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Recut: with Marla Sokoloff · Mommywood

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  Welcome to Mommy Wood recut past episodes present moment.
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  I wanted to do something a little different so I'm going
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  back and re listening to some of the early episodes of Mommy
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  Wood. This episode with Marla Sokolov
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  honestly hit me completely differently than when it did
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  when we recorded it, which at the time was, which was three
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  years ago, over three years ago. At the time, I was a brand new
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  mom just trying to figure out how I could possibly keep
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  pursuing acting and also be the parent I wanted to be.
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  And Marla was already living it. She had three kids, a long
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  career in the industry, and trying to redefine what success
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  actually looks like after motherhood.
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  So I pulled together some of my favorite moments from that
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  conversation. The parts about losing momentum,
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  the guilt, the identity shift, and the honesty around things
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  like work, body image, and feeding your baby.
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  There's a lot in here that I think creative moms especially
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  don't hear out loud enough. So if you've ever wondered
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  whether you can still be yourself and a mom at the same
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  time, I think this episode will really resonate.
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  So please enjoy this episode of Mommy Recut with Marla Sokolov.
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  Thank you so much for being here, I'm so excited to ask.
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  You so many questions. First of all, tell me your
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  daughter's ages and names again. OK, so I have Elliot who's 10, I
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  have Olive who's 7:00, and then I have Harper who is 7 1/2
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  months. Oh my God, so you who are in the
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  thick of it, I guess it'll just always be the thick of it.
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  I know because it's funny, it is, it's true.
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  There really is always the thick of it because you would think
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  like what? My 10 year old is easy in so
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  many ways. You know, because she has, she
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  could do everything herself essentially.
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  Like I always joke. I could give her like a pass,
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  you know the code to my post mates and I could like leave her
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  at home and as long as she's feeding herself, she'd be fine
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  because she's very responsible. But it comes with so much more
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  hard, you know, 'cause now she's in fifth grade and I have to
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  stay on top of her, like homework and her tests and her
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  studies and all the things that I like, barely understand and,
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  you know, and then friendship stuff and crushes.
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  And so it's like, yeah, having a baby, as you know, is really
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  hard and a lot of work, but in many ways it's easier.
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  I don't know. It's all very tricky.
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  I was. Gonna ask you have like a pretty
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  broad spectrum of the ages right now.
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  I was gonna ask if one was easier than the other cuz right
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  now, you know, May's only three months and so I'm trying to
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  enjoy while she can't. Yeah, cuz I'm like, oh right.
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  I can set her and she'll be. OK, for.
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  Now, exactly. You can put her in like a
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  docking station and she won't complain about it.
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  And then, you know, Yeah. I mean, it's funny.
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  I feel like because it's my third, I know everything.
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  That's not everything. I don't know everything, but I
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  know what's up ahead. You know, I'm like, she's about
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  to crawl. You could see how she.
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  What was it? Yeah, I would say with my first,
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  you know, I wanted to have a baby so badly.
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  Like I was like, OK, I'm ready, it's time.
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  We had been married for like 3 years or something.
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  So that was like the natural, you know, next step.
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  But I feel like I made not the mistake because it wasn't a
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  mistake. I would never say anything I've
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  done with my children as a mistake, but I was so into being
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  a mom that I really wanted nothing to do with working for a
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  second. And then about, I would say 6 to
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  8 months after she was born, I'm like, OK, I'm ready to get back
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  into it. And it was a lot harder than I
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  thought. You know, like once you lose
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  that momentum or people are like, oh, she had a baby.
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  She's kind of like off the map for a second.
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  I was actually surprised at how hard it was to kind of get back
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  to work with my second daughter. I oddly like got all these
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  pregnant lady jobs. So I kept working when I was
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  pregnant. I did like an ARC on Grey's
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  Anatomy and a pregnant job on Hot in Cleveland.
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  So I didn't really stop with her.
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  But then with Harper, I, you know, was even more concerned
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  with Harper because I had totally worked the past few
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  years at pivoting my career from acting, you know, and I really
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  was focusing on directing. But I wasn't at a place, you
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  know, where it was like, I'm so established that I could go away
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  and come back no problem, you know?
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  So I think that was like a, you know, a valid concern, you know,
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  but I think everybody has that. I think no matter what you do
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  for a living, you know, you're going to be worried about you're
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  going to be worried about your career.
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  So yeah, I think any any career, if you're a doctor, if you're a
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  lawyer, if you're whatever, it's like breaking up that momentum
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  and like, you know, taking time to focus on something completely
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  different is really scary. But I always say it's like
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  nothing one definitely different.
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  I feel like with my first one, I was like, I'm prepping, like I
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  was so excited about it. And then the second one I was I
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  was really nervous, you know, because I felt like I had worked
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  so hard to, you know, kind of get back on track.
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  So I was worried that, you know, that was going to be met with
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  some sort of like hesitancy. But on this third one, that
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  definitely was the most stressful to tell my reps
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  because, you know, I'm sure you've let on to your reps or
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  people around you, you're like, you know, we're thinking of
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  having a baby or, you know, I'm, I'm assuming it wasn't a big
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  shock to a lot of people. But in this case, you know, I
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  had a 10 year old child and a 7 year old child.
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  So I don't think anyone thought there was like another baby
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  coming, you know, so I didn't tell my reps I think I was like
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  5 months pregnant, something like that.
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  Like once I was like visibly pregnant.
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  Yeah. I got to start telling people,
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  yeah. Oh my gosh.
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  So you said like you guys have been married for three years.
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  You were just like you knew you wanted kids, you're ready for
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  it. Did you like worry about, you
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  said you, you kind of took a break, but was that break after
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  your first one intentional or was it just like, that's kind of
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  what happened? Because I, you know, obviously
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  in this career, we don't really get maternity leave and it's not
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  like there's a set like this is when you're coming back and this
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  and you're coming back to work right away.
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  So I know you said it, it took a little while to get back into
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  it, but were you, was that conscious on your part?
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  Like were you like, I'm going to take this much time afterwards?
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  I'm sure it was different from the first one then the other
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  two. Yeah, So with Elliot, my oldest
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  daughter, it was 100% intentional.
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  She had some like health problems when she was born, but
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  we knew that was going to happen.
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  We knew when I was pregnant that this was something.
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  So it wasn't like a big shock when she was born, but so she
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  needed to have part of her lung removed when she was five months
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  old. I know.
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  So she had a pretty, she had a pretty big surgery.
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  And I had always told my reps, like everybody around me,
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  friends, whomever, that I would take time off through that
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  surgery at least, you know, because that's not something I
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  wanted to miss. And I remember I actually got
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  offered and this is, I won't name the company because I don't
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  work for them anymore because of this scenario.
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  And again, there is truly no regret that happens in life.
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  But I had gotten offered a movie, I think she was two
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  months old or something. And she had to have ACT scan to
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  go over like where she was in the light.
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  And it was like, you know, when you have a baby, like these
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  things are very scheduled and there's all based on like her
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  weight and like timing and all that.
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  And so I turned down the movie, but I told my reps like, please
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  let them know This is why I'm turning down the movie.
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  It's not because I am just like flippantly not, you know, I
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  don't like the script or something like that.
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  And the person who was my Rep at the time didn't relay that.
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  And it was just like a straight up pass.
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  And then I didn't know this story until about five years
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  later. A friend of mine was working for
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  this company, and they said, yeah, you know, we were so
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  surprised. Like, Marla just kind of passed
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  on one of our projects, you know, and with no explanation.
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  Yeah. And that really was a bummer.
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  And I actually did wind up sending an e-mail letting them
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  know, you know, it was really just something that I had to
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  stay home to do, you know, because it was filming in Canada
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  and I didn't want to leave, you know, and I wasn't going to
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  bring her with me with. Find or not find the balance
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  because I feel like with such a busy.
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  With. You know, schedule and kids and
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  it's like, how how do? You do it.
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  Or what's your secret or not secret or I?
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  Know exactly. It's like I had a friend
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  yesterday and she posted this video.
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  Not a video, she posted a like a story slide that just said, you
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  know, she actually, I think her daughter is almost the same age
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  as May. She wrote something like, you
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  know, today's just one of those days.
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  Like I'm having a really hard time and this is really hard and
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  blah, blah, blah. So I sent her a video of me
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  holding Harper still in my workout clothes from the
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  morning. It was 6:00 or something.
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  I'm like, hi, I just want to let you know I'm in my workout
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  clothes, still haven't taken a shower.
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  I have two kids that I still have to feed dinner.
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  They're both doing homework. Like I, oh, and then I forgot to
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  pick my dog up at the groomers. So, so I had to go back and get
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  her. I've been to Costco, I've been
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  to Trader Joe's, I've been trying to work.
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  It's like, girl, I get, I get it.
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  I see you and I have a nanny, you know, so it's not like it's
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  me here all by myself. Like I'm not going to pretend,
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  you know, I have help, but it's just, it's a lot.
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  And I do think in some weird way, there's some like value and
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  what that manager said to you, because it's not you can't, but
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  it's there are times where you're really good at being a
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  mom and not as great at your career.
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  And then there's other times where I feel like I'm doing
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  like, you know, super focused on work.
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  And I know that like I'm not as focused on my family as I
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  normally AM because my focus is here.
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  So the one thing I try to really do is if I know I'm starting a
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  job, I try to set everything up like prep wise, the same way I
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  prep a movie, you know, like as an actor or as a director.
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  So whatever homework I do, I do it for my family too.
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  So I make sure hot lunch is ordered every day for school.
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  You know, I don't normally do that.
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  I normally make them lunch, but while I'm working, I check that
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  off my list. I make sure they have every play
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  date. I mean, obviously your
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  daughter's age, it's harder to do this, but you must make sure
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  babysitters are set up or like they're picked up at school or
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  some a friend is over so they're busy, you know where they have
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  piano lesson. Like I just try to literally, I
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  have a calendar that I keep for my nanny and my husband and me
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  and everybody could see this is what everyone's doing.
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  So when I'm at work, I don't have to be like shit who's
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  picking them up or like so and so has to go here.
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  So it's like everybody just knows, you know?
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  So that makes it a lot easier. Obviously again with the babies
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  it's harder because you can't really schedule too much for
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  them. It's more just making sure they
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  are fed and, you know, loved. Yeah, yeah.
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  I feel like we, you and I have similar type A personality.
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  I know I have certain friends who like check their nanny cams
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  all day and, you know, do all of that and like they're just
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  checking in all the time. And I think once you build up
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  that trust with someone and you're giving them like the most
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  important thing in your world, you know, like, like I said, as
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  long as there's nothing happening that's like hurting
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  them, you know, if they're giving them like an extra bottle
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  or something like that, it's like, you know, you do have to
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  kind of just know that you've trusted that person and you have
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  to kind of let that stuff go. I mean, there's still times
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  where like, you know, especially now that my daughters are older,
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  they can like manipulate, you know, the person who's watching
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  them. And like, you know, she's like,
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  oh, you know, she let us have some Sprite today.
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  And I was like, what? You know, like that kind of
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  stuff or like. My mom said I can do this.
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  But they do that now. So it's like, you know, you
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  can't get that mad because I mean, I do.
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  But you know, you still kind of have to like, just like let some
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  of that stuff go and just know that, you know, you're you got
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  to take care of yourself and do what's best for you.
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  And if that's going to work and like makes you a better mom,
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  then you got to kind of just let go of that part of it.
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  Oh. Man, that's so hard.
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  It's very hard, like, And then the guilt too.
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  You feel like bad, you know? And I'm barely even gone, right?
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  So Speaking of now you're like writing and directing.
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  How long have you been doing that?
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  Like when did you decide to switch into that?
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  Was that something that came along with having children
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  because of like, you can control stuff a little bit more, or was
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  it something you'd always wanted to do?
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  Yeah, I think kids were definitely a big factor in me.
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  Like putting that, you know, what's the word I'm looking for
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  that plan in action because. And yeah, I always have written,
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  never really thought that I would be a director full time.
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  Like I think I always knew in the back of my mind I'll dabble
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  in directing or direct something I'm in or whatever.
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  But I was definitely surprised by how much I loved it and how
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  that this was the thing that I really wanted to put in, like
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  the focus of my career. But yeah, I mean, I was at a bar
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  one night with my husband crying hysterically because I hadn't
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  worked in the 2nd. And I felt like I kept going
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  into these rooms and beating dead eyes.
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  And I was like, I don't know what to do anymore.
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  I'm so frustrated. I feel like I'm banging my head
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  up against the wall. And I would literally pull up to
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  auditions. This is the days of us going in
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  person back. In the day.
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  The good old days, but I would like sit in my car and like just
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  want to drive off, you know, And so I thought this isn't normal.
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  I shouldn't feel like this anymore.
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  And everyone always tells you like the second it's not fun
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  anymore, stop doing it. And I'm like, I'm it's not fun
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  anymore. I felt traumatized, you know, I
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  was so down on myself if I didn't get something.
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  And you know, I just, it was all just needed and I was in my own
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  way clearly. But you know, my husband said
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  you have all these like great things that you've written.
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  Why don't you just go make one? And I thought, can I do that?
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  Do I know how to do that? Who's going to help me with
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  this? And you know, from that moment
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  on, I put together a plan to make a short of something that I
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  felt really passionate about and asked everyone I knew to help me
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  with it. And people were willing to and
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  it was so addictive. You know, I was like, this is
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  this is addicting. This is what I want to do with
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  my life. And I think having kids helped
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  me make that decision because it is more on, you know, you are
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  more in charge. You know, like, obviously I'm
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  not picking and choosing the movies.
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  I do, but you do get a little bit more control and you feel
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  like you're not answering to someone else.
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  I mean, like in regards to your career, you know, like, oh, do I
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  have any auditions coming up? Or has anyone checked my veil on
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  this, that or the other? It's like I actually, I'm always
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  telling my manager what's going on or my agents because I'm the
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  one making the calls and sending the emails.
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  And, you know, it's like you're really your own advocate.
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  Yeah, So what, what, what was that like first thing that you
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  did and how did that, how did it go?
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  Were you scared? What did you do with like where
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  were your you just have like the babysitter with the kids or like
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  were you just? So how?
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  Is it different then from now? From now so you know, the the
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  the the the the whole premise of the short is based on a
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  preschool. Oh yes.
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  Yes, I know the one. Yeah.
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  And I literally, it was just, this is just my like
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  personality. I would walk into that class and
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  almost like I roll, you know, I mean, I love that school and
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  we're going to go back there and it was such a great experience.
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  But you would walk in and there would be pictures of all the
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  kids and like what they each were allergic to.
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  And, you know, just things that, you know, aren't real allergies,
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  you know, just things their parents didn't want them to
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  have, you know, like red dyes, you know, and stuff like that.
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  And it just used to always make me laugh.
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  Like I was just like, this is so LA.
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  Everything about this is so LA. And the kids who would bring
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  like, you know, tofu and seaweed and stuff is their snack.
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  And, you know, just, I wasn't raised like that, you know, I
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  didn't grow up here in LA And like my kids, luckily we're so
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  lucky we don't have any allergies, so I let them eat
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  whatever. And so I literally went home
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  that day after having just like, you know, a funny afternoon
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  staring at this preschool classroom.
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  And I wrote this script and like, you know, two hours or
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  something, you know, it's a short.
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  And I was like, I think that's the one I want to make, you
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  know, because I think people make fun of us in LA anyway.
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  And just how, you know, our kids names and what we feed them and,
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  you know, how we are with them. And it's yoga and the
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  meditating. And so, yeah, it was people
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  like, really, it resonated with people, which was great.
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  And what's I going to say? Yeah, I remember we shot it on a
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  weekend because it was a preschool, so we couldn't use
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  Monday through Friday. And my husband came and, like,
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  the girls loved it. I mean, they were older, you
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  know, Like, I think all of them must have been 2.
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  And Elliot was about to go into kindergarten, so.
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  Or No, she was just in kindergarten.
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  This her first year. Kindergarten.
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  Yeah. So I remember.
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  They did they hang along or where they was.
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  He was with the most of the day and he kept like bringing them.
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  They came by to set to visit because it was the preschool
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  they went to. So it was like exciting for them
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  to be there. Yeah.
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  So. So did you and but but Elliot
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  wasn't in it, right? She actually was in it.
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  Yeah. She's in it like.
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  I think she was in it and she was like in kindergarten.
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  So she must have been like the perfect age for it too, yeah.
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  She was totally the perfect age. And then a lot of her friends
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  that were in that preschool, I threw some of them in too,
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  because they were like trying to be actors.
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  I, I didn't ask anybody who like didn't want to be an actor cuz,
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  you know, I'm not going to put that upon anybody.
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  But, you know, some of them, like, already had agents and
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  we're trying to, yeah. That's wild.
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  Yeah. So Speaking of, do you, did your
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  did Elliot show interest in it or were you like, hey, just you
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  want to be in this or like do Rodder show interest in it?
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  Are you nervous for them? Would you let?
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  Them. All of those questions.
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  And you know what's so funny? I would say this is like top,
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  one of the top like 5 questions I get asked, you know?
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  But like in every interview, every friend, every person on
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  the street, I am a big believer in going to study what you love
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  while you're in school, studying it, making sure you love it.
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  And then once you are done with school, then absolutely I would
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  like support and help and do all the things.
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  But as far as like getting an ad, an agent, like when you're a
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  little kid, I won't I I'm not into into that for my children,
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  you know, but my older daughter is definitely like, I want to be
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  an actress, like, OK, great. Well, and especially, yeah, it's
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  like like you said, your if your oldest really does want to like
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  get into it, seeing that like it is, it's not easy.
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  There's a lot of. Ups and downs.
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  So how did you? OK, you look amazing and you
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  just had a baby and you've had three and you look great for not
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  having children. So I'm going to ask you the
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  question, the vain question of did you worry about your body
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  image? Like was it different for each
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  one? Do you just let it go?
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  Like how did you? Go with my first daughter.
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  I gained almost 60 lbs because I was like, I'm pregnant.
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  This has like, I just felt like, and I think also being an
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  actress all these years and like, being on a permanent diet,
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  you know, I was like, I'm not gonna, I'm not allowed to diet
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  now. This is so freeing.
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  Yeah. And then it took me like
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  literally, I remember being her first birthday party and being
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  like, these are my old jeans. I finally got them back on.
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  You know, it's like a year later I was wearing the pants that I
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  wore when I got pregnant. So then, which is still?
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  That's still really good. That's really good, I.
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  Really. OK, so to me, it felt endless.
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  Like, I was just like, you know, you walk into your closet and
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  you're like literally can't wear any of this.
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  That's where I'm at. It sucks.
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  I it's the, I mean, you're three months out, so I get it.
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  We don't. Want to buy new clothes?
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  No. I'll just wear yoga pants, which
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  I do anyway, so why do I? Get it.
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  Exactly. But with my second, I was like,
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  OK, we're not doing that again, Marla.
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  That took way too much. It was like a lot of work, you
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  know? Yeah, getting that off like it
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  was going to a dietitian. And you know, I actually taught
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  spinning at the time, so I was doing.
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  But my last question, what is something that has just saved
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  you like either a like a product or you know, just a mantra or
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  anything that's just like that you would recommend or that has
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  just been a lifesaver for you? OK, OK.
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  I would say like mantra, I have the same mantra that I've had
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  for years and I always tell myself the only way out is
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  through. And I did not come up with this.
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  Is it ever. So you said it.
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  I'm going to get, I'm going to get the exact quote, but and it
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  always helps me because then it's especially with being a
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  parent because like I said, everything is so heightened and
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  important when you're in the moment.
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  And then once you're through, it's over and you're like, wow,
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  that time really sucked. And I'm glad that we're not in
• 21:58
  that phase anymore. And product, I would say there's
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  this thing called the baby shusher.
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  Did you happen to get that? I did.
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  I got the the Frida version of. It so that thing's amazing.
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  I love it so much. That helped because my daughter
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  was having the hardest time in the car.
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  She would just hate her car seat and somebody told me to turn
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  that thing on and it totally calmed her down.
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  And then also there's this car seat stroller called the Duna
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  and that has been amazing for having more than one kid.
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  I've seen those so much lately. As soon as like I saw one person
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  with it now I see everyone and I'm like Dang all.
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  Right, yeah, cuz it's like you run into target, you know, you
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  no more of like carrying that heavy car seat and trying to
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  figure out what it's like. It turns into a stroller, run
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  in, run out. Or like if I'm picking my big
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  girls up at school, it's like, you know, take her out.
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  A thing turns into a stroller. We run right in, you know.
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  Somebody was smart. Yeah.
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  Oh my gosh. Well, thank you so much.
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  I know you have of. Course.
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  Thank you so much for listening to this episode of Mommy Wood
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  Recut with Marla Sokolov. I loved going back to this
• 23:16
  conversation because it reminds me that there isn't a clean
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  answer to balancing motherhood and a creative career.
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  They're just seasons. The only way out is through.
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  And sometimes you're more present at home, sometimes
• 23:31
  you're more focused on work. And both are OK.
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