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- 0:00Carrie Lingenfelter: Sometimes life does get hard and if you feel like it's the right thing for you, you continue to try to put the energy toward it.
- 0:08Carrie Lingenfelter: But sometimes there's also the shift in energy in the house where I've realized like my kids are going through sensitive periods.
- 0:15Carrie Lingenfelter: They're going through growth spurts right now and their bodies are changing quickly and they're really learning a lot in school right now.
- 0:22Carrie Lingenfelter: So they have a lot of demands on their bodies and they need mom to provide more help, support, energetic support, healings, guided meditations, taking more time for me to put my stuff down and connect with them and just play and let them be a kid.
- 0:40Carrie Lingenfelter: So that's a phase that we're going through right now.
- 0:44Carrie Lingenfelter: And in your minds you might be thinking maybe I want to be a kid.
- 0:45Carrie Lingenfelter: So that's a phase that we're going through right now.
- 0:46Carrie Lingenfelter: And in your minds you might be thinking maybe I want to be an entrepreneur, maybe I want to have my own business.
- 0:51Carrie Lingenfelter: How am I energetically supposed to slow everything down?
- 0:54Carrie Lingenfelter: But I'm here to say it's a phase.
- 0:57Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, it's most of the time.
- 0:59Carrie Lingenfelter: It's something that our kids are growing through and I'm naming it a growth spurt right now because I know that this has happened before in our house and it's something that our kids are growing through and I'm naming it a growth spurt right now because I know that this has happened before in our house and it's going to change and get better and then I can readjust and realign and figure out again, restructure what we, what I, have energy to give.
- 1:18Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi, conscious Parents, it's Keri here and I am here with a little info about raising our mindful kids.
- 1:25Carrie Lingenfelter: I've got some tips and tricks about breaking free of the box and becoming who you are and teaching your kids how to do that along the way.
- 1:32Carrie Lingenfelter: Join us Hi there and welcome back.
- 1:35Carrie Lingenfelter: It's Keri, your friendly, intuitive mama here, and I am so excited to be here today for another little bonus quick tip session.
- 1:44Carrie Lingenfelter: And I wanted to talk to you guys today about monitoring our energy levels as a parent.
- 1:50Carrie Lingenfelter: I think we've talked about this a little bit before and when.
- 1:53Carrie Lingenfelter: We've touched on self-care and some of those pieces, but it's been something that my husband and I have been trying to monitor in ourselves, where we're having a depleted weekend and we just say drop everything.
- 2:07Carrie Lingenfelter: We're not going to double batch our meal prep.
- 2:10Carrie Lingenfelter: This Saturday we are going out to Flower Child, we are going to live it up and we are going to get the extra special lemon olive oil muffin this weekend because we need a little love.
- 2:21Carrie Lingenfelter: So, yes, one of our main things that my husband and I love to do to try to help ourselves is on Saturdays and Sundays, we double batch cook, so we'll have a meal for that day and then we'll have a leftover meal for during the week.
- 2:34Carrie Lingenfelter: That will reheat and that kind of saves us a little energy.
- 2:39Carrie Lingenfelter: But if we're having a busy weekend and we have our kids having a lot of emotions, there's a lot of big feelings and a lot of big energy.
- 2:48Carrie Lingenfelter: That's been happening in our household lately.
- 2:51Carrie Lingenfelter: I don't know about you guys, but I think there's been a little bit of energy shift lately, and so it's really important as a parent that we monitor where we're at with our energy levels.
- 3:03Carrie Lingenfelter: It's been really interesting for my husband and I.
- 3:06Carrie Lingenfelter: We have and I hope he's okay with me talking about these pieces but we have just gone in parallel with some of the energy shifts that happen in our lives.
- 3:16Carrie Lingenfelter: It'll be a point in my life where I was looking to start.
- 3:21Carrie Lingenfelter: The podcast was also in a really similar timing at a point in my husband's life where he was looking at starting some new projects at work and it really took a lot of self-reflection and intuitive connection for ourselves to tune in and figure out what we were really seeking in those moments.
- 3:43Carrie Lingenfelter: So I really encourage you to think about that in your relationship.
- 3:48Carrie Lingenfelter: Is there anything that could be going on now?
- 3:50Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe you've shifted through something at the end of the year energy Maybe you're shifting into something.
- 3:56Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe you are in a good coasting period in your life, which is also awesome as well, when you can coast along and everything's in the right flow state for you.
- 4:08Carrie Lingenfelter: So right now in our house, we're in this moment where we can feel like we made some big changes last spring and energy is just flowing.
- 4:19Carrie Lingenfelter: Right now we're readdressing and reassessing what really matters in our lives.
- 4:25Carrie Lingenfelter: We have had some challenges that have come up here and there with our kids where we have to energy shift.
- 4:32Carrie Lingenfelter: We have to dive into, maybe, therapy We've maxed out what therapists can do with our kids and we have to look at some energy work Me as myself, I think about that in.
- 4:45Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe I have to slow down with my podcasting.
- 4:47Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe I have to.
- 4:49Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe I don't have the energy to start the five different projects that I was looking at creating in the podcasting world, and maybe my husband needs to have a little bit more energy for his work and so he might not be emotionally available as much to help with the kids.
- 5:04Carrie Lingenfelter: So, thinking about how this balance and I talk about it energetically because it's so common in our house, with four highly sensitive people, it's really common that if somebody's off skew in their energy, we all feel it and we all pick it up.
- 5:21Carrie Lingenfelter: Whether or not we want to, it's just that energy and that vibe that really circulates in the house.
- 5:27Carrie Lingenfelter: So if somebody is in a bad mood and they're grumpy and we'll be like whoa, you're snapping at me, what's going on?
- 5:32Carrie Lingenfelter: What's up?
- 5:32Carrie Lingenfelter: How can I help support you when that person that is snapping may not even notice that it's going on because they're in a mood right, things are shifting, big feelings are happening, and so it's really important for us to tune in and see where we're at energetically.
- 5:50Carrie Lingenfelter: I have a prayer affirmation that I've been thinking about.
- 5:53Carrie Lingenfelter: It goes.
- 5:55Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you so much, universe, for helping to guide me along in my path and showing me where and when to make changes to better myself.
- 6:06Carrie Lingenfelter: This is really important when we are expressing gratitude for the challenges that are arising.
- 6:15Carrie Lingenfelter: Think about how we're changing our attitude, our energy, our emotions and shifting to being grateful for these moments of change.
- 6:26Carrie Lingenfelter: I love the idea of we think that we need a change.
- 6:31Carrie Lingenfelter: We think I need some new energy.
- 6:32Carrie Lingenfelter: I need some new energy.
- 6:34Carrie Lingenfelter: I need some changes.
- 6:35Carrie Lingenfelter: I need to shift my podcast or shift my work journey, but there doesn't feel like there's anything available right now.
- 6:42Carrie Lingenfelter: So maybe it's not the time to shift.
- 6:46Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe it's the time to slow down, connect recharge, connect recharge and then tune into our bodies.
- 6:55Carrie Lingenfelter: Does it feel for me when I know that something is right and I know that it's something that is the right path for me?
- 7:02Carrie Lingenfelter: It feels like home when I think about it.
- 7:05Carrie Lingenfelter: So, for instance, when I was looking at starting Heart to Heart Parents, I knew that it I didn't.
- 7:12Carrie Lingenfelter: Honestly, that wasn't my ultimate goal originally and then, as I started doing it, I was like this feels really good.
- 7:18Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm meeting really amazing people.
- 7:20Carrie Lingenfelter: People are coming up to me and telling me they love the show and it really resonates with them and they feel seen and heard and valued.
- 7:28Carrie Lingenfelter: And I also did not feel alone as much in my parenting experience.
- 7:32Carrie Lingenfelter: Like whoa, other people have kids that have meltdowns too.
- 7:36Carrie Lingenfelter: Other people have big feelings.
- 7:38Carrie Lingenfelter: Kids too, twice, exceptional kids.
- 7:41Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm not alone.
- 7:42Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm not the only person going through this behind closed doors, so it was really interesting.
- 7:48Carrie Lingenfelter: When we can find what's the right path for us, it's presented to us, it feels, it resonates in our whole body.
- 7:57Carrie Lingenfelter: It doesn't feel like you're trying to swim upstream, it doesn't feel like you need to keep making changes.
- 8:02Carrie Lingenfelter: Sometimes life does get hard and if you feel like it's the right thing for you, you continue to try to put the energy toward it.
- 8:11Carrie Lingenfelter: But sometimes there's also the shift in energy in the house where I've realized like my kids are going through sensitive periods.
- 8:18Carrie Lingenfelter: They're going through growth spurts right now and their bodies are changing quickly and they're really learning a lot in school right now.
- 8:25Carrie Lingenfelter: So they have a lot of demands on their bodies and they need mom to provide more help, support, energetic support, healings, guided meditations, taking more time for me to put my stuff down and connect with them and just play and let them be a kid.
- 8:43Carrie Lingenfelter: So that's a phase that we're going through right now and in your minds you might be thinking maybe I want to be an entrepreneur, maybe I want to have my own business.
- 8:54Carrie Lingenfelter: How am I energetically supposed to slow everything down?
- 8:57Carrie Lingenfelter: But I'm here to say it's a phase, right, it's most of the time.
- 9:02Carrie Lingenfelter: It's something that our kids are growing through and I'm naming it a growth spurt right now Because I know that this has happened before in our house and it's going to change and get better and then I can readjust and realign and figure out again, restructure what we, what I, have energy to give.
- 9:21Carrie Lingenfelter: So it was really cool.
- 9:23Carrie Lingenfelter: My husband and I sat down and we looked at what are the struggles we're facing right now for each of us, what are the struggles our kids are facing?
- 9:33Carrie Lingenfelter: What is really?
- 9:34Carrie Lingenfelter: What is the strength that everybody's showing right now?
- 9:37Carrie Lingenfelter: What?
- 9:37Carrie Lingenfelter: How does everybody need more support?
- 9:39Carrie Lingenfelter: What is this?
- 9:41Carrie Lingenfelter: Is this a phase?
- 9:42Carrie Lingenfelter: Is this?
- 9:43Carrie Lingenfelter: And we assessed it all.
- 9:44Carrie Lingenfelter: And then we assessed heart-to-heart parents, which is a part of our family.
- 9:47Carrie Lingenfelter: We assess my husband and his work journey.
- 9:49Carrie Lingenfelter: We assess our kids in their school journey and their friendship journeys, the things and the pieces that matter to them, and then we just look at the ebb and flow of where we need to put energy, where we need to pull energy, and it was so amazing to work with my husband in this way and say here's where we need to focus our energy, here's where Carrie could cut back, here's where Carrie could give more.
- 10:12Carrie Lingenfelter: And my husband he has his ultimatums right.
- 10:14Carrie Lingenfelter: I've mentioned this before.
- 10:15Carrie Lingenfelter: But when he comes home and if there's dishes all over the sink because I was podcasting all day and I didn't have time to get to it that's really hard for his system to walk into at 530 in the afternoon.
- 10:26Carrie Lingenfelter: So you guys can list your end game, your things that need to get done, that are really important to your system, to keep that energy for yourself too.
- 10:37Carrie Lingenfelter: That has been so amazing.
- 10:39Carrie Lingenfelter: So I encourage you to try this prayer out and don't forget your guided meditations for yourself and for your kids.
- 10:46Carrie Lingenfelter: I will look at trying to share a new one soon.
- 10:49Carrie Lingenfelter: We love to do them.
- 10:50Carrie Lingenfelter: We do them every night.
- 10:51Carrie Lingenfelter: So happy journey, parenting.
- 10:53Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, that's a wrap.
- 10:56Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much for tuning in Changemakers.
- 10:58Carrie Lingenfelter: This is Keri, and if you haven't done a review for us five stars and a little few words about what you've enjoyed in our podcast episodes we would really appreciate it.
- 11:08Carrie Lingenfelter: If you guys would like to ever message me, I would love any questions you have or any feedback at info at hearttoheartlifecom.
- 11:17Carrie Lingenfelter: We also have a brand new website which we're super excited to share.
- 11:21Carrie Lingenfelter: It's hearttoheartlifecom.
- 11:24Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much for tuning in and happy life, happy times, changemaker families.