  very crucial and important part of my healing Journey you see.
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  I wasn't healing. Now, I was just distracting
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  myself. I was filling my days up.
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  I was being busy. I was seeing friends and I was
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  pushing My feelings down as often as I could but there is no
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  real healing. Those feelings, the unresolved
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  emotions were still there. They were just pushed under the
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  surface and this is something that a lot of people struggle
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  with when it comes to their mental health and it's a real
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  issue that needs to be addressed and if you're feeling called out
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  right now, then this episode is perfect for you.
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  So why do we choose to distract ourselves instead of actually
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  healing Set of really getting to the root of the issue.
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  I mean, it seems obvious if we're struggling with something,
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  if we're hurting, if we're dealing with trauma, of course,
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  we want to heal that, but the simple answer is healing is
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  difficult. Healing is very, very, very hard
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  when you're struggling with a mental illness, like depression,
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  or if you're struggling with trauma or any kind of pain, it
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  can be incredibly difficult to heal.
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  The process is slow, and it's different for everybody.
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  That's the most difficult part. Your healing process is going to
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  be different than mine and that's what makes it so
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  difficult. There's no one way to get
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  better. There's no one foolproof way to
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  heal. So many of us don't even want to
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  start and many of us turn to distractions and call it healing
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  quite frankly, distracting ourselves is easier than
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  healing, it so much easier. It's way easier for me to lay
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  down and scroll on social media for hours, instead of facing
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  emotions at the end of a long day.
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  Yes, that is a way that we distract ourselves from feeling
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  scrolling on social media. Making ourselves overly busy,
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  with work filling, every waking hour with some kind of
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  distraction whether it's music videos, movies TV shows.
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  This is a sign that you are trying to distract yourself from
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  the feelings that you need to face.
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  Distraction is easier than healing.
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  It feels similar to Healing. We feel better when we're not.
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  Faced with our emotions, we feel better when we're able to mask
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  our pain, but it's temporary, it's like putting a Band-Aid
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  over a broken bone and saying that you're fixed.
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  It will only get worse. The Feelings Will pile up
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  beneath the distractions and eventually bubble over.
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  They will marinate and if they're left unresolved, and if
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  we just keep distracting ourselves one day, those
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  emotions will take us over. So how do we ensure we are
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  actually healing? How do we avoid distractions and
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  face? The Of our problems and face,
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  our dramas, and our pains and our mental illnesses.
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  It's not easy, it never will be easy, but we have to start
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  somewhere. I want to remind you, I'm not a
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  professional. So please take this advice with
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  a grain of salt, find out what works for you.
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  This is simply what has worked for me.
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  In my experience. You need to allow yourself Quiet
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  Moments of self-reflection. You need To check up with
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  yourself regularly and consciously, the same way, you
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  typically go in for routine checkups with your doctor after
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  a physical injury, you need to do routine checkups with your
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  own mental health. So what does this look like,
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  what it looks like for me is sitting somewhere quiet free
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  from distractions. No phone, no people.
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  No business has no advertising, just me and my thoughts.
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  I then allow the itch. In my brain to come forward, and
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  trust me once you sit there silently, there will be a niche.
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  Any unresolved pain, or dramas or mental illnesses will make
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  themselves known in moments of Silence.
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  This is why we seek distractions in the first place because that
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  silence is uncomfortable. We feel things that we don't
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  want to feel, but in order to get over this problem, we have
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  to be in those uncomfortable situations.
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  So sit in that silence, allow yourself to think about painful
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  situations, allow yourself to assess your hurt to assess your
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  mental struggles. It will be uncomfortable, it
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  will not be pleasant. And at times, it may bring up
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  powerful emotions. So do this at your own risk, but
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  it will make you more aware, it will make you conscious of the
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  emotions and feelings that you need to pay attention to.
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  And once you are aware of these feelings, you can work towards
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  healing them. You can work.
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  Resolving them instead of continuing down a cycle of
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  needless distractions. The only way for us to heal and
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  improve as people and improve our mental health is to be
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  uncomfortable. The only way for us to go, the
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  extra step and become who we need to be free.
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  From our pain is to face that pain.
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  Had on, we have to understand it.
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  We have to feel it and we cannot feel our feelings correctly.
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  If we are constantly distracting ourselves from These emotions.
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  So I encourage you to allow yourself moments of Silence in
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  order to understand your emotions to sit with them to
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  hear them and to feel them, it will be uncomfortable.
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  But one day you will be at peace with yourself and your emotions.
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  You won't feel the need to distract yourself anymore.
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  And you can be fully present in the moment in your day to day
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  activities, and that is crucial to live a fulfilling life, to be
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  present in each moment is the greatest.
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  Gift that any of us could give ourselves and you deserve that.
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  So allow yourself moments of Silence break free from these
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  distractions and feel your feelings.
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  That's going to wrap it up for today's episode.
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  Thank you so much for tuning in and thank you for being here
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  with me today. If you need a little bit of
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  extra help, feeling your feelings, go check out my music.
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  Ethan Jewel, on all platforms and I guarantee it'll make you
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  cry. Also shoot me a message on my
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  Instagram at Jewel, boy underscore.
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  And let me know what you thought about today's episode.
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  Thank you for being here. Thank you for giving yourself a
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  chance to fight these distractions.
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  And as always, thank you. For feeling your feelings, I'll
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  see you next time. For feeling your feelings, I'll
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  see you next time.