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61: Ask and You Shall Receive · The Oreaganic Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Hello my friends and welcome back to the organic podcast.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host Reagan and today's episode I'm coming at you live from sitting on the floor in my closet cross-legged with the lights off at 1123 at night after a full day of work and driving across like three different states and traffic and five hours of sleep.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: So we have a pretty unique situation this week on the podcast.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like the past couple weeks I've talked about just a little snippet of like personal life and how I've been very busy and overwhelmed and travel and work stuff and just a lot going on.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: So that hasn't really ended at all.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: I haven't had much of a reprieve, but we are back.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: I just got back from literally the best investment I've ever made in myself and my time and my money going to the Hot and Healed retreat in Italy, hosted by Becca Nichols.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I think I'm gonna do an episode on my experience just because it was so incredible, and I feel like there's so much to say, but I do not have the proper energy or capacity to give that episode like the respect that it deserves.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: So this week's episode is just gonna be kind of a sage lesson that I've experienced firsthand that today in particular, when it comes to asking for what you want.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm someone who probably like a lot of people, especially a lot of women, has experienced the the feeling of like always wanting to say yes to people, never wanting to disappoint them, like never wanting to seem like you don't want to do something, even if you're feeling really run down or overwhelmed.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: And especially in a work context, I think this can get really hard when you're someone who you care about your reputation, like people know you're dependable, people know you're reliable, like you're happy to help with things, you're happy to support.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: It can be hard for you to actually realize, number one, when you're getting to a breaking point where you're like, holy shit, like I need to not necessarily a breaking point for me right now.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: So every time I talk about anything where it's like relatively associated with work, I try to be so clear and careful because I don't want anything to reflect back as like I'm personally saying, like, I'm so miserable at whatever, I'm so burnt out, like none of that's true.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm happy at my job.
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: I did like everything's good, everything's good, guys.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: So please only take this in a personal context and yeah, but anyways, I think that a lot of us can feel like we have to say yes to things, especially in a professional context when it comes to work and especially for time and scheduling and commitments, and like we can kind of overextend ourselves and almost be too nice, but it's at the cost of yourself and you're sacrificing yourself and your sanity in order for you to be able to, you know, provide coverage for something or take over a project that you really don't have the bandwidth for, but you feel bad saying no.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_00: And today I I have learned through the embodiment of kind of standing up for myself in a way and and expressing like how I'm feeling in my overwhelm, just being very honest.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: I have learned that that pays off so much.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like, we think, especially if we're in an overwhelmed state, we think that it it's hard for it's like impossible for us to like actually have a conversation with someone sometimes, or to just be super honest and be like, hey, my bandwidth is feeling really low.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I just want to be completely honest with you.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: I'd regret it if I didn't tell you this, and if I just let myself get to the point of burning out and feeling super overwhelmed, and then you know, having no one else even know that I was feeling this way before.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like, so much value can come from that.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: So much value can come from just one honest, open conversation.
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like it allows you such a stronger sense of empowerment to be able to say for yourself, like like advocating for yourself and being like, hey, you you can't, you know, kind of talking to yourself in your head, like you can't just let yourself get to the point of absolute burnout and overwhelm and just suffer in silence.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like you are helping absolutely no one if you just continue to take on so many things all the time, just say yes to everything because you feel bad and you know you don't have the bandwidth, but you just want to say yes, and you don't want to make anyone upset, and you don't want to cause any inconveniences with planning or managing or other people's time.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: When you do that, the only person you are sacrificing is yourself.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: You're doing yourself absolutely no favors, and I know it can feel like, oh, I'm helping more, like I'm supporting, I'm I'm not being annoying by saying no, but in reality, this is gonna sound kind of backwards, but I feel like it can almost be more selfish in a way to allow yourself to get to such a bad state of like overwhelm without actually standing up for yourself and expressing boundaries and saying when you are literally you have way too much on your plate and you cannot handle more.
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: Because letting yourself suffer in silence will result in you becoming overly stressed out, which then will eventually lead to you becoming resentful and bitter and probably not doing your best work or not showing up in the best way for whatever role you have.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: This doesn't just apply to work, but and when you show up like that, like then everyone around you is just worse off as well because you're suffering, you're miserable, you need support, you need help, but you're too afraid to ask for it, or you're too afraid to actually say, No, I can't take on more.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_00: That is not healthy.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_00: That's not healthy for you, it's not healthy for the people around you, it's not healthy for anyone that you're working with, it's not helpful to you in any regard, even though it can feel like this sense of relief.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I didn't say no, so like they're not gonna be annoyed, or I I said yes to this, so they're gonna be, you know, relieved that you know I'm the solution to this problem.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: In reality, everyone, if you look out for yourself in the sense of like actually just being honest and expressing when you're at a point of reaching overwhelm, you are helping yourself and everyone else so much more.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: Because when you look out for yourself, you're looking out for everyone else, and you're looking out for the quality of your work and your happiness and your long-term sustainability in whatever situation it is that you were in, even work context, not work context, working with groups, whatever.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: When we let ourselves get to this point of overwhelm because we're just sacrificing so much of ourselves, it is serving absolutely no one.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely no one, and especially not yourself.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_00: So take this as your sign to reflect on where you might be overextending yourself and fasten up those boundaries.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: Actually, maybe have a conversation, just be honest with your capacity, and I promise you, you would feel so much better.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: But this wasn't the main thing I wanted to talk about today.
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: What I actually wanted to touch on the most was the fact that this kind of relates to but the principle of ask and you shall receive.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_00: I had this mirrored back to me today, like in an un like an unbelievable way that I definitely can't share on the podcast in terms of details, but like because it was work-related, but oh my gosh, guys.
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: You know how I just said the whole thing of like having an open conversation, being honest about like overwhelm, whatever, etc.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: Part of that is associated with the fact that like I've been so busy over the past, you know, month and a half or so, and I continue to have a busy schedule moving into the rest of October.
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_00: And I I have just been reflecting on my schedule and reflecting on how I'm feeling and like my capacity and how I'm just feeling very, very, very, very, very worn thin already, and like thinking ahead for the rest of the month.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: This is where the conversation came into play, where I actually, you know, did the thing that felt scary, and I actually said, like, hey, just to be completely transparent, like I'm feeling really worn thin, like, and I just wanted to ask, it's totally okay if not, but I just wanted to ask, you know, is XYZ thing possible as an option for potentially relieving stress from my plate or taking something off of my plate or whatever.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: I actually had a conversation that resembles this kind of model, and immediately after having the conversation today, I had something work out so well in my favor to give me like basically exactly what I was asking for in the most insane way, like truly fucking insane way, where I could do nothing but like literally just keep saying and praising the facts that like ask and you shall fucking receive, ask and you shall receive.
• 9:12
  SPEAKER_00: Like you are never going to be able to get what you truly want if you do not ask for it.
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: Whether that's asking God, asking your spirit guides, asking your boss, asking your friends, asking your partner, like if you don't take the time and effort to advocate for yourself and ask for what you want, you are, guess what, way less likely to actually get what you want.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like you are a key ingredient in the equation to being able to get the things that you want.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I think so many of us can just get caught in this rhythm of like already giving up before you're even giving yourself a chance to to ask for something that you didn't think was possible or to advocate for yourself.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: And never mind this with just the like you know, humans and people in your life, but also on a spiritual level, like I said, talking to God, your angels.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it is so powerful to pray.
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_00: It is so powerful to ask for guidance and to ask for help because whether or not you believe it, whether or not you ask for it, we all have a spirit team, we all have spirit guides, and we all have people on the other side, souls who are looking out for us, souls looking out for other souls who are existing as humans.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_00: And they the the funny thing is, guys, the funny thing is they can't give us the most like optimized version, like full max form of help if we do not ask.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: Because there is a very powerful thing called free will, which I don't fully understand this, and I really want to in terms of like the like quantum level logistics of it, I guess, but it like it is a an essential fabric of reality for us to have free will, like it is a major, like governing law of like like it's like a galactic law, like a universal law for all beings, consciousness existing, that like free will is like the number one thing that like violating that is is ginormous.
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: So basically, we come here to Earth as souls, we forget that we're souls, and then you may or may not remember that you are, but it as part of this agreement, and I have a point to this, as part of this agreement you you kind of forget the fact that like you have spirit guides, and you also forget the fact that like they can't really help you as best as possible unless you ask for it, which is partially why prayer is so powerful, and just speaking to God, speaking to your angels, like asking for help and just just speaking your desires out loud, or just like what I said before, just me saying this week, like, hey, look, I'm feeling stressed out, like if this situation has to be what it is, like can you please help to make it as like easy, painless, enjoyable, stress-free as possible?
• 12:03
  SPEAKER_00: And I have had things work out so well doing that.
• 12:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I I think we underestimate the power of just asking for support and even just putting it out into the ether.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: I don't even I don't even care if you don't believe in anything, you think it's all bullshit, like please just try.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: Please just try.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_00: Spirit guides, I give you my full permission to assist me in the easiest and smoothest way you see possible for whatever goal you have, for having an easy week, for this situation to go well, for this work thing to work out really, really well.
• 12:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like literally just ask.
• 12:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you just need to put it out there.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: Like, please help me to I don't know, feel like have as easy of a time doing XYZ tasks that I really don't feel like doing today.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, please help make it as as painless as possible.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: That's one that I've used before, and it seems to help every single time.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: Like and I know especially in a religious context that you will know like the like prayer is emphasized, I think, across pretty much all religions.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_00: I actually I do not have the full bandwidth of knowledge to understand that, but I know that prayer is like a very important practice, and I've been raised with that being something that you know is in the Christian church and the Christian faith.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I really don't care what you believe.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: I think that it's what my personal belief is obviously that I'm not even gonna get into my personal beliefs, there's way too much.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: There there is a God, God is real, it's not the same kind of construct that I think a lot of us have been given to understand.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: But this is I can't get too esoteric right now.
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_00: I already have, but what I'm trying to say is if you don't feel comfortable asking the people in your life for things that you want, or being honest about ways that you want to make a situation easier or something to change, then at the very least ask and just pray by yourself.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: Connect with God, connect with your spirit guides, connect with the universe, connect with Jesus, like connect with whoever you think most best embodies, like the version of like the infinite uh creation and source of all love, which I think is God.
• 14:15
  SPEAKER_00: And I promise you, like your life will start to feel easier, like you will get more of what you want, but you cannot initiate that, you cannot make it easier for yourself until you ask.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: You just need to ask.
• 14:29
  SPEAKER_00: Literally, you have no idea what can be possible for you if you don't just ask.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_00: And what is the absolute worst that can happen if you ask for something?
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: Guess what?
• 14:39
  SPEAKER_00: Someone says no.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: And if someone says no and you don't want to take that as an answer, you figure something else out.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_00: But the only way that you absolutely guarantee that you are gonna be stuck in a situation that you don't like is if you do absolutely nothing about it and don't even ask anyone else to see if there's any other option forwards.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: Like you are screwing yourself over the most by not speaking up for yourself and by not asking for what you want and looking out for yourself in terms of your boundaries and your limits and your capacity.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: So that's the main episode.
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: That's the main episode.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: That's the main lesson I have for you guys today, just based off of my experience.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, guys, if you're on my close friend story, you will know what happened today.
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_00: It's the most bizarre situation to just, you know, get things like absolutely beyond me, anyways.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I hope I didn't get too esoteric for some of you guys, but I I'm feeling called to bring more of the esoteric conversations to the podcast because I have had it reflected back to me in several ways, just how much I carry a perspective and an understanding that resonates with a lot of people that I guess I didn't realize is so is as unique to me as I thought, but it genuinely is.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: And I just I have a lot to say, especially in regards to I don't know, spirituality, religion, esoteric things, quote unquote new age stuff, quote like traditional Christianity.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like I have so many layers of depth to bring to these conversations.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: And talking about the fact that we're souls existing in human bodies and spirit guides and God, like all of that is just scratching the surface.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_00: But if you take one thing from this episode, I challenge you to literally just have one uncomfortable conversation, being honest about your capacity with someone and seeing if there's any other way that you can get support and or just asking and talking to your angels, God, guides, like Jesus, spirit, your soul, your higher self, whoever the fuck you want to talk to.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: But literally just ask the highest version of love, sort of like divine being presence that you believe in for something this week.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_00: Please help make this as easy as possible.
• 17:02
  SPEAKER_00: Please help give me a sign in this way, or please show me this, please show me that.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like, literally just ask for their help.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_00: Ask for the help of your spirit guides and just play around with it, see what happens, see if anything comes to you.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: But with this, I'm going to leave it here.
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I'm gonna leave my little hobbit hole of a dark closet where I'm currently watching my like weird Wi-Fi router wall thing just blinking through the screens, which is now starting to creep me out.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know why.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: I need to get out of here.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope that everyone has a fantastic rest of your day, and thank you for spending your time with me here.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: Go be your most organic selves, and I will see you in the next one.