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Validate Yourself First · The Daily Writer

• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Daily Writer, where we share a lesson each day to help you cultivate the habits for creative success.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever had this experience?
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_00: You've just finished a writing project that's important to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It might be a blog post or a series of posts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you just wrote a book.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you just got a cover design for that book.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you got a new freelance client or something else that's important to you.
• 0:34
  SPEAKER_00: So you're sitting with a friend or a family member over dinner and you mention that you've just completed this project.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: You break out your phone and you show them the finished project, whatever it is, they look at it for three seconds, they shrug as they acknowledge that it's cool, and then they just go back to their food and to the rest of the conversation.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: These moments can be kind of soul crushing, but only if you let them.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: So often we look to other people for validation.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: We want their approval because it makes us feel good.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: But validation from others should only come after you have first validated yourself.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: Regardless of what other people think, the most important validation comes from your own sense of doing something you love, from creating value for others, from overcoming challenges that were difficult.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: So don't give the other person's shrug any meaning.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't have any meaning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Their shrug has nothing to do with the value or the importance of your work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember that person's living their own life.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_00: They have their own set of problems, and they're looking to others for validation just as much as you are.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: To most other people, your project represents a blip on the radar screen of their life.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: So don't look to them for your ultimate approval and validation.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: First, take a look inward, and then you'll be able to face outward to the world without needing something from them, but instead you can come to them with something to offer.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: So validate yourself first.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks so much for listening to today's episode.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: If you've been listening to this show for any length of time, you know that one of the four practices of a great writer is creativity.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: And in order to stay creative, you've got to have great input.
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_00: And that's where writing prompts come in.
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_00: A writing prompt is a sentence or two that helps you break through creative blocks, brainstorm new ideas, and get back into a state of flow.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: Writing prompts are an awesome creative tool for journaling, storytelling, creative writing, stress relief, social media posts, and so much more.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: But the great news is that you don't have to create these yourself.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: We've put together an amazing package of 365 daily writing prompts.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: So every day for the next year, you can have a shot of inspiration delivered straight to your inbox.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: You can check it out at dailywriterlife.comslash writing prompts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks, and I'll see you tomorrow.