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- 0:01Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Girl.
- 0:08Speaker 2: Welcome back to I Choose Me, the podcast where remarkable
- 0:12Speaker 2: people share how they choose themselves through life's highs and lows.
- 0:17Speaker 2: I had the privilege of bringing some of these badasses
- 0:21Speaker 2: on stage for my second annual I Choose Me Live event,
- 0:26Speaker 2: and now I'm sharing them with you. My friend Callina
- 0:29Speaker 2: Strino sat down backstage with a wonderful spiritual leader Debbie Brown,
- 0:35Speaker 2: the incredible Sarah Shahi, and the sparkling Genie May, who
- 0:40Speaker 2: is also Chief Brand Officer for Owlsbrew, which is a
- 0:44Speaker 2: female founded beverage brand that hosted our wonderful day. Thank
- 0:49Speaker 2: you Owls Brew for the Chelsea Handler's Vodka, Lemonade and
- 0:52Speaker 2: Spiked Pop.
- 0:53Speaker 3: Here we go, I'm clean Astrina's backstage of the second
- 0:57Speaker 3: annual I Choose Me Live Women's Empowerment. I'm and we
- 1:00Speaker 3: have Debbie Brown. We're so excited to talk to you
- 1:03Speaker 3: because you are the MC today.
- 1:06Speaker 4: This is huge.
- 1:07Speaker 3: How has it been so far?
- 1:08Speaker 4: Oh, it's been so fun. There is nothing I love
- 1:11Speaker 4: more than people getting together to really open their hearts
- 1:15Speaker 4: and learn about community.
- 1:17Speaker 3: So when you're up there and you're seeing all those
- 1:20Speaker 3: eyes looking back at you, and knowing that they're listening
- 1:24Speaker 3: so intently to your every word, knowing that they're a
- 1:28Speaker 3: fan of your podcast and a fan of just you
- 1:31Speaker 3: and all the words that you say to empower people.
- 1:33Speaker 3: How does that make you feel?
- 1:35Speaker 4: I think it makes me feel very used by God.
- 1:38Speaker 4: I think that's like the point of some of the
- 1:41Speaker 4: work that we get to do. You know, it's like
- 1:43Speaker 4: using our gifts, of course, using our skills and our talents,
- 1:47Speaker 4: but really to be in service to the bigger story
- 1:50Speaker 4: happening on earth, you know, being in service to other people.
- 1:53Speaker 4: So I think that's always the best thing. If you
- 1:55Speaker 4: can say something that lands somewhere inside of someone that
- 2:00Speaker 4: produces any kind of freedom, it's just you're really grateful.
- 2:05Speaker 3: I'm really grateful your book Living in Wisdom. It helps
- 2:09Speaker 3: people get unstuck with daily health rituals. When someone is
- 2:13Speaker 3: feeling overwhelmed, or experiencing sadness, or just you know, stuck
- 2:17Speaker 3: in that moment where they don't feel like they can
- 2:19Speaker 3: really navigate their way out of it and don't even
- 2:22Speaker 3: know where to start. What are some things they can
- 2:25Speaker 3: do to try to begin that.
- 2:27Speaker 4: Process, you know, I think for all of us. We
- 2:29Speaker 4: want to rush through things quickly, and I know it's
- 2:32Speaker 4: so important that we do that because you know, life
- 2:34Speaker 4: moves fast. But I think everyone first we have to
- 2:38Speaker 4: get into a place where we can give ourselves compassion
- 2:41Speaker 4: and curiosity. So for any of us listening that are
- 2:44Speaker 4: you know, just overwhelmed or going through hard things like
- 2:46Speaker 4: we all go through sometimes really really hard things, taking
- 2:50Speaker 4: a second to honor your grief before you even try
- 2:54Speaker 4: to make your plan, to honor the feeling of like
- 2:56Speaker 4: what's hurting? How did this happen? What is the better
- 3:00Speaker 4: feeling or experience that I want? And then kind of
- 3:04Speaker 4: moving towards how can I start to make that true
- 3:07Speaker 4: in my life? But I think so many things have
- 3:09Speaker 4: to start with our own compassion for ourselves and our
- 3:12Speaker 4: ability to give ourselves some of our basic needs so
- 3:15Speaker 4: we can make good choices, like getting as much sleep
- 3:18Speaker 4: as we possibly can, getting higher quality sleep, being able
- 3:22Speaker 4: to take a few deep breaths so your nervous system
- 3:24Speaker 4: can regulate enough so that you can have good ideas.
- 3:28Speaker 3: What are some things that you think people can do,
- 3:31Speaker 3: maybe if it's even only a minute a day or
- 3:34Speaker 3: five minutes a day, Because I feel like people will
- 3:36Speaker 3: constantly say there's never enough time in the day. I
- 3:39Speaker 3: don't have time. I have to do all these things,
- 3:41Speaker 3: and your brain gets overwhelmed with the list of things
- 3:44Speaker 3: you have to accomplish. So for those people who say
- 3:47Speaker 3: they only have thirty seconds to a minute a day
- 3:49Speaker 3: to themselves, what's that one thing that they can do
- 3:52Speaker 3: within that time that could help reset?
- 3:55Speaker 4: So I love this question so much, and I would say, one,
- 3:59Speaker 4: why are we relegating ourselves to thirty seconds to one
- 4:03Speaker 4: minute a day when everybody listening gives at least forty
- 4:07Speaker 4: five minutes a day to Instagram scrolling or to you know,
- 4:10Speaker 4: couch rotting or binging whatever show. So one, I just
- 4:15Speaker 4: want everyone to start to think, do you only deserve
- 4:17Speaker 4: thirty seconds to a minute? I know, like we want
- 4:20Speaker 4: to push ourselves to get something done that fast, but
- 4:24Speaker 4: taking time with yourself is such a gift. But okay,
- 4:27Speaker 4: if we have limited time, Okay, if you have very
- 4:30Speaker 4: limited time. Something I think can be really surprisingly helpful
- 4:35Speaker 4: for people is to stand in a comfortable way, place
- 4:39Speaker 4: one hand on your heart, place the other hand on.
- 4:42Speaker 1: Top of it, close your eyes.
- 4:45Speaker 4: Take three deep, full breaths, so really fill up your
- 4:48Speaker 4: belly side out with your mouth. I want you to
- 4:50Speaker 4: hear it.
- 4:55Speaker 5: Wait, I want to do it here, Hold on a second, ah,
- 5:04Speaker 5: take a second, let that little bed of like silence
- 5:08Speaker 5: and relief fill your body and then just sway aside
- 5:12Speaker 5: to side and start.
- 5:14Speaker 4: To hum, activate a hum in your body. So yeah,
- 5:26Speaker 4: whatever sound feels natural for you, and clearly you don't
- 5:30Speaker 4: have to be a singer. Humming can help to reset
- 5:33Speaker 4: your nervous system, It can help to open your heart space,
- 5:36Speaker 4: it can help to release grief, relief, stress. So something
- 5:39Speaker 4: that simple, stand in a comfortable way or sit, hold
- 5:44Speaker 4: your heart, close your eyes, three deep breaths and hum
- 5:49Speaker 4: two minutes tops. But it really does give you a
- 5:52Speaker 4: feeling of being deeply centered, a little bit more competent
- 5:57Speaker 4: for your life, and just more you. Because when we're frazzled,
- 6:02Speaker 4: you lose your personality. That's the first thing that goes.
- 6:05Speaker 4: You're not who you say you are. We want to
- 6:07Speaker 4: be ourselves, we want to be the best of ourselves
- 6:10Speaker 4: in our lives, in our world. So something that brief
- 6:12Speaker 4: can definitely help you one just kind of reset for
- 6:15Speaker 4: the moment, but then work on some of the bigger
- 6:17Speaker 4: needs like getting better sleep, definitely maybe stretching that closing
- 6:21Speaker 4: eyes and touching your heart to like ten minutes than twenty,
- 6:26Speaker 4: but I think that would be a good start.
- 6:27Speaker 3: I think that's a great start. And it's something as
- 6:30Speaker 3: simple as that. For those thirty seconds to a minute,
- 6:34Speaker 3: right when you get in the car, maybe right before
- 6:36Speaker 3: you make that phone call, maybe right before you have
- 6:38Speaker 3: to pick up your kids. You just take that brief
- 6:41Speaker 3: second for yourself and it could really reshape the next
- 6:45Speaker 3: couple hours of your day.
- 6:47Speaker 4: That is so real and exactly the way that you
- 6:49Speaker 4: identified it for everyone is how we should look at it.
- 6:52Speaker 4: It's not about making it perfect and saying, Okay, I
- 6:55Speaker 4: have my perfect zen room in my house. It's so instagrammable. Okay,
- 6:59Speaker 4: the perfect cushion, I'm gonna sit down, I have my
- 7:02Speaker 4: little sweatsuit. Yeah yeah, yeah, blah blah blah. That is
- 7:05Speaker 4: where your real life happens. That moment before you're about
- 7:08Speaker 4: to have a challenging or important conversation on the phone,
- 7:12Speaker 4: take that breath, do that hum, that moment that you're
- 7:16Speaker 4: in the elevator by yourself, or sitting in traffic. We
- 7:19Speaker 4: have all of these little pockets that we could really
- 7:23Speaker 4: bless our lives if we use them differently, and it
- 7:26Speaker 4: does just like you said that two minutes can change
- 7:30Speaker 4: the trajectory of the next like two to twelve hours
- 7:34Speaker 4: in ways that can really benefit our lives.
- 7:37Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of people have shifted from,
- 7:40Speaker 3: you know, especially parents, feeling guilty taking time to themselves
- 7:43Speaker 3: to now wanting to do that. And Jenny does a
- 7:46Speaker 3: great job of just encouraging people to say, hey, it's
- 7:48Speaker 3: not selfish to take that second or two or ten minutes,
- 7:51Speaker 3: twenty minutes an hour for yourself. You should really actually
- 7:55Speaker 3: do that and it'll be so beneficial in the future.
- 7:58Speaker 3: What are some things that you've done recently to make
- 8:00Speaker 3: sure you chose yourself.
- 8:02Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, it's so funny because that's the part
- 8:05Speaker 4: that I always definitely have to work hard on as
- 8:07Speaker 4: someone that helps heal with other people, I'm like, you
- 8:10Speaker 4: need some of this too. So I'm a mama of
- 8:13Speaker 4: a eight year old in two weeks, and.
- 8:15Speaker 3: I would endulation, Oh my gosh.
- 8:19Speaker 4: It's the absolute best. But you know, you're right to
- 8:22Speaker 4: your point. It's like life in general is a lot,
- 8:25Speaker 4: so I think ways that I really look to do that.
- 8:28Speaker 4: I love taking a two bag up some salt bath,
- 8:32Speaker 4: like two to three times a week, I will find
- 8:36Speaker 4: the time and then I usually do it in the
- 8:38Speaker 4: dark with just a candle.
- 8:40Speaker 1: I breathe.
- 8:40Speaker 4: I play like a really cool playlist like Selection or
- 8:44Speaker 4: some interesting new jazz, and I just really make that
- 8:49Speaker 4: like my time in that warm salty water, floating a
- 8:53Speaker 4: little bit. By the time I get out, I'm just
- 8:56Speaker 4: ready for anything.
- 9:04Speaker 3: We have Sarah Shawe here with us today. Thank you
- 9:07Speaker 3: so much for being here at this amazing I choose
- 9:08Speaker 3: me event.
- 9:09Speaker 6: Yeah, thank you for having me.
- 9:10Speaker 3: This is such a privilege, right, So, how are you
- 9:13Speaker 3: feeling being here? There's a ton of people inside? Are
- 9:17Speaker 3: there so many people and they're so excited. When you
- 9:20Speaker 3: go out there, you will literally have people who you
- 9:22Speaker 3: don't know come up to you and say why they're here,
- 9:25Speaker 3: why it was so important for them to be here today,
- 9:27Speaker 3: and how they chose themselves. That's beautiful, and I feel
- 9:32Speaker 3: like I want to ask you how you choose yourself
- 9:35Speaker 3: every day.
- 9:36Speaker 7: Yeah, it took me a long time, honestly to get
- 9:40Speaker 7: to that place. But I think there's this great quote
- 9:44Speaker 7: by the spiritual leader named Reverend Michael Beckwith and he
- 9:50Speaker 7: has this quote that says, pain persists until the vision pulls,
- 9:55Speaker 7: and I will never forget the moment in my life.
- 9:58Speaker 7: This was a few years ago, and I've spoken about
- 10:00Speaker 7: it openly and written about it in the book.
- 10:02Speaker 6: But it's like.
- 10:05Speaker 7: I saw a version of myself in the future that
- 10:08Speaker 7: was aligned with my dreams, my goals, what I wanted,
- 10:13Speaker 7: and that was the moment that I chose myself. And
- 10:16Speaker 7: what it came down to was loving myself more. So.
- 10:20Speaker 6: I think when you.
- 10:21Speaker 7: Get to that place of true resonance within and you
- 10:25Speaker 7: finally love yourself more, you love yourself more than your
- 10:29Speaker 7: people pleasing habits, You love yourself more than the natural
- 10:35Speaker 7: inclination to twist yourself into a pretzel to make everybody
- 10:38Speaker 7: else happy.
- 10:38Speaker 6: That's when you choose yourself.
- 10:40Speaker 3: Let's talk about your books since you mentioned it, shall
- 10:42Speaker 3: we Life is lifey?
- 10:43Speaker 6: Right?
- 10:44Speaker 2: Yeah?
- 10:44Speaker 6: Life is Life?
- 10:45Speaker 3: Tell us about the book and also very aesthetically pleasing too,
- 10:51Speaker 3: by the way, But tell us about the book and
- 10:53Speaker 3: why you wanted to write it.
- 10:56Speaker 7: You know, it's interesting because when I first when I
- 10:59Speaker 7: got sex life, So sex life.
- 11:04Speaker 6: Came to me at a very interesting point in my life.
- 11:07Speaker 6: You know.
- 11:07Speaker 7: It's like many women, I felt overworked, overburdened. I was
- 11:10Speaker 7: carrying the majority at home at work, and self care
- 11:15Speaker 7: to me look like adding metamucil to every meal and
- 11:18Speaker 7: picking parsley out of my teeth, you know what I mean?
- 11:19Speaker 6: That was my ten minutes a day of self care.
- 11:23Speaker 7: And the character of Billy, she became such a buzz
- 11:28Speaker 7: in my veins because she had the courage to outwardly
- 11:32Speaker 7: question all of the things that I was silently questioning.
- 11:35Speaker 7: And with the show's success, so many women reached out
- 11:39Speaker 7: to me, and I kind of became like the poster
- 11:41Speaker 7: child for unhappy women. And you know, around the same
- 11:46Speaker 7: times when I got my divorce and I was in
- 11:48Speaker 7: a very new relationship that resonated with people, and my
- 11:55Speaker 7: press became advice columns, and that's when I got the
- 11:59Speaker 7: idea that I was like, well, why don't I just.
- 12:01Speaker 6: Take all of this hard earned wisdom.
- 12:04Speaker 7: I refused to believe that my pain was ever in
- 12:06Speaker 7: vain and let me put it down somewhere. So I
- 12:09Speaker 7: wrote the book to heal myself.
- 12:11Speaker 6: It was my version of.
- 12:12Speaker 7: Therapy, and in that I feel like it's really found
- 12:17Speaker 7: its voice with.
- 12:18Speaker 6: A lot of a lot of people.
- 12:21Speaker 3: So when you were in this moment of time where
- 12:24Speaker 3: people were reaching out to about your character, and then
- 12:26Speaker 3: you're going through your own you know, stuff behind the
- 12:28Speaker 3: scenes at home and navigating through all of that. Where
- 12:31Speaker 3: did you come to a moment, like a turning point
- 12:34Speaker 3: where you said, Okay, I can take what I've learned
- 12:37Speaker 3: from my character and all these people reaching out to me.
- 12:41Speaker 3: How did you navigate the way you wanted to help
- 12:42Speaker 3: them but also help yourself?
- 12:48Speaker 7: Hmmm, the way I wanted to help them but then
- 12:53Speaker 7: also help myself. Well, I feel like advice is not prescriptive,
- 12:57Speaker 7: you know, it's not. Advice is not a one size fit.
- 13:00Speaker 7: It's all type of model. And I'm somebody who never
- 13:05Speaker 7: tells people what to do because I feel like everyone
- 13:09Speaker 7: has their own individual journey.
- 13:11Speaker 6: So I can just speak.
- 13:12Speaker 7: On what has worked for me and pass that along
- 13:16Speaker 7: with the sort of openness to allow someone else's experience
- 13:20Speaker 7: to color it however way they need.
- 13:23Speaker 6: I don't know if that makes sense.
- 13:24Speaker 7: But it's like, I, yeah, like I never I never
- 13:28Speaker 7: say well, this is what worked for me, so this
- 13:30Speaker 7: is what you should do, you know. It's like, instead,
- 13:33Speaker 7: I'm like, well, this is how I got through that.
- 13:35Speaker 7: What feels good to you.
- 13:37Speaker 3: And sometimes it's just that connection of knowing someone went
- 13:40Speaker 3: through the same thing that aids and helps.
- 13:43Speaker 7: Yeah, I feel like it's important, you know, especially for women,
- 13:46Speaker 7: like we have, I think an obligation to share stories
- 13:50Speaker 7: with one another, you know. And I think something really
- 13:52Speaker 7: magical happens when you get a group of women together.
- 13:55Speaker 7: It's like this magical ancestral knowledge that can be passed
- 14:00Speaker 7: down to each other, you know, almost kind of.
- 14:02Speaker 6: Tribal, right, and I feel like we.
- 14:05Speaker 7: Have a sense of responsibility to one another to do that.
- 14:09Speaker 7: I mean, you know, after all, we're all here just
- 14:11Speaker 7: to walk each other home, right, So it's like, at
- 14:13Speaker 7: the end of the day, I really do feel like
- 14:16Speaker 7: it's a purpose of mine to be able to speak
- 14:19Speaker 7: on my life and what worked, and you know, just
- 14:22Speaker 7: to be able to help another human out.
- 14:24Speaker 3: Well you just helped me out. Oh thank you. We
- 14:33Speaker 3: have Genie May here?
- 14:35Speaker 1: What everybody?
- 14:36Speaker 3: Are you so excited to be here? Why was it
- 14:38Speaker 3: important for you to be here today?
- 14:39Speaker 8: Because the words choose me like that's just just something
- 14:44Speaker 8: that I don't think women do enough of. I just
- 14:47Speaker 8: learned how to do it, like in my forties. And
- 14:50Speaker 8: also Jenny Garth, a Baddie like beyond. She's so bombed,
- 14:54Speaker 8: you know. So, yeah, all the magic together, I have
- 14:56Speaker 8: to be here.
- 14:57Speaker 4: You know.
- 14:57Speaker 3: And she really does a good job of letting people, no,
- 15:00Speaker 3: it's not selfish to choose yourself. Make sure you do
- 15:03Speaker 3: do that. So what was the last thing you did
- 15:06Speaker 3: that you chose yourself?
- 15:08Speaker 1: What was that?
- 15:09Speaker 8: I would say, God, having my daughter, even though all
- 15:14Speaker 8: of my worries and fears said no, really channeling down
- 15:18Speaker 8: and realizing no, I'm not gonna let my worries dictate
- 15:21Speaker 8: a beautiful future for myself. So deciding that I do
- 15:24Speaker 8: want this for myself is a huge yes, you know.
- 15:27Speaker 8: And so having my daughter with Monoco is the moment
- 15:29Speaker 8: I chose me.
- 15:31Speaker 3: So for other people who might be in this space
- 15:33Speaker 3: where they're like, how do I even choose myself? I
- 15:36Speaker 3: have a laundry list of things I have to do,
- 15:38Speaker 3: and you know, I have kids, I have work, I
- 15:41Speaker 3: have this. What do you say to them about how
- 15:43Speaker 3: important it is to just do it?
- 15:45Speaker 8: There's this really beautiful like perspective I learned in therapy
- 15:49Speaker 8: a long time ago about the two percent. You make
- 15:52Speaker 8: this two percent pivot and you can see a world
- 15:56Speaker 8: change from just that two percent. And I notice that
- 16:01Speaker 8: every time we build a schedule, it's around our kids,
- 16:03Speaker 8: it's around our family, it's around you know, work. But
- 16:06Speaker 8: if you just made that two percent pivot of like, Okay,
- 16:08Speaker 8: what am I going to do on that way to work?
- 16:10Speaker 8: What am I going to do for me on that
- 16:12Speaker 8: way to go pick up my kids? And all of
- 16:15Speaker 8: a sudden, you notice that it's not so hard to
- 16:17Speaker 8: prioritize yourself and that little minute move, whether it's turning
- 16:21Speaker 8: on a podcast for yourself or stopping by the nail
- 16:23Speaker 8: salan to get your nails, then it just pays you
- 16:25Speaker 8: back in so much reward, you know. So I think,
- 16:29Speaker 8: make that two percent pivot of sure, take a look
- 16:31Speaker 8: at your schedule and in that schedule, do a little
- 16:35Speaker 8: something for you alongside that schedule, and just see how
- 16:38Speaker 8: much how much more rewarding that feels.
- 16:40Speaker 6: That's great advice.
- 16:41Speaker 3: I've never heard that two percent yeah of phrasing. There
- 16:45Speaker 3: in a world where women are just expected to appear
- 16:48Speaker 3: strong all the time, all the time, every single day
- 16:52Speaker 3: to everybody, how have you learned how vulnerability can actually
- 16:57Speaker 3: be the strength.
- 17:00Speaker 8: Vulnerability is the greatest superhero, a trait that we all
- 17:07Speaker 8: have I think that it's the magic sauce that we
- 17:11Speaker 8: have as humans when we see that ability to recognize
- 17:15Speaker 8: our worth and to really just be be honest and
- 17:19Speaker 8: humble about what sucks, what's painful, what made you break down,
- 17:22Speaker 8: what made you cry. At forty seven years old, I
- 17:26Speaker 8: have lost the ability to be embarrassed about things anymore.
- 17:29Speaker 8: Like you almost like earn a right of passage to
- 17:32Speaker 8: just continue to fuck up, you know, continue to let
- 17:35Speaker 8: yourself just mess up. And so what I'm braver because
- 17:41Speaker 8: I have to do it in front of my family,
- 17:44Speaker 8: in front of my daughter, in front of the public,
- 17:46Speaker 8: and I have to constantly remind myself that instead of
- 17:49Speaker 8: shaming myself and hiding more because of it. And I
- 17:51Speaker 8: think that for anybody else, you know, we always feel
- 17:55Speaker 8: like we're in fear of the audience that's in front
- 17:57Speaker 8: of us, when really you're doing something so mighty that
- 17:59Speaker 8: somebody else couldn't even fathom trying. And so I just now,
- 18:05Speaker 8: in my midlife, I'm starting to recognize how thankful I
- 18:09Speaker 8: am for those failures because I learned so much and
- 18:12Speaker 8: it gave me such strength and power to learn how
- 18:17Speaker 8: to continue through what I'm trying to do.
- 18:19Speaker 3: Today when you say that you talk about your failures
- 18:22Speaker 3: and then your successes, and you mentioned you have a daughter,
- 18:25Speaker 3: how does that play into the way you raise her
- 18:28Speaker 3: to make sure you're still emphasizing this empowerment, but knowing that, Okay,
- 18:32Speaker 3: she's growing up, she's gonna make mistakes.
- 18:35Speaker 1: We almost over celebrate the failures.
- 18:37Speaker 8: We over celebrate the whoops. It's a weird dynamic in
- 18:43Speaker 8: our house to actually see something so different than what
- 18:46Speaker 8: I grew up in. Like if I spilled a glass
- 18:49Speaker 8: of milk and my mom would be like, oh my god, Genie,
- 18:51Speaker 8: I've got to clean all this up and so and
- 18:53Speaker 8: for us, we're like, okay, great, now you learned that
- 18:56Speaker 8: if you're placing that too close to the edge and
- 18:57Speaker 8: your elbow hits.
- 18:58Speaker 1: It, now you know it falls. Okay, awesome, now you know.
- 19:01Speaker 8: And it just for some reason, it lightens everybody's mood
- 19:04Speaker 8: up and it ricochets through my family when we see
- 19:08Speaker 8: each other react like that, because it makes you all
- 19:11Speaker 8: just hold a mirror to yourself realizing wasn't really that
- 19:12Speaker 8: big of a deal, because the knee jerk reaction is crap.
- 19:16Speaker 8: Now there's something all over it. Now obviously we're not
- 19:17Speaker 8: gonna go crazy. I don't want like wine on my carpets,
- 19:21Speaker 8: you know what I mean. But now I've learned that
- 19:23Speaker 8: she's like, Mom, it's it's not a big deal. I'm okay,
- 19:26Speaker 8: it's great. It's it's not so serious. And I love
- 19:29Speaker 8: that she said reminds me of that because I can
- 19:31Speaker 8: be kind of too much of a capricorn and too
- 19:33Speaker 8: much of a perfectionist.
- 19:36Speaker 1: To see her react like that is so rewarding for me.
- 19:39Speaker 3: Let's talk about you giving back to the community after
- 19:42Speaker 3: the fires, because La went through so much, but that
- 19:45Speaker 3: was really important for you to do and do it
- 19:47Speaker 3: with your family too. Can you talk about why that
- 19:49Speaker 3: was so important for you?
- 19:50Speaker 8: Because La is my spot man, I mean Alta Dina
- 19:54Speaker 8: is I feel like the backbone to the culture.
- 19:58Speaker 1: And the my God, the love in La.
- 20:02Speaker 8: It's it's a neighboring city, it's not too far away,
- 20:04Speaker 8: and it's just framed by beautiful mountains, the mountain lions
- 20:09Speaker 8: that La has to offer that you don't always get
- 20:11Speaker 8: to see because of the buildings around Hollywood. And it's
- 20:14Speaker 8: full of just the most loving, hardworking people, primarily black, brown,
- 20:19Speaker 8: and some Asian. And so when I see Alta Dina.
- 20:21Speaker 8: It reminds me of San Jose, where I was from.
- 20:24Speaker 8: So when I learned that Alta Dina didn't have food
- 20:28Speaker 8: or running water for almost a month and a half
- 20:31Speaker 8: after the fires, I mean, what else are.
- 20:33Speaker 1: You supposed to do?
- 20:34Speaker 8: These are our aunties or uncles, our grandma and grandpa's
- 20:36Speaker 8: like I was.
- 20:36Speaker 1: I was in there.
- 20:37Speaker 8: But thankfully, we have such an incredible community in Los
- 20:41Speaker 8: Angeles that I had incredible donations from friends and family
- 20:45Speaker 8: and great restaurants, neighboring restaurants that just donated incredible food
- 20:51Speaker 8: to these to these these victims, and now they're thriving
- 20:55Speaker 8: and surviving, and you know, it was all because of
- 20:57Speaker 8: the community spirit that we have together.
- 21:00Speaker 2: We were so lucky to have Debbie Brown as our master
- 21:02Speaker 2: of ceremonies, and I loved speaking with Sarah Shahi and
- 21:06Speaker 2: Genie My. I mean, the wisdom and the heart of
- 21:09Speaker 2: that conversation and the energy. So stay tuned for more,
- 21:13Speaker 2: you guys, and please do not forget to choose yourselves.